In our society marriage is the structure which people use to create a stable family unit.

Due to the fact that marriage is so strongly tied to family, because it is such an enormous step and because the cost of entry and exit is so high, adults put a lot of emphasis on it. So does the community. Marriage itself is easy. Two people can get married any time they wish. However the challenge of marriage is making it work for a lifetime. So I shall briefly discuss some virtues and drawbacks considering this issue. On the one hand, marriage means that almost everything is shared. Sharing means that every major decision involves a team decision. If both parties do not agree, then conflict arises. Most people enjoy having a certain amount of freedom in their lives. As a result, if two people have different spending habits , it can cause immense strain. A further disadvantage is that marriage involves being with the same person for long periods of time. While the couple is still \"in love,\" this is easy. Once romantic love effects wear off and the relationship might driven more by friendship than sexual attraction, however, little habits can become irritating. Countering this natural effect requires patience as well as creativity. when people get married they are committing to their chosen spouse for the rest of their life. They are making that commitment, generally, in order to start a family. This means restricted freedom with being aware of the fact that there would be neither loads of dates nor one-night adventures. On the one hand, marriage means that almost everything is shared. Sharing means that every major decision involves a team decision. If both parties do not agree, then conflict arises. Most people enjoy having a certain amount of freedom in their lives. As a result, if two people have different spending habits , it can cause immense strain. Difference of Partnership and marriage
A domestic partnership is a legal or interpersonal relationship between two individuals who live together and share a common domestic life but are neither joined by marriage nor a civil union. Whle marriage is a socially or ritually recognized union or legal contract between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws.

Disadvantages of Marriage Sex with only one person for the rest of your life. For some people, it is unfair to have sex with only one person! Everything you own belongs to her and vice-versa The best way to have great, wonderful and guiltless sex, BUT without the freedom of having great sex with other people The sacrifices or compromises you have to make in order to get along with your in-laws who particularly get on your nerves You have to give up so much of your freedom in order to stay married You cannot afford to spend your own money at will because you have a family to support Having to live with the same person (who sometimes annoys or bores you to tears) for the rest of your life You cannot afford to be selfish, self-centred, self-conceited and inconsiderate anymore Summary 1. Very delicate relationship. 2. Many chances of failure. 3. Life changes, depression - in event of failed marriage. 4. Less chances of having other friends. 5. Chance of getting on top of the world. 6. You're money becomes "Our" money 7. Arguments 8. Can't look for partners anymore 9. Possibility of passing on the genes and raising kids. Marriage has lots of advantages and the disadvantages (if you choose) can be outweighed by the many advantages of marriage.

Live in Relationship over Marriage Freedom Less Responsibility There is also very less load of responsibility as compared to marriage. Married people have to manage all the responsibility of family including children, relatives, kith and kin while couples in a live in relationships have only their own responsibility. Live in couples also have more understanding and space so sharing responsibilities is not something difficult. Live in relationships can be happier if the couples learn to live together in understanding and not piling up responsibilities on a single partner. There are no hassles that come with a marriage like looking after the children, providing for them, entertaining relatives. Live in couples can also have their own personal lives and if the couple have a strong bonding together, they will not intrude in each others personal space which is often a constraint in marriage when a spouse might feel suffocated or burdened down with responsibilities. Financial Relief Live-in relationships also guarantee immense financial freedom for both parties involved. In a marriage however, it is generally accepted that the married couple share their earnings and enter into joint financial venture. However, not all married couples follow these rules. In todays day and age even married couples tend to keep their financial matters separate and many live-in couples decide to share their individual earnings. If a live in couple are on good financial terms with each other they can agree to share their earnings with each other which is beneficial as it ensures that both the couples are on the same page. There are no arguments or conflicts relating money problems and this helps in strengthening the relationship. The couple has faith in each other as they become sure that the money is being spent wisely. Compatibility Live in relationships are perfect for testing your partners compatibility. You can get a sneak peek into what your wedded life might be like. You can also know about your partners views on religion, sex, money and politics. Many live in couples also come to know about each others interest and common views. Many married couples see a different side to their spouses every day and then wonder how did I not notice that before? Live in relationships on the other hand allow the partners to know each other every well, lest after getting married some annoying habit of your partner explodes right in your face. Youll be able to observe what the other does in the privacy of his/ home, learn about each others quirks, practice keeping the romance alive while juggling a busy life, and see how well youre able to get back to compatibility when there are challenges. Easier Breakups While a marriage requires a lot of time and effort to dissolve because it a strict and unassailable arrangement, it is easy to break up with each other in a live in relationship. Married Partners have to equally divide debt and family assets, to pay Lawyers and to make arrangements with respect to the children. If a live in couple realize they are not compatible with each or that they dont understand each other anymore they can easily break up without any constraints. Live-in relationships expose the level of love and intimacy as they stand between couples. A couple living together will get to know how much they care for and love each other and what are the various impediments in this liaison of theirs. If these impediments persist they can choose to breakup mutually without any irrational fights or arguments. Changing Partners If you arent satisfied with your partner or you get bored of seeing the same face every morning, then you can pack your bags and move out without any legal procedures or hassles. Whilst in a marriage, you simply cannot move out without all the legal proceedings, in a live in relationship

