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91 Days of Q

questions to help you


create the life you desire
volume 1
mary-Jane liddicoat
the daily Q
keeping you awake at the wheel of life
Dedicated to M Thank you for the inspiration
Acknowledgments
This book would not have been possible without the work and
workshops of Gary M Douglas, Dr Dain Heer, and Access
Consciousness

Copyright 2012 Mary-Jane Liddicoat, The Daily


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>ow doe# it get any $etter than thi#?@)))))))))))))))))))))):
>ow did + get #o lucy?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 9
Ahat el#e i# po##i$le?@))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) /
AhatB# right a$out thi# that +B* not getting?))))))))))))10
AhatB# right a$out *e that +B* not getting?)))))))))))))11
Ahat could + add to *y li!e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))12
Ahat i! the point o! li!e wa# to ha(e !un?)))))))))))))))))1C
Ahat !un could + add to *y li!e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 1;
Ahat i! + had inDnite, !ree choice?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))11
8ody, what do you re,uire?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))10
Can + change thi#? +! #o, how?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))1:
Aho and what truly eEcite# and in#pire# *e?)))))))))))19
Ahat $eauty can + #ee today?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 1/
Aho a* + today?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))20
Ahat i! #tudy were ea#y F !un?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))21
Ahat i! wor were ea#y F !un?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 22
+ntere#ting point o! (iew)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 2C
%* + in allowance or =udge*ent?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 2;
AhatB# it going to tae !or G to #how up?)))))))))))))))))21
Doe# thi# wor !or *e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))20
8ody, what would $e !un !or you?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))2:
+! + had 10 #econd# to li(e the re#t o! *y li!e, what
would + choo#e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))29
+! itB# light, itB# right)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 2/
+! + $uy you, will you *ae *e *oney?))))))))))))))))))))C0
HouBre right, +B* wrong)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))C1
Ahat can + do to *ae up !or the da*age +B(e done?
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Ahat ,ue#tion could + a#?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))CC
+B* #orry) That doe#nBt wor !or *e))))))))))))))))))))))))))C;
%* + tired, or $ored?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) C1
Ahat choice# do + ha(e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) C0
Ahat in!or*ation do + need?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))C:
-o !or*, no #tructure, no #igniDcance))))))))))))))))))))))C9
+! + didnBt do it thi# way, what other way# could + do
it?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) C/
Ahat ha(e + decided + canBt change?))))))))))))))))))))))));0
Ahat ha(e + decided + *u#t $e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) ;1
Ahat ha(e + decided + canBt $e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))));2
+! + were *e, who would + $e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))));C
>ow ha(e + deDned #ucce##?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) ;;
+# thi# *y way o! Dghting happine##?)))))))))))))))))))))));1
Ahat would + do i! + new + couldnBt !ail?))))))))))))))));0
Aord# to lea(e $ehind4 want)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))));:
Aord# to lea(e $ehind4 why, try, need, $ut, ne(er and
$ecau#e))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) ;9
>ow *any people can + annoy with *y eEu$erance
today?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) ;/
+! ti*e and *oney werenBt the i##ue, what would +
choo#e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 10
AhatB# the (alue o! hanging on to thi#?)))))))))))))))))))) 11
Ahat do + lo(e a$out thi#?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))12
Aho doe# thi# $elong to?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 1C
-o =udg*ent, no di#cri*ination, no di#cern*ent)))))1;
Ju#t !or *e, =u#t !or !un, ne(er tell anyone)))))))))))))))11
+# thi# an &L" or a rattle#nae?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))10
Ahat i# thi#?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))1:
Ahat i# thi#? Aould + lie to change it?)))))))))))))))))))19
Aould + lie to change it? +! #o, how?)))))))))))))))))))))))1/
>ow *uch !un can + ha(e today?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))00
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Ahat doe# thi# add to *y li!e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))01
Ahat a* + grate!ul !or today?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))02
Ahat a* + grate!ul to the* !or?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 0C
Aho a* + $eing now?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 0;
Ahat i! + created *y li!e !ro* chao#?)))))))))))))))))))))))01
Ahat deci#ion# F conclu#ion# ha(e
+ *ade a$out thi#?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 00
Cute, -ot 8right)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 0:
AhatB# !unny a$out thi# +B* not getting?))))))))))))))))))09
Ahat a* + #ic and tired o!?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))0/
+! + didnBt thin, what would + now?))))))))))))))))))))))):0
+! other peopleB# point# o! (iew werenBt real, what
would + choo#e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))):1
Ireat ideaJ -ow or in the !uture?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) :2
Aho or what can + $e or do today that will contri$ute
to *y $u#ine##?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) :C
Ahen did + $uy the point o! (iew that + wa# no good?
)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) :;
-o co*petition))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) :1
+ a* hanging on to thi# !or what rea#on?)))))))))))))))))):0
8ody, what are you telling *e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))::
Ahat i! happine## were =u#t a choice?))))))))))))))))))))))):9
AhatB# the (alue o! $eing #ad?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))):/
% $rain i# a wonder!ul thing to wa#te)))))))))))))))))))))))) 90
Ahat i! + didnBt need to pro(e *y#el! to anyone?)))))91
Do not li#ten to, tell or $uy the #tory)))))))))))))))))))))))))92
Ahat could + $e doing di!!erently?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))9C
Ahat i! there were nothing wrong with *y pa#t?) ) ) )9;
Ahat a* + unwilling to recei(e?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))91
+B* #orry, +B* con!u#ed))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))90
Ahat ha(e + decided i# a pro$le*?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))9:
8ody, who or what i# thi#?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))99
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Ahat a* + *aing ha(ing thi# a$out?))))))))))))))))))))))/0
Ahat a* + unwilling to a# !or?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) /1
Ahat doe# relation#hip *ean to *e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))/2
Ahat title a* + li*iting *y#el! to?))))))))))))))))))))))))))))/C
+# thi# di#tracting *e?)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) /;
-o eEclu#ion))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) /1
Ahat contri$ution could + $e here?))))))))))))))))))))))))))/0
8e you and change the world))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))/:
Daily *antra)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) /9
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My !a(orite Q#))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 100
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The origins of Q
Thi# $oo i# a li#t o! practical ,ue#tion# to change any
#ituation and to help you to create the li!e youBd truly
lie)
Ahy ,ue#tion#? % ,ue#tion will alway# e*power you
to #ee and create *ore) %n an#wer will only li*it you
to what you ha(e decided i# right)
%#ing ,ue#tion# re,uire# no #pecial talent or a$ility)
%ll you need i# a willingne## to a#)
Ahen you a# a ,ue#tion are you looing !or an
an#wer? -o) %#, then *ae a choice and notice what
#how# up) Then a# another ,ue#tion and choo#e
again)
The idea i# to continually in(ite *ore o! whate(er you
en=oy into your li!e, !ro* a place o! total awarene##
and !reedo*)
Thi# collection i# de#igned to get you into the rhyth*
o! a#ing ,ue#tion# and #eeing po##i$ility, rather than
#eeing an#wer# and Dnding only pro$le*#)
%!ter a while, you will beco!e the ,ue#tion)
Mo#t people donBt !unction lie thi#) Mo#t people are
#eeing the an#wer to li!e, the right way to li(e)
5
Hou *ay e(en $e reading thi# $oo now looing !or
an an#wer)
The#e ,ue#tion# are not the an#wer) They are a tool#
to un#tic you !ro* place# you get #tuc and to help
you #ee greater po##i$ilitie#)
.lea#e do not !eel $ound $y their !or* or li*ited $y
their content) Mae up your own whene(er you lieJ
Io on) + dare you)
Ahere ha(e the#e ,ue#tion# co*e !ro*? "ro*
wor#hop# !acilitated $y Iary M Dougla#, !ounder o!
%cce## Con#ciou#ne##
@
, Dr Dain >eer, Da(ida
8ache, 8lo##o* 8enedict, 7te(e and Chuti#a
8ow*an, Marilyn 8rad!ord, Dr Kacie Cri#p, Di(a
Dia<, Michelle &dhou#e, Karen Jone#, .a*
>oughteling, Chri#topher >ughe#, 7u#an La<ar >art,
7i*one Mila#a#, 7hannon KB>ara, Lia* .hillip#,
Ilenna 'ice, &ri and %ndrew 'igg, 8renda 7t Loui#e
and *any other e*powering %cce## Con#ciou#ne##
@
!acilitator#)
+ a* *o#t grate!ul to the* !or #haring their light, !un-
Dlled, prag*atic and generati(e approach to li!e)
+ hope you en=oy it too)
Te Questionnaire
6
Day 1
ow does it get any !etter than this"
#
Ahate(er youB(e got going on great or not #o great
it can alway# get $etter) Hou =u#t ha(e to a#)
Ahat good thing# are going on with you right now?
Did you get the $oy, girl, =o$, hou#e, lottery ticet,
eEa* re#ult#, Lli#t your own good #tu!! here
MMMMMMMMMMMMMMN that you thought youBd lie?
Ahat a$out $ad thing#? .erhap# you got a paring
ticet, !ailed the eEa*, *i##ed out on the =o$, lo#t the
deal youB(e $een woring on !or #iE *onth#, got
du*ped $y the lo(e o! your li!e, wa# thrown out o!
the hou#e, Lli#t your own not-#o-good #tu!! here
MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMN?
-ow a# "How does it get any better than this#$

Thi# i# your in(itation !or #o*ething even better to


#how up)
K! cour#e youBd lie the $ad thing# to i*pro(e)
The good #tu!!? Ju#t $ecau#e #o*ething i# totally
awe#o*e now, doe#nBt *ean it canBt $e e(en !ore
awe#o*e)
7
Day $
ow did % get so lucky"
Kn a #cale o! 1-10, how grate!ul are you !or people
and thing# in your li!e?
%nd how o!ten do you let the* now?
Ahen #o*eone than# you, how do you !eel? Iood?
Doe# it *ae you want to hang around longer, (i#it
again #ooner, wor harder, #*ile *ore, and do
whate(er you can to contri$ute to the*?
Thi# i# the energetic (i$ration o! than#) +tB# war*,
!ertile and pro#perou#, and it can in!ect people and
replicate)
7o whene(er good #tu!! $oth thing# and people
#how up in your li!e, acnowledge the* $y a#ing
"How did % get so lucky#$
+tB# a great way to #ay youBre than!ul and to in(ite
*ore o! the good #tu!! to co*e your way)
8
Day &
'hat else is possi!le"
#
Do you ha(e day# when thing# are =u#t not woring
the way youBd lie to?
Ahen e(ery$ody replie# "&o'$, "(ou can)t do that'O or
"That)s not the way we do things around here$?
HouB(e got great idea#, great energy, a de#ire to
contri$ute $ut the people around you are #i*ply not
in the #a*e <one)
Doe# thi# !ru#trate, up#et or di#appoint you? Do you
wal away de#pondent and di#pirited?
-eEt ti*e your $o##, parent#, teacher, $u#ine##
partner, e*ployee, children or in#igniDcant other #ay#
"&o$ reply"*+ Got it That doesn)t work for you % wonder
what else is possible#$

Then li#ten and #ee what they #ay)


They *ay #urpri#e you with an idea e(en $etter than
your#) %nd at lea#t the di#cu##ion i# #till open)
9
Day (
'hat)s right a!out this that
%)m not getting"
Ahat do you do when thing# Pgo wrongO? Ahen you
donBt get that inter(iew, =o$, pro*otion, contract you
wored #o hard !or?
Do you try to DE thing# #o*ehow, or try !or it again
and again?
>ow doe# that wor out !or you? Do you put in a lot
*ore $lood, #weat and tear#, and then you still donBt
get it and are le!t !eeling *i#era$le, angry or
!ru#trated?
Do you end up thining that youBre no go and youBll
ha(e to #ettle !or #econd $e#t? Do you !eel lie a lo#er
or a !ailure?
Ahat i! in#tead o! deciding thing# had gone wrong,
you looed !or the right in the* in#tead?
7o neEt ti*e thing# donBt wor out the way you
thought they #hould ha(e, a# ",hat)s right about this
%)! not getting#
Then notice what co*e# to *ind) +! youBre not paying
attention, you *ay *i## #eeing all the other a*a<ing
new po##i$ilitie#)
10
Day *
'hat)s right a!out me that
%)m not getting"
%re you down on your#el!?
Do you !eel that youBre not ,uite right #o*e how?
That youBre le## than you #hould $e? That youBre not
what #o*eone el#e eEpect# you to $e?
Do you Dt in with e(eryone around you? Kr not?
%nd ha(e you decided that youBre wrong !or not
Dtting in?
Ahat i! there wa# nothing wrong with you?
+! youBd lie to Dnd out, rather than =udging your#el!
a# wrong, a# ",hat)s right about !e that %)! not
getting#$
Ahat i! you were not nearly a# *e##ed up a# you
thought you were?
Ahat i! you were =u#t di!!erent?
%nd what i! you $y acnowledging thi#, you $eca*e
the di!!erence that the world need#?
11
Day +
'hat could % add to my life"
Do you !eel your li!e i# too !ull, too $u#y?
%re you o(erwhel*ed with all the thing# you ha(e to
do? Kr perhap# it $ore# you?
