Lifestyle for Success & Happiness

Module I:
Definition of lifestyle simply means the typical way a person goes about daily living. Most
people, however, define it in terms of wealth or a lack thereof. This doesn't begin to hit the mark.
hen the facets that truly make up a lifestyle are considered, the all!encompassing nature of this
term becomes clear.
A lifestyle does, of course, involve wealth and careers. But, it also covers such things as
habits, family status and more.
"o matter what a person's lifestyle happens to be, there are ways to improve upon troublesome
areas. hen living a life empowered with emotional well being is desired, positive thinking and
goals can make a difference.
Facets that a!e "p a Lifestyle
#veryone has their own distinct lifestyle that covers their typical actions and surroundings on a
daily basis. $ome of the things that go into making one's lifestyle distinct include:
Habits % #verything a person does on a habitual or regular basis helps make up their
uni&ue lifestyle. 'rom diet and the pursuit of a good lifestyle family fitness to bad habits like
smoking, they're all part of the picture.
#areer % The career or employment opportunities a person pursues also help define
lifestyle.
Financial means % hile this isn't necessarily the most important facet of a lifestyle, it
does help define the manner in which an individual might live.
$motional well being % (ifestyle is also a state of mind. hen personal peace and
satisfaction are a part of everyday living, wealth won't necessarily matter in the creation of a
healthy, happy lifestyle.
hat is a )#*(T)+ (I'#$T+(#,
* way of living that )#(-$ +./ #"0.+ more aspects of your life. )ealth is not 1ust about
avoiding a disease or illness. It is about physical, mental and social well!being too.
2. hat is a )#*(T)+ (I'#$T+(#,
hen you adopt a healthy lifestyle you provide a more positive role model for other people in
your family, particularly children. +ou will also create a better environment for them to grow up
in. 3y helping them to follow a healthier lifestyle you will be contributing to their wellbeing and
en1oyment of life now and in the future.
How to Live a Healthy Lifestyle
4. 5hoose )ealthy 'oods
6. $elect foods that are low in both sugar and highly refined carbohydrates.
2. #at a variety of different whole foods instead of eating processed foods.
7. Incorporate organic foods
8. 9et $ome #:ercise
;. 9o to the gym 2 to 8 times per week.
<. Ditch your car
=. *void e:cessive smoking and alcohol intake.
>. 9et plenty of sleep
4?. *lways wear clean clothes
44. 5onsider your social network
e spend our lives sitting % at our desks, in front of the T@, in a meeting or on the phone. "ew
research is emerging highlighting the potential risk to health from all our sitting behaviour. $o
break your sitting time by standing for five minutes and reap the health benefits.
Every little bit counts and it all adds up to burning more calories.
If youAre overweight, making small changes in your daily e:ercise routine can benefit your
health. In fact one study has found that 1ust a 4?B drop in weight helped overweight people to
reduce their blood pressure, cholesterol and improve their wellbeing.
%ight Attitude in life
In todayAs life when one is thronged with worries and tensions all around, it is very difficult to
maintain a positive attitude. *nd often the more you try and be positive, the more it seems the
negative energy around you gains strength. $o here are < ways to change our modus operandi, be
positive and work towards a healthier lifestyle.
&o 'ot (ait for Happiness.
Do not wait for good things to happen to you. +ou need to work towards happiness. +ou need to
create a happy environment around you today to remain happy tomorrow. This is called an
attitude. If you adopt a positive attitude, life becomes a rewarding game instead of a challenge to
Cget through.A
#larify and )rioriti*e
(earn to know what you want. If you know what you e:pect from yourself, your future becomes
clear and your goals become attainable
+ clarify your purpose: * purpose is something you fulfill each moment when you are in
balance with your life. D* purpose is a simple, positive statement of why you are hereE. *
purpose isnAt a goal statement, which one can achieve.
F &iscover your purpose: by identifying G prioritiHing your most important roles in life Dat
home, at work, community etcE (ist the positive &ualities that you aspire to possess: )onesty,
-hilanthropic, *ccommodating, Tolerant etc.
F ,isuali*e your future, with a clear picture in your mind of what you want to accomplish in
your lifetime Dyou can become what you think you are and what you seeE. .ne of the most
powerful techni&ues for achieving life goals is visualiHation Dcreating a mental image of
something happening in futureE. 3elieving in and seeing your dreams can motivate you to
become what you want to be.
F Set goals for yourself DTo help your dreams for the future become a reality, you need to set
short G long term goalsE to stay on course.
To provide steady fuel for your energy, create a list of long term goals to be accomplished in life
time G break them into several interim short term goals to help you chart your progress.
Be %esilient
Iesilient people are those who face setbacks but ultimately, with perseverance, recover from
them. Try and be strong and face lifeAs difficulties as challengesJ respond accordingly with
action, rather than with fear, self!pity, inferiority or blame. hile life can be very challenging, an
important step in becoming more resilient is to develop the habit of positive self talk and to
remind yourself that you are strong and can grow stronger and wiser as you handle lifeAs
challenges.
Self )ep -al!
.neAs inner dialogue is oneAs biggest strength and critic. (isten to your inner self and talk to it.
