What is it? Conversation Threading is essentially the ability to make a free-flowing convers ation.

If someone gives you a thread like "I went to Paris last summer to Study at the local university," you have many, many directions you could thread the co nversation. You could ask if they liked Paris, which school they went to, what t hey study, or you could shift the focus of the conversation, you could respond w ith "Really? I went to Paris last year," or "I like to travel, as well" [Which i s a great way to build rapport through shared experiences!] Even if she's giving you tiny bits of information, you can still thread the conv ersation. "I'm going to class," obviously you can ask her about, you could shift the focus again [Me too, I'm taking (subject), isn't it fascinating how...], yo u could drop a cold-read, you could pace her hypnotically [Have you ever noticed how we're both here, outside this coffee shop, having this conversation and bla h blah blah] you could go into any direction. BE CREATIVE. and don't be afraid t o be different. Mix the expected with the unexpected. Now lets go deeper You can combine the technique I just gave you with other techniques. In particul ar, you can go from cold conversation [logical factoids, I'm a lawyer, gas is to o expensive] to warm conversation [Feelings, emotions. Things "from us" rather t han about us]. What if she tells you she is an emergency room nurse? Well, you could continue l ogically probing about it, or you could discuss emotions. What emotions are invo lved in nursing? "You must feel amazing knowing that what you're doing is helpin g people," is an example that comes to mind, I'm trusting you to come up with yo ur own. It is my personal opinion to avoid "negative" emotions, obviously you aren't goi ng to talk about patients dying in her arms, but I also try to avoid stress, pan ic, and the like. Sometimes I see people, who mean well, ask people "Wow that mu st be so busy," or "You must feel really stressed," and the person they're talki ng to sigh, slouch and begin to talk about all the hardships of their work. Thes e are not emotions I want associated with our initial conversations. Feel free t o combine this with the techniques you learned in the books; hot words and so on . Wide Rapport So now you're having an interesting conversation that's enticing the emotions. H ere's some advice: Talk about a wide range of topics. At first glance, one might think it's better to talk about one subject, and be in total agreement for an h our, than to talk about a wide range of topics, but actually a "wide rapport" wi ll help you. Thread into multiple directions, talk about multiple topics, and yo u both will feel like you've connected on multiple levels. How to Master Conversation Threading Here's some homework, it involves making "mind maps" (also called spider diagram s, trees, or whatever the fuck you want). Pick something girls say that you hear often, if you meet a lot of girls that are Psychologists, write "Psychologist" in the center of a paper, and circle it. Then branch it out. Draw a line to smaller circle, label it emotions. What emoti ons do Psychologists have in their work? "Isn't it amazing how sometimes, you fe el such an amazing connection with the people you see?" What emotional qualities must a psychologist have? From the center circle labled Psychologist, branch out into other directions. Ma ke a bubble that says "Values," what character traits must Pscyhologists have? W hat values do they have? [You must consider yourself a very caring person, corre ct?] Of course, you can draw branches for the other aspects of their job. You can wri te a bubble that says "College Education" and branch off from there. You can dra w a bubble that says "Job description" and branch off from there. This will help you in your sarges, instead of a tepid "I'm a psychologist," "Oh do you like your work?" you could make it more interesting, and branch it out in to many different directions. And remember

There is no wrong response. If you say something like "You're a psychologist? Th ey say to be a psychologist you must deeply care for people." and she says "Oh, yeah but I don't really interact with the patients I just do the record keeping, " work with whatever response she gives you. Everything she says is something yo u can thread with!

I'm one of those big scary football players. Yeah, one of those guys. Who you probably think at first glance is an asshole fo otball player just like the rest of 'em. No. I've learned that being only in that "popular crowd" won't get you nowhere. Being popular, however, will. Popular doesn't mean you're part of that small clique who thinks they're the shi t.* Popular is being liked by everyone. Talk to everyone, and be nice to them. Outgoing, friendly. Compliment people, an d make them feel happy around you. Don't talk shit about people. Join more teams , clubs, whatever, and get into as many 'groups' as you can possibly be in. Don' t make enemies. Be happy and radiate confidence. You'll not only have more friends, but you'll get more connections, be invited t o more parties, and your value will increase. Don't pick fights with people. Thanks guys for reading. Keep being awesome.