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GOOD IN A ROOM | HOW TO TAKE A HOLLYWOOD MEETING

What People Are Saying


Stephanie Palmer helps writers to be good in a room and she is the best there is.
Success stories abound with this fun and enthusiastic method to pitch and win.
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-Blake Snyder, author of the bestselling book, Save The Cat!

There really is a craft to oral storytelling (pitching), and Stephanie shares invaluable
advice for mastering this essential component of show business survival.
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-Tom Benedek, screenwriter of Cocoon, Free Willy

Stephanie Palmer has helped me get ready for meetings I aced, not only selling book
ideas to publishers and TV ideas to networks, but Broadway musicals to producers.
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-Iris Rainer Dart, bestselling author of Beaches, The People In The Picture

Stephanies insights and guidance are the most powerful and valuable pitching tools a
filmmaker can have.
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-Jonathan Wolf, Executive Vice President and Managing Director of the American
Film Market, Independent Film & Television Alliance

"Applying Stephanie's techniques helped me acquire a Hollywood literary agent."


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-Brian Egeston, Head Writer, Tyler Perry's House of Payne

Stephanie Palmer is extraordinarily good at conveying the concepts she teaches. I would
recommend Stephanie without reservation to anyone interested in learning how to pitch
their idea or project.
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-Julie Gray, Just Effing Entertain Me

This eBook helped me with organizing my ideas, culling the good ideas from the dross,
revealed my writing tastes and patterns, and helped me hone in on a direction. I feel I
have a MUCH better sense of what producers want from screenwriters.
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-Stacy Chambers, screenwriter

You want your cell phone to ring as you're driving home from the meeting and you want to
hear your agent gush, "They LOVED the pitch and are putting together an offer!" That's
why you should read this eBook. Stephanie has shown me how to do the crucial prep work
to make the most of every opportunity. Even if you consider yourself a masterful storyteller,
Stephanie can make you even better.
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-Scott Hartford, television producer

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Table Of Contents
About The Author!

Disclaimer!

Welcome!!

Describing The Elephant!

The Big Idea!

10

Three Key Definitions!

11

Square One!

13

The Five Stages Of The Meeting!

17

The Four Types Of Meetings!

23

The Most Common Pitching Mistake!

27

How To Manage Anxiety!

31

The Difference Between YES and NO!

36

How To Follow Up!

40

Three Meeting Checklists!

45

Checklist #1: Preparation!

46

Checklist #2: Coordination With A Partner!

49

Checklist #3: Record And Evaluate!

50

Master Checklist!

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Final Thoughts!

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About The Author


Stephanie was the Director of Creative Affairs for MGM where she
heard over 3000 pitches and supervised the acquisition,
development, and production of feature films.
Some of her projects included 21, Legally Blonde, Be Cool, The
Brothers Grimm, Agent Cody Banks, Agent Cody Banks 2, A Guy
Thing, and Good Boy.
Prior to MGM, she worked at Jerry Bruckheimer Films on
Armageddon, Con Air, and Enemy of the State.
She is the author of the book, Good in a Room: How To Sell Yourself And Your Ideas And
Win Over Any Audience (Random House, 2008). She has been featured by The Today
Show, Los Angeles Times, National Public Radio and in Variety, Hollywood Reporter,
Moviemaker, and Script magazines.
Stephanie has given presentations and led workshops for organizations including William
Morris Endeavor, Warner Brothers, Google, UCLA, USC, Asia Media Festival, The
Screenwriting Expo, Austin Film Festival, and The Great American PitchFest. She is the
moderator for the American Film Markets annual Pitch Conference.
Connect with Stephanie on Facebook and Twitter.

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Disclaimer
The information contained in this eBook is for educational purposes only. I am doing my
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By reading this eBook, you agree that you alone are responsible for your business
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Welcome!
What is a Hollywood meeting? Its when you are meeting with someone who could hire
you, buy something from you, invest in what youre doing, or otherwise help you succeed.
These meetings come in different shapes and sizes, but too often they are a waste of time,
dont result in getting hired or making a sale, and even worsethey can hurt your career if
you make a bad impression.
If you are having meetings that take too long, lack focus, give you anxiety, and produce no
concrete results, I understand. This is a common experience.
However, youve gotten to this eBook, and help is here. Im going to explain meeting
dynamics to you and teach you the strategies and tactics that will dramatically
increase your chances of getting what you want.

If youve never had a Hollywood meeting and are trying to: Thats actually a good
thingit means you have more control over your first impression. This eBook will
help you to succeed in meetings from the very beginning.

If youre a professional writer: I'm sure there are things I will cover that you will say,
yes I understand this part or I know this. However, I hope there are also
techniques I'll share that can help you raise your game.

If youre an entrepreneur, consultant, or executive (and not a writer): This eBook is


written with writers and Hollywood creative pros in mind, but there are many ideas
that you can adapt to your own business:

I used Stephanies material for pitching brand-new online advertising trading models at
Google. Now I am the go-to person for online video auction, and have to hide because I
am getting more video trading projects than I can handle. So, if you think this material is
only for screenwriters, wrong. It is for people who work with intangible ideas that can
potentially bring in billions of dollars. - Sunyu von Conrady, Google
So, lets talk about why you should read this eBook: you want to be able to impress VIPs,
get referrals, get hired, sell your work, and secure financing.
In other words, you want to succeed in Hollywood meetings.
Does that sound good? Then lets get started.

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Describing The Elephant


Theres a story originally from India that goes like this (excerpted from wikipedia):
Six blind men were asked to describe an elephant by feeling different parts of the
elephant's body. The blind man who feels a leg says the elephant is like a pillar; the one
who feels the tail says the elephant is like a rope; the one who feels the trunk says the
elephant is like a tree branch; the one who feels the ear says the elephant is like a hand
fan; and the one who feels the tusk says the elephant is like a solid pipe.
Of course, as you know, they are all right. Its the same with meetings.
Here are some different perspectives on meetings from some top writers and producers. I
bet that youll find a good idea or two that just jump out at you. But I also want you to
notice the difference in peoples perspectives.

Perspectives On Meetings
The proper note to strike in the audition meeting is a mixture of shy, self-deprecating
intelligence and wild, barely controllable enthusiasm.
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-William Goldman, Adventures In The Screen Trade, 93.

A pitch is a social interaction between two parties, the goal of which involves conveying
an artistic experience from one person to another. We suggest you create a bullet-point
outline for your pitch and then improvise based on that outline.
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-Douglas Eboch and Ken Aguado, The Hollywood Pitching Bible, 89, 93-94.

When formulating a pitch, try transitioning seamlessly from the introduction to your
logline. In other words, as soon as you hook your audience emotionally, hit them with a
tight, digestible version of [the core] concept.
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-Chad Gervich, Small Screen, Big Picture, 113.

Its always good to use what we call a Gotcha line to begin a Gotcha line is a
marketing line, something you might see on a poster.
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-Rona Edwards & Monika Skerbelis, I Liked It, Didnt Love It, 131.

The object of this conversation is to make the producer remember the project so when he
picks the script up, he actually wants to read it, instead of just having to read it.
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-Rima Greer, The Real, Low-Down, Dirty Truth About Hollywood Agenting, 17.

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Remember that since this is your meeting, youre expected to be the most energetic and
enthusiastic person in the room. Start with the one-sentence high-concept, [then]
expand out to a three-minute fire drill, with main beats delivered in a staccato fashion.
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-Michael Lent, Breakfast With Sharks, 65-67.

Dont try to be charming. Conventional wisdom suggests that working a room is a social
process where people need to demonstrate their charm. This is a myth. You dont need to
entertain or impress people. You dont even need to be interesting; what you do need to
be is interested.
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-Ellen Sandler, The TV Writers Workbook, 201.

Take control. Decisiveness is never seen as weakness, and your confidence in your story
comes through much more strongly if you boldly begin your pitch.
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-Michael Hague, Selling Your Story in 60 Seconds, 95.

Make your pitch a performance. Dont be afraid to actually play the characters. Its more
fun for you and themand its also the clearest way to tell the story. Dont be shy. Play
every character and moment to the hilt.
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-Robert Ben Garant & Thomas Lennon, Writing Movies For Fun And Profit, 20.

Its important to know who your audience is when you are pitching, and to tailor your pitch
to his or her perception. [For example, a star] is interested in the emotions of the character
he or she is to play, [whereas an investor] wants to know how much profit the film is likely
to generate over what period of time.
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-Michael Wiese, Film and Video Financing, 80.