Motivate yourself rather than getting motivated by others. It is the inner voice that makes us
critical of ourselves. Iule your inner voiceK
Laugh Away
)umor is the best medicine. Make laughter a part of your day. (aughter is known to be a mood
elevator. hen feeling low, read funny stories or go through a 1oke book. *llow yourself to open
up. $ee the funny side of things and you will realiHe, life is a comple:, yet funny game.
Be an .ptimist
This is the golden rule to maintaining a positive attitude. *lways believe in yourself. 3eing an
optimist does not only mean to see the brighter side of life. To be an optimist means to view the
surroundings wherein you ma:imiHe your strengths and achievements and minimiHe your
weaknesses and apprehensions.
It is difficult to change yourself in a day But at least give it a try. A positive attitude in life will
help you go places. Just curb that fear in you and move towards the right path!!
Why be optimistic?
A pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in
every difficulty. Winston !hurchill"
$o why be optimistic, apart from the obvious point that when you are, you feel better and
more positive,
F .ptimism makes life more en1oyable % it tends to create positive emotions which make us feel
good
F .ptimism is catching % itAs like laughter: if you are positive, so are the people around you and
it spreads
F $tudies show that optimists are winners in good times and better survivors in hard times, e.g.
concentration camps
F .ptimism is a key factor for success in life. $ome of the most successful innovations De.g. the
light bulb and many books such as (ord of the IingsE suffered plenty of problems and re1ections
in their inception, and if it wasnAt for the boundless optimism of their creators, they wouldnAt be
here.
F .ptimism really pays off when you are faced with a life problem, setbac! or challenge as we
all are at one point or another in our lives
F hatAs going to happen is going to happen anyway, so you might as well ma!e the best of it,
otherwise whatAs the point,
F .ptimism is good for your health. Iesearch has proven that a healthy dose of positive thinking
boosts your immune system so you stay healthy and keep illnesses at bay
F -eople perceive us based on how we perceive ourselves, which stems from our personal
values and beliefs. e are responsible for what happens because we have created it
#imple tips to help you be more optimistic
4. Thought police % monitor your thoughts and notice what you worry about. $ee the
$nergise website/s tips and tools for details of !eeping a stress diary which will shed
some light on what you worry about and what to do about it.
6. $pend your time with positive and upbeat people. *void things that drain your positivity %
depressing stories and negative people. Think of this as food and what effect it would have if you
were eating to:ic or poisonous foods.
2. 9et to know your gremlins % negative self!talk or mental chatter that can create
negative thinking. *cknowledging these is important so that you can let them go.
7. (ook after yourself % eat good food, drink water, get enough sleep and e:ercise
because these things help you to feel optimistic.
8. -amper yourself and take time to recharge. Shiatsu is great for this, especially if you
are going through a transition as many of our clients are, and especially if you suffer
from $*D syndrome or are prone to depression.
<. DonAt spend all your time regretting the past or living in the futureJ the only time you
really live and know that you can is II9)T "., so focus your attention in the present
moment and en1oy it.
=. )ave clear goals and know where you are heading and how to get there, but be
open to whatever occurs along the way. $c!hart -olle/s boo! $ractising the $ower
of %ow is e:cellent guidance for this.
>. $et aside a specific 2?!minute time slot each day to focus on your worries and stresses. 'or the
rest of the day choose to be present and as optimistic as you can.
Locus of #ontrol
The concept of locus of control was developed by psychologist 0ulian %otter, who devised the
Internal!#:ternal (ocus of 5ontrol $cale DI!#E to assess this dimension of personality. $tudies
have found that this test is a valid predictor of behavior typically associated with locus of
control.
Iesearch has shown that those with an internal locus of control!!that is, they feel that they
control their own destiny, rather than their fate being largely determined by e:ternal forces!!tend
to be happier, less depressed, and less stressed.
-eople with an internal locus of control are inclined to take responsibility for their actions, are
not easily influenced by the opinions of others, and tend to do better at tasks when they can work
at their own pace. 3y comparison, people with an e:ternal locus of control tend to blame outside
circumstances for their mistakes and credit their successes to luck rather than to their own
efforts. They are readily influenced by the opinions of others and are more likely to pay attention
to the status of the opinion!holder, while people with an internal locus of control pay more
attention to the content of the opinion regardless of who holds it. $ome researchers have claimed
that LinternalsL tend to be more intelligent and more success!oriented than Le:ternals.L In the
elementary grades, children with an internal locus of control have been found to earn higher
grades.
'ortunately, if your locus of control isn't as 'internal' as you'd like it to be, there are things you
can do to change your locus of control and empower yourself. )ere's a process to practice:
Here1s How2
4. IealiHe that you always have choice to change your situation. #ven if you donAt like the
choices available at the moment, even if the only change you can make is in your attitude,
you always have some choices.
6. hen you feel trapped, make a list of all possible courses of action. 0ust brainstorm and
write things down without evaluating them first.
2. +ou may want to also brainstorm with a friend to get more ideas that you may not have
initially considered. DonAt shoot down these ideas right away, eitherJ 1ust write them
down.
7. hen you have a list, evaluate each one and decide on the best course of action for you,
and keep the others in the back of your mind as alternative options. +ou may end up with
the same answer you had before the brainstorming session, but this e:ercise can open
your eyes to the amount of choices you have in a given situation. $eeing new possibilities
will become more of a habit.