on the other hand, a person can move out quickly. There might be heartbreak but that is quite understood to each partner before entering in to a live in relationship. Couple most of the times prefer live in relationships because of the knowledge that they can change partners quickly and since most of the youth these days are unwilling to commit themselves, live in relationships are the preferred option. No Societal Norms A live in relationship does not bog down an individual to the norms of the society as a marriage will. Because they currently fall outside the norms of societal structure, the adverse influence of society can be avoided in them. This means that live-in relationships do not follow the otherwise necessary diktats of society. The burdens of social relationship are less in a live-in relationship and it actually helps a relationship blossom further. A person can choose to be away from his partners family and friends if he feels he is not welcome or is being shunned by them. Most of the modern youth today have no problems on this account and are a lot more open minded so it doesnt become necessary for the other partner to attend any familial get-togethers. Respect In a live-in relationship, the couples respect each other as they might have some insecurity or concern in the back of their head that they may lose the partner if they dont behave right. Once they get married, they take each other for granted and as such start having problems, only the intensities vary. Married couples often take each other for granted whilst a live in couple deeply in love might not do the same as they might be afraid of breaking up with each other. Live in couples also cherish and respect each other a lot more than married couples, many of whom lose their spark after a few years or even months. More Time Live in couples also enjoy spending more time with each other which might not be possible in a marriage because of time constraints. A partner may not feel alone as the other partner is always with them. Live in couples are also with each other almost every single day. In a marriage, when one spouse leaves or may not be present for some important event, then there are feelings of betrayal, anger and hurt. In a live in relationship, however, a Partner is always there to provide moral and emotional support when you might be thousands of miles away from your family. Live in couples can also live independent lives so that each partner gets to fulfill his own ambitions, dreams and desires. No Divorce This is quite possibly the biggest advantage of a live in relationship over marriage. Marriages have lost their appeal to the younger generation because it means commitment and not many people can handle that along with faithfulness and fidelity. Marriages involve more legal problems and are sometimes considered an unnecessary and expensive ritual. The biggest advantage of a live in relationship is that it can be brought to an abrupt end. In order to dissolve a marriage, on the other hand, one has to go through lengthy, cumbersome and expensive divorce procedures. A divorce can be a traumatic and hurtful experience with false allegations and counter allegations making it a cruel battle of wits where no one wins except may be the lawyers. Many people are scared to enter into a new relationship after a troubled or abusive marriage. Furthermore, The study was carried out by researchers at George Mason University who questioned more than 17,000 people in 28 countries. They found that married men tend to help around the house less than live-in boyfriends. (more

work for men) According to study co-author, sociologist Shannon Davis, the key finding of the study is that it suggests the institution of marriage changes the division of labour. Couples with an egalitarian view on genderseeing men and women as equalare more likely to divide the household chores equally. However, in married relationships, even if an egalitarian viewpoint is present, men still report doing less housework than their wives. "Marriage as an institution seems to have a traditionalizing effect on coupleseven couples who see men and women as equal," says Davis. "Our research suggests that couples across many countries are influenced by similar factors when deciding how to divide the housework. It's the way the society has defined what being married means, the institution itself, that affects behaviour," she added. Co-authors on the study were Theodore Greenstein and Jennifer Gerteisen Marks of North Carolina State University. The study is published in the Journal of Family Issues.