Because the construction of stories is an imprecise art, each writer usually develops a
personal technique that works for him or her, but probably for no one else. No single
rule or principle can be appropriate for all writers.
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-Alan Armer, Writing The Screenplay, 28.

Writers want to say whats never been said. Executives want what theyve already heard.
The majority of produced screenplays are the genetically impaired results of the crossbreeding of these two species.
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-Hal Ackerman, Write Screenplays That Sell, 14.

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Every room is different. And the secret to talking to people, and thats what pitching is,
is listening. And the first thing I do, just automatically when I go in to pitch something is I
just listen for a moment to what the room sounds like. Is it a quiet room? Is it an amped up
room? Is it a feminine room, a masculine room? Is it bored? Is it ready? Is it receptive? Is it
scared? Just read the room and adjust.
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Craig Mazin, Scriptnotes Podcast

What Can We Learn?


Its interesting that, even among these elite writers of some of the best material about
Hollywood, theres some disagreement about how to handle certain meeting situations.
Should you act out the characters, or not? Should you take control or maintain your focus
on the other person? Do you highlight your personal connection to the material or tailor
your pitch to the listeners needs?
There are two things going on here.
1. The first is that there is a juxtaposition of advice about meetings and advice about
pitching. This is totally understandable, but can be confusing.
Thats why in this eBook, I will be primarily talking about meetings: how they are
structured, the dynamics involved, and specific tactics you can use to perform better.
What you say when you pitch your story is a different topic, and one that I cover in
my companion eBook, Create The Pitch For Your Screenplay. You can find that eBook
and more products and services on my websites Resources page.
2. The second is that most of the advice to writers about how to handle meetings in
Hollywood comes from other writers. Thats understandable, but every writer evolves a
different perspective based on what has worked for them.
I am one of very few people who has experience on both sides of the table. As a
studio executive, I had literally thousands of meetings where writers, producers, agents,
and stars would try to persuade me to invest in their projects.
As a writer, when I wrote my first book, I had to pitch it to major publishers in New York
(and sold it in a bidding war to Random House). As a consultant, Ive helped my clients to
pitch in their own style, sell their work, and find new clients for their businesses.
Using my experience, and separating out the meeting dynamics from the issues that relate
to the story content of the pitch, I was able to discover the following Big Idea.

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The Big Idea


As an executive with MGM, I had several pitch meetings a day. Soon enough, I began to
see that every meeting followed some kind of pattern. I just couldnt quite figure out what
was going on.
I got curious and soon, I was obsessed.
I became a meeting anthropologist. I observed the habits of the indigenous peoples
meeting behavior and immersed myself in their culture. I had matzo ball soup at Nate
and Als and shopped at Fred Segal. I attached radio transmitters to alpha males and
females so I could follow them through the dense Hollywood jungle.
All right, I didnt do that. But after a great deal of investigation, I realized The Big Idea:
Every meeting goes through five stages.

Stage 1: Rapport

Stage 2: Listening

Stage 3: The Pitch

Stage 4: Q & A

Stage 5: The Close

Now, you might be thinking, heydo meetings really have five stages? Really? Isnt
this an artificial structure youre superimposing on a highly complex social interaction?
Its a fair question, but in all seriousness, its not artificial. This is actually what happens,
and theres a logic to why it happens this way.
Meetings are complex, but once you understand whats going on, youll see the simplicity
of the five stages beneath the shifting social dynamics on the surface.
Knowing the five stages will help you to:

Build relationships with VIPs (Stages 1 and 2)

Pitch in the sweet spot (Stages 3 and 4)

Have your request granted (Stage 5)

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Three Key Definitions


Let's start with a few definitions. These may be terms you already know, but before we
begin, I want to make sure we're on the same page.

What Is Good in a Room?


Good in a Room is a phrase commonly used in Hollywood. It refers to people who pitch
their ideas confidently and effectively in meetings. In other words, they are
good (confident and persuasive) in the room (where the meeting is being held).
When youre good in a room, its easier for you to:

Get meetings with VIPs such as stars, agents, and executives.


Pitch your ideas effectively.
Sell your work or get hired on an assignment.

What Is A Pitch?
The word "pitch" has several different meanings (some of which have nothing to do with
Hollywood). For our purposes in this eBook, the word "pitch" will primarily refer to:
1. Pitch meetings: where you present your idea "in the room, typically to VIPs or
decision-makers who have the power to hire you or buy your project.
2. Premise pitch (aka the short pitch): the VERBAL 1-2 sentence summary of the
core premise upon which your project is based.
3. Complete pitch: the 5-10 minute VERBAL summary where you explain what actually
happens in Acts I, II, and III.
That said, any time you are presenting your project or yourself as a writer, in writing
(e.g. logline, summary, treatment) or verbally, you are pitching.

Who Are The Decision-makers?


The decision-maker is the person listening to (or reading) your pitch, such as an agent,
manager, executive, investor, talent (actor, star), director, or producer.

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Possible decisions include:

Representing your project

Signing you as a client

Giving you a development deal

Financially backing the film

Attaching themselves to the project

Agreeing to direct your screenplay

Buying your project

Youre Getting Warmer


Remember the hot and cold game you played as a kid? Youd come into the room and
there was some object you had to find, and when you got closer people would say,
getting warmer and when you got further away, theyd say, getting colder.
Whether youre meeting the decision-maker in her office, at a restaurant, or on the ski
slopes, taking a meeting is a lot like that game. Youve got to be aware of the
temperature in the room.
The temperature of the room depends on many things, including:

How you got into the room in the first place

The mood of the people already present

The first impression you make when you walk in the door

The way you make small-talk (Stages 1 and 2)

How confidently you pitch (Stages 3 and 4)

After you enter the room, you need to maintain constant awareness of what warms the
room (and what cools it off) to be able to adjust your tactics during each of the five stages
of the meeting.
If you dont have this awareness already, this eBook will help you develop it. Youll get
good at meetings. You will easily make a positive impression. Youll feel confident in social
situations. And when you get a meeting with a high-level decision-maker, youll know
exactly what to do.
Youll start at Square One.

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Square One
Square One is a series of three very simple, very important questions. I refer to these
questions as Square One because they are the starting point for developing a strategy for
any situation.

What do I want?

What do they want?

What do they expect?

What Do I Want?
What do I want? is about goals that can reasonably be achieved in the meeting.
Less experienced writers are the ones who think, Even though its a first meeting, my goal
is for the decision-maker to finance the entire project. Thats not likely. Professional
writers think, For this first meeting, my goal is to be asked back for another meeting.
Having said that, I believe that when you walk into the room, you have three goals:
1. To learn: Learning is a great goal because whether you learn something or not is
almost entirely within your control. Plus, having learning as a goal tends to reduce
anxiety because youre focused on the process of the conversation, not the
eventual outcome. Finally, if you learn from every meeting, your skills will continue
to increase and so will your chances of getting what you want.
2. To build rapport with the decision-maker: Rapport is the foundation for everything
that follows. If you find common ground and build rapport with the decision-maker,
even if they dont say Yes, their door will still be open to you down the road.
3. To get the decision-maker to agree to one (and only one) request: Of these three
goals, this is the toughest to achieve. Ironically, if this goal is not your only priority,
you are more likely to achieve it. That is to say, if you can leave a meeting feeling
good about what youve learned and the rapport youve built, you have a higher
probability of hearing Yes to your request.
The one request you make (and the exact language you use) is important and well
discuss this more in later chapters. However, its important to remember that getting the
decision-maker to say, Yes, may take more than one meeting.

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This is why learning and rapport are so crucial. They are more easily achievable goals.
They are confidence builders. Most importantly, they greatly increase the probability that
your request will be granted.
Lets move on to the next question, What do they want? In many ways, this question is
the heart and soul of Square One. You can never be too good at figuring out whats going
on in the other persons head.

What Do They Want?


When it comes to ascertaining what the decision-maker wants in the meeting, you can
accept as a given that:
The decision-makers goal is to disqualify you as quickly as possible.
No protects them from making a bad decision. No saves them time that they need for
the projects already in production. The sooner they can feel good about saying No, the
better.
For many decision-makers, when a screenwriter stumbles in the room its an automatic
No. Its a safe conclusion that the screenwriter isnt ready. After all, if they cant handle
themselves in the room, how well are they going to do the actual work? For decisionmakers, its not worth the risk to find out.
At the same time, decision-makers are looking to say Yesto the right person with
the right project. Its their dream to have that one breakout meeting. They want to be
swept off their professional feet.
Here are some ways to get inside the decision-makers head:

Google anyone with whom youll be meeting: Read anything theyve written
and anything thats been written about them.

