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36 On the Townsend
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44 Lavender Lens
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46 Leather Life
“Leather Life”: A Valedictory, of Sorts
48 Bar Calendar
Plan Your Bar Outings
50 News & Politics
Obama Signs Federal Hate-Crimes Bill TICKETS TO BODIES
THE EXHIBITION
CUISINE NORAH JONES
THE FALL
54 Off the Eaten Path CDS
Photo Courtesy of House of Toi Tiger Sushi II
On the Runway. 56 Nutrition
Dietary Supplements
58 Dining Guide
Food for Every Mood
ZANG TOI BACKTALK
TAKES FASHION 61 The Network TICKETS TO
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INTERNATIONAL 63 LavenderMagazine.com Calendar
REALITY KILLED THE
VIDEO STAR CHRISTMAS IN THE
CDS CITY CONCERT
Plan Your Fortnight
66 Community Connection
GLBT-Friendly Nonprofits
Zang Toi (Left) and Kevin Quinn 68 Classifieds
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70 Ms. Behavior
Sick Of Vampires
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73 Yellow Pages Advertiser Index Famous!
What’s Where This Issue Always wondered what
Wanda’s favorite ice
74 Consider the Source cream flavor is? Maybe
COMMUNITY DIALOGUE Holy Cow! you’re having relationship
10 MMPA Awards 74 Cartoon troubles? Have a particular
Lavender Wins Eight Again Trolín opinion you’d like to share?
11 Queer As Folks Now you can get answers
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Prins Takes Helm at District 202 • Open Arms picking up the phone and
Sports New Logo calling Wanda’s new listener voicemail! Simply dial
CORRECTION 612-AIM-HOLE and leave your favorite podcasting drag
ON THE RUNWAY In “Queer As Folks” on page 13 in the November queen a message for her to play on the podcast!
Cover Feature 6 Lavender, Ballet of the Dolls was referred to
14 Fashion incorrectly as Ballets Russes.
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20 Onward Style news with host Bradley Traynor
Revenge of the Nerds
22 Isn’t Fashion Fun
Fashion Travel Tips Top Headlines
New York Senate Delays Vote on
23 Lavender Lens Gay Marriage Bill
The Affair AMA Votes to Seek Repeal of
26 Holiday Gift Guide ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’

18 More Suggestions Lawmakers to Examine Text of
D.C. Gay Marriage Bill
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Contributors Kolina Cicero, Meryl Cohn, Carla Continenza,
Julie Dafydd, Chad Eldred, Heidi Fellner, Lawrence Ferber,
Terrance Griep, Ed Huyck, Steve Lenius, John Michael Lerma,
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Townsend, Carla Waldemar
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(1914-2006)
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Community Dialogue >
Lavender Wins Eight MMPA Awards

Minnesota Maga- entire Lavender staff and our contributors
zine Publishers As- to thank for our garnering a record-tying Silver
sociation (MMPA) eight awards this year. Best Use of Visuals/Photography
held its 13th Annual For the 2008-2009 season spanned by (Special Interest, Under 60,000)
Excellence Awards the awards, Lavender won: “Hostelry Affair”
Dinner on Novem- Gold June 5, 2009
ber 5. As usual, a Best Editor’s Editorial or Letter
Lavender contingent (Special Interest, Under 60,000) Bronze
was on hand—along “A Word in Edgewise” Best Single Cover
with some 400 other December 5, 2008 (Special Interest, Under 60,000)
media members— April 9, 2009
for dining and cel- Gold
ebration at the Metropolitan Ballroom & Best Regular Column Bronze
Clubroom Golden Valley. (Special Interest, Under 60,000) Best Table of Contents
Reprising as emcee was Jason DeRusha, “Get Outta Town” (Special Interest, Under 60,000)
who covers the “Good Question” segment February 17, 2009
of the WCCO-TV 10 PM News He has Silver
been nominated for 10 Regional Emmy Best Digital Media Bronze
Awards, and won the 2004 Regional Emmy (Under 60,000) Best Use of Visuals/Photography
Award for Ongoing Feature Series. (Special Interest, Under 60,000)
This year, MMPA awards were given out Silver 5 Coveted Covers
in 88 categories in areas of editorial, design, Best Media Kit June 5, 2009
general, and overall excellence. We have the (Under 60,000)
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Queer As Folks |
Curt Prins. Photo Courtesy of District 202

>
Prins
Takes
Helm at
District
202
The District 202 Board of Directors
named Curt Prins the new Execu-
tive Director of the organization for
GLBT youth. He stepped down as
Acting Board Chair to move into
the position. He has served on the
Board since 2005, and as Board
Chair since February 2009. Prins is a
15-year veteran of the tech market-
ing and nonprofit world. He has been
an active community volunteer in the
Twin Cities, working with Together-
Minnesota, Project 515, OutFront
Minnesota, Human Rights Campaign
Twin Cities, and Faith Family Fairness

Alliance.
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Queer As Folks |
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Open
Arms
Sports
New Logo
For the past 23 years, Open Arms
of Minnesota has provided a vital
service to those living with HIV/AIDS
and other debilitating illnesses. What
began in 1986 with one man cooking
meals in his kitchen for a few people
living with AIDS has expanded into
a organization serving many clients,
headquartered in a new, multimillion-
dollar building. It has a new logo as
well, designed by IMAGEHAUS owner
Jay Miller. No stranger to Open Arms,

he helped create a logo that suits the
widening array of services it provides.
He said, “It better represents what
they’re doing now, but it also em-
braces their heritage and past.”
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On the Runway
Men In Black BY ALLISON DENT
S
TYLEDLIFE® founder Kevin Quinn and New
York-based couture designer Zang Toi have been
close friends for 20 years. They met as experi-
enced fashion industry idealists in New York City and
over two decades, both have grown into respected
members of the fashion and retail communities.
In 2000, Quinn embraced his entrepreneurial side

and founded styledlook®, an at-home wardrobe consult-
ing business. In 2006, he founded STYLEDLIFE®—a
high-end accessories and import music store in Min-
neapolis. Last month, STYLEDLIFE® moved into a
3,000 square foot flagship at the Galleria in Edina.
Toi hopped a plane from the Big Apple to the Min-

neApple to celebrate STYLEDLIFE®’s growth with
his long-time friend. Lucky for Twin Cities clothes-
horses, he brought along his luxurious fall and Ma-
drid-inspired spring collections as well.
Despite Toi’s longevity and success, his recent ap-

pearance on The Real Housewives of New York City as
Jill Zarin’s favorite designer was a break that sparked
his new brand recognition and increased mass appeal.
Toi’s celebrity client list extends from Fergie of the
Black Eyed Peas to Ivana Trump, Melinda Gates, Eva
Longoria Parker, and Sharon Stone. Still, mainstream
America doesn’t know Toi’s name. We sat down with
him to find out a little more about the man in the black
velvet kilt.
Name: Zang Toi

Age: 48
First fashion memory: When I was 7, I helped my mother pick out
fabrics for her custom-made cheongsams [ed: traditional long dresses
worn by Chinese women].
First fashion inspiration: Old Hollywood movies.
Three words to describe your upbringing: honest, loving, and
family.
Biggest inspiration: Right now, it’s a place of my imagination that is
sexy and mysterious.

Best advice: My parents taught me the best work ethic.
Fashion rules: I don't believe in fashion rules. It's always great fun to
be rule-breaker!
Alternate careers: If I weren’t in fashion I might have become a chef
or a decorator.
Signature color: I used to wear color, but after I decorated my apart-
ment [ed: in black, white and silver], I started wearing all black.
Dirt on Jill Zarin: I don't kiss and tell except that she’s an absolutely
kind lady.
Fashion designer Zang Toi (left), and STYLEDLIFE® founder Kevin Quinn (right). Photo by Mike Hnida
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The Fall Collection
Look 16
BY ALLISON DENT
T
oi’s adoration for fur and appreciation for Loro Piana cashmere is
evident in his fall ’09 collection. Despite his luxurious materials, his
collection celebrates layering and dark colors, two very wearable and
Minnesota-friendly concepts that make his looks good for more than just saun-
tering down the runway.
Look 17
Look 12 Look 22
Look 9 Look 11
Photos courtesy of House of Toi. Models: Deborah Fenker (Look 11, 12, 17), Celine Chua from Project Runway (Look 9, 16, 22).
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On the Runway
Around the World

for Inspiration BY ALLISON DENT
Z
ang Toi and Kevin Quinn, who goes by KQ, both find themselves jumping into cabs,
SKETCHBOOK: “On every trip over the last five years, I
boarding planes or even, on occasion, climbing in a safari Jeep® in search of inspira- have taken this custom-made leather Goyard Paris sketch-
tion and adventure. Toi’s spring collection features jackets and cropped pants with book. It is black with a crown, lucky number 13, and my
initial ‘T’.” –TZ
the distinct proportion of Spanish matador costume. Toi, himself, prefers a black velvet kilt
emblazoned with his initial as a daily nod to Scottish traditional dress.
Quinn, an avid traveler, has visited more than 45 countries. Along the way, Kevin has
developed his “airport aesthetic,” his look of sunglasses, a scarf, and earplugs, to ensure
quiet and relaxation.
PASSPORT: “My last passport required more pages,”

says Quinn. KQ’s favorite trip from this passport? “The
Sultanate of Oman. The country, its people, and its fashion
left a lasting impression on me.” –KQ
SKETCHES: “I do not take snapshots or

collect souvenirs on my trips. My sketches
reflect my inspiration.” –TZ
FAN: “I’ve named her Hawaiian Breeze

and she helps me sleep no matter
where I happen to be.” –KQ
SUNGLASSES, AND EAR PLUGS: “It’s all CUSTOM-MADE LUGGAGE: “Luggage is highly personal and expressive
part of my airport aesthetic. My time away of one’s style quotient. Sure, it has strong functional purposes, but in
is very precious and when I fly, I just want my opinion, function should always be married with fashion—especially
to unplug.” –KQ in luggage! In essence, I’ve had luggage made to simplify my packing
process, allow for easy transport, and express my personal style.” –KQ
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On the Runway
Trip Down Memory Lane BY ALLISON DENT
T
hese two fashion industry veterans How has dressing changed over the What are some of your favorite des-
have triumphed through ’80s ex- past 20 years? Have people gotten lazy? tinations?
cess, survived ’90s grunge, and have Toi: Yes, to a degree some people have Toi: I love places that are filled with
weathered the current recession. Toi pro- gotten lazy, but there are still many of us beautiful women and handsome men like
duces some of fashion’s most sophisticated who enjoy dressing for the occasion. the ruggedly handsome cowboys and ranch
pieces, while Quinn brings the Twin Cities a Quinn: Americans invented the “sports- hands of Montana or the exotic beauties of
unique point of view on men’s and women’s wear” fashion phenomenon, but society has Africa.
accessories and their ability to transform taken this casualness to a degree I find dis- Quinn: My life is about dualities. While
fashion. We asked these men to share their appointing. Respect for dressing and one’s I am a hotel aficionado, I adore small-town
insight as industry insiders from opposite presentation is an important part of success. America. I love the simplicity of the Ameri-
ends of the fashion spectrum, ranging from This is the premise of my wardrobe con- can lifestyle in a small town. Fashion exists
Toi’s design to Quinn’s retail. sulting service, styledlook®. everywhere.
Which is more important in creating

