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Imagine there is a bank which credits your account each morning with
$86,400. It carries over no balance from day to day, allows you to keep
no cash balance, and every evening cancels whatever part of the amount
you had failed to use during the day.
What would you do? Draw out every cent, of course!
Well, everyone has such a bank. Its name is TIME.
Every morning, it credits you with 86,400 seconds.
Every night it writes off, as lost, whatever of this you have failed to
invest to good purpose.
It carries over no balance. It allows no overdraft. Each day it opens
a new account for you.
Each night it burns the remains of the day. If you fail to use the
day's deposits, the loss is yours.
There is no going back. There is no drawing against the "tomorrow". You
must live in the present on today's deposits. Invest it so as to get
from it the utmost in health, happiness and success! The clock is
running. Make the most of today.
To realize the value of ONE YEAR, ask a student who has failed a grade.
To realize the value of ONE MONTH, ask a mother who has given birth to a
pre-mature baby.
To realize the value of ONE WEEK, ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.
To realize the value of ONE DAY, ask a daily wage laborer who has kids to feed.
To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet.
To realize the value of ONE MINUTE, ask a person who has missed the train.
To realize the value of ONE SECOND, ask a person who has avoided an accident.
To realize the value of ONE MILLI-SECOND, ask the person who has won a
silver medal in the Olympics.
Treasure every moment that you have! And treasure it more because you
shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time ...
and remember that time waits for no one. . . Yesterday is history
Tomorrow a mystery Today is a gift That's why it's called the present!
-----------------------------------------------------------------------------"And your God is one God: there is no god but He; most gracious, most
merciful (Al-Quran 2:163).
Creative people realize the value of an idea. They do not take any chance with
something so important. They carry a small notepad to note down ideas whenever
they occur.
Many times, just because they have a notepad and are looking for ideas to jot
down, they can spot ideas which they would have otherwise missed.
Creative people are acutely aware of their dissatisfactions and unfulfilled desires.
However, this awareness does not frustrate them. As a matter of fact, they use
this awareness as a stimulus to realize their dreams.
13. Creative people recognize the environment in which they are most
creative.
Creative people do most of their thinking in an environment which is most conducive
to their creativity. If they are unable to influence their physical environment, they
recreate their favourite creative environment in their minds.
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If you are right handed, you will tend to chew your food on
your right side. If you are left handed, you will tend to chew
your food on your left side
If you stop getting thirsty, you need to drink more water. For
when a human body is dehydrated, its thirst mechanism shuts
off.
Chewing gum while peeling onions will keep you from crying.
Your tongue is germ free only if it is pink. If it is white there
is a thin film of bacteria on it.
The Mercedes-Benz motto is 'Das Beste oder Nichts' meaning
'the best or nothing'.
The Titanic was the first ship to use the SOS signal.
The pupil of the eye expands as much as 45 percent when a
person looks at something pleasing.
8 The average person who stops smoking requires one hour less
sleep a night.
9 Laughing lowers levels of stress hormones and strengthens the
immune system. Six-year-olds laugh an average of 300 times a
day. Adults only laugh 15 to 100 times a day.
10 The roar that we hear when we place a seashell next to our ear
is not the ocean, but rather the sound of blood surging through
the veins in the ear.
11 Dalmatians are born without spots.
12 Bats always turn left when exiting a cave.
13 The 'v' in the name of a court case does not stand for
'versus', but for 'and' (in civil proceedings) or 'against' (in
criminal proceedings)
14 Men's shirts have the buttons on the right, but women's shirts
have the buttons on the left
15 The owl is the only bird to drop its upper eyelid to wink. All
other birds raise their lower eyelids
16 The reason honey is so easy to digest is that it's already been
digested by a bee
17 Roosters cannot crow if they cannot extend their necks
18 The color blue has a calming effect. It causes the brain to
release calming hormones
19 Every time you sneeze some of your brain cells die
20 Your left lung is smaller than your right lung to make room for
your heart
21 The verb "cleave" is the only English word with two synonyms
which are antonyms of each other: adhere and separate
22 When you blush, the lining of your stomach also turns red
23 When hippos are upset, their sweat turns red
24 The first Harley Davidson motorcycle was built in 1903, and
used a tomato can for a carburetor
25 The lion that roars in the MGM logo is named Volney
26 Google is actually the common name for a number with a million
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Switching letters is called spoonerism. For example, saying jag
of Flapan, instead of flag of Japan
It cost 7 million dollars to build the Titanic and 200 million to
make a film about it
The attachment of the human skin to muscles is what causes
dimples
There are 1,792 steps to the top of the Eiffel Tower
The sound you hear when you crack your knuckles is actually
the sound of nitrogen gas bubbles bursting
Human hair and fingernails continue to grow after death
It takes about 20 seconds for a red blood cell to circle the
whole body
The plastic things on the end of shoelaces are called aglets
Most soccer players run 7 miles in a game
The only part of the body that has no blood supply is the
cornea in the eye. It takes in oxygen directly from the air
Every day 200 million couples make love, 400,000 babies are
born, and 140,000 people die
In most watch advertisements the time displayed on the watch
is 10:10 because then the arms frame the brand of the watch
(and make it look like it is smiling).
Colgate faced big obstacle marketing toothpaste in Spanish
speaking countries. Colgate translates into the command "go
hang yourself."
The only 2 animals that can see behind itself without turning
its head are the rabbit and the parrot
Intelligent people have more zinc and copper in their hair
The average person laughs 13 times a day
Do you know the names of the three wise monkeys? They
are:Mizaru(See no evil), Mikazaru(Hear no evil), and
Mazaru(Speak no evil)
Women blink nearly twice as much as men
Stress is an unpleasant fact of life. We all experience it for various reasons, and we all try to
come up with ways of coping with itsome with more success than others. So what exactly is
stress doing to your mind (and body) when you're staring down a deadline? And what can you do
to power through it?
The real problem with stress is that, for such a well understood and universally experienced
condition, as a society we deal with it so poorly that it leads to many of our most lethal illnesses
and long-term health problems. High blood pressure, heart disease, cancer, stroke, obesity, and
insomnia are all medical conditions across the spectrum that can be related to or directly
influenced by high stress as an environmental condition.
In order to cut through some of that fog, let's take a brief look at what stress is, how it impacts us
on a physical and mental level, and finally what we can do about it, with the help of some
experts. Photo by bottled_void.
Defining Stress: Acute and Chronic
Everyone experiences stress in some way, shape, or form. We all recognize when we're in
stressful situations, and we all know when we're stressed. At the same time, stress is more than
just a feeling that we have a lot to deal with. For the purposes of our explainer, we're focusing on
so-called "bad stress," as opposed to "good stress," like the kind of you experience on a roller
coaster (if you went on willingly), when you get a big promotion, or kiss someone for the first
time. Aside from good stress, there are primarily two types of stress: Acute (short-term) stress
that's usually a response to a specific influence (called a stressor), and chronic (long-term) stress
that sticks with you and could either have sprung from a short-term stress that stuck with you, or
a constant state of stress that you're under due to persistent stressors and conditions. Photo by
Becky Wetherington.
Acute Stress: Acute stress is the type of stress you experience when you have an immediate
reaction to something you're presented with. This is the "in the moment" kind of fight or flight
response that you have when you have to speak in a meeting, your boss just asked you to stay
late, you're startled by a sudden noise, or someone on the internet makes a ill-informed comment
about your favorite smartphone platform/operating system/hardware manufacturer. (How could
they!?)
Acute stress is defined by the fact that it's immediate and short term. In most cases, once the
stressor has been removed, your body and mind return to a normal state.
Chronic Stress: Chronic stress is entirely different, and is characterized by its long-term nature.
This is the type of stress that you feel that you're under every day, with no reprieve from the
things that make you feel stressed. Most chronic stressors are situations, for example, in which
you dislike your job and detest going every day, being there all day, and thinking about it when
you leave. Living paycheck-to-paycheck and struggling with financial security issues is another
common source of chronic stress that many people are familiar with.
Its these types of chronic stress situations that are the most dangerous. They keep your body's
defenses activated and heightened longer than is generally healthy, and unfortunately more and
more of us are living under constant conditions that create stress. Add to this the fact that "coping
with stress" isn't exactly a topic you learn in school and you have a recipe for a lot of very
unhappy people.
