[ANTARDARSHAN

WORKBOOK
ANTARDARSHAN, 2014

[2014]

[Soft Skill Development workbook material developed by Global Talent

Consultants covering 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (Inspired by
Stephen Covey)]

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HABIT 1: BEING PROACTIVE

Worksheet 1.1
REACTIVE OR PROACTIVE: WHICH ONE ARE YOU?
Do not spend a lot of time thinking about the items just give your first response.
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STATEMENTS
Yelled at others when they have annoyed you
Had fights with others to show who was on top
Reacted angrily when provoked by others
Taken things from others
Become angry when frustrated
Vandalised something just for fun
Had temper tantrums
Damaged something because you felt mad
Had a fight just to be cool
Hurt others to win a game
Become angry when you dont get your way
Used force to get others to do what you want
Become angry or mad when you lost a game
Become angry when others threatened you
Used force to obtain money or things from others
Felt better after hitting or yelling at someone
Threatened and bullied someone
Made obscene phone calls for fun
Hit others to defend yourself
Got others to gang up on somebody else

NEVER

OFTEN

Assessment
No of Often: ___
No. of Never: ___
If you have more often than never, you are more inclined to be a reactive person.
If you have more never than often, you are more inclined to be a proactive person.

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Worksheet 1.2
REACTIVE ATTITUDE AND SELF-CONFIDENCE
Tick which of the following statements hold true for you:
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STATEMENTS
On the whole, I am satisfied with myself.
At times, I think I am no good at all.
I am able to do things as well as most other people.
I certainly feel useless at times.
I feel that Im a person of worth, at least on an equal plane with others.
All in all, I am inclined to feel that I am a failure.
I take a positive attitude toward myself.
I wish I could have more respect for myself.
I feel that I have a number of good qualities.
I feel I do not have much to be proud of

TRUE

FALSE

Assessment
Even numbered statements: True (____)

For example: 2,4,6,8,10

Odd numbered statements: True (____)

For example:1,3,5,7,9

Result: Even no. statements (___) Odd no. statements

If you have more even than odd no. statements, you are more inclined to be low on self-esteem and
confidence.
As evident from the results, reactive behavior may lead to low self-esteem and under-confidence, while
the proactive approach leads to sense of security, satisfaction, productivity and efficiency. You have a
choice to make to either let the environment control you or be in command of your situations and lead
your life in a better manner.

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Worksheet 1.3
PERSONAL ACTION PLAN
POSITIVE, PREDICT, PLAN, PARTICIPATE AND PERFORM
Write down at least five things that you wish to accomplish this month. For example, finish a course
chapter, take up guitar classes, plan an exercise regime, socialize with family or friends, read a book,
cover up backlogs etc.

SNo.

TASKS

DEADLINE

ACCOMPLISHMENT

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HABIT 2: BEGIN WITH AN END IN MIND

Worksheet 2.1
PRINCIPLE CENTER
Identify your core values. On a scale of 1 to 5, rate which is the dominant attribute that describes
you. (For example, if you think you are decision-making skill is your major asset give a no. 5)
Attributes
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Tick

Weightage

Jovial and passionate

Enthusiastic to learn
Critical thinker
Creative and innovative
Organized and meticulous
Optimistic
Decision-maker
Spiritual
Intuitive
Expressive
Emotional and sensitive
Spontaneous
Extrovert
Team leader
Loving and compassionate
Diplomatic
Just (righteous)
Responsible and reliable
Brave and courageous
Adventurous (risk-taker)

Select 5 most dominant values:

CORE VALUE (select one):

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List people who have inspired you and their attributes:

Ex.

Inspirers

Their Attributes

Steve Jobs

Critical thinker, innovator, hard-working, determined, passionate,

decision-maker.

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If a newspaper article was being done about you, how would you like to be described 10 years from
now by the following people?

People

Description

Ex.

Family

Family

Friends

World in general

My daughter has been very loving, caring and responsible since the
very beginning.
Despite her busy schedule, she takes out time for her family.
She makes us proud and happy.

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Worksheet 2.2
PERSONAL MISSION STATEMENT
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II.

5 Things you really like doing (refer to the core values listed in worksheet 1; for example: writing,
problem solving, playing cricket, being intuitive, being adventurous etc. )

5 things you would like to achieve in life

(For example: To be financially successful, expert in the field etc.)

III.

Identify priority goals in life (for example, short term: to excel in exams; long term: to be highly
successful in career)
a. Short term

b. Long term

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Write a short and concise mission statement (For example: To live life completely, honestly, and
compassionately, with a healthy dose of realism mixed with the imagination and dreams that all
things are possible if one sets their mind to finding an answer)

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HABIT 3: FIRST THING FIRST

Worksheet 3.1
REFLECTIVE
THE MAYONNAISE JAR
(*List 2 or more in each case)
My golf balls would be:
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My pebbles would be:

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My sand would be:

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Worksheet 3.2

URGENT

NOT URGENT

IMPORTANT

THE PROCRASTINATOR

THE PRIORITIZER

NOT IMPORTANT

1. Create your own time quadrant, from activities that take up most of your time. Think about what
you did yesterday. Where did you waste time, and where were you productive? Where do all your
activities fit in the graph?