8. Iepeat this practice when you feel trapped in frustrating situations in your life. In more
casual, everyday situations, you can still e:pand your mind to new possibilities by doing
this &uickly and mentally.
odule 332
hat Is Mindfulness,
Mindfulness means maintaining a moment!by!moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings,
bodily sensations, and surrounding environment.
hen we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what weAre sensing in the present moment
rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.
4. Simple Actions for )ure )eace and #ontentment
6. IecogniHe enough.
2. $implify life.
9ive up what you donAt need and be glad you did. $o many things can fall into this category.
7. )ave real fun.
Iegret can be a mood killer. e often take the serious and over!analyHed road when making
decisions. ItAs good to be responsibleJ itAs also good to take a chance even if it entails a
big mistake.
8. a!e room for 4uiet.
hether you pray, meditate, listen to nature, or even 1ust be, allow yourself to hear whatAs in
your heart. 5onnecting with what is inside better prepares you to deal with the e:terior world
with calmness and peace. 9ive up control and release yourself to thoughts and emotions that
can heal, strengthen, and even surprise you.
;. rite a list of everything youAre grateful for right now.
Iead it often. 9ratitude is powerful, and taking stock of everything you have right now can
help ease the pressure in stressful times.
<. Make two lists of goals: immediate goals for the week ahead and bigger!picture goals to
work toward.
3eing able to check off smaller goals grounds you in the present and will help motivate you
to keep working toward those bigger, future goals. Momentum is also powerful force.
=. 5elebrate small successes every day.
The biggest achievements are often a result of multiple small ones. 3y learning to appreciate
the little things, you open yourself up to a world of 1oy.
>. Iemember that in the end, there is nothing you have to do.
4?. %esilient
Iesilient people are those who face setbacks but ultimately, with perseverance, recover from
them. Try and be strong and face lifeAs difficulties as challengesJ respond accordingly with
action, rather than with fear, self!pity, inferiority or blame. hile life can be very
challenging, an important step in becoming more resilient is to develop the habit of positive
self talk and to remind yourself that you are strong and can grow stronger and wiser as you
handle lifeAs challenges.
Ten Ways to Become More Resilient
1. 3uild -ositive 3eliefs in +our *bilities
6. 'ind a $ense of -urpose in +our (ife
2. Develop a $trong $ocial "etwork
7. #mbrace 5hange
8. 3e .ptimistic
;. "urture +ourself
<. Develop +our -roblem!$olving $kills
=. #stablish 9oals
>. Take $teps to $olve -roblems
4?. Meep orking on +our $kills
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-eople who are emotionally healthy are in control of their emotions and their behavior. They
are able to handle life's challenges, build strong relationships, and recover from setbacks. 3ut
1ust as it re&uires effort to build or maintain physical health, so it is with mental and emotional
health.
)eople who are mentally and emotionally healthy have2
* sense of contentment.
* Hest for living and the ability to laugh and have fun.
The ability to deal with stress and bounce back from adversity.
* sense of meaning and purpose, in both their activities and their relationships.
The fle:ibility to learn new things and adapt to change.
* balance between work and play, rest and activity, etc.
The ability to build and maintain fulfilling relationships.
$elf!confidence and high self!esteem.
These positive characteristics of mental and emotional health allow you to participate in life to
the fullest e:tent possible through productive, meaningful activities and strong relationships.
These positive characteristics also help you cope when faced with life's challenges and stresses.
The role of resilience in mental and emotional health
3eing emotionally and mentally healthy doesnAt mean never going through bad times or
e:periencing emotional problems. e all go through disappointments, loss, and change. *nd
while these are normal parts of life, they can still cause sadness, an:iety, and stress.
The difference is that people with good emotional health have an ability to bounce back from
adversity, trauma, and stress. This ability is called resilience. -eople who are emotionally and
mentally healthy have the tools for coping with difficult situations and maintaining a positive
outlook. They remain focused, fle:ible, and creative in bad times as well as good.
Improve mental and emotional health by taking care of yourself
In order to maintain and strengthen your mental and emotional health, itAs important to pay
attention to your own needs and feelings. DonAt let stress and negative emotions build up. Try to
maintain a balance between your daily responsibilities and the things you en1oy. If you take care
of yourself, youAll be better prepared to deal with challenges if and when they arise.
Taking care of yourself includes pursuing activities that naturally release endorphins and
contribute to feeling good. In addition to physical e:ercise, endorphins are also naturally released
when we:
&o things that positively impact others. 3eing useful to others and being valued for
what you do can help build self!esteem.
)ractice self6discipline. $elf!control naturally leads to a sense of hopefulness and can
help you overcome despair, helplessness, and other negative thoughts.
Learn or discover new things. Think of it as Nintellectual candy.O Try taking an adult
education class, 1oin a book club, visit a museum, learn a new language, or simply travel
somewhere new.
$n7oy the beauty of nature or art. $tudies show that simply walking through a
garden can lower blood pressure and reduce stress. The same goes for strolling through a
park or an art gallery, hiking, admiring architecture, or sitting on a beach.
anage your stress levels. $tress takes a heavy toll on mental and emotional health,
so itAs important to keep it under control. hile not all stressors can be avoided, stress
management strategies can help you bring things back into balance.
