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Connect with
The
Subconscious
Doubts for the Discerning

Thoughts and discussions that

prove that we are our worst
friends

By Pradeep Maheshwari
S164-Greater Kailash, 1. N DELHI 48 India
http://sriaurocounselingcenter.weebly.com

Contents

- Introduction

1) Words and our learning

2) Religion is a good excuse
3) Playing cleverly & with some cunning
4) Life and your effort quotient
5) Will my telling be of any worth?
6) What are we?
7) Nonsense
8) Not looking far enough
9) We are the culprits
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What we pass on to children
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Positivity in raising children
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Life recognise not your "Rights"
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The religious quagmire
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The Great Divide
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Humans & their Mental Kingdom
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Nobody lies.
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Lazy minds - active otherwise
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As for us old farts.
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Our ideas of spirituality.
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I am just a fence.
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The Change
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The Path
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The Virtuous Fakes
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Fear as a friend.
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Why so eager to have children?
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Astrology, fate and & future.

The complex world and we.
Subliminal Conditioning
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Learning is the gateway

Tricky Humans
Obfuscating issues
Are you ready?
Exuberance
The need for Therapy.
The Psychology of the situation.
Anxiety
Compare and contradict
Growing up
The lucky ones
On being un-friended.
Expanded living.
Stupidity as teacher
Our castle is ready
Yogic secrets of material success
What is and ought to be
From book: The Fakirs Travels
The Semblance of correctness

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Maheshwari

Introduction.
The time has now come to focus on
the subconscious. All this learning has to
percolate to become the new norm of behaviour
and activity.
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From the way I see humanity carrying itself, I

dont think it is trying to better itself. Rather
it is a race to prove their uniqueness at being
the most self-destructive race ever on earth.
And why not? We all are somebody special
& exclusive are we not?
So is this all pretence or a natural act that we
are putting on as an automaton but live?
Pretence would mean that we know but
prefer not to see. Automatic natural
behaviour would mean that we are living it
out like all other animals do; not really aware
what we are up to. Then whatever happened
to all the education that has been going
around since time began?
Let me begin with two illusions that we have
rather desperately blinded ourselves with
because it serves our interests better that
way. The seed of insincerity is sowed right
here. In our personal relationships, in matters
of health in matters of commerce we are
always and totally ruthlessly insincere!
My discovery is that what we call being in
love is the just the happiness of being
accepted by another as wonderful and
wanting more of it - gravitating to that person
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who is giving out the wonderful signals,

acceptance and ready to share body as well.
When this happens mutually, it is termed
love.
The pleasure principle, the satisfied ego and
practicality with proximity all play a part.
Yet another discovery is that people use the
"Watering the negative seeds in others"
method to keep others at bay and defensive
so that they can avoid looking at their own
selves.
People are not looking for happiness but
acceptance of their selves which they are
acutely aware is highly inadequate.
What they miss is the fact that by constantly
focussing on the negative seeds, they
envelope themselves with negativity and a
mind that is churning away, grinding the
negative seeds over and over and keeping
them locked in the mill.
Below are some more points that I raise that
would go to prove how I see humanity
poisoning its own living and the short lives
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that it has been blessed with. If humanity

would call it a blessing at all!
I wish to raise these questions. Humanity is
dabbling with inanities or factors that it does
not need. I may sound terribly a messenger of
doom but the darkness needs to be dealt
with. Now! There are a lot of good people
writing a lot on the positive ways to achieve a
better life. It is a feel-good approach. It
wont bring in the change because the
approach is to accommodate.
But my aim is to lay a ground plan for action
for those who really wish to get out of this
quagmire by taking care and aiming their
sights at the grass-roots level. Every word is
chosen and important in this short space and
selected carefully read with care; please.
I asked for feedback from a friend on the
content of this book. The conversation I had
is worth repeating and I put it down here:
The people need to be made aware of the
changes needed at a deeper, more permanent
level - at the subconscious level. This cannot
be made with speeches and words. Words
rarely penetrate our thick hides unless the
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people have had some misfortune to make

them withdraw into a more quiet and humble
state; ready to see beyond their noses &
egos. And if they are fortunate the right
words hit their Spirit so they are able to make
the connection.
I would like to bring your attention to these
words of yours:
"Well, the feel good stuff does work, it has worked
for me. The teachers that have taught me about
love, such as Jesus and Yogananda, and others who
are walking on the earth right now, have opened up
in me that vast infinite reservoir that has changed
the way I look at the world.".

Special note is to be taken of, like a piece of

evidence in a murder case, of the
words ...."the way I look at the world". Only
your outer way of looking is changing for now.
But has it reduced your vanity quotient in
your active persona? Eventually it will leave
imprints on the subconscious but this is too
long a process and you may lose this body
before it has had any important impact. Then
you will have to start all over again.
All these good people with great positivity
and great advice to help us see thru the
human conundrum are doing a great job; very
helpful indeed. But they are priests,
psychologists and psychiatrists or just good
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kind people assisting the humanity to get over

the bumps on a very rough road that we dont
even see properly. They are therapists and
they are not looking further than that.
They want all of us to feel well and they
uncover for us a paved road where none
visibly exists without potholes and rocks to
stumble upon. I am all praise for their efforts.
They reveal secrets that otherwise these poor
people would never uncover on their own.
And through this they open the vista of
spirituality for many. But it is all based on the
philosophy of acceptance. They are accepting
things as they are and making the best of
disturbing situations. They are showing the
populace the methods available to live better
and bring greater harmony in their lives.
But this is not the goal of my brotherhood. We
are aiming for change; change in the entire
set-up and make-up. This requires grappling
with our sub-conscious. This is not an
unknown concept. Everyone today who is
studying personal emancipation knows about
chakras and how we can raise our level of
consciousness but even in this none seems to
be stressing on the point that a permanent
state can be achieved only when honesty,
calm, harmony and peace get established in
the subconscious below and we start to live at
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the intuitive level above and beyond the

mind.
These words of yours:" But for people who

haven't even started or haven't a clue about how to

proceed, just reading about the mess could be
overwhelming and discouraging, without any hope
for positive change or forward movement. We need
direction, obviously. "

You are right as usual. But this book or my

writing is not for them as yet. It would be
kinder to let them enjoy their lives and
messes a little longer till they get tired of it
all. The real work is to be done with children
but it is always the adults who have to do it
and start it all. And this vicious cycle needs to
be broken but how?
These words of yours need a considered
reply: "People do want to read your stuff as

evidenced by your large following on social media.

They will read your stuff and it will affect them, as
it has me. I want to read your stuff. I don't mind
so much the negative approach to jolt people out of
their stupor, but, and this is just me, after awhile,
I want to hear what you think we should do about
it. I want your years of experience and work to
guide me in a proper direction, or at least, make
suggestions as to what I could do."

Books and posts can only be general and are

written as generalisations. Individual
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guidance is possible only at the individual

one-to-one level. And here you must also
accept that all answers are modulated to fit
the receptive abilities of the person asking
for guidance. The right choice of words
served in the right dose (like in good
medicine practice) for best effectivity as felt
by the teacher.
In the last 400-500 years, the written word
took a life of its own. Writing instruments
became easier to use and available in easy to
use forms. This permitted writers to put down
their thoughts and experiences for posterity.
The number of people who began learning to
read and write also grew. This permitted due
to improvement in technology of mainly
printing to make the works of the authors
available to a greater public and in faraway
places. Communication improved with trade
and the written word started spreading. It
was unstoppable and welcome. This
engendered the transfer of learning and the
digital age has brought it to its peak. The
possibilities of intellectual development are
now at its peak. The mind knows and has the
tools to know more at the press of a few
buttons. The Will to know is what needs to be
honed and may be lacking.

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Change is in the air yet there is also a lot of

confusion and reproaches as the Instinctive
and Intuitive nature of Man has not kept pace
with all this learning. It has not kept pace
because the subconscious is still working with
the older primitive patterns and impressions.
I foresee the next 400-800 years getting
devoted to this aspect in human
development.
Let the most positive developments take root
and spread with kindness and compassion
foremost. It is our concerted duty to assist in
this process.
Understand the negative elements that keep
us back, block them and focus on the
positives to create a new harmonious whole.
In the end, once the need to become aware
of the subconscious is made, the question
that begs for answer is: How do we recognise
& change the patterns in the subconscious?
Simple: They are recognised as easily as the
ones that disturb our status-quo. For change,
superimpose the old habits by new ones. The
tools needed are: Understanding of the
element to focus on, Will, Persistence, & No
compromises.
The very best way is to make sure that
children do not absorb wrong impressions in
their formative years.
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One example: Let us say we realise a habit of

ours to get angry in traffic. Use reason to
explain to yourself that it is all a waste of
energy. We cannot correct the others. By
pursuing angry methods to teach others a
lesson we only invite quarrels and hurt to our
selves. Keep on repeating this to your selftalking mind. Soon the subconscious will start
talking back & when the right time comes in
traffic at the moment you are going to
explode again it will intervene. You will get
the fraction of a seconds pause that may
help you to slip into the let-it-be stage of
thinking. Your ego will seethe inside but your
reason may contain the explosion. Soon if you
manage to do it often enough, the
subconscious pattern will register a change.
Another thing to do is to ask how will my
words & gestures affect me if I were to be
treated in the same way? Watch the scenarios
being acted out around you. Do you do
something similar? You have to be totally
sincere. No cover-ups & rationalising
permitted. You dont have to explain yourself
to anybody.

Words and our learning

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WORDS have no accountability.

Yet we put all our trust in our learning in
them.
Humans have very little integrity,
Yet we trust their words implicitly.

Do we have a choice? Yes. Go behind and

beyond them. Words are a world unto
themselves. Life is not tied down to them
there is nothing to correlate the truth to what
is uttered or written. Words are totally
independent of reality and this why they are
the perfect carriers for lies and untruths and
humans with their perverted sense of
manipulation use this function with great
finesse.
But then it is not the words that are at fault
but the human minds that are using them.
The minds use them as a vehicle to transfer
their thoughts. Errors in transfer are usually
due to reasons: 1) Lack of knowledge of
proper words and their use 2) Wilful misuse.
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That is why uneducated people are happier &

contented. They are less confused.
This second economy based on the digital age
technology where humans are not required is
going to create a chasm like it did between
the literate and illiterate. I keep wondering
how people will earn a living or even survive!
Now that machines are taking over everyday
activities and untruths simply dont work in
this scenario. It is so difficult to impress the
machines with words and lie to them for
personal gain.
Perhaps the need to hide behind words will
also disappear? We need to stop using words
to hide. Honest openness achieves more.
Accept things, drop pretence, be a person
with nothing to hide.
Just being clever or physically able and fit
wont be enough in the scenario that is
building up. (But then secretly I think this
digital dependency is going to crush the
civilized world so bad that the aborigines will
have control of life again)
Religion is a good excuse
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We can ordinarily blame our angst against

each other on religion. It is a good horse that
can take a lot of whipping. When we are
dealing with intangibles like the concepts of
God and the right way to live with Him then
we have only words to play with and they
mean nothing. And when God speaks to His
chosen people, every excuse and any excuse
will do and is brought into play.
Words are used to conjure images which are
limited to our minds and in religion every
individual is carrying a different image of the
truth. Quarrels begin when we get
inordinately attached to our images and
abhor the images of the others. So finally it is
the play of words which is at fault not the
religions.
Religion is not always a necessity really. The
human mind can always find words and
excuses to push its personal agendas. The
colour of the skin, the accent, the habits, the
clothes and the style of cuisine and just about
everything else is also good for a fight.

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What happens in real life has little to do with

religion and religious teachings. Religion, if
anything is just a cloak we wear and an
excuse to further our personal desires,
animosities and fears.
Religion may be an excuse but never the real
reason. But the passions that it can bring to
boil are without compare. The real reason for
all quarrels is personal animosities/fears.
Religions are labels that do not affect the
personas of the people until and unless rigidly
indoctrinated to serve a typical behaviour
since birth like getting children brainwashed
to act as suicide bombers. Some of the most
devilish people on earth come from the ranks
of Priests. The influence they have always had
and the immense harm or good they can do is
without possibility of calculation.
This is the Demon in humans. Turning
everything if possible to personal advantage
and profit with no regrets felt.

