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Vol : 5 No: 157 India’s Lifestyle Fornightly December 16-31, 2009 Rs. 15.00
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RIGHT TO LIVE WITH DIGNITY?
Hi Friends!
“Discrimination lies at the
root of many of the world’s
most pressing human rights
problems. No country is
immune from this scourge.
Eliminating discrimination is
a duty of the highest order.”
Navi Pillay, United Nations are sexually abused, molested
High Commissioner for Human or raped, children are abused
Rights or forced into commercial sex
or child labour, minor girls are
“All human beings are born free married off to rich old men or
and equal in dignity and rights”. sold off or married off with a
These first few famous words huge dowry. Kidneys are being
of the Universal Declaration of sold without the knowledge
Human Rights established 60 is hesitation in most quarters of gullible people, consumers
years ago the basic premise to talk about the pathetic plight get a raw deal for purchase of
of international human rights of a substantial population that products of low quality, lonely
law. Yet today, the fight against lives without any awareness or senior citizens are murdered
discrimination remains a daily consciousness about human for money, many lives are lost
struggle for millions around the rights. Excepting a few lawyers due to the callous attitude
globe, especially in India. and social activists and a few and treatment by the medical
odd mavericks like me, it is fraternity, several instances of
In a country where existence
taboo to discuss the ills that abuse of the public by the police
and survival are the only goals
affect our country, because it is abound and countless cases lie
of an average citizen, no one
believed that we are selling out unresolved in the courts… well
has the time or the inclination
our country to the world. the list is endless.
to think about human rights.
Human rights are being flouted At the macro level, human
every day, every hour, every rights have taken a beating
minute and every second around in innumerable incidences
our country in myriad ways by of crime. Everyday a child is
almost everyone. However, the subjected corporal punishment
so-called intelligentsia would by a teacher somewhere in the
prefer to talk about the global country or a woman is abused
achievements a few Indians are by her husband or in-laws.
making or how India has kept Gender and caste inequalities
its head above waters during are rampant, leading to clashes
the global economic downturn and skirmishes. There are
or how we are on our way to instances galore where women
achieving the 2020 vision. There
December 16-31, 2009

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WHY ARE
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INDIAN
MOTHERS
AFRAID?
At the micro
level, lack of civic
accountability and
awareness and
disrespect for human
rights lead to all
kinds of everyday
nuisance to the
general public. You
life offering unsolicited counsel,
cannot protest if a pandal is
or expressing the denigrating
erect in the middle of the road
ways they think about you and
to accommodate a funeral
your family. You have to contend
gathering or a religious event. If
with the cantankerous auto
there is blaring music round the
clock that disturbs you in every
driver or the vegetable vendor
who would swear and use the
“A GENERATION IS
possible way, you have to keep
silent; otherwise you would be
choicest invectives for reasons
you do not know and make
AT STAKE”
branded as coming in the way
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you look like a criminal. Then
of religious sentiments of the
there are the notorious public
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people. People can cross the
servants who treat you like dirt
roads everywhere and anywhere
if god forbid, you are at their
and two wheelers and cyclists
mercy, requiring some statutory
can move on the road in any
formalities to be completed…..
manner without following traffic
The Indian citizen goes through
rules. If your child is subjected
the quagmire of everyday living
to ill treatment by teachers in
without a thought about Human
school you have to keep mum. If
Rights. After all, we are living
garbage is thrown in or around
and breathing every day, so what
your premises, you have to
the hell!
look the other way. And worst
of all, there are several good Ciao
Samaritans who interfere in your Swati Amar
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Quizzeria ................................................ 26
Cook ‘n’ Smile .......................................... 36
Jest for Laughs ........................................ 27
Jaggi Vasudev ......................................... 44
Canteen Banter .......................................32
Just Ask Brinda ........................................ 45
For your Eyes Only ................................. 33
Soul’s Core .............................................. 46
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WHY ARE INDIAN MOTHERS AFRAID?
The birth of Aditi was a dream come true for Jayshree

who had always wanted a daughter.
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As she gazed at the tender no stone unturned to give her There are myriad dreams and
little bundle lying beside her, daughter the best opportunities hopes. But what is the reality
tears welled up in her eyes. A for education and a career of her today?
beautiful dream unfolded in her choice.
mind as she visualized how India is in the throes of a
she would bring up her tiny Jayshree is not alone in weaving cultural and social revolution.
daughter. Of course, Jayshree such magnificent dreams about Unlike western countries
would revel in adorning her her daughter. A vast majority of where premarital sex and
beautiful doll with the choicest urban middle class women have relationships are accepted
selection of exquisite garments, fond dreams for their daughters as part of their culture, Indian
inundate her play room with of the new millennium. It is on society still has not accepted
dainty dolls and cute little the strength of this dream that these trends. However, with
toys, take her out to beautiful Indian mothers and in fact, the society opening up for
gardens and frolic around with parents proceed relentlessly free interactions among men
her in the cool beach waters…. against all odds to give their and women, a lot of social
But more than anything else, daughters the best education problems such as transient
her doll would grow up to be a their family kitty can permit, relationships, premarital sex in
well-accomplished, educated sometimes even more, by schools and colleges, abortions
global woman of influence availing huge loans. and suicide among young girls,
and respect. She would leave crime against women and most

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importantly, unscrupulous men ‘pampering by parents ’) who from home or jump out of their
using this liberal ambience and lose their balance and get into balcony. Her anxious mother
advanced technology to foster personal problems and in the always capitulates. Asha is a girl
dubious associations with girls process draw their families into who is sent to the best school
by misleading them, are on the the quagmire. Their focus is lost in the city in a comfortable
increase. And the dreams come and so are their most productive air-conditioned car. Her father
crashing down. years. The rest of their lives is purchases all the materials that
spent in emerging out of these can facilitate her education.
On the one hand there are emotional entanglements and Both parents are broadminded
focused girls who make full rebuilding their lives. and do not impose any control
use of the opportunity provided
to them by their families and on her that might cause her
society and rise up to the
Picture this scenario- stress. They try to infuse some
expectations reposed on them. Asha is a ten year old girl who discipline too, but Asha is too
There are also girls who, in wants to have everything her obstinate and adamant to follow
the process of savouring the way. She often threatens her any instructions or suggestions.
newfound freedom and trust, ( mother that unless she gets what
Vaidehi goes one step further.
often misconstrued by most as she wants, she would run away
She picks up fights with her
mother at the drop of a hat. There
are times when she even throws
whatever comes to her hand at
her petrified mother who does not
know how to deal with her. Vaidehi
has been having an affair with a
boy who is interested in joining
the films. Her mother tried to
caution her, but to no avail. So that
became the reason for constant
skirmishes. A couple of years later,
her boyfriend ditched her when
he got a good offer for a film. Not
having done well in her studies,
Vaidehi had to take up a job in a
nursery school and eventually get
married to another man whom
she did not love. Today she is a
quiet woman, who talks less and
repents. But she can never get
back the years that could have
been spent in pursuing good
education, which her parents were
willing to give her.
Ganga is different. She is a

‘cool’ sort. For her flamboyant
lifestyle, whatever money her
parents supply her with is just
not enough. She has her own
circle of men friends who can
take care of her needs.
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Maya on the other hand fell institution of marriage, these girls a position to judge anybody’s
for Dilip’s charm and constant would not qualify, if the cat was personal life, simply because the
wooing. After romancing with him let out of the bag? Parents are all older generation has not been
during her entire college years, the time concerned about what through it.” According to him we
in the process, faring just about would happen to her future? So are a repressed society. If the
average in her studies, she had families go about agonizing and incidence of HIV+/AIDS is high
dreams of happy matrimony. She handling traumatic situations in in Tamilnadu it is not because of
was shocked when Dilip left her quiet ways trying to sort out the the change that is happening in
for another girl. Out of sheer guilt lives of their beloved daughters. the culture. “If you believe that a
and frustration she jumps from flamboyant culture is the cause
the top of a building and dies. Says advocate K.Sumati from of this trend then the incidence
Chennai, “Women today have must be higher in cities like
Of course there has been a lot great potential and are extremely Mumbai and Delhi, the hot and
of media hype about incidents capable, but highly confused happening metros, and not in
such as the woman who about what they want. It is as if Chennai! We continue to wallow
murdered her husband of seven they initiate a problem but do not in the ostrich syndrome. We
days during their honeymoon in know how to complete it. They think that we are bringing up our
association with her paramour, do not know their destination children correctly. In our greed
who shockingly was an illiterate, when they start their journey. that our children would grow up
alcoholic auto driver. What is Girls today are highly intelligent the way we want, we are being
painful about this incident is and unbelievably talented. But over-protective, which is not
that the woman was educated they do not realize that the healthy for their growth.”
and financially independent and earlier generation has also
could easily have left her home worked hard and has been Geeta Nambissan, a teacher
to be with her boyfriend, sparing responsible for the freedom that from Mumbai opines that
the life of another innocent man. they enjoy today. Every bit of children should be accountable
We have read enough and more freedom we enjoy today, every for their behaviour to their
about the ex-model Geetanjali kind of respect we command, families. “Today, children are
Nagpal or several incidents are the fruits of the wars fought exposed to so many things and
of girls from the small and big by our earlier generations of people and may not be mature
screen attempting suicide due to women, in the face of indignities. enough to understand who or
failed relationships. We may be fighting for the nth what is right or wrong for them.
time but they were the ones to Also, adolescents have the
These are all true stories of girls start the war for the first time. urge to experiment. Parents
belonging to educated, middle After all their efforts, even if we should keep a tab on their
class families. The irony is that commit a small blunder, we will children not by way of monitoring
such incidents never emerge be talked about for generations but generally through casual
from the confines of the homes to come. “ conversations. I feel that open
simply because no parent can channels of communication
divulge to the world anything Actor Madhavan’s views on between children and parents
negative about their daughters. relationship problems are would help avoid a lot of
society
For a soccietyy that sanctifi
at san
nct
ctifi the
ifies th
he different,
diff
di ffer
ereent,, “II do
don’t
don think
n t th
thin are
inkk we a re in
i problems. I make it a point to
know every single movement of
my children. I too inform them
about my whereabouts. ”
While Geeta would not mind

her daughter going out with
groups of friends, she does not
believe that girls can stay over in
their friends’ place. “They have

