Ngo |1 Tran Vinh Hiep Ngo Professor Strickland ESL 91 7 February 2014 Summary of The Marriage Crisis In The

Marriage Crisis, written by Aja Gabel. We learn more about the modern Americans marriage issue. It is said that Americans are more likely to have marriage crisis. Researchers found that marriage nowadays is less desired than it used to be 53 years ago and the number of couples living together without marriages has increased. One of the main causes is that women in the modern life are more skillful and independent than they used to be. As a consequence, they concern more about their education and careers than settling down; without the burden of chores and motherhood, they appear to be more successful than those who have a family to take care of. Besides, the high divorce rates is also believed to cause the decline in marriage nowadays. There are evidences that the higher socioeconomic class has stronger marriage lives and they lead to a research which looks for the answer of the question Is a more married America a better America? After several researches and experiments, we can conclude that marriage often does make people happy and happy people are more likely to marry, which means marriage can possibly makes America a better place. Despite the benefit of marriage, cohabitation is becoming a trending choice to many young people in the U.S; under those circumstances, marriages has been changed in over the past 50 years. Nowadays, most people refuse to go back to the old traditional way of marriage for they are living in the modern world and have so many things to focus on; such as education and work. Moreover, they are given greater choice and most of them tend to use it wisely; they are more likely to choose to live together before getting marry to learn more about each others potential. The essay provide several information about the modern marriage life in the U.S. It discusses about the status of marriage to day and its potential in the future. I couldnt agree more with the

Ngo |2 authors ideas because marriage is not ideal for young, enthusiastic people; and if they decide to get marry, they will consider carefully about their soul mates potential. As an 18 years old girl, Im not mature enough to think about settling down or even getting marry in the future. The author is right to mention about modern women who love to focus on education and career more than creating their own family. In my opinion, marriage is mainly based on mutual respect and love, without being welleducated and having a social standing, a woman can easily lose the respect from her husband or even her children. Me and many of people I know, prefer to achieve life goals rather than lock ourselves in a long term relationship which could hinder our success. As the matter of fact, I acknowledge that women like me have to sacrifice a lot of things once we get marry; for instance, we have to get rid of watching movies and surfing the internet late at night, we have to change our routine to spend more time taking care of family, chores are always waiting to be done every single day, and less attention will be paid on life goals. Im so terrified of ending up a housewife locking myself in a prison which I call home and having no freedom to build my own dream. But, Im also afraid of being alone for the rest of my life. Finding a soul mate who is supportive of my dream to become successful and compatible with me seems to be an ideal method. Just like many young people, I could never tell if me and the one I call soul mate are compatible or not, unless we try to live together before committing. Not only the U.S, many developed countries are having marriage crisis; such as Japan, China and many more. I think this issue is harmless for our population since overpopulation has become a bigger issue to many countries.