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Playing cleverly & with some cunning

Yes we can be extremely clever and deeply

double. Blocking ourselves and playing hiding
games with the Universe. Fooling nobody
really! In the end reaching nowhere but,
having had the pleasure of wining some
moments of glory that are soon forgotten or
remembered only as unhappy incidents by
others whom we managed to shut-up or in our
minds - vanquish.
The life as practiced by humans is too
mentalised, intellectualised and structured
and supremely instinctive at the same time;
not in agreement with itself, totally out of
balance with reality; tugged by education,
conditioning and instinct without forgetting
the original character/nature given to us by
Mother nature at birth. We think of one thing,
talk of another and act totally in another way.
Yet we call ourselves individuals. What a
joke!
That we shall have the courage to allow clean
& only beautiful thoughts and attitudes to
enter our lives is another matter. Life is so
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organised around earning an income within

the stipulated system that few would dare to
do so and life wont really let you. I did, and
am still happily living so, but there is always
an underlying feeling of terror as to what life
will dish out next. But it is possible to stick to
our principles. The Universe helps.
We talk of God and magic but have no real
trust in them.
When one aligns with the "dirty" - life then
shapes itself around it - No wonder. When
there is filth in the basic consciousness, it will
show in life, health, habits & attitudes - in
fact everywhere. The opposite too.
Speaking in general, certain communities
wherever it may be in the world and even
whole countries have the same affinity. They
just can't "think" clean or make any effort to
make things beautiful. They always take the
short-cuts and underhand methods to achieve
their ends. It shows on their face and the
areas under their influence.
Best not to let them pull you in their vortex.

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Life and your effort quotient

The malefic influence of planets, does it

bother you or/and does it frighten you? Do
you believe the astrologers and the
magicians? Have you noticed certain
similarities in lifes pattern? How to
understand where all this originates? Does it
come from the planets? Can the innumerable
solutions in the form of mumbo-jumbo with
all the ceremonies change the place of Saturn
up there, then how will things change?
This seems to upset people.
But what does happen, all the chantings,
music, play with colour and stones, smells etc
puts us in touch with the harmonious
vibrations and energies and these create the
terrain for the garden to grow.
But what I have noticed, that the average
populace that is not used to using its will and
reason, is continuously under the sway of
unseen influences. Stars indicate some of the
energies in force at particular times and do
give the indications of the Forces at play but
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does that mean we are stooges with little or

no say in our lives? Technically the answer for
the general populace would be yes because
the populace is permitting itself to be totally
influenced by the general forces at work. It is
neither prepared nor interested in applying
any kind of control from reason and with
Will. Mainly I see Beings playing with the unmindful simpletons on this earth who give
thru them to these Beings opportunities to
play with the energies and cause the
everyday happenings on this earth.
When all is said and done, only two things
remain in our records. There are really only
two columns in our karmic registers: With
how much kindness or how much cruelty one
has lived. Every other noun, adjective or verb
that we may use in its final analysis falls
under these two categories. The soul knows
only this. The soul is interested in evolving
into a persona of kindness. The rest is only a
collection of short stories that have no
permanence.
So keep an eye on yourself. Which side of the
register is filling up? Life will unfurl along
these lines.
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Will my telling be of any worth?

Telling about awareness to people who are

aware is of not much value.
Telling people about awareness who find
nothing wrong with their lives is equally of no
use.
Telling people about awareness that are deaf
from the noise of their own voices is
positively useless.
Then why waste so much energy in answering
questions that are not being asked? And I ask
myself why I am putting it all down here? I
must admit that I feel the need to share my
experience through these words although I
dont expect much to be made out of them. I
have had some very positive experiences that
have made my way and life easier. I have also
learnt what is behind all this unpleasantness
in peoples lives and this life on earth.
Perhaps this sharing will ameliorate and assist
to bring change for others too?!

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What are we?

Nobody is anything. A spark created by fires
of the moment. Soon there are more and
newer fires and sparks. Why bother about
these tiny fires that will die out by morning
anyway. Now where is that wood for my fire?
Instead of looking after our own fire and
firewood, we spend more time worrying about
others and interfering too. Let us refrain from
analyzing and explaining the life of others to
them; at least not until we are asked three
times at the very least.
Although a wise man sees everything around
him and learns from it but continuously giving
unasked for advice is inappropriate; making
impersonal observations in the mood of
sharing is alright. Usually our insights are all
very self-centred. We do see everything in
reference to us - colored heavily by our desire
centre, vanity and bits of random information
collected by the mind. Everyone sees and
immediately recognises the other's
discontentment. They see them wallowing in
it but the others only see their saintly
forbearance in a world out to make it bad for
them. We may only prick their vanity finally.
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Nonsense

When a subject is beyond us, beyond our

learning and experience, it is easily dubbed
as nonsense and of no value.
Whatever is "nonsense? How is it defined and
who is to define it and on what basis?
For example, a lot of people said from the
modern medicine block that all this praying
and eating some Tulsi (holy basil) is nonsense.
Tulsi is revered as a goddess in India and some
conditions are prescribed on the religious
scale for its keeping and use. Most Indian
households follow it religiously. Use it in tea
and other things as well.
Now even the scientific world agrees that its
benefit cannot be over exaggerated.
Then take the instance of Turmeric (curcuma)
- it is quite the rage. Indians have been using
it because our sages told us to do so since god
knows when.
There was no "clinically proven" method to
back up its use.

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Where did all this knowledge come from?

Yes I think that many obvious factors are
being ignored and machine based diagnostics
have not got better in the modern world of
modern medicine which I feel still has
thinking patterns of the battle field behind it
as that is where it developed. The impersonal
correctness of science has destroyed the
intuitive method of knowing. Many half baked
theories were put out, touted, disproved and
the consequences are there for all to see.
New ones are added daily.
Well the only good I can see is that it forced
them to research further and think again and
they are now discovering the natural
principles that older medical system always
knew.
Even today there are many Vaids in India who
can diagnose better and more accurately by
just reading the pulse and checking on some
specific factors and symptoms. WHILE the
millions of expensive, impoverishing tests
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only create reams of paper that the doctors

are unable to make anything out of or come
to any conclusion with. I have said before,
modern medicine has a marvellous surgery
side but the medicine side is still in the
developing stage. The tendency to intervene
forcefully as the doctor to be a know-all
can be seen very prominently. Plus the
medical field has not used its influence to
improve on the actual quality of living by
influencing the political leaders in doing
"good" for the people. Rather it has joined the
cabal and done more harm.
In Ayurvedic times the medical experts (The
kingdom's designated Guru) were always
consulted by the kings before any major
decisions were taken.
Creating glitzy hospitals and drug delivery
systems that look clean and shiny makes the
human mind fall into the illusion that they
really know what they are doing. The drama
is so attractive. Nobody teaches the public
that good medicine starts at home with lifestyle and food. If a good regimen is followed
the chances the need to go to a hospital will
never arise.
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Not looking far enough

The problem with modern life and medicine is

that it wants to save and prolong life without
having any goal of what to do it for no
matter if qualitatively health is compromised.
This kind of situation occurs when nothing but
insincerity is at the bottom of the entire
culture. The Patients, The Doctors, The
Pharma industry are all totally living in a
reality in which Life and Wellness is really not
the focus.
The human mind is greatly influenced by
figures. Look at the world records in The
Guinness Book. Most of the records are based
on highest, largest, biggest and such figures.
Making a 10mtrs long sausage is a wonder; but
to what purpose? The ability to make it is
already there and there is no change in that;
the change is only in the mechanics involved.
No value in my eyes.
I just read of somebody who survived cancer
for 20 years and to battle (why do they use
this word) it he had to suffer chemo therapy,
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amputation and 6 other operations with

incapacitations and drugs and their aftereffects. Sounds like a miserable way to
survive. Is this kind of a life worth living?
Dying after it all never the less? Is the high
cost in trouble to relatives and friends and
the monetary loss to the family worth it? I
would never allow it and put the funds to
better use to raise my children properly. The
next generation is what matters.
....and when you tell them that you are being
poisoned and that most of the diseases are
now due to this environmental poisoning they
argue back that the diseases are being
detected better but there is really no
increase or spread.
I have seen more intelligent ostriches!
I must say that I feel that this factor of
attributing to better diagnostics is a makeme-comfortable thought. Certain practices in
20th century and addition of chemicals &
gadgets in life style and products cannot be
ignored this way.
Have we not made changes of any kind in our
way of living in the last hundred years?
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I come from a place where we look at life

from the 8000 years old Ayurvedic way of life
and Intuitive way of looking at life. We feel,
like & listen to the breeze and the sun and
the signals from our body.
Reducing life to be seen only thru
microscopes & telescopes is depending too
much on the mechanics of it all. Can
medicine be mechanised to this extent?
I think I am saying very precisely what I wish
to focus on. But there would be a tendency to
ignore it as worthless from the so called
scientific thinkers who need to see everything
with their eye organs or refuse to believe in
it. I wonder how a whole culture can ignore
things like:
Wastes gases from cars/vehicles
Pesticides, additives, synthetic derivatives
Food processed out into dead stuff
Electromagnetic/microwaves, Plastics
Unnatural, unknown to the body elements or
adding too much of certain elements and still
call them safe.
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We are the culprits

Our desire for tasty food and focus only on

this aspect of food to judge the goodness of
food has given the sword to the food industry
to kill us wholesale. The medical fraternity
finds this quite acceptable. But it seems to
me the entire modern medicine is focussed on
Evade & Avoid death at any cost + pain;
whatever happens but no pain! The
treatments are often worse than the illness. I
would consider death a release rather. For
instance amputations, chemotherapy,
vaccinations of dubious efficacy that are
giving rise to horrendous lifelong ailments etc
The philosophy espoused by safe,
unrestrained consumption as of using
Aspartame in the guise of sugar-free & certain
oils for fat-free consumption is a colossal joke
played on humanity at humanity's expense.
Symptomatic relief is available with instant
pills like pain killers, sleeping pills etc.
Diseases continue to fester silently.

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This is a clear indication of the error in the

so-called scientific method in devising new
drugs. For one the constitution of no two
individual is the same. Secondly there are
many others factors involved in the healing
process that our present day methods do not
take into account.
This makes the entire system based on the
labelling of a disease and then using a singled
out drug for that disease suspect. We should
be treating the person, not just a "label".
Then the efficacy of any given drug in
relation to the person is suspect anyway.
The question is how to open our eyes to the
fact that we dont really fully understand the
process. The answer is not from intervention
from outside but to allow the body to speak
to us. An ache or fever is indicative of
something wrong; not to be suppressed with
Paracetamol. There are many indications
from recent research that we are best when
we follow the basic knowledge and practices
that have evolved over the last few
centuries/thousands of years of practice. For
example it is now well understood that
Vitamin D is in great short supply in most
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individuals and stepping into sunlight is the

simple solution.
Also eating pesticide laced, or hormone laced
food is doing us a lot of harm. And all the
processing for taste enhancement and longer
shelf lives cannot be any good either. Then
there are reports after reports of other habits
that we have picked up that are not helping.
The blitz the media indulges in to promote
concepts by the Pharma and food industry to
promote their products with half lies or
outright lies is also damningly a reality.
I wonder, I would say am even convinced that
there are no humans with feelings and hearts
behind these products and industries. It is
definitely the ungodly influences at work.
For instance that fat is bad but their
hydrogenated oils & margarine are good. Do
you now realise the harm that has been to us
over the last 50-60 years?
And the microwaves and magnetic fields that
we have surrounded ourselves with are best
left un-discussed along with the smoke and
smog that we so love.
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What we pass on to children

Dear Sir, Could you please share common

negative thinking or notions or patterns which
we tend to transmit unintentionally to the
next generation.
Warm Regards - Vani

Dear Vani,
thanks for your mail appreciating the points
raised.
I can only give you some examples of traits
that get passed on.
1) WE pay attention to our child only when
sick - this reinforces the habits of whining.
2) Parents lie for small things - children
become proud of their ability to lie out of a
situation and become habitual fibbers
3) Parents may complain all the time to prove
how much they are victims of circumstances,
then they may blame their fate - children
learn that nothing is their fault but of others
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and destiny and so they do not make effort to

improve themselves.
4) Parents make promises that they have no
intention to keep - this becomes a very nasty
habit with children of never taking their own
words seriously.
5) Then there are other attitudes like parents
only thinking of their "fun" and neglecting
their children - the children of course become
selfishly oriented.
6) Parents do so much for the child that the
child never learns anything or become selfthinking or supportive. The child lives in a
dream state where he expects everything will
be done for him and that the responsibility of
his life is on others.
7) Then there are the fears; subconscious fear
patterns that get passed on to give
complexes. There are also prejudices like
separatists thoughts against religions and
entire communities, sense of superiority thru
religious dogmas, castes and colours of skin.

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These become huge stumbling blocks in life

specially at the work-place, marriages and
when you are in a team and later in society
when others throw back at you your own
reservations.
The world is not designed to correct and show
the way - the world simply rejects or accepts
us. People are not there to help you or
educate you. The world is a huge market
place where everyone is out to outbid the
rest. You are totally on your own. So much
misery can be avoided by inculcating the right
attitudes and habits; parents alone can do
this as the child is totally under care in the
first few years. I say that parents have failed
their children in this scenario. That is why I
have always advocated that before we get
into marriage and produce children, we
should also take some courses in psychology,
understand general medicine and
management principles and some philosophy
of life and training programs to live with
others and consider others and life in totality.
Become a little more conscious than we are.
And if nothing else then at least consciously
treat children as the most important part of
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our lives as we are playing with their lives in

totality.
Generally speaking 90% of our character traits
get passed on. And not only of the parents but
also of the relatives and family around us; not
forgetting the influences from the TV in which
the subconscious messages are even stronger
as they are absorbed without the backing of
actual experience of life. So in the final
analysis there is nothing that we can isolate
as negative traits but we can say that all our
negative traits get passed on but then so do
the good ones. Humanity bumbles along.
The traits become our stumbling blocks and
we are hurt by them, we ignore them, give
excuses and find scapegoats etc. This is the
game of life. Our ego and egoistic self is
always in prominence
BUTWhen we consciously try to become
better people, improve ourselves, then we
have to face this aspect and the subconscious
does not lend itself to change readily in later
years.
The importance of Positivity in raising
children which I am afraid is mostly lacking.
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Q from a friend - What will be your reaction

be when she will grow and not listen to you
even? Will you feel bad or proud? That time
will only take your final exam. It is really
tough when somebody you like and trust is
not reacting according to your will and
wishes.