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to get back to their homes or
hostel on the same day… rather
night,” she says. She does not
encourage dating either.
Dr. Rekha Saraswat, Professor

of Political Science in a Post
Graduate college for girls in
Meerut and the editor of The
Radical Humanist says, “I don’t
think our daughters should be
accountable because we have
given them opportunities or
funded their education. We give
them opportunities because we
love them. Accountability is not
a conscious duty but a natural
by-product of our caring for each
other, keeping each other’s
happiness in mind. No mother, I
think, ever does anything for her
child to get anything in return.”
“I have not built such a

relationship bond in my family
where a mother ‘allows’ her
son or daughter to do or not do
a particular thing. I learnt from
my father to discuss things
democratically, all the pros and
cons of every situation and then
take one’s own decision so that
worthless acquaintances without to inculcate this kind of honesty
each person is responsible for
her keeping vigilance over them. in our children since childhood
his or her own decisions later on.
so that they do not exploit any
We believe in building intellectual Both women agree that attraction relationship or are not exploited.
relationships with people.” towards the opposite sex is If they are hurt, no one is more
normal during adolescence. miserable than the mothers.”
Geeta permits her daughter to
interact freely with the opposite Dr.Rekha feels that it adds Says Geeta, “We too have had
sex. “I too have many men meaning, colour and motivation our share of attractions and it is
friends. Right from my childhood to our lives. “But it is our fine as long as it remains in that
I grew up with my brother’s responsibility to explain all this to level. Serious romance needs
friends and there were no issues. our children, be their best friend thinking, along with parents; but
But there has always been a and help them set their priorities. not during the teenage. Children
clear dividing line. So what works A romance can be painful if need to talk it over. I am sure
for me, works for my daughter it is understood as a life-long parents will understand and
too.” Dr. Rekha too feels that relationship by one of the accept if everything is going
interacting freely is not a fear partners. I think both partners to be fine between two mature
and because of the democratic should be very clear about the adults in love.”
ambience, her children learn to position that each has in the
differentiate between worthy and other’s life. We as mothers have While the middle class

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instance was the death of a ninth
standard boy who was instigated
by an Orkut ‘friend’ to hold his
breath and try to die. When
the mother and grandmother
of the boy entered his room,
the boy had died and the eerie
laughter from the voice chat was
enquiring, “Are you dead yet?”
grapples with the Pandora’s Rekha succinctly explains the Several such incidents relating to
Box, society abounds with situation that society must deal the net communities are lessons
the loss of productive young with, if it were to ensure that the to families to make the children
lives, due to their inability to scourge of relationship problems aware of the perils of such
contend with failed relationships that is catching up among ‘friendships’ with strangers in the
and deceit. According to Dr. the vast youth populace does cyber and the real world, which
Rekha, incidents like suicides not emerge as an intractable has also destroyed many lives of
happen because children find issue. “Today a woman faces young women.
no emotional support outside greater danger of interference
Finally, everything boils down to
their new found relationships. in her privacy because of the
open channels of communication
“I think it is each mother’s use of mobile and the Internet,
among family members, mutual
responsibility to be her children’s because in our society we
are still at a stage where we trust and faith that will keep our
best friend. They need to have
a fall back, a support system. are technologically advanced daughters away from falling
Life is a continuous process of but culturally and emotionally prey to dubious people and
erring and revising, of learning, traditional. Our men and women circumstances.
experimenting and adventuring. have learnt to use the latest Actor Madhavan says, “My sister
I will not like to continue to instruments of communication.
and I have come from a family
be their crutch or delay their They tend to enjoy this new
that has given us the freedom to
growing up into matured self- found freedom. But our men
choose our partners and we are
made individuals, equally proud continue to treat the woman as
continuing to lead happy lives.
and confident of their abilities an object of possession and not
Our intention has not been to
and short comings. I will always as an equally respectable friend
hurt anybody by choosing our
be ready and by their side to or colleague with her individual
own partners.
help them out of precarious identity. But the matter of greater
situations whenever they need surprise is the fact that even There is no substitute for
my shoulder, never criticizing women consider themselves as qualities like compassion,
them or ridiculing their wrong different from men. They need kindness, loyalty, honesty,
decisions. In a world ridden with to be pampered and taken care dedication and commitment.
competition and conflicts, which of as delicate partners, which Parents must encourage the
are natural, the only person makes them vulnerable in the youth to incorporate these
who is not in competition with eyes of unscrupulous elements.
qualities in their lifestyles,
the child is the mother. She has If a woman commands respect
whichever lifestyle they adopt,
to be the child’s moral support as an individual without an overt
because these qualities are
always.” show of feminine delicateness,
part of any world culture. With
there are lesser chances of her
Geeta too feels that when a the speeding up of the society,
vulnerability being exploited?”
relationship fails the child is we are definitely going to have
emotionally low and is looking Geeta recounts heinous events repercussions on relationships. If
for anchor. The mother can related to Internet communities these qualities are incorporated
encourage the child to talk and that rocked Mumbai a few into each person’s lifestyle, a
offer her support. years back. The most shocking healthy society is a possibility. “
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Mouthing Beauty
It is often believed that beauty
deals with the face, skin and
body weight. Most women and
men stop at that. However,
dealing with your mouth,
hands and feet should be as
important a part of your beauty
regime as your focus on the
other aspects of your grooming
and hygiene, if not more. Many
a face has been launched in the
movies and modeling circles
only because of a beautiful
smile. Today dentistry not only
deals with treatment of dental
problems but also cosmetic
dentistry, which need not be
restricted only to film stars and
models. A beautiful mouth is an
asset and adds to your beauty
and self confidence. A beautiful
smile can last forever.
Our teeth are the most durable

part of our body and today
the notion that as you grow
older you will lose your teeth
has been proved wrong. A
combination of awareness,
simple prevention and amazing
technological advances have
made it possible to save
or replace diseased teeth,
prevent decay and aesthetically
remodel them.
Our teeth are the most heavily

used part of our body. These

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miracles of cement, dentin, pulp
and enamel are under constant
assault. We chew with them at
least three times a day, use them
as an extra hand, nutcracker, ice
crusher and for assorted other
tasks that would make your
dentist shudder.
But their most dangerous enemy

is the platoon of bacteria living in
our mouth. There are about three
hundred different types of germs
that call your mouth home. Some
of them are beneficial and can
help the body produce vitamins,
generate enzymes to help you
digest food and reduce the level
of harmful bacteria in the oral
cavity. colony of bacteria and food mouth begin producing acid,
debris that not only gives you which may eat away at the
The troublesome bacteria are the worst breath of the day, but enamel of your teeth. The
referred to as plaque by dentists. if it’s not removed, will produce damage is done quite quickly,. If
Plaque is invisible but you may acid that dissolves tooth enamel, fact, it stats as soon as you stop
recognize it as ‘morning mouth,’ infects the gums and leads to eating. The physical act of eating
That’s the familiar white film that periodontal disease and bone is a form of self-cleansing of the
collects on the teeth overnight loss. teeth. In addition, we produce a
when your saliva, turned off gallon of saliva a day, which has
while you sleep, can no longer Ten to fifteen minutes after a washing effect on our teeth.
rinse it off. It is actually a sticky eating, the bacteria in your To be continued…..

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Beauty’
Speak
over your lips to give you soft
lips.
4. To make your lips soft, you

can try applying extract of
beet root or pomegranate.
Try not to bite your lips or wet
them with your tongue. These
habits will cause harm to your

lips.
5. Face: To prevent dryness of

Winter Care Home Care etc, you will achieve the the face you can apply liquid
Tips double purpose of keeping paraffin over your face and
your lips dry and giving an stay for ten minutes. Take a
1. Eye: If the body heat goes appearance of having applied half ta spoon f liquid paraffin
up, your eyes will become lipstick. Chapstick will prevent , rub over your face and wash
puffy . If you can get hold of dryness and cracking of lips. off or you can decided to
pure castor oil, try to put one Remember to remove lipstick leave it over your face, The
or two drops every morning when you go to bed. Those skin absorbs liquid paraffin
and wash your eyes to reduce who believe in natural home due to its moisture content.
heat. care can apply ghee, butter You also get solidified
or coconut oil over their lips paraffin which you can apply
2. Lips: Apply petroleum jelly on every now and then.
cracked lips. Or you may get according to the instructions.
chap stick and keep applying Normally in beauty parlours,
3. You can also think of applying
over your lips whenever thy they use this. You can also
honey. Honey can be mixed
feel dry. Several flavours are decided to rub coconut oil or
with butter and applied. Or
available . If you go for ones olive oil on your face before a
you can mix a little honey with
with a strawberry flavour bath.
the white of an egg and apply
To be continued……..
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TOWARDS A WORLD SANS AIDS
“A GENERATION
E very man’s life is
a fairy-tale written
by God’s fingers,’ Hans
as an isolated problem today.
Excerpts from an interview with
Madhavan:
Christian Andersen
rightly said. Given the “My sincere request to
present ambience of the youth of today is –
global exposure and a
plethora of opportunities Remember there are no
for advancement in myriad exceptions to this dreaded
fields, young India is poised ailment. Even the most innocent
for a momentous take-off looking, young person could be
at the world level. At this a carrier of the virus. Therefore
point in time, it makes sense it is very much important to
to strive to emerge from the take precautions and prevent
shackles that hinder us from yourselves from acquiring this
advancing to this vantage infection in any manner. We
position. It is in this context that must all remember that an
Eve’s Times brings to you the entire generation is at stake. If
voices of prominent Chennaites you do not want to be a nation
who voice their impressions and of countless HIV infected
views on the beauty of living a people like Africa, appropriate
useful and productive life. abstinence and protection is the
only way out.
Actor R. Madhavan, known as Maddy
to his fans, is one person from the realm I suggest the following as the
of cinema who is devoted to the cause of most important steps to be taken
HIV/AIDS in a big way. On the occasion of for prevention and control of HIV/
World AIDS Day Madhavan offers a special AIDS:
message to the youth on how to be responsible First and foremost, do not treat
to themselves and to the society which is the subject as taboo, because
reeling under the devastating impact of this if you do so, you are alienating
‘Affliction of the Millennium.’ Millions of yourself from the problem and
people all over the world are being you will not equip yourself with
affected by HIV/AIDS during appropriate knowledge about
their most productive years, HIV/AIDS.
a problem which the world
cannot over look. We also Encourage teaching about HIV/
have to tackle the difficulty AIDS in colleges and schools
of supporting young because that is the time when
widows and their the youth start experimenting.
children who are left
behind, debilitated Parents should be open to their
due to the infection children and discuss all issues
and in penury. candidly with them. They should
Nobody can also caution their children about
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N IS AT STAKE”
the infection and help them Trisha found the time
understand the importance of to launch into an
abstinence till marriage. intense thinking about
HIV/AIDS. This is her
The youth should remember message to the youth:
that it is not a fad or style to get
tested and experiment with what “It is very crucial
may result in detriment to them. for everyone to get
They should concentrate on educated and be
achieving their goals, and avoid knowledgeable about
getting distracted. HIV/AIDS, irrespective
of their economic status,
When you come across age, gender, caste or creed.
persons with AIDS, do not Everyone should know what
think that they have been in causes it and what is best way of
some way responsible for their prevention. The most important
predicament. That it the first attitudinal change that needs to
step to remove stigma from be infused is our approach to
the society. Nobody goes out those affected by HIV/AIDS. We
of the way in search of a life should not treat them like they
threatening disease. Please, have a contagious disease or as
also get educated about the if they are outcasts. We should
actual ways and means of how learn to live with them. Also, we
the virus spreads. Education will must understand that there is
go a lot way in our acceptance a difference between HIV+ and
of persons living with HIV/AIDS AIDS. Let’s all take a pledge on
and help us dispel the habit of World AIDS Day that we will get
keeping such people at arms educated and learn to coexist
length. with those affected by HIV/
Organizations are awakened to AIDS and in whatever
this ailment and are doing their little way we can, to
jobs well, spreading the message. contribute to society.
But what is really needed is a Also, remember,
change in the mindset of the prevention is better
society and the people. We than cure.”
must stop joking about HIV/
AIDS or treating it as taboo. We
must all learn to live with this
affliction just as we are dealing
with polio, chicken gunea etc.
Ex communication is worst form
of discrimination to those who
are already suffering. Let us all
awaken to facts about HIV/AIDS
and not turn a blind eye to it.”
Amidst hectic schedules, actor