Research the decision-makers company: What has been written about their
company? What position does it occupy in the industry? What are their
recent projects?

Understand the decision-makers role at the company: Has your decisionmaker ever been in the news? What do they do at the company? Where do
they fit in the organizational hierarchy?

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As you get more and better information about the decision-maker, your answer to What
do they want? will be a work in progress.
For example, decision-makers are constantly asked What are you looking for? Most say
something generic like, good material, or stories with great characters. Theres an
attitude of, If I have a bunch of meetings, Ill know what I want when I see it. This is
unhelpful, but its normal in Hollywood and in other industries for decision-makers to be
unaware of exactly what they want.
Thats why you want to keep adjusting your answer to the question of What do they
want? as you learn more about what a particular decision-maker wants. Perhaps you
realize that every time they reference a movie in the meeting, its a comedy or action film.
You might revise your answer to, comedies and action movies.
After the meeting, you might research all of the movies the decision-maker referenced and
discover that the comedies tended to have female leads and the action movies were
made for less than forty million dollars. Thus, your revised answer would be, comedies
with female leads and action movies that can be made for less than forty million dollars.
Once you understand what the decision-maker wants, you can begin adapting your
pitch to meet their needs. However, for your pitch to achieve maximum impact, you must
consider the decision-makers expectations and adjust accordingly.

What Do They Expect?


In the stock market, expectations are crucial. A stock can release great news about
increases in earnings, but if the earnings arent as high as were originally expected, the
stocks value will fall. If earnings are higher than expectations, the stocks value will soar.
In the same way, it is crucial in meetings to exceed expectations.
The first step to being able to exceed the decision-makers expectations is being able to
understand what those expectations are in the first place. Here, the governing principle is:
Good products have good packaging, and books are judged by their covers.
Consider what happens when you buy a pack of gum. No two packs are alike. From the
name of the brand, the flavor, shape of the package, colors of the design, and the
copywriting, each pack of gum is establishing its own position relative to the competition.
So, if a new pack of gum entered the marketplace and it was spearmint bubble gum,
before even seeing it you might expect that the primary colors on the package would be
green and pink. If it was cinnamon-flavored bubble gum, it would likely be red and pink.

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But if you opened a package that was red and pink (promising cinnamon gum), but
then it tasted like spearmint, youd spit it out.
Now, this may not be fair (and youre not a pack of gum), but this is how it works. The
decision-makers expectations for you will be based on:

What they can find out from googling you

Whatever their assistant tells them (after googling you)

What you look and sound like in the first 10 seconds

Decision-makers make quick judgments based on your online profile, how you dress, and
how you speak. Thats the cover of your book. Theres no way to avoid that.
The trick is to position yourself relative to the expectations of your stereotype.
There, I said it. Stereotype. Its a bad word, I know. Obviously, the way you are
stereotyped is not who you are. At the same time, I hope you can admit that others will
stereotype you. Its so common that we have to factor it into how we position ourselves. My
advice is to consider carefully how others are likely to stereotype you and then plan how
youre going to play with and against that image.
One aspect of the stereotype for new writers is: youre probably unprepared.
For example, a year after Legally Blonde was released, a writing team came into my office
and pitched me, quite literally, another version of Legally Blonde. The ideas were the
same, beat for beat and character for character, save that instead of going to law school,
she went to medical school. It was called Blonde, M.D., I believe. I asked them if they
knew that MGM had made Legally Blonde. They did not. I asked them if they knew that I
had worked on the movie. They did not. I asked them if they had anything else to pitch.
They did. They had a version where she becomes a spy, titled James Blonde.
This is an extreme example, but I hope you take my point. Before you walk into the room,
you need to know as much as possible about the people involved. Every scrap of
information will help you figure out whats going on in their minds. This will make the
process of building rapport easier and increase your ability to pitch and sell them.
And if youre a new writer, a little research and preparation will go a long way to helping
you exceed expectations.

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The Five Stages Of The Meeting


If youre like me, when you first started watching movies, it was for fun. You didnt really
know how they worked. You may have thought that big-budget action blockbusters,
classic romantic comedies, and gritty independent films had little in common.
But then, when you wanted to become a professional writer, you started learning about
screenplay structure. You realized that all movies, all stories, have similar structural
features. There is a similar structure to meetings.
In the same way screenplays have three acts, meetings are structured in five stages.
If you ignore the five stages and just try to wing it in the room, youre like a writer trying to
write a screenplay without understanding basic three-act structure.
When you understand the structure of the five stages, you can decide when you want to
follow the expectations and when you want to break the rules.

In Stage 1, you build rapport and warm up the room.

In Stage 2, you ask questions and listen to show respect.

In Stage 3, you deliver the prepared component of your pitch.

In Stage 4, you deliver the improvised component of your pitch.

In Stage 5, you ask for one thing if necessary and leave on a good note.

Stage 1: Rapport
The goal: to connect in a personal way
Stage 1 is the small-talk phase that is the beginning of just about every meeting you will
ever have. Its important because decision-makers want to work with people they like and
trust. If youre prepared, the small-talk will hopefully turn into a deeper conversation about
your common perspectives and interests.
The trap: pitching too soon
If you get down to business and start pitching too early, the decision-maker wont feel
connected to you as a person and wont be listening to your pitch. You want to build
rapport so that when the time comes to pitch, you have the decision-makers attention.

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Key tactic: prepare questions to find common ground


Before the meeting, design a couple rapport-building questions to encourage the
decision-maker to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences about things they feel
positively about.

Perhaps you know someone in common, and can design a question around
that, e.g.: How did you first meet (friend in common)?

Perhaps you have a hobby or interest in common. If so, you could design a
question around that, e.g.: I noticed from (print interview) that you like
(hobby). Whats your favorite (aspect of hobby)?

If you cant find anything out at all, you can use some of the tried and true
conversation starters, e.g.: How was your weekend?

The point is to get to know the decision-maker as a person. Thats why, in addition to
preparing rapport-building questions, you also want to prepare rapport-building answers.
During Stage 1, you are just as likely to be asked How was your weekend/holiday? as
you are to ask it yourself. Talking about those things comes really naturally to some
people, but for me, I always make sure that I have something interesting to say when that
inevitable question comes.
Bonus tactic: accept the water.
If youre asked at the beginning of the meeting (or by the decision-makers receptionist),
Can I get you a bottle of water? say, Yes. Thank you. Accept any gestures of
hospitalityit warms up the room and gets things off to a good start.

Stage 2: Listening
The goal: to show respect for the decision-maker
In Stage 2, your job is to ask good questions and listen. This shows respect for the
decision-maker and earns you more of their attention when the time comes to pitch.
The trap: showing off how smart you are
Superior intelligence can be your worst enemy at this stage of the meeting.
In the next stage, when the time comes to pitch, thats when you get to share your brilliant
ideas. At this stage, your job is to ask questions, listen, and show respect.

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If you show off how smart you are in this stage, it may seem like you are in need of
attention and approval (the opposite of confidence). As well, if the decision-maker cant
understand what youre saying, you may make them feel awkward or threatened.
This isnt about being fake and hiding yourself. Its about understanding that before you
pitch, you want to build rapport (Stage 1) and show respect by listening (Stage 2).
Key tactic: prepare questions to gather information
Get the decision-maker talking about what they want from a business perspective, e.g.:

Is there a particular kind of project youd love to find?

How is (current project) going?

Stage 3: The Pitch


The goal: to keep the decision-makers attention
Stage 3 is where you deliver your prepared pitch. Even if the decision-maker doesnt want
to buy your project, if you can hold their attention with your pitch, they may want to work
with you in some other way.
The trap: winging it
Making it up as you go along and hoping things work out is the mark of an amateur. By the
time you get a meeting with a decision-maker who can make something happen, you
should have a prepared pitch that you can deliver without referring to notes.
Key tactic: test your pitch in advance
To succeed in this stage of the meeting, use these three steps to test your pitch before
you meet with the decision-maker:
1. Choose a feedback group. This can be friends, family, other writers, but no
gatekeepers or decision-makers. You should have at least six people, ideally none
of whom have heard your pitch before.
2. Rehearse your pitch. This should be done on audio and ideally on video prior to
presenting it to anyone in your feedback group. In my experience, few people like
to see themselves on camera, but this is crucial preparation.

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3. Call or meet with people one at a time. Pitch them, and try to get answers to the
following questions:

Did they understand the idea?

What elements did they like?

What elements did they not like?

Bonus tactic: pace yourself.


