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Purpose, People, Planet, Probity

Stress Management

RESPECT YOUR CHILD'S INDIVIDUALITY

Live A Life That Matters

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Purpose, People, Planet, Probity

The four cornerstones of sustainable success in any modern business venture & a
maxim for todays management & organisational philosphy. This model is not a
process or technique its the character or personality of a good manager.
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Probity means honesty, uprightness,-its from the Latin word Probus , meaning
good.

Purpose is an apt replacement for profit & thus makes the acronym appropriate
for use in not-for-profit organisations. Profit-focused corporations can of course
substitute 'Profit' for 'Purpose'

People staff,customers,suppliers,e.t.c

Planet the environment we live in

Traditional inward-looking management and managerial skills (which historically

considered only the purpose - typically profit - and the methods for achieving it)
are no longer sufficient for sustainable organisational success. Organisations
have a far wider agenda today. Moreover, performance, behaviour and standards
are transparent globally - the whole world can see and judge how managers and
organisations behave - and the modern manager must now lead with this global
accountability.

You should have the heart to love the difficult people. This is again a
learnable skill. Learn to understand & help people with different personalities.
Be responsible in the way you treat others.You cannot choose how people
treat you , but you can choose how you respond to them.
The Sherman tank :- These people intimidate others because of their I am
right ,you are wrong attitude.They are hostile & aggressive & people are ready
to fight with them because tanks are insensitive & hard to reason with.
To deal with them first consider this persons influence & the issue at hand.If
the issue is not worth fighting over , do not confront them about it.Neverthless,
if a confrontation is unavoidable , be direct & meet the specific issues head-on
The Space Cadet: These people live in their own world.They do not respond
to motivations & frustation is the normal feeling which you get when working
with these people.While working with them, do not evaluate your leadership
by their response.Infact do not ask their opinion about something because
chances are that you will just get an off-the-wall answer.Similarly do not place
them in teams or positions of leadership because they are incapable of
determining the heartbeat of others.Nonetheless do not consider them a lost
cause.They are often extremely intelligent & creative & they usually work best
alone.Just find the key to their uniqueness and capitalize on it.
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The Volcano : There are many around you. These people tend to be
unapproachable because of their explosive, unpredictable personality types.
In dealing with Volcanos, calmness is the key. Try to get the facts straight &
minimize exaggrerations or eliminate hearsays from the conservation.Then
give them a soft, clear answer & hold them accountable for the things they
say and the people they hurt
These people are the classic negative thinkers.They are always down and
find problems in everything.they are excuse makers. To deal with such
people, it is important that you do not provide them the opportunity to make
excuses. Kindly,yet firmly tell them that their attitude is a hinderance in the
groups progress.
BILL Gates Says that I become the richest man on the face of earth by treating
my employees in good way. A Great Boss is Someone Who :
1. "Is creative, innovative and challenging"
2. "You are impressed with in regard to their academic/professional experience"
3. "Has integrity in his/her work"
4. "Is very open about info"
5. "Does more and talks less"
6. "Is technically clever in the job"
7. Doesn't attack you in front of others never insults your to hide his drawback"
8. Fights for your right with top management
9. Involves you with all other colleagues in their work"
10. "Gives you credit for your work and does not name it for himself"
The conclusion is that there is need for good managers and if we have good
managers, it will help to make a best team that will be ready for anykind of challenge.
(Inputs from Ms. Sheela Mistry, Insight Associates)

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Stress Management's " A to Z "

Always take time for yourself, at least 30 minutes per day.
Be aware of your own stress meter: Know when to step back and cool down.
Concentrate on controlling your own situation, without controlling everybody
else.
Daily exercise will burn off the stress chemicals.
E at lots of fresh fruits, veggies,and drink plenty of water; give your body the
best for it to perform at it's best.
Forgive others, don't hold grudges and be tolerant -- not Everyone is as
capable as you.
Gain perspective on things ; how important is the issue?
H ugs, kisses and laughter: Have fun and don't be afraid To share your
feelings with others.
Identify stresses and plan to deal with them better next time.
Judge your own performance realistically; don't set goals out of your own
reach.
Keep a positive attitude, your outlook will influence outcomes and the way
others treat you.
Limit alcohol, drugs and other stimulants, they affect your perception and
behaviour.
Manage money well, seek advice and save at least 10 per cent of what you
earn.
No is a word you need to learn to use without feeling guilty.
Outdoor activities by you, or with friends and family, can be a great way to
relax.
Play your favourite music rather than watching television.
Quit smoking: It is stressing your body daily, not to mention killing you too.
Relationships: Nurture and enjoy them, learn to listen more and talk less.
Sleep well, with a firm mattress and a supportive pillow; don't overheat
yourself and allow plenty of ventilation.
Treat yourself once a week with a massage, dinner out, the movies:Moderation
is the key.
Understand things from the other person's point of view.
Verify information from the source before exploding.
Worry less; it really does not get things completed better or quicker.
X press: Make a regular retreat to your favourite place, make holidays a part
of your yearly plan and budget.
Yearly goal setting: Plan what you want to achieve based on your priorities in
your career, relationships, etc.
Zest for life: Each day is a gift, smile and be thankful that you are a part of the
bigger picture.
(Courtesy : Mr. Mukesh Mehta, Heubach Colour)