Good points
>When you want to break up, theres no trouble, like in a marriage theres so many complicated things you need to go to, being in a partnership is not registered ergo there would be less trouble compared to a marriage that needs to undergo a lot of complicated procedures. >A further disadvantage is that marriage involves being with the same person for long periods of time. While the couple is still \"in love,\" this is easy. Once romantic love effects wear off and the relationship might driven more by friendship than sexual attraction, however, little habits can become irritating. Countering this natural effect requires patience as well as creativity. >If you love each other, why spend thousands of money to be married? Isnt what you have is enough? Marriages are expensive and requires to have a lot of money, why waste it? Advantages of not being married
No Risk of Divorce It may seem like an insignificant reason to avoid marrying, but the truth is that marriage can often lead to a messy and painful divorce. According to an April 2007 article in "USA Today," psychology professor Richard Lucas of Michigan State University analyzed 20

years of data from 70,000 households in Germany and Great Britain and discovered that among singles, those who had never married reported the highest rate of well-being compared to those who had been married and experienced a divorce. Ending a marriage will leave you feeling sad, empty and confused. Being single and staying that way may give you a greater chance at feeling good about yourself. Time to Explore Your Passions If you stay single, you will have more time and resources to devote to yourself and your passion. You will also be able to establish your identity completely and recognize what you are truly passionate about. Men and women today expect to achieve an autonomous, individual identity before entering into a relationship, according to the "Knot Yet" project, which analyzes the significance of the rising marriage age for men and women in their 20s. This will give you the opportunity to try out various possibilities for your life and relationships and help you decide if you even want to get married. Opportunity to Build a Foundation Not getting married will give you the chance to build a solid foundation for yourself, whether it be financially, academically or any other way. Perhaps you need time to establish yourself in your job or find out what you truly want to spend the rest of your life doing. If you get married, you sacrifice some of your own dreams for the dreams of your partner, and you put your ambitions on hold for the good of both of you. Spouses may have the same dreams and visions, but the chances of that are slim. Independence will give you the most freedom to become who you want to be. Relationships With the Opposite Sex If you do not get married, you will be able to enjoy relationships with the opposite sex without feeling guilty. Many married people spend more time with their friends at work than with their spouse at home, according to Diane Gottsman, a nationally recognized etiquette expert and owner of The Protocol School of Texas, in "Hitched." Furthermore, social media is another way that interaction with all different types of people is encouraged. This may lead to temptation or feelings of jealousy in your spouse when he realizes that you must spend a large part of your day interacting with members of the opposite sex. If you do not get married, you are free to pursue as many of these types of friendships as you want and choose to enter into a relationship if you wish.

Disadvantages outweighs advatages

Fun Facts about marriages and divorce

>50% of marriages end in divorce >divorce is caused by marriage >Over 75% of people who marry partners from an affair eventually divorce >Marrying younger than age 25 dramatically raises the divorce risk. Also, the divorce risk is higher when the woman is much older than the man, though the reverse isnt as a strong factor.l

>The probability of a first marriage ending in a divorce within 5 years is 20%, but the probability of a premarital cohabitation breaking up within 5 years is 49%. After 10 years, the probability of a first marriage ending is 33%, compared with 62% for cohabitations.g >over 50% of first marriages end in divorce, 67% of second marriages end in divorce, and nearly 74% of third marriages end in divorce. >The cost of an average wedding is $20,000. The cost of an average divorce is $20,000 WASTE OF MONEY > Researchers found a huge decline in happiness four years into a marriage with another decline in years seven to eight. In fact, half of all divorces occur in the first seven years of marriage, which gives rise to the popular term the seven-year itch. > While couples with children are less likely to divorce than childless couples, the arrival of a new baby is more likely to bring more stress and emotional distance than new happiness. Nearly 90% of couples experienced decrease in martial satisfaction after the birth of their first child > 50% of women and 33% of men remain angry for ten years after a divorce. > More than 90% of divorces in long-standing marriages involve infidelities some time during the marriage. > Women have more trouble starting new relationships than divorced men do. > Nearly 70% of all married men and 60% of married women have had affairs. Thats two out of every three marriages. > The average affair lasts two to four years. >If an affair becomes public it is doomed. > 80% of those who divorce during an affair regret the decision. >Over 75% who marry partners in an affair eventually divorce

>The divorce rate and ratio of infidelity are much higher among marriage partners in an affair. >If an affair becomes public it is doomed.

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