Back to basics

18 Threshold Magazine: August 2010

Back to basics
The essential reading guide for marriage educators
260 popular, useful and important books on relationship education
Confict
Florence Bienenfeld (1999) Confict resolution for couples [Career
Press, Franklin Lakes NJ]
Sharon & Gordon Bower (2004) Asserting yourself [Da Capo
Press, Cambridge MA]
Andrew Christensen (2002) Reconciling differences [The
guildford Press, New York]
Andrew Christensen & Neil Jacobson (2002) Reconcilable
differences [The Guilford Press, New York]
Helena Cornelius & Shashana Faire (1992) Everyone can win:
How to resolve confict [Simon & Schuster, New York]
Roger Fisher & William Ury (1991) Getting to yes [Penguin,
New York]
Willard F Harley (1996) Give and take The secret of marital
compatibility [Revell, Grand Rapids, Michigan]
Willard F Harley (2008) Love busters Overcoming habits that
destroy romantic love [Revell, Grand Rapids, Michigan]
The Abinger Institute (2008) The anatomy of peace resolving the
heart of confict [Berrett-Koehler, San Francisco]
Gregory Tillett (1991) Resolving confict [Sydney University
Press, Sydney]
Couples
Susan M Campbell (1980) The couples journey [Impact, San
Luis Obispo, CA]
Criticism
Hal & Sidra Stone (1993) Embracing your inner critic [Harper,
San Francisco]
Depression
Bev Aisbett (2000) Taming the black dog [Harper Collins, Sydney]
Bob Murray & Alicia Fortinberry (2004) Creating optimism
[McGraw-Hill, New York]
Matthew Johnstone (2005) I had a black dog [Pan MacMillan,
Sydney]
Divorce
Geraldine Clapp (2000) Divorce and new
beginnings [Wiley, New York]
David B Larson, James P Swyers &
Susan S Larson, The costly consequences
of divorce [National Institute for
Healthcare Research, Rockville MD]*
Judith S Wallerstein & Sandra
Blakeslee (1989) Second chances: Men,
women & children a decade after divorce
[Ticknor & Fields, New York]
Judith Wallerstein, Julia M Lewis & Sandra Blakeslee (2000)
The unexpected legacy of divorce [Hyperion, New York]
Judith Wallerstain (2004) What about the kids: Raising children
before, during and after divorce [Hyperion, New York]
Darlene Waybourne (1999) What to tell your kids about divorce
[New Harbinger, Oakland CA]
BOOKS
Addiction
Marilyn Freimuth (2008) Addicted? [Rowman & Littlefeld,
Lanham MD]*
Anger
Archibald Hart & Sharon Hart Morris (2003) Safe Haven [W
Publishing, Nashville, TN]
Patricia Evans (2003) The verbally abusive relationships: How to
recognise it and how to respond to it [Adams Media, Cincinatti OH]
Gary Jacks Oliver & H Norman Wright (1992) When anger hits
home [Moody Press, Chicago]
Annulment
Hugh F Doogan (ed) (1990) Catholic
tribunals: marriage, annulment and dissolution
[EJ Dwyer, Newtown, NSW]*
Geoffrey Robinson (1984) Marriage,
divorce & nullity [Dove, Melbourne]*
Anxiety
P Hanson (1986) The joy of stress
[Hanson Stress Management, Islington,
Ontario]
Archibald D Hart (1999) The anxiety cure
[W publishing, Nashville TN]
Catholic marriage
Javier Abad & Eugenio Feney (1988)
Marriage: A path to sanctity [Sinag-Tala,
Manilla]
Pastoral Life Commission (2006) Marriage in the Catholic Church
[Australian Catholic Bishops Conference, Canberra]
Pastoral Life Commission (2007) Divorce and the Catholic Church
[Australian Catholic Bishops Conference, Canberra]
John L Thomas (1975) Beginning your marriage [Buckley, Chicago]
Christian marriage
Rod Boreham (1987) My life for my wife [Kingsway
Publications, Eastbourne UK]
Edward Louis Cole (1982) Maximized manhood [Whitaker
House, Springdale PA]
Scott Halzman and Theresa DiGeronimo (2007) Secrets of
happily married men [Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
Scott Halzman and Theresa DiGeronimo (2008) Secrets of
happily married women [Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
Florence Littauer (1981) After every wedding come a marriage
[Harvest House, Eugene OR]
Josh McDowell (1985) The secret of loving [Heres Life, San
Bernardino CA]
Peg and Lee Rankin (1986) Your marriage: Making it work [Lion,
Batavia, Illinois]
H. Norman Wright (1974) How to talk to your mate [Tyndale
House, Wheaton IL]
Christian relationships
Gloria Chisholm (1990) The gift of encouragement [Aglow,
Lynnwood WA]
Civil ceremonies
Sally Cant (2009) The heart and soul of celebrancy [Sally Cant/
Pennon Publishing, Melbourne]
Dally R Messenger (1999) Ceremonies & celebrations [Lothian,
South Melbourne]
Cohabitation
Sotirios Sarantakos (1984) Living together in Australia [Longman
Cheshire, Sydney]
Commitment
Clayton C Barbeau (1976) Joy of
marriage [Seabury, New York]
Gary Chapman (1992) The fve love languages
[Northfeld, Chicago]
Gary Chapman (1992) The fve love
languages Mens edition [Northfeld,
Chicago]
Scott Stanley (1998) The heart of
commitment [Thomas Nelson, Nashville
TN]
Communication
Henry Cloud and John Townsend