My answer
As for - if she will listen to me or not, I am
not expecting her to listen to me. I am not a
tyrant that I would expect my child to live by
my wishes and will. Expecting children to be
reflections of the wishes of parents is a huge
mistake. This has been the major stumbling
block of our peoples evolution in India.
I am training her to think and decide for
herself and showing her the values by
examples, stories and sharing with her about
my personal life, trials and tribulations and
all the lessons learnt the hard way. My
attitude is that I am here and I will stand by
her and join her. I am not running her life but
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helping her to run hers. So it is up to her;

even now I make her take her decisions.
Feeling bad is an ego thing which is there but
in my case I think it will not be so serious a
matter. I explain to her why I am doing
things, why others do things and such
discussions. The whole relationship is based
on mutual regard, affection and trust and the
understanding that we are two different
persons with different fates and destinies.
When adults listen and talk to children, the
children never become a problem and stay
friends forever. Most adults do not listen to
their children but keep on talking to them
from high vantage point, ordering them,
deciding everything for them and then later
the children don't listen to them their first
wish is to run away.
There is a saying: If we shall not listen to
their small concerns now, they will not tell us
their major/ big things later.
At the same time, every time an opportunity
comes I put across my point-of-view based on
the philosophy I have acquired. Hoping that
she would be a positively oriented person
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with enough experience of life and things to

know what to pursue and where to go on her
own.
I am trying to pass on all that I have done and
learnt and adding travels to her curriculum so
that she has discovered herself by the time
she is in her 20s without being contaminated
with my wishes and pursuing life to suit me as
parents are normally wont to make children
do. They plan out for their children in detail
and keep on misguiding them in subtle ways
so that the children never go far from the
agendas of their parents. In a very subtle way,
with control on the purse strings the parents
make their children carry the burden of their
own ideas and weight of their dreams.
I remember the tons of negative thinking that
was downloaded into me due to the family
conditions and traditions coupled with noneducated thinking. All my life's energy went
into cleansing myself of this burden which
was totally misplaced and out of place as the
world changed radically when my generation
came along and their advice which was
conditioned by the thoughts of security was
rather trying to keep me back tied to their
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apron strings instead of letting me fly on my

own powerful wings.
Hope I do a better job for her so that she can
flower without the need to cleanse herself of
our stupid notions.
One of the most important facets of my
attitude to bringing children up is to make
them realise that cleverness, subterfuge and
drama do not take us far. That these are
recognisable by others and we do not fool
anyone. The route of clear-cut honest
simplicity and honesty works better in the
long run by making friends and confidantes
that gives us a big supportive family
worldwide outside our birth family.
All the disposition of friendliness, ability to
make things, creativity, the artist in children
all these need nurturing. The parents if they
are sincere towards their wards need to make
effort to promote and grow with their child.

Life does not recognise your "Rights"

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Most of us think of ourselves as martyrs to

God's ways, Bad luck, Karma or whatever. The
list of misfortunes behaviour gets longer
forcing us to look but we are so clever and
readily find scapegoats to rationalise
everything. From the angle of psychological
perfection, often with experience we have
learnt a lot yet we are not prepared to use
this learning consciously and convert it into
practice but we prefer to be over-confident,
astutely stubborn and refuse to accept that
we may be mistaken - rather we consider this
as unthinkable; our arrogance and ego cannot
see any possibility of error, even though life
proves it to us time after time at least 6
times every day. The cussedness shown by
human make-up is astounding. Are they
suffering due to it? We think yes but I think
not.
Thousands of years of experiences, repeated
lifetimes, written and spoken words counted
to the power of n, teachers in droves
repeating the same lessons in every age and
corner of the world, but the human mind has
not budged from its stance. Are they suffering
for it? Doesnt look like it.
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What is needed is kindness in our thoughts.

You can't be kind and not be happy!
At the same time you can't be careless and
not have to pay for it.
Life goes on by its rules and we may cry
ourselves hoarse otherwise. You can't irritate
the scorpion and not be bit! You can't go out
in the rain and not be drenched! You cant
live by unwholesome food and not be sick!
They say I have choices but none over the
consequences. Not so sure about this. I don't
see having much choice about anything.
I could not even choose my parents and the
entire family and consequences that came
with it. So I ask what choice. They talk of
freedom of expression. What nonsense.
"Rights" are morals and ethics - issues that
humans want to impose and live by. I don't
see LIFE recognizing these rights.

The religious quagmire.

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I have seen people talk about other religions

and people with such confidence that it
boggles the mind. Yet these people have
never lived with people of the other religions
nor ever read anything directly from their
texts. They judge, comment and discuss it all
with great panache. Where did they get their
impressions from? Ask them and you will be
surprised. Best is not to get into thinking and
discussions on this subject. You have your own
religion; Focus on it and in being kind
whatever it is.
Let us do the best we can in the circle we
are. This is the essential. Focus on ourselves
rather than showing the way to others.
The organisational heads of any codified set
of belief have always used the suggestive
power of God's ways & fear of the unknown to
control the minds and life of lesser endowed
humanity. From this angle religion becomes
an enemy.
For the thinking populace, sincerely wanting
to better itself, sincerely looking for answers
to their questions on life, all life, including
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religion becomes a source of answers.

The Sufi and Zen philosophies appeal to me as
they are open ended and it is difficult to base
dogmatic precepts on them. But for this very
particular reason you wont find too much of
it commonly. People want a nail to hang their
coat on! Codified religions do just that.

And if you have the misfortune of being or

trying to understand Hindus, I can only pray
for you because with their of Gods and
millions of sub gods and their infinite
interpretations, with no unified guiding
principles, they live a totally personal
philosophy that is mind-blowing for the
ordered & regulated minds of people coming
from other rigid religions. Even the Hindus
can barely tolerate or comprehend each
other.

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Why WE the people who were living

comfortably in the arms of nature dont
matter to the world centred in the ruling
spots like Washington, London and Paris etc.
Today we have managed to sell ourselves to
some powers with financial clout. But I blame
us for it.
1) We were too busy with ourselves and had
enough of all needs met by natural means.
2) Our quarrels were petty and virtually
internecine.
3) We were neither ready nor interested in
developing further. Most of the cultures
subjected to colonialism were people who
were culturally stagnant - Contented to exist
in their bubbles.
4) Mother Nature always brings in forcedchange thru wars or migrations due to natural
disasters.
5) The colonialists were better armed to kill
from a distance and far better organised and
disciplined very comfortable in working as a
team; we have as yet not learnt much from it
all and once the Europeans left, whatever
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lessons were imparted have been quickly

forgotten and we have slipped back into the
natural rhythm we are comfortable in.
6) Our inability to respect, trust & support
each other and domains was capitalised upon
by the diplomacy of mistrust and greed and
this made us fight each other.
Trouble started not with the kingship, after
all somebody has to be king and one is as bad
or as good as the other. The colonialists would
not accept the blacks, browns and followers
of other religion, languages as one of the
human race. They labelled them all as
pagans, savages & kafirs and used this as an
excuse to annihilate in entirety as much as
they could get away with as it suited their
needs. The locals were fit in their eyes for
enslavement and this they did with extreme
prejudice. This created a great divide of
pride and ego and clashes were bound to be.
They still continue.

Had the colonialists governed and handled the

teeth-gnashing of these local childish revolts
with wisdom, without hurting their local
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pride, they would have and could have stayed

on forever as kings.
No. The colonialists used excessive force and
hurt the egos rather deeply & badly. The
locals really never mattered. But hurting egos
always matters.
The younger people are not aware of the
deep feelings these subjects still carry. How
deeply they are embedded in the mentality of
the ruling class. For although the apparent
philosophies that we see around us thru
media is more mature, at the decision making
level nothing has changed.
Economics and immediate benefits are the
main inspirations for all decisions.
The narrow-mindedness is appalling. Casteism in many forms rules our thinking. Not to
forget that the colonialists have left their
strong imprint by utilising and brain washing a
whole class of people to their way of doing
things. They now are the new rulers.
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Very few people pray and this gives prayer a

bad name that it is all humbug. For most
people prayer is wishing. Wishes that are
directed to an unknown entity we call God or
some other name. These wishes are not laced
with kind and compassionate thoughts. If we
analyse the thoughts and wishes, if they were
to be granted, would require some damage to
happen in another domain. It is unfortunate
that our hopes are not for betterment of all
of us and the society and the world we live
in. Real Aspiration brings results. Positive
thoughts always create positive happenings.
Place your thinking on the conscious mode so
that you do not ignore signals and avoid the
route corrections when necessary in your life.
Yes it all starts from being Grateful and that
is one thing that we are not.
We are more proud of living well in a shoddy
world rather being bring proud of a beautiful
world that we are engaged in making.

Nobody lies.

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Nobody is ever really lying. There are no liars.

There are different perspectives. Everybody
recounts events from their personal
perspective. Individually each of us has a
private, very personal perspective and our
telling will be colored by it.
The selfish ones see things from the point of
their hurts. The employer sees it from the
point of view of profits. The doctor sees it
from the point of view of his expertise in one
particular field. The teacher sees it from the
point of view of the syllabus. The student
sees it all from the point of view of exams.
There is often deformation in the telling but
then that is the tweaking that has to be done
to make a coherent story. There is
exaggeration, deletion, suppression or
addition in the telling but then it is not really
a lie. It is the strategy and the strategic
demands that impose on the telling. The
mistake would be to get upset and add
morality into the judgment of others. It would
serve greater purpose to understand how
psychology works and understand life from
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your own point of view and rationally take

action based on this understanding of things.
We have umpteen stories right thru history
and ages when a hungry mother or father or
child was caught for theft of a piece of bread.
Theft is a serious affair right? But when
somebody speaks lies, denigrates another,
gossips with malefic intentions isnt that theft
of somebodys reputation. Nothing can be
done in this instance so is it a lie or not?
In a way we are comfortable with lies. We all
indulge in it without exception. But profess to
be against it. Charlatans!
Does anyone notice how morbid we are
permitting ourselves to become. We are
allowing ghastly sights and forms to become
part of our lives increasingly. We are allowing
thoughts of garish nature to infiltrate our
consciousness. We are using more and more
slang and abusive words. We associate easily
and comfortably with hurtful images and
movies and games.
We are getting inured.
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We are playing with forms that earlier would

be related to voodoo and black magic. Does
one at all understand that if we are slaying
beauty, poetry, generous feelings in our
atmosphere we are unleashing thoughts of
forms that will then try to materialise
themselves and do their thing?
The mayhem we so deplore or at least the
polite society so wants to show that they
deplore is completely nascent in the seeds we
are sowing. I just saw a cake shaped like a
baby that one has to cut into pieces to eat.
God forbid. Once this image takes shape in
our consciousness, it will settle in our
subconscious and then one day try to come to
life. Awful. We absolutely must - only associate with our highest aspirations and
their manifestations in the most beautiful
forms we can. Anything else will pull us in the
opposite direction and the seeds will flower
one day, we like it or not. Sheer dirt!

