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"We are pleased to welcome Bob Boyd this month as a new contributor to the Counsel. Bob is a current member and former elder at Chalcedon Presbyterian Church. He worked for thirty years in the Fulton Co. school system in Georgia as a high school teacher and principal. He currently sells real estate, builds beautiful furniture, and oversees his growing family." - Chris Strevel
The Christian parent's desire should be to influence our children in every way possible toward living the Christian life with understanding, depth, and commitment. The only way to accomplish that goal is to be able to communicate with our child or children in a manner consistent with the love that Christ gives to us and we attempt to give to Him.
"We are pleased to welcome Bob Boyd this month as a new contributor to the Counsel. Bob is a current member and former elder at Chalcedon Presbyterian Church. He worked for thirty years in the Fulton Co. school system in Georgia as a high school teacher and principal. He currently sells real estate, builds beautiful furniture, and oversees his growing family." - Chris Strevel
The Christian parent's desire should be to influence our children in every way possible toward living the Christian life with understanding, depth, and commitment. The only way to accomplish that goal is to be able to communicate with our child or children in a manner consistent with the love that Christ gives to us and we attempt to give to Him.
"We are pleased to welcome Bob Boyd this month as a new contributor to the Counsel. Bob is a current member and former elder at Chalcedon Presbyterian Church. He worked for thirty years in the Fulton Co. school system in Georgia as a high school teacher and principal. He currently sells real estate, builds beautiful furniture, and oversees his growing family." - Chris Strevel
The Christian parent's desire should be to influence our children in every way possible toward living the Christian life with understanding, depth, and commitment. The only way to accomplish that goal is to be able to communicate with our child or children in a manner consistent with the love that Christ gives to us and we attempt to give to Him.
welcome Bob Boyd this make an early habit of God-loving, God-fearing month as a new contributor spending time talking and individuals Christ would to The CounseL Bob is a listening to the child, then have them be. u ~ r e n t member and former the lines of communication As a retired public high elder at Chalcedon are open as long as the parent Presbyterian Church. He school principal, l'have continues to spend the time worked often with children worked for thirty years in the in communicating. Parents whose parents met their Fulton Co. school system in Georgia as a high school cannot wait until their physical needs, but who children are teen-agers to teacher and principal. He neglected their spiritual; currently sells real estate, begin communicating. It is emotional and mental needs. builds beautiful furniture, in these early years that we Parents had spent little time and oversees his growing begin to shape the attitudes, in quality commun-ication family." -- Chris S trevel behavior, beliefs, and with the child. The Christian parent's Consequently, problems desire should be to began to occur when influence our children the child became in every way possible defiant of the parents as toward living the he or she sought instant Christian life with gratification in understanding, depth, Christian commitments of attempting to satisfy and commitment. The only our children. As we read to those unfulfilled needs. The way to accomplish that goal them, talk with them, parent's response was always, is to be able to communicate answer their questions, and "I have given that child with our child or children in ask them questions, we begin everything he or she could a manner consistent with the to guide and shape their possibly need or desire, and love that Christ gives to us thought patterns and he or she does not appreciate and we attempt to give to responses in living the it." It is a sad day indeed Him. Christian life. Children when parents lose control of I truly believe that whose parents only feed, their child or children. communication with our cloth, and tell them what to Material possessions are not children begins in the womb do and when to do it are not nearly as important to our and continues throughout going to grow up as obedient children as the giving of life. Even though children desiring to please ourselves and our time to communication in the the Lord or the parents. The meet their spiritual, beginning may seem to be in process of communicating emotional, and mental needs. one direction, not many days with children takes much Being Christian ourselves but pass before the newborn quality time and effort then failing in our begins to respond and focused on the individual communications with our attempt to communicate child. By truly children does NOT ensure a with the parent. Reading or communicating with our Christian posterity: It talking to the fetus in the children, we can know them reqUires a devoted and womb introduces the child to for who they really are and committed effort from AprillMay, 1998 'i' THE COUNSEL of Chalcedon 'i' 25 parents to stay in touch with good imitators! If we watch attitude or behavior. In their children regardless of our children long enough, we seeking and receiving the age. ViTill see ourselves in them as answers from the child, the In our constant they move, talk, and e"-lJTess parent can shape those communication with our themselves. Many times the attitudes and cause the child children, we convey our things we see or hear are the to recognize the errors of his desires, hopes, aspirations, things we hate most in or her thinking. If the child and expectations. My grown ourselves. ~ e r e did they persists in the improper children have said many learn them? Most likely, they