Do you a##u*e that to *ae li!e ea#ier you need to
eli*inate #o*ething? >ow o!ten do you #tart $y
cutting out the thing# you en=oy, to create ti*e and
*oney !or #o*eone el#e?
'ather than a##u*e you need to do *ore with le##,
that you canBt a!!ord #o*ething, that no one will help
you, and you certainly #houldnBt en=oy your#el! when
Pthing# need to $e done,O #tart $y a#ing ",hat else
could % add to !y life#$
"or eEa*ple, what i! you added a partner, a##i#tant,
cleaner, dri(er, ad(i#or, or a#ed your #pou#e,
children, parent#, !riend#, e*ployee#, $o## to do *ore
2or #o*ethingJ3?
Ahat i! you #tarted a new $u#ine## or ho$$y to *ae
you #*ile again?
Ahen did you decide you couldnBt a# !or #o*ething
!or you?
12
Day ,
'hat if the point of life
was to have fun"
Ahat is the point o! li!e?
Do you now? Doe# anyone?
+# it the #a*e !or e(eryone?
>a(e you $ought a point o! (iew !ro* #o*eone that
doe#nBt ,uite #ee* to Dt you?
Ahat i! you created your own point o! li!e? Aould
that wor $etter?
Ahat would you choo#e?
Aould you choo#e thing# that were hard and to $e
#u!!ered, or that were a delight !or you to do?
Aho decided you had to choo#e the no-!un, pro$le*-
Dlled, (er#ion o! li!e that *o#t people #ee* to create,
anyway?
Aould you lie to choo#e di!!erently? +! #o, a# ",hat
if the point of life was to have fun#$
13
Day -
'hat fun could % add to my life"
-ot ha(ing *uch !un? Ahen did you decide ha(ing
too *uch !un wa# not allowed? >ow old were you
when your parent# told you "-nough fun' +nuckle down
and study$#
Ahat i! you could ha(e !un and do a*a<ingly well at
#tudy, wor, !a*ily and co**unity li!e? Aould you
lie to Dnd out? +! #o, a# ",hat fun could % add to !y
life#$
+t could $e anything, large or #*all) Lie learning the
uulele once a wee, #weating at $ootca*p at lunch,
a#ing your in#igniDcant other to *ae you $rea!a#t-
in-$ed and tae the id# to #chool while you #leep in,
#pending 10 day# on holiday in >awaii) +! you already
ha(e a little o! it, add *ore)
%nd thereB# no need to #tic with it !ore(er) +! your
!un drop# o!!, a# the ,ue#tion again and *ae
another choice)
+! you !eel lie you donBt ha(e enough ti*e or *oney
to add !un, a# ",hat would it take to create the
!oney.ti!e for this#$
HouBll $e a*a<ed at what you can create when you
a#) "un4 are you willing to ha(e *ore?
14
Day 9
'hat if % had infinite. free choice"
Clo#e your eye#) "ind the outer edge# o! your $ody)
Iot the*? %re you only your $ody, or #o*ething
el#e? Lie $eing a CD with *u#ic, rather than a $lan
one) +! you are *ore, now Dnd the outer edge# o! you,
the being 2the *u#ic3)
Iot the*? Ahere(er you !ound the*, pu#h the* out
in all direction# until they are out pa#t the outer edge#
o! the uni(er#e, or !urther)
-ow open your eye#) Do you !eel the #a*e or
di!!erent? Do you ha(e the #en#e o! *ore #pace or
le##? Did you !eel any edge# or not? There are no
right an#wer# to the#e ,ue#tion#) Knly your
awarene##)
Thi# eEerci#e i# de#igned to heighten your awarene##
o! you and #pace and to re*ind you that you are a
$eing in a !ree-will uni(er#e, with inDnite, !ree choice)
Ahen your li!e i# not how youBd lie it to $e, re*ind
your#el! you can choose to create it di!!erently) Ju#t
a#"%f % had in/nite, free choice what would % choose# and
choo#e that)
15
Day 10
/ody. what do you desire"
%re you =u#t your $ody? Kr *ore? Doe# your $ody
do thing# you or #cienceJ #i*ply canBt eEplain
2lie run your pancrea# and *ae $a$ie#3? Could it
$e a whole lot #*arter a$out what it need# than you
are?
>owB# your $ody !eeling now? 110 per cent? -ot #o
great?
+n either ca#e, in(ite it to tell you what it would lie,
a# "0ody, what do you desire#$
Then li#ten and gi(e it what it want#, not what you or
anyone el#e ha# decided it #hould ha(e)
Ahat i!, $y li#tening *ore to your $ody, your ache#
and pain# *elted away?
Ahat i! li#tening *ore clo#ely to your $ody ga(e you
$oundle## energy and e(ery cell #ung with the (i$rant
=oy o! a D(e-year old?
Could that create the phy#ical change# youB(e $een
#eeing?
+! youBd lie to Dnd out, #tart an ongoing con(er#ation
with your $ody today, and li#ten)
16
Day 11
Can % change this" %f so. how"
7o*ething not woring the way youBd lie?
'ather than !ocu# on whatB# not woring, get clear on
what change is po##i$le)
7o*eti*e#, thing# wonBt change no *atter what you
do)
+! youBd lie clarity a$out what will change and what
wonBt, a# ",hat)s possible# Can % change this# %f so,
how#$
The#e ,ue#tion# will help you #ee way# you *ight #tep
around, wal away, dig under, or Qy o(er the $ric
wall, rather than $ang your head again#t it)
The $ric wall i# not wrong and ha# no e(il intent to
hurt you)
+t i# #i*ply a $ric wall that i# happy to #tay that way)
7o get clear on the $ric wall# in your li!e and Dnd
another way around or away)
Hour head will than you !or it)
17
Day 1$
'ho and what truly e0cites
and inspires me"
%re you $ored, unin#pired and uneEcited with #tudy
or wor? Aith your relation#hip#? Li!e in general?
.erhap# youBre doing #o*ething $ecau#e youB(e
decided itB# a good career choice, a no$le cau#e, a
higher purpo#e, or =u#t $ecau#e youB(e alway# done
it? HouBd $e cra<y to gi(e it up) HouBd let e(eryone
down) 'ight?
Do you #pend ti*e with people only $ecau#e you
wor with the*, theyB(e $een !riend# !ore(er, theyBre
!a*ily, or theyBd $e up#et i! you didnBt?
+! youBd lie to in=ect #o*e li!e into your li!e a# ",ho
and what truly e1cites and inspires !e#$ and choo#e that)
Ahat i! you were eEcited and in#pired $y what you
did e(eryday and e(eryone around you?
Aould your li!e e(er $e hard or tire#o*e again?
Ahat a*a<ing contri$ution could you *ae, $y doing
wholeheartedly what you lo(e, rather than hal!-
heartedly what you thin you #hould?
18
Day 1&
'hat !eauty can % see today"
>ow o!ten do you !ocu# on the pro$le*#, the $ad and
downright ugly thing# in li!e?
&(en i! your intention i# to DE the#e thing#, your
attention will #till $e on what you ha(e decided i# a
pro$le*, $ad or ugly)
Ahat i!, in#tead you !ocu#ed on the wonder!ul,
$eauti!ul, pheno*enal thing# in the world and a#ed
what it would tae !or *ore o! tho#e to #how up?
'ather than li*iting your#el! to DEing the not-#o-
great thing#, in(ite in *ore o! the good #tu!!)
+! youBd lie to retrain your#el! to #ee the wonder o!
li!e, e(ery *orning on your way to wor, #chool, or
the #hop#, a# ",hat beauty can % see today#$
%nd then loo and when you #ee it, #ay "How did % get
so lucky#$
19
Day 1(
'ho am % today"
'e*e*$er when you were a #*all child and e(ery
day wa# an ad(enture? Aa# your To Do li#t
#o*ething lie thi#4 wae up, ha(e !un, go to $ed
2*ay$e, or =u#t !all a#leep *id-play3?
Doe# your li!e #till ha(e that energy? +# your To Do
li#t now *ore lie4 drag *y#el! out o! $ed, do what +
ha(e to, wor and drin too *uch and !all into $ed
2or on the #u$way3?
Aould you lie to reclai* the energy o! your child?
'ather than re#igning your#el! to $eing weighed
down $y re#pon#i$ilitie#, what i! you e*$raced li!e a#
an eEciting ad(enture?
+! #o, wae up e(ery *orning and acnowledge youBre
in charge o! creating your day $y a#ing P,ho a! %
today and what grand and glorious adventures can % have#$
Ahen you #tart each day lie thi#, will you ha(e the
#a*e old #tudy, =o$, wor, $u#ine##, !a*ily, health or
*oney pro$le*#?
May$e) Kr *ay$e youBll #ee new, eEciting po##i$ilitie#
that you ha(e ne(er #een $e!ore)
20
Day 1*
'hat if study were easy 1 fun"
Ahat are your point# o! (iew a$out #tudy, including
a$out going to #chool, college, or uni(er#ity and a$out
learning anything in general?
That itB# hard, will tae a long ti*e and lot# o!
*oney? That youBre not #*art or diligent enough?
That you #houldnBt re#t, #leep, or en=oy your#el!
$ecau#e you #hould $e #tudying?
>ow *any (e#ted intere#t# are *aing #tudy hard !or
you? Do teacher# want you to out#hine the*? Do
a!ter #chool tutoring $u#ine##e# want you to hire
the*? %nd other #tudent#? Do they want you to #ee
your talent?
%re you willing to con#ider a di!!erent po##i$ility? +!
#o, a# ",hat if study were easy and fun#$
Ahat i! you approached #tudy with the energy o! an
in#atia$le curio#ity a$out thing# that in#pire you?
Ahat i! you were eEcited a$out learning new way# to
eEpand your natural talent#?
Aould #tudy $e *ore !un, ea#ier, and *ore rewarding
then?
21
Day 1+
'hat if work were easy 1 fun"
+# wor u#ually hard !or you and not *uch !un? Do
you thin thatB# =u#t the way it ha# to $e? That itB#
wrong to #how that you en=oy your =o$, or that doing
thing# elegantly getting $e#t re#ult !or the lea#t
e!!ort i# #o*ehow cheating?
Ahen you were young, did your parent# !rown and
co*plain a$out their day at the o!Dce or !actory? Do
you do that now?
Aould you lie to en=oy wor *ore and get $etter
re#ult# *ore ea#ily? +! #o, #tart $y gi(ing up all the
DEed point# o! (iew you ha(e a$out wor) Then a#
",hat if work were easy and fun#$
%re you willing to en=oy e(ery *o*ent o! your wor
li!e, and get the $e#t re#ult#, and *ae *oney?
+t i# po##i$le) Many people create good inco*e !ro*
doing thing# they en=oy all the ti*e) >ow? They
choo#e to do thing# they en=oy well, rather than #u!!er
and do $adly thing# they donBt)
>appine## i# =u#t a choice and a #*ile i# (ery good !or
$u#ine##)
22
Day 1,
%nteresting point of view
>ow o!ten do you get #tuc in a no-win Dght? Do you
en=oy it when other people wonBt li#ten to your
opinion and only want you to #ee their#?
>ow *uch #tre## do you #u!!er !ro* trying to pro(e
whoB# right and whoB# wrong a$out #o*ething?
Doe# thi# help your wor or $u#ine##? Ahat doe#
#tre## do to your $ody? Do Dght# create or u#e your
ti*e and *oney?
Aould you pre!er a di!!erent way o! $eing? +! #o,
practice the#e *agic word# "interesting point of view$
e(ery ti*e you Dnd your#el! ha(ing a di!!erence o!
opinion with #o*eone)
HouBre not #aying anyone i# right or wrong) HouBre
acnowledging e(eryone ha# a right to their own
2perhap# in#ane3 point o! (iew, including you
7ay it lightly, #*ile and *o(e on, !or eEa*ple "(es, %
see, thank you That)s a really interesting point of view %
wonder what would be the !ost rewarding outco!e for our
business right now# ,hat else could we look at#$
Thi# in(ite# in new idea# that you $oth *ight lie)
23
Day 1-
2m % in allowance or 3udgement"
Do you e(er !eel heat in your che#t or pre##ure on
your te*ple# when #o*eone #ay# or doe# #o*ething
you donBt lie? Do you Dnd you canBt thin clearly, or
you get angry?
+! youBd lie to $e !ree !ro* the control o! #uch
unco*!orta$le phy#ical #en#ation#, con#ider the* a
#ign you are in =udge*ent) Then you can #hi!t gear
into allowance)
Ahat i# allowance? %llowance i# where e(erything i#
=u#t an intere#ting point o! (iew and you ha(e total
!reedo* o! choice)
Judge*ent li*it# you to what you ha(e decided 2or
#o*eone ha# told you3 i# right5wrong, good5$ad) +tB#
lie $eing on an auto*atic pu#h$utton #y#te* o!
re#i#t5react or agree5align)
7o neEt ti*e you ha(e a phy#ical reaction to #o*eone,
a# PA! % in allowance or 2udge!ent#$
+! you Dnd youBre in =udge*ent, repeat P%nteresting
point of view$ while con#ciou#ly eEpanding outward#
until the heat di##ipate#) Then a# another ,ue#tion)
24
Day 19
'hat)s it going to take for 4 to show up"
Ahat would you lie to ha(e #how up in your li!e?