Lazy minds - active otherwise

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We have been advised by all and sundry, even

qualified idiots that we should go for walks in
the freshness of early mornings. Of course.
Yes. This makes sense in the freshness of the
morning cool. Especially if you are by the sea
and away from polluted areas like perhaps in
the mountains, away from the cities.
The freshness of the dew, the breeze if any
and the cooler temperatures are conducive to
clean breathing and meditation. Moreover
with the beginning of the working day smoke
from fires and humans, rolling stock and
vehicles start throwing up dust into the living
space and temperatures can go up alarmingly.
So the human mind picks up this adage and
prides itself by virtuously following the advice
by rising early (in comparison to the lazybones), going for a morning walk (in
comparison to the laggards), following
healthy habits (in comparison to the
careless).
The additional advantage being that all this is
good for health and some virtuous seeming
gossip later in the day. Dont forget to notice
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the comparisons that are bubbling in

everyones head. It is this comparative
activity that I wish to bring attention to. We
are always comparing everything in a light so
that we can perceive ourselves as better. This
is how we validate our greatness.
Today the air is polluted to an extent when
experts are being forced to advise to the
contrary. But I dont think the virtuous are
going to be balked of their good deed of the
day. They follow their own prejudice of I go
for a walk regularly every morning at 5 am.
I am totally aghast at seeing older, vulnerable
people going out in the chill of winter
mornings. To people with asthma, I have
never been able to make understand that
they should keep their windpipes covered and
warm and their lungs protected from chills.
It becomes a matter of pride to prove to the
world that they were never wrong and not are
now.
We are adamant and refuse to budge on
stands that we have taken. Every year, with a
regularity that is unbelievable the same
people fall sick in the same manner; having
caught a chill, Sore throat, bronchitis,
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or a bit of fever. The same illness in the

same conditions at the same time of the year!
Something to complain about and it gives
them a good reason to talk about their
misfortunes & the conditions they have to live
in and bear so stoically. What can they do? It
is their fate!
How will it hurt their pride to come out a
little later and avoid all the complications?
Wear clothes more suitable, change clothes as
the weather asks; just put in this effort to
ward off illness which brings pain, discomfort,
and expenses and is always a miserable
experience. Mind over matter I suppose. I
give up on this human non-thinking, mentally
active to prove their virtuousness but
mentally lazy when it comes to logical,
introspective reasoning & doing something
about it. Dont they have a memory? Why
do they always wait for the fire to start
before they will go to dig the well? Theyll
defend their point of view, even argue for
hours, but take no action.
As for us old farts.

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Let us join the young world and enjoy the

new sources of fun it provides. Drop the
sentence In our time... Go along with the
young. It will bring us joy, fun in our lives and
teach them something.
My personal experience is that old farts are
too stuck in their greatness, to rigid in their
attitudes of having done all and seen all;
refusing to see the opportunities. People
simply have no time or inclination to broaden
their perspectives. Well, as a matter of fact, I
suppose nobody does when things are rolling
smoothly. It is not easy to think away from
the comfort zone of successful hey-days.
People fall back on their old methods and try
harder to replicate the little successes they
have known. Learning from the experience of
others is not a very strong human forte.
Grappling new ideas require a kind of courage
that is both moral and physical. For one you
have to let others know that you are failing
and second you need the guts to jump into an
unknown zone. It requires to become
mentally open, curious and young again. This
can be daunting. I suppose complaining and
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discussing is all that people really want.

There is no real need to take action.
Our predecessors, let us say before the
digital age, did not have such fast changes to
contend with. I dont think they thought
much about anything. Life had many
opportunities and products and services were
in demand. Laws were simpler and technology
was simple too. But now the scenario is scary
and unpredictable.
The world is going through an upheaval of
sorts. Hopefully everything will readjust to
the human psychological and psychic levels
once the learning process of this present
moment is over.
If you look closely there is already a huge
change in selling techniques and the way
companies are offering their products. The
personal interaction is coming back and the
corporate affairs are thinking small as well.

Posturings of our idea of spirituality.

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We love listening to spiritualists. People

throng to listen to them. What are they
expecting? Look at the crowds some speakers
are able to collect. What is the secret hiding
there? Is it our inability to recognize the
real or is it our wishful thinking of
Attaining it all without trying. Thousands of
years of lecturing in very corner of the world
by enlightened souls over & over dont seem
to have done much for the world. And to top
it all, most of these spiritualists are talking of
things that are totally intangible to the
listeners. But yes, it may feel elevating
and give the impression of being connected
with The Higher Self and then it is so easy to
identify oneself with IT.
Such subjects like the Divine and His ways,
The Consciousness, The Soul and such
subjects like Detachment, Happiness and
Untold Riches. Things that I feel go totally out
of the essentialities & purview of most
worldly people. What I feel, everyone is
looking for is answers to their personal
anguishes and of course some magic that the
anguishes will somehow transform into
ecstasy by the Powers that be and that these
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people represent a direct link to Divinity. How

do people get it into their belief system that
these people will transform their lives; all
they have to do is to listen to them.
There is this idea going around that Satsang
helps. I think this is what is happening. A few
moments in listening to spiritual words is
being literally translated as Satsang. It is
easily recognizable as listening to sermons in
temples, mosques and churches and
organized gala evenings for speakers and
singers. But for the remaining period in their
lives, these same people consort with the
most terrible hurtful thoughts, activities and
behaviours; rarely wondering or taking care of
screening the kind of people they are
spending their time with.
Essentially it is all pretending.
This is going outward to searching for
solutions in the world that is pressing down
on us. The average Joe is quite content to
have been born and somehow now finds
himself in need of a home, food and
satisfaction of his primordial needs. So
considering the limited awareness that he has
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had a chance to develop, he feels the answers

to his problems are in somehow removing the
weight that is pressing down on him. These so
called spiritualists seem to know how to do
that. And if not, the astrologers seem to know
what exactly needs or can be done.
Well I hope they find what they are looking
for. I personally feel that the answers are in
learning first about the world and every
subject head comes under this requirement;
then developing a positive and sincere
attitude to life that begins by basic honesty
and integrative thinking, feeling and
speech/action. The answers will come from
within when we stop taking life as Kismet and
Destiny and do something about it. Kismet
and destiny are definitely there but helpless
to assist without our effort to begin with.
Embrace life with curiosity and it will open its
secrets to you. Let not one year pass without
having done something new, radically new at
that.

I am just a fence.
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I belong to neither to the people on the left

nor to the people on the right. It is more like
no-mans land. I am just here; not really
wanted but a necessary evil to be tolerated
often even derided. Nobody sees any
individuality in me and no personality. My
worth is the little assistance I give in being
the wall in an argument. Otherwise I am quite
a nuisance. Even the sheep, cows and bulls
think of me as useless interfering thing. I
need attention and have to be kept in good
repair which makes me a liability. What worth
do I bring by my presence? None!
Are you feeling like this?
Stuck in family or business situations in which
your worth is that of a small screw that keeps
things together but does not really matter
because it is easily replaced or often it is in
such a position that the machinery would
continue to go on without it?

The Change

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The human persona is made and constituted

in such a way that its prime purpose is to
maintain continuity in the Mother Earths
evolutionary process. At this juncture there
isnt much focus given to the possibility of
hurrying things up. To speed up this process
the mind is needed. So we begin by training it
to observe and feed it with information. Once
it is well fed, it unfortunately, tends to take a
life of its own and then it becomes the barrier
it was supposed to break down.
So the first question we need to pose is how
good is the instrument and how well is it
performing?
Between the receptor instrument the ear and
the eye and the brain that is going to
interpret the information, there is a vast
space where the subconscious with its habits,
the desire mind with its obvious agenda, the
reasoning mind with its limiting logic, the
physical body's small mind focussed on its
comfort, the emotional mind with all its
turbulence...... all these have outposts; and
try (and normally always succeed) to way-lay
the information for their own advantage by
adding or deleting much from it.
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What would be the way by which we reduce

these outposts to nothing and then see the
Reality in all its purity?
Most Gurus equate this formation of the mind
with the Ego and advise the removal of it. My
discovery is different.
The removal and eliminating and transforming
of the ego into a Divine being is a long
process that has many tiny steps before it
even becomes apparent that something is
happening.
First we do not remove the ego but it can be
transformed. It is transformed in to a
positive being with all its strength intact; it is
a gradual process of chipping away and re
establishing balance in the persona. It does
not, cannot happen all of a sudden - that one
moment it is there and the other it is not.
The intellectualised beings rationalise and
talk of this and that. But habits and thinking
patterns that have their roots in the
subconscious rarely change. Some superficial
changes are possible but it is mostly applied
psychology at work.

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Most of the changes remain at the intellectual

level while their hidden subconscious being
remains the same quietly influencing
everything without the mind ever realising
what manipulation is going on.
You will see many examples of apparent
niceness in this world. But is it superficial or
real? The poor knows he needs others to
survive so he keeps a tight control over his
arrogance and show of politeness you can
mistake it as niceness.
The properly educated and the rich take pride
in their sophistication and maintain it which
makes them seem awfully stylish and kind.
They seem as very kind people till they are
thwarted. People defer to their money power
or social status so it is not that difficult to
manage their image.
But given the freedom to act, within the
confines of their homes or their kingdom,
they show their real selves and it is rarely
very nice.
The Path

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People say that the path is more difficult to

follow when there is no live Guru. This could
be true. There will often be severe situations
that overwhelm us so totally and fill us up
with so many queries that we feel the dire
need to talk to a live person. This is
understandable. Talking is what we
understand and the easiest route to clear the
air. The very activity is so direct, easy to
arrive at and something that we are doing all
the time so all effort is simplified.
But is it the best way?
Most great Gurus that we trust and follow are
from the times gone by; from the past. Like
the easy names of Buddha, Confucius, Christ,
Krishna. Why do we trust them so much and
so easily? Has anyone given a thought to this?
I personally think that there are two reasons.
First)- They have proven themselves to many
adherents and we have their word for it.
When so many people over the ages have
maintained that the teachings or guidance has
helped them, it is easy to begin believing in
it. Second)- Names of most of the great Gurus
carry weight. Disciples first begin by following
hem and soon have enough understanding to
raise a flag on their own and soon the really
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intelligent ones who are also good business

people see the necessity to organise and
create organisations to expand the zone of
influence of the teachings of the Guru. People
flock to them automatically.
All these are people who technically become
Preachers/Pracharaks of sorts. These then
quietly take the mantle of Gurus. This works
out to be good business as well and then the
sheep need a leader.
So there are always live ones to answer
questions and mostly mislead (maybe not
intentionally) but who is there to argue and
prove it. All truth is re-explained to the
chela (student disciple) in the light of the
experience and cunningness of this guru in
the name of the Great Guru.
The correctness of the guidance is greatly
colored by the language ability and
communication style of the new teacher and
the Truth does get garbled quite a bit.
Marketing techniques help. But I am not sure
if it is not just recycled concepts being
repeated from one angle or the other. But it
serves the purpose as I see Ashrams coming up
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in droves and adherents in millions; all very

happy.
I think the insincerity of the learner matches
the insincerity of the teacher and the train
whistles on without much concern about the
path as the rails are already laid down.
It is my contention that those who really
know "See" The Creation from a different
objectivity. They do not want to become
teachers because it entails a lot of
responsibility of the destiny of others. This
can be considered as the first test of a true
Seer. Which should be understood as saying
that drama does not exist around true
teachers but they are definitely dramatic in
themselves.
And if you sincerely want to follow the path
of Self-perfection or Self-upliftment, you
have that Divine Spark in you to guide things
for you. Listen to it and take every happening
around you as a lesson or message trying to
tell you something. Nothing is happening at
random.

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There is another Truth. The Spirits of the

great, who have been in physical bodies on
earth, tend to exist in the vibrational
elements of the earth. So your gurus are still
around and if you invite them into your lives
by prayer or aspiration they do their part.
Most of us are teachers too to somebody or
the other. Which means - we have the power
to influence. Are we acting with
responsibility? Objective discernment
becomes a necessity in practical life.
I think the path is easier now because of the
doors that have been opened for us by our
spiritual Masters. People are working with
great zeal in their name, that is obvious
but the admixture of personal agendas is
mudding things. Every time I mention this the
adherents get upset and indignant. I say if
you were really committed, instead of
bristling with indignation, you would have
seen the wake-up call in the comment and
laughed it off or meditated more deeply on
it.
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The ones who fake it to show off their

virtuous side are the ones to be afraid of.
How do they show it? The signs are in the
subjects of their conversations and their acts
that they think show them in a good virtuous
light. How do they come to this conclusion?
There are always some concepts that are
considered proper and indicative of a higher
divine nature and are in fashion in any age or
culture. For instance in the late 20th century
the concepts of being nice to animals & the
extremely poor, save lives and the planet and
regular public prayer gatherings are in vogue.
Their way of showing how much they care is
very superficial like giving to charity or
freeing a bird or two from a cage. Their real
self which is quite self-centred can be well
hidden this way. They do show their real
colours now and then when somebody
contradicts them. Watch out then for their
burst of indignation and spray of words that
come out in the protection of their pet
subjects these outbursts are designed to
show off their virtuousness and it is best not
to wrestle with them.

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Only a sense of great virtuousness,

righteousness and need to correct the world
remains. In their own eyes they a realised
being.
This eventually becomes rather offensive to
the world at large and gives birth to violence
in the air, strong likes & dislikes and vengeful
thoughts/acts.
Humans are quite abusive but hide it well in
self-interest. The way humans treat their
mates in many cases is worse than the way a
good person would treat an animal. We live in
such closed tiny glass containers. Wherever
and whenever the human gets an opportunity,
the sadistic side will out.
Most of our negative projections become
visible in outbursts of some kind when the
human is behaving in an unrestrained manner.
There is an element of cruelty deep down in
all of us. If we focus in silence on our selves
we can see the triggers. We really need to
work on these factors because it an accepted
fact that they influence our fate and lives too
in very direct ways although the connections
to what we feel, think now and what happens
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a long later may not be so prominent to our

factual minds.
Being offended is an important component of
over-blown self-importance. This is a
technique that is used by virtually all of us.
Some do it consciously and others
instinctively.
Study and categorise your thoughts into a list.
What are the subjects that occupy your
thinking or let us put it more accurately your
"roaming in your mind"?
Some rather useless titles that I suggest:
- The neighbour is washing his car again
- Mrs X's dressing could do with some
improvement
- Oh he is so dumb
- She is always on her mobile phone
- If it were not for me, nothing would get
done around here
- I wish I had married the Clark guy
etc etc.
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This is just to show how much of our thinking

power, memory space and energy goes into
inanities. Keeping our selves busy with
subjects that remotely do not concern us but
give us a lot to pump up our own vanities and
clamour for sympathy and appreciation.