What's Actually Happening When You're Stressed
Your body shows signs of stress in two ways: first, the rush of hormones that elevate your heart
rate, boost your blood pressure, and stop your digestion, and then second the symptoms that you
experience and are aware of, like clenched teeth, headaches, and emotional upset.
Most of us can tell when we're stressed momentarily, or are just feeling stressed out generally,
but there's a lot going on inside our bodies when we're stressed that play a role in our health.
Symptoms: The most common and recognizable symptoms of stress are the ones most of us
know all too well: insomnia, headaches, jaw pain, back and neck pain, stuttering, heartburn and
nausea, nervousness and anxiety, fidgeting, nail-biting, lateness and trouble focusing, and a lack
of interest in work or activities that are normally interesting. The American Institute of Stress
(AIS) has a list of 50 common signs and symptoms of stress that include these, but also note a
number of other symptoms that you may not have immediately associated with stress and not
another condition like depression.
For example, behavioral changes that lead to other conditions can also be signs of stress, like
addictive tendencies, a sudden interest in smoking, alcohol, excessive eating, or gambling, or any
other addictive behavior that can be interpreted as an escape from chronic stressors. Often, even
subconsciously, many of us try to escape stressful situations or conditions by blocking them out
or escaping by way of anything that makes us feel better. Even if it's fleeting, it's common to
search out an escape so you can relax for a while. Photo by The American Institute of Stress.
I spoke with Roger S. Gil, MAMFT, about some of the less productive ways people cope with
stress, and he highlighted that trying to escape without dealing with the actual stressor is more
common than you may think. "Overeating, displaced anger, denial, defensiveness, etc. All are
signs of avoidance and coping strategies that are meant to protect the ego from the discomfort
caused by the stressorand none of them do anything about the stressor," he explained.
"Withdrawing (i.e. checking out mentally) from the situation at hand is something I see A LOT
of in my work with couples. For example a husband may withdraw into his own little world
when his wife complains about something. Instead of hearing her concerns, he pulls away and
encourages her to nag him some morewhich causes more withdrawal."
These behavioral changes cut both ways though: the AIS notes that stress reactions can also lead
to isolation, loneliness, and severe depression as well. If you've been suddenly feeling alone,
forgetful, overly defensive, disorganized, uninterested in your everyday life, overwhelmed by
what's going on around you to the point where you need to lie about them, and having difficulty
communicating with others, it's possible that chronic, poorly managed stress may be part of the
problem.
Physiological Effects of Stress: While stress is most often discussed in terms of how it changes
our mental and emotional condition, stressors and stressful situations also have a profound
impact on our bodies. Stressors, whether they're acute or chronic, immediately set off the body's
fight-or-flight response, flooding your system with stress hormones like norepinephrine and
cortisol that are meant to give you a needed boost in dangerous situations. Image via Wikipedia.
In short and small bursts, those hormones can make you more alert, more perceptive, raise your
heart rate so your muscles get more blood to them, and raise your breathing rate so you get more
oxygen into your lungs. Your digestive processes stop entirely so your body doesn't waste energy
processing food when it needs all the energy it can muster to survive. It's a good thing if, say,
you're dashing across a busy street or escaping a burning building, but keeping your body's fight
or flight response turned on all the time and those stress hormones at high levels in your body is
unhealthy, as this eHealth article explains.
If these hormones stay in your system for too long, they can eventually lead to high blood
pressure and increased heart rate, stress-induced hypertension and stroke risk, ulcers and other
gastrointestinal distress, a suppressed immune system, fatigue, sexual issues like impotence and
decreased libido. After all, those stress hormones are meant to be in our systems for a short
period while we deal with an acute stressor, at a time where we need all of our faculties about us.
Over the long term, keeping the body on full alert is more of a detriment than a benefit.
What You Can Do About Stress
Once you recognize the effects of stress and understand the damage you're doing to your body by
not coming up with ways to cope with the stress that you're under, it's time to do something
about it. I spoke with clinical psychologist Jeffrey DeGroat, PhD about some of the ways you
can reduce the impact that chronic stress has on you and how to cope with acute stressors.
Dealing with Acute Stressors: If the stressor is acute and temporary, Dr. DeGroat suggests
applying simple relaxation techniques like deep breathing, to calm the mind and the body so you
can get the clarity you need to address the situation. He proposes taking a 10-second breathing
cycle: breathe in for four seconds, and then out for six seconds. "Works as a thought distraction,"
he says, "as well as physically slowing down heart rate. This is a good technique to use anytime
and anywhere." Photo by Shawn Rossi.
Previously mentioned app CalmDown for Mac is a utility designed just for situations like this: it
encourages you to take a deep breath (or a few) so you can step back from the stressor for a
moment, gather your thoughts, and push through the fog of frustration and anger that often come
with stressors.
I also spoke with Roger Gil about dealing with stressful situations and he reinforced the point:
"Stressors like these can produce physical responses at first; so if you're heart is racing, you're
short of breath, or you feel your muscles tightening somewhere in your body, know that you're
feeling a physiological stress response. In those cases, channeling your awareness of your body
can sometimes distract a person away from the area of the body having the stress response."
Recognizing that you're having a physical reaction will help you calm down and deal with the
situation the way you really want to, as opposed to letting it stew in your mind only to come up
with what you wanted to say 15 minutes after you should have said it.
In that vein, Dr. DeGroat explains that figuring out what you wanted to say a few minutes after
you said it is very common, and often a result of being unprepared for the stressful situation
you're presented with. Aside from making sure to be ready for those situations in advance if you
can be, he suggests acknowledging that you're stressed in the situation and telling the person or
people you're dealing with that you'll get back to them later. Photo by Sasha Wolff.
"Rather than responding immediately with something we may regret later, or not saying anything
at all," he says, "another option might be to indicate to the person that you'll talk to them later
about the situation. For example, [imagine] you find out that a co-worker is dating an exboyfriend/girlfriend of yours. Rather than yelling at them and making yourself look out of
control, or saying 'oh, that's cool,' when you're really upset about it, you could say, 'let's not get
into this right now.' This will give you some time to collect your thoughts and approach them on
your terms and on your time." Time, as Dr. DeGroat explains, is key to defusing acute stressors,
letting your body and mind return to normal, and giving yourself the space to deal with them in a
healthy way.
Dealing with Chronic Stressors: Stressors that you deal with on a daily basis or that are always
hanging over your head are a different matter entirely. Usually they give you a little more time
and space to deal with the thing that's making you stressed, and there are other relaxation
techniques for stressors that may not require action on your part right away, or stressors that are
always lurking in the background, like your boss, for example.
Visualization is one way to relax yourself when you're presented with a stressor that you don't
need to respond to immediately. Dr. DeGroat suggests that if you can, take five to ten minutes to
immerse yourself in the most relaxing environment you can possibly imagine, whether it's green
fields, a chair by the sea, or your favorite easy chair at home. Focus on as much of that
environment as possible, trying to manifest the sounds, smells, and details about it in your head.
The more you do this, the farther away you'll get from the thing that's bothering you. It won't
make that thing go away, but it will give you a little clarity of mind and distance from the
stressor. Photo by Gabriel Pollard.
If you have additional time to relax and some space to be alone, Dr. DeGroat suggests
progressive muscle relaxation to defuse some of the natural tension that comes with being
stressed. "Systematically tense and relax muscle groups, beginning at your toes and working
your way all to the top of your head. [This] serves as a distraction from current stressors and can
help reduce physical tension that often accompanies stress."
Another tip Dr. DeGroat offers is to identify whether level of stress and your response to it is
realistic or unrealistic when you're in the middle of it. If it's realistic, as in anyone would respond
the same way and there's something you can do about it (like your computer froze or you just
dropped something,) then address the situation and move on. If the response is unrealistic and
others may not respond the same way (traffic isn't moving fast enough or security lines at the
airport are too slow,) then address yourself: calm down, step back, and try to relax.
The first step to addressing yourself is to challenge the way you're thinking about the stressor.
"Challenging these automatic thoughts that often hijack our minds and promote stress has been
shown in research to be a great way to help break the patterns of thinking & behaving that are
counterproductive/harmful," Roger Gil explained. "Once the 'mental battle' is won, the IRL battle
is more easily handled."
