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Sarah Najwa binti Deni Miss Wan Nurul Aini May 5, 2014

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Essay Writing

Some people view conflict between teenagers and parents as a necessary parts of growing up, while others view it as something negative which could be avoided.

Discuss both views and give your opinion.

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If life was a journey then surely the milestone was affected by the people we live with. Needless to say the people who give the most noticeable and prominent effect is the ones who brought us into the world, our parents. At the same time, as we are growing up, they are growing old and under certain circumstances we might grow apart even the smallest matters can be turned into disputes. The conflicts and misunderstandings climax at adolescence phase and this includes fighting over everything such as social life, academic issues and even religious views. Teenagers have this urge of wanting to be right, even when they are not and once their parents are not on the same page with them, this is when the conflict begins. There are lots of things that cause these difference in perspective. One of it was generation gap. Children nowadays did not grow up in the same surrounding as their parents’. While their parents need to go to the library to do research for college assignments, their children only need to google it on the internet and get the job done. Kids nowadays are getting more access to the global world and it is more challenging to control their activities. A little misunderstanding might be effective as it ensures healthy communication between parents and their children but when these conflicts turned into a screaming match filled with rage, that is when the headache begins.

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For me, conflicts and misunderstanding between parents are unavoidable and somehow it worked just fine between me and my parents. It makes me appreciate our differences and train me to be more mature to understand where are they coming from. Needless to say they live a longer life than me, which mean they know more to life than I do. However, it is truly vital for parents to understand that children don't just follow orders. Parents need to let their children to make their own mistakes and write their own fairytales. Because when it comes to life decisions, it is the children call to make, not the parents. The key to this understanding is communication. Growing up, teenagers will face a lot of problems dealing with friends, teachers and even life. It is important for them to know that

there will always be someone who is rooting for them and are always there when they need someone to talk to. Yes, of course the opinions given by parents might be different from ours but eventually we will understand that our judgement will be hugely affected by their opinions. This is the vital part of growing up, which is accepting other people opinions and take them into account because we need to realise that our life decisions will affect people around us, especially the closed ones.

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On the other hand, we need to accept the fact that some might think that conflicts and misunderstanding are negative thing that makes parents-children relationship to turn sour and it is something that should be avoided. Disagreement might lead to rebellious and repulsive response. Knowing that teenagers are very immature in dealing with life issues, bad things might happen due to relationship fallout with their parents. They might even become more aggressive or even depress. What teenagers need to understand is that negativity can be replaced by something more constructive, by an understanding that the past cannot determine the future, that there is room to develop among shadow casted by history. If this belief is enforce in their everyday life by parents, there will be no conflict that cannot be solved by a good communication between teenagers and their parents. There is no such thing as ‘avoiding conflicts’ because a conflict is not something that you intentionally make, it happens naturally. Holding it within will not solve the problem either, because it might work out at first but the fact that you do not have a say in your own life decision will slowly eating you up from the inside. Therefore, teenagers need to learn to express their opinion in a respectful manner to prevent misunderstandings with parents.

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In a nutshell, conflicts and misunderstandings have large impact to the relationship between teenagers and their parents. It cannot be avoided but it can be solved. It is part of growing up and it helps you to be more matured in life. One might think that having conflicts with parents is a problem, but actually the real problem is when you have nothing to disagree about. Life is too short to do exactly what others tell you. At the end of the day, it is the chance that you did not take that you regret the most. So take that leap, make a change, stand for what you believe in. Parents will always be there to support you regardless which route in life that you go through.

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