People need something to accuse and are

easy with their accusations more so to prove
their own virtuousness. All actions can be
interpreted in two or more ways. Envy can be
behind the accusations or simply something to
attract attention as do-gooders. But then
these are the dangers of getting too much
attention from the multitude that does not
think.
Just because somebody smiles at you and
wishes you good morning is no reason to think
that secretly they may not despise you. We
are so well trained to hide our insincerities.
And we are great at hurting others in
innocuous, kind ways.
Fear as a friend.
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The job of fear is to perturb you. Your job is

not to get perturbed. Nothing shows off your
position on the evolution ladder like fear. The
wise become calmer and contemplative. They
withdraw, consider every aspect of the
situation, analyse and let the subconscious
supply the elements of tit-bits of information
and then take considered decisions to act
upon with a strong will and win.
On the other hand, a mind which is not
evolved will go into a screaming fit. It will
exaggerate try to frighten everybody around
it and get everyone into the act. And in its
agitated state will do exactly as the
disrupting forces influencing it want it to do
most quite the most dangerous and opposite
thing it can do under the circumstances. The
primary fear behind all this is that this kind of
a mind is afraid to be alone and feels secure
in a group, specially when the group is also at
the same mental level.
What can be termed as Mob mentality. It is
more common than one would agree to. The
mob mentality is not simply a group of people
who are out to smash windows and burn cars
because they are enraged due to some god72

forsaken reason. In a quieter way we are all

belong to the mob mentality with our need to
conform. We all want to belong. Belong to
what? That is not very certain but we are
certain that we are good enough in many
ways meriting appreciation; and what others
will say is then very important to us. This
becomes our guiding force. This also instils
the fear of not being appreciated and being
wanted and we then try hard within the limits
of our understanding to control our gestures
and speak the right words entering a world
of total insincerity and always staying in it
like the frog in the well. It is dishonesty to
our self on a colossal scale. The first thing
one notices about them is that they refuse to
engage in anything deeply and are flippant
making charming promises with no intention
to keep them; going back on their words and
straight faced lying comes easily to them.
One thing separates this category of people
clearly from others- when they do not agree
or their vanity is hurt, they attack the
offending person with vehemence; all do it
with words and many may even get physical.

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The tragedy is that the whole group in which

we are trying to integrate is at this level of
inconscience and disconnect with the self.
Tell me those who do not belong to their own
selves, will they ever belong or accept anyone
else in their lives? Their milieu is strictly for
personal gain and comfort. The rest of the
world is seen and utilised as a tool with this
end. It is like everybody patting each other in
the social group, even helping each other out
personal profit is the only goal hiding at the
back of everyones mind.
That is why there are Orders and uniforms.
This makes it easy to recognise where one
belongs. A true being who is in the process of
indentifying his self with the Universe would
never feel comfortable in any of these
regimented and structured mental prisons.
Those who are not afraid to get out and be
free are easily recognisable. For one they do
things rather unassumingly. They wear clothes
for comfort and according to weather or the
job at hand. They eat anything and
everything that takes their fancy. They take
their own words seriously and always deliver
on promises which they make with great
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consideration and rarely. It is a charmed life

that they lead. They are intelligent enough to
known that they may piss people off so they
stay out of the mainstream and enjoy the
sunsets alone. But they are not un-social.
Simply, they do not run after approbation and
they may be good at what they do so people
come to them and they are always happy to
receive them.
Are they afraid? Yes but of what? They are
deeply afraid of not being able to become
better people. Their sincerity of purpose
opens doors to their inner thoughts that they
learn to see as witnesses. They have learnt
to separate their logical mind from their
mechanical, instinctive mind. They are able
to observe the process happening within them
such as how a word triggers anger or envy or
joy. They are able to stop their instinctive
responses; for instance in anger they dont hit
back but go silent instead. They dont blurt
out the first reaction that bubbles up in
them. They are able to exercise restraint and
when needed they can act whether they like
it or not.

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They become acutely aware of the discordant

notes that they sometimes play even when
knowing to the contrary in spite of
themselves. And this scares them to no end as
they remember the consequences that they
can associate with in their past and see the
past repeating itself. This is a great pain to
them but they realise that something stronger
than them is making things happen, and they
are responding rather automatically most of
the time.
At this juncture, they begin looking for
answers and often find them which they put
into practice in their life with will and
determination. These are people who are
evolving, growing and bettering themselves
all the time, till their last breadth. One thing
they dont do get into worthless arguments.
There is no time to waste in this short life
and with something new occurring at every
moment; who would want to miss out on the
fun?

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Why are we so eager to have children?

People talk of progeny. Fine. People talk of

carrying the name forward. What name? What
has your name done to be remembered with
so much reverence that it needs to be carried
forward? People talk of continuity of the
family the Dynasty. So what is so great
about your family? It looks like a good coverup to couple-up as soon as possible. And if
children result - why not? If you can support
them well, bring them up well and establish
them well in life, I would say it is a good job
well done.
I believe in letting the Universe do its job neither waiting nor exerting - simply playing
with all the tools given.
But what appals me is the people having
children while they are starving and do not
have clothes on their back. When they give
the same excuse as above then I really
wonder. And then to support them arise all
kinds of groups who want to help them, feed
their children and do good. To me it looks
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as if they are saving their souls own souls and

feeling good but not doing much else. As long
as these childbirthers will continue to be
supported, why should they restrain their
drives? They look human alright but their
minds are still at the most primitive levels
and are fully dominated by the spirit world
that is out there playing with the instruments
available to them. Put a male and female in
close proximity and it will happen; bound to
happen with the poor absolutely but with
the rich and rulers even more. The only time
it does not happen is when the mind begins to
find subjects of greater interest & attraction
than sex.
The number of people ending having kids
when they are not ready psychologically is
very high. A lot of people get into marriages
and automatically have kids because they
have been conditioned to think so since their
first days as being the goal of life and
happiness lies in the coupling. They are
trapped by the society they live in.
Until humans develop their will and discipline
their minds to follow the dictates of their
own reasoning, nothing great will happen.
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Life will go as Mother Nature intended;

famines and poverty and riches and wars will
continue.
The subconscious patterns of actions and
thoughts picked since hundreds of thousands
of years are not going to just fly away.
Yet, there is no shortage of intelligence. Most
poor people are very street wise.
Yet I have never understood that nobody sees
that they weigh themselves down with a
family even before they have had a chance to
make a standing for themselves. Why was this
never obvious? TV and exposure to Movies etc
does not seem to have taught them anything.
It is the intention which is lacking - they want
the kids - more hands to work/labour for old
age support.
Something that was valid till WW2 times.
Since then the population has trebled. It is
impossible to save the children from the fate
they have been brought into. The means are
lacking, the numbers are great and the
mindsets of the parents are a big block.
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Astrology, fate and & future.

Astrology at one end and Seers at the other;

Is this where our lives lie?
We are eager to believe the astrologers who,
they say, can predict our future because they
know where the planets are taking us. The
Seers know all the tricks and can guide and
protect us from the vagaries of fate and
destiny. All we need to do is to trust them
deeply enough so that they can intervene.
How true and real is this? I would tend to
think in the normal that between the two the
clever play on the sentiments of people.
I mean logically this is possible but under the
circumstances of the reigning influences in
this world in general, it is definitely not.
Why?
The first problem is the person. A human
today is a conglomeration of many beings and
forces that act through him and use him as a
vessel and give him his persona. The human
persona is made up of his body, emotional
being and mental being. Then there are the
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minor beings like lust, anger, compassion,

that also are in play. There are also hidden
players like the subconscious that is really
most highly in control. The chain is something
like this: subconscious-automatic mind in the
body based on habits, mind based on
education, conditioned mind based on
memories, conscious thinking mind, will
power to short circuit the process.
Unfortunately in the general populace the
process goes straight from the subconscious
mind to the executive mind and that is that.
Most people have no memories or make any
conscious use of them in analysis of their
thoughts & actions. Their reaction triggers
are set and they just go on repeating
themselves but are very vociferous in
complaining or pretending that they are doing
all they can to improve their lot. Fortunes
and lives are spent in asking for help from
soothsayers who oblige willingly.
The planets are definitely indicative of the
forces in play in the earths consciousness at
any given time and if we are not applying our
filters of knowledge/memories/education
with our will power, the course of action will
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be as the flow dictated by the general

universe in action.
Can we change our fate? Fate cannot be
changed. The curriculum has been set. We
can, yet speed up the process so that much of
the continuous pain can be shortened and
converted into a learning process of change.
The seers who have already gone this way can
guide through their own experiences by
sharing their learning but that is all they can
do. The tapasya has to be ones own effort.
Planets are not changing their position and by
lighting lamps and incense and wearing rings,
nothing will happen until sincerity, goodwill,
aspiration and will are not applied by the
person who wants to bring change in his own
life. When we add consciously & willfully
certain positively vibrating elements into our
lives, like compassion, forgiveness and
learning, then Destiny has to reprogram our
curriculum and THEN alone things change.

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The complex world and we.

Most of us arent really that well in tune with

the Cosmos. We are using largely a very tiny
portion of our faculties in a huge world of
great variety. The world is complex and most
often there are influences at work that we do
not understand, rarely even know about and
we end up miscalculating our moves. In
simple words we can say that we are buffeted
by our simple desires and wishes and the
problem is that so is everybody else. This
results in clashes of wills and destinies.
Millions of people living together but alone
individually.
The instrument we use to get along is the
mind and I feel it could use more input than it
usually has to circumnavigate this sea of
Creation. The question begs to be asked as to
how some of us are successful and content
while most of us are in deep despair and
disappointment although we may not show it;
anyway, no one cares and we are wise enough
to understand that our lives are not important
to others unless we are of use or of some
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immediate profit to them. Largely speaking

much of the world is already organised and
we can bumble along in it quite comfortably.
Society has been organised, laws of behaviour
laid down, products and services designed
and made for us all that we need is some
talent to earn a living and we can take care
of most of our needs.
But the question is - Is that all? NO! We want
so much more. Yet few seem to really make
an effort to do so. And this is the crux of it
all. Our wishes are not commensurate with
our readiness and preparation. I can safely
say that we have been educated and
inculcated with a not-so-correct know-how of
this world at large and we have been actually
prepared for depression and stress and not
the other way round.
To live in this world requires a kind of
enlightenment too.
We need to learn and know well:
- The human-made laws
- The psychology of humanity
- The education system
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- Laws of physics, chemistry and biology at

work
- Logic behind gadgetry and applications
- Know some carpentry, plumbing and
electrical repairs.
- When to speak and when to lie low/silent.
- Naturopathy and how to maintain health
- How others will & can hurt us.
- The policing system
- The punishment system
- The monetary system
And as much more we can encompass.

When was the last time you did something for

the first time?
Humans aim for comfort zones; not for
learning or self-betterment.

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Subliminal Conditioning

The last century after the Great War, saw

relatively a period of technical growth and a
unified market at peace. So all countries
could manufacture goods and sell in a larger
market than had existed ever before. The
wars had devastated large populations and
there was great hunger for more. This is when
with the reach now available to the media,
also was growing thru unheard of mediums of
travel by air, television and color photography
and printing. There was a great jump in the
people who could read and earn well. So
there were buyers.
The marketers immediately saw the potential
that was opening up. They centered and
focused on sex but couched it in the word
LOVE. This is how they made the people see
things: to win over love, give gifts, and
make yourself smart and presentable this
translated into gifts, clothes, cosmetics, dineouts picnics and all things needed to showoff. This would then result in marriages;
which in turn gave rise to more sales for the
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homes, and when the babies came along, it

was bonanza for the sellers. It was an
unending stream of buyers and a long list of
desires waiting and begging to be satisfied.
Everyone had to have a car!
The aspirations grew but unfortunately most
of us are not made for this competitive life to
keep up with the Joneses. Envy, rancor
became rampant. Individuality, independence
& unrestrained freedom was aimed for and
aloneness was wanted but at the same time
so was love - a kind of living in a group
without wanting to be part of it.
Imagine everyone living precariously on the
edge of self-centeredness but depending on
each other, knowing well that they need each
other but not wanting to acknowledge this
fact. A potent brew to bring pain in ones life
is as I see it.
The media & industry was becoming more and
more refined with better and cheaper
gadgetry and dreaming up more and more
occasions for happiness. The reach was
growing and the middle class was ecstatic
with its possessions.
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They were being bombarded from all sides,

specially the movies and the stars to adopt
more classy styles of living. The trap was well
laid and the whole world fell into it with a
thud never realizing that they had been
subliminally manipulated into this state.
This gave rise to stresses, poorer health,
broken dreams and disappointments and
psychotic break-downs. We literally sold our
souls and paid for it like we were giving out
dowry for the pleasure.
This mess now demands clearing up.
As an exercise, it would be interesting to find
out what were the highest aspirations or
desires of a people in different Times in our
history.
In 2015 it seems to be the owner of a good
Smartphone.