% great new =o$, a #ucce##!ul $u#ine##, #*art #ta!!,
*ore cu#to*er#, relia$le #upplier#, an in(e#tor, *ore
*oney, greater ea#e 2le## #tre##3, $etter health, *ore
!un?
Ahate(er that i#, in(ite it into your li!e with thi#
,ue#tion, while letting go o! any conclu#ion# you
*ight ha(e *ade a$out what it will loo lie and how
it will #how up)
8e aware o! the #peciDc# o! what you a#)
"or eEa*ple, i! you a# !or the Pper!ect =o$,O you *ay
create a =o$ $a#ed on other peopleB# eEpectation# o!
per!ect, including how you ha(e to wor long and
hard, do what your $o## #ay# e(en though you can #ee
a $etter way, tae #ide# in o!Dce politic# and #o on)
7o in#tead, $e clear on what youBd lie and a#
P,hat)s it going to take for 3e1a!ple, a rewarding 2ob that %
en2oy and allows !e to e1tend !y talents, with 4e1ible, fun,
creative people5 to show up, that would contribute to !y life
!ore than % can i!agine, or so!ething greater#$
25
Day $5
Does this work for me"
>ow *any thing# in your li!e donBt wor !or you, $ut
you thin you ha(e to $e5do5ha(e the* $ecau#e
#o*eone el#e #aid #o?
Hou ha(e to #tudy !or that eEa*, go to that #chool,
#tudy that #u$=ect, enter that co*pany, learn that
language, *arry that per#on, ha(e that *any children,
attend that e(ent and #o on) >ow well do you do
the*?
Ju#t $ecau#e #o*eone el#e tell# you
$eing5doing5ha(ing #o*ething i# a good idea, will it
alway# wor out well !or you?
Aho i# the one per#on who now# what wor# !or
you?
Hou) Hou now i! #o*ething i# woring !or you) +t
!eel# light a# a !eather) Rnlie all the hea(y #tu!! you
know doe#nBt wor !or you $ut you do $ecau#e you
were told to)
7o i! youBre not a# happy a# youBd lie to $e, #tart
li#tening and tru#ting you *ore $y a#ing "Does this
work for !e#$ -otice whether you !eel hea(y or light,
and i! youBd lie to change the hea(ine##, a# ",hat
else is possible#$
26
Day $1
/ody. what would !e fun for you"
Do you lie your $ody? Do you en=oy it and do !un
thing# with it, lie #ip, run, =u*p, dance and play?
Do you e(er than it !or carrying your $rain #a!ely to
wor e(ery day?
Kr do you wae up in the *orning =udging it? +tB# too
!at, too thin, too wrinly, too ugly, too #low, too old,
too))))?
Do you tell it itB# not what it #hould $e and !orce it to
do thing# to *ae it what you thin it #hould $e? Do
you try e(ery new eEerci#e and diet? Do you tae
pill# and ha(e #urgery? Doe# it wor?
%nd i# your $ody ha(ing a good ti*e? >ereB# a hint)
.ain and di#co*!ort i# your $ody telling you itB# not
happy
Ahat i! in#tead, you a#ed your $ody what it en=oy#
and !ollow it# lead? 'e*e*$er when you were D(e,
when you had a (i$rant, Dt, healthy, $ody o(erQowing
with energy? Did you thin a$out it, or did you =u#t
!ollow your $ody?
+! youBd lie that energy again, a# "0ody, what would be
fun for you#$ then, a# they #ay, 2ust do it) +t *ight e(en
$e good !or $u#ine##)
S7tandard ca(eat# apply4 con#ult your doctor Dr#t i! you ha(e a *edical condition)
27
Day $$
%f % had 15 seconds to live the rest of
my life. what would % choose"
Ahat ha(e you decided you *u#t eep $eing5 doing5
ha(ing, no *atter what? Hou *ade a deci#ion, #o
youBll #tic to it even if it kills you %!ter all, thatB# the
right way to li(e, i#nBt it?
May$e) Kr would you pre!er another option to illing
your#el! to pro(e youBre right?
Ahat i! in#tead, you created your li!e $y con#ciou#ly
choo#ing thing# that contri$uted to your li!e in way#
you en=oy?
>ow? %# "%f % had 67 seconds to live the rest of !y life,
what would % choose#$
Thi# i# not a$out *aing rando* change# !or
changeB# #ae) The ,ue#tion i# de#igned to re*ind you
what #cience #ay#4 thi# i# a !ree-will uni(er#e and you
have choice
Hou *ay end up choo#ing the #a*e thing
continuou#ly e(ery 10 #econd#, a# long a# it wor#)
%nd i! one day it doe#nBt, youBll now and you can
choo#e #o*ething el#e that doe#)
28
Day $&
%f it)s light. it)s right
+! e(erything i# =u#t an intere#ting point o! (iew
including other peopleB# opinion# how do you now
who and what will $e the greate#t contri$ution to
your li!e and li(ing?
"ir#t, a# a ,ue#tion, any ,ue#tion 2choo#e !ro* thi#
$oo3 then pay attention to what #how# up and how
you !eel)
Do you !eel hea(y? Do you !eel light?
+! you !eel light, itB# right for you
+! you !eel hea(y itB# not for you) Hou now that cluny
!eeling you get when you =u#t now #o*ethingB# not
,uite right, the unco*!orta$le !eeling o! a lie?
Li#ten to your #en#e# and !ollow the lightne##, e(en
though it *ay not *ae logical #en#e at the ti*e) >ow
o!ten ha(e you #aid "% 2ust new it felt a bit off, even
though % couldn)t /gure out why$?
'e*e*$er, =u#t $ecau#e #o*ething i# light !or you, it
*ay not $e light !or the per#on #tanding neEt to you)
%nd who#e li!e are you li(ing? Hour# or their#?
29
Day $(
%f % !uy you. will you make me money"
AhatB# your relation#hip with *oney? Do you en=oy
it? +# it a !un partner that help# you create the li!e
youBd lie? Kr do you !eel it ha# power o(er you and
li*it# e(erything you do?
Doe# e(ery cent you #pend contri$ute to your li!e? Kr
doe# *oney lea out o! your pocet and you ne(er
ha(e enough?
+! youBd lie to change your relation#hip with *oney,
neEt ti*e you thin a$out $uying #o*ething, a# "%f %
buy you, will you !ake !e !oney#$
Certainly a $anana, or #hoe#, or a $oo *ay not $ring
a direct ca#h return 2unle## youBre a !ruit, #hoe or
$oo#hop owner3) 8ut what a$out their contri$ution
to you in nutrition, #tyle, in!or*ation and !eel good
energy? Aould that energy help you generate *ore
*oney? 7ure)
Ahen you a# the ,ue#tion, pay attention to your
#en#e#) Do you !eel light or hea(y?
+! you !eel hea(y, then *o(e on) Hou alway# know i!
#o*ething will contri$ute to you or not)
>ow o!ten do you ignore your#el!?
30
Day $*
6ou)re right. %)m wrong7
7o*e people lo(e to Dght) Do you?
7o*e will Dght to the death to pro(e the rightne## o!
their point o! (iew) 7o*e =u#t lie to Dght !or the !un
o! it) +n either ca#e, will anything you #ay or do
change their *ind and #top the Dght?
Do you e(er #ee the in#anity o! an argu*ent and try
to #top it or change it with well con#idered and logical
argu*ent#? Doe# it e(er wor? Kr do you get *ore
!ru#trated, tangled and drawn into the Dght?
+! you donBt en=oy arguing and would lie to *o(e
$eyond the Dght to new po##i$ilitie#, #*ile and #ay
"(ou)re right, %)! wrong$ three ti*e#)
HouBre not agreeing the other per#on i# right) HouBre
acnowledging their right to their point o! (iew, and
you are $eing in allowance o! the* not #eeing your#)
The word# are ea#y) The energy $ehind the word#
*ight tae practice) 7aying the#e word# #arca#tically
or angrily will not wor) Hour energy *u#t $e o!
co*plete allowance)
Aill they wor? -eEt ti*e #o*eone want# a Dght, u#e
the* and #ee)
31
Day $+
'hat can % do to make up for the
damage %)ve done"
+# #o*eone gi(ing you hell? -o *atter what you do
or #ay, youBre alway# wrong? .erhap# you really did
do #o*ething le## than $right, and theyBre co*ing
down on you hard?
>ow do you re#pond? Do you try to =u#ti!y your
action# and pro(e that youBre not wrong and are
doing your $e#t?
Doe# that wor? &(en i! you really did nothing
wrong, do people $elie(e you and *ae your li!e
ea#y? -ot u#ually)
+! youBd lie to (acuu* up all the $ad !eeling# and
#tart again, do thi#) "ir#t acnowledge the other
per#onB# point o! (iew) 7ay P(ou)re right, %)! wrongO
three ti*e#)
Then a# ",hat can % do to !ake up for the da!age %)ve
done#$ Chec your energy *atche# the word#)
7arca#tic or angry energy wonBt wor) The *agic i# in
the energy o! allowance and (ulnera$ility)
Ahen you are willing to gi(e up your point# o! (iew
a$out $eing right, then you are !ree to create new
po##i$ilitie#)
32
Day $,
'hat question could % ask"
%re you #tuc? >a# #o*ething or #o*eone gone
!uny? Kr perhap# youBd =u#t lie to generate *ore
great #tu!! in your li!e?
Ahene(er and whate(er youBd lie to create change,
#tart $y a#ing a ,ue#tion)
%ny ,ue#tion)
Ahy? % ,ue#tion will in(ite you to #ee #o*ething you
*ight not ha(e $een a$le 2or willing3 to #ee $e!ore
and e*power you)
%n an#wer, deci#ion, conclu#ion, or =udge*ent will
#er(e only to li*it your Deld o! (i#ion and di#e*power
you)
ThatB# the ai* o! thi# $oo) 7o youBll ha(e a $unch o!
the #i*ple#t, *o#t e!!ecti(e ,ue#tion# within ea#y
reach)
7o todayB# ,ue#tion i# !or when you ha(e a $rain
!ree<e and canBt thin o! a ,ue#tion)
%# ",hat 8uestion could % be asking here#$
+tB# so #i*ple it *ight e(en *ae you #*ile, which i#
alway# good too)
33
Day $-
%)m sorry7 That doesn)t work for me7
Do you Dnd you do a lot o! thing# !or other people,
that youBd rather not, gi(ing up the thing# youBd lie
to do?
Kther people will alway# try to get you to do thing#
!or the*, u#ing o$ligation and guilt to control you)
Ahy? +t *ae# their li(e# ea#ier, and you u#ually do
what they a#, #o why not?
Contri$uting to other people can $e wonder!ul) %nd
did you now that when you donBt !eel light and
wonder!ul a$out a re,ue#t or de*and, you donBt ha(e
to do it?
-eEt ti*e you !eel a hea(ine## a$out #o*eoneB#
re,ue#t, #*ile and with a light, =oy!ul energy #ay
PThank you so !uch for thinking of !e' %)! sorry That
doesn)t work for !e right now$
Then #*ile again and change the #u$=ect) Hou are
#tating a !act a$out which no one can argue) DonBt
o!!er a rea#on or eEcu#e6 the#e only allow the
con(er#ation to continue)
+! people pu#h you, #*ile again and #ay "%)! sorry it
doesn)t work for !e %t)s a wonderful opportunity and %)!
sure you)ll /nd so!eone e(en $etter than !e$
34
Day $9
2m % tired. or !ored"
>ow o!ten do you !eel tired at #tudy, wor, or ho*e
#i*ply $ecau#e youBre Ptired o! itO? HouB(e had
enough)
Thin o! C oBcloc on "riday a!ternoon and youBre
winding down at wor) Do you #tart to !eel tired?
Ahat happen# then at 1 oBcloc when you *eet your
!riend# !or drin#, dinner, chatting, dancing or
watching #port?
Do you #till !eel tired?
Kr do you co*e to li!e and ha(e $oundle## energy?
Ahat is that? +# it the !un !actor?
Could !un $e enough to eep you energi<ed?
7o when you #tart to !eel tired a# "A! % tired or
bored#$
Then a# ",hat could % add to !y work, business, life that
would !ake it !ore fun#$ and add that)
35
Day &5
'hat choices do % have"
>ow o!ten do you !eel trapped in a no-choice
uni(er#e)
Ahen did your parent#, teacher#, $o##e#, co-worer#,
!riend#, children and everyone #ell you the idea that you
ha(e no choice $ut to do what they tell you?
Ahat i# that !or you? To #tudy a #u$=ect you hate,
tae a =o$ youBre not intere#ted in, $rea o!! a great
relation#hip, *arry a per#on you donBt really lie,
wor late e(ery night and weeend?