How has the fashion industry changed a distinctive outfit: garments or acces-
since you first started? sories?
Toi: The lightning speed of the industry Toi: I am huge believer in individual-
has greatly affected the retail sector. With ity, so it depends on each person’s style and
the ever-changing trends that the fashion preference.
magazines impose, consumers are often left Quinn: When you talk about the basic
confused. “uniform,” it always starts with clothing. I
Quinn: Trends’ longevity is limited in feel strongly that accessories make an outfit
today’s hyper-swift market. It is unusual distinctive and best expresses one’s personal
for trends to last even eight months. Ten style. Who remembers a great turtleneck?
years ago, the average lifespan was at least
18 months. As a fashion retailer, it is impor- How do you feel about the rising
tant to identify trends and adapt continuous popularity of high-low fashion?
change in your business model and for your Toi: I love the pairing of high-low piec-
customer base. es. There is absolutely nothing wrong with
pairing Levi's jeans with an alligator Her-
How has the recession impacted your mès Kelly bag and one of my cashmere-silk
business and the fashion industry over- cardigan wrap-set with mink border.
all? Quinn: It is democracy of fashion, and
Toi: I personally hope the recession is a I find it intoxicating and exciting. It gives
necessary cleansing process and that con- consumers the opportunity to make their
sumers will bounce back. own decisions and has opened the door to
Quinn: The recession and business allow more people to feel fashionable.
downturn have helped our guests truly un-
derstand our commitment to their personal What foods, activities, or traditions
style rather than conspicuous consumption. inspire you?
It has been our friend, believe it or not. Toi: French cuisine and table settings
are gorgeous. Japanese food and its packag-
What does luxury mean to you? ing look perfect and provide beautiful in-
Toi: Luxury simply means valuing qual- spiration.
ity over quantity. Quinn: My dear friend Zang is a foodie.
Quinn: Luxury is not just a product; it When I visit him in New York, we only
is more a feeling or an emotion. Luxury eat at the finest restaurants and everybody
is time for friendships, for family, and for knows him. Me? I could have a bagel and
yourself. LAFFY TAFFY and be happy.
Photo by Mike Hnida
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On the Runway > Onward Style [ by Sara Rogers ]
Revenge of the Nerds

Hot picks from MOA® Trend Specialist Sara Rogers
Get out your pocket protectors because geek-chic cardigans are on the checklist for fall. Worn shrunken, chunky, classic or striped this season, cardigans are the
perfect transition piece to make over your summer favorites into winter wear. One caveat – steer clear from buying extremely baggy styles or you’ll end up looking
more fuddy-duddy than fashionable.
SHAWL COLLAR
MARTIN + OSA / LEVEL 2, SOUTH (S214)
The shawl collar adds sophistication and drama to a basic
wardrobe staple. This purple Martin + Osa style allows
you to button up for the work day or let loose and layer
for a cozy weekend look.
CHUNKY KNIT
UNITED COLORS OF BENETTON / LEVEL 1, SOUTH
(S152)
Sturdy, knit styles are the perfect remedy for Minnesota’s
colder temps! The fitted shape and versatile color of this
cardigan would look great worn over almost any color
button-up, plus the easy zip-up closure also makes this
a must-buy.
DESTRUCTED
MARTIN + OSA / LEVEL 2, SOUTH (S214)
This relaxed woven is a great option if you’re looking to
jump on the cardigan bandwagon but prefer more casual,
sporty styles. The raw edges and jersey fabric are a
perfect mix of comfortable and cool.
STRIPES
METROPARK / LEVEL 1, NORTH (N108)
Channel your inner Harry Potter in this striped sweater op-
tion from Metropark. The crest-style patch appliqué is an
excellent added detail in addition to hand-warmer style
pockets perfect for carrying all your potions.
BUTTON PLAY
AMERICAN APPAREL / LEVEL 1, NORTH (N186)

Definitely not meant for wallflowers, this double-breasted
cardigan from American Apparel is a great twist on a ba-
sic look. Made out of 100% fine jersey cotton, this funky
style is also available in numerous other colors including
basic black, Sahara brown and charcoal.
Onward Style is Lavender’s exclusive column written by Sara Rogers, MOA®

Trend Specialist. Sara has worked in the fashion industry for more than 20
years as a model, fashion specialist, wardrobe therapist, and television host.
As the Trend Specialist and Personal Shopper for Mall of America®, her
“office” spans 4.2 million square feet and more than 520 stores, providing
her with extensive resources to research what’s hot in retail trends.
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On the Runway > Isn't Fashion Fun ™
[ Kevin Quinn ]
STYLEDLIFE® is on the cover with Zang Toi this month! Inside this issue of Isn’t Fashion Fun, the story on our For the organizers among us, nothing says
travel schedules has inspired me to share a few fashion travel tips for how a little preparation (and a few key "prepared" like a modern passport cover
for your most important travel document.
items) can make your next sojourn stress-free and happening.
Travel is a constant in many people's busy lifestyles. For me personally, I embrace it (and sometimes curse it)
and have found a rhythm that works. Travel is a key part of many Lavender readers personal and professional
lives too.
Here are my suggestions and tips to make the travel experience personal and pleasurable:
Tunes can define and enhance any travel ex-

perience. Take a new CD for that rental car
drive down Hwy 101. Best CD we have heard
this year? No question, the new Ocean Drive.
Absolutely fierce!
Sunglasses are instant COOL whether

going to Puerto Vallarta or Alaska. Most
modern? Big frames.
STYLEDLIFE® candle: We personalize our

"look", why not personalize your temporary
"space". Add aromatherapy to your hotel
room and after you check-in, "check-out"
from daily stress with our modern Tobac-
co/Vanilla soy candle. It's heaven!
It's a minimal touch but a maximal style

statement. Add colorful luggage tags to
your bags. Carry-on or checked. Y-3 travel bag? Coolest brand ever. 'nuff said.
Travel safely, travel happy and travel stylishly...and don't forget to take photos!
Mandarina Duck suitcase. Sleek, modern
Live your Best Life....your STYLEDLIFE! and affordable. Stand out in a subtle way
with this revered, yet low profile Italian
brand.
Kevin P. Quinn
Isn’t Fashion Fun™ is your monthly go-to resource for fashion expertise on how style-related topics play into your wardrobe and vis-à-vis your busy life. Isn’t
Fashion Fun™ is brought to you by the fashion leader STYLEDLIFE® and the wardrobe experts™ of styledlook®, the premier at-home wardrobe consulting
company with clients nationwide.
Got a big event or hot date coming up and don’t know what to wear? No worries—we’re here for you. What’s the best accessory gift or music CD for a
special someone? Yes, we can dial you in on that, too. Email us your fashion/wardrobe dilemmas to <info@wardrobeexperts.com>. Live your best life…
your STYLEDLIFE!
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Lavender Lens |
THE AFFAIR
November 7 & 8
Minneapolis Convention Center
Photos by Mike Feltault Photography
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HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE
TANGLETOWN
HIV GARDENS
Not just plants, but also books, tools,
Pendant
This fashionable, sterling silver
arrangements, and canned produce
from its own fields to please all
gift benefits a great cause. All winter long. Unique items in stone,
proceeds from this pendant wicker, metal, and ceramic. A sample
designed by Anna Sheffield, of the cornucopia: classic candelabra
benefit the Covalent Immunology for twilight tête-à-têtes; bronze
Foundation (CIF), a 501(c)(3) bearers ($59 each); candleholders
nonprofit. It was founded to ($2.99 each); preserves ($7.50); tools
raise awareness, and support ($22.50 each); centerpiece ($79).
the research of Dr. Sudhir Paul, 5353 Nicollet Ave., Mpls.
currently developing a prototype (612) 822-4769
vaccine to prevent the spread of <www.tangletowngardens.com>
HIV/AIDS. Pendant design was
inspired by antique hand-stamped
coins incorporating the CIF logo.
Either on chain ($89) or silk THUMBS UP MITTENS
These colorful, one-of-a kind, adult, fleece-lined mittens, with
ribbon ($55). To purchase, go to
<www.bingbangnyc.com>. decorative cuff buttons, are handcrafted from recycled wool
sweaters by an ingenious mother-daughter team. Daughter
Megan Woods, of Boston, Massachusetts, and mother
Karla Hardy, of Skandia, Michigan (a seamstress for more
than 40 years), together have created this superbly soft and
wonderfully warm collection. They are sold (retail $75/pair)
through boutiques and trunk shows, as well as on <www.
thumbsupmittens.com>.
I AM NOT A PAPER CUP