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Learning and an open, curious mind is what

will bring us solutions to our situationships.
What can I do? It is my fate! is the lament
of the listless. There is nothing but inertia
keeping us from solving our difficult
situations. Effort and striving is written in our
destiny.
The yet to evolve souls that have only
recently got their lives in human forms show
certain tendencies, you can call them
character traits, in very pronounced forms;
there is tendency of these people to be petty,
egoistic, self-centeredly clever/cunning, loud
and proud of their physical prowess. And a
certain amount of sloth and inertia seems to
keep them locked in their wells.
Their needs are simple. They want something;
they should have it. Often they acquire things
that they never use or respect. They like to
boast, attract attention and rarely pay scant
regard to the feelings of others; rather quite
the opposite. These are, as we may safely
term, the difficult to tolerate ones. The focus
on the physical show is very highly magnified.
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There is one beautiful aspect though. They

have a lot of strength and energy and if we
can learn use to use their energy, they play a
very supportive role.
When life puts them in situations where they
have money and control they can make life
for others miserable but often their desires
give rise to many beautiful and grand projects
and they even end up inventing new products
and new a activities for excitement ( which
may or not be good for you in the final
analysis.)
Their thinking is simplicistic like: Beauty to
them is all in the outward physical
appearance, staying young means looking
twenty; excitement means speed and physical
pleasures and all, activities that bring into
focus their senses and involves their nerves.
Psychologically, they can think and feel only
form their personal point of view: if they like
something others will surely appreciate too,
if they desire something others must surely
see the importance. They expect to be
praised and their attitude in life is: Look at
me and see how praiseworthy I am. They go
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to great trouble to be seen as different and

better to the point that they are shunned by
the more tolerant types. It is impossible to
make them see any other point of view and
these are the people in a quarrel who will not
go for a compromise. Their views are clear
cut either you are their friend or the enemy.
If they cant love you, they will hate you.
They can be very childish and churlish; - very
kind when it is in their interest - they even
become sugary, buttery & spicy but beware;
their memories are short and their responses
can change overnight.
In action this shows in many irritating forms:
Like they have no patience, are pushy and
they can live like nobody else exists.
Whatever you do, dont try to change them
and lock horns over matters of decency,
discipline and self-control. Talking to them of
generosity in thoughts will only get you a
guffaw.

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Humans are very good at tricking themselves

into believing that they have a lot of
grandiose qualities & about themselves in
general. Specially when the mind is full of
great words that touch our spirit and we then
easily see ourselves having become that.
Those that have had the opportunity to be
somewhat independent and living isolated
lives, are the worst affected.
Since the beginning of time, individuals who
began to see further than the masses, would
be so disappointed with the general inertia,
ignorance of the masses that they would
isolate themselves and immerse themselves in
study and contemplation to improve their
selves. Very commendable I would say but the
subconscious rarely gets touched.
Another way of saying it would be that the
habits and the basic nature remain
unchanged. It also gives the person a kind of
arrogance of being better and grander than
they really are. But all the little things that
make us human animals like anger, lust, and
tiny defects like jumping to conclusions,
being irritated when baulked or
misunderstood, getting depressed, sulking, or
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looking for thrills etc still are deeply

operative. This they realise only when they
come out of their caves and meet the world
and the tiresome circumstances of this
earthly life.
The tragedy is that these people in their
superiority complex do a lot of harm to others
around them or in spiritual language we can
say that the people in their inertia and
arrogance invite on themselves the ire of
these superior people.
Money power and sex power are the
controlling factors of today and getting
trapped into this vortex is practically ensured
by circumstances. Successes as understood by
humans then goes to ones head and makes us
live in a world born of our imagination. That
is why it has always been advised, that we
should surround ourselves with really true
friends who help us see ourselves as we are
rather than what we imagine ourselves to be.
This is how the world moves and behaves.
Until we have learnt to stop, contemplate,
analyse each and every little impulse birthing
within us, we have not moved much farther
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on the path of self-improvement. This is

tough but eventually emancipation comes
only when we start practising it.
How to recognise what could be happening
within us?
I learnt a lot from good writers and movies.
By seeing the stories being rolled out in front
of me, it gave me the perspective needed. In
similar situations in my own life I could then
see the story repeating itself and recognise
the elements at work.

Obfuscating issues

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Selfishness alone is not enough to warrant

disdain. We are all selfish. But yes, when
selfishness gets coupled with abuse then no
one ever forgives.
And what constitutes abuse? How do we
recognise it?
1) Personal attacks: We attack the person
verbally or physically. This happens most
often when the needle of accusation is
pointing at us. The idea is to ward it off by
focussing immediately on some real or
imagined fault of the other.
2) By arguing: Convert the situation into an
argument and putting the other into a
position of defending his situation. It is like a
game. Keep on making stupid accusations and
the whole argument takes on the image of a
duel. The first to lose temper is taken to the
cleaners.
3) By deliberate misuse and misunderstanding
of words. Language provides much scope of
play thru the literal and figurative meanings
of words. These are brought into play in the
conversation. This creates a tangled mess and
obfuscates the issue.
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A lot of people do it as a matter of habit.

They are really not looking for answers. Learn
how every other person does it and then
avoid getting into the trap the next time.

All the above three are used all the time by

everybody. We soon learn that there are no
winning sides; only recognition of how the
mind of the other works, how they will
respond and what to expect of them in
relationships.

Are you ready?

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A survey conducted by the Times of India

new-paper showed that a majority of the
young generation change jobs every month
citing "poor job satisfaction" as the main
reason.
Now why would this be so? Is it the job or the
employee? Then there is also the question if
they are suited to be in that job or not. Most
of our younger people have very limited social
skills and even less of the entrepreneurial
understanding of the business environment.
Can we fault them? No. Their bringing-up and
education was in the hands of their parents
and if anyone it is the parents who are
responsible. But this is neither here nor
there. Now that they are grown up, in need
to make something of their lives, what do
they do?
And I can say quite safely, from what I have
seen in all the different countries I have
travelled, the problem exists everywhere.
Till the time they get into their first jobs, the
interactions of the general populace are
limited to their large families and the limited
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social possibilities in that circle. They speak a

language that is peculiar to that circle. They
may have acquired a few Diplomas but no real
skill to move about in the larger impersonal
circle of the business world.
The difference between the cultures of
different communities and educational
backgrounds now takes an importance that
was never thought of earlier. They show a
personality that is glaringly not in tune with
others, specially the more and often
educated class that is in the managing seat.
These youngsters find themselves not
accorded the recognition they were expecting
and were lead to believe by their
parents/families they will get. When you are
raised as the Apple-of-my eyes but no
guidance as to the vagaries of the human
condition, what can one expect?
Soon they realise that they are not equipped
for the world they have entered and a
complex psychological screen gets created
behind which they try to hide their complexes
which may be inferior but the egos are not.
Few take the trouble of learning about and
working on this aspect and retrain themselves
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to join their peers. They go for the

superficialities of clothes and mannerisms
that they see. A certain amount of aping is
seen. But most of what we see is bravado, a
cover-up by show of designer clothes and loud
posturing which unfortunately hides nothing
and only makes the limitations obvious. Quite
a lot of people fall into the trap of submissive
yes-men. There is a tendency to use these
techniques which is seen in very poor taste
and self-defeating because it is actually a
put-off.
The unfortunate part is that often even
moderately successful people also fall into
this syndrome. Particularly those of the
middle class background who by dint of
education and luck end up in managerial
positions but lack the EQ for that
environment.
The secret of making a good income
successfully in this material/commercial
world depends on how you are able to align
your needs and services with those who need
it. As Dale Carnegie said, find out what they
want and give it to them. It is simple and
clear that the upper class or those with cash
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to spare are the ones you need to touch. But

the question is how? First we need to
understand how and what they think. Second
we need to make them feel comfortable with
us; once they are convinced that we are
understanding of their needs, fit well in their
company or life-style and can be trusted to
deliver, they will come forward.
This is why the need to learn about other
cultures, communities and social classes
becomes important. Cleverness and cunning is
not enough. We need to upgrade our personas
to the levels of others with whom we wish to
enjoin.

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I am told it is a good thing. Children are full

of it and what I have heard from other adults,
it is a most tiresome trait. To my mind it is a
trait that is also the precursor of creativity
but that is when it is channelled into a
properly planned activity or project.
In adults it shows up mostly as exaggeration this is what I feel anyway; specially the trend
that I have noticed in not-so-traineddisciplined minds in India. Everything is said
with aplomb & even figures are wildly
augmented to sound the most dramatic.
Rumours are started with conviction and
exaggerated as they go on. In other
manifestations, it shows as accusations quite unnerving - leaving you to contradict,
defend and explain yourself. This is a good
technique to keep you fighting for your life;
while they enjoy the supreme bliss of
righteousness. Religious leaders and
advertising use this technique to good
advantage.
This keeps everyone busy, engaged in heated,
serious conversations, hurting relationships
and avoiding the real issues.
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It is so ingrained that their entire lives roll

out in intense debates of things that are not.
Justifying their own faults and daring you to
contradict them. It is so emotionally tiring
and purposeless in pragmatic terms. When
this tendency becomes an interfering issue in
work relationships, it becomes a serious
problem. In marriages it can lead to
separation.
Later when in the last days of life, depression
sets in with the obvious made clear by fate,
we blame God, Kismet,

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The word Therapy implies that something is

out of order. That something in the human
persona needs to be put right vis--vis the
pragmatic realities of life. It presupposes that
the person in front of us is in a state of
disturbance and that assistance to recreate a
balance and equilibrium is required. Yes; this
is quite what happens. Life is a distinctly
awful mix of love, kindness, sacrifice at one
end and dislike, jealousy and disdain at the
other.
Often for no reason other than selfish interest
it gets even worse - Dislike turns to hate and
venomous thoughts and actions take shape.
These thoughts then try to manifest and every
action of ours get influenced by them.
Opportunities in life are difficult to come by
and when we do not know what to do, despair
takes over. But then I am not here to discuss
basic psychology. The point is that these
elements enter the life of a person from the
day he is born. In many traditions, it is
believed and even science today is now
accepting it that the influences begin even
before birth.
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It is this push and pull of society and the way

the world is running that creates dissonance
in individuals who have either not been
brought up properly or educated properly or
readied for the life ahead properly. We cant
blame anybody but we must yet try and
understand the factors at play. Therapy can
help by mainly being a good listener and
imparting and sharing of knowledge of the
world so that the disturbed person can
reorient himself and find the supportive pole
to support his life.
All that a desperate intellect is looking for is
answer to tough questions. The healer can
help by listening after ascertaining their
sincerity or comment on pragmatic matters
and let it be.
The job of thinkers is to make people think,
especially for their selves - for their
betterment but it should stop there.
Taking the role of a therapist is a big
responsibility. You may end up supporting
more than you had bargained for.
When the mind gets too focused on one goal
to the exclusion of all else, there is a
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tightening which results in knots in the mind

that become habits in the long run. This
creates a pattern of thinking and action that
is self-defeating with the individual not even
aware of it + past memories create a lot of
logjam. We need to break away from them.
Let the past recede far enough so that new
impressions can make a home in our
personalities.
We cannot always change our patterns but by
changing some of our activities we can create
new paths in our brains way of handling
things. Any creative activity will do. Even
depression can be reined in. Left to
themselves, most humans would go on
masturbating with their own morbid thoughts.
So they have to be weaned away. The ego of a
person will resist so the job has to be done
gently. Landscapes with pleasant forms and
all elemental natural ingredients in it are just
the thing to help deflect, reflect & reset our
orientation of thoughts.

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The new life-styles that we are now sporting

by the use of technical advancements has
isolated our physical dependence on each
other and as there is really no need to be
there in person to communicate or create or
work on a project, we now live bubble lives.
The interchange of vital energies that occurs
in personal face to face contact is now
missing and we now live totally within our
own vibes, whatever they are, without stress
but also without any refreshing changes
entering our atmosphere. There is a certain
amount of morbid build-up. We are
surrounded in major part by our own
prepondent tendencies. This creates a vortex
of self-indulgent vibes and pockets in our
lives that can be not only limiting but also
depressing and fatiguing to the Spirit.
It may be the information age but nobody is
reading or bothering to inform oneself. Selfimprovement although professed is the last
thing on anybodys mind. Perseverance is
weakening and tempers shortening. It is a sad
age. There is much to read, easily available
but lesser numbers of people are actually
bothering to make the effort to read they
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are happy with the pictures and a few

headlines and it is so much easier to lap up
the ready-made concepts being dished out by
the media. It is as if their growth has come to
a stop and they are not interested in growing
up further. It is so easy to fill-up the 24 hours.
Well I am not here to change your world or
even advising anything on those lines.
Changes bring upheavals and that is definitely
not practical or pragmatic or actually desired
under these terms. Rather daunting and very
scary.
But yes, with little effort on the personal
level, the vibes can be changed to reflect
more positivity and openness without
diluting the personal content of our gogetting plans. My prescription:
1)

A good friend to talk to

2) A good hobby like painting in oil. Or

physical activity that requires focus; such as
table tennis or badminton.