Granted, none of these measures have to be practiced only in the context of chronic stress, but it
is more likely that if your boss is getting on your nerves again today or the rent is due and you're
worried about being able to afford groceries, you're more likely to take a few minutes and
address how you feel so you can approach the issues in a clear manner than you are if you're
stuck in a meeting and asked to speak on a topic you weren't ready for.
How to Deal with Stress In the Future
When I asked Dr. DeGroat how we could deal with certain kinds of stress that seem to crop up
from time to time, like an overbearing extended family or an aggressive and disrespectful
employer, he pointed out that while there are ways to deal with each situation on its own merits,
much of the stress that gets to us the most comes from relationships. "Really, I believe stress in
relationships (occupational, family, social), often includes difficulties with setting and
maintaining boundaries. Others seem to expect too much from us. Rather than setting our own
limits/boundaries, we allow others to cross these boundaries, and end up feeling irritated and
resentful. One of the best ways to prevent stress in relationships is to identify our own
limits/boundaries and hold to them," he says. Photo by Joel Mendoza.
In some cases, it may simply be better to remove yourself from chronic stressors if you're having
difficulty adapting to them or minimizing them. After all, if your job is wearing you down and
there's no improving it, it may be time to look for a new job. If your relationship is so stressful
it's destructive for everyone in it, it may be time to break it off, and if your apartment is run down
and your landlord won't fix it, it's time to move out. There are plenty of good reasons to learn to
cope with stress, but there are other equally good reasons to remove the stress from your life
when you can.
To that end, there's no real way to live a completely stress-free life. Remember, there are positive
stressors as well as negative ones, and the positive ones are usually good experiences that we
enjoy or seek out. The same applies for negative stressors: they're bound to happen eventually
and avoiding them is a futile effort. The key is in knowing how to deal with them, and how to
minimize their effect on you.
If the stress you're experiencing is chronic, consider other activities like taking up a hobby,
meditating, or travelinganything that can take your mind off of those stressors and provide a
healthy outlet where you can relax. "Other helpful stressful coping mechanisms are exercise,
doing an activity you're good at that won't worsen the stress (e.g. cooking, video games, etc), and
watching a very engrossing movie/TV show," Gil said, "Sometimes interrupting the state of
stress a person is in with an activity they enjoy is enough to keep them from losing control."
There's no magic formula for dealing with stress, but employing coping mechanisms that give
you distance, helps you get through the moment, and at best minimizes the overall impact the
stressor has on you are a good way to stay healthy, happy, and productive. Photo by Jacob Btter.
"It is how we approach it that can cause us problems, or allow us to grow. The more control we
can find within a situation, or over ourselves, the more likely we will grow from the situation,"
Dr. DeGroat explained, "The more we are able to identify and act upon the control and choice we
have in situations, the less debilitating the stress will be."
This is just a short introduction, but unsurprisingly, entire books have been written on the topic
of stress, its medical and psychological implications, and how you can deal with it in healthy
ways. While we hope we've given you some insight into how your body reacts to stressors and
how you can manage them in the moment and on the long term, we know that this is by no
means an exhaustive study into the topic. What are some of your most successful ways of dealing
with stressful situations, both short and long-term? Share your suggestions in the comments
Sitting for Too Long Is Bad for Your Health
It is quite strange that time flies when you submerge into the real world. Your
work and studies are the far most necessary things to you, neglecting the
bad effects of it on your health. 21st century is quite inactive in a sense that
machines are available for every purpose. There are many bad effects on
health by sitting constantly in same position almost every day. The problems
that once can face are:
Obesity- Logically it is quite obvious, sitting for a long time at one place and
taking snacks can add to your body fat as you do not waste energy on
locomotion. The inactivity burns fewer calories, the problem is when you
move less you do not consume less calories; consumption is same as a
regular day when you move. No one would like to get obese as it is a serious
trouble that may lead to many other problems.
There are certain cells in the body that changes itself to fat cells when put
under pressure. Here, by pressure means the constant mechanical stress
that is applied on the body by sitting in one position for hours. These cells
are preadipocyte cells that are designed to be converted to the fat cells.
Researchers have shown that under constant mechanical stress they convert
much faster to the fat cells.
Diabetes and Heart Disease- It is quite clear above that some normal cells
can convert to fat cells. The results may not only be obesity. Those fat cells
can deposit in the blood vessels causing heart disease. Healthy heart is the
in the active body. One must understand the fact that oversleeping that is
also one of the inactive states of the body can cause a heart problem so
similarly sitting and working for hours on the chair in one position can also
make your heart weak. No doubt, even if you are working on a laptop in
office; your mind is actually working and body is in tension, moreover after
hours it will be really uncomfortable and tired.
One of the other problems caused is diabetes. Research has shown that type
2 Diabetes developed in the people who sit for many hours daily in one
position. Diabetes is another dangerous factor that adds to many other
illnesses.
Cancer- The strange thing is you cant even imagine that sitting can cause
cancer. Everything these days are somehow related to cancer or play a role
in activation of oncogenes such as rays of mobile phones and microwaves
etc. But it is true that sitting for long in one position in routine can cause
cancer. Unbelievable! Right? The American Institute for Cancer Research
showed in a recent conference that many cases of breast cancer and colon
cancer are somehow related to inactivation.
All these problems are serious and proved to have a relation with inactivity.
Cancer, diabetes, heart problems and obesity are all related to many other
illnesses. This shows that inactivity overall shortens the life span of an
individual who is careless and do not consider health as the first priority.
Saying health is wealth presents a very strong concept, your brain that
works on computer while writing and working wont be useful if you will no
longer be able to sit and write something due to unhealthy body.
It is advised to take break after every 50- 60 minutes. Break not at all means
to take rest. It means to go for a small walk; 5-10 minute walk will do well.
The solution is not to leave computers, televisions or other devices. It is just
not to over exhaust yourself and your body by stretching time in front of
them.
The National Health and Nutrition Survey have published many research
journals in which it is shown that even slight care that includes a walk even
hardly for minute can reduce waistline, could improve insulin resistance and
increases the levels of good cholesterol. One must keep in mind that health
is important, take a break during work; take a walk, stretch yourself a bit and
take a drink.
A wonderful story
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white
beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I
don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and
have something to eat."
"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.
"No", she replied. "He's out."
"Then we cannot come in", they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had
happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"
The woman went out and invited the men in"
" We do not go into a House together," they replied.
"Why is that?" she asked.
One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to
one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and
I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband
which one of us you want in your home."
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband
was overjoyed. "How n ice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us
invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"
His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"
Their daughter was listening from the other corner of the house. She
jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite
Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"
"Let us heed our daughter's advice," said the husband to his wife.
Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, and all of
the others, including Love.
One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all repaired their boats
and left.
Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment.
When the island was almost sinking, Love decided to ask for help.
Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with
you?" Richness answered, "No I can't..There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no
place for you here."
Love decided to ask Vanity, who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, "Vanity, please help
me!" "I can't help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by so Love asked for help, "Sadness let me go with you." "Oh...Love, I am so
sad that I need to be by myself!"
Happiness passed by Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love
called her!
Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come Love, I will take you." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed
and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder her name.
When they arrived at dry land, the elder went her own way. Love, realizing how much he owed
the elder, asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who helped me?"
"It was Time," Knowledge answered.
"Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?
Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because only Time is capable of
understanding how great Love is.
Story: The Dog in the Well
In old times, there was a village having only one well for drinking water. One day a dog fell down
in the well and died. The water became filthy and undrinkable. The worried villagers went to the
old wise man for advice. They were told to take 100 buckets of water from the well so that clean
water come to the surface of the well. The villagers took 100 buckets but water status was
same. They went to the wise man again. He suggested to take another 100 buckets. The
villagers did the same but to no avail. They villagers tried third time to take another 100 buckets
as per the advice from the wise man but water was still impure. The wise said, How come the
whole well is polluted even removing this much considerable amount of water. Did you remove
the dog body prior to taking 300 buckets of water? The villagers said, "no sir, you only advised
us to take water out, not the dog body !!!"
Reflection:
Several times in life we try to resolve our problems without considering the root cause
of the problems. We believe that we are resolving the problem whereas in actual we are working
on the side effects of problem not the problem itself. We don't see the big picture to understand
the root of the issue. We take advice from our well wishers but do not use our brain
to think logically to analyze the advice and then decide, instead, we start acting blindly on the
solutions suggested by others.