Iue## what? Hou always ha(e a choice) +nDnite
choice# in !act) Thi# i# a !ree will uni(er#e)
7o re*ind your#el!) -eEt ti*e you !eel trapped a#
",hat choices do % have#$
Then notice whate(er po##i$ility !eel# lighte#t and a#
*ore ,ue#tion# a$out what it would tae !or you to
create that a# your li!e)
K! cour#e, it *ay end up $eing eEactly what other
people told you to choo#e in the Dr#t place)
8ut youBll !eel di!!erently a$out it $ecau#e it wa# your
choice)
36
Day &1
'hat information do % need"
%re you con!u#ed a$out #o*ething? Ahat #u$=ect to
#tudy, which uni(er#ity or co*pany to apply !or,
whether to a# #o*eone out, what to #pend your
*oney on, how *uch to worry a$out your id#
education? %dd your own current per#onal con!u#ion
here MMMMMMMMMMMMMM)
Con!u#ion i# u#ually a #ign that youBre *i##ing
in!or*ation)
.ut another way, when you ha(e all the in!or*ation
you re,uire, are you con!u#ed? -o)
7o neEt ti*e you thin youBre con!u#ed, rather than
#tre##ing and #piraling into a worried !ren<y a$out
what to do, a# your#el! ",hat infor!ation do % need#
,ho do % need to speak to#$
Keep a#ing the#e ,ue#tion# until you replace
con!u#ion with clarity) Thi# i# not a$out getting your
choice# right or per!ect)
Choice create# awarene##, #o each ti*e you *ae a
choice youBll #ee *ore po##i$ilitie#)
Thi# ,ue#tion #i*ply help# you a(oid $eing di#tracted
$y the #tre## o! con!u#ion that need not eEi#t)
37
Day &$
8o form. no structure. no significance
Ahat do you do when thing# donBt Dt into the !or*
and #tructure youB(e decided your li!e *u#t ha(e?
Ahen thing# (ary or change?
Do you #ay "*h that)s interesting %t)s different' %t)s
so!ething % never thought about' % wonder how !uch fun we
can have#$
Kr do you react with up#et and #ay "That)s
strange.cra9y.stupid %f they only did it !y way their life
would be better' *MG how can % put up with this#$
>ow *uch #tre## or unhappine## do you ha(e
$ecau#e youB(e decided thing# ha(e to $e a particular
way?
+! youBd lie le## #tre## and *ore happine## in your
li!e, #tart here4
notice the !or* F #tructure in your li!e
let go o! any #igniDcance youB(e attached to it
choo#e the !or* F #tructure that wor# !or
you, and
change whate(er doe#nBt) >ow? %# *ore
,ue#tion#)
38
Day &&
%f % didn)t do it this way. what
other ways could % do it"
Kne o! the greate#t li*itation# in wor, $u#ine## and
li!e in general i# when you decide #o*ething i# right,
$e#t or per!ect)
The right #u$=ect to #tudy, the right #chool, the right
career, the right =o$, right per#on !or the =o$, the right
product, the right *areting #trategy, the right
$randing, The Kne)
Ahy? +t #top# you looing !or anything greater)
7o e(en i! you thin your wor, $u#ine## or li!e i#
ticing along (ery nicely now, and you donBt !eel
#tuc or li*ited $y anything, a# "%f % didn)t do it this
way, what other ways could % do it#$
Thi# i# an in(itation !or greater awarene##) &#pecially
i! youBre in $u#ine##) Que#tioning the thing# you thin
are per!ect can *ae you an indu#try leader and
inno(ator)
%nd i! you do end up choo#ing to do thing# the #a*e
way a# $e!ore, it will $e $ecau#e that i# #till the *o#t
in#piring option) -ot $ecau#e you were #tuc in a rut)
39
Day &(
'hat have % decided % can)t change"
>a(e you $een trying !or #o*e ti*e to create the
relation#hip#, wor, $u#ine## or li!e youBd lie, $ut
canBt e(er #ee* to *ae it happen?
+! youB(e $een #tuc on #o*ething !or a while and not
achie(ed the re#ult youBd lie, you *ay ha(e #o*e
deeply held, uncon#ciou# deci#ion# that are li*iting
you)
"or eEa*ple, i# there anything you $elie(e canBt $e
changed? Ahere you ha(e to li(e, #tudy or wor, or
what you ha(e to do or $e !or #o*eone el#e?
Ahat i! you could change anything? Ahat would $e
po##i$le !or you then and what would you choo#e?
+! youBd lie to *o(e $eyond the place# that ha(e
$een eeping you #tuc, a# ",hat have % decided % can)t
change#$ and notice what co*e# to *ind)
+! you #tart #eeing where and how youB(e $een
eeping your#el! #tuc with un#poen deci#ion#, then
a# ",hat else is possible#$ and "Can % change this# %f so,
how#$
40
Day &*
'hat have % decided % must !e"
Ahat deci#ion# ha(e you *ade a$out who or what
you *u#t $e? % doctor, lawyer, go(ern*ent o!Dcial,
part o! the !a*ily $u#ine##, !ather5*other, good
daughter5#on, what el#e? %nd to $e anything el#e i# to
$e le##?
Aere they your idea#? Kr #o*eone el#eB#?
Ahate(er the rea#on#, decisions will only li*it you)
HouB(e decided, #o you canBt change it, e(en i! itB# no
longer woring !or you)
Que#tion# on the other hand will help you #ee
po##i$ilitie# you *ight not ha(e $een willing or a$le to
#ee $e!ore) Que#tion# will e*power you to choo#e
con#ciou#ly what youBd really lie)
7o i! youBd lie to create the li!e youBd really en=oy,
a# ",hat have % decided % !ust be#$ !ollowed $y P%f %
could choose anything, who and what would % be#$
Hou *ay choo#e eEactly the #a*e a# you are now) Kr
you *ay not)
+n either ca#e, the choice will $e consciously yours, #o
how will you !eel a$out it? The #a*e or di!!erent?
41
Day &+
'hat have % decided % can)t !e"
>a# #o*eone, #o*eti*e #old you the idea you canBt $e
#o*ething?
Did they tell you youBre not cle(er, pretty, thin, tall,
hand#o*e, rich, #trong, creati(e, healthy, LDll in your
own li*itation hereMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMN
enough to get a particular =o$, *ae *oney, ha(e
great !riend#, create the li!e youBd lie?
Ahat i! it werenBt true?
Ahat i! you could $e anything you lied regardle## o!
what other people told you were your li*itation#?
Ju#t $ecau#e #o*eone #ay# #o*ething a$out you,
doe# that *ae it true? Knly i! you agree)
7o i! you !eel li*ited, a# ",hat have % decided % can)t
be#$
Thi# will help you #ee and unloc the door# to
e(erything you ha(e decided it i# not po##i$le to $e)
Hou *ay e(en redi#co(er the greater you, $eyond
anything you e(er i*agined)
,hat)s right about you that you)re not getting#
42
Day &,
%f % were me. who would % !e"
Do you #o*eti*e# !eel lie youBre not $eing who you
really are? That youBre $eing all #ort# o! thing# !or
other people, and nothing !or you?
Do any o! the#e role# #ound !a*iliar? Late#t-at-the-
o!Dce e*ployee, $e#t-drining $o##, #uper *u*,
$readwinner dad, %-grade# daughter, #port#-
cha*pion #on, ho#t-with-the-*o#t, co**unity hero,
$e#t-!riend-to-all, LDll in your own identitie#
hereMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMN?
Do they weigh you down?
Do you !eel lo#t under layer# o! *a## to *ae other
people happy, $ut donBt ,uite !eel lie you?
Aould you lie to redi#co(er who you really are?
+! #o, a# "%f % were !e, who would % be#$
Ahat i! $eing you wa# *ore than =u#t Dne?
Ahat i! it wa# wonder!ul and eEactly what your
!a*ily, ho*e, o!Dce, co**unitie# and the world
needed?
43
Day &-
ow have % defined success"
Ahat doe# #ucce## *ean to you? Ietting into that
#chool? Ietting that =o$, that per#on, that hou#e?
Dri(ing a cool #port# car? >a(ing a *illion dollar# in
the $an?
-othing wrong with ha(ing a clear idea a$out what
would $e !un !or you) The ,ue#tion i#, did you #elect
the#e thing# $ecau#e they would $e fun !or you?
Kr $ecau#e you decided 2or #o*eone el#e told you3
that the#e thing# would #how other people you were
#ucce##!ul? %nd until you ha(e the#e thing#, you *u#t
wor long and hard, and *ae #acriDce#, including
not doing thing# you really en=oy?
+! youBre not en=oying li!e right now, a# "How have %
de/ned success#$ and get clear on what i# dri(ing you)
Ahat i! in#tead you dro(e your#el! and deDned
#ucce## in way# that wor !or you)
"or eEa*ple, ",hat will it take for !e to bounce out of bed
every !orning, s!iling and inspired by everything % do and
everyone % !eet#$
Hou can o! cour#e add ",ith so!e fun, 9appy wheels to
get !e around, or so!ething greater#$
44
Day &9
%s this my way of fighting happiness"
-ot happy? Iot pro$le*#?
Do you #o*eti*e# create pro$le*# $ecau#e e(eryone
el#e ha# the*? Do you thin i! you didnBt ha(e
pro$le*# you wouldnBt $e nor*al, you wouldnBt Dt in,
and you certainly wouldnBt ha(e anything to tal
a$out?
Mi#ery lo(e# co*pany) Ahat a$out you? Do you lo(e
co*pany #o *uch you create *i#ery-Dlled pro$le*#?
Kr ha(e you $ought the idea that $eing happy i#
#o*ehow wrong?
Ahat i! $eing happy were KK? Ahat i! it were !ore
than KK? Aould you choo#e it and Dnd new
co*pany?
7o neEt ti*e you thin you ha(e a pro$le* a# P%s
this !y way of /ghting happiness#$
Aould you $e willing to choo#e to $e how youBd really
lie to $e, e(en i! you ha(e to #*ile on your own !or a
while until you in!ect other#?
45
Day (5
'hat would % do if % knew % couldn)t fail"
>ow *uch do you put o!! doing? >ow *uch do you
not do all $ecau#e you thin you wonBt #ucceed?
>ow o!ten do you end up doing #o*ething le## than
youBd lie a# a re#ult?
Ahat do he#itation and !ear contri$ute to your li!e? +#
there any (alue in ha(ing the*?
Kr are they #i*ply di#tractor# that eep you !ro*
creating what youBd truly lie?
+! youBd lie to $e !ree !ro* their control to create the
relation#hip#, wor, $u#ine## and li!e youBd really lie,
a# ",hat would % do if % knew % couldn)t fail#$
Thi# will clear #uch di#tractor# #o you #ee what youBd
really lie to choo#e)
%re you willing to ha(e that *uch !reedo*?
46
Day (1
'ords to leave !ehind9 want
Aould you lie to ha(e #carcity di#appear !ro* your
li!e and eEpand your po##i$ilitie#? Then lea(e thi#
word $ehind4 want)
Aant along with why, try, need, $ut, ne(er and
$ecau#e each contain #o*e ind o! energetic
li*itation) Aant pri*arily *ean# and ha# the energy
o! PlacO)
7o when you #ay P+ want *oneyO you are actually
#aying P+ lac *oney,O which rein!orce# $oth your
point o! (iew and your reality o! not ha(ing *oney)
+! what youBd actually lie i# *ore *oney, then
in#tead a# a ,ue#tion, !or eEa*ple ",hat will it take
for !ore !oney to show up in !y life#$
Que#tion# will alway# help you #ee how you can
create the change youBre looing !or)
7o e(ery ti*e you catch your#el! in the act o! #aying
want 2you can al#o add why, try, need, $ut, ne(er, and
$ecau#e to the li#t o! word# to lea(e $ehind3 #top,
#*ile, a#",hat 8uestion could % ask here instead, that
would help !e create what %)d really like#$
47
Day ($
'ords to leave !ehind9 why. try. need.
!ut. never and !ecause
>ow aware are you o! the word# you u#e e(ery day?
Li#ten to your#el! today, and notice the nu*$er o!
ti*e# you u#e the#e word#4 why, try, need, $ut, ne(er,
$ecau#e)
Ahere do why ,ue#tion# go? 'ound in circle#?
-owhere? Li#ten to id#4 P,hy is it cold# %t)s winter
,hy is it winter# That)s the seasons ,hy do we have
seasons#$ and #o on)
-eed, try, $ut, and ne(er are all lie#) Do you really
need anything? -o) The world i# an a$undant place6
need i# the lie that it i#nBt) Can you really try to pic
up a gla## o! water? -o) Hou either do or you donBt)
8ut negate# e(erything you =u#t #aid 2"(our work is
really good, but$3) -e(er i# the lie that you canBt create
ti*e to #uit you, when you could i! you lied)
8ecau#e tell# you all the #puriou# rea#on# and
=u#tiDcation# you gi(e your#el! !or not doing
#o*ething, when you really could i! you cho#e)
+! youBd lie to eEpand your po##i$ilitie#, eli*inate
the#e word# and their energy) +n#tead a# ",hat else is
possible#$
48
Day (&
ow many people can % annoy
with my e0u!erance today"
>a(e you e(er $een told youBre too loud, too acti(e,
too energetic, too happy, too !ull o! li!e and could you
TR'- +T DKA- or .RT % L+D K- +T?
Did you !eel $ad a$out it? Did you *ae you !eel
wrong?
Ahat i! there wa# nothing wrong with you?