You know the details of your story extremely well. However, the other person will likely
be hearing everything for the first time. Take that into consideration and adjust the pace
of your pitch. You may need to slow down just a little.
Warning: Be Careful With Visual Aids
Images can be powerful sales and marketing tools. However, in the idea selection stage,
pictures of your vision (e.g., photos, drawings, puppets) can work against you because
they constrain the decision-makers imagination.
For example, in a film pitch, if a writer says, a handsome man steering a boat down a
river, the listeners supply the details that work best for them. If the writer shows a picture
of Adrien Brody canoeing down the Amazon... better hope that they love Adrien Brody and
the notion of filming in South America.
When you use a visual aid, youre telling the decision-makers that your vision is exactly
that. If you use only words, listeners will imagine what works best for them.

Stage 4: Q&A
The goal: to deliver great answers to questions
Many people would rather do a comprehensive pitch that answers questions in advance.
This is a big mistake. An extended pitch prevents the natural give-and-take characteristic
of successful meetings. Worse, it indicates that you may be scared of answering the
decision-makers questions.
When youre getting peppered with questions, even tough questions, thats a good thing.
It means theyre interested enough to spend more time with you. If they werent interested,
theyd just say, Thanks for coming in.
The Q&A is where the sale is made. To succeed in this stage, anticipate likely questions
and prepare answers in advance.

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The trap: getting defensive


If the decision-maker is genuinely interested, you are likely to be asked a number of
difficult questions (even trick questions).
Its likely that they will hone in on the areas where your pitch is weakest. If you get
defensive, you lose. If you cant handle some difficult questions at this stage, the decisionmaker isnt going to want to send your script to stars, directors, and producersbecause
theyll have questions, too.
Key tactic: keep track of what youre asked
When youre testing your pitch in advance, listen to what your feedback group asks you.
Every time youre asked a question about your story, thats an opportunity for you to
prepare a great answer to that question for the next meeting.

Stage 5: The Close


The goal: to leave on a positive note
Its likely that the decision-maker will end the meeting, so you want to be ready for when
that happens. Typically, there is a non-verbal cue that the meeting is over, and your job is
to echo the cue.
Watch for when the decision-maker:

Gets ready to get out of his or her chair

Places hands flat on their lap or the table

Closes a notebook or a folder

When you see one or more of these non-verbal cues, echo it back by gathering your
materials and preparing to leave. Then, you can engage in a little more rapport building
like a bookend to Stage 1.
The purpose of this isnt to reignite the conversation, its just to end on a personal, positive
note. It can be something simple, e.g.:

Tell (common friend) I said Hi.

Thanks again for the tip about Orochon. Ill check it out!

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The trap: continuing the conversation


When the decision-maker ends the meeting, dont try to pitch one more thing. Dont ask
any more questions. Dont tell a story. Just make sure youve got everything packed up,
prepare to shake hands, and exit the room smoothly.
Key tactic: prepare a specific request
You may not need to make a request of the decision-maker. Often, they may say
something like, Im sending this to my boss today. Keep your phone on.
However, just in case, its a good idea to have a request prepared just in case, e.g.:

How should I follow up with you?

Whom do you recommend I get in touch with?

Would you be willing to give me some advice for how to make this better?

When you understand meeting structure and have prepared tactics for each of the
five stages, it looks like youre poised and confident.
As you accumulate success over time, it doesnt just look that wayit feels that way, too.
Keep in mind, there is a wide variety in how the five stages can be handled. You may
spend more time in one stage than you expect. But when you know the goal of each
stage, the trap to avoid, and the key tactic to use, youll be able to confidently handle
whatever comes your way.

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The Four Types Of Meetings


The four types of meetings are:

Pitch

General (aka the meet and greet or the get to know ya)

Creative

Notes

Every meeting, of any kind, goes through the five stages. Stage 1 (Rapport) is very
similar across meeting typesbecause youre almost always making small talk in the
beginning. However, stages 2-4 can vary depending on the type of meeting.

Pitch Meeting
A pitch meeting is arranged when you have a specific project to pitch. Sometimes,
established writers will have a pitch meeting with a producer or executive to pitch an
original idea for which they have not written the screenplay. They hope the decision-maker
will buy the pitch and then pay them to write the script. Typically, only established writers
with produced credits in the same genre as the project being pitched get the opportunity
to sell a pitch. It is very rare for a new writer to sell a pitch.
For example, lets say Warner Bros purchases the rights to a popular book. They want to
adapt it to a feature and need to hire a screenwriter. Executives will meet with 3-10
screenwriters individually to talk with them about how they would adapt the book. All of the
screenwriters would have read the book, prepared notes and ideas, and are not
compensated for working up a take. Only when a writer is chosen and hired are they
actually paid.
However, from a structural perspective, whether you are hoping to sell a pitch, a script, or
get hired to implement your take on an existing piece of material, pitch meetings go
through the five stages as explained in the previous chapter.
The pitch meeting structure is the foundation for all other meetings.
In a pitch meeting, the five stages are often very clear, and this is what helps you to
recognize variations on the five stages in other types of meetings. One of the harder types
of meetings to handle is the general meetingand if youre a new writer, typically youll be
having general meetings before you have any pitch meetings.

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General Meeting
The general meeting is like a combination of a job interview (where you dont know the job
opening for which youre being considered) and a blind date. No wonder why this type of
meeting is so difficult!
Typically, a general meeting can happen for a variety of reasons.

A decision-maker has read your script and likes your writing.

An executive has an open writing assignment and thinks you might be a


good fit, but wants to meet you in person before telling your representatives
about the assignment.

An executive has heard good things about you and wants to meet because
knowing the up-and-coming writers is part of the job. Execs often look for
new (read: inexpensive) writers to fix projects they have in development.

Youve signed with a manager and they are introducing you to the town.

Theres a favor exchange. Agents, managers, and executives often trade


meetings, e.g., If you meet with this new client of mine (who I need to
impress so he doesnt switch agencies), Ill get my other client (a higher
profile writer) to read your project.

Most general meetings are treated as a weeding out process. Its unlikely that youll get
a paying job directly from a general. Either youll be taken off the consideration list, or if
youre successful, youll either get another meeting or some material to consider so you
can work up a take.
Therefore, in a general meeting you are being evaluated for hireability. This makes
stages 1 and 2 especially important. The general meeting is all about rapport.
If a pitch meeting is scheduled to last 30 minutes, you might spend 5-15 building rapport
(Stages 1-2), then the rest of the time pitching and answering questions (Stages 3-4). In a
general meeting scheduled for 30 minutes, you would ideally spend most of the time
building rapportthough its possible that youll be asked to pitch several of your ideas.
These kinds of questions are prompts for you to pitch:

So, what are you working on?

Whats your project about?

What else do you have?

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If you get one of these kinds of questions, and you may, heres how you handle it:

Focus on your priority projectsthe ones that have tested pitches, complete
scripts, and positive coverage.

You can give the short pitch for any project you have in development, but
only give more complete pitches for projects which are finished and ready.

If youre asked about something where youve pitched the premise but
which doesnt have a finished script, dont pitch the rest of the story. Just
say, Im still working on that one and as soon as its done Ill let you know.

Creative
The creative meeting is where you and the other person/people are meeting for the
purpose of generating or fixing material. When the writers get together in the writers
room on a TV show, thats a classic example of a creative meeting.
The creative meeting tends to focus on stages 3 and 4, only this time, everyone is
playing both roles: writer and decision-maker. Sometimes you pitch, sometimes you listen,
sometimes you ask questions.
The key in a creative meeting is to ascertain where you are in the pecking order. If youre
meeting with colleagues and everyone is at the same level, youre going to be
participating in a different way than if youre meeting with a producer or executive (where
your default position would be more deferential).
In general, the lower you are in the pecking order, the less you contribute your own ideas.
Beware of taking up too much air time. Instead, spend more time listening and asking
constructive questions. When you do speak, you want it to count.

Notes
The notes meeting can seem similar to the creative meeting because the idea is that
everyone in the room is there to improve the script. However, its quite different because it
takes place in a different stage of the meeting.
The notes meeting is really about stage 2. Youre gathering information from the
decision-maker about what they want.
You can expect to get some bad and/or unhelpful notes. This is frustrating, but dont let it
get to you. Instead, use the notes for the information they are conveying about the
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Heres how I recommend handling notes meetings:


1. Give context early on in the meeting.
I recommend this technique from Christine Boylan (Castle, Leverage) which she shared at
The Austin Film Festival. At the beginning of a notes meeting, Christine says something
like, I really appreciate your time and Im interested to hear your notes. Im the kind of
writer who likes to think about the notes for a day to let them digest, so Ill just write down
whatever you say and then we can talk about the next steps.
2. Always have a notebook.
Two-time Oscar-winner William Goldman says: Never enter a creative meeting without a
notebook. (Adventures In The Screen Trade, 95). I would add, a crisp notebook.
3. Use affirmative language when you hear a note with which you can agree.
You want them to feel comfortable and that youre really listening (even if theyre saying
totally unhelpful things). Its the smile and nod technique:

Good point.