There is an old story about a fellow who lived alone and went
to a pet store to buy a parrot. He thought the bird might fill
some of his lonely hours. The very next day, however, he
came back to complain, "That bird doesn't talk."
The store owner asked if he had a mirror in its cage, and the
man said he didn't. "Oh, parrots love mirrors," he explained.
"When he sees his reflection in the mirror, he'll just start
talking away." So he sold him a birdcage mirror.
The bird owner was back the next day to gripe that his parrot
still hadn't said a word. "That's very peculiar," allowed the
pet expert. "How about a swing? Birds really love these little
swings, and a happy parrot is a talkative parrot." So the man
bought a swing, took it home, and installed it in the cage.
But he was back the next day with the same story. "Does he
have a ladder to climb?" the salesman asked. "That just has
to be the problem. Once he has a
ladder, he'll probably talk your ear off!" So the fellow bought
a ladder.
The man was back at the pet store when it opened the next
day. From the look on his face, the owner knew something
was wrong. "Didn't your parrot like
the ladder?" he asked. His repeat customer looked up and
said, "The parrot died."
"I'm so sorry," the stunned businessman said. "Did he ever
say anything?"
bad news before good news from their employees. But these 10 ideas may help you
manage well, and I hope they do.
Story: It's All Good
I heard the story told recently about a king in Africa who had a close friend that he grew up with.
The friend had a habit of looking at every situation that ever occurred in his life (positive or
negative) and remarking, "This is good!"
One day the king and his friend were out on a hunting expedition. The friend would load and
prepare the guns for the king. The friend had apparently done something wrong in preparing one
of the guns, for after taking the gun from his friend, the king fired it and his thumb was blown
off. Examining the situation the friend remarked as usual, "This is good!". To which the king
replied, "No, this is NOT good!" and proceeded to send his friend to jail.
About a year later, the king was hunting in an area that he should have known to stay clear of.
Cannibals captured him and took them to their village. They tied his hands, stacked some wood,
set up a stake and bound him to the stake.
As they came near to set fire to the wood, they noticed that the king was missing a thumb. Being
superstitious, they never ate anyone that was less than whole. So untying the king they sent him
on his way.
As he returned home, he was reminded of the event that had taken his thumb and felt remorse for
his treatment of his friend. He went immediately to the jail to speak with his friend. "You were
right" he said, "it was good that my thumb was blown off." And he proceeded to tell the friend all
that had just happened. "And so I am very sorry for sending you to jail for so long. It was bad for
me to do this."
"No," his friend replied, "this is good!"
"What do you mean, 'this is good'! How could it be good that I sent my friend to jail for a year."
"If I had NOT been in jail, I would have been with you."
The 7 Super Powers You Must Posses
Each one of us want high happiness index, peace of mind, mature character and
success in life but most of us do not really strive to achieve these goals. Out of us
who struggle for their goals a very few are able to make things happen. The
difference between successful and unsuccessful people is the difference between
the level of Inner Power both the categories posses in their brains and the level of
Power they exert to achieve what they want to achieve. In my opinion, the Inner
Powers consist of following seven categories and the intellectuals who possess all
these mental muscles can accomplish a great deal of victories in most of the fields
of life:
Empower your personality with these 7 super powers and gain ultimate heights in
life.
Remember, success is not a destination, it's a journey. For this journey, there are no
escalators so you must take the ladder passage. Which means you have to take step
by step approach to reach to the top. If you are in doubt at any stage, just take next
small step and notice the consequences. If all fine, go ahead; if something goes
wrong, take a step back and re-assess your direction.
Telephonic Interview Tips
Telephone interviews are one of the initial methods to screen candidates. They are meant to be a
relatively quick and easy way to narrow down the massive pool of applicants, before compiling a
short list for on premise interviews.
The desired response of a telephone interview is to secure a face-to-face interview. The response
of a telephone interview is slightly different from that of a face-to-face interview. The telephone
interview is designed to lead to a face-to-face interview.
Here is how to prepare for a telephone interview. Although, it is customary for interviewers to
give you an advance notice of a telephone interviews, some will not. They will just ring up and
go for it. Once you start sending out applications, be prepared for telephone interviews. That call
can come at 8 am Monday morning, 7 pm Friday evening or 9 pm Sunday night.
Practice your voice projection. Speak aloud to practice. Ask someone else to listen to you or even
record and play yourself back. It's amazing how different you sound. You will notice the bad
habits...the "errrrrrs" and "ummmmmms."
Obviously, telephone practice as well as general interview and question practice are essential.
Further, you should be able to demonstrate a good knowledge regarding the job, company, its'
products and services and even its' competitors...that means undertaking research.
Try to anticipate the questions you'll be asked that demonstrate you can do the job. Then, prepare
accordingly. Technical questioning on the telephone is common - as a means to screen
candidates. The questions may not in great depth, but should be known by a good candidate.
During the interview, the interviewer has only ears with which to judge you, and that is
something you must exploit.
Some Telephone Interview Tips
Have your research and company notes to hand. You should also have a copy of the resume
that you sent to that company. Remember, the most effective resume are those that are
especially tailored
Take a "surprise" call in your stride. If you are looking for work then no telephone interviews
should really be a "surprise."
Be calm and collected. Remember to slow your breathing...at least try by counting to 5 with
each inhale and exhale
Smile: it really makes a difference in your voice so much so that the person on the other end
can tell when you are smiling
Sound positive, friendly, and collected
If you need time say..."Thank you for calling. Would you wait just a moment while I close
the door?" Rest the phone as you pull out your resume and company information
Shut out all background noise, such as pets, children playing and the television
Take notes: They will be invaluable to you in preparing for the face-to-face meeting. No
need to record the conversation...that is a bit over the top!
Prompt the interviewer to invite you to interview by saying, "I am immediately available for
interview if you would like to arrange one now."
Taking care to ascertain the correct spelling and pronunciation of the interviewer's name
shows your concern for the small but important things in life--it will be noticed
If you require more details like a Job Description or Person Specification ask for one
Thank the interviewer for her time and that you hope to hear soon. No harm in saying that
you are very keen for a face-to-face interview. One school of thought asserts that you should
ask three times for an interview; subtly of course.
"I am immediately available for interview."
"I really would like an opportunity to meet you and look around the company."
When you initiate a call to the recruiter and they show interest. The call from thereon is
an interview.
Prepare well
Never jump to take an unexpcted and unplanned call. Excuse yourself and ask them to
reschedule the call.
Ward off anything and everything in the room that can distract.
Make sure you need no break during the water, not even for getting a glass of water ot
attending to nature's call.
Turn off call waiting on your phone, warm up your voice while waiting for the call, have
a glass of water handy, turn off your stereo, TV and any other possible interruption.
Finally, be ready with the answers to the basic questions and to rehearse them in front of
the mirror to gain confidence.
Perform well
Listening skill is a crucial component during the interview process. Comprehend the
questions well and give to the point answers.
Avoid talking in between and let the recruiter complete his thought or question before
you speak.
It is important to speak at a slow pace and be clear so that the interviewer can understand
what you are saying.
Do not use unprofessional language and sound courteous and polite. Thank the
interviewer once the interview process is complete.
Most importantly keep your tone pleasant as most interviewers are experienced and can easily
judge the comfort level of the candidate, so it is important to smile and stay relaxed. Give your
best during the telephonic interview as it will pave the way for further interactions.
Keep all of your employer research materials within easy reach of the phone.
Turn off your stereo, TV, and any other potential distraction.
Warm up your voice while waiting for the call. Sing an uplifting song to yourself.
Have a glass of water handy, since you will not have a chance to take a break during the
call.
Speaking of breaks, if your phone interview is at a set time, make sure you answer
nature's call first.
Dos
You need to have enthusiasm and sound confident while answering the questions.
Always put across the details on your experience, skills and your strong points.
Answers need to be precise to the questions asked, at the same time do not miss out to list
out your strengths.
Donts
Avoid using mobile as there can be some signal problem and it may be problematic.
fter a phone interview, send a thank-you note by email that recaps your best selling
points.