I am, in fact, a clever and eco-friendly matte-finish, double-
walled porcelain mug with a silicone lid. I hold about 8 oz. I
GORDON
am dishwasher-safe and reusable. I’m packaged attractively in
a see-through box, and also priced attractively at under $20,
BROTHERS
at gift shops, major stores, and online. From DCI, makers of 2008 ICE
a wide range of other unique home and kitchen items. I’ll be
a hit. Try me. WINE
This unique desert wine offers a fun gift
alternative to traditional reds and whites.
Gordon Brothers Family Vineyards in
Washington State produces an exceptionally
ALPHABET PHOTOGRAPHY
A unique gift opportunity: a customized piece of artwork for that special person, using any
delicious ice wine made from 100 percent
Gewürztraminer grapes. Aromas of floral-
infused honey and gently crushed roses
inspiring phrase or meaningful word spelled out in a multitude of iconographic images and
carry seamlessly through to the palate,
shapes. Can be tailored to fit any occasion—birthdays, anniversaries, holidays—and any
where the fragrances are joined by flavors
age group, from babies
of apricots, nectarines, blood oranges, and

to nonagenarians.
generous nuances of citrus zest. $37 gets
Choose your word,
the wine packaged with a beautiful 375 ml.
and pick from
frosted glass. Visit
hundreds of images.
<www.gordonwines.com>.
Also: posters, custom
frames, calendars,
and more. Check
them out at <www.
alphabetphotography.
com>.
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Lavender Lens |
THE AFFAIR
November 7 & 8
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HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE
WALKING THUNDER: IN MINNEAPOLIS
THE FOOTSTEPS OF THE INSTITUTE
AFRICAN ELEPHANT OF ARTS GIFT
CYRIL CHRISTO AND
MARIE WILKINSON • $60 SHOP
The Minnesota Institute of Arts
SLUM DOGS OF INDIA Louvre gift shop celebrates The
ELOISE LEYDEN • $16.95 Louvre and the Masterpiece exhibit
These represent only two of Merrell Publishers’s with objets historic, playful,
many fine books on animals, gardens, art, and profound, and unique. Pictured:
architecture. Photographers Christo, Wilkinson, French for Le Snob, by Yvete
and Leyden have followed their subjects—the Roche ($16.95); Fleur-de-lys finial
lofty and majestic, the humble and lowly—with ($26.50); Fragonard guest soaps
the love and concern due all Earth’s creatures. ($22.50); Joyeux Nöel
Peruse the catalog at <www.merrellpublishers. Eiffel Tower ornament
com>. Available at fine bookstores near you. ($22.50); “Dreaming of
Paris” mask ($24.50).
Lavishly illustrated
exhibit catalog—not
shown—only $35.
TASSIMO
Tassimo brews premium
Minneapolis Institute of
Arts, 2400 3rd Ave. S., Mpls.
coffeehouse-quality beverages, <www.artsmia.org>
including four distinct coffee
blends from Starbucks®. An
expanding T DISC new lineup
includes coffee, real milk,
cappuccino and latte, espresso, PARIS PHOTOS ~ PARIS WALKS
crema, tea, and hot chocolate.
Distinct technology reads the PETER J. O’TOOLE
“T Disc” barcode, calibrating ARTIST BOOK PRESS • $65
to deliver a perfect first-cup The 135 black-and-white photographs and hand-drawn maps
experience, every time, in 60 in this gorgeous volume will immerse you in the City of
seconds. At select specialty and Light. O’Toole’s luminous prints have a timeless quality and
department stores, or <www. depth that have garnered awards, causing both the Walker and
tassimo.com>. MSRP range Minneapolis Institute of Arts to include it in their museum
$129.99 to $199.99. shops. The book is a paean to Paris, as well as a collaboration
between O’Toole and his partner, Tim Schultz, who created
the walking guides. The accompanying bilingual text rounds
out a superb production.
VIVABOX
Vivabox presents a two-layered experience
combining the recipient’s freedom of choice
with your personal touch. The first layer is a
themed sample gift to tempt the recipient; the
second, your gift card he or she redeemed from
Vivabox’s menu. You choose a theme—you
know his or her preferences. He or she opens
the box, and enjoys the sample gift, then visits
the website, and picks a gift with his or her
card. Voilà! Check <vivabox.com> for themes,
prices.
NEVER TRUST A THIN COOK: AND OTHER

LESSONS FROM ITALY’S CULINARY CAPITAL
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THE AFFAIR
November 7 & 8
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HOLIDAY GIFT GUIDE
Mug of the
Month Club •
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This is one gift-of-the-month-club you just may
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Big Gay News >
[ Written & Compiled by Bradley Traynor ]
NATIONAL NEWS
AMA VOTES TO SEEK DON’T

ASK, DON’T TELL REPEAL
The American Medical Association
(AMA), the nation’s largest professional
group of doctors, has agreed to support
the effort to repeal the military’s ban on
openly gay service members. It said the law
creates an ethical dilemma for gay service
members and the doctors who treat them.
The organization also voted to declare that
bans on same-sex marriages contribute to
health disparities for gay couples and their
children.
ACTIVISTS URGE OBAMA AND

DNC FUNDING BOYCOTT
Americablog’s John Aravosis and Joe
Sudbay have organized a boycott against
President Barack Obama and the Demo-
cratic National Committee (DNC), recom-
mending people withhold funds until he
and the party uphold campaign promises to
the GLBT community. Aravosis said on his
website, “This campaign is temporary, and
is only meant to help some friends, Presi-
dent Obama and the Democratic Party,
who have lost their way.” The petition asks
readers not give to Obama or the DNC un-
til “the Employment Non-Discrimination
Act (ENDA) is passed, Don’t Ask Don’t
Tell (DADT) is repealed, and the so-called
Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA) is re-
pealed—all of which President Obama re-
peatedly promised to do if elected.”
WORLD NEWS
SWEDEN’S LUTHERAN CHURCH

ORDAINS FIRST OPENLY
LESBIAN BISHOP
According to the Canadian Press, Swe-
den’s Lutheran Church has ordained its first
openly lesbian bishop. The move comes
just two weeks after the church gave cler-
gy the right to perform same-sex wedding
ceremonies. Eva Brunne was ordained as
a bishop in a ceremony in Stockholm. She
told the Associated Press, “It is very posi-
tive that our church is setting an example
here, and is choosing me as bishop based
on my qualifications, when they also know
that they can meet resistance elsewhere.”
She is in a registered same-sex partnership,

and has one child. Brunne is believed to be
the only openly lesbian bishop of a major
Christian denomination.
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News & Politics [ by John Townsend ]
MAGNIFICENT NEW BOOK ABOUT

MATTHEW SHEPHERD ASTONISHES
An Interview with Judy Shepard
Photo by Hubert Bonnet
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O
n October 7, 1998,
Matthew Shepard was
pistol-whipped and
tortured maniacally
by Aaron McKinney,
while Russell Hender-
son aided and abetted, tying Shepard to a
fence post near Laramie, Wyoming. After
he was found, the world kept vigil until
the 5’ 2”, 105 lb., 21-year-old gay college
student died in a Fort Collins, Colorado,
hospital on October 12. The two murder-
ers insidiously posed as friendly gay men
to lure him into what would become the
iconic hate crime of our time.
The historic nature of Shepard’s mur-
der surely has made millions of people—
who never would have thought about the
subject—aware of the profoundly psychot-
ic potential of homophobia. The downside
is that it has made him seem larger than
life, not a real person who actually lived
and struggled as we all do.
In response to the myth of Shepard,
his mother, Judy Shepard, has written
the staggering The Meaning of Matthew:
My Son’s Murder in Laramie, and a World
Transformed. If you ever wanted a book
to help anyone—a parent, a friend, a co-
worker, or even yourself—to understand
what it is to be gay in a society that still
traffics in homophobia, this is the one. A
milestone, it’s a real page-turner.
The Meaning of Matthew is a great work
that integrates Judy Shepard’s deep feel-
ings about her son; her view of his choices,
gay politics, homophobia, and society; and
coming to terms with death. It not only
delves into how Matthew Shepard per-
ceived being gay, but also how his parents
processed it, and society’s role in all of it
as well.
When I recently spoke with Judy
Shepard, I found her to be a dynamo for
progress in human rights.
You wanted to describe the Matt who
you knew, not “Matthew Shepard,” the
political icon the rest of the world has
come to know. For you, he was simply
“Matt.”
The reason I wrote the book is because
I felt the public only knew him as Mat-
thew, but he was always Matt to everybody
else. I was a little worried that he was be-
coming very one-dimensional and all too
perfect, and not really a real person. I just
felt it was important that everyone who
knew him as the iconic Matthew got to

know him as the very human Matt.
A revisionist history, a falsification
of the record about your son’s mur-
der, has been cropping up. You
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... [Interview with Judy Shepard]
address it in your book. It was also ex-
posed by the theatrical journalism of
the Tectonic Theatre artists, whose
The Laramie Project: 10 Years Later,
An Epilogue—a play they researched in
Laramie and wrote—was read publicly
at more than 150 theaters simultane-
ously in October.
There has been a movement to change
what happened to Matt into not a hate
crime, but to make it into something like
a robbery and/or a drug deal gone wrong,
which is really confusing to me, because
all you have to do is go back to the trial
transcript, and you can see by both boys’
confessions that it was far more than that.
They admitted to pretending to be
gay. How I read it is that these guys
actually lured him into that situation,
and donned a gay facade to manipulate
him.
That’s exactly right. They singled him
out, because they assumed he was gay, and
that’s how they befriended him, and for
anyone to think that they did anything
different, especially when the two boys
said that that’s what they did, just seems
so goofy to me.
Are you finding that people in Lara-
mie are speaking up about this falsifica-
tion, this revisionist history?
The University of Wyoming produced
one of the productions of The Laramie
Project: 10 Years Later, and it’s created
quite an amount of discussion within the
City of Laramie.
I find it ironic when so many who
oppose hate-crimes legislation will
scream “terrorist!,” and jump the gun
to strip the rights of anyone suspected
of terrorism on paltry evidence, even
though they’ll complain that hate-
crimes efforts try to read the mind of
the perpetrator. Yet, that’s exactly what
the ones who scream terrorist are try-
ing to do. However, I would say they
more often than not tend to misread
the mind of the ones they suspect to
be terrorists.
I think that’s true. You never hear them
talk about wanting to repeal the hate-
crimes legislation that already exists pro-
tecting race and religion.