(2001) Boundaries [Zondervan, Grand
Rapids Michigan]
John Gottman (1979) A couples guide to
communication [Research Press, IL]
John Gray (1992) Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
[Harper Collins, New York]
Anne & Mandy Kotzman (2008) Listen to me, listen to you
[Penguin Global, New York]
Sherod Miller, Elam W Nunnally & Daniel W Wackman
(1979) Couple communication 1 [Interpersonal Communications,
Littleton CO]
Sherod Miller, Daniel B Wackman, Dallas R Demmitt &
Nancy J Demmitt (1985) Working together [Interpersonal
Communications, Littleton CO]
Allan & Barbara Pease (2001) Why men dont listen and women
cant read maps [Pease International, Buderim QLD]
John Powell (1969) Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? [Argus
Communications, Allen TX]
John Powell (1974) The secret of staying in love [Tabor, Allen TX]
John Powell (1985) Will the real me please stand up? [Tabor, Allen TX]
Johanna Schwab, Michel Baldwin, Jane Gerber, Maria
Gomori and Vriginia Satir (1989) The Satir approach to
communication [Science and Behavior Books, Palo Alto CA]
Deborah Tannen (1990) You just dont understand [William
Morrow, New York]
Harville Hendrix
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Threshold Magazine: August 2010 19
The essential reading guide for marriage educators
260 popular, useful and important books on relationship education
Confict
Florence Bienenfeld (1999) Confict resolution for couples [Career
Press, Franklin Lakes NJ]
Sharon & Gordon Bower (2004) Asserting yourself [Da Capo
Press, Cambridge MA]
Andrew Christensen (2002) Reconciling differences [The
guildford Press, New York]
Andrew Christensen & Neil Jacobson (2002) Reconcilable
differences [The Guilford Press, New York]
Helena Cornelius & Shashana Faire (1992) Everyone can win:
How to resolve confict [Simon & Schuster, New York]
Roger Fisher & William Ury (1991) Getting to yes [Penguin,
New York]
Willard F Harley (1996) Give and take The secret of marital
compatibility [Revell, Grand Rapids, Michigan]
Willard F Harley (2008) Love busters Overcoming habits that
destroy romantic love [Revell, Grand Rapids, Michigan]
The Abinger Institute (2008) The anatomy of peace resolving the
heart of confict [Berrett-Koehler, San Francisco]
Gregory Tillett (1991) Resolving confict [Sydney University
Press, Sydney]
Couples
Susan M Campbell (1980) The couples journey [Impact, San
Luis Obispo, CA]
Criticism
Hal & Sidra Stone (1993) Embracing your inner critic [Harper,
San Francisco]
Depression
Bev Aisbett (2000) Taming the black dog [Harper Collins, Sydney]
Bob Murray & Alicia Fortinberry (2004) Creating optimism
[McGraw-Hill, New York]
Matthew Johnstone (2005) I had a black dog [Pan MacMillan,
Sydney]
Divorce
Geraldine Clapp (2000) Divorce and new
beginnings [Wiley, New York]
David B Larson, James P Swyers &
Susan S Larson, The costly consequences
of divorce [National Institute for
Healthcare Research, Rockville MD]*
Judith S Wallerstein & Sandra
Blakeslee (1989) Second chances: Men,
women & children a decade after divorce
[Ticknor & Fields, New York]
Judith Wallerstein, Julia M Lewis & Sandra Blakeslee (2000)
The unexpected legacy of divorce [Hyperion, New York]
Judith Wallerstain (2004) What about the kids: Raising children
before, during and after divorce [Hyperion, New York]
Darlene Waybourne (1999) What to tell your kids about divorce
[New Harbinger, Oakland CA]
Extended family
David & Claudia Arp and John & Margaret Bell (2003) Loving
your relatives [Tyndale, Wheaton, Illinois]
Failure
Gary J Oliver (1995) How to get it right after youve gotten it wrong
[Victor, Wheaton IL]
Families
John Bradshaw (1988) The family: A revolutionary way of self
discovery [Hci, Deerford Beach FL]
Sotirios Sarantakos (1996) Modern families [MacMillan, South
Melbourne] *
Catholic Pastoral Formation Centre (1980) Families matter
[Rosslyn Resources, Melbourne]
Jim Howe (1999) Early childhood, family & society in Australia
[Social Science Press, Katoomba NSW]*
Donald W Richardson (1984) Family ties that bind [Self-counsel
Press, Bellingham, WA]
Family rituals
William J Doherty 1997) The intentional family [Quill, New York]
Fatherhood (see also Parenting)
Steve Biddulph 1997) Raising boys [Finch, Sydney]
David Blankenhorn (1995) Fatherless America [Basic Books,
New York]*
Andrew Fuller (2002) Raising real people [Australian Council for
Educational Research, Melbourne]
Bruce Robinson (2001) Fathering from the fast lane [Finch, Sydney]
Warren Farrell (2001) Father and child reunion [Finch, Sydney]*
Wade F Horn & Jeffrey Rosenberg (1998) New father book
[Better homes and gardens books, Des Moines, Iowa]
Warwick Pudney & Judy Cottrell (1998) Beginning fatherhood
[Tandem, Auckland NZ]
Gender relations
James Dobson (1975) What wives
wish their husbands knew about women