1. Be articulate. Practice asking yourself questions, then answer them with confidence in
front of the mirror. This will give you an idea of your facial expressions and
pronunciation.
2. Keep your answers brief and to the point.
3. You must know where to stop and start while answering questions. Never talk non-stop.
Control the speed of your speech.
4. Listen carefully to the interviewer's questions. Understand the question and start your
answer by recollecting your experiences and knowledge.
5. If you are not able to understand the question clearly, ask the Interviewer to repeat it.
Request for more related information if you are not sure about the answer.
6. If you don't know the answer or haven't used a particular method or tool, please say "I
don't know" or "I haven't experienced that situation " or " I haven't used that tool, but if
given the opportunity, I can learn fast". An Interviewer will always take it positively
when you admit the truth.
7. While starting a conversation, introduce yourself with your first name and last name (if
any) and greet your Interviewer with a "How are you" or "Hi" or "How are you doing"
8. If the Interviewer discusses issues regarding country, lifestyle, weather, accommodation,
language, driving, culture, politics, food and family background (rare) - answer briefly.
9. Please keep a copy of your resume in front of you. The interviewer may ask about
individual project details, your roles, responsibilities, major accomplishments, product
advantages, techniques followed, tools used, and your involvement in that project. Refer
to your resume quickly and answer the question promptly.
10. Don't be nervous or panic. Be cool, enjoy yourself. Remember you have the skills the
client needs. Never show or express unwillingness to be interviewed. Even if you are not
interested in that job or client, don't discourage the interviewer especially after having
started a dialogue with him/her. If you decide on another client call the Interviewer, thank
him and give a valid reason for not joining.
11. After successfully completing the interview process, if interviewer asks "do you have any
questions ?", ask! Clarify issues related to company background, place of work if hired,
starting date and timings. Do not ask about the position offered, rates at this stage since
those issues come under the negotiation process.
12. Don't raise or talk about issues related to discrimination against race, religion, color,
country and sex. These are extremely touchy topics and are best avoided.
13. Don't use slang words.
14. Don't stretch an argument.
15. After completion of interview, say "Thanks" or "Thanks for your time" or "Thanks for
your time and have a good morning/evening day" and put down the phone very slowly.
16. If the interviewer makes a positive offer and you are satisfied with it, it would be nice if
you said the following: "Thanks for giving me an opportunity to work with your
company and I will do my best to prove my skills....."
17. If you are asked to briefly introduce your entire work experiences, take 30 seconds to
explain all major points, client names and contributions you have made. I recommend
you practice this by writing down the exact contents and reading it aloud in front of the
mirror.
18. Always be positive.
19. Try to answer all questions with practical examples based on your previous experience.
This way, you can recollect your experiences and prove that you have faced challenging
situations in your career.
20. If you feel you lack adequate communication skills, attempt to regularly converse with
friends on general topics. Listen to the radio, watch discussion oriented TV programs.
Talk to yourself in front of mirror and watch for, speed, lip movements and body
language.
21. After the interview is over, recollect what you did, how you performed. Note down where
you were lacking. These points will help you better your performance the next time
around.
22. References always works well no matter where you are applying. Managers and HR
departments will always cross check with the references you have provided. So have at
least 3 references who can give them a very clear picture about your experience and skill
set.
23. If you are not hired, don't loose heart. There may be several reasons for the
client/consulting company to reject the applicant even after a successful interview:
o Budget constraints
o Terms with medical staffing company are not agreeable to client
o Salary not agreeable to client
o Medical staffing company is getting better offer for you from a different client.
o Medical staffing is not willing to send you because of short term assignment.
o Client is not ready to sponsor your Work Visa and has restrictions in company corporate
policies.
Here are some common reasons for rejection along with a suggestion for improvement:
Very importantly, when you address the Interviewer, Use his/her first name or put Mr.
before last name. This is important while writing e-mail, holding a general conversation
or making a presentation.
We hope these tips will be of use to you for your next telephonic interview. Never hesitate to ask
for help from others. Gather as much information as you can about the company and position
you have applied for.
Be Prepared For preparing the phone interview, there are several things you can do. To prepare
for the phone interview you can consider the following points:
You can keep all of your employer research materials within easy reach of the phone.
You can tape your resume to a wall near the phone. It will help a lot during the call and will be a
constant reminder for your job search.
Have a notepad handy to take notes.
If the phone interview will occur at a set time, Following are some additional points you have to
consider:
Turn off call waiting on your phone.
Place a Do Not Disturb note on your door.
Warm up your voice while waiting for the call.
Have a glass of water handy, so that you will not have a chance to take a break during the call.
Turn off your stereo, TV, and any other potential distraction.
Do not be afraid to pick up the phone The first step in the hiring process is the telephone
interview. It may happen that when you pick up the phone, the call may be from any company.
Then that time ask the recruiter to repeat his or her name. Verify the spelling and write it down.
Use the recruiters name in your response.
If there is really any problem for you to talk, then ask for a telephone number and a convenient
time to call back. You are now ready to make a good impression during your first five minutes.
The phone interview tips will help you master the phone interview and get you to the next step the face to face interview. So do not afraid to pick the phone.
Be a good listener During telephonic interview, you must keep in mind that you must be a good
listener.
Avoid interrupting and let the recruiter complete his thought or question before you respond. Ask
for clarification. Use open-ended questions. The more information you can gather, the better you
can respond. We must know the fact that good listener is the best quality.
Do Not Panic Unnecessarily
People panic about practically everythingmissed deadlines, orders not received,
comments by others, fear of mistakes, negative trends. You name it and someone has
panicked about it. Yet I've never seen even a single instance where the panic actually
helped to solve the problem. Instead, panic is neutral at best and greatly interferes at
worst. Panic tends to bring out the worst in everyone. It makes others (and you) feel tense
and fearful. It increases the likelihood of mistakes, missed opportunities and
miscommunications.
Nothing interferes with the creation of success and abundance like panic. When you make
the commitment to stop panicking, you'll notice some incredible things happening. First,
you'll notice that a vast majority of what you are most worried about will never happen, or
it won't be as bad as you first thought. It was Benjamin Franklin who said, "Some terrible
things happened in my lifetime a few of which actually happened."
By avoiding the panic, you won't waste time, anxiety, and energy trying to solve what
probably doesn't need solving. Second, when you learn to keep your bearings, your wisdom
will come forth. In the absence of worry, answers will emerge. Instead of a head full of
concerns, you'll create a head full of solutions. Finally, when you stay calm, you really do
bring out the best in others. Many people react to the feelings of others. If you can
maintain your bearings, chances are the people you work with will too.
To bring forth your greatest potential, eliminate panic altogether from your thinking..
The Illusion of Reflection
Once there was a king who had presented his daughter, the princess, with a beautiful
diamond necklace. The necklace was stolen and his people in the kingdom searched
everywhere but could not find it. Some said a bird may have stolen it. The king then asked
them all to search for it and put a reward for $50,000 for anyone who found it.
One day a clerk was walking home along a river next to an industrial area. This river was
completely polluted and filthy and smelly.As he was walking , the clerk saw a shimmering
in the river and when he looked, he saw the diamond necklace. He decided to try and
catch it so that he could get the $50,000 reward. He put his hand in the filthy, dirty river
and grabbed at the necklace, but some how missed it and didn't catch it. He took his hand
out and looked again and the necklace was still there. He tried again, this time he walked
in the river and dirtied his pants in the filthy river and put his whole arm in to catch the
necklace. But strangely, he still missed the necklace! He came out and started walking
away, feeling depressed.
Then again he saw the necklace, right there. This time he was determined to get it, no
matter what. He decided to plunge into the river, although it was a disgusting thing to do as
the river was polluted, and his whole body would become fillthy. He plunged in,
and searched everywhere for the necklace and yet he failed. This time he was really
bewildered and came out feeling very depressed that he could not get the necklace that
would
get
him
$50,000.
Just then a saint who was walking by, saw him, and asked him what was the matter. The
clerk didn't want to share the secret with the saint, thinking the saint might take the
necklace for himself,so he refused to tell the saint anything. But the saint could see this
man was troubled and being compassionate, again asked the clerk to tell him the problem
and promised that he would not tell anyone about it. The clerk mustered some courage
and decided to put some faith in the saint. He told the saint about the necklace and how he
tried and tried to catch it,but kept failing. The saint then told him that perhaps he should
try looking upward, toward the branches of the tree, instead of in the filthy river. The clerk
looked up and true enough, the necklace was dangling on the branch of a tree. He
had been trying to capture a mere reflection of the real necklace all this time.