Interesting.

Ah. I see.

4. Give troubling and difficult notes more attention.


If youre getting unhelpful notes, its possible that they are based on a real issue. Its worth
drilling down into the notes that you dont like or understand. Try saying:

Tell me more.

What problem are you seeing?

What are you trying to solve?

5. Do not argue with notes.


Theres no upside to arguing. Either get clarification on the problem the note is
addressing, or simply write it down and move on. Theres no benefit to getting rattled or, if
you do get rattled, letting the decision-maker know youre upset.

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The Most Common Pitching Mistake


The first time I stepped on a movie set, it was as an unpaid intern on the movie Titanic. I
was a senior in college and through my advisor at Carnegie Mellon, I had arranged for an
internship with a producer. It was my first time visiting Los Angeles, first time doing
anything in film, and I felt lucky to jump into the deep end of the pool.
But the truth is, I was also pretty scared. I felt like I didnt belong and I really didnt know
how to act on a film set. I didnt want them to know that I was totally green, born in a small
town in Iowa without any family connections, and the only things I knew about Hollywood
was what I had read in books and seen on TV.
My first task as an intern was to drive boxes of undisclosed materials from Los Angeles
to the set in Baja, Mexico. In retrospect, I never should have driven boxes that you are not
to open across the Mexican border, but remember, I was pretty innocent and wanted to
succeed. I certainly wasnt going to challenge my boss on my very first assignment.
I put the boxes in the back of my grandmothers Toyota Corolla and drove to Mexico. It
was dark by the time I got to the set and the Titanic looked like the real ship, all lit up at
night. Cameron was shooting and hundreds of people were in motion. It was beautiful.
I knew, even at that age, that people make quick judgements about whether they like you
and want to work with you. And it was VERY easy to see who Cameron respected and who
he dismissed.
When I dropped off my packages at the production office, I was told, It will be a while. Sit
there. I got to hear everyone interact, pitching their ideasnot about new projectsbut
about how this or that aspect of the production should be managed.
It became apparent to me that the people who were the most successful in getting others
on board with their ideas projected confidence but also humility. They pitched succinctly
and without bragging.
In contrast, the people who were much less successful at persuading the more senior
producers consistently used a particular tactic at the beginning of their pitch: they hyped
their own ideas.
This is the same mistake that rookies in Hollywood make when they introduce
themselves to someone new and pitch their work for the first time: starting their
pitch by hyping their own ideas.

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For example, I recently received an email from a writer (details changed to protect his
identity) who had a question, the gist of which was that he was getting meetings all over
town and everyone was passing (saying No to his project). He wanted to know how this
could be happening because, in his words, My script is amazing and my pitch will
blow your mind.
Now, without reading his material, its impossible to know why everyone is passing. But
right off the bat, I get the sense (and you probably do as well) that this writer isnt paying
attention to the negative feedback hes receiving. After all, if everyone in town is passing,
why would he represent to me that his pitch will blow my mind?
Typically, when someone hypes their idea before pitching it, it means that they are
only willing to hear positive feedback. They arent professionals who can adapt and
improve their work. Theyre rookies.
Lets get more specific. Here are some things you should not say in a pitch meeting.

Dont Make Predictions About Financial Success

This will be a big hit.

It has great international appeal.

Everyone is going to want to see this.

My project is a guaranteed moneymaker.

Its commercial.

This will be #1 at the box office.

Dont Predict Other Kinds Of Success

The lead role has Oscar written all over it.

This script will change the world.

This project will inspire people.

Dont Tell Them How They Will Think Or Feel

Youre going to love this.

Youll be laughing out loud.

This is the best thing youll read this year.

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Dont Give Your Own Positive Opinion Of Your Work

Ive got a great idea for you.

I have an amazing project.

I love the story in this script.

Whats The Problem?


Isnt this just harmless self-promotion to communicate confidence and enthusiasm?
Not in this case.
When you rave about yourself and your project, youre intruding on the decision-makers
turf by telling them what to think, how to feel, and what their opinion should be.
Imagine a couple circumstances where youre the decision-maker.

Watching American Idol


An American Idol contestant gets up, and before she sings, she says to the audience:
I just want to let you know that I love the way I sing this song, I think youre going to love it
the most out of all the performances tonight, and after Im done, I know youre going to
vote for me.
Or would you rather just have her sing and decide for yourself?

On A First Date
You meet your date at cafe, and right after you sit down at a table together, he says:
Before we get to know each other, let me just tell you what a great conversationalist I am.
I have some excellent personal stories that will make you laugh. Im also terrific in bed and
Im confident that youll be in love with me by the end of the evening.
Or would you just rather go on the date and decide for yourself?
I hope you can understand that decision-makers want to decide for themselvesjust
as you do when youre the decision-maker.

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Irritating The Decision-Maker


The truth is that most decision-makers dont want to hear your predictions about success,
and they dont want to be told how to think and feel.

You say: This will be a #1 hit movie. They think: Oh, goodyoure a
fortune teller now. Can I get some lottery numbers?

You say: Youre going to love this! They think: Really? Im so glad you
know how Im going to respond.

You say: I have an amazing idea for you. They think: Youve concluded
that your own idea is a winner? Im stunned.

Thats why when you hype yourself and your work in a pitch meeting, it doesnt
demonstrate confidence. It just annoys the decision-maker.
Heres what communicates confidence: just pitch your story. No pre-qualifications, no
pumping up or raving about how great your story is in advance. Simply tell the story.
Then, give the decision-maker the space to think, feel, and form opinions on their own.
Let them be the judge. After all, they are.

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How To Manage Anxiety


Do you get nervous when youre in a high-stakes pitch meeting?
Feeling nervous before (and during) a pitch meeting is totally normal. When the stakes are
high enough, it happens to everyoneeven experienced writers who have worked in the
business for a long time.
I have pitched hundreds of times, delivered keynote speeches, and led workshops at big
companies. I still get nervousespecially when Im using new material in front of a large
audience.
Luckily, I know the secret to managing anxiety. Its not a trick like deep breathing
(although that helps) or visualizing everyone in their underwear (which I do anyway).
The process Im about to share with you is how I prevent anxiety from getting in the
way of my performance, and how I help other people prepare for some of the most
important meetings of their lives.

Acknowledge Reality
When you deliver your complete pitch in a high-stakes meeting, youre expected to be
off-book. That means youll be pitching for 5-15 minutes without notes, notecards, or
anything written on your hand.
Additionally, you can expect to get interrupted during the pitch. Youll get asked tough
questions, the decision-maker may have to take a phone call, or someone important will
come into the room and youll have to start again.
Pitching is a hybrid performance of telling a story and being interviewed at the same time,
and its not easy to do well. So lets start by appreciating the seriousness of the challenge.

Embrace The Anxiety


Instead of trying to suppress or prevent the anxiety (which doesnt work), embrace it.
Okay, youre feeling nervous. Thats completely understandable. Youre doing something
very difficult and what your anxiety is telling you is:
Youre not prepared enough yet.

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Preparation doesnt make anxiety go away completely, but it does make the anxiety
manageable. For now, youre going to use the energy of your anxiety to prepare, rehearse,
and be as ready as you can possibly be.

Choose A Warm Listener


I want you to identify a person in your life who not only is a member of your projects target
market, but to whom you would feel comfortable delivering your pitch.
To be clear, this person does not need to be in the room when you are pitching. This is
someone you imagine is listening to you pitch. The idea is to duplicate the kind of easy,
comfortable, conversational style you have with a friend.
Specifically, when you rehearse your pitch, and when you practice your pitch, THATS the
person I want you to pretend to be talking to.

Rehearse
In my experience, most people hate to rehearse. Rehearsal implies that soon youll be
revealing yourself and your ideas in public.
However, rehearsing will help you in three ways:
1. With the writing of your pitch: theres something about saying the words out loud
that helps you to notice problem areas, clarify sentence constructions, and more.
2. With interpreting feedback: if you dont pitch your ideas well, listeners may not hear
your content because theyll be too distracted by your performance. You could
present a great idea poorly and end up getting negative feedback on your idea
even though it wasnt the idea that was really the problem.
3. With anxiety: when youve rehearsed your pitch sufficiently, you know that even if
youre not on your game, the odds of you completely bonking are miniscule. You
may deliver the pitch on autopilot, but youll get it done.