Anxiety
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How things will turn out at any given time is a

big question mark and anxiety attacks are
common. When hopes do not go to fruition as
expected, there is depression in its wake.
Society t is not making things easy. The lack
of humane feelings in today's professional
attitudes is so unbelievable. We work with
machines and have started to behave
machine-like. We are impersonal and without
generosity. And I am not talking of any
specific people. Take anyone - a little power
over you or your affairs and they misuse it to
the full by leading you the honey-trap path.
Every error is capitalised upon. A little error
and they take you to the cleaners. Take
bankers, lawyers, policemen, doctors even
the clerks in the municipal offices. Every
fault or small situation is taken with absolute
seriousness and the problem is magnified to
its full potential. You end up paying to get out
of the predicament which with some kindness
and humaneness could have been overlooked
with a warning. It is demonic when the
medical, military, policing people do it for
gain as they are Gods to us and we go to them
in trust, yet they play with our health, life
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and well-being fully knowing the horror that

they are inflicting on us. Marriages too are
not immune to this effect. But they take
refuge in laws, rules and procedures. And we
have no protection against this. What gives
these people such stone-hard hearts?
We are quite really to blame for the spots we
get into. To be happy not much is required.
But then our desires never stop sprouting. If
only we would focus more on the wishes that
have been fulfilled and aspire for more but
without agitation. With desire we permit our
wishes to predominate our thinking. The
healing practices and the policing style of a
people give their characters away. In India
today if we take this as a guideline, then we
would seem to be - unfair, self-profiting,
callous, cheats and at the same time kind and
helpful but not able to work together.
From the trainers point of view, I have seen
all training remain a superficial activity as the
base nature finally predominates.
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Our greatest efforts go into contradicting.

Nothing particular is aimed at. Simply we find
it difficult to accept that anyone else be seen
in a better light than us. The serpent of envy
pops up instantly from its corner. The lower
the Emotional quotient and intellectual
broadening of the mind, the greater is the
effort to first contradict and think later. Why
does our envy raise its head whenever we find
somebody else saying something worth
appreciating? Or doing something so well that
it is praise all around? And admittedly better
than us!
It is so sad to see people being childishly
churlish by looking for faults, errors and even
countering with exaggerated personal
comments to somehow show another in poor
light. I have seen often that comments bubble
up in the listener/reader even before the
other person has finished saying or whatever
he is saying has even registered.
A good game that these people play is by
picking on a word or phrase and then going at
tangent in a totally unconnected stream and
thereby confusing the issue intentionally;
putting the other guy in a position to explain
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and defend his point. How does one deal with

this? - By not falling into the trap of
argument. Just keep your peace and respond
with silence or/and a smile, this puts them
off no end. Leave them to their devices.
One of the commonest methods to change
tracks to bring the subject around to ones
way of thinking is by starting the question
with Do you mean to say.... My reply is curt
and short: No I dont.
And if it is bosses, just make sure by
documentary or other evidence that you
made your point and that you are not
responsible for the decisions. In personal
relations I often reply with I have said what
I had to say. You can make whatever you want
of it and in other places like with my wife, I
do not even try to make a suggestion until
absolutely crucially necessary.

Growing up

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Growing up is a process few are aware of.

Most of us connect growing up with the
wrinkles on our faces and the shape of our
figure. Little or no effort is put into the
growth of the persona and learning to go
beyond ones own self. Rather all the effort is
put in NOT growing up. One wants to remain
at a perpetual age level when people
acclaimed us, even pursued us.
It is my observation that life can be divided
into 3 phases of 22-24 years. In the first we
become somebody. In the second we establish
ourselves and usually do well. In the third we
are overwhelmed by Time as we see IT
slipping out of our hands. It is at this moment
we silently become aware that in the second
phase we were so busy enjoying life that we
did not upgrade with the passage of time and
now we are out of place somewhat.
The effort to stop ageing is the focal point
which then becomes such a childish pursuit.
One technique people use to keep others on
tenterhooks and guessing is by carrying
"Resentment" as a crown?
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They give the impression that there is no way

that the world can ever please them. The
commas and semi-colons are always out of
place. Their need to put things to right is
perennial. They feel superior and even sad by
the worlds need imposed on them to keep
things in order. The impression they give is
that it is their forced duty to be harsh on the
world - not that they enjoy it.
But if you ask me they enjoy it supremely.
And they maintain this facade because it is so
satisfying to see others grovel to keep them
in good humour.
My personal observation is that eventually
these people lose the most as they end up
alienating everybody and as they advance in
years, the need for support increases and the
opposite starts happening around them.

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Some people are really lucky. They have

limited needs, simple minds and they dont
suffer with vivid imaginations to bother them
with fear and possibilities good and bad.
They always have more than they need and
they are quite happy to be left alone to their
devices. Their good luck gives them a good
job in which they excel because they have no
ulterior motives and not much ambition
either to compete. Or life provides them in
other ways.
It is a life that is full with preoccupations of
making the bed and washing the clothes.
This is the reason why their personal relations
are at a minimum and they would rather not
have people in their lives; yet they are
intelligent enough to know that they need
others but it is an ongoing battle with their
personal world and the world at large.
It is sad to see these people because they
allow themselves to be trapped in a limited
world in which there is no entry for strangers.
They have no need to improve on anything in
this particular personalised world and least of
all themselves. It is a lovely comfortable life
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in which they are content, happy at

rearranging furniture instead of worrying
about interior design and the next castle they
will own.
I have met many of these kinds even have
had to live with them. The first thing I
noticed was their ability to ignore all inputs
from the world at large. They would simply
ignore; this tendency also affecting how they
dealt with their health. They refuse to listen
to their bodies and tend to permit illness to
fester to a point of pain before acting on it;
which a conscious person would agree is
already too late.
They suffer for it but do not wish to see the
connection that their illness may have with
their attitude. It is a blissful life until the
avalanche hits them and I have seen this
happens in older age when the body cant
take the abuse any more. At this point they
fall into depressions or suffer from rages
which alienate them even more from the
world of friends and well wishers and
unfortunately also from their own little world
that they have created so arduously.
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These people have such strong minds that

some of us simpletons would be awed. They
are good at making accusations, weaving logic
with their wishes so elegantly that virtually
everyone feels left out as the more worldly
types see existence from other angles. The
result is that you either listen to them or shut
up. They can argue on till kingdom come. You
have to finally give up in exasperation.
Suggestions in their world become criticisms
and even a hint of it can be the start of a
reaction. My way has been to leave them
alone, go along with them if I have to but
emotionally, mentally, if not physically, keep
a distance. Something that they enforce
literally anyway; yet deep somewhere these
souls are lonely and they so wish to be
admired and be friends with the world; it is
like a sad movie that you can see but not get
involved.
The torment is real. They want to be
accepted as they are but life unfortunately is
as unforgiving as they are.
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Our friends are part of our pride-support

system. It is not as much the friendship as
our vanity that makes it valuable. The glow
that we feel in knowing that we are
considered great enough to be remembered
and searched for is what makes this life so
worth living. So of course being un-friended
even on a platform like Facebook hurts. All of
us can remember misunderstandings and silly
quarrels that became permanent because
they mattered then and there was so much
intensity in the feelings that we never got
back to patch it again; although with
hindsight we regretted it.
I have wondered what is so terrible on being
un-friended and how does it matter? People
come and go out of our lives. The act of
jumping to conclusions and parting in a huff is
so normal without giving the other a chance
to explain. We can only continue on with our
lives - that is unless our egos are so hurt that
it continues to rankle!
My personal view is that it should be taken as
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And let new friends better selected on the

new maturity levels that we have reached,
come into our lives.
This is where the philosophy tends to go
amiss. It may be good philosophy but not
good psychology to say this. Change is what
people are afraid of. This is exactly what they
dont want.
The arduous exercise to make new friends is
not a comfortable thought or feeling. Then it
is also a fact that in older ages we make
lesser friends and less easily the contacts
get so reduced anyway. And bringing newness
in our personas is the most difficult part. New
friends also mean new interests. Curiosity is
the ingredient here. When this is not there, it
can only be a painful episode that most would
rather avoid and maintain status quos even if
some lies have to be lived with.

Expanded living.
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Dont compromise with smallness

A little thought on this topic will reveal that
we live a life of reduction. As we grow in
years, we start reducing our movements,
friends, possibilities and the actual
surrounding space in active use. Something
that can be called compacted living. We even
compromise with dirt and smartness.
Live totally otherwise. Expand yourself in
terms of physical usage of space, time &
thought. Espouse the uncomfortable. Have
the courage to experiment with something
new. Keep learning.
For example: when creating a corner for
yourself, give it the max space, size you can
afford. Think big. Use the largest table you
can find. When inviting friends over, invite
the maximum number you can comfortably.
When you give something a gift, give the best
you can. When you are eating out in public,
go to the most comfortable and satisfying
place.

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Dont compromise: never with your sense of

size, space and standard. Want and expect
the best and the Universe will be compelled
to organize it for you.
Keep your surroundings in perfect alignment
to your spiritual thinking within you. This is
where the enigma begins. Life as a teacher
will always throw spanners against your plans
and principles. You must learn fast and
change tack but not your standard of
thinking. As an example if you are a kind
hearted person, then dont let this faculty be
covered up by bitterness. And if you are the
sulking type, learn that this does not get you
anywhere but into deeper depressions and
alienation.
Your space should be clean and every object
given a proper place and kept that way. There
are many things we easily allow to slip into
misuse, disuse and neglect. But we do not
remove them from our surroundings; such as
spoilt pictures, not working clocks, torn
clothes, empty containers, old medicines and
what-not. Take time out to paint, refresh and
maintain your surroundings and possessions.
Keep them in trim and glowing; no peeling
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walls and drab furniture. This is as much a

yogic practice as anything else.
Persona wise, check on yourself, how easily
you make friends, how well you think of
them, how miserly you can be and how
generous you really are. Can you tolerate the
stupidities around you or do you end up with
a migraine? Are you comfortable in crowds or
discotheques or would you prefer the silence
of the stars and the expanded view of the
sea?
Of course with age the energy you have at
your disposal reduces and the time and effort
becomes a premium product. This is easily
countered by reducing your possessions, but
never reducing your space.
Keep your consciousness in an expanded mode
but live in silence more. Observe and enjoy
but dont necessarily engage in time and
energy consuming activities. Ask for space
from the Universe because in your heart you
are ready to become as big.

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Living in Integrated Harmony.

We have dreams and often many goals that

have as yet not concretized in our minds;
what is floating at the back of our minds is a
vague wish.
Goals are achieved by people of Power
Personas. They go towards their goals like
well directed arrows. For the arrow to fly it
has to be solid and straight. Nothing wishywashy about it will do.
The seat of our power is our own projection
of our self. What image are the others seeing?
Do you call yourself an "individual"? Do you
feel bad or elated with the weather? Moods
control you? Are you easy to be persuaded?
Do you go along with groups & others?
Are you affected by the sentimentalism in a
movie?
Does the decor change your mood?
Do you jump to conclusions?
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WE have to move together with others. So

what others see you as becomes doubly
important. Let me make you think a bit:
which of these qualifications would fit some
people you know?
-

Always ready for something new.

Always searching for newer ways.

Can be trusted to deliver

A congenital fault-finder - denigrating

attitude
-

Always pessimistic and non-trusting

Never does what he says.

So give serious thought to what others

perceive you as. Not to become what they
want us to be but only as feedback.
We often have a very erroneous view of our
selves. Do we have the courage to really see
our self the way others do?
But until we do so, our persona will not
become one of power. This is the focus on
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which we should concentrate and integrate

our being to reap the success we are looking
for.
The entire enigma of existence is hidden
behind the fact that every individual is totally
certain that he has seen the world, knows
all there is to really know and is perfectly
attuned to understanding each and every
other person and phenomena. If only the
world would listen to them and follow their
lead.
The next step is of course to know if what we
have is worth sharing. And I mean sharing, not
repeating. So I repeat the question: How
much of an individual are we?
When it comes to "clich" behaviour, have you
observed how systematized some people can
be? Why has our culture remained stagnant?
Because we are not ready to part or come out
of the accepted comfort zone - we have
imposed upon us a fixed "syllabi" of life and
not prepared to look further.

