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Sub title It may seem quite normal for men of a certain age to let go of
the thought that they may find love again. No matter how traditional
your thoughts may be, you have to agree if nothing else, if you are a
single dad, your children need another pillar of support.
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By Arundhati Bhardwaj
It may seem quite normal for men of a certain age to let go of the
thought that they may find love again. A tipping point may come in life
when you may prioritise other things over your love life, leaving you
lonely and hollow inside. No matter how traditional your thoughts may be,
you have to agree if nothing else, if you are a single dad, your
children need another pillar of support, apart from you and you cannot
keep turning to your family every time. Being independent in situations
such as these is most important.
Dating was hard enough when it was about two young, single and carefree
people and now that the equations have more variables, it seems quite
impossible to find a mate for life. If you think you can take out time
from the paperwork at office, then potty training and disciplining at
home stops you from exploring familiar territories of courtship.
If you think you are ready to get back on the saddle, we have come up
with a few tips that can help you gain the confidence to do so.
Are we there yet?
The first step to start dating is realising the fact that you are ready
to start a new chapter in life. And to do so, you have to move on from
the past. No matter what has happened, you have let go of any guilt
holding you back. Looking after the little ones is the most important job
in your life. However, taking care of yourself is a priority as well.
Make sure you are comfortable with starting to look for relationships and
it is a two way street Enter only if you are sure that you are
interested.
How to meet?
Surprisingly, there are many groups for single parents in Indian metros
springing up now. All you have to do is make the effort to find one and
join. The groups help you recuperate and let your feelings out.
Additionally, it's a great way to make new friends for support and
finding companionship.
There are many advantages when it comes to asking your friends and family
in these circumstances. Since they know and care about you, they would
make an informed effort in finding someone special for you.
Online?
Never shy away from technology, go online and look for like-minded
people. There's no awkwardness or downside to looking for a friend
online. Many relationships, strong and fulfilling, have formed through
the internet. Facebook , Bharat Matrimony,Shaadi.com, etc, are not any
less helpful than personal interactions.
Listen to your kids
The most important successor of the dating process is knowing that your
kids are fine with all the changes that are happening and going to happen
in the near future. You have to honour their thoughts and decisions in
this case, since you are now responsible for their lives and your own.
Different problems develop with different age groups, so always be
patient with your children and try being as honest as you can about your
sunshine yellow jacket can sobered down with a pair of black trousers and
shoes and a navy blue shirt, otherwise a pink shirt, with blue jeans can
be paired with a grey jacket. Experimentation is key.
RULE#4: AccessorizeMake a statement with a pair of colour-rimmed sunglasses and a neutral
shirt, or a pair of blue oxfords and a similar tint pocket square with a
grey trimmed suit, in case you are not comfortable with accessories. Turn
heads with a dark green leather bag with a black silk suit.
You could also make a bold move by matching the colours of your glasses
and shoes, while your clothes remain neutral.
Re-vamp your personal style by risking a few moves.
RULE#6: Go ethnicDo not limit yourself with western wear as colours are achievable in the
traditional attire too. A beige kurta with red pajamas or trousers, to an
evening get together, or a black Nehru jacket, yellow silk Jodhpuris and
a pocket square at a cocktail event can put you right in the spotlight.
Rewind back to the basics, with a pair of khaki wool pajamas and a blue
kurta with a navy blue felt jacket to mix it up for a stroll in the
winters. A little creativity can go a long way in style.
Branded in colourThe Indian ramps are flowing with exciting colours amid the new
collections by Manish Malhotra, Jenjum Gadi, Abhishek Dutta, Pia Pauro,
Wendell Rodericks, Virtues and others, while brands like Paul Smith,
Gucci, Salvatore Ferragamo, Canali, Hermes, Hugo BOSS, J.Crew, Louis
Vuitton, and Marc Jacobs, and many more have brightened the gloomy
winters with their intense colour combinations.
Spiff-up your closet by visiting them at their stores or online.
Beard beard.
In the last article we had discussed the appealing qualities of the upper
lip fuzz. Let's jump back on the fur wagon and take a look at beards.
With 'Movember' out with a blast, last season, fur-scaping is now running
with the likes of gymming, clothing, accessorising, for an appealing
overall personality makeover. A beard can enhance or impair your look
within the first glance. Facial hair is the best way to give a notable
first impression, make a dent on others' minds by sporting the balbo
style or turn heads with a sultry stubble.
Trim it down.
A trim once in a while will never hurt your sex appeal. There is a lot to
choose from, when you want to change from clean shaven to a testosterone
filled character. The same face structure can carry off many different
beard styles, some in-trend ones being the full beard, stubble, and the
short goatee.
What to wear?
The latest trend is to just keep a light stubble on the face, otherwise,
if you can handle it, always try to take a bigger risk with your face
furniture.
Balbo (Mo-beard)
A wide beard that covers the chin, as well as a small area beyond it;
Accompanied by a separated mustache. This rampant, old England beard,
just grown enough for a lady to run her hands through, makes for an
obvious choice to show what an uproar you are. See Eric Dane for
reference, as he struts his charming and elegant self on the red carpet.
Try this beard with long tied back hair or sleek combed back hair.