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TOWARDS A WORLD SANS AIDSS
“THE BEST
AMMUNITION
AGAINST
PREVENTION OF
HIV/AIDS IS
COMMUNICATION”
A ctor Vikram, through

his reel and real
life, has time and again
conveyed important
messages to film lovers,
youth, families and the
public at large. Vikram
has proved that arduous
toil, perseverance,
patience, endurance,
faith, hope and above
all dedication and
commitment to work are
the essential ingredients
of success. Vikram
stands testimony to the
fact that nothing comes
easy in life, as some
youth tend to believe.
His total dedication
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to his profession has going out to eat, or take a
not only unearthed walk. The husband can get
his latent potential, flowers or little gifts for his
creativity, talent and wife and children to show
that he cares. Similarly
skills, but also motivated the father and the children
him to innovate and should spend time together
experiment with different doing things, playing
endeavours related games. This is true for a
to his profession. This woman too, especially for a
quality has enabled him workingwoman.
to endure as a reigning
star for several years in a However, most of us rush
to work, slog, and come
highly competitive field. back bone tired and go to
Vikram’s beliefs about bed. We rise up early next
leading a peaceful and morning and the whirlwind
healthy life are quite starts again. Today, there
simple and pragmatic. is a need to take off at
“ If you look at all that is least once a year for a
happening around us, including holiday—it could be for a
serious health ailments such month or a week or at least
as HIV/AIDS, and given the four to five days-- and visit
fast pace at which the world is a beautiful place where
and casual attitude towards
moving, people are just rushing there are no distractions like the
prevention and control of HIV/
to work and back….. we find that TV, computer or phone. The time
AIDS. An actor must take the
we are not spending enough must be spent in doing things
message to the public to be
time with our family, especially together as a family. A lot of
careful and not take it lightly.
our children, which may be one bonding takes place during this
I feel that celebrities such as
of the causes of these unhappy time. Also, we get an opportunity
actors, sportspersons and all
developments. Recently I saw to reinvent, understand and
people in the public eye should
a sticker on a car that said, “Did communicate with one another.
take it upon themselves to be
you hug your child today?” It I ensure that our family gets to
champions for the cause of
made me wonder how beautiful spend such a holiday every year
HIV/AIDS. It is also the duty of
this line is and what a powerful without distractions.”
every citizen to take part in the
meaning it conveys. campaign and do whatever they
On a parting note, Vikram’s
message to the people is, “It is can in this regard. Moreover, my
The irony is that we are working
important for every one of us to prayer is that people should be
hard and we do everything
accept people living with HIV/ goal-oriented in life. Remember,
for our family, but we are
AIDS and love them, providing it is the duty of every one of us
not demonstrative about our
them care and support. As an to be cautious and ensure that
love. It is important that the
actor, I consider it my duty to we can keep away from HIV/
father spends quality time with
be a part of the awareness AIDS. And don’t forget, being
the child, same goes for the
campaign for social issues. faithful to the spouse will give
husband and wife. In such a
There is a wrong belief among us everlasting happiness. Let us
situation, there is no need for
some people that HIV/AIDS all take these steps earnestly.
the spouse to look elsewhere
happens to ‘other people’ and After all, it is for the benefit and
for affection. By quality time I
that they are immune to it. happiness of everybody in our
mean that the husband and wife
This belief leads to a careless country.”
must spend some time alone
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Is your child difficult?
acts before he thinks. Whenever
things do not go his way he
starts yelling loudly, calling
people names, and will even
hit other kids. This behavior is
not limited to any one particular
place. In fact, Sachin will act
wildly like these both at home
and in public.
Do any of these kids sound

familiar to your own? Do the
above behavior scenarios remind
you of your own children’s strong
willed actions? If your child or
children resembles any of the
above two examples, then fear
not because you are certainly not
alone. Such children can also
be more amazing in hundreds of
ways, if we can remember to call
upon a reservoir of coping tools.
Here are a few to keep in mind:
Child’s Temperament
Think in terms of your child’s
temperament and then reacts to
behavior instead of responding
arenting the “difficult child,” and then the next moment he
P a name coined by Dr.
Stanley Tureck in his best-selling
may suddenly turn very angry
and defiant. The smallest
emotionally or instinctively
to what you perceive as his
motives. Try to see your
book, Your Difficult Child, is things tends to set him off,
child’s behavior as part of her
challenging for any parent, even especially unexpected changes,
the most patient. food he doesn’t like, or having to hardwiring.
go somewhere with her parents.
Would you say that your child He literally throws temper Objective Attitude works
is difficult to handle? Well, it tantrums every half hour or so.
may be a bit reassuring, but you In the midst of a tantrum, it can
Does this sound like your kid? be hard to remain calm. But
are not alone. Many children,
especially toddlers can be Let’s look at little Sachin as this is exactly what will serve
extremely strong willed when it another example. Sachin is you best. When your child acts
comes to behaving nicely. a nine-year-old, a very bright out, stand back and become
kid that lives in a great family as neutral as possible. Your
Take six-year-old Rahul for setting with wonderful parents. response is the most effective if
example. One second Rahul The problem with him is that he it comes from the thinking part of
is very sweet and cooperative, has a very short fuse and often your body, not the feeling part.
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Don’t Take It to heart
A challenging child can be quite
physically and verbally abusive.
When you’re walking around
hearing “I hate you!” or have a
scratch on your face, it’s hard not
to take it personally. But try to
remember your child is not trying
to punish you. Don’t’ ask, “Why
is he doing this to me?” Think
about behaviors, not motivations.
Concentrate on how your child on her own limited perspective power struggle is to use active
won’t put on her shoes, not that of the world, trying to quiet fears listening. Provide short time-
she wants to make you late for and frustrations that we all have outs for misbehavior, 10 minutes
work. to some degree or another. maximum. Discontinue physical
punishment to prevent or break a
Read Patterns Spend time with your negative cycle that could lead to
It may be helpful to keep a log child abuse, resentment and feelings
of worthlessness.
of your child’s difficult behaviors Provide many opportunities for
so you can start to see patterns.
Does it occur at a particular
active, physical play. Find time
Establish Routines
every day to listen to him talk
time of day, under certain Establish regular routines and
about something that interests
circumstances? Is your child a clear structure for your days.
him. Don’t jump in with your
hungry, tired, transitioning to a Help him plan for good behavior
opinion; just listen! Help him
new place? The more specific by discussing upcoming
find a group where he can feel a
you can be about what triggers activities, what he will encounter
sense of belonging (sports team,
your child, the more easily you and how to behave. For serious
drama group, etc.). Let him know
can sidestep the minefields. behavior problems, begin to
he is an important part of your
seek help for your child at
family and community. Find an
Take Care of Yourself opportunity every day to tell him
an early age. Diagnoses and
interventions that work may take
A challenging child can deplete that you love him. Be a good role
some time.
your energy, and make a model in your patience, support
tired parent feel hopeless and and listening.
depressed. If possible, join a
parenting support group where Learn new parenting skills and
you feel safe talking about your try them out until you find what
parenting situation. Take help of works for you
the extended family, parents, in
Present a united front in all
laws, siblings etc so you can get
of your interactions with the
plenty of rest and time away.
child. Have just a few rules but
Most of all, try to remember enforce them consistently. Avoid
your child is not being bad on arguments and power struggles.
purpose. She is acting out based The best way to defuse a By Shailja Mehta

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STETHOSCOPE
The first and most important properly a good conclusion

test is to rule out the male can be reached regarding the
factor is by doing a semen fertility status of the man.
analysis. Once this is done, the
female partner is commonly Do fibroids, affect conception?
evaluated by clinical history and Yes, they may affect the fertility
hen you have planned to examination, hormone analysis,
W start a family and have
not conceived for a year or more,
ultrasound and wherever
feasible hysterolaparoscopy.
status as well as obstetric
outcome depending on their
numbers, size and location.
it is time to look into the matter. The latter has now become a For example, fibroids located
Our new feature on frequently gold standard in diagnosing a in the uterine cavity called as
asked questions in infertility variety of conditions. sub-mucous fibroid, directly
will help dispel many myths interfere with implantation
What are the common causes
and clarify doubts regarding and placentation. Very large
of infertility in the male?
conception among many couples fibroids located in the muscular
aspiring for a baby. Men may have a variety of layer of the uterus (Intra-mural)
conditions which hamper their also interfere with conception
Apart from special features
semen quality and production. and pregnancy outcome.
on health , our regular health
Some of these conditions Whenever the diagnosis is
column, Stethoscope will have
are anti sperm antibodies, made in an infertile woman,
experts from different fields
genito-urinary infections, care should be taken regarding
answering your queries. W are
viral infections like mumps, the removal of these fibroids
happy to announce Dr. Priya
varicocele, maldescent of testis since it influences future fertility.
Selvaraj, MD MNAMS MCE,
and genetic causes. These
Assistant Director, G.G. Hospital,
may result in poor semen
Chennai will answer queries
quality and production or may Dr. Priya
on obstetrics & gynecology
produce obstruction at various
and assisted reproductive
levels in the male reproductive
technology. Send your questions
system. A good clinical history
to eitoretg@gmail.com or
and evaluation of hormones
editor@evestimesonline.com or
(LH, FSH, serum testosterone
to our office address.
and thyroid tests) aided by
What are the preliminary a Doppler examination or
investigations that are essential ultrasound when necessary
to unearth if one should decide may help in diagnosis and
to go for treatment for infertility? treatment. When evaluated