Practice On Video
You can rehearse in front of the mirror and if thats all you can do, okay. But if theres one
thing you can do to improve your pitch, its to record yourself on video and watch it.
When you watch yourself pitch on video, your pitch will improve immensely.

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Youll see where you dont make eye contact. Youll be able to tell when youre talking too
fast. And when the pitch lags a bit, youll know.

8 Steps To Rehearse
Heres how Id like for you to rehearsethough if you have acting experience or a process
youve used before successfully, great. Do what feels right to you.
1. Start by reading the text out loud while youre looking at it on the computer.
Read it a few times, and time yourself. Youll know if youre running over the time
youll have, and youll be able to see sentences that need to be shortened. Youll
also find areas where it sounds more natural to use a sentence fragment instead of
a complete sentence. That sort of thing. Edit your script accordingly.
2. Write out the text on notecards. One paragraph to one side of a card. Then, on
the reverse side, you can write a header for the paragraph, or the first few words.
3. Memorize the text and continue to polish. Cross out words, underline for
emphasis, and add other markings.
4. Rewrite the text on new notecards so the copy is clean. The act of writing out
your script is a huge help in memorizing it.
5. Deliver your pitch to the mirror or record your pitch on video. Remember to
visualize the person you chose, the person to whom you can pitch casually and
comfortably.
6. Watch yourself. I know, I know. Its painful. But try to see where you talk too fast,
where you need to vary your tone, and where you need to give better eye contact.
7. Pitch (to camera, if youre recording yourself) ten times in a row. I know, that
might sound a little mind-numbing. But after the first five times, youll get so bored
that something magical starts to happenyoull know your script well enough that
your performance will get better without you having to do anything.
8. If you get anxious, do some relaxation and warm-up exercises:

Do some shoulder rolls. Roll your shoulders forward and back five times.

Yawn in an exaggerated way three times.

Stretch your head to one side and gently rest a hand on the top of your head,
then the other side. Deep breaths.

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Take a deep breath in for a four count, hold your breath for a four count,
release your breath out on a four count. Repeat, extending the count each
time.

Scrunch your whole face up as tightly as you can. Hold for two seconds.
Release. Repeat three times.

Shake out your whole body. Imagine you are like a dog shaking off after
getting out of the pool. Breathe out and imagine the tension being released.

Make a thumbs up gesture with both hands. Close your eyes. Take a deep
breath in and circle your thumbs out to the side of your body and raise your
arms over your head. See if you can make your thumbs meet each other above
your head. When your thumbs meet, take a deep breath and release your
arms.

Take A Practice Meeting


If you have a big pitch meeting coming up, see if you can create an analogous
circumstance to give you a chance to practice.
For example, a couple years ago I was preparing to give a speech at Google. As you
probably know, Google employees must pass a challenging interview process and are
incredibly smart.
Two weeks before my speech, I invited a group of people over to my house. I asked my
friends who are engineers, computer programmersthe smartest technical people I knew.
I gave my 30-min speech, then listened to their feedback.
Then I did a new draft of the speech, and invited a different group of smart, technical
people to my house the following weekend, and had another practice session.
For those of you pitching a film, TV pilot, or novel, I recommend doing a practice session
with people who can replicate the kind of environment youll be in and the questions you
could receive.

Focus On Communication, Not Entertainment


This tip for handling nerves comes from comedy coach Judy Carter. She uses it when she
works with people about to perform stand-up comedy for the first time.
Dont try to be funny, she says. Instead, communicate your ideas.

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This works for pitching as well (and even if youre not pitching a comedy). The point is to
focus on communicating your ideas clearlynot being entertaining.

Pitching Can Be Fun


When youre prepared, pitching your ideas can be exciting and fun. You can walk out the
door flushed with adrenaline, happy with your performance, excited to have done well.
Sure, youll have some ideas for how you can improve for next timeand thats a good
thing. The people who are best at pitching in meetings learn from every experience.
It may seem hard right now, but if you keep preparing and practicing, soon youll be
pitching with confidence (and just a couple butterflies).

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The Difference Between YES and NO


You know those stories where the hero is lied to, but doesnt know it, and the best friend
knows about the lie and has to decide whether or not to tell the hero? With rare exception,
the sooner the hero is told, the better. It might hurt, but better to know the truth.
In this chapter, Im playing the role of the friend, youre the hero, and Im hoping that you
wont be upset when I tell you:
Sometimes, the compliments you get about your work arent true.
These compliments, these times when you hear a version of Yes, often are liesand what
is actually being said is, No. Thats why were going to talk about exactly what No,
Maybe, and Yes really sound like.

The Lie Is Told For A Reason


Decision-makers dont tell you the truth because they are trying to protect their relationship
with you. They want you to send them your future work, so they lie in order not to
hurt your feelings.
This lie is a problem for writers, directors, and producers who are taking meetings,
sending out scripts, and thinking a deal is close at hand when in reality, theyre being
told No time and again. Unfortunately, they keep chasing leads that arent there and
wasting precious time.
I dont want you to be wasting your time. I want you to be the kind of professional who
understands the subtext, knows when he or she is being told the truth, and can act
accordingly. So lets talk about the ways that No, Maybe, and Yes are
communicated.

No Is Silence Over Time


Chris Kelly, a writer for Real Time with Bill Maher wrote this in a recent article (crediting
Merill Markoe):
In Hollywood, no is silence over time. The way you find out youre not getting the job,
that they passed, that they didnt respond to the material, that theyre going a different
direction, is silence. Its the call you dont get. (via Huffington Post)

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Other forms of silence over time:

If you cant get an in-person meeting at all.

If your emails dont get returned in one week.

If your calls dont get returned in two weeks.

If your script has been passed along (to a star, director, or producer), and
you havent heard back in a month.

If you pitch to a decision-maker and they want to be in business with you, they will get in
touch as soon as possible. If you havent heard back, the answer (almost always) is No.

Unless They Pay You, The Answer Is No


Thats the title of John Augusts Scriptnotes Episode 71.
Johns screenwriter co-host, Craig Mazin, elaborates:
Unless theres money, the answer is no. Isnt that terrible? And its so unfortunate
because theres thousands and thousands so many wonderful, creative ways for
people to say no to you. And so many of them sound like yes, which is horrifying really to
contemplate, but its human nature. Nobody really likes saying no to somebody. Nobody
wants to be mean. No one wants to see that look reflected back to them.
If youre not getting any money, the answer is probably No.

No Often Starts With A Compliment


When people in Hollywood say No, the medicine is typically accompanied by a spoonful
of sugar. Examples include:

This has a lot of potential

This is a great piece of writing

I love the main characters

This is hilarious

We love it

If youre getting compliments like this, they can be true, but dont take them at face value.
Most of the time, all of these compliments translate to: You seem like a nice person and I
dont see any reason to offend you.

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No Usually Ends With An Excuse


After the compliment you get the excuse:

but isnt the right fit for us.

but we are overbudget.

but it would be too expensive.

but we have another project that is too similar.

If youre hearing reasons like these, dont take them at face value. Most of the time, all of
the reasons translate to: but this isnt good enough (yet).

No = Compliment + Excuse
Most of the time when youre getting compliments on your writing followed by an excuse
about why youre not getting any money, the actual compliments and excuses are not the
truth. The truth is that they are saying:
You seem like a nice person and I dont see any reason to offend you, but this isnt good
enough (yet).
This is a hard thing to hear because we want to believe that the compliment is real
because thats something to feel good about. We want to believe that the excuse is real
because it lets us save face.
The thing to understand is that if your work was good enough, youd at least get a
Maybe.

Maybe Comes In Three Flavors


Maybe Flavor #1: Notes.
When someone actually takes the time to give you feedback on what youve done, thats a
victory. It means that they want to be helpful and that, if you are able to make the changes,
they may be willing to take another look or meet with you again.

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Maybe Flavor #2: Stall for time.


Examples:

Ill take a look at it.

Let me get back to you once Ive read it.

This is a gray area, and typically means one of two things:

I like you personally and dont want to offend you, but I dont think this is
good enough yet, and I want you to send me your future projects.

My assistant will take a look at it and then tell me what he or she thinks and
if the feedback is extremely positive, then Ill take a look.

Unfortunately, its difficult to decipher the difference between a Maybe that means No
and a Maybe that means Maybe. The best thing to do is to follow up after an
appropriate amount of time, typically 1-2 weeks.
Maybe Flavor #3: Lets move this up the chain.
Examples:

Lets get (Big Star) on the line right now.

Come meet my boss.