Limit unhealthy mental habits li!e worrying. Try to avoid becoming absorbed by
repetitive mental habitsPnegative thoughts about yourself and the world that suck up
time, drain your energy, and trigger feelings of an:iety, fear, and depression.
$ngage in meaningful, creative wor!. Do things that challenge your creativity and
make you feel productive, whether or not you get paid for itPthings like gardening,
drawing, writing, playing an instrument, or building something in your workshop.
8et a pet. +es, pets are a responsibility, but caring for one makes you feel needed and
loved. There is no love &uite as unconditional as the love a pet can give. *nimals can also
get you out of the house for e:ercise and e:pose you to new people and places.
a!e leisure time a priority. Do things for no other reason than that it feels good to
do them. 9o to a funny movie, take a walk on the beach, listen to music, read a good
book, or talk to a friend. Doing things 1ust because they are fun is no indulgence. -lay is
an emotional and mental health necessity.
a!e time for contemplation and appreciation. Think about the things youAre
grateful for. Mediate, pray, en1oy the sunset, or simply take a moment to pay attention to
what is good, positive, and beautiful as you go about your day.
odule2 333
What is the defnition of a True Relationship?
If you break down the word Re-la-tion-ship: Taking a journey on a ship with
your partner and learning how to relate to one another. It is a journey to
relate or learn fro ea!h other and fro e"erything around you. #ou are
taking this life journey together$ !reating agi! oents and working
through the hard or tough ties$ and ost iportantly growing stronger
together. It is like you are !ons!iousnesses erging to be!oe one - not just
getting along
Defnition: % relationship is a bond between two indi"idual or ore.
Stages of Relationship:
There two key role in the life span of relationship. The a!tual task of the role
holders is dynai!s and !hanges at di&erent stages of the relationship.
The Good Time: The role of the indi"idual here is fairly straightforward '
pro"ide a lo"ing$ %ttenti"e en"ironent for one another where trust and
!ouni!ation are "ital fa!tors.
The Bad Time: In this stage trust and !ouni!ation breakdown. (ow the
role of the iddleperson !hange draati!ally$ their role is now to pro"ide the
NglueO in the relationship.
The End Time: This is the end stage of relationship$ if the )iddleperson
su!!eed to aintain relationship then both indi"idual o"e ba!k to the frst
stage otherwise relationship break.
Ten Tips For Healthy Relationships
Healthy relationships ring happiness and health to o!r li"es#
*tudies show that people with healthy relationships really do ha"e ore
happiness and less stress. There are asic $ays to ma%e relationships
healthy$ e"en though ea!h one is di&erent+parents$ siblings$ friends$
boyfriends$ girlfriends$ professors$ rooates$ and !lassates. ,ere are Ten
Tips for Healthy Relationships&
'# (eep e)pectations realistic# (o one !an be e"erything we ight want
hi or her to be. *oeties people disappoint us. It-s not all-or-nothing$
though. ,ealthy relationships ean a!!epting people as they are and not
trying to !hange the.
*# Tal% $ith each other# It !an-t be said enough: !ouni!ation is
essential in healthy relationships. It eans/
Ta%e the time# Really be there.
Gen!inely listen# 0on-t plan what to say ne1t while you-re trying to listen.
0on-t interrupt.
+isten $ith yo!r ears and yo!r heart# *oeties people ha"e eotional
essages to share and wea"e it into their words.
,s% -!estions# %sk if you think you ay ha"e issed the point. %sk friendly
2and appropriate.3 4uestions. %sk for opinions. *how your interest. 5pen the
!ouni!ation door.
Share information# *tudies show that sharing inforation espe!ially helps
relationships begin. 6e generous in sharing yourself$ but don-t o"erwhel
others with too u!h too soon.
.# Be /e)ile# )ost of us try to keep people and situations just the way we
like the to be. It-s natural to feel apprehensi"e$ e"en sad or angry$ when
people or things !hange and we-re not ready for it. ,ealthy relationships
ean !hange and growth are allowed.
0# Ta%e care of yo!# #ou probably hope those around you like you so you
ay try to please the. 0on-t forget to please yourself. ,ealthy relationships
are utual.
1# Be dependale# If you ake plans with soeone$ follow through. If you
ha"e an assignent deadline$ eet it. If you take on a responsibility$
!oplete it. ,ealthy relationships are trustworthy.
2# Fight fair# )ost relationships ha"e soe !on7i!t. It only eans you
disagree about soething$ it doesn-t ha"e to ean you don-t like ea!h other.
When you ha"e a proble:
3egotiate a time to tal% ao!t it# 0on-t ha"e di8!ult !on"ersations when
you are "ery angry or tired. %sk$ 9When is a good tie to talk about
soething that is bothering e?9 ,ealthy relationships are based on respe!t
and ha"e roo for both.
Don4t critici5e# %tta!k the proble$ not the other person. 5pen sensiti"e
!on"ersations with 9I9 stateents: talk about how you struggle with the
proble. 0on-t open with 9you9 stateents: a"oid blaing the other person
for your thoughts and feelings. ,ealthy relationships don-t blae.
Don4t assign feelings or moti"es# ;et others speak for thesel"es.
,ealthy relationships re!ogni<e ea!h person-s right to e1plain thesel"es.
Stay $ith the topic# 0on-t use a !urrent !on!ern as a reason to jup into
e"erything that bothers you. ,ealthy relationships don-t use aunition fro
the past to fuel the present.