How did Matthew’s rape in Mo-
rocco, which you address in the book,
shake his confidence?
I think it’s the same for any victim of
sexual assault. They lose confidence in
their own being. Their self-esteem is dam-
aged, often beyond repair. And there’s a
large amount of guilt. I think Matt blamed
himself for allowing that to happen.
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Of course, as we know, there’s noth-

ing he could have done to stop it. The
men jumped him.
Sure, but I think the guilt is a natural
reaction. You just think there’s something
you did or didn’t do to stop that. But I
think every rape victim goes through that.
So many movies, video games, etc.
have come to be drenched with vio-
lence. We now have so many images of
callous machismo—weaponry, action,
destruction, rather than dialogue. Your
thoughts on the saturation of violence.
I think it’s the media, because the day
Matt was killed, what we kept saying was if
it bleeds, it leads. I think that we just talk
about it so much that it becomes part of
our everyday psyche, and we are no lon-
ger shocked when it happens on individual
levels. Mass levels, of course, but on indi-
vidual levels, I think our society has be-
come so jaded about violence, emotional
and physical, that we pretty much just
don’t pay attention anymore.
Your husband, Dennis, had to wear
a bulletproof vest to Matt’s memorial
service. And there was the emotional
violence of Fred Phelps’s clan of the
Westboro Baptist Church, chanting
hateful, evil things about Matt so loud-
ly that the sound of it carried into the
Episcopal Church where the service
was being held.
That was quite unexpected. We did it
[the vest] at the request of the police in
Casper. They were concerned about the
haters, for lack of a better word, trying
to make a statement. Of course, nothing
happened.
You mention Catholic-sponsored
actions against the death penalty out-
side the trial of Aaron McKinney possi-
bly influencing the jury. The Mormon
Church orchestrated opposition last
year to Prop 8. Catholic bishops were
consulted about the recent House
health care bill. You are a Christian
yourself, an Episcopalian, but what are
your thoughts on religious intrusion
into political affairs?
They certainly have the right to ex-
press their personal opinion, but to bring
church doctrine or their congregations

along with them—to me, it’s a violation
of what we hold dear: the separation of
church and state. I think the evangelical
movement in general has, or had then, cre-
ated an atmosphere that made it seem OK
to marginalize the gay community. I think
there’s a large part of that still happening.
Conservative politicians and the religious
right wing—I think they influence the
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people that look to them for guidance. I

think that’s kind of sad.
A lot of parents of GLBT kids, who
seem to accept their kids, don’t re-
ally take a public stand for them. Even
when Matt was alive, it seems like you
took a stand for him, as you still do.
I think their most important role is to be
there for their children in their own family
ranks—to support their kids—and among
their friends. Any kind of situation where
you can further knowledge about the gay
community is invaluable, and as parents,
we are in social situations all the time
where we have the opportunity to address
people’s prejudice or ignorance about the
GLBT community. That’s what we should
be doing. Making it personal makes it real,
and changes people’s minds. I’m only this
public because I was thrust into it, but if
this had not happened, I would have been
involved as a mom at PFLAG. It is very
important for friends and family to talk
about their gay family members in a very
educational, positive way.
World AIDS Day is coming up on
December 1. In your book, you write
that you found out about Matt’s HIV
status after he’d been beaten so bru-
tally. The HIV status then seemed
comparatively minor. What are your
thoughts on HIV/AIDS?
I’m concerned that young people can
think that, because there’s treatment,
there’s a cure or even a prevention, and
that they’re now practicing unsafe sex
again. The [infection] numbers are on the
rise, and that concerns me greatly.
You formed the Matthew Shepard
Foundation within two months of his
murder. You came to a quick resolve.
We’ve created a website at
<www.matthewsplace.com>, which ad-
dresses young people between the age of
12 and 20. It’s a resource list of places that
are safe to help gay kids or kids at risk in
general. We try to be very positive, very
encouraging about their futures being safe
and discrimination-free. We do education
projects; produce and publish our own
educational programs; and do lectures for
schools. It’s about keeping the dialogue
going.
THE MEANING OF MATTHEW: MY SON’S

MURDER IN LARAMIE, AND A WORLD TRANS-
FORMED
JUDY SHEPARD
HUDSON STREET PRESS
$25.95
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Arts & Entertainment > On the Townsend [ by John Townsend ]
SOME GIRL(S) / THROUGH DEC. 5 / PILLSBURY

HOUSE, 3501 CHICAGO AVE. S., MPLS / (612) 375-
0300 / <WWW.WALKINGSHADOWCOMPANY.ORG>
Brian Balcom is among our best local di-

rectors for dealing with issues of the erotic.
His stagings of some of Trista Baldwin’s
sexually drenched plays, as well as Noah
Haidle’s fantastical satire on child sexuality,
Mr. Marmalade, have been remarkable. So,
we should have known it was only a matter
of time until we would see him take on the
always-unsettling Neil LaBute, whose Some
Girl(s) is a perfect Balcom vehicle.
Balcom calls the play “an examination
into the ignorance of a man’s actions, and
his comprehending the consequences as
he’s faced with the wreckage of his love.
Guy [Clarence Wethern] travels around Some Girls. Photo by Elise Rosen
the country to make amends with four old
girlfriends, but discovers the wounds he in- Best Musical and the Grammy for Best Mu-
flicted are much deeper and more substan- IN THE HEIGHTS / DEC. 1-6 / ORPHEUM THEATRE, sical Show Album. It’s a breakthrough for a
910 HENNEPIN AVE., MPLS. / (800) 982-2787 /
tial than he realized. It’s a brutal look at one <WWW.HENNEPINTHEATRETRUST.ORG> broad mainstream audience, with a blend of
man’s romantic behavior and the destruc- Latin music and hip-hop in an urban neigh-
tion that he’s left behind.” In the Heights won the 2008 Tony for borhood setting. During the current
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... [On the Townsend]
national tour, ensemble performer Wilkie

Ferguson has been struck by its intergen-
erational appeal, even though one might
suspect its contemporary sound might ne-
gate that. Indeed, the show encompasses
three generations of music. It also reflects
the economic struggles very much on the
minds of the public today.
Ferguson says, “The quality of the
music, Andy Blankenbuehler’s choreogra-
phy, and the story that’s being told really
opens people’s eyes. It’s telling the story of
part of the community that I don’t think
has had a voice in Broadway theater, so I
think it’s great for a contemporary show
to give voice to these people who haven’t
been represented. I’m African-American,
and most of the cast is Latin or of Latin
descent. It was a big challenge for me, be-
cause I didn’t grow up with that tradition.
But the story is universal.”
CORLEONE: THE SHAKESPEAREAN GODFATHER

/ THROUGH DEC. 13 / GREMLIN THEATRE, 2400
UNIVERSITY AVE. W., ST. PAUL / (651) 228-7008 /
<WWW.GREMLIN-THEATRE.ORG>
David Mann is a first-rate Shakespear-

ean director and actor. He’s also an accom-
plished playwright. Now, he has melded
one of his favorite films with his favorite
playwright. He also directs his script.
Mann shares, “I am constantly amazed
at how the story of The Godfather mirrors
Shakespeare. The tragedies of Shake-
speare often depict the fall of a particular
man as a result of his own ambition, greed,
or inadequacy: Hamlet, Macbeth, Richard
II, or Lear. The Godfather is essentially the
tragedy of Michael Corleone [Ryan Lind-
berg], a man whose personal ambition and
fear bring the ruin of his soul. When this
story is heard in Shakespearean verse, it
makes complete sense.”
A CHRISTMAS CAROL / THROUGH DEC. 31 /

GUTHRIE THEATER, 818 S. 2ND ST., MPLS. / (612)
377-2224 / <WWW.GUTHRIETHEATER.ORG>
Perhaps you’ve heard that the Guthrie’s

35th annual revival of its holiday specialty
now only runs 90 minutes. Though you
like that, perhaps you’re afraid it won’t
have the same wonderful feel to it. But
fear not. Barbara Field, who penned the

adaptation you’ve enjoyed in years past,
also has written this new one. Peter Mi-
chael Goetz plays Scrooge—he’s a Guth-
rie veteran and titan, as well as a Lavender
Best Supporting Actor (Polonius in Ham-
let at the Guthrie in 2006).
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bar—the Twin Cities’s oldest GLBT establishment. <www.rumours-stpaul.com>
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02 422 Hennepin. Ave., Mpls. featuring variety of the best local talent.
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featuring variety of entertainment. Nightly drink conversation, Happy Hour, and community
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An upscale but casual spot with great video, dancing, <www.saloonmn.com>
cabaret, and the friendliest staff in town! Saloon
Long regarded as Minneapolis’s cutting-edge dance
04 GAY 90’S MEGABAR club, with friendly staff and
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Gay 90’s Enjoy fabulous cocktails by the glow of the
Upper Midwest’s Largest Gay Entertainment fireplace in an elegant ambience.
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Complex. Serving reasonably priced menu in AMY
main bar Wednesday-Sunday. 10 TICKLES
Dance Annex 1032 3rd Ave. NE, Mpls.
Awesome DJs deliver latest in dance, techno, and (612) 354-3846
hot gay anthems for your <www.ticklesbar.com>
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Happy Hour
Live Piano Music. Full-Service Menu, Happy WHO
Hour, Sports on 4 Flat-Panel TVs, Pool, Darts.
Newly remodeled. Open longest hours of any local Amy
GLBT bar. State-of-the art sound/video. 11 TOWN HOUSE
La Femme Show Lounge PIANO LOUNGE WHAT
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best female impersonator show Wednesday-Sunday. (651) 646-7087 Recipe: Blood Bath
Men’s Room <www.townshousebar.com> 1 part Red Wine
It’s a guy thing (ladies beware!). Hot men in a Town House (Preferably Cabernet)
sizzling scene. Best male dancers. Fun neighborhood bar with a great mix of men
Retro Bar and women. Karaoke. Drag shows. 1 part Chambord
Just what its name says. Fabulous DJs reprise the Piano Lounge 1 part Cranberry Juice
best of the ’70s through ’90s. That’s entertainment! Friday: Karaoke (Twyla). Mull orange slice, lemon slice, lime
Saturday: Lori Dokken & Friends. Sunday: slice, and cherries in pint glass. Fill
05 GLADIUS Karaoke (John). Monday: Men’s Night. with ice, add ingredients, and shake.
1111 Hennepin Ave., Mpls.
(612) 332-9963 Pour and enjoy.
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Superior •
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<www.minneapoliseagle.com> <www.jtsbarandgrill.net> “Great drinks, with the personalities
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famous Friday 3-for-1 Happy Hour & Sunday (715) 392-1756 dimples?”
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Bolt
Best video bar in Twin Cities. Huge selection of
music/comedy video clips & Show Tune Sundays.
Best patio in town.
Bolt Underground
Industrial & carnal nightclub hidden beneath the
city. Join us for CHAMBER every Thursday night.
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HALLOWEEN
October 31
19 BAR BOLT UNDERGROUND GAY 90'S THE SALOON
Photo by George Holdgrafer Photo by Sophia Hantzes Photo by George Holdgrafer Photo by George Holdgrafer
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Bar Scene > Leather Life [ by Steve Lenius ]
“Leather Life”: A Valedictory, of Sorts