[Tyndale, Wheaton, IL]
Susan Forward & Joan Torres (1987)
Men who hate women & the women who love
them [Bantam, New York]
Nancy Good (1989) How to love a diffcult
man [Lothian, Melbourne]
John Gray (1993) Men, women and
relationships [Beyond Words, Hillsboro,
OR]
Steve Vinay Gunther (2005) Understanding the woman in your life
[Finch, Sydney]
Patricia Love & Steven Stosney (2007) Why women talk and men
walk [Vermilion, New York]
Robin Norwood (1986) Women who love too much [Arrow, London]
Christian relationships
Gloria Chisholm (1990) The gift of encouragement [Aglow,
Lynnwood WA]
Civil ceremonies
Sally Cant (2009) The heart and soul of celebrancy [Sally Cant/
Pennon Publishing, Melbourne]
Dally R Messenger (1999) Ceremonies & celebrations [Lothian,
South Melbourne]
Cohabitation
Sotirios Sarantakos (1984) Living together in Australia [Longman
Cheshire, Sydney]
Commitment
Clayton C Barbeau (1976) Joy of
marriage [Seabury, New York]
Gary Chapman (1992) The fve love languages
[Northfeld, Chicago]
Gary Chapman (1992) The fve love
languages Mens edition [Northfeld,
Chicago]
Scott Stanley (1998) The heart of
commitment [Thomas Nelson, Nashville
TN]
Communication
Henry Cloud and John Townsend
(2001) Boundaries [Zondervan, Grand
Rapids Michigan]
John Gottman (1979) A couples guide to
communication [Research Press, IL]
John Gray (1992) Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus
[Harper Collins, New York]
Anne & Mandy Kotzman (2008) Listen to me, listen to you
[Penguin Global, New York]
Sherod Miller, Elam W Nunnally & Daniel W Wackman
(1979) Couple communication 1 [Interpersonal Communications,
Littleton CO]
Sherod Miller, Daniel B Wackman, Dallas R Demmitt &
Nancy J Demmitt (1985) Working together [Interpersonal
Communications, Littleton CO]
Allan & Barbara Pease (2001) Why men dont listen and women
cant read maps [Pease International, Buderim QLD]
John Powell (1969) Why am I afraid to tell you who I am? [Argus
Communications, Allen TX]
John Powell (1974) The secret of staying in love [Tabor, Allen TX]
John Powell (1985) Will the real me please stand up? [Tabor, Allen TX]
Johanna Schwab, Michel Baldwin, Jane Gerber, Maria
Gomori and Vriginia Satir (1989) The Satir approach to
communication [Science and Behavior Books, Palo Alto CA]
Deborah Tannen (1990) You just dont understand [William
Morrow, New York]
John Gottman
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Allan & Barbara Pease (1999) Why women cant read maps, and
wont stop talking [Pease Training, Mona Vale NSW]
Allan & Barbara Pease (2001)Why men dont listen & women cant
read maps [Orion, London]
Allan & Barbara Pease (2002) Why men lie and women cry
[Orion, London]
Groups
Christine Chinchen (1992) Making groups work [Specialist
Publications, Concord NSW]
Healing
Nancy Reeves (2003) Found through loss
[Northstone, Kelowna, Canada]
Healthy families
Delores Curran (1983) Traits of a healthy
family [Ballantine, New York]
Intercultural marriage
Jane Duncan Owen (2002) Interracial
marriage in Australia [University of NSW
Press, Sydney]
Dugan Romano (2008) Intercultural
marriage: Promises and pitfalls [Nicholas
Brearley Publishing, London UK/Boston
MA]
Interfaith marriage
Charles Joanides (2002) When you
intermarry: A resource for inter-Christian,
intercultural couples, parents and families
[Greek Orthodox Archdiocese of America, New York]
Infdelity
Anne Bercht (2004) My husbands affair [Trafford, Victoria,
Canada]
Emily Brown (1999) Affairs: A guide to working through the
repercussions of infdelity [Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
Shirley Glass (2003) Not just friends [The Free Press, New York]
Frank Pittman (1990) Private lies: Infdelity and the betrayal of
intimacy [WW Norton, New York]
Intimacy
Bryan Craig (2004) Searching for intimacy in marriage [Seventh
Day Adventist Church, Sydney]
Kathleen Keating (1983) The little book of hugs [Angus &
Robertson, North Ryde, NSW]
Barry and Emily McCarthy (2003) Rekindling desire [Routledge,
New York]
Maggie Scarf (1987) Intimate partners [Century, London]
Dennis Rainey (1989) Lonely husbands, lonely wives [Word,
Dallas TX]
Gary Smalley (1989) Love is a decision [Word, Dallas TX]
Life cycle
Herbert Anderson & Kenneth R Mitchell (1993) Leaving home
[Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Andeson & Robert Cotton Fite (1993) Becoming
married [Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Anderson, David Hogue & Marie McCarthy (1995)
Promising again [Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Anderson & Susan B W Johnson (1994) Regarding
children [Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Anderson & Freda A Gardner (1997) Living alone
[Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Learning styles
Bernie Neville (2005) Educating psyche:
Emotion, imagination and the unconscious in
learning [Collins Dove, Melbourne]
David A Kolb (1983) Experiential learning:
Experience as the source of learning and
development [Prentice Hall, New York]
Marriage
David & Claudia Arp, Scott Stanley &
Howard Markman (2001) Empty nesting:
Reinventing your marriage when kids leave home
[Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
William J Doherty (2001) Take back your
marriage [Guilford Press, New York]
John van Epp (2007) How to avoid marrying a
jerk [McGraw Hill, New York]
Blane J Fowers (2000) Beyond the myth of
marital happiness [Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
John Gottman (1993) Why marriages succeed
or fail: How you can make yours last [Simon & Schuster, New
York]
John Gottman (2000) The seven principles for making marriage work
[Three Rivers Press, New York]
John Gottman (2002) The relationship cure [Three Rivers Press,
New York]
Mark Gungor (2008) Laugh your way to a better marriage [Atria,
New York]
Archibald Hart & Sharon Hart Morris (2003) Safe haven
marriage [W Publishing Group, Nashville TN]
Amy & Leon Kass (eds) (2000) Wing to wing, oar to oar
[University of Notre Dame Press, Notre Dame IN]
Iris Krasnow (2001) Surrendering to marriage [Talk Mirimax,
New York]
Jeffry H Larson (2000) Should we stay together? [Jossey-Bass, San
Francisco]
Jeffry Larson (2002) The great marriage tune-up book [Jossey-Bass,
San Francisco]
John C Lucas ((1997) Conscious marriage [Simon & Shuster, Sydney]
David & Vera Mace (1987) How to have a happy marriage
[Abington, Nashville]
Howard Markman (2004) 12 hours to a happy marriage [Jossey-
Bass, San Francisco]
Howard Markman, Scott Stanley & Susan L Blumberg (1994)
Fighting for your marriage [Jossey Bass, San Francisco CA]
Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L Blumberg, Natalie
H Jenkins & Carol Whiteley (2004) 12 hours to a great marriage
[Jossey Bass, San Francisco CA]
Andrew Marshall (2007) I love you, but Im not in love with you
[Health Communications, London]
Michael J McManus (1993) Marriage Savers [Zondervan,
Grand Rapids Michigan]
David Olsen & Douglas Stephens (2001) The couples survival
workbook [New Harbinger, Oakland CA]
Michele Weiner-Davis (1993) Divorce busting [Simon & Shuster,
New York]
Marriage: Trends, causes and consequences
Herbert Anderson, Don S Browning, Ian S Evison, Mary
Steward Van Leeuwen (eds) 1998) The family handbook
[Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville KY]*
Katherine Anderson, Don Browning and Brian Boyer (eds)
2002) Marriage: Just a piece of paper? [William B Eerdmans,
Grand Rapids, Michigan]*
David Blankenhorn 2007) The future of marriage [Encounter
Books, New York]*
Bryce J Christensen (ed) 1990) The retreat from marriage
[University of America Press, Lanham MD]*
Robert P George & Jean Bethke Elshtain (eds) 2006) The
meaning of marriage [Spence, Dallas TX]*
Linda Waite & Maggie Gallagher (2000)
The case for marriage [Doubleday, New York]*
John Wall, Don Browning, William J
Doherty and Stephen Post (eds) (2002)
Marriage, health and the professions [William B
Eerdmans, Grand Rapids, Michigan]*
John Witte Jr (1997) From sacrament to
contract [Westminster/John Knox Press,
Louisville KY]*
Barbara Dafoe Whitehead (1997) The
divorce culture [Alfred A Knopf, New York]*
Marriage education policy
Kevin & Margaret Andrews (1997) With
this ring: Rebuilding a culture of marriage
[Threshold Publishing, Melbourne]
Elizabeth van Acker (2008) Governments
and marriage education policy [Palgrave
MacMillan, Basingstoke, Hampshire UK]*
Marriage enrichment
David & Claudia Arp (1993) 52 great dates for you and your mate
[Thomas Nelson, Nashville TN]]
David & Claudia Arp (1996) The second half of marriage
[Zondervan, Grand Rapids, MI]
Stephen and Alex Kendrick (2008) The love dare [B & H
Publishing, Nashville TN]
Deborah Tannen
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Herbert Anderson & Kenneth R Mitchell (1993) Leaving home
[Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Andeson & Robert Cotton Fite (1993) Becoming
married [Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Anderson, David Hogue & Marie McCarthy (1995)
Promising again [Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Anderson & Susan B W Johnson (1994) Regarding
children [Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Herbert Anderson & Freda A Gardner (1997) Living alone
[Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville, KY]
Learning styles
Bernie Neville (2005) Educating psyche:
Emotion, imagination and the unconscious in
learning [Collins Dove, Melbourne]
David A Kolb (1983) Experiential learning:
Experience as the source of learning and
development [Prentice Hall, New York]
Marriage
David & Claudia Arp, Scott Stanley &
Howard Markman (2001) Empty nesting:
Reinventing your marriage when kids leave home
[Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
William J Doherty (2001) Take back your
marriage [Guilford Press, New York]
John van Epp (2007) How to avoid marrying a
jerk [McGraw Hill, New York]
Blane J Fowers (2000) Beyond the myth of
marital happiness [Jossey-Bass, San Francisco]
John Gottman (1993) Why marriages succeed
or fail: How you can make yours last [Simon & Schuster, New
York]
John Gottman (2000) The seven principles for making marriage work
[Three Rivers Press, New York]
John Gottman (2002) The relationship cure [Three Rivers Press,
New York]
Mark Gungor (2008) Laugh your way to a better marriage [Atria,
New York]
Archibald Hart & Sharon Hart Morris (2003) Safe haven
marriage [W Publishing Group, Nashville TN]
Amy & Leon Kass (eds) (2000) Wing to wing, oar to oar
[University of Notre Dame Press, Notre Dame IN]
Iris Krasnow (2001) Surrendering to marriage [Talk Mirimax,
New York]
Jeffry H Larson (2000) Should we stay together? [Jossey-Bass, San
Francisco]
Jeffry Larson (2002) The great marriage tune-up book [Jossey-Bass,
San Francisco]
John C Lucas ((1997) Conscious marriage [Simon & Shuster, Sydney]
David & Vera Mace (1987) How to have a happy marriage
[Abington, Nashville]
Howard Markman (2004) 12 hours to a happy marriage [Jossey-
Bass, San Francisco]
Howard Markman, Scott Stanley & Susan L Blumberg (1994)
Fighting for your marriage [Jossey Bass, San Francisco CA]
Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, Susan L Blumberg, Natalie
H Jenkins & Carol Whiteley (2004) 12 hours to a great marriage
[Jossey Bass, San Francisco CA]
Andrew Marshall (2007) I love you, but Im not in love with you
[Health Communications, London]
Michael J McManus (1993) Marriage Savers [Zondervan,
Grand Rapids Michigan]
David Olsen & Douglas Stephens (2001) The couples survival
workbook [New Harbinger, Oakland CA]
Michele Weiner-Davis (1993) Divorce busting [Simon & Shuster,
New York]
Marriage: Trends, causes and consequences
Herbert Anderson, Don S Browning, Ian S Evison, Mary
Steward Van Leeuwen (eds) 1998) The family handbook
[Westminster/John Knox Press, Louisville KY]*
Katherine Anderson, Don Browning and Brian Boyer (eds)
2002) Marriage: Just a piece of paper? [William B Eerdmans,
Grand Rapids, Michigan]*
David Blankenhorn 2007) The future of marriage [Encounter
Books, New York]*
Bryce J Christensen (ed) 1990) The retreat from marriage
[University of America Press, Lanham MD]*
Robert P George & Jean Bethke Elshtain (eds) 2006) The
meaning of marriage [Spence, Dallas TX]*
Linda Waite & Maggie Gallagher (2000)
The case for marriage [Doubleday, New York]*
John Wall, Don Browning, William J
Doherty and Stephen Post (eds) (2002)
Marriage, health and the professions [William B
Eerdmans, Grand Rapids, Michigan]*
John Witte Jr (1997) From sacrament to
contract [Westminster/John Knox Press,
Louisville KY]*
Barbara Dafoe Whitehead (1997) The
divorce culture [Alfred A Knopf, New York]*
Marriage education policy
Kevin & Margaret Andrews (1997) With
this ring: Rebuilding a culture of marriage
[Threshold Publishing, Melbourne]
Elizabeth van Acker (2008) Governments
and marriage education policy [Palgrave
MacMillan, Basingstoke, Hampshire UK]*
Marriage enrichment
David & Claudia Arp (1993) 52 great dates for you and your mate
[Thomas Nelson, Nashville TN]]
David & Claudia Arp (1996) The second half of marriage
[Zondervan, Grand Rapids, MI]
Stephen and Alex Kendrick (2008) The love dare [B & H
Publishing, Nashville TN]
David & Vera Mace (1977) How to have a happy marriage
[Abington, Nashville TN]
H Norman Wright (1987) Holding on to romance [Regal,
Ventura CA]
Marriage preparation
Don Burnard (1975) Towards a life of loving [Hill of Content,
Melbourne]
Bernadette Clohesy (2001) Eyes wide open [Lothian,
Melbourne]
Penny Mansfeld and Jean Collard (1988) The beginning of the
rest of your life [MacMillan, London, UK]
Les & Leslie Parrott (1995) Saving your marriage before it starts
[Zondervan, Grand Rapids MI]
Marriage preparation manuals
Nicky & Sila Lee (2003) The marriage preparation course manual
[Alpha International, London]
Donald J Luther (1992) Preparing for marriage [Augsberg
Fortress, Minneapolis MN]
Tara Markey & Finian Meis (1983) When families marry [M &
M Productions, Overland Park, KS]
Anthony & Mary Del Vecchio (1980) Preparing for the sacrament
of marriage [Ave Maria Press, Notre Dame, Indiana]
Marriage research
Thomas B Holman (2001) Premarital prediction of marital quality
or breakup [Kluwer Academic, New York]*
Men
Steve Biddulph (1994) Manhood [Finch,
Sydney]
Don Edgar (1997) Men, mateship marriage
[Harper Collins, Sydney] *
Terry Colling (1992) Beyond mateship [Simon
& Shuster, Sydney]
Money
Kevin Bailey (2003) Your money guide