Ahat i! #o*e people #i*ply didnBt get your energy,
your eEu$erant eEpre##ion o! li!e?
Ahat i! your energy and eEu$erance wa# an awe#o*e
capacity, a pheno*enal talent?
% gi!t the world need#?
+! youBd lie to re*ind your#el! that your energy and
eEu$erance i# not wrong, and that #o*e people will
#i*ply not get you and $eco*e annoyed, a# PHow
!any people can % annoy with !y e1uberance today#$
49
Day ((
%f time and money weren)t the issue.
what would % choose"
>ow o!ten do you li*it your choice#, $e!ore you e(en
con#ider the*, $y deciding you donBt ha(e the ti*e or
the *oney?
Ti*e and *oney are two rea#on# people will alway#
gi(e !or not doing #o*ething) Ahat i! you too the*
out o! the e,uation #o you could #ee what youBd really
lie to choo#e?
To Dnd out, a# "%f ti!e and !oney weren)t the issue, what
would % choose#$ Knce you are clear on your true de#ire,
you can a# other ,ue#tion# to *ae it happen, !or
eEa*ple
",hat will it take for the !oney.a babysitter to show
up#$
",hat will it take for !y parents.spouse.boss.other
to give !e the ti!e.!oney to do this thing %)d really
love to do#$
Mae #ure you a# !or *ore than you thin you want,
or can e(en i*agine, without incurring hard#hip, $y
adding "with ease, or so!ething greater#$
50
Day (*
'hat)s the value of hanging on to this"
7o*ething not woring in your li!e? "eeling unhappy
or #tuc? Do you #ee your#el! a# a (icti* and without
hope? Do you thin youBre hard up and done o(er $y
#o*eone?
%re the#e point# o! (iew li*iting you, pre(enting you
!ro* creating the li!e youBd really lie? Aould you
lie to change?
.eople #tay in the role o! the *ourn!ul (icti* all the
ti*e $ecau#e it ha# #o*e (alue !or the*)
"or eEa*ple, it gi(e# the* the attention they de#ire,
itB# co*!orta$le, theyB(e decided itB# the only way o!
getting out o! #o*ething theyBd rather not do, in the
hope that it will !orce #o*eone el#e to $eha(e
di!!erently, and *any *ore rea#on# theyB(e decided
are (alua$le to the*)
Kn the other hand, #o*e people #i*ply donBt reali<e
they ha(e the choice to change)
Aa# that you? -ow you now you can choo#e, would
you lie to? +! #o a# ",hat)s the value of hanging on to
this#O +! it ha# no (alue, you would hang on to it !or
what rea#on?
51
Day (+
'hat do % love a!out this"
+! you ha(e #o*ething in your li!e youB(e $een trying
to change continually to no e!!ect, a# :,hat do % love
about this#:
>ow willing are you to change or let go o! thing# you
lo(e? -ot *uch? -ot at all?
%re you e(er di#tracted $y a !ear that you will ne(er
ha(e it again 2!or eEa*ple, a $ad relation#hip i# $etter
than no relation#hip at all3?
Ahen #o*ething i# not woring !or you, Dr#t get clear
on what part# o! it you lo(e)
Then you can a# other ,ue#tion# lie :,hat would it
take for !e to /nd so!ething else that would be an even
greater contribution to !y life#: and :,hat would it take for
the parts of this that are not working for !e, to change into
so!ething greater than % could i!agine#:
Ahen you $eco*e clear what you lo(e a$out
#o*ething, and are willing to let it go, or de*and that
it change, you will no longer $e weighed down $y it)
+n#tead, you will ha(e the !reedo* to choo#e it, or not
choo#e it)
52
Day (,
'ho does this !elong to"
Do you e(er get into a !un? %n e*otional crany-
pant# up#et, a #piral o! worry and panic, or an out-o!-
#ort# Qood o! tear#, when you #i*ply donBt !eel
your#el!?
Ahat i! what you were !eeling wa# not actually
your#?
The#e day# we tae !or granted the in(i#i$le
tran#*i##ion o! in!or*ation (ia Ai"i and *o$ile
phone#)
Ahat a$out u#? DonBt we al#o tran#*it in!or*ation
thought#, !eeling# and e*otion in(i#i$ly and
#oundle##ly too? Lie when you wal into a roo* and
now eEactly whoB# =u#t had a Dght and whoB# ha(ing
a #ecret a!!air?
7o when you !eel e*otionally out-o!-#ort#, a# ",ho
does this belong to# Me or so!eone else#$
+! the !eeling lighten#, youBll now itB# not your# and
you can ";eturn to sender with consciousness$
%nd i! you Dnd it i# your#, a# another ,ue#tion lie
",hat)s the value of holding on to this#$
Hou can change anything i! you choo#e)
53
Day (-
8o 3udgment. no discrimination.
no discernment
Aould you lie to create the li!e youBd truly lie?
Then #tep out o! =udg*ent and into awarene##)
AhatB# the di!!erence? Judge*ent i# a DEed point o!
(iew, that you will die to pro(e right) Hou will o!ten
!eel e*otional heat, a u#e!ul way to #en#e the
di!!erence)
%warene## i# an intere#ting point o! (iew you can
change with ea#e)
Judge*ent# regardle## o! whether theyBre good or
$ad will #er(e only to control and li*it you)
%warene## gi(e# you acce## to inDnite po##i$ilitie#)
+! youBd lie to $e !ree o! li*itation, repeat a# o!ten a#
re,uired P-verything, even !y.their strongest opinion, is
2ust an interesting point of view$
+! you dare, !ollow up with ",hat a! % aware of that, if
% chose it, would be the greatest contribution to !y life and
living#$
54
Day (9
Just for me. 3ust for fun.
never tell anyone
>ow o!ten ha(e you #hared your eEcite*ent a$out
#o*ething with #o*eone, only to ha(e the* pour cold
water o(er you #aying thing# lie P'eally# That was an
odd thing to do'$ or P(ou did what# Don)t you know it)s not
going to work because of A, 0 C<#$, and e(en P*MG how
#tupid could you be###$
>ow wa# that? -ot *uch !un? Ahat happened to
your eEcite*ent and =oy? Did you #tart dou$ting
your#el!, thining that you really *u#t $e #tupid? %nd
deDnitely wrong?
Ju#t $ecau#e #o*eone el#e doe#nBt get it, doe#nBt *ean
you donBt) Ahat i! you new a whole lot *ore than
*o#t people?
%t lea#t you now whatB# !un !or you) >ow would
anyone el#e now that? 7o when you are en=oying
your#el! or ha(e a great new idea, re*ind your#el!
you now that you now) %nd #ay "=ust for !e, 2ust for
fun, never tell anyone$
%nd i! you do #hare your =oy with #o*eone and they
donBt get it, #*ile and than the* !or their "interesting
point of view$
55
Day *5
%s this an :;< or a rattlesnake"
Do you now people who #o*eti*e# #ay or do not-#o-
nice thing#? Doe# thi# up#et you and lea(e you
#cratching your head, wondering why they would do
or #ay that?
%re they an &L" or a rattle#nae? %n &L" i# an e(il
little !rea 2or other word #tarting with "3 who #i*ply
en=oy# $eing *ean !or !un) % rattle#nae i# de#igned
$y nature to $ite you when it !eel# threatened) ThatB#
=u#t what they are)
Ahen you *ae the* wrong and get #uced into the
trau*a and dra*a o! what they do, they are
controlling your li!e)
%# long a# you #ee the* !or what they are, in total
allowance, you are totally e*powered) Total
allowance *ean# you appreciate the* a# an &L" or
rattle#nae) ThatB# =u#t who they are) Then you are
!ree to en=oy their great part#)
7o when people lie thi# #how up in your li!e, a#
2#ilently3 "Truth, is this an ->? or a rattlesnake#$
Thi# will re*ind you that no *atter what they #ay or
do, it ha# nothing to do with you, and you donBt need
to $uy it a# real)
56
Day *1
'hat is this"
7tuc on #o*ething? "eeling o!!? 7o*eone up your
no#e? Hou can change all o! the#e thing# i! youBd lie)
+tB# =u#t a choice)
+! youBre ha(ing trou$le clearing #o*ething out o!
your #y#te*, it *ight $e that the i##ue i# not what you
thin it i#)
"or eEa*ple, your *u* alway# o!!er# you a #lice o!
cae when you co*e around to (i#it, e(en though you
ha(e told her 1000 ti*e# you donBt eat cae) %nd what
happen#? Hou get crany, !eel $ad, and ha(e a
*i#era$le ti*e)
+# the i##ue that you donBt lie a3 your *u*, $3 cae,
c3 people not re*e*$ering what you #aid, or d3 you
ha(ing $utton# that are ea#ily pu#hed?
>ow o!ten do you get #tuc on #o*ething and canBt
clear it, $ecau#e youBre di#tracted $y what appears to
$e the i##ue, $ut i#nBt?
7o neEt ti*e, Dr#t clari!y eEactly what that #o*ething
i# $y a#ing ",hat is this#$
Thi# will *ae #ure the neEt ,ue#tion# you a# will $e
targeting the right thingJ
57
Day *$
'hat is this" 'ould % like to change it"
To un#tic #ticine## in your li!e, Dr#t get clear on
eEactly what you are #tuc on $y a#ing ",hat is
this#$
Knce you are clear on the i##ue, then you can get
clear on whether you really would lie to change it or
not)
>ow o!ten ha(e you $een una$le to change #o*ething
$ecau#e #o*ewhere, deep down 2or e(en =u#t under
the #ur!ace3, you really didnBt de#ire change?
+! you pre!er not to change, thatB# KK) Ahen you get
clear on that, youBll $e !ree !ro* the #tre## o! trying to
change #o*ething continuou#ly to no e!!ect) .erhap#
you thought you needed to change it $ecau#e #o*eone
told you you had to?
Kn the other hand, i! you would lie to change
#o*ething, you can, a# long a# youBre willing to do
whate(er it tae#)
%re you willing? To Dnd out a# ",ould % like to change
it#$ Ahene(er you Dnd you canBt create the change
youBd lie, itB# $ecau#e you are unwilling to do or $e
#o*ething)
58
Day *&
'ould % like to change it" %f so. how"
To change #o*ething, Dr#t get clear on eEactly what
you Bd lie to change $y a#ing ",hat is this#$
-eEt a# ",ould % like to change it#$ To change
#o*ething, you *u#t truly de#ire it and $e willing to
do whate(er it tae#)
Then you can a# "%f so, how#$ Can you change anyone
el#e? -o) The only thing you can change i# you and
your point# o! (iew) "or eEa*ple, your *u* alway#
o!!er# you cae, e(en though you ha(e told her 1000
ti*e# you donBt lie cae)
7o what el#e i# po##i$le? Ti#it at a di!!erent ti*e 2no
cae at $rea!a#t?3) Call in ad(ance and tell her you
hope #he ha# cae when you (i#it 2#he *ight =u#t do
the oppo#ite, you ne(er now3) -otice your $utton#
and #*ile when your *u* pu#he# the*)
Kr #*ile and thin your *u*B# cute when #he !orget#
thing#, #aying "Thanks so !uch, !u! %)d love a piece of
cake$ Ju#t $ecau#e you tae it, doe#nBt *ean you ha(e
to eat it)
There are *agical way# !or cae to di#appear, along
with cranine## and *i#ery)
59
Day *(
ow much fun can % have today"
Do you e(er a# thi# ,ue#tion? Kr do you u#ually
wae up and thin "How !uch do % have to get done
today#$
>a(e you e(er noticed that no *atter how *uch you
do get done, your To Do li#t ne(er end#?
>ow doe# that !eel? Light and $ree<y, or lie a dead
weight on your $ac?
Ahat i! you could create e(erything in your li!e
including all the nor*al day-to-day #tu!! lie
(acuu*ing and !errying id# to and !ro* #chool and
ha(e !un at the #a*e ti*e?
Hou wonBt now till you a# !or it, #o #tart $y a#ing
"How !uch fun can % have today#$
Ahat i! $y en=oying e(ery *o*ent o! your li!e you
could get *ore done than youBd e(er i*agined, and
!a#ter?
>ow *uch !un would that $e?
60
Day **
'hat does this add to my life"
Do you u#e drug# o! any ind? >ard drug#,
pre#cription, to$acco or alcohol to eEce##i(e
a*ount#? Do you ha(e any other co*pul#i(e
$eha(ior, !or eEa*ple with !ood, eEerci#e or helping
people, or !eeling $ad, that you thin you canBt
change?
Ahat doe# thi# $eha(ior add to your li!e?
Do you u#e it to dull or heighten your awarene##
a$out #o*ething? Doe# it !ree you !ro* pain,
phy#ical, e*otional or intellectual? Doe# it create a
#pace where you !eel *ore you?
>ow real i# that awarene##, !reedo* and #pace?
Co*pletely, or not at all?
Ahat i! you could create real, total awarene##,
!reedo* and #pace which doe# not rely on anything
$ut you?