Say6 784m sorry7 $hen yo!4re $rong# It goes a long way in aking things
right again. ,ealthy relationships !an adit istakes.
Don4t ass!me things# When we feel !lose to soeone it-s easy to think we
know how he or she thinks and feels. We !an be "ery wrong. ,ealthy
relationships !he!k things out.
,s% for help if yo! need it# Talk with soeone who !an help you fnd
resolution/like your R%$ a !ounselor$ a tea!her$ a inister or e"en parents.
=he!k !apus resour!es like =ounseling *er"i!es at >?@-AB@C. ,ealthy
relationships aren-t afraid to ask for help.
There may not e a resol"ed ending# 6e prepared to !oproise or to
disagree about soe things. ,ealthy relationships don-t deand !onfority
or perfe!t agreeent.
Don4t hold gr!dges# #ou don-t ha"e to a!!ept anything and e"erything$ but
don-t hold grudges/they just drain your energy. *tudies show that the ore
we see the best in others$ the better healthy relationships get. ,ealthy
relationships don-t hold on to past hurts and isunderstandings.
The goal is for e"eryone to e a $inner# Relationships with winners and
losers don-t last. ,ealthy relationships are between winners who seek
answers to probles together.
9o! can lea"e a relationship# #ou !an !hoose to o"e out of a
relationship. *tudies tell us that loyalty is "ery iportant in good
relationships$ but healthy relationships are (5W$ not soe hoped-for future
de"elopent.
:# Sho$ yo!r $armth# *tudies tell us warth is highly "alued by ost
people in their relationships. ,ealthy relationships show eotional warth.
;# (eep yo!r life alanced# 5ther people help ake our li"es satisfying
but they !an-t !reate that satisfa!tion for us. 5nly you !an fll your life. 0on-t
o"erload on a!ti"ities$ but do use your tie at !ollege to try new things/
!lubs$ "olunteering$ le!tures$ proje!ts. #ou-ll ha"e ore opportunities to eet
people and ore to share with the. ,ealthy relationships aren-t dependent.
<# 8t4s a process# *oeties it looks like e"eryone else on !apus is
!onfdent and !onne!ted. %!tually$ ost people feel just like you feel$
wondering how to ft in and ha"e good relationships. It takes tie to eet
people and get to know the+so$ ake 9sall talk9+respond to others+
sile+keep trying. ,ealthy relationships !an be learned and pra!ti!ed and
keep getting better.
'=# Be yo!rself& It-s u!h easier and u!h ore fun to be you than to
pretend to be soething or soeone else. *ooner or later$ it !at!hes up
anyway. ,ealthy relationships are ade of real people$ not iages.
* frail man called 9andhi, clad only in loin cloth, became a driving force in India that shook the
might of 3ritish #mpire.
* nun started a small order with twelve others that grew into NMissionary of 5harity.O Mother
Teresa and her order has helped more number of people across globe than many put together has
done in history of mankind.
$tarting with a small amount of Is 4????Q! a software engineer "arayan Murthy started Infosys
that employs more than <?,??? people today and is a software giant.
Two cycle mechanics, right brothers, conceived an idea to build a machine that will fly, and
invented the airplane, a heavier than air machine that actually flies. Iest is history.
ith Is. 48???Q!, a 28? s& feet. Ioom with a telephone, one table and three chairs Dhiru 3hai
*mbani started Ieliance 5ommercial 5orporation that became the only Indian business to make
it in 'ortune 8?? and to be featured in 'orbes 8??.
* small boy who sold newspaper, to substitute his fatherAs small income as boat builder, Dr. *-0
*bdul Malam, became one of the greatest defence scientist and a visionary who became the
-resident of India.
M. $. .beroi started a career as a front desk clerk in a hotel at a salary of Is. 8?Q! became the
father of hospitality industry in India and built the .beroi group of hotels, one of the most
respected hospitality brands internationally.
These are 1ust a few e:amples of great people. There are numerous super achievers in this world
who seemingly never had a chance, but still made it.
They have one thing in common % They are Dreamers.
*ll great things in the world start with a dream. The siHe of your success will depend on the siHe
of your dream.
Dream is nothing but an idea conceived in your mind that you get passionate about. Dream is
something that makes you feel that N+esK This is the purpose of my life.O
Dream gives you the courage, to overcome obstacles. It makes you achieve the impossible.
Dream sets you apart from rest of the people. It is your dream that can make you great.
-here are no great people, .nly great &reams.
-here are two !inds of people in this world99
.ne who have there own dreams
.ther, who follow other people/s dream.
(hich one is 5ou:
It is the human being who has been gifted with the power to dream. e all have that power. *s
children we have vivid imagination and fantasies. e do not know what is possible and what is
not. e 1ust imagine.
3ut as we grow old, we face the harsh realities of life. e come to know about the limitations of
our circumstances. e start knowing why something is impossible. *nd what is the first thing we
do, e bury our dreams.
"nderstanding the Language of &reams
+our dreams deliver a rich soup of information every day. )ow can you remember them,
How -o %emember 5our &reams
4. *sk yourself to dream about something you want help with before going to sleep.