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PUNCH THE PAUNCH Health and Fitness Clinic
ouldn’t it be nice if you Depending on your family
W could eat whatever you
want, blow off working out and
history -- your genetics -- and
the way you eat and exercise
still fit in your skinny jeans? It to create this energy deficit,
may not be possible, but you your body may decide to get
can indeed speed up your conservative and drop your
metabolism in your body that metabolic rate to try to hold
burns calories. onto body weight. Some of
us seem to have inherited
A fundamental mistake in this tendency more than
dieting is the belief that eating others.
less will lead to fat loss.
Scientific evidence suggests
this to be entirely WRONG! The So how do we
human body adapts to such Punch the
a level that when it senses a Paunch?
shortage of food it responds Don’t Despair
by dramatically decreasing now!
the metabolic rate, the rate at
which calories are burned in One way of
the body, in order to preserve tackling the
energy and ensure survival. situation is to
The irony of the situation is resort to simple
that when you need to lose methods that will
fat and severely restrict your help burn fat fast. You
food intake it fires the same will be surprised to know
mechanism in the body which that even foods can help
was meant to preserve calories
burn your fat!
rather than burn calories!
Foods that are high in protein
Moreover as you age, your
metabolism slows down, chiefly and fiber are the best kinds of
because you lose around a half food to eat if you want to burn
pound of muscle each year. fat fast. Fiber slows digestion
If you don’t use the muscle, and makes you feel fuller. C does it dilutes the fat and thus
it atrophies. That translates This is so important in burning renders it less effective. It also
into burning about 400 fewer fat and reducing cravings, becomes easier for such fat to
calories each day, which could especially for foods loaded be flushed out of the system.
mean gaining a pound a week! with sugar. Did you know that Pectin is found in apples and
it takes more energy to digest most fresh fruits. This substance
The body normally burns a mix protein than it does to digest
of carbohydrate, as glucose, is said to be able to limit the fat
fat? So the more protein you that is absorbed by the cells.
and fat for fuel. How much of
eat the more calories your body In addition to this, pectin helps
either depends on your physical
burns. in the absorption of watery
activity and if, or what you
have eaten recently. When Foods that are rich in Vitamin substances. The reaction of the
you use more energy than you C have the properties of watery substances on the cells
take in from food and drink, acting as fat burners. Limes, makes it release fat deposits.
the body burns stored fat and
lemons, oranges, grapefruit If you are serious about
carbohydrates, and then even
and vegetables like, broccoli, tightening your belly, start by
protein, to fuel your everyday
cabbage, celery, carrot, changing your choice of food.
activities even if you are not
exercising watermelon and apple fall into There are other important things
this category. Broccoli and you need to know. More in the
That’s what happens when cabbage contain high quantities next issue!
people starve of course; of calcium and vitamin C, and
the body starts to eat itself. is also fibrous. What vitamin Your Fight Fat Friend!

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BREAKING NEWS
THE LIGHTER SIDE
from the University of Houston
BJP PROPOSES, RSS and Sonja Prokopec from
DISPOSES ESSEC Business School France,
one can rein in overeating by
RSS sarsanghchalak Mohan setting a mental budget, Journal
Bhagwat’s reiteration that none of Consumer Research reported.
of the four Delhi-based second- By doing so, the report said, at
generation leaders of the BJP the very least, it allows you to
was in consideration for the keep track of how you are doing
position of the saffron party’s with respect to your goal.
president ship provides clear
indication that L.K. Advani’s Yet, another discovery in the
coterie is fast losing its grip. In field of dieting and fitness! No,
fact, misinterpretation of most of don’t rush to that restaurant to
the developments within the BJP celebrate, get started on that
has been deliberately done over mental budgeting instead. The World Toilet Organization,
the last few months to give more attempts to mainstream the
ICONIC FIGURES CAN BE culture of cleanliness and
time to Advani, whose tenure as
SHOWN SMOKING, HEALTH raise global awareness about
leader of opposition in the Lok
MINISTRY NODS sustaining sanitation activities.
Sabha may also come to an end
shortly. But it appears now that The health ministry is ready Its founding day is celebrated as
the RSS has conveyed to Advani to allow the depiction of iconic World Toilet Day every year.
that he should announce his characters with their favorite From Teacher’s Day, Children’s
retirement plan with a specific poison stick. Day to Mother’s Day, Father’s
date. This concession has been
Hang on, I thought that the Day, then Valentine’s Day,
granted keeping in view Advani’s
statement was ‘smoking banned Friendship Day and now Toilet
long service to the party.
from silver screens’ or other Day. It looks like there are
In politics, even playing God is statements to that effect just occasions to mark all the 365
easy. Or devil, as the saner ones a while ago, wasn’t it? The days of the year. Schools will
amongst us would choose to say. sensible thing would be to soon be teaching the same
merely read such statements instead of our good old Sunday,
MENTAL BUDGETS HELP and not absorb them for who Monday, Tuesday……
WINNING DIET BATTLES knows, before you turn the
page, another statement could
According to researchers,
be issued banning the blessed
Parthasarathy Krishnamurthy
things!
CELEBRATE WORLD
TOILET DAY
An NGO with a 151 men
organization from 53 countries, Kanchana. Rao

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Keep Smiling
“You are not responsible for what people think about you.
But you are responsible for what you give them to think about you”

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Retail Rights?
Hi Friends!
We live in the epoch of extreme
consumerism. In fact, we
are consumed by this very
phenomenon at best. In the
cadence of the modern 21st
century, we’re victims of the retail
market that has taken over our
lives. We’re dependent on them
for food, clothes, groceries, and
even the newspaper! Sometimes,
(more often than not) we feel like
hapless consumers whose voice
is being stamped out by the
unreasonable price-rates thrown
at us along with the inadequate
quality--a shocker--(at this point,
I’m NOT talking about instant rip-
offs at the Sarojini Nagar Market
or Janpath in New Delhi, when
you purchase a raggedy T-shirt
for 150 bucks only to realize
its true value lies less than 70
bucks. Hawkers are ALLOWED
to cheat you. It’s called licensed
cheating, and you’re SUPPOSED
to bargain. You’ll only be
considered an absolute airhead
to not bargain). Anyway, I’m
talking about swanky branded cons of globalization, which phenomenon that looms like
retail outlets that were invented include ‘illegal profit-making a miasma of disaster over this
to cater to the bourgeoisie, by manufacturing goods of ‘global village’. It requires an
where consumers have no option substandard quality’. Ha, who attitudinal turnover. And this
but to stick to the overpriced cares if defective electrical very statement is incredibly
rate marked on the price tag. appliances cause the death of futile, considering that an
These consumers construe somebody? attitudinal turnover has not been
that the large quantity of dough accomplished despite fruitless
The materialism is abysmal but earnest attempts, in the
doled out towards their purchase
(has always been, and will last century, when it comes to
automatically guarantees them
always be), but the lack of scruples and principles (in fact,
exemplary quality. But no, they’re
respect is unpardonable. It just it has only worsened in this
mistaken.
bears testimony to the fact that department), and probably will
Gone are the days where there is a person’s life is equated to not happen in the next couple of
value for money for consumers. a certain percentage of profit centuries.
In fact, retail outlets make a acquired from selling a defective
juicy profit at the expense of product. Which is revolting. Until next fortnight
the naive consumers, most Namrata
And no number of laws, I tell Editor, TeenMag
of whom are oblivious to the
you, can rectify this disgusting
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Yeah Write!
FRIENDS FOREVER
Once in a lifetime, you find a friend
Who touches not only your heart
But also your soul
Once in a lifetime, you discover someone
Who stands beside you, not over you
Once in a lifetime, you find someone,
Who loves you for what you are
Friends are very special people

With whom we can be ourselves,
Bare our souls and unravel our thoughts
Endearing mortals we can talk with,
Laugh with, hope with and believe with
Blessed are those who revel in the warmth of
True Friendship!
P Coming of age was another milestone

I had to leave the nest and fend for myself
A
Fumbling and bungling finally led me
To my first job where I had to jump hoops
To prove my worth, Oh so painfully!
I
Now I have found my equilibrium and family
But my dear friend drops in quite frequently
As pleasure and pain are but the two sides
Of the same coin which is life and one
N
Invariably follows the other relentlessly!
Old age is no picnic and brings ailments

It has become one of my dearest friends You are often alone and helpless
In fact we are friends from time immemorial… It is pretty much painful to move around
I cannot pinpoint the exact moment Yet you manage counting your days
But it sure was uncomfortable Praying incoherently but consistently!
Floating in the amniotic fluid
And then being cut loose and rudely slapped Yes, pain is my dear friend
On my so very tiny and tender bottom! Much loved and embraced fondly….
Next I crept and crawled in all sorts
We can endure an extra pound of pain far
Of places in a spirit of adventure more easily than we can suffer the withdrawal
Hurting myself in the process and of an ounce of accustomed pleasure.- Sydney
Was painfully poked by well-meaning hands J Harris
Thus reacquainting myself with my friend!
My teen years were also ignoble Bina Gupta From Brooklyn
My body had a mind of its own Originally
Much to my consternation and grief published@www.binaguptapoetry.com
And the unkind remarks passed
By peers and family were quite painful.

