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Differences Differences
Between Between
Men and Women Men and Women
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN
MEN AND WOMEN
(BASED ON
STEREOTYPES)
MEN WOMEN
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DIFFERENCES IN BIBLE
Man was formed from dust; Woman
was formed from flesh.
Man was placed in the garden alone;
Woman was brought to the man so they
could be together.
Man was created with a need; Woman
was created to fill a need.
DIFFERENCES BETWEEN
MEN AND WOMEN
(BASED ON
STUDIES AND RESEARCH)
MEN WOMEN
Sense of self:
achievement
Task-oriented
Self-reliant
Ask for help =
weakness
Sense of self:
relationships
Relational-
oriented
Inter-dependent
Ask for help =
compliment
MEN WOMEN
Focus is
on goal
Enjoy the
process
MEN WOMEN
Competition Cooperation
5 Different Ways We Are Different in
Our Communication
Difference #1
How we think and process life remember
Men are like waffles (they think in boxes)
Women are like spaghetti (they connect
things and process out loud)
MEN WOMEN
Analytical
Linear:
focus on one thing at
a time.
Compartmentalized
(like a chest of
drawers)
Intuitive
Multi-taskers:
juggle many little
things at once
Contiguous
(like a ball of yarn)
Difference #2
Men tend to be Mr. Fix It (men
try to fix the problems)
Women tend to be Ms. Home
Improvement (women are
talking and women make
suggestions on how to better
the man)
MEN WOMEN
Action oriented
Hostility:
physical
Feels better by
solving
problems
Verbal
Hostility: verbal
Feels better by
talking about
problems
Difference #3
Men are Mr. Caveman (men go into
their caves to process)
Women are Miss Chatty (Women talk
and share about their problems and
do not necessarily want solutions
right away)
MEN WOMEN
When under
stress: distracts
himself with
various activities
to relax.
Withdraws into his
cave.
When under
stress: gets more
involved with
others.
Talks in order to
be heard and
understood.
MEN WOMEN
Words: for
conveying
facts and
information
Words: like
breathing
Difference #4
Men and women speak
different languages (the men
and women phrase
dictionaries come in handy
here)
Difference #5
Men and women have
different emotional needs
MEN WOMEN
Primarily needs
respect (trust,
acceptance,
appreciation,
admiration, approval,
encouragement).
Needs to be needed.
Primarily needs
cherishing (tender
care,
understanding,
respect, devotion,
validation,
reassurance).
Needs to be
protected.
GENDER NEEDS & ISSUES
Women need to be cherished
Women need security
Women need to be treated with
tenderness and gentleness
Women are verbal creatures
GENDER NEEDS & ISSUES
Men need respect and support
Men are naturally self-oriented
Summary
The Bible does not teach male superiority or any supposed
female inferiority.
Men and women are made in the image of God.
Men and women are equal in worth and dignity.
Equal does not mean identical.
Equal does not mean interchangeable.
Adam is called to be a man and Eve is called to be a women
equal but different.
!ivine pattern of leadership established by God in creation.
Letter of James 1:19
"Everyone should be quic# to listen$
slow to spea# and slow to become
angry for man%s anger does not bring
about the righteous life that God
desires.&