6. Iecord dreams before they fade using a notepad or tape recorder.
2. Take what you get, even a dream fragment.
7. DonAt overdo alcohol or other sedatives before bedtimePthey can disrupt sleep and make
it harder to remember dreams.
8. 9et enough sleep to help you better recall your dreams.
;. 3e patient. +ou may not remember your dreams right away.
<. DonAt lose a lot of sleep trying to remember every dream.
-ypes of &reams
There are very different types of dreams. Mostly, we e:perience dreams as a composite of
familiar e:periences. Those e:periences may flow into each other more suddenly or abruptly
than in waking life. These ordinary dreams usually do contain significant meaning worth
e:ploring.
.ther kinds of dreams may shake you up or even challenge your model of reality. The most
commonly recogniHed categories of dreams are as follows Da single dream may fit more than one
of these categoriesE:
.rdinary
9uiding
Iepetitive
*rchetypal
"ightmares
N3igO dreams
1. 8uiding dreams can outline the core issue a person is struggling with and provide
e:tensive guidance on how to proceed with treatment. .ther guiding dreams may offer
meaningful perspectives from an inner healer or teacher.
@. %epetitive dreams suggest that the unrealiHed dream material has not been understood or
the dreamer canAt or wonAt respond to it.
?. Archetypal dreams contain universal forms DarchetypesE. 'or e:ample, an image of a
golden sphere can represent wholeness and completion of long internal work.
D. 'ightmares are sufficiently frightening that they awaken the dreamer to a situation
unaddressed in conscious life. The dreamer usually recalls nightmare contents. This is
different from Nsleep terrorsO where someone may awaken in a terrified state but be
unable to record the dream contents. The difference may be physiological, since sleep
terrors are produced during a deeper state of sleep.
>. ;Big< dreams contain visions or information beyond oneAs daily, personal concerns.
These are relatively rare and may be more common to people of intellectual, visionary or
spiritual stature. *n e:ample of such a dream is that of 5. 9. 0ung before one of the great
world wars of the 6?th century, in which he saw #urope floating in an ocean of blood.
So, what is the subconscious mind:
The subconscious is the part of your mind that is not immediately accessible by your conscious
mindJ it functions below your normal level of waking consciousness. #nvision your
subconscious as a huge filing cabinet that stores files such as: every wonderful and traumatic
e:perience you have ever had, habits, skills, and every visual image you have ever seen. In
contrast, the conscious part of your mind is responsible for logic, generating thoughts, being
proactive and deciding which path to take. In your conscious mind, all of these functions are
completely under your control, unlike your subconscious mind. The conscious mind makes
decisions and gives orders to the subconscious mind. Therefore, the subconscious will carry out
the directive based on what is programmed, not necessarily what you are re&uesting. +esRI
know, it sounds a bit scaryR.keep reading.
+our subconscious mind carries out the instructions of your conscious mind without &uestioning.
ithin your subconscious lies all your beliefs Dincluding limited beliefsE and habits Dwhat you do
every dayE. .ur beliefs and habits control our everyday life. ere you aware that ==B of your
mind is comprised of the subconscious, which you do not actively control, .n a daily basis you
only use 46B of your conscious mind. Therefore, your subconscious mind is at the helmJ itAs
running the ship%you.
Is your ship on course?
Are you sailing in the right direction?
Is your subconscious mind programmed to help you achieve success in every area of your
life?
How to %eprogram 5our Subconscious ind
There are several ways to reprogram the subconscious mind. e will e:plore four powerful and
effective strategies within this article. These strategies are affirmations, visualiHation, meditation
and positive self!talk.
(imited beliefs and negative habits can be reprogrammed by using affirmations. The
subconscious mind learns through repetition. An affirmation is a definitive statement asserting
that something e&ists or is true. #very belief and habit you possess was formed through
repetitionJ and we can implant new ones the same way. The first step toward implanting new
beliefs and developing new habits is to know e:actly what you really want to have, do and be.
$o, letAs e:plore affirmationsK
Strategy =2 Affirmations
*ffirmations are an effective way to plant positive messages into your subconscious. It is one of
the most effective ways to change a limited or negative belief. +ou must be careful of what you
affirm as it becomes a self!fulfilling prophecy. If you continuously say Nthis is never going to
work,O then it is highly probable that things never will.
Here are some e>amples of affirmations2
4. I am a genius and use my mind, talents, gifts and abilities to produce wealth.
6. I am living a life of divine purpose and destiny.
2. I am emotionally, mentally and psychologically sound.
7. I am focused and driven to create the life I want and deserve.
8. I am a money magnetJ money flows to me.
Strategy ?2 ,isuali*ation
'isuali(ation is a techni)ue that involves focusing on positive mental images in order to
achieve a particular goal. It is the ability to vividly imagine somethingPto NseeO it in the
mindAs eyePbefore it e:ists in any physical reality. $teve 0obs had a clear mental image of what
the i-hone would look like and its functions and features before he and his team began to design
and build it. @isual images have a huge impact on your brain, both consciously and
subconsciously. 5onse&uently, visualiHation is a great way to programQreprogram your
subconscious mind.
