Sly Sex and Guilt

Youngsters of today know the problems arising from sly drinks and sly sex. Yet, they try because
forbidden fruit is sweet and tempting. Also, their conduct is not tempered with experience and
adequate information. For example, many girls who have a fling with a boy friend do not know the
boys disease status, if any.
here is no dearth of literature on pitfalls of promiscuity, teenage drinking and sly sex. hese are
related to delinquency, yet few parents realise the gravity, nor apply brakes.
!ut there is evidence between sex experimentation and drink. "hen parents themselves are
indulgent, they are unaware or blink away the dangers of teenage drinking and explosion.
Alcohol has been the tool of seduction. #andy is dandy, liquor is quicker$ %nder its spell, the male is
emboldened and the female is robbed of her resistance. &he is fired on her sex desire. eenage girls
need be alarmed, as also their parents.
he main task is to better home conditions. "hy a '( year old is allowed or provided a mobile$ "hy is
she allowed to attend a party)a)day on one pretext or the other*

+ore and more parents ought to realise that the old)fashioned parental authority has to be exercised.
hey have to proclaim, -As far as drink and late nights are concerned, you have to follow our
instructions because we are held responsible for your actions..

%nion +inister /enuka #haudhary has suggested that parents be looked for teenage reckless driving.
"hy not drinking, too*
0ewspaper reports have indicated that loaded fags, cocaine and hari patti 1!hang leaves2 are widely
used by teenagers. !arbiturates with soft drinks are fashionable with college and university students,
including some high)styled girls. "ine, liquor and now ladies beer are as common as soft drinks$

3rugs and drinks are powerful in luring and seducing youngsters into immoral ways. /ecently, a
bunch of girls was arrested from a #handigarh hotel for acting as call girls. 4ne of the girls, a
graduate, said that she was drugged and forcibly pushed into prostitution. &he had been promised a
5ob in a hotel.

6arents have to be practical and realistic. First, they must educate themselves with realities. hen
acquaint youngsters with facts and grim consequences. !e constantly alert to any faddish use of soft
drinks or combinations. /aise a protest, not merely an eye)brow$

&ly sex often leads to delinquency of sorts. 7ovebites have to be kept hidden. 7ies roll off the tongue.
You blush when you face your parents. here are many lies that make you red when you are asked
why you are so late coming home.

!ut secrets have a nasty way of getting out. You chance to face your brother outside a bar. Dirty
books fall out of your bag. here is no safe place to keep love letters which are too explosive to keep
but are too lovely to burn.

7ongstanding parental pressures conflict with the philosophy of the liberated mind. Young girls and
boys who can discuss their sex lives freely with the parents are few and far between.
his feeling spills over to marriage. &ays 8iran, -9 became so guilt)ridden that 9 couldnt make freely
love until my marriage was many months old, for fear of incurring husbands displeasure. And when)
ever 9 shut my eyes, 9 saw my husbands disapproving face hovering over me..

+aking love is considered shameful:loose girls do it, nice girls do not.

"arnings that husbands do not respect loose girls nor marry second)hand girls, prove may not
powerful disincentives. &ex is considered too bad to discuss. ;irl do it in whispers and giggles. Yet,
the call of the bed is stronger than the call of the cradle.

6ummy belonged to a avant)garde group. &he used to discuss sex explicitly. &he told other she had
slept with her boyfriend. +ost applauded her for boldness. !ird of a feather flock together.

&he says, -9 wanted to know what it was like. As for the sin feeling, there was no question of it..
/omis 5ournalistic work took her to &himla where she spent a boo<y evening with a colleague in his
hotel room.

-9n that heady atmosphere it seemed natural., says she. -!ut when 9 got back, 9 realised the enormity
of what 9 had done and even though it only happened once. 9 couldnt live with my guilt. 9 could not
bring myself to discuss it. 9 lay awake at night, tearing my own character to shreds..

&elf)torment is the price of guilty love.

9t took her a long time to have another perspective and pick up the vestiges of self)respect.
!ut everyone is not a slave to conscience.

&aloni, for example, puts any amount of effort and ingenuity into concealing her affairs which she and
-almost all the girls 9 know. are carrying on in the college.

his is the plea of an alibi)mined. &he lies with conviction. &he prides as a practical person$
here is, after all, no point in revealing your shady past unless you intend to mend your ways. he
point is that you approach it with purpose of amendment. 9f you say that you have had sly sex and you
do not intend to do again, it can be a therapeutic.

Hints
It is basically a question of lowering yourself in your own estimation. A wrong is a wrong. 9t cannot be
defended. 4utings are far recreation, not lusty indulgence.
You can throw dust in parents eye for a while but in the long run you are blighting your own life.
&ex needs social sanction. 9t is neither a public)park activity nor a quick encounter.

!y indulging in sly sex and =kicks, you are branding your own self.
9nstead of stealthily reading =hot books, study standard books on sex like >avelock ?llis Psychology
of Sex and ?rich Fromms Art of Loving. You will understand love and sex.

3eceiving others is, in fact, a cunning craft of self)deception.

"hen the boy becomes demanding, hold his hand, instead of holding your tongue.

9f he threatens to leave you, do it yourself*