Moral of the story:
Material happiness is just like the filthy, polluted river; because it is a mere reflection of
the TRUE happiness in the spiritual world.
We can never achieve the happiness we are looking for no matter how hard we
endeavour in material life. Instead we should look upwards, toward God, who is the
source of real happiness, and stop chasing after the reflection of this happiness in the
material world.This spritual happiness is the only thing that can satisfy us completely.
THE SELFISH MAN
Once upon a time, there was a selfish man. He liked everything to be his
own. He could not share his belongings with anyone, not even his friends
or the poor.
One day, the man lost thirty gold coins. He went to his friend's house and
told him how he lost his gold coins. His friend was a kind man.
As his friend's daughter was coming from an errand she found thirty
gold coins, when she arrived home, she told her father what she had
found. The girl's father told her that the gold coins belong to his friend
and he sent for him. When the selfish man arrived, he told him how his
daughter had found his thirty gold coins and handed then to him. After
counting the gold coins the man said that ten of them was missing and
had been taken by the girl as he had forty gold coins. He further
commented that he will recover the remaining amount from him (the
girl's father). But the father refused.
The man left the gold coins and went to the court and informed the judge
there about what had taken place between him and the girl's father.
The judge sent for the girl and her father, and when they arrived asked
the girl how many gold coins did she find. She replied thirty gold coins.
The Judge then asked the selfish man how many gold coins did he lose
and he answered forty gold coins.
The judge then told the man that the gold coins did not belong to him
because the girl found thirty and not forty as he claimed to have lost and
then told the girl to take the gold coins and that if anybody is looking for
them he will send for the girl.
The judge told the man that if anybody reports that they have found
forty gold coins he will send for him. It was then the man confessed that
he lied and that he lost thirty gold coins but the judge did not listen to
him.
This story teaches us to be always honest as dishonest never pays.
Human Brain Analysis Man vs Woman
Man vs. Woman a battle between two genders which never seems like
coming to an end. Why is it so? Why one entity cannot walk hand in hand or
shoulder to shoulder with their counterparts in everyday matters of life. Why
the stir is still going on about woman inequality and gender discrimination in
our modern and highly educated era? The questions are many but answers
are few yet unsatisfactory; why is it so?
We preach a lot about men and women being equal while in reality one
gender is in urge of dominating other in order to prove their respective
strength and ultimate value. This unending and unsettling dispute has raised
many eyebrows of scholars over the years. One aspect of looking at and
addressing the issue at hand is to observe it from the perspective of sheer
innate reality and psychology. This is what we are going to do right now; we
are opting out for human brain analysis in order to understand why it is
always man vs. woman?
A woman is good when it comes to multitasking. She can do different tasks at the same
time without losing the power of her focus and this proves the strength of her abilities.
She can drive whilst listening to a phone call unlike man, who loses focus quite easily
and finds it difficult to pull off multitasking. Hence, they are more in favor of approach
one task at one time
Similarly when it comes to language then it is said that woman are more able to learn
more languages compared to man and this is the reason why, vocabulary of a woman
tends to be greater than that of a man. Further, this is why a female baby speaks more and
tends to be more talkative than a baby boy
Woman finds it difficult to solve problems quickly while on the other hand, man tends to
be quick and effective problem solvers
Man is far greater than woman when it comes to analytical process; he can view an
abstract situation and then breaks it down into simpler bits of problems while a woman
finds it difficult to do so. She would take an abstract situation as a complex map of lines
only
Car driving is better in man than woman. Reason being, analytical abilities of man
combines with his brain while driving. As a result, he is better in identification of far off
objects on the road, their direction and speed; hence, they tend to be better fast driver.
While on the other hand, a women cannot drive fast due to lagging behind in factors in
which man is leading
Another interesting fact is woman can easily catch lies when a man speaks to them one
on one because women are blessed with an enhancing clairvoyance; they judge opposite
gender on the basis of 70% facial expressions, 20% body language and 10% words. This
is the reason why man finds it difficult to lie in front of a woman while on the other hand,
woman can easily lie in front of a man without even getting caught
Moreover, when a man faces a problem then he can classify this problem in to tiny pieces
and then put them into different sections of his brain and then he finds solutions of these
different sections of problems. While when it comes to a woman then she cannot classify
her problems into smaller units; all she wants to do is pour her heart out to someone, once
she is done with that then she becomes happy and no longer care for the solution
afterwards
Another distinguishing factors between man and woman is their aspirations in life, man
wants success, status, money and big proceeds in life while, contrastingly, woman wants
family, friends and relations more in her life and gives more value to such things
Similarly, if a man is unhappy with his relations then he cannot concentrate on his other
relations while if a woman is unhappy with her relations then she cannot focus on her
work
Woman often use indirect references in language while a man uses direct speech. This is
another that kind of fact which causes compatibility problems between two genders
When it comes to handling emotions then it is said that woman talks a lot without
thinking while when it comes to man then he acts a lot without thinking
Above are mentioned few of the many interesting and opposing facts about
both genders according to the brain analysis which are being raved about a
lot now-a-days.
10 Deadly Signs of Negative Thinking
Negative thinking, in all its many-splendored forms, has a way of creeping into conversations
and our thinking without our noticing them. The key to success, in my humble opinion, is
learning to spot these thoughts and squash them like little bugs. Then replace them with positive
ones. You'll notice a huge difference in everything you do.
Let's take a look at 10 common ways that negative thinking emerges
get good at spotting these patterns, and practice replacing them with
positive thinking patterns. It has made all the difference in the
world for me.
10 Deadly Sins of Negative Thinking
1. I will be happy once I have _____ (or once I earn X).
Problem: If you think you can't be happy until you reach a certain
point, or until you reach a certain income, or have a certain type of
house or car or computer setup, you'll never be happy. That elusive
goal is always just out of reach. Once we reach those goals, we are
not satisfied we want more.
Solution: Learn to be happy with what you have, where you are, and who
you are, right at this moment. Happiness doesn't have to be some state
that we want to get to eventually it can be found right now. Learn
to count your blessings, and see the positive in your situation. This
might sound simplistic, but it works.
2. I wish I were as ____ as (a celebrity, friend, co-worker).
Problem: We'll never be as pretty, as talented, as rich, as sculpted,
as cool, as everyone else. There will always be someone better, if you
look hard enough. Therefore, if we compare ourselves to others like
this, we will always pale, and will always fail, and will always feel
bad about ourselves. This is no way to be happy.
Solution: Stop comparing yourself to others, and look instead at
yourself what are your strengths, your accomplishments, your
successes, however small? What do you love about yourself? Learn to
love who you are, right now, not who you want to become. There is good
in each of us, love in each of us, and a wonderful human spirit in
every one of us.
3. Seeing others becoming successful makes me jealous and resentful.
Problem: First, this assumes that only a small number of people can be
successful. In truth, many, many people can be successful in
different ways.
Solution: Learn to admire the success of others, and learn from it,
and be happy for them, by empathizing with them and understanding what
it must be like to be them. And then turn away from them, and look at
yourself you can be successful too, in whatever you choose to do.
And even more, you already are successful. Look not at those above you
in the social ladder, but those below you there are always millions
of people worse off than you, people who couldn't even read this
article or afford a computer. In that light, you are a huge success.
4. I am a miserable failure I can't seem to do anything right.
Problem: Everyone is a failure, if you look at it in certain ways.
Everyone has failed, many times, at different things. I have certainly
failed so many times I cannot count them and I continue to fail,
daily. However, looking at your failures as failures only makes you
feel bad about yourself. By thinking in this way, we will have a
negative self-image and never move on from here.
Solution: See your successes and ignore your failures. Look back on
your life, in the last month, or year, or 5 years. And try to remember
your successes. If you have trouble with this, start documenting them
keep a success journal, either in a notebook or online. Document
your success each day, or each week. When you look back at what you've
accomplished, over a year, you will be amazed. It's an incredibly
positive feeling.
5. I'm going to beat so-and-so no matter what I'm better than him.
And there's no way I'll help him succeed he might beat me.
