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Abstract
This paper incorporates the Model of Interaction Stages in Relationships, as defined by Knapp,
Vangelisti, and Caughlin (2014). The stages differ from relationship to relationship but offer a
tangible groundwork to study interpersonal communication in relationships. Knapp et al. suggest
ten stages of interaction within a given relationship. However, for this paper only nine are
covered in great detail. This paper brings to life the stages of interaction through a personal
relationship story.
interactions that took place, and possible stereotypes. With regard to my past relationship, I
remember a short initiating phase. Mainly, I remember introducing myself in an abrupt, yet
approachable, manner. I essentially called him out because I did not know him and asked for his
name, and proceeded to engage in conversation. I made sure I was perceived as socially adept,
(p.38) and moved quickly on to the next phase of interaction.
Second, the experimenting stage is the point in a relationship where discovering the
unknown is explored. This phase is wrought with questioning, which consists of three bases of
prediction for interpersonal encounter. Through cultural information, a stranger is able to
perceive like-mindedness in a cultural sphere or perhaps asking question to inquire about cultural
background. Sociological information is taken into account when meeting someone because of
labels that tend to surround individuals. After a reference is made towards an individual, we are
quick to examine the person based on that reference point. Thus, determining whether it was a
valid reference or not. Lastly, psychological information is taken into consideration when
forming a prediction about an individual. This information is best summarized by the text as
recognizing individual differences associated with ones conversational partner (p.39).
Experimenting in my past relationship started with multiple small talk conversations. I learned
about childhood background, age, and interests; however, I was searching for an integrating
topic. Luckily, he mentioned that he had siblings, and with further probing, I realized his siblings
were twins. I related to this topic because I am a twin. The integrating topic had been found and
would be a strong basis throughout the rest of the experimenting phase. Conversations, if they
did fall back into small talk parameters, would be directed back to the integrating topic and
deeper conversation was reached again.
cornerstone to the relationship. A direct statement of This is my girlfriend, and vice versa,
solidified our relationship as a dating relationship.
These next stages point out the coming apart of a relationship starting with the
circumscribing phase. This stage is all about constriction in the conversation. The breadth and
depth that was shared is now shrunk back to a few topics of conversation. The divulgence of
personal information is taken back to a public sphere of information. Conversation towards the
end of my relationship was limited to basic small talk. We tended to ask how the day was going
and how we were doing, but these conversations did not elicit any deep remarks from the other.
Following the circumscribing stage is the stagnating phase. Stagnating is defined as being
motionless or inactive. Communication mimics this definition throughout the stagnating stage.
Conversations do not move off of accepted conversational themes, usually having to do with
topics discussed most similarly between strangers. The stagnating stage is thought to be one
where conversation is limited because an individual knows what the other will say or how they
actively respond. I relate to this stage because of the explanation that stagnation is executed to
avoid the pain of terminating the relationship, which they may anticipate will be stronger than
the current pain (p. 45). My past relationship remained stagnate to avoid the final stage of
interaction.
Avoiding stage is the second to last stage in the model. Avoidance is exactly what it
sounds like. There is an avoidance of face-to-face interaction or communication altogether.
Avoidance can be one-sided but is felt by both individuals in a relationship. My experience with
this stage involved my partner separating himself geographically. We did not speak for weeks
due to him leaving and avoiding communication in any form. Thus, upon return, we were left
with the final stage of interaction.