Developing a Positive personality

—
A scientific approach

SIMEON S. SIMON: BE, MBA, DCA:

Asst. Professor

Definition:
There is no universally accepted and comprehensive definition for
personality. This word came from the Greek word “per sonare” which means
speaking through mask. In simple words personality includes

1) Appearance 2) inner process 3) Interlinking of various aspects

4) Behavior

Development of true personality cannot be attained by overnight. Building

true personality takes consistent efforts over prolonged duration. Initially
when a person practice a habit on a continued and consistent basis, this
habit becomes a part of personality regardless of the nature of habit--may be
noble or ignoble. But then, there are so many stages when practice becomes
a habit. A habit takes the form of completeness when it is practiced
frequently and consistently. This habit may be positive oriented or negative
oriented considering the point of origin and the way it has been nurtured.

Where does it originate?

According to Sigmund Freud, the father of Psychology, The personality
starts from three aspects. They are 1) id 2) ego 3) super ego.

(1)The id—this is unconscious part which is emotional part consisting sea of

biological urges and drives. This important emotion in id is libido (the sex
drive). This seeks the satisfaction of its urges. It works on the principles of
pleasure and pain.

(2) Ego—this logical and conscious part dealing with rational, factual, and
practical side. Ego part analyses and evaluates events and situations. This
works on the principle of what is possible and what is not possible.

(3) The super ego—this deals with ethical and moral side—sin and virtue,
good and bad. This controls the other two parts and directs them constantly.
This works on principle of right or wrong.

Freud argues that personality of any person is the inter play of the above
three factors. In fact he identified the various aspects of personality and how
they are linked together—scientific approach.

Whereas the Blump and Naylor says the attitude has three components
which are cognitive, affective, connoctive. No wonder these components
are the roots of personality. The cognitive is belief component and affective
is emotional component where as connoctive is behavioral component. The
attitude and the personality of person share some common traits.

The habit of the person has the origination from the cognitive level, which is
the belief component of person. This belief and values of a person can be
either positively motivated or negatively motivated based on the inputs they
receive. This belief system or value system starts at thought level and this
can come from subconscious mind, which can further be strengthened or
eliminated. This thought level origination when nourished with inputs of
same nature externally and internally, this cognitive system starts to grow
and it reaches a stage where the emotion takes control of the belief and
thought system.

When the emotional system is further strengthened with the external inputs
and internal inputs of same nature of ideas and thoughts, this grows into
behavior which, when practiced constantly with consistent efforts become
habit resulting into personality.

What are the inputs of Positive personality?

It is clear with the fact that the personality takes the origin of thought level
or miniature ideas. This thought level can consistently be exposed to forces
within or without. These forces can be of an understanding of situation or
eye exposure or perceptions due to sensory organs etc. Even So when a
person allows himself to understand the situations, understand people in the
right perspective, he is able to get right cognitive values leading him to
possess rightful emotions. The external forces can be of hearing a lecture on
any subject, listening stories, seeing movies and reading books, and
understanding situations and so on. These external inputs which get into a
human mindset can either be disastrous or bring a positive mind set. When a
person allows himself to listen lectures of ethical moral values, allows himself
to read noble books on character building, discipline himself in value building
exercises constantly, no wonder that person will turn out to be a wonderful
personality. On the contrary we have seen children or school boys taking
guns and shooting other guys in the school and these types of incidences
happens abroad often. This is mainly due to evil exposure they brought
upon themselves—perhaps children seeing films of shooting and murders will
have greater tendency to reflect the same behavior.

How will you develop positive personality?

To develop a right positive personality, one has to fill him/ her with the right,
true, just and pure thoughts and values. He has to get rid of all evil unjust,
untrue and impure thoughts. The mind has to be programmed with the
thoughts of positivity and this has to get deeper into subconscious mind.

Perhaps these thoughts can be nurtured and cherished with dreams and
visions. One with the right and good conscience will derive much hope, trust
and faith and positive thoughts. When one’s conscience is blurred with any
stain that brings guiltiness, he is governed by inferiority complex which all
the time keeps him in suppressed state. When people read right and
positive resource materials which edify them, they can be source of
positivism. One has to practice a healthy and a whole life. As we keep our
earthly body to be kept clean, our subconscious mind and heart also should
be preserved and kept pure, positive and right and we have to exercise right
relationship with fellow beings without bringing wounds and conflicts. We
have to rejoice always in all situations and should not lose our faith and
confidence.

The consequences of Negative personality:

These types of leaders (or people) with negative personality will not be able
to believe that employees are capable of doing the given task and they
carry their carnal mindset that employees are selfish people with selfish
ambitions. They exhibit suspicion on employees and they believe that unless
and otherwise employees are cornered, shouted, closely monitored, they will
not perform task. These types of leaders will manifest the spirit of irritation,
bitterness and wrath upon the employees often. They will not be able to
show care and concern on employees and fail to identify not only the talents
of employees but also fail to tap out the work from them. They follow the
style of dictatorship not allowing others to participate in decision making.

The fruits of Positive Personality:

The person who has positive and noble personality will manifest the fruits of
true personality. The positive personalities will be of humble mind set, not
boasting about them or about their achievements. These people will have
the tendency to achieve more and more and they are not satisfied with their
present performance. They are always aggressive to fulfill their mission and
vision. They cannot afford to waste their time; since they are very time
conscious; they know how to put their tasks in priority. One can see in them
the inward propulsion motivating them to look ahead all the time to fulfill
their vision and objectives. These people try to lift the fellow employees of
the organization, being an example in everything they do. They are always
transparent people, doing everything in complete transparency whereby
other employees are able to believe and put their trust in them. These
people are able to exhibit the spirit of endurance, patience, longsuffering and
temperance in everything they do and are able to convince others with their
best decision making. Of course, these are the qualities of good leadership
as well. They will not show their suspicion on employees and they strongly
believe that employees are normal people, having normal ambition to
achieve maximum output in organization. They will be able to see talents
and potential hidden in each employee and bring them out by careful
nurturing. No wonder, these types of leaders will emerge out as great
personalities and they give least time to see the weakness of their
employees.

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