+! youBd lie to Dnd out, a# P,hat does this add to !y
life, and what infor!ation do % re8uire that would e!power
!e to create that in other ways#$
Ti#it www)the$rad!ord#y#te*o!rightreco(ery)co* !or
*ore in!or*ation)
61
Day *+
'hat am % grateful for today"
Li#ten to what people tal a$out) Ahat percentage i#
a co*plaint or a pro$le*? -inety-nine percent? Kr
*ore?
Did you now that you get *ore o! what you !ocu#
your attention on?
7o i! youBd lie !ewer pro$le*# and *ore =oy in li!e,
in=ect a little gratitude into your con(er#ation)
Crinle #o*eoneB# uni(er#e $y #aying #o*ething lie
",ow %)! so grateful for that aweso!ely tough deadline
today' %t 2ust !ade !e laugh it was so tight'$ or P% a!
really grateful for hi! lying to !e straight away, because
now % know that)s what he !ight do and % won)t get caught
out'$ or PHow did we get so lucky with the blue sky today @
how !uch fun can we have#$
Ahat i! you !ound one thing to $e grate!ul !or e(ery
day and told #o*eone?
.erhap# youBll #urpri#e the* and theyBll #top
co*plaining *id-#trea*? Hou *ay e(en in!ect the*
with gratitude and #pread it to other#?
Kr you *ay =u#t ha(e giggle on your own) 7o a#,
",hat a! % grateful for today#$
62
Day *,
'hat am % grateful to them for"
%re you !ru#trated or up#et $y anyone in your li!e? +#
#o*eone dri(ing you cra<y? %re they too loud, too
$o##y, too Qay, too up-down-turn-around, too LDll in
your pet pee(e hereMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMN)
Aould you lie *ore ea#e in your li!e when youBre
around the* 2a##u*ing you ha(e to, or would lie to
$e around the*3?
+! #o, a# ",hat a! % grateful to the! for#$ and
acnowledge the* !or that)
There will alway# $e at lea#t one thing, i! not *ore)
.arent# who dri(e you nut#, and are alway# there to
help you with your id#) % !riend who i# predicta$ly
unpredicta$le, and ha# #hown you people !unction
di!!erently) % lo(er who pic# in#ane Dght#, and i#
great at))))u*))))other thing#)
Ahen you acnowledge #o*eone !or who they are,
and are grate!ul !or their great $it#, you are !ree and
e*powered to *ae the *o#t o! the great $it#,
without $eing at the e!!ect o! the re#t)
63
Day *-
'ho am % !eing now"
Do you Dnd your#el! $eha(ing in way that i#, well, not
,uite you?
Lie getting really crany, crying lie a *adwo*an,
throwing a Qoor-D#t-$anging tantru*, picing a Dght,
or otherwi#e doing #o*ething you know i# cra<y and
not you, $ut you canBt #ee* to help it?
Ahat i! it wa#nBt you? To Dnd out, a# ",ho a! %
being now#$
Ae pic up all #ort# o! #tu!! !ro* tho#e around u#,
!ro* our parent#, teacher#, !riend# and pretty *uch
e(eryone) Thi# ,ue#tion re*ind# you that *ay$e it
really i#nBt you)
Then you can a# "%f % were !e, who would % be#$
+! youBre a parent, try it with your id#) %re they *ad
a# hell or $eing dra*a ,ueen#? %# the* gently
without heat ",ho are you being now#$ 2DonBt $e
#urpri#ed i! they reply "(*A''$3 Then a# P%f you were
you, who would you be#$ and li#ten)
%t the (ery lea#t it *ight crinle their uni(er#e and
#top the dra*a #piral !or a #econd or two) %t $e#t,
their whole li!e *ight change)
64
Day *9
'hat if % created my life from chaos"
%re you addicted to organi#ation, to de#igning the
per!ect #y#te*, to eeping the per!ect hou#e?
+ wa#) %nd + wa# '&%LLH good at it) Trou$le wa#, +
al#o got irritated downright crany when the
duc# didnBt line up and the itten# didnBt herd) Know
that !eeling?
Then + looed at nature) The *o#t highly !unctional
and e!Dcient #y#te*# eEi#t in apparent chao#) Do
Qower# grow 2naturally3 in neat row#?
-o) %nd yet the $ee# Dnd the*, pollinate the*, and
contri$ute elegantly to #u#taining li!e on the planet)
Ahat i! you were lie a $ee?
Ahat i!, regardle## o! the apparent chao#, you could
Dnd the Qower#, and contri$ute awe#o*ely to your
li!e? 7o a# ",hat if % created !y life fro! chaos#$
+B* not #ugge#ting you create rando*, artiDcial chao#)
7i*ply that e(en i! thing# appear *e##y, you need not
$e at their *ercy i! you can #ee where to collect the
pollen)
65
Day +5
'hat decisions 1 conclusions have
% made a!out this"
+# #o*ething in your li!e #tuc and you canBt #ee* to
#hi!t it?
"or you to $e una$le to change #o*ething, you ha(e
to ha(e decided or concluded #o*ething a$out it)
"or eEa*ple, what ha(e you decided in your li!e i#
per!ect or the an#wer? % relation#hip? % =o$? %
$u#ine##?
Ahen you can #ee your deci#ion# and are willing to
let the* go all change $eco*e# po##i$le)
7o when youBre #tuc, a# ",hat decisions, conclusions
and answers have % !ade about this#$
Thi# doe# not *ean you ha(e to end the relation#hip,
or =o$, or $u#ine##)
Hou can tran#!or* it into #o*ething el#e, #o*ething
$etter than you could ha(e e(er i*agined)
>ow? %# another ,ue#tion)
66
Day +1
Cute. 8ot /right
Do you #o*eti*e# do thing# that, well, =u#t donBt
wor out? +n !act, you create co*plete ru$$i#h?
Ahen you do thi#, do you de!ault to how $ad, wrong,
terri$le and aw!ul you are? He#, youBre a !ailure, =u#t
lie they alway# #aid you were)
>ow doe# that !eel? Doe# it help you at all?
.ro$a$ly not) 7o what i! in#tead, you acnowledged
that you can $e an aweso!e creator o! ru$$i#h)
7ay "Gee, %)! cute, but not bright'$ Then laugh and a#
",hat)s right about this %)! not getting#$ and ",hat else is
possible#$
+! you can create *agniDcent ru$$i#h, you can
undou$tedly create *agniDcent *agniDcence too)
Hou =u#t ha(e to a# and tae notice)
AhatB# the (alue o! *aing your#el! wrong anyway?
+tB# *uch *ore !un to $e Cute -ot 8right)
67
Day +$
'hat)s funny a!out this %)m not getting"
7u!!ering? +n pain? "ru#trated? 7o*eone doing you
wrong? 'ather than going into the no good, wrong,
trau*a and dra*a de!ault, a# ",hat)s funny about this
%)! not getting#$
"or eEa*ple, ha(e you e(er tried to do a pull up?
&(en with an ela#tic #upport $and itB# pretty tough
going) Did you !eel wea and pathetic? Aere you in
pain? Ahat i! you laughed at your#el! hanging there
a$out a# u#e!ul a# a ru$$er chicen? AhatB# !unny?
R* rubber chicken)
Ahat a$out a relation#hip thatB# on a wa#h cycle o!
wring-your-heart-dry? AhatB# !unny a$out that?
Iotta $e #o*ething) &(en i! itB# to laugh at your#el!
!or pu#hing the #a*e old wring-*e-out-now $utton
and eEpecting a di!!erent re#ult)
Cute, -ot 8right)
AhatB# great a$out laughing? +t $oo#t# your oEygen
and !eel good $ody $it# and ic# you out o! the #el!-
pity #piral)
%re you willing to #ee *ore o! li!eB# !unny #ide?
68
Day +&
'hat am % sick and tired of"
%re you o!ten ill or eEhau#ted? Do you ha(e ache#
and pain# that $a!Qe the doctor#? 8a!Qe you?
8e!ore you #tart on a carou#el o! drug-taing to #ee i!
you can alle(iate the #y*pto*#, a# ",hat a! % sick
and tired of#$
May$e itB# the drudgery o! hou#ewor? The tediu* o!
the o!Dce? >a(ing people alway# a# you to do thing#
!or the*?
Ahate(er that i# !or you, whene(er you thin o! that
#o*ething and it *ae# you groan and #lu*p, a#
",hat else is possible#$ and "How can % change this#$
.erhap# you could hire a hou#eeeper? Change =o$#?
7ay PnoO? +! you ha(e trou$le #aying no, practice thi#,
with a #*ile, in the *irror e(ery *orning "%)! sorry,
that doesn)t work for !e right now$
Ahat i! #pending *oney on a hou#eeeper, changing
=o$#, or up#etting #o*eone $y politely #aying no,
#a(ed you *oney in trip# to the doctor#, and e(en
your li!e?
69
Day +(
%f % didn)t think. what would % know"
Do you e(er thin your#el! into a notty $all o!
con!u#ion? Li#ting all the pro# and con#, collecting
rea*# o! $acground in!o which you analy<e to death
!ro* all angle#, trying to Dgure out what to do? To get
it 'ight) Ahether itB# which #u$=ect to #tudy, =o$ to
tae, car to $uy, or who i# The Kne?
Do you en=oy thi# proce##? +# it a# !a#t and ea#y a#
youBd lie? %nd how doe# it u#ually wor out?
+! you donBt en=oy it and would pre!er a !a#ter, ea#ier
and dare + #ay it *ore relia$le for you approach, neEt
ti*e you Dnd your#el! e*$aring on a thought
=ourney into the a$y## a# "%f % didn)t think about this,
what would % know#$
Hou now tho#e *o*ent# when you =u#t know
#o*ething? +t !eel# right and light to you 2e(en
though other# thin youBre cra<y3?
Knly you can now whatB# right !or you) %re you
willing to tru#t you *ore? Li!e *ight $eco*e a whole
lot ea#ier)
70
Day +*
%f other people)s points of view weren)t
real. what would % choose"
>ow o!ten do you li*it your choice# $e!ore you
e(en con#ider the* $y concluding that other people
wonBt appro(e? "My husband.wife wouldn)t agree,$ "My
parents wouldn)t like it$ or e(en "&o one else does that, so
what would everyone think#$
Aorrying a$out what other people thin i# one o! the
*ain rea#on# you will gi(e !or not doing #o*ething)
Ahat i! you too other people out o! the e,uation #o
you could #ee what youBd really lie to choo#e?
%# P%f other people)s points of view weren)t real @ if
everything were 2ust an interesting point of view @ what would
% choose#$
>ow *any o! the worldB# #cience, #ocial, cultural and
$u#ine## inno(ation and e(en new land# 2you now,
the world i# no longer Qat3, were created $y people
doing what they lo(ed, no *atter what other people
thought wa# real, true, or po##i$le)
Ahat could $e po##i$le !or you i! you li#tened *ore to
you?
71
Day ++
=reat idea> 8ow or in the future"
Do you ha(e lot# o! great idea# !or $u#ine## and li!e in
general? Do you get enthu#ia#tic and pour load# o!
energy into the*, $ut nothing #ee*# to happen? Then
to top it o!!, #o*eone &L7& co*e# out with the #a*e
idea a $it later and itB# a hitJ
Doe# that get you down?
Ahat i! you were =u#t too ,uic !or the re#t o! the
world? Ahat i! you were ha(ing idea# that are per!ect
!or 1, 1 or e(en 10 year# in the !uture?
7o when you get a great idea, a# "&ow or in the
future#$ Then notice what !eel# light, now or in the
!uture) 'e*e*$er, i! itB# light, itB# right !or you)
+! itB# in the !uture, write your idea down in a 7pecial
+dea# -ote$oo and re-(i#it it !ro* ti*e to ti*e)
Thi# i# a great way to nurture and contri$ute energy
to your god<illion idea# when the ti*e i# right)
72
Day +,
'ho or what can % !e or do today that
will contri!ute to my !usiness"
Do you ha(e your own $u#ine##?
Do you get caught up in all the thing# you thin you
have to do to $e #ucce##!ul and help it grow?
Do you run out o! #tea* and worry a$out what you
#hould $e doing when thing# donBt #ee* to $e going
#o well?
Ahen that happen#, pau#e and a# ",ho or what can %
be or do today that will contribute to !y business#$
Ahate(er awarene## you ha(e, notice it) &(en i! it
#ee*# #trange !or eEa*ple, go and get a *a##age
when you thin you #hould $e doing your account#
chec how light it !eel#)
+! itB# light, itB# right re*e*$er?
Hou ne(er now where your awarene## will lead you,
and who or what you *ay *eet on the way)
73
Day +-
'hen did % !uy the point of view that
% was no good"
Do you get how awe#o*e you are? -o?
Do you thin youBre, at $e#t, =u#t not good enough
and at wor#t, a hopele##, lo#t, good-!or-nothing pile o!
ru$$i#h?
+# that your point o! (iew or #o*eone el#eB#?
+! youBre not clear a# ",hen did % buy the point of view
that % was no good#$
Then return that point o! (iew to #ender 2to your
*u*? your dad? a teacher? the #chool $ully? a
!riend?3 with con#ciou#ne##)
Ahat i! there were nothing wrong with you? AhatB#
right a$out you that youBre not getting?
Ahat i! you were =u#t di!!erent and awe#o*e in way#
other people #i*ply donBt yet get?