[Lothian, Melbourne]
George S Clason (1988) The richest man in
Babylon [Signet, New York]
Victoria Collins (1997) Couples money
[Gabriel, Encino CA]
Ruth L Hayden (1999) For richer, not poorer
[Health Communications, Deerfeld
Beach, Florida]
Natalie H Jenkins, Scott M Stanley, William C Bailey &
Howard J Markman (2002) You paid how much for that?! [Jossey
Bass, San Francisco CA]
Deborah Knuckey (2003) Conscious spending for couples [John
Wiley, Hoboken NJ]
Jonothan Rich (2003) The couples guide to love & money [New
Harbinger, Oakland CA]
Scott Stanley
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Retirement
Rob Kelley (2003) The complete guide to creative retirement
[TurnKey Press, Austin TX]
Maryanne Vandervelde (2004) Retirement for two [Bantam, New
York]
Sara Yogev (2002) For better or for worse, but not
for lunch [Contemporary, Chicago]
Romance
Carol J Bruess & Anna D H Kudak (2008) What
happy couples do [Fairview Press, Minneapolis,
Minnesota]
Sacramental marriage
Peter J Elliott (1990) What God has joined [St Paul,
Homebush, NSW]*
Separation
Dally R Messenger (1994) So, mum and dad
have separated [Dally M Publishing & Research,
Melbourne]
Diana Shulman (1996) Co-parenting after divorce [Winnspeed, USA]
Sexuality
Bettina Arndt (2009) The sex diaries [Melbourne University
Press, Melbourne]
Philip Cauthery and Andrew & Penny Stanway (1983) The
complete book of love and sex [Arrow, London]
Michael & Dorothy Clarke (1979) Sexual joy in marriage [ADIS
Health Science, Sydney]
Alex Comfort & Susan Quillam (2009) The joy of sex [Crown,
New York]
William Cutrer & Sandra Glahn (1998) Sexual intimacy in
marriage [Kregel, Grand Rapids, MI]
James Dobson 1982) Marriage & sexuality [Kingsway,
Eastbourne UK]
Charles A Gallagher, George A Maloney,
Mary F Rousseau & Paul F Wilczak (1983)
Embodied in love [Dove, Melbourne]
Mike & Joyce Grace (1980) A joyful marriage
[International Marriage Encounter, St Paul MN]
John Gray (1995) Mars and Venus in the bedroom
[Harper Collins, New York]
Rosalie King (1998) Good loving, great sex [Arrow
Books, London/New York]
Tim & Beverly LaHaye (1976) The act of
marriage [Zondervan, Grand Rapids MI]
Barry and Emily McCarthy (2009) Discovering
your couple sexual style [Routledge. New York]
Steven E Rhoads (2004) Taking sex differences seriously
[Encounter, San Francisco]
David Schnarch (2009) Passionate marriage [WW Norton,
New York]
Parenting
Jay Belsky & John Kelly ((1994) The transition to parenthood
[Delacorte, New York]*
Steve Biddulph (2002) The secret of happy children [Da Capo
Press, Cambridge MA]
Carolyn Pape Cowan & Philip A Cowan
(1992) When partners become parents [Basic Books,
New York]*
Adele Dingle, Sue Gough & Sian Carlyon
(1989) A parent survival kit [Collins Dove,
Melbourne]
Don Dinkmeyer & Gary D McKay (1982) The
parents handbook [American Guidance Service,
Circle Plains Minn.]
William Doherty (2000) Take back your kids:
Confdent parenting in turbulent times [Sorin, Notre
Dame IN]
Michael Farris (1996) How a man prepares his
daughters for life [Bathany House, Minneapolis,
Minnesota]
John Gottman & Julie Schwartz (2008) And baby makes three
[Three Rivers, New York]
Michael Grose (2001) Raising happy kids [Harper Collins,
Sydney]
Michael Grose (2003) Why frst borns rule the world and last-borns
want to change it [Random House, Sydney]
Harville Hendrix & Helen LaKelly Hunt (1997) Giving the love
that heals [Atria, New York]
Virginia Ironside & Frank Rogers (1998) A huge bag of worries
[Holder Wayland, London]
Matthew R Sanders (1992) Every Parent
[Addison-Wesley, Sydney]
Martin Seligman (1996) The optimistic child
[Harper, New York]
Steve & Candice Watters (2009) Start your family
[Moody Publishers, Chicago]
Glenn & Natalie Williams (2005) Your marriage
can survive a newborn [Broadman & Holman,
Nashville TN]
Parents
Harold Bloomfeld & Leonard Felder (1996)
Making peace with your parents [Ballantine, New
York]
Personal growth
Justin Belitz (1991) Success: Full living
[Knowledge Systems, Indianapolis, IN]
Stephanie Dowrick (1996) Intimacy & solitude
[WW Norton, New York]
Frank Pittman (1998) Grow-up! How taking responsibility can make
you a happy adult [St Martins Griffn, New York]
Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning (2000) Self-esteem [New
Harbinger, Oakland CA]
M Scott Peck (1978) The road less travelled [Random, New York]
M Scott Peck (1998) Further along the road less travelled
[Touchstone, New York]
Rita Spencer & Angela Rossmanith (1995) Stop struggling
[Angus & Robertson, Sydney]
Relationships
Bronwyn Donaghy & Marcus Mackay (1999)
Were still a team [Rural Family Relationship
Project, Canberra]
Stephanie Dowrick (1998) Forgiveness and other
acts of love [WW Norton, New York]
Stephenie Dowrick (2004) The universal heart:
Golden rules for golden relationships [Penguin,