THE YES-MAN

THE SLACKER

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2. Think of a time when you have moved outside of your comfort zone and took a risk. Explain the
situation below.
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What holds you back from moving outside of your courage zone?
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4. BABY STEPS:
: Think of your biggest time-wasters.
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HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN

Worksheet 4.1
1. Write your own definition of win-win thinking. Use examples from your own life.
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2. It is hardest for me to think win-win when ____________________________.
It is easiest for me to think win-win when_____________________________.
When I practice win-win thinking, I enjoy the following benefits:
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3. Write about an experience when you had a win-lose mentality. How did you feel about it? Would
you do things differently now?
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4. BABY STEPS:
#1: Pinpoint an area of your life where you most struggle with comparisons. Perhaps its with clothes,
physical features, friends, or talents.
Where I struggle most with comparisons:
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#2: Think of a person who you feel is a model of Win-Win. What is it about this person you admire?
Person: __________________________________________________________
What you admire about them:_________________________________________
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Worksheet 4.2
Read the story, and then draw a picture to show win-lose, lose-win, lose-lose and win-win solution.
Abbeys parents said they could get a pet if both Abbey and her brother could agree on what kind of pet
to get. Abbey wanted a cat, but her brother didnt because cat fur made him sneeze. Her brother wanted a
bird but Abbey didnt because birds were too loud.
Can you think of a win-win solution to this problem?
WIN-WIN

WIN-LOSE

LOSE-LOSE

LOSE-WIN

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HABIT 5: SEEKING TO UNDERSTAND, THEN BEING UNDERSTOOD

Worksheet 5.1
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Testing your listening skills

How good a listener are you? Focus on the story being read in the class by your instructor and
answer the following questions:
1. What does the article talk about?
a. Indias education sector
b. Labour costs in manufacturing sector
c. World Bank
d. Chinese products
2. Which country has been the worlds manufacturing powerhouse in recent years?
a. India
b. Philippines
c. Brazil
d. China
3. Real wages have increased by what percentage, since Chinas WTO accession?
a. 100%
b. 150%
c. 200%
d. 250%
4. Improved access to what has resulted in increase in productivity in many industries?
a. Technology

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b. Finances
c. Labour
d. Internet
5. Has Indias share of the worlds exports of goods and services increased or decreased?

SCORE:

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II.

When listening to someone speaker -- in a speech, or during a one-on-one conversation, do

you: (Rating scale: 1 = Usually, 2 = Sometimes, 3 = Never)
1. Daydream
2. Mentally argue with the speaker
3. Try to dominate the conversation
4. Ask inappropriate questions
5. Always become bored
6. Show lack of interest in the speaker
7. Have trouble concentrating
8. Talk to others during the speech
9. Draw conclusions based on the speakers dress
10. Draw conclusions based on the speakers mannerisms
11. Draw conclusions based on the speakers speaking style
12. Fidget with things
13. Become overly emotional
14. Fall asleep
15. Lose your temper
SCORING SCALE
16. Automatically look for areas of disagreement

48-60: Good

17. Concentrate on details while missing the main point

35-47: Average

20-34: Poor

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18. Ignore the speaker
19. Make jokes about the speaker
Score: _______

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Worksheet 5.2
III.

Listening blocks (tick as appropriate)

SNO. BLOCKS
Mind reading. Assuming you know what the other person feels and thinks without
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Rehearsing. Planning what you want to say next and missing whats being said now.
Filtering. Listening only to things that are relevant to you and ignoring the rest (even if
its important to the other person

Judging. Evaluating the other person and what they say rather than really trying to
understand how they see the world.

Daydreaming. Getting caught in memories or fantasies while someone is talking to you.

Advising. Looking for suggestions and solutions instead of listening and understanding.

Sparring. Invalidating the other person by arguing and debating.

Being right. Resisting or ignoring any communication that suggests you are wrong or
should change.

Derailing. Flat out changing the subject as soon as you hear anything that bothers or
threatens you.

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Placating. Agreeing too quickly (I know youre rightIm sorry) without really
listening to the other persons feelings or concerns.

Verbal and nonverbal communication can be used to help you improve your listening behaviors.
Asking questions, inviting additional comments,
Using descriptive responses, and providing afrming Statements
Using positive facial expressions
Making direct eye contact
Providing positive vocal utterances
Use of such strategies will encourage the speaker to continue speaking and providing you with
information so that you can check your understanding.

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HABIT 6: SYNERGY
Worksheet 6.1
I.