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Quizzeria?
PUZZLING WAYS TO other. It shuttles back and forth
TORMENT YOUR FRIENDS! between the two at 20 kms
an hour until the riders meet. He gathers 49 stubs If he
Cool friends? Lets get their How far has it traveled? smokes one cigarette every
brains cracking, at least three-quarters of an hour how
2. Can you give in five seconds
whatever little they seem to be long will his supply last?
three numbers which give the
endowed with. Here goes: 4. If three cats can kill three rats
same total when added as
1. Two cyclists approach each when multiplied together? in thee minutes, how long will
other on a straight road, it take a 100 cats to kill a 100
3. A tramp finds himself out of
pedaling at 15 kms an hour. rats?
cigarettes. He casts about
When they are 30 kms apart for stubs, having learnt that 5. Which is correct: 8 and 8 are
a horsefly alights on one seven stubs make a cigarette 15 or 8 and 8 is 15?
bicycle, then dashes off to the practically as good as new. 6. It is legal for a man to marry
his widow’s sister?
7. The archaeologist who said
Brain Teaser he found a silver coin market
easing and tickling your gray cells is said to improve your brain 649 BC was either lying or
T power. So go ahead and play with the numbers and check for
yourself if you have it in you to vanquish number puzzles with ease!
kidding. Why?
Happy Sudokuing!
6 7 8
3 8 4
2 8 6
5 7 3
1 4 9
6 2 3
7 6 9

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JEST FOR LAUGHS

Mandu Mohan : My mobile bill, Mohan: Wow! That’s an
how much? unbelievable exchange offer!
Call centre girl: Sir, just dial
Teacher: Which is the oldest
123to know current bill status.
animal in world?
Mandu Mohan : That’s dumb!
Mohan: ZEBRA
Not CURRENT BILL, my
Teacher: How?
MOBILE BILL.
Mohan: B’coz it is Black & White
Friend: I got a brand new Ford
Judge: Don’t you have any
IKON for my wife! Sardar: If you give me the
sense of shame? It is the third
address, I will go there sir.
time you are coming to court.
Mohan to judge: You are coming Mohan got an sms from his girl
daily, don’t you have any friend: “I MISS YOU”
shame either ? Mohan replied: “I Mr YOU!”
Question: Should women have After finishing MBBS Mohan
children after 35? started his practice. He checked
Smart Mohan replied: No! 35 the first patient’s eyes, tongue
children are more than enough! and ears with the aid of a torch
Mohan attending an interview in and finally said, “ the torch is
a Software Company. okay.”
Manager: Do you know MS Mohan: Oye, What will happen if
Office? electricity was not discovered?
Sohan: Nothing, we must watch
TV in candle light.
Mohan on an airplane going

to Mumbai. During landing he
shouted: Bombay ... Bombay
Air hostess : Be silent please.
Mohan: Ok: Ombay…. Ombay
Teacher: What is common

between JESUS, KRISHNA ,
RAM, GANDHI and BUDHA?
Mohan: All were born on
government holidays...!
Sir: What is
the difference
between an
Orange and
an Apple?
Mohan:
The color of
Orange is
orange, but the
color of Apple is not APPLE.

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4 9 Brain
1 3 2Teaser
8 7 6 5
Answer
7 8 5 1 4 6 2 9 3
6 3 2 7 5 9 4 1 8
5 7 8 6 1 3 9 2 4
2 4 6 9 8 5 1 3 7
3 1 9 4 7 2 5 8 6
8 2 3 5 9 4 6 7 1
Ans
9 5 7 8 6 1 3 4 2
1. Twenty kilometers. Since the
two cyclists were traveling 1 6 4 2 3 7 8 5 9
at 15 kms an hour and were
originally 30 kms apart,
when they met they had
been on the road for an hour.
Accordingly, the fly traveling
at 20 kms an hour, covered
THE ASCENT OF 21 WOMEN LEADERS
20 kms regardless of how
OF INDIA INC.
complicated its path.
2. 1,2,3 “The Voyage to Excellence has documented the
success stories of women in our country. Such books
3. Six hours. The 49 stubs make build up our confidence and courage. Every girl,
woman and the parents of every girl should read the
seven cigarettes, but each of book and understand that we too can ascend the ladder
these when smoked is good of success-”Hon’ble Union Minister of State for Women
for a new stub. Thus there & Child Development Renuka Chowdhury.
are seven additional stubs; “The book is first-class and a must-read for all as it
therefore eight cigarettes. brings to light the respect that women command in
today’s era. Nischinta and Debashish have brought us
4. Three minutes. It takes each to an era of command-the era when women command
cat three minutes to kill each respect, an era when women seek a place for
themselves by their hard work” Dr.Kiran Bedi IPS
rat.
5. Neither , 8 and 8 are still 16.
(Formar UN Civilian Police Advisor to the Secretary
General) Authors:
6. Only dead men have widows. Do you want to be successful? Get your copy of the Nischinta Amarnath
7. How did anyone know Christ
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UNITY IS STRENGTH
proverb of school years, oft we need to communicate straight and understanding,
A repeated as the bottom line
of diary pages, seen as the title
without any prejudice. Distortion
in joint or thought leads to
along with
exercising. We need
of moral stories, placards hold disaster. to understand our
these words high above heads. own body, accept
Yes high, so high that it seems Warming up before your work what we cannot
to go beyond human capacity outs is very important to avoid change and work
of absorption and practice. Our injuries. Never jump on to the towards changing what we can.
eyes open wide always, only in treadmill and start sprinting right The body works only in unison.
the eleventh hour, whether it is away like the way we jump to Addressing a particular part to
September eleventh or twenty conclusions at times without shape up or tone is not possible
six eleven. Eyes open wide sadly analyzing or reasoning! After without the help of the rest of the
not in realization but fear. The warm up we can begin our body. The six pack is possible
reaction is to eradicate terrorism cardio, strength or flexibility only if you put your mind to it and
but the definition for terrorism training etc. See that your control your taste buds. For the
is self defined! To some it is exercises are done under proper abdominal crunch to take place
Pakistan, to others it is a religion guidance and knowledge and the legs need to be stable and
or a fanatic cult. It even could be are specific to your capacity. the neck should not be doing the
something that is often repeated The need of weight reduction, job of the torso. An observation
in press or heard a lot at home weight gain, or strengthening or of the body itself is a lesson on
and around. Communication lengthening the muscles might unity.
whether visual or verbal has be varied but the one common
undergone a vigorous training goal should definitely be good The strength that we women
and can easily influence brains health. Whether it is your own achieve should be channeled
when in a vulnerable state like mental and physical health or the to go beyond a mere ramp
the Mumbai incident. The most society’s unless there is unity in walk. How many of our hour
fearful thing is fear itself. For work, achievement will only be a glass figures are actually
when in fear we know not what sigh of impossibility. Might is not prepared to soil their hands
we do and reasoning becomes a right if the goal is not healthy. or toil for their own families let
coward. alone society. Let us all work
Think…and think in unison. towards achieving a bomb of
Tomorrow as you head to the This is the only way to tackle a body packed with positive
gym or set out to begin terrorism. Remember, those energy ready to be released at
your workout, who strike do so out of fear the hour of need and not blast
and insecurity. Terrorists are innocence with hydrogen bombs
those who live in terror. It is out of uncultured cowardice.
those who fail and ……………..!
give up in life
who commit CHEERS! TO ALL YOU BOMB
think about suicide. SHELLS
the world around To live we
need to be Vijaya Rao
and become aware of the
integral part played by you. As balanced
you warm up your hands and in mind
legs be thankful that you still and strong
have them and put them to in body.
good use. As you rotate your Gather
shoulders and swing your hips strength and
remember how important the get stronger
joints are for any movement through unity,
to take place. We need to acceptance
connect in good alignment –
December
De
D ece
cem ber 16-31,
mb 16
6--3
311, 2009
2009
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You (th) Are the Master of the Game

LIVE WITH
THE MOODS OF INDIA
for our society and But at the same time, we feel
country have not been frustrated by the pace of our
realized in sixty years. own democracy. Today the
It will be foolish to political parties, the press,
complain and say that the judiciary, NGOs and other
nothing works here. pressure groups all exert their
Of course, things can influence on public decisions.
be a lot better, more
This constant pulls and tugs
egalitarian and a lot
definitely slow down the pace of
more transparent but
our decision making. We cannot
at the same time it is
Youth comes but once in a also necessary for us
wish away this democratic
lifetime –Longfellow. to cherish and appreciate what’ process. We must learn to live
s right about India. with this constraint. We must
Young India is surging forward engage in debate, dialogue and
in the international arena with The change of power from one find a way to work and to take
great gusto enriching the talent regime to another has always decisions.
pool with its immense intellectual been absolutely smooth and
prowess and creative wealth. totally constitutional. There According to me, India will
Today, if our voice echoes in the is and will always be a clear never be a tiger. It will always
global corridors as a force to demarcation of the role of be an elephant. There will be
reckon with, it is thanks to the the military in India. The days during which the elephant
immense contribution of young disciplined Indian military will laze around in the pond,
Indians in various fields. Eve’s has always subjected itself to spraying water on itself; there
Times is happy to announce a civilian authority. The Indian will be days when it will gently
serial for and about the youth electorate is known for making pat the passers-by with its trunk;
from one of the prominent youth informed choice when selecting
there will be days when it will
leaders in our country, Karti its leaders. The elections have
Chidambaram. In this issue Karti meander in the fields; there will
always reflected the mood of
shares his random thoughts be days when it will sit still and
the people. Political structures
about sixty years of Indian will not budge; there will be days
who by popular motion were
independence. Over to this when it will carry a heavy load
voted to power , if they did
suave and savvy youth icon: not abide by their promises or happily and there will also be
were found to be floundering, days when it will break into a
We are a young country even
have been shown their place at downhill run, when it will exhibit
though sixty years seem a long
various times by the electorate. strength by uprooting trees or
time in human life. Despite
This aspect India must be truly trample upon those around it
India’s long and envious
cherished. This is the nature and will run amok. We must just
historical background, we are
of India and its people who are learn to live with the moods of
still a very young country. One
far wiser than its sixty year of India, with pride, fierce loyalty
must accept that perhaps the
existence. and unity.
lofty expectations we have had
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teen magg
CANTEEN BANTER CANTEEN BANTER
Know your
personality
his is a real test given by the Human C) a quiet chuckle
T Relations Dept. at many of the major
corporations today. It helps them get better
D) a sheepish smile
insight concerning their employees and in their 6. When you go to a party or social gathering
prospective employees. you...
A) make a loud entrance so everyone notices
It’s only 10 Simple questions, so grab a pencil and you
paper, and answer truthfully B) make a quiet entrance, looking around for
someone you know
1. When do you feel your best..
C) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay
A) in the morning unnoticed
B) during the afternoon and early evening
C) late at night 7. You’re working very hard, concentrating hard,
and you’re interrupted...
2. You usually walk...
A) welcome the break
A) fairly fast, with long steps B) feel extremely irritated
B) fairly fast, with little steps C) vary between these two extremes
C) less fast head up, looking the world in the
face 8. Which of the following colors do you like
D) less fast, head down most...
E) very slowly A) Red or orange
B) black
3. When talking to people you....
C) yellow or light blue
A) stand with your arms folded D) green, dark blue or purple, white, brown or
B) have your hands clasped gray
C) have one or both your hands on your hips
D) touch or push the person to whom you are 9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few
talking moments before going to sleep you are....
E) play with your ear, touch your chin, or A) stretched out on your back
smooth your hair B) stretched out face down on your stomach
C) on your side, slightly curled
4. When relaxing, you sit with...
D) with your head on one arm
A) your knees bent with your legs neatly side E) with your head under the covers
by side
B) your legs crossed 10. You often dream that you are...
C) your legs stretched out or straight A) falling
D) one leg curled under you B) fighting or struggling
C) searching for something or somebody
5. When something really amuses you, you react
D) flying or floating
with...
E) you usually have dreamless sleep
A) big appreciated laugh F) your dreams are always pleasant
B) a laugh, but not a loud one