Problem: Competitiveness assumes that there is a small amount of gold
to be had, and I need to get it before he does. It makes us into
greedy, back-stabbing, hurtful people. We try to claw our way over
people to get to success, because of our competitive feelings. For
example, if a blogger wants to have more subscribers than another
blogger, he may never link to or mention that other blogger. However,
who is to say that my subscribers can't also be yours? People can read
and subscribe to more than one blog.
Solution: Learn to see success as something that can be shared, and
learn that if we help each other out, we can each have a better chance
to be successful. Two people working towards a common goal are better
than two people trying to beat each other up to get to that goal.
There is more than enough success to go around. Learn to think in
terms of abundance rather than scarcity.
6. Dammit! Why do these bad things always happen to me?
Problem: Bad things happen to everybody. If we dwell on them, they
will frustrate us and bring us down.
Solution: See bad things as a part of the ebb and flow of life.
Suffering is a part of the human condition but it passes. All pain
goes away, eventually. Meanwhile, don't let it hold you back. Don't
dwell on bad things, but look forward towards something good in your
future. And learn to take the bad things in stride, and learn from
them. Bad things are actually opportunities to grow and learn and get
stronger, in disguise.
7. You can't do anything right! Why can't you be like ____ ?
Problem: This can be said to your child or your subordinate or your
sibling. The problem? Comparing two people, first of all, is always a
fallacy. People are different, with different ways of doing things,
different strengths and weaknesses, different human characteristics.
If we were all the same, we'd be robots. Second, saying negative
things like this to another person never helps the situation. It might
make you feel better, and more powerful, but in truth, it hurts your
relationship, it will actually make you feel negative, and it will
certainly make the other person feel negative and more likely to
continue negative behavior. Everyone loses.
Solution: Take the mistakes or bad behavior of others as an
opportunity to teach. Show them how to do something. Second, praise
them for their positive behavior, and encourage their success. Last,
and most important, love them for who they are, and celebrate their
differences.
8. Your work sucks. It's super lame. You are a moron and I hope you
never reproduce.
Problem: I've actually gotten this comment before. It feels wonderful.
However, let's look at it not from the perspective of the person
receiving this kind of comment but from the perspective of the person
giving it. How does saying something negative like this help you? I
guess it might feel good to vent if you feel like your time has been
wasted. But really, how much of your time has been wasted? A few
minutes? And whose fault is that? The bloggers or yours? In truth,
making negative comments just keeps you in a negative mindset. It's
also not a good way to make friends.
Solution: Learn to offer constructive solutions, first of all. Instead
of telling someone their blog sucks, or that a post is lame, offer
some specific suggestions for improvement. Help them get better. If
you are going to take the time to make a comment, make it worth your
time. Second, learn to interact with people in a more positive way
it makes others feel good and it makes you feel better about yourself.
And you can make some great friends this way. That's a good thing.
9. Insulting People Back
Problem: If someone insults you or angers you in some way, insulting
them back and continuing your anger only transfers their problem to
you. This person was probably having a bad day (or a bad year) and
took it out on you for some reason. If you reciprocate, you are now
having a bad day too. His problem has become yours. Not only that, but
the cycle of insults can get worse and worse until it results in
violence or other negative consequences for both of you.
Solution: Let the insults or negative comments of others slide off you
like Teflon. Don't let their problem become yours. In fact, try to
understand their problem more why would someone say something like
that? What problems are they going through? Having a little empathy
for someone not only makes you understand that their comment is not
about you, but it can make you feel and act in a positive manner
towards them and make you feel better about yourself in the process.
10. I don't think I can do this I don't have enough discipline.
Maybe some other time.
Problem: If you don't think you can do something, you probably won't.
Especially for the big stuff. Discipline has nothing to do with it
motivation and focus has everything to do with it. And if you put
stuff off for "some other time", you'll never get it done. Negative
thinking like this inhibits us from accomplishing anything.
Solution: Turn your thinking around: you can do this! You don't need
discipline. Find ways to make yourself a success at your goal. If you
fail, learn from your mistakes, and try again. Instead of putting a
goal off for later, start now. And focus on one goal at a time,
putting all of your energy into it, and getting as much help from
others as you can. You can really move mountains if you start with
positive thinking.
Effective Communication
slowly and softly. Ask if you have communicated clearly or more elaboration is
required.
3. If you don't understand something, ask for elaboration. It is said that "If you
doubt at first, doubt again and clear it"
4. Put yourself in others' shoes to understand their perspective. Think win-win.
Analyze the situation from everyone's perspective. Consider all the stake holders
and consider their emotions. Develop Emotional Intelligence skill. Google it today.
Article written by Junaid.Tahir
5. If you are writing Emails/Letters/Fax then re-read after you are done with
typing. Considering point-4 while you review your article. You can ask someone to
comment on what you have written.
6. Avoid hard words to avoid bad taste: For example instead of saying
'Rejected' use the word 'Not Approved'. When you say No, you should sound as if
you wanted to say Yes but due to specific issue you can't say yes. So if that issue
is addressed, you will be saying Yes and Saying Approved. Article written by
Junaid.Tahir
7. Avoid too many arguments. Convince or get convinced. If things gets
complicated, take a break engage some well-wishers to assist resolve the matter.
Further, I would recommend understanding Berlos Model of Communication. As per
him, there are 4 factors which can ensure strong communication if considered
properly. These are Source, Message, Channel Receiver. By source he means that
the speaker needs to have good communication skills, positive attitude, has
understanding of cultural aspects and proper knowledge on the subject. By
Message he means that the speaker has to use mature and to-the-point wordings.
By Channel means that correct medium at correct time (phone call, physical
appearance, email, fax) to be used. By Receiver he means that Receiver needs to
understand the message clearly. The Receiver's level of understanding, attitude
and Listening skills matter a lot.
Conclusion: Effective Communication is an indication of your wisdom and maturity
level and is critically important to enhance your personal and professional
relationship. Developing this habit will improve your bonds with your friends,
colleagues and family members so start working on this starting today
Itching eye is one of those annoying ailments that do not only affect your
disposition but also make a huge impact on your appearance. Reason being,
they form an important and prominent part of your face which is a first
interactive point of a humans body. If a face looks bad in appearance then it
definitely affects the whole interaction with the other person. Therefore, it is
very important to pay special attention towards taking care of your face and
so as, it is also equally critical for a person to keep his/her eyes in right
condition.
Itching eyes is one condition which occurs again and again after a while
depending upon a persons presence in a polluted and allergy oriented
environment. This disease is very common in developing and under
developed countries due to excessive air pollution. Therefore, it is better and
at times, appropriate to treat such common disease of itching eyes at home
naturally instead of rushing to the doctor for treatment.
We now have a peek at the home remedies to get rid of itching in eyes and
to cope up with the irritation and redness caused by it on face.
You can soak a piece of cloth in cold water and then place it all over your
eyes to soothe the irritation and redness. It is one of the very basic tips to
treat itching eyes
To soothe your eyes you can also use chamomile tea bags in surrounding
areas of your eyes in order to cure this disease. It is another very effective
treatment
You can also put cucumber slices all over your eyes in order to appease
irritation and to treat itching eyes. As cucumber are rich with substances that
are anti-irritation, anti-inflammation and anti-swelling for eyes. Therefore,
you have often seen this tip under application at various health centers and
beauty salons. However, you have to make sure that your eyes are clean and
germs free before applying this treatment on them if you want to get quick
results out of it
You can also soak a piece of cotton into cold milk and then place it over your eyes and on
the surrounding areas to have some cooling effect and to get rid of the itchiness in eyes.
Cold milk also works wonders in the treatment of this disease so you should give it a shot
You can also put one tea spoon of salt in distilled water and then later, boil it to prepare a
homemade eye wash. Once it cools off completely after boiling then you can use this
substance to flush off your itching eyes
Apart from the above mentioned pointer, you can make another eye wash at home by
soaking two tea bags of green tea in distilled water then again, boil this water and then
cool it off. Once it is cold, you can now use this homemade eye wash to flush away the
itchiness of your eyes
Further, it is also good and healthy to intake a lot of water in order to treat itchiness of
eyes as water keeps the eyes hydrated so the more the better rule implies here
You can also put a lot of ice cubes in a bowl and then place two steal spoons in them.