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When it comes to quoting we have no

equal. We so easily equate ourselves with the
quotes and get lost in a very illusionary
persona.
It is neither easy nor simple to have a hard
look at one self. This is what life is all about.
We start with a list of presumptions. Recheck
your list of presumptions in your life
otherwise the hard knocks of life will show
them to you the hard way; wisdom lies in preempting life and learning to integrate your
persona with Reality right away, the soft way
by desiring it now.
Provoking thought and reflection is what I
think our words should do.
* Life is not a simple matter of making tea:
Adding tea leaves to hot water!
Life is more like modern ice cream; a product
of technology. It tastes good, looks correct,
smells right, and feels nice, lasts perfectly
long enough but it is a chemically processed
product.
Nothing there is "Sincere". There is reality but
no truth in its composition.
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Stupidity as teacher

They have not studied the subject, they dont

know it for a fact but they are always
interfering, misguiding and confusing issues.
If it is taken as a spiritual experience, these
self-centred people are goading us to seek
balance. As an irritant and sowers of discord
they will disappear only when humanity has
grown up into anti-selfishness.
I have felt because in the Indian scenario the
development of mind and will + discipline has
never been stressed, these people are being
used by the Gods of Stupidity to create
stressful situations which in the long run are
amusement for the Gods and lessons for
humans.
We are so programmed to think in a fixed
pattern that we do not realise the different
stages of relationships and behaviour patterns
that happens between all relationships,
specially - the baby and parents. The baby
grows but the parents don't always grow with
it. There is always possessiveness, selfish126

ends involved in all the decisions that parents

take for their children.
Few adults are able to detach themselves
from the ownership angle vis-a-vis their
children or the use of emotional blackmail
towards their own profit.
People use all kinds of stratagems to interfere
in the life of others for personal profit & gain
thereby creating irritations and untoward
incidents. Often just the need to be clever or
taking clever short-cuts or not following
certain general rules is enough to create
serious accidents and occasions for regret.
The permutations and combinations for
mischief are immense and new occasions are
rising up every second in everyones lives.
We are all growing all the time and our
relationships and equations have to change
and do change. That is why people come and
go in our lives. The need to re-establish our
lives all over again every now and again is a
reality. But who wants change? Especially
when the old pattern is so profitable!

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The image we maintain for the world at large

and the life we lead in reality are always two
very different things.
The moment you restrict yourself by needs of
society or any other reason like following a
philosophy or set of morals or religious
precepts, you are projecting something other
than your real self. Whatever it happens to be
today. By the expression "your real self" it is
to be understood your instinctive, intuitive
nature and actions whatever they are.
Philosophers will immediately retort about
the Soul and our true nature of God and all
that. Let's not get derailed with this
nonsense.
People first build strong, impenetrable
mental walls around them made of
conditions, rules, appropriate behaviour and
habits, and then pride themselves on their
exclusive problems as the world does not fit
into it.

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Our castle is ready

We are born with laughter in our life. We feel

so light and content with the world we are in.
We grow up with great hopes & light in our
eyes.
These hopes than turn into great dreams and
we are so certain there would never be
anything in our way to stop our dreams
materializing. Our desires get intermingled
with these dreams and pride joins hands.
These dreams take hold of our existence.
The world is so wonderful. It invites you to go
forth and meander; plant the trees and design
the garden.
So with great hopes and certainty in our
infallibility we go ahead to build our castle.
We are so intent on building our castle that
we forget others who are there with us and
the world around us in which we are laying
our foundations. We do end up building our
castle and then soon realize that we have also
locked ourselves in.
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After looking around for the past 60 years, I

see only one thing: that we are all living with
a self-destruct button in our hands.
Life can flourish when we water it with care
and compassion but observe around we fill it
more with self-indulgence, prejudice and
segmentation. Our need to be seen as king is
more important than be accepted as a
person.
We let lose our anger, disdain and biting
words and then wonder why this world is such
a malefic & un-loving place. We start seeing
the effects of our errors soon enough in life
but arrogantly ignore the signs and signals
because in the small realm in which we are
growing as princes, we see no need.
I wish this truth had been taught to us early
so that we could have created a city for all of
us, rather than just a castle for ME.
This body that we call I will also be
reclaimed back by Mother Earth. So lets build
the castle together for togetherness but with
a mind to leave it behind for others.
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YOGIC SECRETS OF MATERIAL SUCCESS

Wealth is an acquired thing. It can be in any

domain or level of consciousness be it
Material or Spiritual. The secrets to acquire
wealth are the same.
The first secret is in the word Precision.
Whatever you desire needs to be precisely
pictured in your mind. Most of us tend to be
rather vague in our wantings. For our own
part we have no clear picture of the path and
goal we are going to take. There is a heavy
dose of wishful thinking in our plans.
Then we waver and depend on luck (or call it
fate) to provide the possibilities and
opportunities.
This will not do.

The second secret is in the word

Picturisation.
Paint a picture in your mind of what you
want. Fill in the details. When you want a car,
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decide which model and colour and even plan

out where you are going to park it. The
picture should be very precise. Then the
Universe will know what it has to do to
organize to make it happen for you.

The third secret is Input.

What exactly are you going to put in from
your side?
There are principles and morals + fears that
we have imbibed. Are they in tune with the
objective?
Our study is it complete and do we have
knowledge for the task on hand? How well do
we understand what we are getting into?

The fourth secret is Communication

Is your language precise enough and are you
good at putting your mind picture into words
accurately? When you speak is your
pronunciation/enunciation and the use of
words clear, are they based on the universally
accepted norms; are you sure the other
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person has clearly heard and understood you?

The need for clear and correct interpersonal
understanding is normally not valued by
people. We assume that we are doing a good
job but more often than not we end up
misunderstanding more than the other way
round and very often we understand not at all
but out of politeness do not mention it.

The fifth secret is Attitude

Do you go looking for solutions? Most of us are
experts at rationalizing and carpeting things
over. We prefer explaining and complaining
and that way prove to ourselves that it is all
beyond our control or not fault of ours. Once
we have adopted this attitude, we can blame
others squarely and continue to go merrily on
our way. This is hardly the way to success.

What is and ought to be

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The relationship game. As long as we continue

to see this as a male and female thing we
shall neither understand nor improve. The
point is this is just a manifestation of certain
Universal forces at work since the beginning
of time. We are instruments and pawns in the
game and hopefully evolving slowly. Nature,
Human or otherwise, The Spirit and things
like egos-selflessness, vindictivenessforgiveness, love-hate and regard-disdain etc
are all floating around and in action wherever
they find cause and recipients. This is the pot
I am always stirring.
Arguments are fun for people who like
arguments. I prefer to say what I want to say
and let the other say his piece. And we stop
there. No need to convince the other about
it. Questions are welcome for the sake of
clarification if so desired. But why argue? You
take it or reject it. And sarcasm to make your
point is a no-no.
See beyond the apparent. Our ideas of what
should be are definitely the goal but then
that does not mean things are that way. First
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let us see this clinically and then we try to

make things better. But the need is to first
impartially see things as they are and not as
we wish them nor in the image we feel
comfortable.
We cannot allow ourselves to get trapped in
arguments of good and bad, correct or
otherwise. There is really nothing as such.
Everything is and all things are around
because there is place for it on earth. Learn
about the Forces at play and learn to deal
with them - our work is to rise above them
and protect ourselves and any others we can
from the wrong movements - if we can.
Independence is just a word. We are all slaves
in some way or other.
There is psychology and then there are moral
principles. Objectivity is needed when we
study these two subjects. What is and what
ought to be are two different things.
Only when the ego gets individualised through
a more informed mind that the problem of
me & mine arises so much so that
Independence and Freedom become sore
points.
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The world at large is not affected by this

illness. Those that are will need to go beyond
the mind to find peace and contentment.
Most people just accept their fate and
bumble along. Grateful for the small mercies.

Most of the world's populace has no idea what

thoughts exist outside their little lives. They
accept what they are born into. Because their
thoughts do not trouble them, they seek not
further.
They may be in a state of discomfort &
displeasure but do not see anything horrific.
They have no idea that anything else exists.
The arrogance of the modern mind insists that
I will decide; everything that comes to me
or that goes from me I will decide.
Unfortunately life does not roll-out this way.
Whatever your laws, constitution, sages and
religions say, there is a give and take and we
have no control over the over-all
circumstances. Stronger physical forces have
an advantage and they are being constantly
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used/misused. The intelligent amongst us are

able to negotiate a better offer. But that is
all.
The women have no right of self
determination and are sexual slaves. Are
they?
Women have never bothered much how many
wives a man has, nor bothered much about a
little sexual exploitation. As long as they are
provided for and given proper care, they are
quite prepared to overlook other things.
Safety and security is first on their minds since ages this has been the first need.
Monogamy started long before the humans
(even in Apes) because it was required to
protect the children. Without family there is
no continuation. There are pros and cons to
all possibilities in relationships.
So everything has a place and let us be
understanding about it.
It is also true that men need to sow more
than one seed. And all women are not
available physiologically all the time, so the
necessity to have more than one around. It is
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actually good for the women. It gives them

respite from too much attention
Running away from unpleasant situations or
relationships is not that easy. And not always
the answer.
There are laws, necessities, obligations, lack
of options -all have to be considered and
most of the time the need for an income
traps you in a situation. Then there is laziness
and wishful thinking to add to the cauldron.
Hoping against hope is the worst.
Nothing is going to happen until your spirit
wakes up, comes to the fore and takes life by
the horns - with all the faculties involved
-which means -the thinking brain, the
intuitive brain while the body drops all
laziness and the heart distances itself from
selfishness.
This is one tall order and most humans would
rather go into slavery to the nearest Caliph
than make any effort.
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from my book: The Fakir's
Travels
the book is published by Les Editions de Net.
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* What if I say that when you choose the path

of self awareness, it only gets worse and
worse, until you pop out on the other side!?
It is quite like a sliver that pops out when it is
ready.

* I hear a lot about equality. Today I heard

two young ladies say that the Constitution
guarantees them rights to think and be as
they wish.
How ridiculous.
It is Human Nature and Mother Nature that
are running this world. The Constitution only
makes laws.
Unfortunately, to accept the fact that all
humans are evolved enough to be superior to
their instincts and will abide by these laws is
also an even more ridiculous error.

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* We are equal and equally endowed. This

tune is what has brought discordance in
human affairs.
It is a tragedy of human intelligence that just
having the "appearance" of human looking
animal is considered enough to be accepted
as equal legally. As if our persona is limited to
physical form. So the moron and the genius
are equated and of course it is like mixing
black and white to obtain an indeterminate
which is neither here nor there.

* As it is, leave someone in the park alone (of

course without any gadget in hand to connect
with) for 5 minutes and they start going
bonkers.

* The Silent Moment as Therapy. Find time out

to connect with the other world which is
made of silent communications. Please shut
off sound, focus on some thoughts/words that
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inspire you and help you pass thru the door to

the realm of your intimate self.

* The Passions and its world have so many

pleasures to entice us and keep us bound. It is
easy to get lost in the playground and
collapse from excesses. May Krishna free us
from this imprisonment of the self by our own
self! Let us not forget:
We are all free but do not want to be.

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The Semblance of Correctness

How serious are we?

The seriousness with which we take life or
have to survive it while it matters nought to
the Creator as things flow for HIM quite well
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as it is working out since the beginning of

time. Our thoughts and perceptions are
always based on education and personal
perspectives. The big joke is the one the
Great One is playing on us.
We have woven such a net of masking
manoeuvres to hide our intense subconscious
real wishes & desires that most of our life is a
continuous string of supportive acts that is
wholly, fully false. Certain precepts are
accepted (for example: that humans always
say what they mean even when we know
absolutely well that they rarely do and
witnesses in court do not lie or have seen
things accurately) and if this is pointed out,
people will bristle and indignation will rear its
head.
The entire fabric of our society is based on
false assumptions about the nature of human
character. It is nice that we think well and
perhaps even mean well but I think the
guiding force just now in the world is more
selfishness with total disregard of the world
at large and pride. We are ready to crush
others in our interest if anyone dares to point
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it out or worse prove it. Neither of which we

shall ever agree to.
We believe life is sacred but we invented the
hangman's noose, the guillotine, the electric
chair and other beautiful and fantastic
gadgets of mass murder. With what glee we
chop off heads and poke knives in the ribs!
We go to insane wars on unbelievable
pretexts. It is a sham and a joke but we are
not allowed to laugh.

We choose not to learn. It is so much easier

on the ego and the fabric of life we have built
around us. We always have enough humour to
laugh at ourselves but yet do not accept that
our escapades are our fault.
We see our ability to laugh as part of our
grand acceptance of life as it is. Yet when the
finely laid-out, so charmingly choreographed
little dramas end in regrettable episodes, we
always know that it is the lack of
understanding and diligence of some other
that made it so. The opportunity to learn and
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improve upon is not only ignored, it is

vehemently pushed away.
Who are we to make them see the light or
take a certain path?

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