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teen mag
For Your Eyes Only………………..Trisha
This is a fun column, a friendly

exchange between you and
your favourite Trisha. If you feel
like opening out your heart to
someone, perky and young
Trisha is willing to lend you a
helping hand. You can ask her
anything under the sun… but
this column is meant only for have I jumped into another If you are a person of the type
the teens…ADULT ALERT!!!! planet? Looks like I have you really claim to be, in no time
turned to a wallflower. How do they will notice all your qualities.
I am an outgoing and I get people to notice me? Chennai is not like Mumbai.
vivacious schoolgirl who
Southies are conservative and
has moved to Chennai from Maya, Chennai
once they like you they will warm
Mumbai. In my old school in
Mumbai, I was quite popular Hey just relax. You cannot get up to you. Needs patience and
and had a lot of friends. people notice you overnight. It being the kind of person you are
Since I joined the school in takes time. Most importantly, I am sure it is a piece of cake for
Chennai, it looks like I need just be yourself. Mingle with a you to achieve this. All the best
to hone my people skills or lot of people and make friends. and welcome to Chennai!
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teen mag
Know your personality
understanding, someone who’ll
always cheer them up and help
them out.
31 TO 40 POINTS: Others
see you as sensible, cautious,
careful & practical. They see
you as clever, gifted, or talented,
but modest. Not a person
who makes friends too quickly
or easily, but someone who’s
extremely loyal to friends you do
POINTS: make and who expects the same
loyalty in return. Those who
1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6
really get to know you, realize it
2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2
though not always the right takes a lot to shake your trust in
(e) 1
ones. They see you as bold and your friends, but equally that it
3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7
adventuresome, someone who takes you a long time to get over
(e) 6
will try anything once, someone if that trust is ever broken.
4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1
who takes chances and enjoys
5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 21 TO 30 POINTS: Your friends
an adventure. They enjoy being
(e) 2 see you as painstaking and
in your company because of the
6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2 fussy. They see you as very
excitement you radiate.
7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4 cautious, extremely careful, a
8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 slow and steady plodder. It
(d) 4 (e) 3 (f ) 2 would really surprise them
(g) 1 if you ever did something
9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 impulsively or on the spur
(d) 2 (e ) 1 of the moment, expecting
10 (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 you to examine everything
(d) 5 (e) 6 (f ) 1 carefully from every angle
Now add up the total and then, usually decide
number of points. against it. They think t his
reaction is caused partly by
OVER 60 POINT: Others your careful nature.
see you as someone
they should ‘handle UNDER 21 POINTS:
with care’. You’re seen People think you are shy,
as vain, self-centered, nervous, and indecisive,
and who is extremely someone who needs looking
dominant. Others may after, who always wants
admire you, wishing they someone else to make the
could be more like you, but don’t decisions and who doesn’t
41 TO 50 POINTS : Others see
always trust you, hesitating to want to get involved with anyone
you as fresh, lively, charming,
become too deeply involved with or anything! They see you as
amusing, practical, and always
you. a worrier who always sees
interesting, someone who’s
51 TO 60 POINTS : Others problems that don’t exist. Some
constantly in the center of
see you as an exciting, highly people think you’re boring. Only
attention, but sufficiently well
volatile, rather impulsive those who know you well, know
balanced not to let it go to
personality, a natural leader, that you aren’t.
their head. They also see
who’s quick to make decisions, you as kind, considerate, and

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an I make fried snacks
C using olive oil? My family
likes to eat a lot of fried stuff
and I have decided to change upset. What use can we make of
over to olive oil, at least for milk that gets curdled?
frying snacks. Since we are poor
eaters, I don’t mind spending Vanaja Venkatraman
for olive oil. Also, I would like
he best way to test the state
to know if Virgin olive oil is the
best for cooking purposes. After
T of curdled milk is to taste
it to ensure that it is not sour or
frying, can we re-use the left
bitter. If you feel it is less curdled,
over oil? Can we add a spoon
you can add some more vinegar
of ghee or butter to olive oil to
or lime juice to it. Then strain it
enhance the taste of dishes like
to make paneer. Use the whey to
Pongal etc.? Will it make any less saturated fats, for normal
knead soft chapatti dough. The
difference to the taste? cooking.
paneer can be used to prepare
R. Mohini, Chennai If you can afford it, it is advisable koftas and cutlets.
to use Virgin olive oil for salads
t is better to avoid using olive Another way to use curdled
I oil to deep fry snacks as it is
composed of mono unsaturated
and normal cooking as it is not
refined and is filled with nutrients
milk is to add a little sugar, and
heat it well to make therittupal.
as well. These nutrients are lost
fats. For deep frying, a little Alternatively you could add
in cooking at high temperatures.
saturated fat is required to arrest roasted rawa or khoya to make
outside moisture when the Deep frying is best avoided. halwa.
temperature goes up to about However, if you need to do so,
Interview by Deepti Menon
300 degrees centigrade. This it is better to use oil sparingly
ensures that the crispness of so that it does not get left over. The Best Query of the month
the snack is maintained. It is Reusing oil causes oxidation will win a masala hamper from
better to use refined peanut or and can turn it rancid. Oil may Mallika Home Product Pvt.
groundnut oil for deep frying, be reused in dishes like poriyal, Ltd. Cooking has never been a
and use sunflower oil, which has which do not require high Spicier Experience!
temperatures for cooking.
Eve’s Times readers have
When preparing Pongal, do not exciting news! Watch out for
add ghee along with the oil. competitions on cookery tips
Instead add a teaspoon of ghee and recipes. Dig out exotic
on top after the dish is cooked to recipes and innovative tips and
enhance its taste. win prizes! Send your recipes/
tips with your colour pix to Eve’s
We make paneer at home by Times #18/1 Second Cross
curdling fresh milk. Can we use St Dr.Radhakrishnan Nagar,
milk that gets curdled to make Tiruvanmiyur, Chennai 600 041
paneer? Once I tried this, when or by e-mail to
the milk got spoilt, I filtered and editor@evestimesonline.com
made paneer and made malai
kofta out of this, but I had to
suffer from a huge stomach

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Recipe of the Fortnight
Chickent Jalfrezi
You can use leftover roast chicken
to make a quick and tasty meal.
Ingredients
Mustard oil 1 tsp
Vegetable oil 3 tbsp
Large onion chopped finely 1
Garlic cloves, crushed 3
Tomato puree 1 tbsp
Tomatoes, peeled and chopped 2
Ground turmeric 1 tsp
Cumin seeds, ground ½ tsp
Coriander seeds, ground ½ tsp
Chilli powder ½ tsp
Garam masala ½ tsp
Red wine vinegar 1 tsp
Small red (bell) pepper, chopped 1
Frozen broad beans 1 cup or 125gm
Cooked chicken, cut into bite- 500 gms
Sized pieces, Salt to taste, Fresh coriander (cilantro sprigs for garnishing
Method
Heat the mustard oil in a large frying pan set over a high heat for about 1 minute until it begins to smoke.
Add the vegetable oil, reduce the heat and then add the onion and the garlic. Fry oil, garlic and onion
until they are golden.
Add the tomato puree, chopped tomatoes, turmeric, ground cumin, ground coriander, chilli powder,
garam masala and vinegar to the frying pan. Stir the mixture until fragrant.
Add the red (bell) pepper and broad beans and stir for two minut until the pepper is softened.
Stir in the chicken and salt to taste. Simmer gently for 6-8 minutes until the chicken is heated through
and the beans are tender. Serve garnished with coriander sprigs.
Cook ‘n’ Smile Easy Recipes

From the Recipes of BROCCOLI SOUP they become tender . Cool and
Sumati Ramkumar Ingredients
then grind in a mixie the water.
Just before serving heat it again
Slurping a hot cuppa soup is all and add the milk and crushed
Broccoli 1
that is needed to sizzle up your pepper and serve.
Crushed pepper ¼ tsp
lives on a cool, wintry day or on
Salt to taste
a rainy day. And if you can add
Milk ¼ cup
a little bit of health potion and
your tender loving care into the Method
soup, then your family’s health is
made! Happy Souping! Cut the broccoli into small florets
and wash them thoroughly. Cook
the pieces in water with salt till

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From the Recipes of Sumati Ramkumar
Slurping a hot cuppa soup is all that is needed
to sizzle up your lives on a cool, wintry day or
on a rainy day. And if you can add a little bit
of health potion and your tender loving care
into the soup, then your family’s health is
made! Happy Souping!
BROCCOLI SOUP
Ingredients
Broccoli 1
Crushed pepper ¼ tsp
Salt to taste
Milk ¼ cup
Method
Cut the broccoli into small florets and wash them

thoroughly. Cook the pieces in water with salt
till they become tender . Cool and then grind in a
mixie the water. Just before serving heat it again
and add the milk and crushed pepper and serve.
PALAK SPRING ONION SOUP WITH SWEET

CORN
Ingredients
Palak 1 bunch
Spring onion only the green
leaves cut into small pieces ¼ cup
Tinned Sweet Corn ¼ cup
Tomato Puree 2 tbsp
Sugar 1 tsp
Crushed Pepper 1 tsp
Salt to taste
Fresh Cream 1 tbsp
(if dieting add 1 tsp of skimmed milk powder)
Oil 1 tsp
Method
Wash the Palak leaves well in warm water and keep aside. Boil water in a vessel and add the palak
leaves and cook for 5 minutes. Meanwhile, wash the spring onions leaves and
fry in a kadai for a minute . Take the palak leaves from the water and grind it along with the spring
onion leaves and sweet corn in the mixie. Pour it into a vessel , add salt, sugar, tomato puree, pepper
and stir well. Just before serving heat and add the fresh cream , mix well and serve hot.
It will be a Delicious, Yummy Soup