After a while, pick up a spoon and place it over your eyes for instant cooling effect.
Repeat the process for other eye as well. Keep doing so unless or until you start feeling
better
Moreover, you can also use witch hazel to treat this disease. All you need to do is, soak a
piece of cotton in to witch hazel and then apply it in the surrounding areas of your
infected eyes
Another very soothing remedy to treat this disease is, put aloe vera in to cold water and
then dab a cotton ball into it. Place these cotton balls all over your eyes wherever you are
feeling itchy. It is a guaranteed soothing cure for this disease
If you are that kind of a person who freezes vegetables then now is the time to take
advantage of your habits. Take a towel, put your frozen vegetables into it and then place
that towel over your eyes for 10 minutes. You would feel good about your itching eyes
You can also mix honey and warm milk in equal quantity to make a very effective eye
wash which would not only help you in getting rid of itching eyes but also prove good to
cope up with conjunctivitis
You can also apply shredded potatoes on the inflamed eyes in order to soothe and appease
them as potatoes are natural astringent and helps a lot in this disease
However, bear in mind that if the above mentioned pointers are not working
well on your condition then it is highly advised to contact your doctor
immediately.
18 Timeless Secrets of Happy People
Its common to hear people say that fame only brings unhappiness. Not true! As these wise
words from modern and historical celebrities (and a group of happiness scientists) show,
theyve figured out the secrets of happy people and a happy life. Lets hear it in their own
words, shall we?
- Mahatma Gandhi
As any psychologist will tell you, its human nature to want your thoughts, words
and deeds to be consistentbut youll often find yourself trying to fit the mould
of what you think other people want instead of being fully and consistently
yourself. That leads to conflict in your mind, which leads to a less happy life.
4. Happiness is your
own
responsibility
Dont wait around for other people to be happy for you. Any happiness you get
youve got to make yourself.
- Alice Walker
Theres nothing more depressing than waiting for the happiness delivery guy. Why?
Because he doesnt exist. Decide to deliver your own happiness, and you can free
yourself from a very long wait.
8. Happiness is contagious
Whoever is happy will make others happy too.
- Anne Frank
Its a fact: smiling at somebody tends to make them feel happier. Laughing has an
even stronger effect. So wherever you go, share your happiness with the people
you meet, and surround yourself with happy people if you can.
Winners Vs Losers
Winners have dreams ;
Losers have schemes.
Winners see the grains;
Losers see the pain.
Winners see the potential;
Losers see the past.
Winners make it happen;
Losers let it happen.
Winners see possibilities;
Losers see problems.
Winners makes commitments;
Losers makes promises.
Winners are a part of the team;
Losers are apart from the team.
Winner always has a programmed
Loser always has an excuse.
Winner says "Let me do it for you";
Loser says "That is not my job".
Long ago in a small, far away village, there was place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors.
A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced
happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house.
He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could.
To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails
wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles
just as warm and friendly. As he left the House, he thought to himself, "This is a wonderful place.
I will come back and visit it often."
In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to
visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door.
When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was
horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, "That is
a horrible place, and I will never go back there again."
All the faces in the world are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see in the faces of the
people you meet?
Health Benefits of Oranges
This fruit consists of wide variety of nutrients and is considered all around
the world as an important source of Vitamin C. People who are diet conscious
eat healthy and balanced food; they use fresh orange juice every morning in
breakfast due to its rich nutrient property. The important nutrients that are
present in large quantity in orange are Vitamins C and A, flavonoids,
antioxidants, potassium, calcium, magnesium and dietary fiber. It also has
more than 60 flavonoids and 170 phytonutrients. These compounds have
special powers of anti-inflammation, anti-oxidation and anti-tumor.
There are various benefits of orange and those can be listed as:
Beneficial for vision- Oranges are good source of vitamin A that is important
component in maintaining normal vision.
Protects against skin diseases- Vitamin A also keeps the skin and mucous
membrane healthy. Orange is rich in beta carotene that is also a flavonoid
and is a powerful anti-oxidant. Both of these keep the skin resistant to
various bacterial invasions.
Keeps bone healthy A healthy bone is rich in calcium. Oranges are good
source of calcium and therefore helps in the strengthening of the bones.
Formation of Blood- Iron and vitamin b6 (a folic acid) are present in orange.
Both of them take part in the hemoglobin formation, leading to better uptake
of oxygen. Good uptake of oxygen purifies the blood keeping all the systems
healthy.
Protects against heart disease- the flavonoids and the vitamin C helps in the
protection of the heart disease. Controlling the cholesterol also lessens the
chances of a heart failure. This fruit is rich in potassium and calcium that are
important in the regulation of body fluids, helping in a controlled heart rate.
Oranges is from the citrus family and all the members of this family are
important in various natural components and they are being used from
decades for the production of many beneficial extracts for the
pharmaceutical purposes. Oranges are being used to treat various diseases
including bronchitis, rheumatism, tuberculosis, pneumonia and asthma.
Story: The Three Dolls
A sage presented a prince with a set of three small dolls. The prince was not
amused.
Am I a girl that you give me dolls? He asked.
This is a gift for a future king, Said the sage. If you look carefully, youll see a
hole in the ear of each doll.
The sage handed him a piece of string. Pass it through each doll. He said.
Intrigued, the prince picked up the first doll and put the string into the ear. It
came out from the other ear. This is one type of person, said the sage, whatever
you tell him, comes out from the other ear. He doesnt retain anything.
The prince put the string into the second doll. It came out from the mouth. This is
the second type of person, said the sage, whatever you tell him, he tells
everybody else.
The prince picked up the third doll and repeated the process. The string did not
come out. This is the third type of person, said the sage, whatever you tell him
is locked up within him. It never comes out.
What is the best type of person? Asked the prince.
The sage handed him a fourth doll, in answer. When the prince put the string into
the doll, it came out from the other ear.
Do it again. Said the sage.
The prince repeated the process. This time the string came out from the mouth.
When he put the string in a third time, it did not come out at all.
This is the best type of person, said the sage. To be trustworthy, a man must
know when not to listen, when to remain silent and when to speak out.
10 Steps For Becoming A Leader
1. Don't lord it over your staff. No one likes a know-it-all. Assuming a cocky stance or a bullying
attitude will strike a similar flint in the hearts of your subordinates.
2. Don't be a softie. Just as a sharp edge can have a cutting effect, a marshmallow can quickly
lose its shape. Being a people pleaser means that you will inevitably let someone down, so don't
even try. Instead, focus on the job and make it work with everyone's interests as best you can
without bending over backwards until you break.
3. Don't put on a over-confident front. If you need information, ask for it rather than pretend you
have all the answers. There's nothing wrong with an honest question, but there's plenty wrong
with someone who is afraid to ask.
4. Don't misjudge employees' abilities. Take time to read files, interview people, and observe
performance before making staffing decisions. Put competent, trustworthy people in charge of
important projects so that neither you nor the company will regret it.
5. Don't play favorites. Owing a favor or liking a person are two poor reasons for handing out
raises and promotions. Feeling sorry for someone is just as bad. Use good judgment and fair play
to make staff decisions.
6. Don't hold a grudge. If you don't get along with someone, stay away from the person; don't try
to get even. Leaders who use their position of authority to take punitive action based on personal
vendettas are likely to find themselves in trouble.
7. Don't take a casual approach to the budget. Get to know it thoroughly. Understand company
growth patterns and long-term projections, as well as how your leadership can play a role. Being
careless with money is dangerous and potentially costly in the business world. Careless mistakes
take time to fix, and in business, time is money.
8. Don't overlook company shifts, goals, or problems. Study the "big picture" with a view to
finding your place in it and growing with the company.
9. Keep an eye on industry trends. Know what's "hot" and what's not; that's how leaders keep
leading. Otherwise, someone who is more knowledgeable than you may take your place.
10. Stay human. When mistakes happen, forgive others and yourself. Laugh and be friendly, but
don't look foolish doing it. Avoid mechanical responses and a 24/7 mentality toward your job. Do
your best, but then leave the rest of your job at work until the next day. It'll be there when you
return. At night and on weekends, enjoy your family and have fun. You've earned it.
Becoming a leader is challenging. Follow these suggestions to avoid problems and help your
company and your career reach their potential.