B
ack on June 9, 1995, one of the me the freedom to write what I wanted to each column moments after it has been writ-
features of the first issue of Lav- write, and for not editing me too much. I ten, and offering helpful critiques.
ender Magazine (then called Lav- have enjoyed having the support of every- Thank you to everyone in the leather/
ender Lifestyles) was the first edi- one who has been a part of Lavender over the BDSM/fetish community—individually for
tion of this “Leather Life” column. Since years, including editors, art directors, office being who you are, and collectively for cre-
then, for almost 15 years, it has appeared in staff, ad sales reps, and fellow contributors. ating such a vibrant community and culture
all but a few issues of Lavender. Special thanks to George Holdgrafer, that have given me so much to write about
The magazine recently decided to who has been with the magazine from its for all these years. “Leather Life” always
change the editorial direction of the Bar beginning. My deep gratitude to Lavender has been your column—I’ve just been the
Scene section. So, the column you now are CEO Stephen Rocheford, who always has one who happened to be writing it.
reading will be the last every-issue install- had the good sense to know that a publi- Finally, thanks to you, the person read-
ment of “Leather Life.” Henceforth, it will cation, if it is to survive, must be run as a ing this column. Whether you’re leather,
appear quarterly. self-sustaining business, not a social cause. BDSM, fetish, or none of the above; wheth-
With so many items still on my “future That, I think, is one reason Lavender is the er you’re G, L, B, T, heterosexual, pansexu-
columns” list, I am surprised, and somewhat longest-running GLBT publication in the al, or refuse to be labeled; and whether you
saddened, to see the column’s frequency be- Upper Midwest. I always have been proud picked up the magazine, and flipped to this
ing reduced. But I am thankful for much. Be- to have my column appear in its pages. column, or pointed your browser to Laven-
cause of this column, I have met many fine Thanks to everyone at Leatherpage.com der’s website, and found the column there—
people, and had many great experiences, the for linking to Lavender’s website, thereby in- thanks for reading.
memories of which I always will cherish. cluding me in their fine slate of leather writ- I’ll be back with another edition of
I am very grateful to Lavender for giving ers. Thanks to my partner, Bill, for reading “Leather Life” sometime next spring.
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Bar Scene > Bar Calendar
For club addresses, phone numbers, and Web
sites, see “Bar Advertiser Guide” on page 40.
For events not at bars, see <LavenderMagazine.
com/calendar>. Booby Trap THURSDAY, NOVEMBER 26
Bolt Underground Therapy Thursday Thanksgiving Dance Party:
DJs Storm & Flo
SUNDAY, NOVEMBER 22 9 PM. Rumours.
FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 20 Sneak Preview Featuring
Gary Collins The Men of Seduction FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 27
5 PM. Tickles. 7 PM. Club Metro. Somerset, WI. Post Turkey Day Amateur Dance Contest
Drag 9-1-1 11 AM. Déjå Vu, 315 Washington Ave. N., Mpls.
9 PM. Rumours. WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 25 Gary Collins
Jimmy Martin & Dee Noah
Mia Dorr 5 PM. Tickles.
8 PM. Tickles.
9 PM. Tickles. Lure: DJs Shiek, AJent Orange, Monica Farr
Winter White Party: DJ Mew
Dragged Out 9 PM. Rumours.
9 PM. Gay 90’s.
9:30 PM. Town House. Mia Dorr
Babes in Toyland
27th Annual Blue Moon Ball 9 PM. Tickles.
Imperial Court of Minnesota
The Main Club. Superior, WI.
Benefit for Toys for Tots SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 28
SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 21 9 PM. Gladius. North Country Bears Bar Night
Minnesota Vixxen Fund-raiser Pre-Thanksgiving Dance Party: 8 PM. Bolt Underground.
7 PM. Innuendo. DJs Storm & Flo Jeff Olson
Remembering Mr. Marcus Benefit 9 PM. Rumours. 8:30 PM. Tickles.
7 PM. Minneapolis Eagle. DJ/Producer Mark Picchiotti & North Star Gay Rodeo Association
Jeff Olson BeBe Zahara Benet Fund-raising Show
8:30 PM. Tickles. 10 PM. Saloon. 9 PM. Innuendo.
“Get Bent” Drag King Show Babylon Elegance
10 PM. Rumours. Spin. 10 S. 5th St., Mpls. 9 PM. Town House.
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[ by Todd Park ]
OBAMA
Signs Federal
Hate-Crimes
Bill
I
promised Judy Shepard when I saw
her in the Oval Office that this day
would come,” President Barack
Obama said just before signing
the Matthew Shepard and James
Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act into
law on October 28. With the President’s
signature, accidental activists Dennis and
Judy Shepard witnessed the devastating
loss of their son transform into triumph
for countless millions. The legislation
honors the memory of Matthew Shepard,
a Wyoming college student brutally mur-
dered in an act of hate violence in 1998,
and James Byrd Jr., an African-American
man who was dragged to death in Jasper,
Texas, the same year.
The passage of this landmark legisla-
tion took the combined efforts and influ-
ence of more than 300 civil-rights and
social-justice organizations, plus more
than a million e-mails, faxes, and phone
calls from committed individuals. It was a
testament to perseverance on the part of
activists nationwide, sending an unmistak-
able message to Capitol Hill that hate-
HRC PRESIDENT JOE

SOLMONESE PRAISED
OBAMA FOR SIGNING THE
ACT INTO LAW, CALLING IT A
“HISTORIC MILESTONE IN THE
INEVITABLE MARCH TOWARD
EQUALITY.”
crimes legislation was long overdue.
Prior to the enactment of this law, fed-
eral hate-crime statutes offered limited

protection, covering only certain federally
protected activities such as voting. The
classes of people were restricted to race,
religion, and national origin. The newly
enacted legislation expands protection to
crimes motivated by bias against a person’s
sexual orientation, gender, gender identity,
or disability. It also permits the gov-
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...[Obama]
ernment to provide grants and assistance
to state and local authorities investigat-
ing and prosecuting hate crimes. By giv-
ing the Justice Department the power to
investigate and prosecute bias-motivated
violence, the act ensures that local law en-
forcement will have the resources it needs
to address hate crimes.
According to the Human Rights Cam-
paign (HRC), 86,582 hate crimes have
been reported since the introduction in
Congress of the first hate-crimes bill on
November 13, 1997, with 13,528 of them
based on sexual orientation. Many bias-
motivated crimes go unreported, mislead-
ing people into thinking the problem is
not as severe as it is, further underscoring
the depth of the situation and need for this
legislation.
HRC President Joe Solmonese praised
Obama for signing the Act into law, call-
ing it a “historic milestone in the inevi-
table march toward equality.”
Emphasizing the message of both
perseverance in civil-rights progress and
grassroots involvement, Judy Shepard, Ex-
ecutive Director of the Matthew Shepard
Foundation, stated, “We are incredibly
grateful to Congress and the President for
taking this step forward on behalf of hate-
crime victims and their families. But each
of us can and must do much more to en-
sure true equality for all Americans.”
OutFront Minnesota Anti-Violence
Director Rebecca Waggoner-Kloek noted
that in 2008, a 185 percent increase in vio-
lent bias-related crimes took place. In the
reported crimes, almost 40 percent of the
victims required medical attention. While
pointing out that over the past three years,
attacks have been progressively more bru-
tal, she called the passage of the federal
hate-crimes law “fantastic!—it is the first
time we’ve seen such commitment at a
high level to safety for everyone.”
In the end, the importance of this leg-
islation is about quality of life, of com-
munity. When the Matthew Shepard and
James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention
Act was signed into law, it improved all
our communities, not just some of them. It
exposed the law’s opponents, and restored
rationality to the spotlight. Ultimately, it
revived the American dream for a great
many people who had been intimidated
for far too long by bullies motivated by
hate and fear.
But now, as the tide is turning, the Presi-

dent’s vision is that, as put it, “No one
in America should ever be afraid to walk
down the street holding the hands of the
person they love.”
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Cuisine > Off the Eaten Path
MO. FU. ASPARAGUS STICKS
DARKENED EDAMAME ROLL
WONTON C
GOMAE
BAM BAM ROLL
TIGER SUSHI II [ by Heidi Fellner ]
I
t hasn’t been a year since I wrote about Tiger Sushi serve her Lyn-Lake neighborhood, so she filled out the menu
II, and ordinarily, that shorter time frame would pre- since our last review. The result is almost worthy of a new desig-
clude the restaurant from further scrutiny within the nation as “Tiger Sushi III,” and definitely a second column.
same publication. However, my editor and I decided Beginning with the Crazy Shrimp appetizer ($6.95), our en-
to make an exception, and I’ll explain why. Tiger tire meal catered to a much broader clientele. Fat, happy shrimp
Sushi II features such an extensive, creative sushi selection are sautéed in a rich, sweet garlic sauce, then tossed with carrots,
that I would encourage lovers of virgin seafood to pillage the red onions, and scallions, and served over sliced oranges. The
menu with reckless abandon. However, at least one dear and dish originally was available only off-menu as an employee meal,
sheltered soul among our friends always shies at the mention but became so popular that the staff begged for it to be listed for
of raw fish. Those unrepentant food atheists, along with any paying customers as well. It’s paired with a clean, balanced Span-
strict vegetarians, would be left at many sushi restaurants with ish Albarino ($8/$30) to draw out the sauce’s spice.
a skinny California Roll or a plate of limp tempura. Next, Edevold Mann proudly presented two hearty, veg-
Owner Lisa Edevold Mann knew such limitations would not etarian-friendly sushi rolls, each of which paired surprisingly
Photos by Mike Hnida