Strategy @2 editation
Meditation plays a vital role in reprogramming the subconscious mind, because it helps to still
the mind. In this state, your brain becomes more receptiveJ it becomes fertile ground for
whatever you want to NimplantO into the mind. +our conscious mind engages in the activities of
writing powerful goals, creating a vision state, and developing affirmations. To have those seeds
take root and flourish into reality, we have to get those words and images soaked deep into our
subconscious mind. -lacing yourself in a meditative state is an e:cellent way to help that
process. Iegular meditation trains your mind to hold its focus without getting distracted. .ver
time, meditation helps you to become laser focused.
Strategy A2 )ositive Self6-al!
$everal years ago, I read a powerful book, titled NWhat to Say When You Talk To Yourself,O by
$had )elmstetter about the power of the mind and using positive self!talk as a tool to reprogram
the subconscious mind.
.n a daily basis, we spend more time talking to ourselves than any other person. hether itAs a
verbal tirade, an analytical discussion or the incessant chatter that takes place within our mind.
.ur self!talk dictates our mood, behavior and guides our choices and decisions. -erhaps the
most powerful influence on your attitude and emotions is what you say to yourself, and believe.
*s I always say, NIt is not what happens to you that really matters, but what you say to yourself
about what happened.O +our response to the event or situation is what determines your thoughts
and feelings and ultimately, your actions. 3y effectively managing your self!talk, you can begin
to live your life on a higher level and create the life you truly want and deserve.
Module I@:
-ime anagement2
Importance of Time Management:
4. Time can not be recall
6. #very work re&uired time
2. #veryone has same time
#haracteristics of time2
4. "eutral
6. Time cannot be save for the future prospectus
2. It is e&uivalent to money or much important than the money
Factors of time wasting2
4. Iecall old things
6. #:cessive thinking about the future
2. "o work $trategy
7. (aHiness
8. Interruptions
Benefits of -ime anagement2
4. .rganiHed life
6. Ieduce stress
2. working efficiency enhance
7. More time
8. Internal Motivation
;. "o e:cuses
<. (ess an:iety
=. )ealthy family relationship
>. More energy
4?. )ealthy life
-eam .rientation2
* group is defined as two or more individuals, interacting and interdependent, who have come
together to achieve ob1ectives.
In a team, only those committed to e:cellence are hired. -rospective team members are &ueuing at the
door to be recruited on the basis of their high levels of hard and soft skill sets. #veryone works together in
a harmonious environment
Stages of 8roup B -eam Formation2
3ruce Tuckman has identified four stages that characteriHe the development of groups.
/nderstanding these stages can help determine what is happening with a group and how to
manage what is occurring. These four group development stages are known as forming,
storming, norming, and performing.
Forming
This is the initial stage when the group comes together and members begin to develop their
relationship with one another and learn what is e:pected of them. This is the stage when team
building begins and trust starts to develop. 9roup members will start establishing limits on
acceptable behavior through e:perimentation. .ther membersA reactions will determine if a
behavior will be repeated. This is also the time when the tasks of the group and the members will
be decided.
Storming
During this stage of group development, interpersonal conflicts arise and differences of opinion
about the group and its goals will surface. If the group is unable to clearly state its purposes and
goals or if it cannot agree on shared goals, the group may collapse at this point. It is important to
work through the conflict at this time and to establish clear goals. It is necessary for there to be
discussion so everyone feels heard and can come to an agreement on the direction the group is to
move in.
'orming
.nce the group resolves its conflicts, it can now establish patterns of how to get its work done.
#:pectations of one another are clearly articulated and accepted by members of the group.
'ormal and informal procedures are established in delegating tasks, responding to &uestions, and
in the process by which the group functions. Members of the group come to understand how the
group as a whole operates.
)erforming
During this final stage of development, issues related to roles, e:pectations, and norms are no
longer of ma1or importance. The group is now focused on its task, working intentionally and
effectively to accomplish its goals. The group will find that it can celebrate its accomplishments
and that members will be learning new skills and sharing roles. *fter a group enters the
performing stage, it is unrealistic to e:pect it to remain there permanently. hen new members
1oin or some people leave, there will be a new process of forming, storming, and norming
engaged as everyone learns about one another. #:ternal events may lead to conflicts within the
group. To remain healthy, groups will go through all of these processes in a continuous loop.
hen conflict arises in a group, do not try to silence the conflict or to run from it. (et the
conflict come out into the open so people can discuss it. If the conflict is kept under the surface,
members will not be able to build trusting relationships and this could harm the groupAs
effectiveness. If handled properly, the group will come out of the conflict with a stronger sense
of cohesiveness then before.
-eam Building
Steps in team building2
*ccording to MatHenbanch and smith real teamwork can be accomplished by following steps:
4. Selection of members on the basis of s!ills2 Members should be selected on the basis of their
potentials to improve e:isting skills and learn new ones. Three types of skills are usually re&uired:
Technical skills
-roblem solving and decision making
Interpersonal skills
The individual members of the team may poses these skills in varying degrees but it should be ensured
that these skills are complimentary i.e. they should support the efforts of others in the group.
6. Setting challenging goals2 The team must be assigned to accomplish goals which are above the goals
of individual members.
@. &eveloping rules of conduct2 Iules are important for effective results like:
-unctuality and regularity
5onfidentiality
$peaking on the basis of facts
5onstructive confrontation
A. Allocating right roles to right people2 the principle of right man for the right 1ob should be followed
by the team. 3y matching the individual preferences with the team role demands, managers can increase
the likelihood that team members will work well together.