Circle beard (French beard)
A chin beard and mustache connected by hair along the sides of one's
mouth, thus, forming a circle. If you are inclined to making people
underestimate your sex appeal, a subtle yet powerful trimmed goatee is
one good option. This humble, manicured and discreet beard, commands
attention and how! Take a look at the charming Blair Underwood and his
impeccable taste in beards. There is no denying that a goatee can go
horribly wrong if not groomed right (Brad Pitt's hit and miss defeat by
the hippie look and haphazard goatee).
Full beard
A beard covering the lower part of the face You want to be the manly
lumberjack from the high mountains of Minnesota or seem perceptive and
wise like Sigmund Freud go for the well trimmed full beard. Look at the
rakishly handsome George Clooney, and his classic peppery beard, or Jake
Gyllenhaal maturing into the handsome man that he is, with his
impressively groomed fuzz that he started growing for his Broadway debut
'If There Is I Havent Found It Yet'. This enigmatic, raw look can make
any girl swoon.
Heavy stubble (5 o'clock shadow)
Very short hair of only one or a few days growth. Can be worn all over
Mix up your styles and don't over think the beard, keep it clean, trimmed
and groomed and you will be the dashing paramour that every woman craves
and every man envies.
Jacket length
With your arms on the side, curl your fingers up. The jacket's ends
should be in your hands. A suit jacket must cover most of your zipper and
all of the rear. Shorter jackets are a fashionable look at the moment.
However, if you have a larger frame, its best to stick to a longer
jacket to elongate your silhouette.
Sleeve
Your sleeve should stop just above the joint of your wrist, enabling you
to show a quarter-inch of the cuff. And if you want your suit to fit like
those of the magazine or catalog models, then you'll want to have the
sleeves tailored to proportionally fit your arms. Take the help of a
tailor for the same.
Trousers
Trouser width should be comfortable, especially around the thigh. There
should be zero tugging while walking and sitting down. To accentuate your
upper body, go for slim cut trousers also a great choice if youre
shorter.Your trousers should hang neatly and straight at the back with
the break over the shoe. The back should not be too floppy or too
defined... Either of the two giving the awkward plausibility of sloppy
measurements.
Expect the following in a good parlourThe autoclave is a steaming device used to sterilise the needles and
other equipment. Be sure to watch the whole procedure of cleansing the
equipment.
You will be given a release form stating that you want the tattoo made on
your body and any health risk is not the parlour's fault.
The tattoo artist will be a licensed practitioner (yes, tattoos have a
license too) with references.
Negotiate your price
Commonly any tattoo in India will start at Rs.1500 per square inch for a
black-and-white design and Rs. 2000 for coloured. The price will grow
with the time taken to finish the tattoo. Take an estimate from the
artist and figure out how much you are willing to pay. A good parlour
will charge you more since they take keen interest in finishing the
artwork to the last detail.
What to expect when you are expecting
A good parlour will ask you to come completely clean on the T-day. They
will make sure the area being poked and prodded be sterilised, the artist
will wear gloves while working on you. Every time you need to take a
break, the wound will be cleaned with sterile soap and water. Once
finished, the area will be wiped clean, spread with antiseptic cream and
bandaged for safety and yes, the whole process is going to hurt.
Depending on your ability to endure pain, you might feel slight tickles
or simply faint on the chair. Take a friend if you know you cannot do
this alone.
Post tat instructions
Avoid drinking on the day of the tattoo.
Keep the bandage on for at least a day.
Once you take the bandage off, wash the wound with sterile soap and
water.
Avoid using water on the area for at least a week.
If there are any signs of redness put a pack of ice on it.
Keep applying antiseptic cream or petroleum jelly.
Keep your tattoo away from the sunlight till it heals.
Keep using sunscreen and petroleum jelly on the tattoo even after it
heals.
Under no circumstances are you allowed to pick on the scabs!
eyes.
Take the help of your friends or family members for this one. Be sure to
choose some one who can handle recording equipment and make a video worth
keeping. Try writing your own songs, if you aren't that talented you can
always try her favourite singer. You don't think you have it in you to
make a fool of yourself, just write a good speech and ask her the
question at the end of the video. Make it a surprise by uploading it on
Youtube and asking her to see a funny video you stumbled upon.
Picture perfect
Click different photographs for the big question
Plus point She will cherish the efforts you put in for a long time to
come. Photographs can be permanent and right on track with the digital
age. Getting your hands dirty with glue and scissors never gave such
rewards till now.
Click photos of different words that spell out the question, you can find
them on signages outside and send them to her on the phone one by one.
See the old Nokia ad for reference. Or simply make a scrapbook of the
time you have spent together with a page asking for her hand in marriage
at the end. A time capsule can also do the trick but it's risky. You have
to plan it well before the day you would ask her.
A friend in need
Get your friends and family involved
Plus point It will be more special if you have your loved ones around
you. She will be overwhelmed, no doubt, but this could go in the right
direction if you play your cards right. Special points for getting the
children to help you.
Get them to wear shirts with the letters that spell out 'will you marry
me' when they stand accordingly. See the movie Meet the Fockers for
reference. Get the kids to deliver her the ring. If you are confident
enough, get her to a surprise engagement party, which is actually meant
for her.
If you know you know you love her, you should not have any problems in
sweeping her off her feet. She would probably fall head over heels again
if you try to make the big day even bigger for her. Take on a few risks
and you might end up with a story to tell your grand kids.