Melbourne]
John Van Epp (2007) How to avoid marrying a jerk
[McGraw Hill, New York]
Herbert Fensterheim & Jean Baer (1976)
Dont say yes when you want to say no [Futura,
London]
Thomas A Harris (1967) Im OK Youre OK [Pan, London, UK]
Harville Hendrix (1988) Getting the love you want [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
Harville Hendrix (1994) The couples companion [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
Harville Hendrix (1995) Keeping the love you fnd [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
David Jansen & Margaret Newman (1989) Really relating
[Random House, Sydney]
Bob Montgomery and L Evans (1996) Living and loving together
[Penguin, Melbourne]
Jo Lamble & Sue Morris (2000) Side by side [Finch, Sydney]
Pat Love and Jo Robinson (1995) Hot monogamy
[Plume, New York]
Pat Love (2001) The truth about love [Fireside,
New York]
Rosemary Tilley (2007) You and me equals we
[John Holland, Melbourne]
Elizabeth Tuettemann (2000) The little book
of insights into couple relationships [Elizabeth
Tuettemann, Boyup Brook, WA]
Neil Clark Warren (1992) Finding the love of your
life [Pocket Books, New York]
Merry Watson (1992) Hows your love life? [Hale
& Ironmonger, Sydney]
Michele Weiner-Davis (1992) Divorce busting
[Summit, New York]
Remarriage
Elizabeth Martyn (1989) Second time around [Ebury, London]
Bruce Fisher (1981) Rebuilding when your relationship ends
[Impact, San Luis Obispo, CA]
Michele Weiner-Davis
David & Claudia Arp
Back to basics Back to basics
Threshold Magazine: August 2010 23
Retirement
Rob Kelley (2003) The complete guide to creative retirement
[TurnKey Press, Austin TX]
Maryanne Vandervelde (2004) Retirement for two [Bantam, New
York]
Sara Yogev (2002) For better or for worse, but not
for lunch [Contemporary, Chicago]
Romance
Carol J Bruess & Anna D H Kudak (2008) What
happy couples do [Fairview Press, Minneapolis,
Minnesota]
Sacramental marriage
Peter J Elliott (1990) What God has joined [St Paul,
Homebush, NSW]*
Separation
Dally R Messenger (1994) So, mum and dad
have separated [Dally M Publishing & Research,
Melbourne]
Diana Shulman (1996) Co-parenting after divorce [Winnspeed, USA]
Sexuality
Bettina Arndt (2009) The sex diaries [Melbourne University
Press, Melbourne]
Philip Cauthery and Andrew & Penny Stanway (1983) The
complete book of love and sex [Arrow, London]
Michael & Dorothy Clarke (1979) Sexual joy in marriage [ADIS
Health Science, Sydney]
Alex Comfort & Susan Quillam (2009) The joy of sex [Crown,
New York]
William Cutrer & Sandra Glahn (1998) Sexual intimacy in
marriage [Kregel, Grand Rapids, MI]
James Dobson 1982) Marriage & sexuality [Kingsway,
Eastbourne UK]
Charles A Gallagher, George A Maloney,
Mary F Rousseau & Paul F Wilczak (1983)
Embodied in love [Dove, Melbourne]
Mike & Joyce Grace (1980) A joyful marriage
[International Marriage Encounter, St Paul MN]
John Gray (1995) Mars and Venus in the bedroom
[Harper Collins, New York]
Rosalie King (1998) Good loving, great sex [Arrow
Books, London/New York]
Tim & Beverly LaHaye (1976) The act of
marriage [Zondervan, Grand Rapids MI]
Barry and Emily McCarthy (2009) Discovering
your couple sexual style [Routledge. New York]
Steven E Rhoads (2004) Taking sex differences seriously
[Encounter, San Francisco]
David Schnarch (2009) Passionate marriage [WW Norton,
New York]
Michele Weiner-Davis (2003) The sex starved marriage [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
Sole parents
Tom Beardshaw, Guy Hordern & Christine Tufnell (2000)
Single parents in focus [Care for the Family, Cardiff, Wales]
Stepfamilies
Hilary Boyd (1998) The step-parents survival guide
[Ward Lock, London]
Elizabeth Einstein & Linda Albert ( 2005)
Strengthening your stepfamily [Impact Publishers,
San Luis Obispo, CA]
Irene Gerrard (1989) Making stepfamilies work
[Stepfamily Association of Victoria, Clifton
Hill]
Claire Masurel & Dady Denton (2003) Two
homes [Candlewick, Cambridge MA]
Margaret Newman (1992) Stepfamily realities
[Doubleday, Sydney]
Theology
Christopher West (2003) Theology of the body explained
[Gracewing, Herefordshire, UK]*
Weddings
Andrew Brody (2007) Making the most of weddings [Church
House, London]
Work & Family
Catherine Hakim (2000) Work-lifestyle choices in the 21
st
century
[Oxford University Press, Oxford]*
Arlie Russell Hochschild (1989) The second shift [Penguin, New
York] *
Arlie Russell Hochschild (1997) The time bind
[Metropolitan, New York] *
Deborah Lee (1997) Having it all, having enough
[Amacon, New York]
CONFERENCE PROCEEDINGS
Finian N Meis (ed) (1989) Life-long marriage: Is it
possible [M & M Productions, Overland Park KS]
This is the publication of the Creighton
University conference on marriage, featuring
essays by Barbara Markey, Michael Lawlor,
Marie Micheletto and others.