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KYURI DIP
TON CHIPS
(From left) Pomegranate Empress, Tiger Hottie, Cool Geisha.
One particularly tantalizing roll is the dec- every week. Ours happened to be Pomegran-
adent Darkened Edamame ($18.95)—which ate Empress, which went down like candy.
can be made completely vegetarian while I would do a disservice to Tiger Sushi II
retaining its charms. It features shrimp tem- if I did not recap one point from my previ-
pura, crab, cucumber, avocado, and gobo, ous column: If you have faith in your chef,
kicked up with spicy garlic mayo and a driz- and already have tried many Tiger Sushi
zle of chili oil, and topped with super white II specialties, just ask Chef JR Malibirin
tuna and garlicky edamame. Edevold Mann to make you something new and fabulous.
told me it ultimately may be nicknamed the This veritable “food psychic” always seems
“Better than Sex Roll,” and after tasting it, I to get it right. On my most recent visit, the
understand completely. kitchen surprised me with an off-menu,
For those who want more of an entrée, impromptu Hokkaido scallop dish topped
JR’s Black Miso Cod ($13.95) more than with crab, drizzled with a Japanese mayo/
suffices. Marinated a day-and-a-half in sour cream sauce, and served on a bed of
creamy miso sauce, ginger, garlic, and lime, ginger asparagus, all courtesy of Malibi-
it is cooked to flaky perfection, and served rin. Our dessert that evening was also ex-
over fresh greens. temporaneous, with cheerful fried bananas
In the wintertime, however, Minneso- and a rich mango sauce. With both entrée
tans probably will shift their eyes to the and dessert, my dining partner and I sipped
Udon menu. Beef Udon ($12.95) is simple Watari Bune Sake ($17/$71), a rare treat—
comfort food made from scratch, and that the delicate rice it is made from barely was
dish no doubt will be what I send my friends saved from extinction after the war.
well with light and fruity Bouchard Pi- to fetch the next time I get the sniffles. Let’s hope my readers now will excuse
not Noir ($7/$26). Bam Bam Roll ($9.95) Tiger Sushi II now has a drive-up/take- my return trip. If I go back again in four
is a feast for the senses, with a center of out menu for dedicated patrons who need months, only to write “Tiger Sushi II,
crunchy tempura veggies—sweet potatoes, good food fast. Simply call, place your or- III…,” you shall have every right to be in-
asparagus, basil leaves, and jalapeños—sur- der, and describe your vehicle. When you dignant. Of course, if you’ve eaten there,
rounded by avocado and rice, and topped pull up to the “Tiger Takeout Zone,” some- you already understand the compulsion.
prettily with minced inari. The roll rests on one will run out to your car.
a fragrant sauce of pureed pineapple, but it A fuller, restaurant-wide happy-hour
is especially excellent when dipped in soy. It menu is a welcome development for the Up- TIGER SUSHI II
is substantial enough to make a small meal town crowd. As well, late-night Thursdays 2841 LYNDALE AVE. S., MPLS.
offer an exclusive treat: the aptly named (612) 874-1800
if, and only if, you’re able to resist the other <WWW.TIGERSUSHIUSA.COM>
temptations on the menu. “Tini” Martini ($1), with a different flavor
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Cuisine > Nutrition [ by Darin Schwinkendorf ]
DIETARY Supplements
I want to talk about a popular topic that has brought forth
many questions in my young nutritional career: dietary supple-
ments. They are somewhat controversial in the nutrition world.
5
VITAMIN D
Some nutritionists believe in them, while others do not. Vitamin what? Yes, Vitamin D. Al-
though it has been put on the back burner
since initial discovery, it gradually has prov-
I, for one, believe in the use of some past columns, you should know that ome- en itself as one of the most critical vitamins.
dietary supplements. However, many of ga-3 fatty acids quickly are becoming the Unfortunately, this is also one of the more
them on the market today make outrageous next “wonder-nutrient.” They are said to common nutritional deficiencies, especially
claims backed by essentially no scientific benefit just about any health parameter you in northern climates where the sun only
evidence. Not only could this be a potential can think of, including heart disease, diabe- shines a few months out of the year. Your
waste of money for the consumer, but also tes, and cancer. The science is still young, body produces Vitamin D naturally when
it raises safety issues, as limited research but it is there. Any brand will do. exposed to the sun, but we northerners do
usually indicates little safety data. not get enough sun exposure to get our fill.
I have been exposed to a broad range of
dietary supplements over my high school
and college years, especially in the ath-
3
WHEY PROTEIN POWDER
Additionally, little Vitamin D is present in
foods to satisfy our demand—with the ex-
ception of some dairy products. Science
letic arena. Let’s just say that most people This is for those who need extra protein suggests that Vitamin D may help prevent
believe everything they read and/or hear, (e.g., avid exercisers, individuals eating little heart disease, diabetes, cancer, and debili-
regardless of any glimpse of proof to back meat, etc.). Whey is one of the purest forms tating bone diseases such as osteoporosis.
up the claims. I am writing here to tell you of protein, and its amino acid profile closely Given the relative lack of this vitamin in
about the five top dietary supplements I matches that of the human body. This means our northern climate, it may be a supple-
would recommend taking. the human body can utilize it more efficient- ment to keep an eye on.
ly than other sources of protein. Whey pro-
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MULTIVITAMIN/MINERAL SUPPLEMENT
tein is great to mix with yogurt, oatmeal, or
just about any other food with that “creamy”
texture. When you compare the price of
These are my top five dietary supple-
ment recommendations for the general
public. However, certain habits or disease
Face the facts. Most of us do not eat whey to that of meat, it is quite inexpensive. states may require alternative or additional
healthy enough to get adequate amounts I recommend cheaper brands found at gro- supplements (e.g., Vitamin C for smok-
of each and every vitamin and mineral with cery stores, Costco, and Sam’s Club over the ers, glucosamine for arthritis, Vitamin B12
diet alone. A daily multivitamin/mineral more expensive ones (e.g., GNC). for the elderly, etc.). In general, I am for
supplement provides those missing micro- a healthy diet providing all the nutrients
nutrients, with no negative effects. They
are also quite cheap. You do not need any
fancy brand—a Target or Walmart brand
4
RESVERATROL
you need. Yet, I also know we live in the
real world, and rarely can get 100 percent
of our nutrient needs with diet alone. Ad-
will work almost just as well as the more Resveratrol is another one of those “do- ditionally, more than 100 percent of these
expensive ones. This is a no-brainer. all” types of phytonutrients gaining much nutrients most likely will do no harm to
popularity in the scientific world. Although the body, so just make sure your body gets
2
FISH OIL
research is still young, resveratrol has been
shown to aid heart health and increase
longevity. I prefer to get mine the natural,
enough of each. Remember, lots of claims
with little scientific evidence and little
government regulation flood the dietary-
Fish oil provides those essential ome- old-fashioned way (i.e., wine), but for those supplement market. Do your own research
ga-3 fatty acids that are absent or limited who dislike wine or do not drink, a resvera- before wasting your hard-earned money for
in most people’s diets. If you have read my trol supplement may be worth a try. nothing.
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Dining Guide Listing |
AVERAGE PRICE OF A TYPICAL ENTREE
$ LESS THAN $15, $$ $15-$25, $$$ MORE THAN $25
Our Guide to the Metro Eateries Featured in This

Issue Lavender Magazine’s Dining Guide is your
resource to GLBT-friendly restaurants. We rec-
ommend calling restaurants before visiting to
confirm information.
All bars, restaurants and private clubs have been
smoke-free since Minnesota became the 20th
state to pass a statewide smoke-free law on Oc-
tober 1, 2007. However, many restaurants may
have a designated outdoor area for smoking.
Lavender’s cuisine section and updated dining
guide appears each issue. Please direct ques-
tions about the directory and cuisine advertising
to dining@lavendermagazine.com.
BLACKBIRD $$
American
Casually classic comfort foods, thoughtful beer &
wine list.
Lunch, Dinner, Weekend Breakfast
815 W. 50th St. Minneapolis, MN 55419 (612) 823-
4790
Mon – Fri: 11 AM – 10 PM • Sat: 8 AM – 2 PM, 5 PM
– 10 PM • Sun: 8 AM – 2 PM
CECIL’S DELI $
Deli/Bakery
We specialize in box lunches & deli trays! Anything
on our menu can be made to go, just ask.
Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner
651 S. Cleveland, St. Paul (651) 698-6276
Deli: Mon – Sun 9 AM – 9 PM Restaurant: Mon – Sun
9 AM – 8 PM
CROWNE PLAZA NORTHSTAR HOTEL $ -- $$

Bar/Grill
Enjoy dining at either the Café Northstar or the Krona
Lounge.
Café Northstar: Breakfast, Lunch • Krona Lounge:
Lunch, Dinner
618 2nd Ave. S., Minneapolis (612) 338-2288
THE GRANDVIEW GRILL $

American
Fresh hand ground hash browns, French toast, om-
elets, pancakes, coffee, juices, soups, salads & sand-
wiches.
Breakfast, Brunch, Lunch
1818 Grand Ave., St. Paul (651) 698-2346
Mon – Fri: 6:15 AM – 2:30 PM • Sat: 6:15 AM – 3 PM
• Sun: 8 AM – 3 PM
The Grandview Grill. Photo by Hubert Bonnet
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IT’S GREEK TO ME $
Greek
Family-owned & run for over 25 years, we’ve treated
generations of diners to our authentic menu & warm
Greek hospitality.
Dinner only weekdays, Lunch & Dinner on weekends
626 W. Lake St., Minneapolis (612) 825-9922
Tues – Fri: 4:30 PM – 11 PM • Sat: 11 AM – 11 PM
• Sun: 11 AM – 10 PM
KINDEE THAI $
Thai
This isn’t your traditional everyday Thai restaurant.
Lunch, Dinner
719 S. 2nd St., Minneapolis (612) 465-8303
Mon: Closed • Tues – Thurs: 11:30 AM – 9 PM • Fri:
11:30 AM – 10:30 PM • Sat: 11 AM – 10:30 PM • Sun:
11 AM – 9 PM
THE LOUISIANA CAFÉ $

American
wiches.
Breakfast, Brunch,
613 Selby Ave., St. Paul (651) 221-9140
Mon – Fri: 6:30 AM – 2:30 PM • Sat: 6:30 AM – 3 PM
• Sun: 8 AM – 3 PM
MANHATTANS $$
Classic, unpretentious American food
Manhattans – great eats, great drinks, great service,
great atmosphere.
Dinner
800 LaSalle Plaza, Minneapolis (612) 339-3600
Mon – Thurs: 4 PM – 10:30 PM • Fri – Sat: 4 PM – 11
PM
MIDORI’S FLOATING WORLD CAFÉ $