attitude or behavior, then the times, "We knew what you have picked it up from US! parent must resort to another expected, and we wanted to We communicate attitudes, means of communication-- please you." They knew how . behaviors, expressions, the rod. "He who spares his I thought and what I would concerns, love, hate, and rod hates his son, but he who want them to do in most character traits of all kinds loves him disciplines him situations. This kind of before we know it. diligently" (Prov. 13:24). relationship develops over Perhaps we should spend "Foolishness is bound up in the the years when parents and more time in listening to our heaJ1 of a child; the md of children are in constant children than in talking with disdpline will remove it far communication with one them. We must teach them from him" (Prov.22:15). "Do another. This is not to say to be good listeners by not hold back discipline fmm that they always used that listening to them. By the child, although you beat him knowledge as a guideline. fonning the habit of listening, with the rod, he wilInot die. Yes, we had our problems we can analyze thoughts, You shall beat him with the rod, and differences, but we feelings, attitudes, and and deliver his soul from Sheol" approached them with a firm behavior or misbehavior. (Prov.23:13-14). "The md \: and committed effort to WIth this approach, we can and reproof give wisdom, but a communicate with the better understand and focus child who gets his own way children on their level of our attention on the needs of b1ings shame to his mother" I, understanding. Underlying our children before they (Prov.29:15). the dialogues that we had become critical problems. We must base our was the child's basic Sometimes correcting a communication on scripture, understanding that we child's attitude or behavior that is, teaching our children wanted Christian can be done so subtly that it scriptural principles as commitment and behavior. is not necessary even to make guidelines for life. Prayer in They knew the meaning of it an issue of which the child itself can be a "glorifying God and enjoying is aware. If the child has communication model. As Him forever." responded in an improper we focus on Jesus' prayer in Communication is more manner or displays a bad Matthew 6, we, in tum, can than just words--its actions attitude, the parent can ask teach our children how to as well! We teach our questions about why he or communicate by letting them children by being the role she feels justified in his or hear us communicate with model Christ would have us her attitude or behavior to God through prayer. be: Children are extremely open dialogue about the Children need to feel that 26 'i' THE COUNSEL ofChalcedon 'i' April!May, 1998 prayer is a natural and normal means of communicating our heartfelt concerns, fears, joys, and . desires to our Lord Jesus Christ. One exciting aspect of teaching children to pray is to show them how God answers prayer. As parents, we must talk with our children about our prayer . requests and how God has answered those prayers. We must always give God credit for everything that happenS in our lives or the life of the family. There are times that God brings calamity (Isa. 45:5-7) for purposes that only He knows or chooses to reveal to us in due time. Children need to know, understand, and experience this biblical principle and see the parents modeling a God-honoring response. As our children grow older and leave home, our communication with them must continue in a very open, deliberate manner. Regular conversations with them either in person or on the phone are necessary. If we discover some area that needs special attention, certainly we must talk with them in person--face to face. One can better communicate concern, sympathY; or joy with facial expressions, voice inflections, and tears of joy or sadness in a private face to face conversation. Under no circumstances must we pry into their private lives unless sin and the breaking of God's law are a factor. We use these opportunities to help them think through situations or behaviors and to exhort them to seek Gods will through prayer and scripture reading. By being a model communicator with our children from conception to the grave, we have the opportunity to influence communication with generations to come. We must constantly exhort our adult children not to simply match our efforts to communicate, but to improve upon them with their children. Naturally; we want to influence the many generations after us with the biblical principles of Reformed Christian doctrine. Only through prayer and the constant feeding upon Gods Word combined with our efforts to communicate can we have this influence. n "We are also thankful that Bob's'wife, Annette, agreed to contribute for the first time to The Counsel. Not only has she successfully raised her three , children by God's grace, but also as a middle and high school English teacher at Chalcedon Christian School, she continues to mold the next generation for lifewide usefulness in the kingdom of Jesus Christ." -- Chris Strevel That Saturday morning twenty-seven years ago began as any other until a telephone conversation occurred which changed my ideas about communication forever. I thought I knew all about listening and sharing; after all, I had a degree in the teaching of English. However, that Saturday morning telephone call from a third grade teacher and friend who had come to visit us upon the birth of our third child revealed my inadequacies. The afternoon of her visit she made no reference to her observations but called on the foHowing Saturday morning to tell me gently that I needed to learn to listen to my son, for when he learned that she was a third grade teacher he became quiet, refUSing to converse with her. "Annette," this teacher said, "You must learn to listen closely; draw him out, and discover what is going on in his life." As the mother of three April!May, 1998 'i' THE COUNSEL of Chalcedon 'i' 27