Bill Muehlenberg, Joseph Santamaria, Peter
Westmore and Mary Helen Woods (eds) (1996)
The family - there is no other way [Australian
Family Association, Melbourne]
Proceedings of an international conference on marriage
and family issues
M Scott Peck (1978) The road less travelled [Random, New York]
M Scott Peck (1998) Further along the road less travelled
[Touchstone, New York]
Rita Spencer & Angela Rossmanith (1995) Stop struggling
[Angus & Robertson, Sydney]
Relationships
Bronwyn Donaghy & Marcus Mackay (1999)
Were still a team [Rural Family Relationship
Project, Canberra]
Stephanie Dowrick (1998) Forgiveness and other
acts of love [WW Norton, New York]
Stephenie Dowrick (2004) The universal heart:
Golden rules for golden relationships [Penguin,
Melbourne]
John Van Epp (2007) How to avoid marrying a jerk
[McGraw Hill, New York]
Herbert Fensterheim & Jean Baer (1976)
Dont say yes when you want to say no [Futura,
London]
Thomas A Harris (1967) Im OK Youre OK [Pan, London, UK]
Harville Hendrix (1988) Getting the love you want [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
Harville Hendrix (1994) The couples companion [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
Harville Hendrix (1995) Keeping the love you fnd [Simon &
Schuster, New York]
David Jansen & Margaret Newman (1989) Really relating
[Random House, Sydney]
Bob Montgomery and L Evans (1996) Living and loving together
[Penguin, Melbourne]
Jo Lamble & Sue Morris (2000) Side by side [Finch, Sydney]
Pat Love and Jo Robinson (1995) Hot monogamy
[Plume, New York]
Pat Love (2001) The truth about love [Fireside,
New York]
Rosemary Tilley (2007) You and me equals we
[John Holland, Melbourne]
Elizabeth Tuettemann (2000) The little book
of insights into couple relationships [Elizabeth
Tuettemann, Boyup Brook, WA]
Neil Clark Warren (1992) Finding the love of your
life [Pocket Books, New York]
Merry Watson (1992) Hows your love life? [Hale
& Ironmonger, Sydney]
Michele Weiner-Davis (1992) Divorce busting
[Summit, New York]
Remarriage
Elizabeth Martyn (1989) Second time around [Ebury, London]
Bruce Fisher (1981) Rebuilding when your relationship ends
[Impact, San Luis Obispo, CA]
Bettina Arndt
Linda Waite
Back to basics
24 Threshold Magazine: August 2010
Back to basics
Theodora Ooms (ed) (1998) Strategies for strengthening marriage:
What do we know? What do we need to know? [Family Impact
Seminar, Washington DC]
The proceedings of a roundtable which included Linda
Waite, Bernard Guerney, Diane Sollee, Scott Stanley,
Thomas Bradbury, Benjamin Siliman, Richard McCord,
Ceridwen Roberts and Kevin &
Margaret Andrews.
RESEARCH REPORTS
William J Doherty et al (2002) Why
marriage matters [Institute for American
Values, New York]
Leading social scientists outline 21
conclusions about why marriage
matters.
W. Kim Halford (2000) Australian
couples in millennium three [Department
of Family and Community Services,
Canberra]
A research and development agenda for marriage and
relationship education.
Roger Harris, Michele Simons, Peter Willis & Anne Barrie
(1992) Love, sex and waterskiing [Centre for Human Resource
Studies, University of South Australia, Adelaide]
A book about couples experiences of pre-marriage
education based on a national research project.
Michele Simons, Roger Harris & Peter Willis (199X) Pathways
to marriage [Centre for Human Resource Studies, University
of South Australia, Adelaide]
Why couples participate or not in pre-marriage education.
Michael G Lawlor, Barbara Markey, Lisa A Riley & Gail S
Risch (2000) Time, sex and money [The Center for Marriage
and Family, Creighton University Omaha NE]
The report of a national survey on the frst fve years of
marriage
GOVERNMENT REPORTS
Commission on the Family (Ireland) (1998) Strengthening families
for life [Stationary Offce, Dublin]
An Irish report on strengthening marriage and family life.
House of Representatives Committee on Legal and
Constitutional Affairs (Andrews Committee) (1998) To
have and to hold [Parliament of the Commonwealth of
Australia, Canberra]
The report of a Parliamentary Inquiry on strategies to
strengthen marriage and relationships.
PERIODICALS
Marriage magazine [South St Paul,
Minnesota]
A quarterly magazine from the US with
practical articles about marriage
www.marriagemagazine.org
State of our Unions [The National
Marriage Project, University of Virginia,
Charlottesville, VA]
An annual research report about the state
of marriage in America.
www.virginia.edu/marriageproject
Threshold [Catholic Society for Marriage Education,
Melbourne]
The pre-eminent journal about marriage education.
thresh@bigpond.net.au
WEBSITES & E-NEWSLETTERS
Australian Family Relationships Clearinghouse [www.aifs.gov.au/afrc]
Australian clearinghouse for family relationship resources
For your marriage [www.foryourmariage.org]
Marital tips, resources and advice for couples.
National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
[www.healthymarriageinfo.org]
A US clearinghouse for marital education resources.
Marriage Partnership [ChristianityToday.com]
An online Christian magazine about marital relationships
Smartmarriages [www.smartmariages.com]
A website and daily e-newsletter about marriage education
news.
* These are more scholarly publications.
Web resources
Some useful sites for marriage educators
RESOURCES
Australian Institute of Family Studies
www.aifs.gov.au
A range of family related research and resources
BC Council for Families
www.bccf.ca
Resources from the Vancouver-based family agency
Focus on the Family
www.families.org.au
The Australian home of the well-known US organisation.
For Your Marriage
www.foryourmarriage.org
This website includes articles, tips and other resources for
engaged and married couples.
Growthtrac
www.growthtrac.com
A US site with Christian marriage resources.
Smartmarriages
www.smartmarriages.org
The website for marriage educators. It contains resources
and research articles. The daily email service provides a
clearinghouse about what is being written about marriage
education in the media.
2-in-2 1
www.2-in-2-1.co.uk
A UK site with various resources for marriage education
Vanier Institute for the Family
www.vifamily.ca
Canadas national family institute.
ORGANISATIONS
Association of Couples in Marriage Enrichment (USA)
www.bettermarriages.org
National Association of Catholic Family Life
Ministers (USA)
www.nacfm.org
Bristol Community Family Trust (UK)
www.bcft.co.uk
Catholic Network of Marriage Educators (NZ)
www.cnme.co.nz
Catholic Society for Marriage Education (AUS)
www.csme.catholic.org.au
Marriage and Relationship Educators Association of
Australia (AUS)
www.mareaa.asn.au
John Gray