Essay four: Sexuality and its origins in the bible.

Achieving authentic sexuality depends on understanding who God created us to be as sexual beings. We must understand who we are, that includes biologically, gender, our emotions, thoughts, behaviors, values, and attitudes. Our sexuality is a product of Gods design, being that God created male and female to mulitiply and be caretakers of the world. Sex however, has become tainted and warped. A lot of which is to do with culture, gender, and media. A lot of cultures encourage men to be aggressive and act out sexually, whereas women are taught to be more modest and not act out sexually like men. Over the years people have viewed sex to be a certain way. For example, the puritans encourged sexual expression amongst spouses. It was seen as good, natural, and desirable. Other views such as the victorians believed sex as taboo. They went to lengthy measures to cover up sexual desires. Because of such contrasting views of sex over the years, we cannot but help to have confusion about sexual desires. We become sexual beings through a multidemensional developmental process. As a part of this process biological and sociocultural factors contributed to the sexual development. Biologically we are sexually stimulated beings and desire sex. I thought it was funny about the analogy C.S. Lewis used about a culture that was stimulated by food. He portrayed a chicken leg being uncovered which stimulated the watchers. Even though this is far fetched, we act this way towards sexual stimulus. Especially men, men have a hard time seeing something beautiful and erotic and desiring it. Things like playboy, and pornography on the web dont help with this matter. Sex becomes now an object, and is not the way God desighend it. The brain reacts a certain way to sexual stimulation as well. Maybe this could be why some people have such a hard time with sexual stimulus. Dopamine and other brain chemicals are realeased, causing the person to feel pleasure and almost become dependent on sexual acts. Sex was designed for man and woman, to be intimant and for union. When the fall took place man and woman were torn apart from one another and from God. Sex became more of a right than a union. Men used sex to force women into a love relationship with themselves rather than out of intimacy and proper love the way God intedned. Sexuality has become more now, for dominating and for ones personal pleasure than for union of the married couple. If we truly want to understand they way God desighned sex in the marriage union, we need to ask God what his intentions were. We cannot expect to just understand sexual desire, because we will get lost in our own thoughts and feeling about sex.