Sushi, Tempuru
Sushi, tempura, noodles, traditional, contemporary,
home-styled specials, beer, wine, sake.
Lunch, Dinner
3011 27th Ave. S., Minneapolis (612) 721-3011
Mon: Closed • Tues – Wed: 11:30 AM – 2 PM, 5
PM – 9 PM • Thurs – Fri: 11:30 AM – 2 PM, 5 PM –
10 PM • Sat: 12 noon – 2 PM, 5 – 10 PM • Sun: 4
PM – 8 PM
New Uptown Diner. Photo by Hubert Bonnet
NEW UPTOWN DINER $

American

wiches.
2548 Hennepin Ave. S. Minneapolis (612) 874-0481
Mon – Wed: 6 AM – 3 PM • Thurs – Sat: 24 Hours
• Sun: Close at 6 PM
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PARASOLE RESTAURANT HOLDINGS

Visit one of our many fine restaurants throughout the
Twin Cities area: Manny’s Steakhouse, Chino Latino,
Salut, Pittsburgh Blue, Figlio, Muffeletta, Good Earth
and Burger Jones
www.parasole.com
PARK TAVERN BOWLING & ENTERTAIN-

MENT CENTER $
American
50 years of dining & entertainment – award winning
food, groups up to 300.
Weekend Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner, Late Night Daily
3401 Louisiana Ave., St. Louis Park (952) 929-6810
Mon – Fri: 10:30 AM – 12:30 AM • Sat – Sun: 9 AM
– 12:30 AM
ROAT OSHA $$
Thai
Uniquely crafted authentic and American influences.
Decor that invites conversation
Lunch, Dinner
2650 Hennepin Ave. S., Minneapolis
Sat: 11 AM – 11 PM • Sun: 11 AM – 10:30 PM
Roat Osha. Photo by Hubert Bonnet
SAWATDEE – WASHINGTON AVE. $

Thai
The 1st and only authentic Thai restaurant for over 25 years.
Lunch, Dinner
607 Washington Ave. S., Minneapolis (612) 338-6451
Daily 11 AM – 9:30 PM
SUSHI TANGO $$
Japanese
Exciting and eccentric mix of Japanese cuisine and
Uptown attitude.
Lunch, Dinner
Calhoun Square, (612) 822-7787
Mon – Wed: 5 PM – 1 AM • Thurs – Sun: Noon – 1 AM
TIGER SUSHI $
Asian Fusion
A bold fusion of flavors and cultures take you beyond
traditional sushi. A hip vibe & exceptional chefs.
MOA location: Lunch & Dinner 11 AM – 9:30 Daily
(952) 876-9410
Lyn-Lake location: Daily Dinner, Weekend Lunch
2833 Lyndale Ave. S., Minneapolis (612) 8774-1800
Mon – Fri: 5 – 10:30 PM • Sat: Noon – 10:30 PM • Sun:
Noon – 9:00 PM
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Tiger Sushi. Photo by Hubert Bonnet
TOAST WINE BAR AND CAFÉ $

Wine bar with Italian influence
Neighborhood wine bar serving pizzas, cured meats
and small plates.
Dinner
415 N. 1st St., Minneapolis, MN (612) 333-4305
Tues – Thurs: 5 PM – 11 PM • Fri – Sat: 5 PM – 12 AM
• Sun: 5 PM – 11 PM
WILDE ROAST CAFÉ $

American
Homemade, comfort food, outstanding desserts,
beer, wine, espresso drinks.
Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner
518 E. Hennepin Ave. Minneapolis (612) 331-4544
Mon – Sat: 7 AM – 11 PM • Sun: 7 AM – 9 PM
THE WOODBURY CAFÉ $

American
wiches.
Chiropractors_______
Bielenberg & Tamarack, Woodbury, MN (651) 209-
8182
Mon – Fri: 7 AM – 2:30 PM • Sat: 7 AM – 3 PM • Sun:
8 AM – 3 PM
ZEN FUSION RESTAURANT $

Asian Contemporary
Authentic pan-Asian food with a contemporary
French twist.
Lunch, Dinner
3016 Lyndale Ave. S., Minneapolis (612) 822-8896
Sun – Thurs: 11 AM – 9 PM • Fri – Sat: 11 AM – 10
PM
Automotive_________
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Services
Zen Fusion Restaurant. Photo by Hubert Bonnet
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SATURDAY, NOVEMBER 21
A Christmas Carol. Join the Guthrie for its 35th an-
nual production of Charles Dickens’s classic story
of finding the joy of Christmas. Not to be missed is
Peter Michael Goetz, returning for the ninth consecu-
tive season as Ebenezer Scrooge. Through Dec. 31.
Guthrie Theater, 818 S. 2nd St., Mpls. (612) 377-2224.
<www.guthrietheater.org>.
A Christmas Carol. Photo by Michal Daniel
Out of this World. Join the Minnesota Freedom Band

for a night of music and fun. Not only will the energy
be cosmic, but also the band will be joined onstage
by Lori Dokken and the Calliope Women’s Chorus. 7
PM. University Baptist Church, 1219 University Ave.
SE, Mpls. <www.mnfreedomband.org>.
TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 24.

IBEW Holiday Lights in the Park. Join this growing
tradition, as the International Brotherhood of Electri-
cal Workers (IBEW) lights up Phalen Park nightly. Enjoy
the spectacular array of more than 50 larger-than-life
holiday-themed light sculptures and animated dis-
plays, and help raise funds for local charities. 5:30-10
PM. Through Dec. 31. Phalen Park, 1615 E. Phalen Dr.,
St. Paul. <www.ibewpros.org>.
FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 27
Mu Daiko. For the past 12 years, Twin Cities taiko
ensemble Mu Daiko has journeyed through the roots
of Japanese drumming, and brought that rich history
to audiences. Through Dec. 6. The Southern Theater,
1420 Washington Ave. S., Mpls. (612) 340-1725. <www.
southerntheater.org>.
TUESDAY, DECEMBER 1
In the Heights. Winner of four Tony Awards and a
Grammy Award for Best Musical Show Album, In the
Heights is making its Minnesota debut. Join a com-

munity on the brink of change, and full of hopes and
dreams, as they sing, dance, and gyrate their way
across the stage. Through Dec. 6. Orpheum Theatre,
910 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. (800) 982-2787. <www.tick
etmaster.com>.
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In the Heights. Photo by Joan Marcus
FRIDAY, DECEMBER 4
Afton Village Holiday. Celebrate the holidays in the
quaint and picturesque town of Afton, as you enjoy
complimentary horse and wagon rides, ice skating in
the park, strolling carolers, Santa, and other activities
for the kids. To top it all off, visit the unique shops
and restaurants that Afton offers. Dec. 4, 5:30-8:30
PM. Dec. 5, 9 AM-5 PM; Dec. 6, 9 AM-4 PM. <www.
Aftonholiday.com>.
SATURDAY, DECEMBER 5
GLBT Book Sale. Join Quatrefoil Library for its an-
Pet Products &

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nual Used GLBT Book Sale. With the weather becom-
ing colder, nothing can beat snuggling up with a good
Insurance__________ Services book. With selections of paperbacks and hardcovers

starting at just a dollar, this is a deal that shouldn’t be
passed up. 1-4 PM. Quatrefoil Library, 1619 Dayton Ave.,
Ste. 105, St. Paul. (651) 641-0969. <info@qlibrary.org>.
Project 515 + Lush = Fun. Join Project 515 and Lush
Food Bar, as they put on a fun evening of appetiz-
ers and drinks (perhaps a Five-fiftini). Project 515 Ex-
ecutive Director Laura Smidzik will give a short speech
about everything the organization has achieved in the
past year. 8-11 PM. Lush, 990 Central Ave. NE, Mpls.
SUNDAY, DECEMBER 6
1850s Holiday Party. Ever wish to party like it was
1850 again? Enjoy refreshments, entertainment, and
tours, while seeing what life was like. 12:30-3:30 PM.
Ard Godfrey House, 28 University Ave. SE, Mpls. (612)
813-5300.
SUNDAY, DECEMBER 13
Ordway Circle of Stars 2009 Gala: Beauty and the
Feast. Join Ordway in a unique and special night out.
Experience the theater as it was meant to be—up-
close and personal—as you enjoy exquisite food and
entertainment. Mix and mingle with the cast of Disney’s
Beauty and the Beast, and attend the final dress re-
hearsal. This black-tie event will help raise funds to sup-
Psychotherapy______ port the Ordway and its educational programs. 5 PM.

Ordway Center for the Performing Arts, 345 Washing-
ton St., St. Paul. (651) 282-3006. <www.Ordway.org>.
TUESDAY, DECEMBER 15
Disney’s Beauty and the Beast. The classic tale of
finding hidden beauty inside is coming live to the Or-
dway. Watch as the hideous beast is transformed into
a prince through the power of love. Through Jan 3.
Ordway Center for the Performing Arts, 345 Washing-
ton St., St. Paul. (651) 224-4222. <www.Ordway.org>.
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Dreamgirls. Direct from the world famous Apollo
Theatre in New York City, the dream of making it big
in this rags-to-riches story of a 1960s Motown girl
group comes to Minneapolis, complete with onstage
joy and backstage drama. Jan. 12-17. Orpheum The-
atre, 910 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. (800) 982-2787. <www.
ticketmaster.com>.
Mamma Mia! The best-selling, Abba-filled musical is
hitting the stage. The feel-good show tells the story of
a mother, a daughter, and her three possible fathers.
What could possibly go wrong? Mar. 9-14. Orpheum
Theatre, 910 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. (800) 982-2787.
<www.ticketmaster.com>.
The Wizard of Oz. The Yellow Brick Road is leading
to Minneapolis, as Dorothy and her faithful friends
take a trip to the great and powerful Wizard. This
production is bound to blow you away from the mo-
ment the tornado touches down, and takes you to the
dazzling art deco Oz. Mar. 26-28. Orpheum Theatre,
910 Hennepin Ave., Mpls. (800) 982-2787. <www.tick
etmaster.com>.
ONGOING
Ongoing
Brett Favre’s Christmas Spectacular: The Immacu-
late Interception. Retail stores have told us it’s that
time of the year again: Christmas in November (minus
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per comes between an agoraphobic housewife and