Celebrating your own diversity. Fill out the following survey to help you discover what is
great and unique about you:
1. A nickname my family or friends call me is ____________________________________
2. When I have a day all to myself, I love to ______________________________________
3. The movie I laughed the hardest at was ________________________________________
4. At night, how many pillows do I use? _________________________________________
5. A word or phrase I use all the time is _________________________________________
6. My favorite musical artist group is ___________________________________________
7. My favorite ice cream is ___________________________________________________
8. One quality that makes me unique is _________________________________________
9. The animal that is most like me and why ______________________________________
10. If I could own any car in the world, it would be _________________________________
11. Do I feel more comfortable in a large group of people or by myself? _________________
12. One thing people dont know about me is ______________________________________
13. My best family memory is __________________________________________________
14. Would spending a day in an art museum be fun or boring? ________________________
15. If I could be any building in the world, I would be and why ________________________
16. Something I enjoyed as a child was ___________________________________________
17. The season I love the most is ________________________________________________
18. My favorite holiday is _____________________________________________________
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19. The silliest person I know is ________________________________________________
20. The best present I could ever receive is ________________________________________
Remember
Comparing yourself to others is easy. After all, you see other people more than you see yourself.
However, when you compare yourself to another person, you neglect to recognize the beauty of your
uniqueness.
Habit 6: Synergize teaches that instead of trying to blend in and be like everyone else, you should be
proud of and celebrate your unique differences and qualities. A fruit salad is delicious precisely because
each fruit maintains its own flavor.

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Answer the following questions as true or false. Think about specific instances in your
life before answering.

True False

I demand perfection from myself and everyone around me.

True False

I am surprised when others dont like me or my ideas.

True False

People continually make promises to me without following through.

True False

I dont have many friends whom I really like or trust.

True False

I get tired of all this political correctness. I dont have to like everyone.

True False

I dont appreciate other peoples opinions of me.

True False

I dont like change.

True False

I work better than alone than in groups.

True False

I tend to be more negative than positive.

True False

Im afraid people will find out that Im not what I appear.

If the majority of your answers are true, its time start thinking about understanding the lives and
actions of others. Appreciate what everyone can bring to the party. If the majority of your answers are
false, youre comfortable with yourself and how you relate to people of all kinds. You know that
learning from others helps you in your life.
Getting to Synergy: Action Plan
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Define the Problem or Opportunity.

Their Way (Seek first to understand the ideas of others.)
My Way (Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas.)

Brainstorm (Create new options and ideas.)

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High Way (Find the best solution.)

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HABIT 7: SHARPEN THE SAW

Worksheet 7.1
Feeling good is a choice. You can make the choice to enjoy every day or you can do nothing. Remember,
every day is an opportunity to renew and reinvent you!
The first step is awareness. To develop a plan that is just right for you, find a quiet spot and complete the
following checklist adapted from The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People Personal Workbook by
Stephen Covey.
Check only the items to which you can truthfully answer yes.
Physical Checklist
_____ I stay informed about both health and fitness information.
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I exercise twenty to thirty minutes at least three times a week.

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I eat a balanced diet and take vitamins and minerals as needed.

_____ I maintain a strength program.

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I include cardiovascular and flexibility activities in my exercises.

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I get the proper amount of sleep.

_____ I rest or relax when my body needs it.

_____ I eat junk food less than twice a week.
_____ I have an effective, positive way of dealing with stress.
Spiritual Checklist
_____ I have defined what my values are, and I plan and live my life accordingly.
_____ I have created my mission statement. I rely on it to give vision to my purpose in life.
_____ I find daily renewal through meditation, prayer, study, or reflection.
_____ I frequently spend time in a place where I find spiritual renewal, e.g., in nature, a synagogue, a
chapel, a temple.
_____ I live with integrity and honor.
_____ I keep my heart open to the truth.
_____ I am able to take a stand or tell the truth, even when opposed by others.

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_____ I frequently serve others with no expectations of any type of returned favor.
_____ I can identify which things in life I can change and which things I cannot. I let go of the things I
cannot change.
_____ I can connect to my inspirational guide as needed.
Mental Checklist
_____ I read books and other publications regularly.
_____ I keep a journal or some sort of log, or engage in a regular writing process.
_____ I allow music, silence, or some sort of relaxation exercise to clear my mind on a daily basis.
_____ I challenge my mind through puzzles, games, or problem solving.
_____ I have a hobby.
_____ I continue my education either formally or informally.
_____ I engage in meaningful dialogue at least once a week.
_____ I visualize projects and plans so I have the end result in mind to guide the process.
_____ I use a system to plan and organize my time and efforts.
Social/Emotional Checklist
_____ I am reliable and dependable.
_____ I have a hopeful outlook on life.
_____ I am trusting and supportive of people in my Circle of Influence.
_____ I listen to others and hear what they have to say rather than thinking of what I want to say.
_____ I reach out to others and am empathic.
_____ I maintain my most important relationships.
_____ I sincerely apologize when I need to.
_____ I can persevere through hard times.
_____ I am aware of what it means to take good care of myself.
_____ I can control my impulses cool down and act rather than react to people and situations.
Review your checklist and complete the following:

Draw a star * by the areas you are already doing well.

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Highlight or circle the areas where you would like to improve.

Worksheet 7.2
Answer the following:
1. What floats your boat? Inspires you? Nourishes your soul? Rocks your world?
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2. What do you want to do more of?

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3. What do you want to do less of?

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Worksheet 7.3
Doodle

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