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By Amanda Christian
Love does not obey our expectations; it obeys our intentions. ~Lloyd Strom
Recently, I did something radical; I entered into a relationship with the intention of extending love. I consciously
set the goal of peace.
Its with the intention to experience more peace than ever before that the relationship began, and its with that
same intention that we decided to end the relationship. In between it all, I felt deeply connected, heard, and
loved.
What did I do differently this time that allowed me to experience a new level of peace and love? What
about this relationship created the space for us to peacefully break-up?
Unlike other relationships I had that seemed to pull me deeper into fear, this relationship accomplished the
complete oppositehelped to release me from it.
Whatever I did differently with this one, I wanted to bottle it up! As I took some time to reflect, I realized that what
I did differently comes in the form of three simple miracle-minded questions that I asked myself before I even
entered the relationship.
The three questions below helped me step away from fearful relationships based on getting and filling
my perceived voids and instead, helped me step into a loved-based relationship built on extending the
love and completeness I found within myself first.
1. What is it for?
In the past, I would just jump into relationships without any real intention set at the beginning. I wanted the
attention and for someone to prove I was loveable. I wanted to get more than I wanted to extend. I was
motivated by ego fears and desires to fill my perceived voids.
The way we move beyond these ego fears is by stopping and asking ourselves, what is this relationship for?
Without a clear goal set at the beginning, its easy to get lost and stuck in a fearful place. So with my last
relationship, we decided that our goal would be peace, and that we wanted to help each other remember the
truth about ourselves, instead of getting lost in the illusions about ourselves. What is this relationship for? To
extend peace.
And this makes all the difference. When you do find yourself in a disagreement, you can remember that your
goal is peace and then act accordingly.
The value of setting a goal in advance is that it will pull you through the tough times. Without the goal, its easy to
get caught up in the egos drive to be right or justified. Having a common goal in mind allows you to move
forward together instead of working against each other. In my last relationship I found that a shared goal
connected us and gave us something to focus on.
This opens the way for you to step beyond the limiting beliefs you carry about yourself. The truth is, youre good
enough right now in this very moment. There is nothing to prove. Become curious about your beliefs and
behaviors. Invite them in, question them, and watch as they melt away.
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/3-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-you-enter-a-relationship/