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Ms. Behavior© |
[ by Meryl Cohn ]
Sick
Of
Vampires
Dear Ms. Behavior:
My girlfriend, Cara, is obsessed with
vampires. She watches a vampire TV show
and a teenybopper vampire movie over and
over. I think she has a sexual fetish about
the whole thing. I wish she’d turn her en-
ergy toward me, or at least spend her time
looking for a job, or pitching in around
the house. She’s defensive about it.
Sometimes, when we’re running late
to go out and meet friends, because she’s
watching her movie (again), I complain.
But then, Cara just refuses to go out at all,
and I end up having to go alone. I secretly
suspect that she does it on purpose, so she
can stay home, and watch more. It seems
like some sort of addiction, but I don’t
even know if that’s possible.
What do you think?
—Sick Of Vampires
Dear Sick Of Vampires:

OK, maybe watching vampire movies
isn’t a hobby that you want to cultivate, but
try not to act too critical of Cara’s obses-
sion, if only because your disdain just will
make it easier for her to pull away. This
doesn’t mean that you should support her
habit—don’t bring her snacks or rub her
toes while she watches the bloodsucking
videos—but try to achieve an attitude of
neutral detachment.
At first, detachment is hard to grasp.
It doesn’t mean doling out punishing si-
lence, but rather, going on with your life,
avoiding throwing dishes, or setting fire to
your hair to get the attention of the per-
son who is absorbed otherwise.
It sounds like Cara really is using the
movies and television to separate herself

from her life right now. And, yes, it’s crap-
py that she’s shirking her responsibilities,
and using vampires to escape.
You haven’t mentioned how long Cara
has been caught up in her obsession, but
regardless of whether her attraction to
vampires is a fetish, it sounds like she’s
avoidant and depressed.
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229-0001.
Dear Ms. Behavior:

I’m in my first year at college. I still
am seeing my boyfriend, Rafe, who lives
about an hour away. Lately, his father,
John, e-mails me, and sends me messages
on Facebook. I feel like the guy is flirting
with me, and I always have liked him.
How can I find out if this is real?
I don’t want to ruin things with Rafe if
his father only is playing with my head.
Should I just come out and ask him
what he has in mind?
—Joe
Dear Joe:
No, you shouldn’t ask Rafe’s father
what he has in mind, because if he says,
“Nothing—what do you mean?” you’ll
feel like an idiot, and if it’s something else,
like, “I want to lick your body from head
to toe,” you can’t do it.
Technically, perhaps, you could sign up
for licking, bondage, blow jobs, or what-
ever tawdry act Rafe’s padre might be con-
juring in his mind (or at least in yours),
but it would be inadvisable.
If Rafe’s father really means to seduce
you, he’s enacting aggression toward his
son, and you’re just the vehicle for that.
In terms of your responsibility, pursuing
Rafe’s father is probably the sneakiest and
crappiest thing you can do to Rafe.
If there’s only one take-away from this
column, at least remember this: Whether
you believe in monogamy, God or Freud,
Passover or Hell, or karma or Martians, it
is always a mistake to sleep with your boy-
friend’s (or girlfriend’s) relative.
If you really need to ask why (and sure-
ly someone will), it’s because it’s confus-
ing, melodramatic, and twisted. No mat-
ter how hot it may seem, it’s ultimately
profoundly disturbing.
Of course, such behavior is the founda-
tion of cautionary literary myths and icky
incestuous reality shows, but in your own
precious little life, you don’t want to go
there.
© 2009 Meryl Cohn. Address questions and correspondence
to <msbehavior@aol.com>. She is the author of Do What I Say:
Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette (Houghton
Mifflin). Signed copies are available directly from the author.
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Gladius .......................................... 48 American Family Insurance.......... 31 Manhattan’s Restaurant & Bar .... 53
LUSH Food Bar ............................. 50 Health, Wellness & Recovery Baldwin, Davina ........................... 64 Midori’s Floating World Café ..... 57
Minneapolis Eagle/Bolt ............... 46 3 Bears Chiropractic .................... 61 Wagner Insurance-Financial Paisano’s Pizza and Hot
Rumours/Innuendo ....................... 51 Avenues of Health ........................ 32 Services ......................................... 64 Hoagies ......................................... 62
Saloon ........................................... 45 BioScrip Pharmacy ....................... 5 Whitesong, Therese ...................... 64 Parasole Restaurants..................... 25
Spin ................................................ 53 Burns, Steve ................................... 8 Wolfson, Steve .............................. 64 Park Tavern Bowling &
Tickles ............................................ 52 Carrillo, Dr. Thomas P. .................. 65 Entertainment Center .................... 57
Town House ................................. 47 Christian, Dennis V. 64 Jewelry Roat Osha ..................................... 59
Zeno ............................................... 53 Complete Body ............................. 17 Custom Jewelry ............................. 21 Sawatdee Thai .............................. 58
Fitness Together ............................ 52 Max’s ............................................ 27 Selby Avenue Restaurants............ 62
Beauty & Relaxation Frederick, Ron ............................... 65 T Lee Fine Designer Jewelry ........ 19 Sushi Tango ................................... 59
Anew Aesthetic Medical Center . 23 Heffelfinger, Kate .......................... 65 Tiger Sushi ..................................... 57
Barbers on Bryant ......................... 61 Heteroflexible Therapy................. 65 Legal Toast Wine Bar & Café ................ 57
City Looks Salons.......................... 61 HIM Program ................................ 12, 34 Bohn & Associates ........................ 61 Uptown Diner/Calhoun Grill/
Garden of Eden ............................ 27 inSPOT ........................................... 31 Cloutier & Brandl .......................... 19 Louisiana Café/Grandview Grill 58
Homme by Maric Group ............. 23 Laser Body Sculpture .................... 17 Dean, Jeff ...................................... 5 W.A. Frost ...................................... 62
Juventus MedSpa & Latitudes-Meridian Dunlap Law Office ....................... 12 Wilde Roast Café ......................... 58
Laser Center .................................. 39 Behavioral Health ........................ 8 Heltzer & Burg .............................. 29 Zen Restaurant .............................. 57
SKIN Medical Spa ....................... 17 Mayfield Chiropractic .................. 9 Hoffner Law Firm .......................... 7
Minnesota AIDS Moshier, Becky ............................. 9 Sports & Recreation
Beverages Project ............................................ 4 Pierce Richards Law Office .......... 61 Above The Falls Sports................. 33
Budweiser ...................................... 76 North Suburban Eye Specialists . 11 Terry, Slane, Ruohonen ............... 7
O’Hara, Paul ................................. 65 Travel & Accommodations
Miller Lite ....................................... 41

Pride Institute ................................. 52 Mortgage Crowne Plaza Northstar Hotel.... 2
Catering QuitPlan ......................................... 60 Gleason, Pat .................................. 52
Crowne Plaza Northstar Hotel.... 2 Stechmann, Dr. Fred ..................... 65 Lozinski, David ............................. 34
Stolz, James................................... 65
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Backtalk > Consider the Source [ by Julie Dafydd ]
Holy Cow!
M
any situations in life are clear-cut. appears to be a rather large Holstein. Or it could be one of those radical farm
You know exactly what to do. No problem, so far. You see, where my animals—the kind that will stampede your
Let’s say, for example, you’re brother lives, it’s kind of like Venice Beach house if they even suspect you own as much
a professional athlete. Your job, which is meets the 4-H. It’s not at all unusual to see as a pair of leather shoelaces.
basically part-time, essentially involves a people rollerblading with their goats, jog- Besides, there could be any number of
lot of standing around, scratching, and spit- ging with potbelly pigs, or babbling inco- logical explanations. This is the country,
ting. For this, you are paid on average $1.5 herently to a gaggle of geese after all. Maybe cattle can become licensed
million a year. So, I’m not fazed. But then, I see this real estate agents. I’ve certainly met plenty
Of course, no one should endure such woman—and her cow—go into a model who are full of bull…well, who were bo-
oppressive conditions. That poor Brett home. You know, the kind they decorate re- vine-like.
Favre! You have no choice other than to go ally nicely to distract you from the fact that It could be that this woman just bought
out on strike. Hardly a tough call. the mortgage will probably bankrupt you, the house, and is doing the required walk-
Or, say you’re the leader of a major world or at best leave you with enough money to through, accompanied by her keen-eyed,
power. Things aren’t going all that well, maybe put a couple of beanbags on layaway. cud-chewing assistant. Or, maybe she is
though. There may even be talk of replacing My first thought was: I wouldn’t really considering buying the house, and brought
you with a fellow named Gump. It’s prob- mind being abducted by aliens. Chances are along a psychic cow: One moo for “The
ably just the ploy of embittered partisans. it would get me out of doing my homework, house has good vibes”; two moos for “Do
But the Democrats are rumored to be and I have to think that light years convert you remember the movie Poltergeist?”.
working on a plan as well. Again, an easy to massive frequent-flier miles. Of course, it’s equally possible she’s the
decision. With renewed resolve, you plant Maybe they take a few specimens, and lunatic leader of the lawless Guernsey gang
your feet firmly in, uh, the sand on the Ha- ask a few questions, such as: that has been stomping through model
waiian vacation. • Why did they allow Kathy Bates to do homes from here to Wisconsin.
Unfortunately, many other situations a nude scene in About Schmidt? But whom to call? The police? The ani-
aren’t so black-and-white. I found myself in • Is Michael Jackson’s This Is It out on mal shelter? State board of real estate bro-
such a circumstance just the other day. Blu-Ray yet? kers? Land O’Lakes?
Actually, the situation was black-and- • Where might we get tickets to see our After much thought, I did what seems
white—at least the cow was. Here’s what fellow alien, Lady GaGa, in concert? to be the standard new-century response in
happened: Geez, I have to learn to focus. Remem- such should-I-or-should-I-not-get involved
I leave the standard note for my college ber: cow, expensive furnishings, nasty car- situations. I caught it all on my video cell
professors: “Have been abducted by aliens, pet stains. So, what should I do? phone contraption.
again.” Then, I dash off to my brother’s I have to assume it’s unwise to start trou- Now, where’s that number for TMZ?
house in Stacy for what I hope will be at ble with someone accompanied by a thou- Well, hell, why not? And, of course,
least a few hours of peace and quiet. So, sand-pound pet. For all I know, it could be consider the source.
there I am, becoming one with a lounge trained to attack. One false move, and I’m Bye for now.
chair, when I see this woman walking what Bossy’s in-between-meal snack. Kiss, kiss.
Boss, I don’t like this at all! I protest! What would happen if one of my fans mistook
me for the inflatable Trolín?
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