This is a hopeful sign. It means that if the star, director, or higher-level executive is
interested, then this could quickly turn into a Yes.

Yes Means Things Are About To Move Fast


Yes sounds like this:

Im going to have Business Affairs call your agent.

Were going to make an offer. Wait by your phone.

Id like to option this for [$$$].

Remember, a great piece of material, a great pitch, a great writerthese are all very rare
commodities. If a decision-maker believes that your work is that valuable, he or she is
going to move quickly to sign you, buy your material, or otherwise bring you on board.

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How To Follow Up
If you had a meeting, sent materials, shared a meal, or had any sort of meaningful
interaction with a decision-maker, the ball is in your court.
Its your job to follow up.
The purpose of following up is to remind the decision-maker politely that you (and possibly
your request) exist, and often this is done in an indirect way. If you handle the postmeeting interactions well, it will be easier for you to address the decision-makers notes,
answer his questions, and prove that he should hire you or buy your material.

You Have To Follow Up


Sometimes, screenwriters dont follow up with decision-makers when they think that the
decision-makers are going to handle the follow up. Usually, this mistake happens when
screenwriters misinterpret something the decision-maker says. Thus, here are some
examples of commonly used decision-maker-ese:

Ill take care of (____) and get back to you.

Ill look at your materials.

Lets get together sometime.

This means:

Maybe Ill take care of (____) and get back to you.

Unless something higher priority comes up, Ill look at your materials.

Lets get together sometime, though I am booked for the next two years.

You get the idea. Decision-makers are busy and they can easily lose track. I know, youre
busy, toobut as the screenwriter, you cant afford to lose track. Decision-makers can.
There are plenty of screenwriters waiting.
Still, keep an eye on the bright side. Youve had a meeting with them. That means that for
a little while, youre in their memory and quite possibly, on their high priority list.
Following up is how you convert that meeting into concrete results.

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Why People Dont Follow Up


Many people have a meeting and then wait by the phone, hoping it will ring. Usually this is
because the screenwriter thinks, I dont want to bother the decision-maker. I dont want to
pester them or seem desperate.
The real reason, however, is just fear. You dont want to hear the decision-maker say No,
or worsenot even return your emails or calls.
Let me address these two issues. First, if you follow up correctly, youre not a bother.
Youre not nagging or pestering and you dont seem desperate. Youre actually being
helpful. Youre reminding the decision-maker (in a graceful way) that theres a high
priority item that would benefit from their attention.
As for being afraid of hearing No or getting the cold shoulder, thats understandable. Its
discouraging to follow-up and find out that you are not going to be hired or your project
isnt going to be purchased. But isnt knowing that information sooner rather than later
better in terms of moving forward with your goals?

Three Types Of Following Up


A follow-up is any communication that happens subsequent to the meeting and prior
to the decision-maker doing whatever it is you want them to do.
Following up tends to take one of two forms:

Direct: This is where the main focus of your email or phone call is when you say,
So, have you had a chance to (____)?

Indirect: Communication where you dont mention the (____), but you keep in
touch in a way that reminds the decision-maker that (____) is on their list of things
to do. Indirect follow-ups include saying thank-you and sharing new information.

Here are three email templates so you can decide what to do your particular situation.

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Template #1: Asking Directly (Direct)


Re: Quick question
Hi (VIP name),
I hope you had a good weekend.
Just wanted to check in and see if you had a chance to read (project title).
Look forward to hearing your thoughts.
Best,
(You)

Template #2: Sharing New Information (Indirect)


Re: Good news
Hi (VIP name),
I wanted to share some good news. I just found out that my script (project title) is a semifinalist in the Nicholl Fellowship! Thanks for your encouragement along the way.
I hope that (VIPs current project) is going well.
Warmest regards,
(You)

Template #3: Saying Thank You (Indirect)


Re: Thank you!
Hi (VIP Name),
Just wanted to say how much I liked your recent interview in (publication name).
The advice you gave about (specific topic) really helped me with a (genre) I have in
development.
Thanks!
(You)

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Rules For Following Up


After a pitch or general meeting, send a thank-you note within 24 hours.
In Hollywood, if youve had an in-person pitch meeting or even a phone or
videoconference pitch, handwritten thank-you notes are a good idea. This is because
when the assistant sorts the days mail, common practice is to place the handwritten notes
on top of the stack.

Follow-up Three Times After Making a Request


After making a request, you can follow up three times, alternating phone-email-phone or
email-phone-email (my preference).

First, email 1 week after making the request.

Then, phone 1 weeks later.

Then, email 2 weeks later.

If the decision-maker responds and requests more time or asks you to follow up in the
future, you can continue. If you dont get a response, stop following up.

Prepare To Leave A Message


When you call to follow-up, you will likely be giving a message to an assistant or going
directly to voicemail. Have something written down so that youre prepared, e.g.:
This is (your name) calling. We met last week about (project title). I sent in (materials) and
Im just calling to make sure you received the package.

Prepare For An Actual Meeting


If the VIP actually does take your call, keep a copy of the materials you sent in nearby in
case you need to refer to something on it.
Also, you should only make a follow-up phone call from a place where you can talk calmly
without distractions (i.e., not in line at Baja Fresh, in the car on the 405 going over the hill
into the valley, etc.).

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Dont Follow Up Too Much


There is a difference between being a professional who follows up on meetings and
becoming a stalker. In Hollywood in particular, there are people who decide, If youre not
going to call me back, Im going to call you every ten minutes until you pick up the phone,
or Im going to write you a letter every day until I get the response I want. The cases
where this kind of bullying strategy works are few.

Keep A Log Of Your Communication


You want to remember when you spoke with them last and what was said. Its your job to
keep track of this information. Some people use an Excel spreadsheet, some use
FileMaker Pro. I use the Notes field in my Addressbook. However you do this, its crucial
that you do it. Down the road, youll thank yourself!
This isnt just about helping you remember phone numbers and build rapport with VIPs.
Its also for situations that relate to contracts, such as when youre being given different
information by producers on a project, and you need to be able to explain to your agent
exactly who said what and when.
The more information you have, the better off you are when it comes time to warm up a
room, settle a contractual dispute, or launch a new project by sending it to the right
people in the right way.

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Three Meeting Checklists


How many times have you packed your bags, gotten on the plane, arrived at your
destination, unpacked, and found that you had forgotten something important?
Weve all done it. On a vacation, its an inconvenience. In a pitch meeting, its a potential
disaster. The solution is this:
Stop keeping track of everything in your head and use a checklist.
Surgeons use a checklist before every operationand it saves lives. Airplane pilots use a
checklist for takeoff and landingand it saves lives. Writers use a checklist and it helps
you to perform well in meetings, get hired, and sell your work. Thats not quite saving lives,
but having a successful creative career is an outcome worth pursuing.

What Should I Be Checking Off?


When you take your screenplay into the marketplace and start having meetings, you might
start with scheduling a few meetings, but you could easily have more than 20+ meetings a
week for weeks at a time. This means a lot of information to organize.
In general, for every meeting you want to make sure that you have:
Set goals
Researched the decision-maker
Confirmed the logistics
Prepared questions
Tested your equipment
Coordinated with any partners
Recorded what you learned
Evaluated your performance
A checklist is really YOUR checklist. It should be a work in progress that you customize as
you learn about your needs. To help you get started, Ill be giving you some checklist
templates. Ill also describe the thinking behind certain items on the checklists.

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Checklist #1: Preparation


Set Goals For The Meeting
Yes, I know you want to have the decision-maker buy your material for a large sum of
money. But this isnt a realistic goal in the beginning of the process. If youre meeting a
decision-maker for the first time, a good goal is to build rapport so you can get a second
meeting. Another good goal is to discover something personal about the decision-maker.
Highest priority goal

______________________________

Secondary goal

______________________________

Research Decision-Maker(s)
You should know as much as possible about the decision-makers you intend to meet,
including their position at the company, past projects, and anything theyve published.
Every scrap of information can help you build rapport and pitch effectively.
Name

______________________________

Title

______________________________

Recent Projects

______________________________

Successes

______________________________

Areas of expertise

______________________________

Read what theyve written

______________________________

Read whats been written about them ______________________________


Where else have they worked?

______________________________

Whom might we know in common?

______________________________

Other executives at the company

______________________________

Confirm Logistics
Forgive me if this seems too basic, but Ive had so many writers show up late for meetings
and it really gets things off on the wrong foot. Anyone with whom you really want to meet is
BUSY. If you waste their time, thats a strike against you.