74
Day +9
8o competition
%re you co*pelled to alway# try your harde#t to win,
$e right, $etter than, or di!!erent to anyone el#e? Kr
at lea#t not to appear to lo#e or to $e wrong?
>owB# that woring !or you? +# it !un?
Kr do you !eel trapped in a race !or which you donBt
#ee* e,uipped and are ne(er enough? %re you !ro<en
$y the !ear o! !ailure?
Ahat i! co*petition wa# not real?
%re you the #a*e a# anyone el#e? -o) 7o how can an
apple and a nightingale co*pete?
Knly $y $oth $eco*ing #o*ething el#e that theyBre
not)
7o i! you !eel li*ited, !ru#trated or !ro<en $y the rule#
o! a race that doe#nBt eEi#t, a# ",hat)s the value of
buying into co!petition as real#$
Then a# ",hat is the greatest contribution % can be to !y
life, fa!ily, business and co!!unities#$ ThatB# the
generati(e ind o! co*petition, which i# all a$out
$eing *ore o! you)
75
Day ,5
% am hanging on to this for
what reason"
Iot clutter in your li!e? %re #o*e thing# a =o$ or
relation#hip# piling up and weighing you down?
>ow o!ten do you hang on to thing# that you now
deep down youBd really rather let go?
>ow *uch o! your *u#t-hang-onto-thi# co*e# !ro*
what you think other people will #ay? K$ligation# you
i*agine you ha(e that *ay not $e true?
Ahat could you create a# your li!e i! you no longer
clung to thing# that you donBt truly de#ire?
+! youBd lie to de-clutter and create *ore #pace, a#
"% a! hanging on to this for what reason#$
+! it !eel# light to let it go, than it and #end it o!! on a
new ad(enture with con#ciou#ne##)
76
Day ,1
/ody. what are you telling me"
Iot a pain? "eeling #ic?
>a(e you put your $ody in the hand# o! 1000 doctor#
and other eEpert# and #till donBt now whatB# wrong?
>a(e you a#ed your $ody?
Ahat i! it new *ore than anyone? Ahat i! pain wa#
#i*ply your $ody #crea*ing at you to li#ten?
+t *ight #tart out a# a #light twinge or ache your
$ody #aying "-1cuse !e, % need so!ething$ which i!
you ignore $eco*e# a nagging di#co*!ort "H->>* @ %
;-A>>( need so!ething$ until Dnally your $ody
#crea*# in pain "H-( (*A' % &--D B*M-
ATT-&T%*& &*, *; ->B-''''$
7o $e!ore that happen# a# "0ody, what are you telling
!e#$
Knce you #tart li#tening to your $ody, eep a#ing
,ue#tion# lie ",hat infor!ation do % need# ,ho do % need
to speak to#$ until you di#co(er what your $ody i#
a#ing !or)
77
Day ,$
'hat if happiness were 3ust a choice"
Down in the du*p#? Iot a long li#t o! rea#on# why
your li!e i# no-good and the world #uc#?
7ure, itB# ea#y to get thi# way) Thi# i# how *o#t o! the
world !unction#4 de!ault to *oan and groan)
+! youBre not con(inced, #nea a li#ten to rando*
con(er#ation# around town)
Aould you lie to de!ault di!!erently?
Then choose to $e happy)
Ahat i! it really were that #i*ple?
%# ",hat if happiness were 2ust a choice#$ and #*ile)
Ahat can you do when thing# go BwrongB? %#
another ,ue#tion lie ",hat)s right about this that %)!
not getting$ and #*ile again)
Ahat i! your #*ile alone in(ited other# to a di!!erent
de!ault?
78
Day ,&
'hat)s the value of !eing sad"
%lway# !eeling down? CanBt #ee* to #hi!t the $lue#?
.erhap# there #o*ething a$out $eing #ad that actually
wor# !or you?
+t *ay help you Dt in with other# around you) +t *ay
deli(er attention you cra(e) Kr it *ay #i*ply Dll in
your e*ptine## and di#tract you !ro* the re#t o! li!e)
Thi# i# not wrong and you are welco*e to eep
#adne## i! it truly wor# !or you)
+! it doe#nBt and youBd rather $e happy, then now
you can a# !or it)
Rntil you a# a ,ue#tion you *ay #i*ply not $e aware
that #o*ewhere, #o*ehow you (alue #adne##, !or
whate(er rea#on)
%re you ready !or change? Then a# :,hat value does
sadness have to !e#:
79
Day ,(
2 !rain is a wonderful thing to waste
>ow *uch o! the world today i# !ocu#ed on $rain
power? % lot or a little?
Do you !eel inade,uate?
Do you !eel youBre not #*art enough, ,uic enough,
or that you donBt ha(e enough in!or*ation paced
into your tiny grey cell# and you really #hould #pend
all day in the li$rary or on the internet #ucing up
*ore?
Doe# your $rain really hold the an#wer# to your li!e
that youBre looing !or?
Kr i# your $rain a tiny part o! you, and what youBre
#eeing lie# #o*ewhere el#e?
+! your $rain really had the power to Dgure out your
li!e, wouldnBt it already ha(e done #o?
+! youBd lie to acce## *ore o! what you already
now, acnowledge a brain is a wonderful thing to waste
and a# "%f % didn)t think about this, what would % know#$
80
Day ,*
'hat if % didn)t need to
prove myself to anyone"
>ow *uch o! what you do e(eryday i# dri(en $y your
de#ire to $e acnowledged and (alidated?
%re you alway# #eeing #o*eoneB# appro(al,
con#ciou#ly or uncon#ciou#ly?
Do you e(er get it? .ro$a$ly not a# o!ten a# youBd
lie)
%nd what then? Do you try e(en harder to $e #een?
+! thi# i# not !un and you Dnd youBre doing thing# you
donBt really en=oy, hoping to plea#e #o*eone el#e, a#
",hat if % didn)t need to prove !yself to anyone#$
Ahat i! you were a$#olutely awe#o*e =u#t a# you are
and did not need anyone el#e to appro(e you?
Aould that *ae li!e ea#ier and *ore !un?
81
Day ,+
Do not listen to. tell or !uy the story
Ahat do people tal a$out? &(er heard a #tory or two
*illion? >ow o!ten do you hear the sa!e #tory told
di!!erent way#, a# i! to pro(e the polar oppo#ite o!
another?
>ow *uch o! your li!e do you #pend li#tening to or
e(en telling #torie#, only to $eco*e con!u#ed a$out
what i# real and true?
Ahat i! none o! it were real or true? Ahat i! all #torie#
were #i*ply intere#ting point# o! (iew?
Aould that create le## trau*a and dra*a in your li!e?
Aould it $e ea#ier !or you to create the li!e youBd
really lie, rather than trying to Dgure out !ro* the
#torie# what li!e you #hould $e creating?
+! youBd lie to $e !ree, practice the#e *agic word# "%
choose not to listen to, tell or buy the story$
7ure you can en=oy a #tory !or the hec o! it) %t the
end, you could #ay ",ow, that was a terri/c story' %)!
a!a9ed that you are still sane$ !ollowed $y anything to
change the #u$=ect)
Try a little gratitude) ThatB# $een nown to crinle a
uni(er#e or two)
82
Day ,,
'hat could % !e doing differently"
%re you #tuc in a de#tructi(e cycle o! up-down-up-
down-win-lo#e-win-lo#e with #o*eone?
Can you #ee the preci#e di#connect $etween you and
the other per#on, and how the #ituation could i*pro(e
#o #i*ply and ea#ily i! you $oth changed a little o! thi#
and a little o! that?
Truth, can you e(er change anyone el#e? -o)
The only thing you can change i# you)
(ou are the only one that can cut your *o$iu# #trip o!
conQict)
%re you willing to #top hanging on to your point o!
(iew that you can change #o*eone? 7o*eti*e#
change i# po##i$le only when you let thing# go)
7o i! youBd lie to eEtract your#el! !ro* a cycle o!
#truggle, a# ",hat could % be doing differently that would
contribute to the change % desire#$
83
Day ,-
'hat if there were nothing wrong
with my past"
Do you e(er get #tuc on #o*ething that happened in
your pa#t? Ahether it wa# ye#terday, la#t wee, la#t
year, or 10 year# ago? Ahen you #ay to your#el! "%f
only A, 0, C hadn)t happened %)d have been C, (, < better off#
Doe# that help you? Ahen you ha(e that
con(er#ation with your#el! do you !eel lighter or
hea(ier?
Doe# regretting, $la*ing or #ha*ing your pa#t help
you create the li!e youBd lie now? %nd truth, can you
e(er change your pa#t?
+! youBd lie to $e !ree o! the concrete #hoe# youB(e
*ade, a# ",hat if there were nothing wrong with !y
past#$
Ahat i! e(erything you ha(e e(er $een, done, #aid,
worn, #tudied, wored, lo(ed, hated had $een eEactly
right to create the you you are now?
Then a# "A! % willing to let it go and ask what would %
like to create as !y life and living now#
84
Day ,9
'hat am % unwilling to receive"
%re the thing# youBd truly lie not #howing up in your
li!e? &(en though you are 2#elect any and all that
apply34 #*art, educated, articulate, hard woring,
diligent, polite, ind, good looing, well connected, in
the <one, Lenter your own talent# here
MMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMN, and generally ha(e
e(erything going !or you?
Do you ha(e any o! the#e point# o! (iew? + can5#hould
do e(erything *y#el!) + #hould $e #el!-#u!Dcient5#el!-
*ade) >andout# are wrong) + now $e#t) &(eryone
el#e i# #tupid) + canBt rely on anyone el#e?
&(en i! you can do e(erything your#el!, $etter than
anyone, ha(ing the#e point# o! (iew, will cut o!! your
a$ility to recei(e !ro* anyone or anything)
+! your point o! (iew i# "% don)t need anything fro!
anyone,$ then thatB# what youBll create)
7o i! youBd lie to create the thing# in your li!e that
youB(e $een a#ing !or $ut ha(e not yet #hown up, a#
",hat a! % unwilling to receive#$
85
Day -5
%)m sorry. %)m confused
>a(e you e(er noticed that youBre a little too #*art or
too !a#t !or *o#t people? Ahat you get in a heart$eat,
other# can tae *inute# or e(en year# to get, i! e(er?
Does it frustrate you when people you hire don't get what
you hired them to do?
Sometimes it's most effective to be Cute Not Bright, even
though you're not !nstead of fighting to be heard or
understood, play Blonde and as" I'm sorry. I'm confused. I
thought A, B, C and here is X Y Z. What do you know Can
you he!" me understand#
#ractice saying this authentically with a pure, innocent
blonde energy$ it won't wor" using your natural more%
powerful%than%a%locomotive vibe
&eep as"ing Dumb 'nd Confused (uestions to gently
lead the other person to tell you what you already "now,
but which they would never admit if you challenged
them
)he aim is not to prove you're right and they're wrong
)his is a tool to help you get the result you desire, with
the greatest ease
86
Day -1
'hat have % decided is a pro!lem"
Iot pro$le*#? Do you lie the*? Doe# it gi(e you
#o*ething to chat a$out with your !riend#, a pu<<le to
#ol(e?
Ahat i! you didnBt ha(e pro$le*#?
Ahat could you en=oy u#ing the ti*e and energy you
now pour into pro$le* #ol(ing?
+! youBd lie to Dnd out, a# ",hat have % decided is a
proble!, which if % looked at it differently is so!ething to be
thankful for#$
"or eEa*ple, rather than $eing up#et that your $o## i#
not hand# on and doe#nBt want to hear a$out or get
in(ol(ed in your pro=ect#, $e grate!ul you ha(e the
!reedo* to run the* the way you lie)
7o neEt ti*e you Dnd your#el! co*plaining a$out
#o*ething weighing you down, rather than trying to
DE the pro$le* 2*ae it a better pro$le*?3, what i!
you looed at it di!!erently and tran#!or*ed it into
#o*ething el#e?
87
Day -$
/ody. who or what is this"
Ahat i! your $ody wa# a whole lot #*arter than you
e(er ga(e it credit !or? Ahat i! it# ache# and pain#
were telling you *uch *ore than what (ita*in# and
*ineral# you need? Hou now the !eeling o!
heart$rea? +tB# a (ery real phy#ical ache) .eople
ha(e died !ro* it) Ahat a$out other phy#ical
#y*pto*#? "ind out $y a#ing "0ody, who or what
a! % sick to the sto!ach of#$ 2tu**y pro$le*#3
is weighing !e down#$ 2upper $ac3
is getting under !y skin#$ 2#in irritation#3
giving !e the shits#$ 2!airly o$(iou#3
a! % not willing to swallow any !ore#$ 2throat
i##ue#3
is a pain in the butt.neck#$ 2lower $ac5nec3
is playing with !y heart#$ 2heart palpitation#3
a! % dying to get away fro!#$ 2wor#ening
condition#3
Aho or what co*e# to *ind? -ow a# another
,ue#tion)
88
Day -&
'hat)s the value of helping people"
Do you lie helping people? +# i# i*portant to you?
Ahat i# it a$out helping people you en=oy? Do you
!eel worthy? Doe# it *ae you !eel (alued and
(alua$le?