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Wandering Ma
Plastic Pest
am in Mylapore Tank
I on the famous Mada
Street where you can “Haven’t you u heard that we
w
buy anything on earth. have to fight against
i t plastic
l tit
I see a lady pick bags in this city,” she exclaimed it faded it was converted into a
up odds and bits and after looking around for a jhula or cradle for the current
in a famous suitable carrier, as she had only infant in the house. It was also
shop selling a leather handbag, she wrapped used as room partitions or even
traditional up her purchases in a sheet of curtains on windows. When it
stuff. She old newspaper and walked out began to fray it was used to line
pays her bill of the shop. She was not very mattresses and then pieces were
and as the salesgirl comfortable carrying the bundle converted into dusters, kitchen
begins to put her of stuff trailing garlands and cloths and bandages. Why! In
purchases in a plastic knick knacks, but she was willing many states old saris have been
bag she says, “No! I to make the effort. converted into pieces of art—the
don’t want a plastic Bengalis made piles of old saris
bag. Please give me If I were to choose the biggest into duvets and embellished
a paper one”. The villain in all history, I would easily them with kantha work. The
shopkeeper says name the guy, (undoubtedly a Gujaratis and South Indians
he doesn’t man!) who invented plastic carry converted them into Godhadis
have one. bags. He has single-handedly or carrying cloths—patchwork
perpetrated the degradation of pieces that were presented to
the environment, ecology and life newborn babies. The Punjabis
on Planet earth. Mea Culpa too, created magnificent Phulkaris.
for I walked out of that shop with Old dhothis were converted into
my purchases in a plastic bag! nappies or used to protect and
But I have learnt a lesson from wrap silk saris that were stored
the lady in Mada Street to shun in chests or cupboards. Vadams
plastic and never to leave home and pickles were made on the
without my shopping basket/bag white material and spread to
to bring home my purchases. catch the sun and optimise its
heat with its white background.
In India, we have always Finally all material was shredded
been great recyclers as to make waste that mechanics
it were. Nothing was and handymen used to wipe
discarded and everything grease.
put to use, reuse and
re-re-use until the I still remember with nostalgia
stuff disintegrated to the little paper cones of peanuts
nothing. Take a sari—it and maangai- thengai - pattani
was worn, washed sundal that we used to buy in
and taken care off with beaches and street corners. The
little bits of mending dhal, rice, sugar and groceries
and darning. Then when were wrapped up in old

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Mahila
newspaper. Even today many
dhobis use old newspaper to
line saris after cleaning, ironing
them and thus give them some
stiffness to help carry the flimsy
material home.
Wood was used and reused in

some way or the other –maybe
to line roofs, to add to shanty
walls, to reinforce footpaths and
finally even to make rawlplugs, body and as a result soon we
tiny slivers of wood that acted are going to run out of potable
as ballast for nails in walls. water… remember only 2%
Footwear was soled and resoled of the earth’s water supply is
and used till the uppers gave drinkable!
way. Clothes were recycled and With all this abuse, what are we
handed down to junior members going to leave behind for our
without taking umbrage about future generations other than
hand-me-downs. money that will itself degrade in
Today, it is a use-and-throw value as the years of exploitation
culture. We don’t care a damn and neglect trundle along?
where our discarded stuff
goes, how it can cause a
huge ecological disaster. We
don’t care whether materials
are bio-degradable or can
cause permanent damage in
landfills, in the stomachs of
animals, fish, clogging aquifers
and water bodies. We pollute
indiscriminately every water
Padmini Natarajan
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A Portrait of the Modern Woman – Tunnel Vision!
relationships with others, most - Deepti Menon
of which have failed.
she delivers a daughter, and
This amazing novel has been her parents refuse to take her
adapted by a young Chennai back as she is now part of her
director, Nikhila Kesavan, husband’s family. Ultimately she
who has been in theatre for commits suicide, a tragic end for
seven years now. She has an unlikely heroine!
retained the purple patches of
the novel, and woven a tale Nikhila explores various
about the modern Pakistani relationships. The mother and
woman. What is uncanny is the daughter are two generations
way she instils a sense of déjà apart in their thinking. Bursts of
vu, as we see many modern acrimony are flowed by bouts
stereotypes coming alive... the of tenderness, but
perfect homemaker, Ayesha’s the truth is that
Ammi suddenly falling to pieces they are both
as her unfaithful husband has ashamed of
an affair with their curvaceous each other.
hat is woman? Only one maid, Nasreen, the bitterness Ayesha’s
W of nature’s agreeable
blunders, goes an old quote.
with which she berates her
young unmarried daughter. “You
younger
brother, Adil, is
Shandana Minhas, the Pakistani are a transit visa in some man’s never allowed
novelist, goes one step further exotic travels’, ending with a to grow up by
in her revealing book ‘Tunnel telling statement, “Mistresses his mother
Vision’, a book that talks of the have a short shelf life!” So acidic who sees
so-called modern Pakistani is she that Ayesha carries the him as a
woman, still mired in age old bitterness within her heart, little boy
conservatism, and not at all bringing it out when she argues even
apologetic about it. with Saad, the love of her life, after
even as he tries to cajole her he has
Ayesha Siddiqui, an with humour and tenderness. fallen
independent minded, thirty one in love
year old working woman, looks The characters are lifelike... with
for her story in the slogans at a college friend, Kulsoom, the
the back of trucks. Amazingly, depicts the
she is the one who proposes conservative
to her genial boss, Saad, a woman,
man who loves her truly for whose
what she is. However, unable only
to face his ‘silence for what aim in
seemed like infinity’, Ayesha completing
races out of his life, and college
possible her own, when she is to find
meets with an accident, flies fulfilment as a
through the windscreen of her wife and mother.
car, and goes into a coma. Her Marriage brings with it
spirit hovers over her body, respectability, she retorts
as it takes the reader across to Ayesha. “If you are single, beautiful
her own life in a series of vivid every man makes a play at you!” Farah. It is when Ayesha is
flashbacks, questioning her Unfortunately for Kulsoom, her lying in a coma that Adil comes
unhappy marriage ends after and opens his heart out to her,

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showing a concern that was doctors take care of Ayesha in
never visible earlier. her comatose state. Dr. Shafique
[Amarendran] is the older, more
Strong undercurrents flow sensitive one, who diagnoses
beneath the actual words nothing physically wrong with the
spoken. Ammi, played girl. Dr Fauzia [Mala Govias], the
magnificently by Anuradha Rao, cool clinical doctor takes charge
accuses Ayesha [a talented when emotions run high.
Mekha Rao] of promiscuity, as
she goes around with men who Kulsoom sees Mala Govias
will never marry her. She even in a very different role as she
hints that Ayesha’s father is turns into the pliant woman, for
too fond of her, an accusation whom marriage is the ultimate
that is mostly a figment of her destination. This transition
own imagination. Adil [Kailash] takes place with the simple deft
plays the young man who feels removal of the medical coat, as
suffocated by his Fauzia metamorphoses into a
mother’s love for young Kulsoom.
him, to the point enough for Saad, the bitterness
that he accuses Saad [Navin against her mother, her father’s
her of not Balachander] comes infidelities and finally, his
realising that across as a knight abandonment of his family–
he too has errant - charming, all these threads are woven
adult needs. romantic and together is a subtle, yet definitive
amusing. Another way by a master story teller in a
Two stereotype of the manner that lights up the dark
rich man falling minimalistic stage. Kudos to
in love with the Nikhila Kesavan for having taken
rebellious, at a complex book, and wrung out
times crude, its essence to present it on stage
young so tellingly!
woman!
However, Finally, the most poignant
this is statement is made by Ayesha
proved herself. “... In a coma, reduced
wrong to the sum of my biological
when function, with none of the
Saad’s inconvenient audible interference
of the brain or the ego, I was
mother, THE perfect woman. Pretty,
[Indrani Pliant, Docile, Accepting...!” A
Krishnaier] statement that would halt even
appears in the most intrepid of women in
a wonderful their tracks, and make them
cameo, and think!
has a frank,
if barbed
conversation
with Ammi, to
quell her qualms.
Insecurities crowd
each other out in
Ayesha’s mind – the
feeling that she is not good

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Movie
Mov Review
w
Rocket Singh – Salesman
of the Year
Cast : Ranbir Kapoor, Gauhar
Khan, Naveen Kaushik
Director : Shimit Amin
Harpreet Singh Bedi (Ranbir

Kapoor) is a simple man with
simple views about the world. He
lives with his grandfather who
has brought him up with a lot
of molly-coddling and belief in
doing what is right. Therefore he
has zero idea about the ways of
the world. His innocence is very
adorable, a refreshing change
from the cynical youth of today.
Of all the places, he lands a job

interview for a salesman and
he is struck in the face by the
highly competitive surroundings
of the computer sales company
AYS. He does not understand
why his interviewer has to be
so pushy nor does he give up
when pushed. He is hired and
his naiveté is further tested when
he is taken on rounds by his
immediate boss, the team head
(Naveen Kaushik).
His colleagues are the usual,

stereotypical salespeople
who try to teach him that only
catchy phrases supposedly
keep the customers happy. He colleagues. His first sales order they receive news of his deeds.
nods and listens gullibly but turns out to be a fiasco when What people can’t
still doesn’t understand their he refuses to bribe the client really comprehend Rating
sets of principles. From here
one would guess that he would
and promptly walks out. To
make things worse he writes out
is the extent of
his innocence, 3.5
pick up the nuances of being a his complaint on the company even bordering on
salesman, meaning turning into
a person like one of his annoying
letterhead. The company
receives a rude shock when
stupidity. 5
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Movie R
M Review
vi
The team head is furious threatens to expose them. But job
and his boss, Puri played by the new company has given the for them
Shanthnoo Bhagyaraj irate. His people what they did not have- and their misery
colleagues are nothing short of confidence. Kaushik is made an is unbearable. However, this
homicidal and stop at nothing offer that he dare not refuse and acquisition turns out to be a
to make his life miserable. It is in comes the fifth partner. They liability as the employees of AYS
a heart rending moment when use the unused lines in AYS’ have not changed a bit. They
rockets are thrown at him while office, their secret meetings in cannot provide the same service
he is on a phone call. An idea the bathroom or the terrace and that was given to Rocket’s
dawns on him that he can start the street food stall serves as clients. Ultimately and with great
his own company with honest their conference room. difficulty Puri gives in and after
principles. The highly efficient a long heart to heart talk with
When sales rocket sky-high,
receptionist played by Gauhar Harpreet, he gives Rocket Sales
Puri is baffled by the figures.
Khan, tips him with a few clients Corporation back to him.
He orders his employees to get
when she senses his misery.
hold of the owner. He places The movie is sweet with its basic
Under the name of ‘Rocket
a call to the number on the principles that we are taught
Sales Corporation’ he ropes in
pamphlet not knowing that it since childhood, but give up
the maintenance guy and the is directed to Harpreet’s desk,
receptionist as partners. somewhere along our journey
with a bid to buy them out of the of life. Though there are a few
Now Harpreet is in his element business. When turned down his dragging moments with semi-
where he does not have to control freak nature drives him emotional dialogues, it avoids
compromise on his values and to find them out himself and is being preachy. The conversation
principles. Once the “company’s” successful. The Rocket Sales is witty and the music catchy.
business picks up because Corporation’s victory run comes Ranbir Kapoor looks sweet as
to a screeching halt when they a Sardar and his performance
of the strength in what they
are bought by their former boss. is remarkable. The co-stars
deliver, the partners realize that
another person is needed. In This moment reaches out us and support the film and it is all of
comes the chaiwalla and the makes us question our loyalties. them put together that takes the
company’s share is divided The partners own up and face film along.
to 25 percent each. The team their ruin together. Each finds a Priyanka Sakhamuru
leader finds them out and
Choose the Star Teenager of the fortnight …