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Therefore, if I have to drive to a meeting, Ill map the route, estimate how long it will take
me to get there, and put a departure time in my calendar so that I can arrive early enough
to have a coffee or something at a staging area (a place in walking distance to the
meeting). Then I can walk over and arrive right on time without being out of breath.
Meeting confirmed

______________________________

Updated contact info and location

______________________________

Drive planned

______________________________

Staging area

______________________________

Departure time

______________________________

Prepare Questions
The beginning of just about every meeting you will ever have is where you make smalltalk. This is an important part of the meeting because decision-makers want to work with
people they like and trust. If youre prepared, the small-talk will hopefully turn into a
deeper conversation about your common perspectives and interests.
Therefore, before the meeting, design a couple rapport-building questions to encourage
the decision-maker to share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences about things they
feel positively about.

Perhaps you know someone in common, and can design a social question
around that, e.g.: How did you first meet (friend in common)?

Perhaps you have a hobby or avocation in common. If so, you could design
an activity question around that, e.g.: I noticed from (print interview) that
you like (hobby). Whats your favorite (aspect of hobby)?

If you cant find anything out at all, you can use some of the tried and true
conversation starters, e.g.: How was your weekend?

Social question

______________________________

Activity question

______________________________

Conversation starter

______________________________

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Test Equipment
Your equipment includes what youre wearing, what you bring with you (in your bag,
purse, backpack, or briefcase), and any other materials or technology necessary for the
meeting.
1. Have special meeting clothes.
Im often asked what clothes should be worn to a pitch meeting, though Im not a fashion
expert. Does argyle make you look fat? I dont know. Maybe.
That said, my recommendation is to wear something that you have worn before, doesnt
show sweat, is comfortable enough to be worn all day, and is close to the decisionmakers level of formality. If you wear jeans and sneakers, let the jeans be dark and the
shoes new.
The key is to try your clothes on. We all gain or lose a few pounds from time to time, and
you want to make sure the clothes you intend to wear will fit properly.
2. Choose good waiting room materials.
The material you bring to the waiting room is not just to help you wait. It is to provide a
potential conversation starter, make a good impression, and put you into the right frame of
mind for the performance to come.
Good waiting room materials are magazines and non-fiction (not about religion or politics)
that are easy to pick up and put down.
Doing actual work on your phone, tablet, or laptop isnt ideal. This is because its easy to
get immersed in something that makes it hard for you to transition instantly into meeting
mode. Still, I understand youre going to be texting, tweeting, and checking email. Thats
okay so long as you can drop what youre doing at a moments notice.
3. Clean and restock your bag.
Our bags (purses, backpacks, briefcases) accumulate stuff (read: bits and pieces of
crap). You want to be okay if you drop your bag, everything spills out, and the decisionmaker sees all of the contents. You should have a good-looking notebook (I use this one),
pens that work, and a mini-toiletry kit that has floss, toothpaste, and a toothbrush.
Clothes tried on
Waiting room materials selected
Notebook and pens tested

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Checklist #2: Coordination With A Partner


Sometimes youll be pitching with another person. This could be a producer,
director, or perhaps a writing partner with whom you pitch all the time.
Pitching in tandem has an equal of number of advantages and disadvantages. On
the one hand, youll have your combined energy and expertise. On the other hand,
the chance that someone will say something stupid doubles. Coordinating with your
partner increases your synergy and decreases the chances of stumbling.
Here are some questions to help you coordinate:
What is our main goal for the meeting?
Will one of us be the leader in the room?
Do we plan on taking notes? If so, how?
In what configuration should we sit?
How will we handle our introductions?
How about keeping to a specific schedule?
Is it okay to interrupt? If so, how?
Where might we need a transition?
How will we handle it if we disagree during the meeting?
How can we support each other?
Who will have the last word?
Something I like to teach my clients is how to use secret signals to communicate in
the meeting. The two I like to use are stop talking and save me. Id tell you my
signals, but then they wouldnt be secret. Come up with your own verbal or nonverbal signals to convey the messages you think are important.
Also, handle any disagreements after the meeting. Disagreements are injurious in
the room. After the meeting, however, discussing your disagreement will often lead
to greater understanding and improvements in your presentation for next time.

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Checklist #3: Record And Evaluate


My assistant told me the following story: he was in the elevator at MGM and a guy
got in, talking on his cell phone. Apparently this guy was a writer who was so
incensed with my bosss comments on his rewrite, he felt he needed to call his
agent immediately and talk strategy. I asked my assistant to poke his head into my
bosss office and give him a quick summary of the content of what had been said.
At the time, MGM was in negotiation with this writers agency on a few different
projects. This writer revealed a key piece of the agencys strategy and greatly
enhanced MGMs negotiating position. Ultimately, it probably ended up costing this
writer some money and possibly a rewrite job.
The moral of the story is this: at the time you walk out the door, the meeting is
not over. Dont pump your fist in triumph or hang your head in despair. Dont use
your phone. Dont talk to anyone about what has just happened. Do not do anything
that would reveal your thoughts or feelings about what has transpired until youre
well out of sight.

Record What You Learned


During the meeting, you may have improvised some brilliant new language. You
may have been asked a question that threw you off balance. You may have made
observations that would help you prepare for your next meeting. The time to collect
these thoughts is ASAP.
Date, Time and Location

______________________________

Who was in the meeting?

______________________________

What details did you learn about them?

______________________________

What questions were you asked?

______________________________

What are the next steps?

______________________________

Evaluate Your Performance


What did you do well?

______________________________

What do you wish you had done better?

______________________________

When did they laugh?

______________________________

When were they most interested?

______________________________

When did they seem bored?

______________________________

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Hesitate To Act
A meeting can be a heady experience. You may be full of adrenaline. You may feel
compelled to take action immediately. However, it is a good idea to avoid making
decisions in such an emotional state. Even if you are in a time sensitive situation,
you would be well-served to take fifteen minutes to collect your thoughts and
refocus.
If you feel you must take action quickly, this is a good time to check in with one of
your advisors. Make sure you are on the right track and not making a rash decision.

Reward Yourself
Studies show that successful people give themselves a treat to reinforce good
behavior. Even if the meeting didnt go exactly as planned, even if there is a lot
youd like to change for the next time, the fact that you had the meeting is a
success in itself. Reward yourself.

Plan The Next Steps


Later that day, take a few minutes to plan your next steps. Do you need to notify
anyone? How will you follow-up with the people youve just met? Any other moves
you should make?
The point is to make each meeting count. You want to extract as much learning as
possible from each opportunity. That way, when you go into your next meeting,
youll be as prepared as you can possibly be.

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Master Checklist
Date, Time, and Location

______________________________

Highest priority goal

______________________________

Secondary goal

______________________________

Decision-maker Researched
Decision-makers name

______________________________

Title

______________________________

Recent Projects

______________________________

Successes

______________________________

Areas of expertise

______________________________

Read what theyve written

______________________________

Read whats been written about them

______________________________

Other executives at the company

______________________________

Questions Prepared
Social question

______________________________

Activity question

______________________________

Conversation starter

______________________________

Logistics Confirmed
Meeting confirmed

______________________________

Updated contact info and location

______________________________

Drive planned

______________________________

Staging area

______________________________

Departure time

______________________________

Clothes tried on

______________________________

Waiting room materials selected

______________________________

Notebook and pens tested

______________________________

Details Recorded
Who was in the meeting?

_____________________________

What details did you learn about them? _____________________________


What questions were you asked?

_____________________________

What are the next steps?

_____________________________

Performance Evaluated
What did you do well?

_____________________________

What do you wish you had done better? _____________________________


When did they laugh?

_____________________________

When were they most interested?

_____________________________

When did they seem bored?

_____________________________

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Final Thoughts
I hope you are feeling more confident! Weve covered:

The five stages of every meeting.

How to handle the four types of meetings.

How to avoid the most common pitch meeting mistake.

Tips for managing your anxiety by preparing strategically.

How to tell the difference between Yes, No, and Maybe.

How to follow-up after the meeting.

Over time, youll be able to walk into any room with confidence, and when the time
comes to express yourself, youll know just what to say and how to say it.

Thank You So Much!


Thank you for taking the time to read this eBook.
I hope that it helps you to feel more confident in meetings, pitch
more effectively, and achieve your professional goals.
After working at MGM as Director of Creative Affairs for many years and taking over
3000 pitch meetings, I've seen how the most successful writers, directors, and
producers pitch and sell their projects.
Using the material in this eBook, hundreds of people have created strategies for highstakes meetings, developed effective pitches, and found success.
You can, too.
Thanks again, and I wish you the very best.

Stephanie
PS. For more information check out my websites Resources page.

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