Ahat donBt you en=oy? %re you !ru#trated when you
gi(e your $e#t to #o*eone $ut they donBt #ee* to want
it or appreciate it?
Do you Dnd that no *atter how *uch you help
people, #o*e #i*ply ne(er #ee* to change?
There i# nothing wrong with wanting to help people)
+tB# awe#o*e) &*powering people to now they can
change anything in their li(e# i# a gi!t)
Ju#t now that e(en when you do your $e#t, people
will choo#e what they choo#e, and itB# got nothing to
do with you)
.eople choo#e what they do $ecau#e #o*ewhere,
#o*ehow, they lie it)
+! youBd lie to get clear a$out why and how you can
help people with greater ea#e a# ",hat)s the value of
helping people#$
89
Day -(
'hat am % making having this a!out"
Ahat ha(e you *ade the an#wer to your li!e?
'elation#hip? ",hen % /nd The *ne %)ll be happy$
Money? ",hen % have DC in the bank %)ll be secure$
.roperty? ",hen % buy !y own house %)ll be a ;eal Man$
Aor? ",hen % get that 2ob !y parents will see %)!
successful$
Aill the#e thing# in the*#el(e# *ae you !eel happy,
#ecure, (alidated or #ucce##!ul? Kr doe# your point o!
(iew create your reality?
+! you didnBt ha(e the point o! (iew you laced
#o*ething, would you !eel di##ati#Ded and unhappy?
7o when youBre !eeling le## than or di##ati#Ded with
your li!e a# it i#, and you hear your#el! repeating
",hen % have C, %)ll be ($ or "%f only % had C, %)d be ($
a# ",hat a! % !aking having C about#$
Then notice what the real target o! your de#ire i# 2H3
and a# ",hat will it take to be ( now#$
90
Day -*
'hat am % unwilling to ask for"
*ow well do people read what's in your mind and heart?
're you frustrated that no one gets you? Not even +or
especially,- your mum or insignificant other?
*ow much attention do people pay to you and to what
you say out loud +let alone notice what's buried deeper
down-?
.r do they usually focus on what they have already
decided you should be or do, for your own good +which
means, for them-?
'nd how willing are you to tell others what you re(uire or
desire? ' lot, a little, or not at all?
/hen did you decide that you couldn't as" for things for
you? *ow many people have told you that choosing for
you is selfish +so 0ust do what they tell you, for them-?
Can you truly contribute to anyone else if you don't first
wholly contribute to you?
So as" ",hat a! % unwilling to ask for, that if % did ask for
it would be the greatest contribution to !e and !y
co!!unities#$
91
Day -+
'hat does relationship mean to me"
%re you in a relation#hip? >owB# it going? .erhap#
youBre looing to change an eEi#ting one, or create a
new one?
7tart $y getting clear on your deDnition) Ahat word#
do you u#e to de#cri$e your pre!erred one? >onor,
tru#t, (ulnera$ility, gratitude, allowance, gi!t5recei(e,
co**union, contri$ution, generati(e, genero#ity o!
#pirit, gratitude, =oy, !un, !reedo*?
Aord# lie #eriou#, pro*i#e, lo(e, co**it*ent,
re#pect, re#pon#i$ility, gi(e5tae, protect, *aintain,
eep, right5wrong, *eaning!ul, o$ligation, #ecurity,
co*pro*i#e? Kr perhap# other#?
Ahich word# !eel light? Ahich !eel hea(y? There i#
no correct an#wer, =u#t an awarene## o! your
pre!erence#)
+! you donBt ha(e the relation#hip youBd lie now, you
*ay $e u#ing a deDnition that doe#nBt *atch what you
truly de#ire)
7o get clear and create what youBd lie, rather that
what other# tell you i# right, a# ",hat does relationship
!ean to !e#$
92
Day -,
'hat title am % limiting myself to"
Ahat title ha(e you decided you *u#t ha(e to $e
(alued? Iirl5 $oy!riend? >u#$and5wi!e?
Mother5!ather? Co**unity leader? Tolunteer? 8e#t
!riend? &Eecuti(e? Director? C&K? Ma#ter che!?
8u#ine## per#on o! the year? DuE? -o) 1? 7ir?
MaBa*? .ro!e##or? L+n#ert your ideal title
hereMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMN)
Aill a title *ae you into the per#on youBd lie to $e?
Doe# not ha(ing it *ae you le##?
Kr do you create you, regardle## and o!ten in #pite
o! your title and other peopleB# opinion#?
Ahen #o*eone gi(e# you a title do you auto*atically
$eco*e that? >a(e you e(er had a $o##5!riend5#pou#e
who wa#nBt? Did their title# auto*atically *ae the*
what you de#ired?
%nd what i! $y accepting a title you li*ited your#el!
to what other people decided wa# right5wrong !or that
role, which *ay not wor !or you?
Ahat i! e(en without any title, you are totally
awe#o*e? 7o a# ",hat title a! % li!iting !yself to, that
if % didn)t would allow !e to see and create the life % truly
desire#$
93
Day --
%s this distracting me"
Do you !eel trapped or !ro<en $y any o! the#e4 $la*e,
#ha*e, regret, guilt, anger, rage, !ury, hate, lo(e, #eE,
=ealou#y, dou$t, !ear, or relation#hip, $u#ine##, li!e,
li(ing, death, reality, or addicti(e, co*pul#i(e,
o$#e##i(e or per(erted point# o! (iew?
%re they real and true? Kr are they de#igned to
control and di#tract you !ro* creating the li!e youBd
really lie?
Tae $la*e, !or eEa*ple) +# it real? Kr i# it an
intere#ting point o! (iew? Do you !unction a# though
itB# real $y $uying into the idea that P#o*eone *u#t
tae the $la*eO and then $eco*e di#tracted $y the
trau*a and dra*a #earching !or #o*eone to $la*e, or
deQecting or eEcu#ing the $la*e?
Ahat i! in#tead you recogni<ed di#traction# and #aw
the inDnite po##i$ilitie# $eyond?
+! youBd lie to $e !ree o! #uch control, neEt ti*e you
notice youBre $eing di#tracted !ro* what youBd
actually lie to $e and do, a# "%s this 3insert your ite!,
for e1a!ple bla!e5 distracting !e fro! creating the life %)d
truly like#$
94
Day -9
8o e0clusion
Ahat ha(e you decided you do not want in your li!e?
.eople who lie, cheat and #teal? Rnrelia$le and Qaey
people? 8o##y and now-it-all people? Ahat el#e?
>ow *uch energy do you #pend =udging people in an
e!!ort to eep certain thing# out o! your li!e? Doe# it
e(er wor? +# it !un !or you? Doe# it eEpand your li!e
in way# youBd lie?
+! not, rather than =udging and eEcluding, $e in
allowance and inclu#i(e)
Ahen you eEclude, you deDne the li*it# o! what you
are willing to recei(e and #hut o!! your acce## to
inDnite po##i$ilitie#)
7o when you notice youBre trying to a(oid #o*eone,
a# ",hat a! % e1cluding here, that if % were to be in
allowance of would contribute to !y life in ways % can)t yet
i!agine#$
Aill thi# put you at the *ercy people? -o) Ahen you
are aware and inclu#i(e you will #ee whatB# going on
and how to choo#e the $it# that wor !or you)
%# a re#ult, they *ay eEclude you !ro* their li(e#,
$ecau#e youBre no longer !un !or the*)
95
Day 95
'hat contri!ution could % !e here"
>ow do you !unction in li!e? "ro* the gi(e and tae,
*u#tnBt $e #elD#h, *u#t-$e-re#pon#i$le-do-*y-dutie#-
and-!ulDll-*y-o$ligation# #tandard operating
procedure o! thi# reality?
+# that !un? %nd do you really gi(e it your $e#t? Kr do
you engage hal!-heartedly and do the lea#t you can get
away with?
Aould you lie to change that and en=oy
wholeheartedly e(ery interaction you ha(e with the
world?
7tart here) %re you willing to nurture and care !or
you? %re you willing to let go o! e(erything you thin
you ha(e to $e or do that other people tell you i# real
and i*portant?
%re you willing to #ee your talent# and a$ilitie#? %re
you willing to gi!t and recei(e !reely, with no
eEpectation o! what it *ean#? %re you willing to $e
the contri$ution you are $y $eing you?
Then a# P,hat contribution could % be here#$ Ahen you
are not conDned $y *u#t $e5 do5 ha(e#, you create
#pace to $e and contri$ute all and !ore o! you)
96
Day 91
/e you and change the world
Do you !eel that youBre not enough?
Hou donBt Dt in?
Hou *u#t #tri(e to $eco*e #o*ething that your
parent#, teacher#, !riend#, $o##e#, TT ha# told you you
#hould $e?
Certainly you couldnBt po##i$ly $e enough =u#t a# you
areJ Hou need to $e #o*ething $etter, right?
Ahat i! there wa# nothing wrong with you? Ahat i!
$eing you =u#t a# you are wa# eEactly right?
Ahat i! it were !ore than o? Ahat i! the world
actually needs the !ull range o! your talent# and
a$ilitie# that youB(e $een told your whole li!e were
wrong?
Ahat would that $e lie? Do you now?
+! youBd lie to Dnd out, a# "%f % were !e, who would %
be#$ and ",hat)s right about !e %)! not getting#$
Ahat i! you could be you and change the world#
97
2ll of life comes to me with ease 1 3oy 1 glory

Daily mantra
+# your li!e !ull o! ea#e, =oy and a$undance?
-ot #o *uch? -o #urpri#e gi(en how *any people
#ee* to en=oy telling you that li!e *u#t $e hard, no
!un, and a noc-down-drag-out Dght to the death !or
#carce and dwindling re#ource#)
Ahat i! that were not true? +! youBd lie to Dnd out
what el#e i# po##i$le add thi# daily *antra to your
wae up routine
"All of life co!es to !e with ease and 2oy and glory$

7aying thi# will re*ind you that how you !unction in


li!e i# your choice) %nd, i! you choo#e, you can
!unction !ro* ea#e and =oy and glory 2eEu$erant
eEpre##ion and a$undance3 no *atter what occur#)
&(en when Pthing# go wrongO you can eEperience
the* with ea#e and create any change you de#ire)
+tU# all o! li!e, the good, the $ad, the $eauti!ul and the
ugly) &(erything i# included and nothing ha# to $e a
di!Dculty)
Hou alway# ha(e another choice)
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15 keys to total freedom
Ahen you get #tuc or would lie to change anything
in your li!e try one o! the#e ey# Dr#t)
1) %# ",ould an in/nite being truly choose this#O)))))11
2) &(erything i# =u#t an intere#ting point o! (iew) 2C
C) Li(e in 10 #econd incre*ent#)))))))))))))))))))))))))))) 29
;) Li(e in the ,ue#tion 2in#tead o! the an#wer3))))CC
1) -o !or*, no #tructure, no #igniDcance)))))))))))))C9
0) -o =udg*ent, di#cri*ination or di#cern*ent ) )1;
:) -o drug# o! any ind))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))01
9) -o co*petition)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) :1
/) Do not li#ten to, tell or $uy the #tory))))))))))))))))92
10) -o eEclu#ion)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) /1
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?y favorite Qs
The#e are *y all ti*e !a(orite ,ue#tion#) Do they
wor? .lay with the* and #ee what el#e you can
create in your li!e)
How does it get any better than this?

....................:
%# !or a greater outco*e than you could po##i$ly
i*agine) %re thing# $ad? They can certainly i*pro(e)
%re thing# good? They can alway# get $etter)
How did I get so lucky?............................................8
Ahen the good #tu!! #how# up in your li!e, thi# i# a
great way to eEpre## your than# and to in(ite *ore
o! it your way)
What else is possible?

.............................................
Ahen e(erything #ee*# to $e PnoO a# "*+, got it
,hat else is possible#$ +tB# a*a<ing what people will
reply when you a#)
What!s right about this that I!m not getting?........"#
Ahat i! there wa# nothing wrong with anything?
Ahat i! there wa# only another po##i$ility? Aould
your li!e $e ea#ier and *ore !un? AhatB# the (alue o!
looing !or the wrong in thing# anyway?
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What!s right about me that I!m not getting?.........""
Ju#t $ecau#e people donBt get you, that doe#nBt *ae
you wrong) Ahat i! there wa# nothing wrong with
you? Ahat i! you were =u#t di!!erent?
$an I change this? I% so& how?..............................."'
7o*eti*e# thing# wonBt change no *atter what you
do) Thi# ,ue#tion help# you #ee you can #tep around,
wal away, dig under or Qy o(er the $ric wall, rather
than eep $anging your head again#t it)
What (uestion could I be asking here?.................. ))
"or when your $rain !ree<e# and you canBt thin o! a
,ue#tion)
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2!out the Questionnaire
Mary-Jane Liddicoat i# a !or*er
%u#tralian diplo*at who ha# li(ed,
#tudied and wored in %u#tralia,
%#ia, &urope and the Middle &a#t)
+n 2010, Mary-Jane changed
cour#e lea(ing go(ern*ent
ad*ini#tration to !acilitate other#
to create greater health and
happine##, $a#ed on what #he
di#co(ered on her own =ourney)
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