Write about a teenager who is simply out of the world…… according to you … well, you have to
justify… why does he or she deserve to be the star? If you feel you can be that star… go ahead
and propose your name… Send in a list of the star teenager's achievements…
Eve’s Thought
Eve’s Thought for the
for the Fornight
Fornight
A three-year-old
One child is a to
looks back with appreciation being who teachers,
the brilliant gets almost asgratitude
but with much fun to those
who touched our human feelings. The curriculum is so much necessary raw material,
out of a fifty-six dollar set of swings as it does out of finding
but warmth is the vital element for the growing plant and for the soul of the child.
a
small green worm. - Carl Jung

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and meaningful. The past of an audience ,
few issues have been very especially when
well presented and designed. they are aware
would like to appreciate the Congrats! that hundreds
I efforts taken by your editorial
team to put together a highly
C.V.Ramakrishnan, Chennai
of people would
be watching
informative issue about diabetes. ve’s Times Short story them when the programme
Reading about the experiences
of Ravi Bhaskaran and how he
E on how children are put
to great trouble by the media,
is telecast. I feel that such
programmes must be dealt with
led the life of a diabetic has been parents and all others was an under Children’s Rights and
confidence-enhancing. It was eye-opener , presenting the prevented from being telecast.
nice to see that despite facing view point of the child. In today’s Then, there are schools that
several odds he has able to raise context, in their eagerness to heap not only too much workload
a good family and has been promote their children in various but also the rigors of conducting
professionally successful too. activities, many parents push cultural programmes. Today the
We must appreciate the support their children into activities that fad is to send students to seek
of his wife in all his pursuits. may not be appropriate to their sponsorships, get the media to
However, not many people age or abilities. It is sad that cover their events. It is truly sad
have been able to vanquish the today even children have not that such indignities are heaped
odds against them imposed by been spared the rigors of the upon fragile shoulders while all
the society and their families. impact of the media and the of us who claim to be educated
There are several myths and aggressive competitiveness and sensible keep watching
misconceptions associated reigning supreme everywhere silently. The beauty of childhood
with ailments such as diabetes, in our country. We see seems to be lost forever. Can
hyper tension, heart problems many parents pressurizing we revive the pristine innocence,
etc. The media should play a their children to prepare for the fantasies and dreams of
major role in trying to dispel professional examinations right childhood? That would be the
misconceptions and spread from their childhood. In the best gift we can bestow upon
awareness about health issues process, children don’t enjoy our children, who would learn to
in a major way, without creating the carefree and innocent days grow up as more balanced and
fear or panic. Well researched of childhood that we have had. compassionate individuals.
articles bolstered by the views There is no time to play with
This view is also amply
of experienced doctors is a dolls or go out and play street
supported by “Why Misery” by
good way to communicate to cricket. There is no time to
Guruji, Jaggi Vasudev who has
the readers different aspects of talk to friends, because the
very clearly outlined the reason
health and diseases and how to time otherwise spent with the
for happiness eluding mankind! A
handle them. so called friends at the pubs
very thought-provoking article.
in a noisy ambience, is not
I am a regular reader of Eve’s
really bonding time, but a very Vasudha Rajagopalan, Chennai
Times and I find that health is a
superficial way of entertainment.
regular feature in every issue. he new look that Eve’s
You may think of bringing out
special health supplements since
Same is the case with short-cut
friendships through the online T Times has donned in the
last few issues is really great.
communities and smsing.
you seem to have an editorial We look forward to many
team well-versed in health There are other parents who entertaining reading material of
matters. You can also look at push their children to excel in special interest to us youngsters.
offering readers several useful sports, dance, music and other Kudos!
articles such as planning their extra curricular activities. It is
finances, latest developments in heart rending to see programs Swati and Janani, College
real estate, jobs, education etc where children are criticized students, Chennai
and make it more informative about their performance in front
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her studies and she has much from the girl and others
completed two years of or is it too much to expect a
graduation. I also told her to ‘personal touch,’ from anyone
look for an educated groom. today? Is there no place for
When a match was fixed, I love and affection today?
went out of the way to find Should I employ her or find
out about the boy going to somebody else?
his workplace and talking to
his company chief. The girl Your hurt is justifiable; but your
had enormous respect for me, expectation is not! If you go out
was honest and managed the of the way to help somebody,
boutique very well. But once it reflects your good nature.
the engagement was fixed, Reciprocation from the recipient,
she immediately told me that although is fair, does not happen
run a boutique shop in
I the city. I have employed
a few people in my shop.
she will leave the job, one
month before the engagement.
in today’s world of self centered
people! This girl is dictating
I attended her engagement terms to you and it seems like
So far I have never behaved and subsequently her she is exploiting your plight. I do
like a boss, and I am very marriage in February. not think you should allow this,
friendly with my staff. I try to
Once she left the job there as she would assume a superior
be helpful whenever possible,
has not been a single phone position in future! I don’t believe
to the extent of listening to
call from her. Once when I that you won’t get some one like
their family problems and
wanted her help to make a her! Efficient workers can be
going out of the way to solve
call to somebody, she told me spotted only by trial and error. I
their problems. I had a good
she did not have the time as think you are confusing yourself
designer, a young chap who
there were many relatives in about being bossy and being
came from a poor family. I
the house. Suddenly one day, friendly. Sure a boss should
encouraged him and today
she called me and told me not be bossy; at the same time
he is employed in a good
that her fiancé has agreed that if a boss is very friendly, the
software firm. Whenever he
she can continue to work after subordinate would exploit his/
gets a raise or a better job
marriage and that she would her goodness. An effective boss
or at other times he calls me
like to join my office, as it is would be friendly, but would be
and talks to me to take my
a safe and comfortable place. firm about her/his expectations.
blessings. There is this other
She wanted a salary hike. Also You did the right thing in giving
girl, who was in-charge of our
she said she will join three an emotional support to her; but
boutique. She has many family
months after her marriage, in
problems. I went to the extent your going out of the way to help
April. I agreed because I find
of publishing a marriage her has given her an impression
her quiet efficient and I have
advertisement for her in my that she is indispensable to you,
not been able to find a good
name and address and tried to hence this behaviour. Forget
replacement for her. However,
get her married because her about her and look for a fresh
I feel bitter about the whole
father was not doing anything. appointment and avoid the
thing. Am I expecting too
I encouraged her to continue mistakes you did with her.
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the process of creation or you
just want to live peacefully - what
you need to do is enhance this
perception to its ultimate level,
to know the Ultimate, or at least
enhance your perception to
some level where your body, and
mind, and emotion, and energy
happen the way you want them.
See, anything that is not in

your awareness does not exist
for you; and only what you
are aware of, you can handle
and do things about. If you
carefully examine, you will see
a large part of you is not in
your awareness. If you bring
more and more of this into
your awareness, you will see
suddenly your life begins to
happen on all levels the way you
want it.
So ‘Inner Engineering’ means

having an inner perception of
life - a perception which is not
Creating Your Life the Way You Want It limited to the five sense organs.
When I say ‘an inner perception’,
am I talking about some airy
an has spent too much also disappear. You are still
M time trying to think about
things to which he has no
alive, everybody around is
alive, the existence is on, but
things? Let us start from the
mundane – if your perception
is beyond the senses, and food
access. When you try to think in your experience everything
appears in front of you, you can
about that to which you have disappeared, because these
simply know how this food will
no access, towards which you five sense organs have shut
behave in your system. But this
have no perception, all you can down. Right now your whole
perception is more and more
do is speculate. When you do perception of life is limited to five
going away from human beings.
excessive speculation without sense organs - seeing, smelling,
any fundamentals, it amounts hearing, tasting, touching. And From something as simple as
to hallucination. Because of these sense organs, in the very that to the ultimate possibility,
this, a large part of religion nature of things, can perceive the inner perception would
and spirituality in the world has only that which is physical. bring a completely new
become purely hallucinatory. dimension into one’s life. And
Now the question of going
all the activity that we are
If you are really interested in beyond the physical arises in
doing in our lives - whether
knowing life in its depth, you your life only when you are
you are a doctor, or you are
must see how to enhance your done with survival. You are not
a policeman, or you are an
perception. This moment, if you just interested in living a good
engineer, or whatever you are -
fall asleep, suddenly people life; you want to know the very
fundamentally, your perception
around you will disappear, the source of life. So it does not
of what is right now in front of
world will disappear and you matter whether you want to know

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you decides the effectiveness senses? Do I have to withdraw to a Himalayan
of who you are, and how much cave to do this?
you do on this planet.
There is no such thing; any human being who
People are always asking me, is willing to dedicate just a few minutes of his
“Sadhguru, you’re talking about life per day can begin to know this. Because
so many subjects. Where do it is not sitting somewhere in the Himalayas,
you get the time to read?” I say, it is within you. What is within you is not
“I don’t read.” What is there in inaccessible to you. You are just too busy
front of me, I perceive it as it is and enamoured with what is happening outside; you never paid any
and that is it. There is no need to attention to the inside. It is just lack of attention which has denied
carry the burden of knowledge people this possibility.
on your head, if your perception
is keen enough. If people develop this simple process of paying a little bit of attention
to themselves, rather than expecting other people’s attention to
So perception can be raised to them, it would definitely change the fundamentals of their life in so
various levels through certain many ways. I can show you millions of people, whose lives have
inner instruments. Is it very been transformed in so many different ways by just spending fifteen
difficult? Can I rise beyond my to twenty minutes a day on this process. That is all it takes.
adhguru is a Realised Master, Yogi and profound Mystic of our times. A visionary, Sadhguru
S asserts that peace and happiness are not the ultimate goal of life, but the most basic needs in
every human being. He developed Isha Yoga as a powerful method for individual transformation
leading to human emancipation. A glimpse of his life and work can be found in the books of Encounter
the Enlightened and Mystic’s Musings.
For more details

www.ishafoundation.org and chennai@ishafoundation.org
Happy
Christmas
Happy
New Year
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