C. $stablish accountability2 Individuals have to be accountable at both team and individual level. It has
to be very clear as to what is the person individually responsible for or else some members may try to
take advantage of the group efforts as their individual efforts would not be identified.
D. &eveloping trust2 mutuality, openness to each other and loyalty should e:ist for the team to work
effectively.
E. %ecognition and %eward system2 -ositive reinforcement can improve team efforts and commitment.
$uitable rewards must be decided for the members as it can be a big motivating factor to them for giving
in their best.
odule ,2
)ro7ect anagement -ools
Introduction
-ro1ect management is one of the high!responsibility tasks in modern organiHations. -ro1ect
management is used in many types of pro1ects ranging from software development to developing
the ne:t generation fighter aircrafts.
In order to e:ecute a pro1ect successfully, the pro1ect manager or the pro1ect management team
should be supported by a set of tools.
These tools can be specifically designed tools or regular productivity tools that can be adopted
for pro1ect management work.
The use of such tools usually makes the pro1ect managers work easy as well as it standardiHes the
work and the routine of a pro1ect manager.
'ollowing are some of those tools used by pro1ect managers in all domains:
$ro*ect $lan+
*ll the pro1ects that should be managed by a pro1ect manager should have a pro1ect plan. The
pro1ect plan details many aspects of the pro1ect to be e:ecuted.
'irst of all, it details out the pro1ect scope. Then, it describes the approach or strategy used for
addressing the pro1ect scope and pro1ect ob1ectives.
The strategy is the core of the pro1ect plan. The strategy could vary depending on the pro1ect
purpose and specific pro1ect re&uirements.
The resource allocation and delivery schedule are other two main components of the pro1ect
plan. These detail each activity involved in the pro1ect as well as the information such as who
e:ecutes them and when.
This is important information for the pro1ect manager as well as all the other stakeholders of the
pro1ect.
,ilestone !hec-list+
This is one of the best tools the pro1ect manager can use to determine whether he or she is on
track in terms of the pro1ect progress.
The pro1ect manager does not have to use e:pensive software to track this. The pro1ect manager
can use a simple #:cel template to do this 1ob.
The milestone checklist should be a live document that should be updated once or twice a week.
.antt !hart+
9antt chart illustrates the pro1ect schedule and shows the pro1ect manager the interdependencies
of each activity. 9antt charts are universally used for any type of pro1ect from construction to
software development.
*lthough deriving a 9antt chart looks &uite easy, it is one of the most comple: tasks when the
pro1ect is involved in hundreds of activities.
There are many ways you can create a 9antt chart. If the pro1ect is small and simple in nature,
you can create your own 9antt chart in #:cel or download an #:cel template from the Internet.
If the pro1ect has a high financial value or high!risk e:posure, then the pro1ect manager can use
software tools such as M$ -ro1ect.
$ro*ect ,anagement #oftwares+
ith the introduction of computer technology, there have been a number of software tools
specifically developed for pro1ect management purpose. M$ -ro1ect is one such tool that has
won the hearts of pro1ect managers all over the world.
M$ -ro1ect can be used as a standalone tool for tracking pro1ect progress or it can be used for
tracking comple: pro1ects distributed in many geographical areas and managed by a number of
pro1ect managers.
There are many other software packages for pro1ect management in addition to M$ -ro1ect. Most
of these new additions are online portals for pro1ect management activities where the pro1ect
members have access to pro1ect details and progress from anywhere.
$ro*ect /eviews+
* comprehensive pro1ect review mechanism is a great tool for pro1ect management. More mature
companies tend to have more strict and comprehensive pro1ect reviews as opposed to basic ones
done by smaller organiHations.
In pro1ect reviews, the pro1ect progress and the adherence to the process standards are mainly
considered. /sually, pro1ect reviews are accompanied by pro1ect audits by a 2rd party Dinternal or
e:ternalE.
The non!compliances and action items are then tracked in order to complete them.
0elivery /eviews+
Delivery reviews make sure that the deliveries made by the pro1ect team meet the customer
re&uirements and adhere to the general guidelines of &uality.
/sually, a 2rd party team or supervisors DinternalE conduct the delivery review and the main
stakeholders of the pro1ect delivery do participate for this event.
The delivery review may decide to re1ect the delivery due to the &uality standards and non!
compliances.
#core !ards+
hen it comes to performance of the pro1ect team, a scorecard is the way of tracking it. #very
pro1ect manager is responsible of accessing the performance of the team members and reporting
it to the upper management and )I.
This information is then used for promotion purposes as well as human resource development. *
comprehensive score card and performance assessment can place the team member in the correct
position.
!onclusion+
* pro1ect manager cannot e:ecute hisQher 1ob without a proper set of tools. These tools do not
have to be renowned software or something, but it can pretty well be simple and proven
techni&ues to manage pro1ect work.
)aving a solid set of pro1ect management tools always makes pro1ect managers' work
pleasurable and productive.
#M-(.+*3I(IT+ $MI(($
4. 5ommunication and interpersonal skills
6. -roblem solving skills
2. /sing your initiative and being self!motivated
7. orking under pressure and to deadline
>. 5rganisational skills
A. Tea working
C. %bility to learn and adapt
E. (uera!y
B. Faluing di"ersity and di&eren!e
1G. (egotiation skills