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RESPECT YOUR CHILD'S INDIVIDUALITY

Sometimes the line between caring and guiding / & interfering in their lives is so
thin as to be non-existent, and we are always trying to show them how to live: let
us learn from our experiences, tho' it is hard to allow them to learn from theirs esp.
when you know there is a better alternative, and are itching to show it to them.
Parents often wonder what parenting is all about. As there are so many variables in
each person's personality, and behaviour, there is no single right or wrong way in
bringing up a child. Each person's past life determines his / her present concept of
parenting. A parent is constantly on a journey of exploration. The pathway is
cobbled with problems, surprises, complications and joy. However, each parent has
a common goal of developing a better relationship with the child.
Most parents are flattered and feel a sense of control when their child emulates
them.But what about the time when you do not clearly see yourself in the child? As
a parent, you have certain expectations of how your child should behave, but his or
her behaviour may not model your own. Your child may not behave in a way that
you deem appropriate. His or her choices may differ from yours. This shatters
many parents.
By making fewer emotional demands, you will be able to get other needs met by
your child. If you push your child against the wall, you will face resistance and
defiance. Letting him / her find their own way is often difficult, but it comes with
long term rewards of trust and love.
Loving and concerned parents at times get disappointed when their growing
children become independent and self sufficient. These are healthy signs. You have
to raise your children to be independent and emotionally self sufficient, but at the
same time loving and caring towards you.
The individuality of children needs to be respected. If children differ from parents
who have constantly and selflessly nurtured them or made sacrifices for them, they
should not feel let down and neither should this lead to conflict in the relationship.
For as "Khalil Gibran" has written.
"YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT YOUR CHILDREN, THEY ARE THE SONS &
DAUGHTERS OF LIFE'S LONGING FOR ITSELF. THEY COME THROUGH
YOU BUT NOT FROM YOU. AND THOUGH THEY ARE WITH YOU, YET THEY
BELONG NOT TO YOU. YOU MAY GIVE THEM YOUR LOVE BUT NOT YOUR
THOUGHTS,FOR THEY HAVE THEIR OWN THOUGHTS. YOU MAY HOUSE
THEIR BODIES BUT NOT THEIR SOULS, FOR THEIR SOULS DWELL IN THE
HOUSE OF TOMORROW, WHICH YOU CAN NOT VISIT, NOT EVEN IN YOUR
DREAMS YOU MAY STRIVE TO BE LIKE THEM, BUT SEEK NOT TO MAKE
THEM LIKE YOU "
(Courtesy: Mr. Jiten Bhuta / Jay Process, Mumbai)

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Live A Life That Matters

Ready or not, someday it will all come to an end.
There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.
All the things you collected, whether treasured or
forgotten, will pass to someone else.
Your wealth, fame and worldly power, will shrivel to irrelevance.
It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.
Your grudges, resentments, frustrations,and jealousies
will finally disappear.
So too, your hopes, ambitions, plans,
and to-do lists will expire.
The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.
It won't matter where you came from, or on what
side of the tracks you lived, at the end.
It won't matter whether you were beautiful or brilliant.
Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.
So what will matter?
How will the value of your days be measured?
What will matter is not what you bought, but what
you built; not what you got, but what you gave.
What will matter is not your success, but your significance.
What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.
What will matter is every act of integrity,
compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched,
empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.
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What will matter is not your competence, but your character.
What will matter is not how many people you knew,
but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.
What will matter is not your memories, but the
memories that live in those who loved you.
What will matter is how long you will be remembered,
by whom, and for what.
Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.
It's not a matter of circumstance, but of choice.
Choose to live a life that matters.
(inputs from Mr. Dilip Shukla, Director Afro-Asian Insurance, Mumbai.)

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Even a pundit comes to grief by giving instruction to a foolish disciple.

Consider again and again the following : the right time, the right place, the right
means of income, the right ways of spending, and from whom you derive your
power.

Those born blind cannot see; similarly blind are those in the grip of lust. Proud
men have no perception of evil; and those bent on acquiring riches see no sin in
their actions.

The man who is praised by others as great is regarded as worthy though he may
be really void of all merit. But the man who sings his own praises lowers himself
in the estimation of others though he should be Indra (the possessor of all
excellencies).
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In life's race, compete against yourself, primarily.

Don't be too concerned with how well other people run.
That athlete runs best, who looks straight ahead.
That athlete wins the most, who improves on his own record

::Editorial Committee::
Chairman
Mr. Jayen Mehta, GNFC Ltd.
Members
Mr. Mukesh Mehta, Heubach Colour,
Ms. Sheela Mistry, Insight Associates,
Mr. G.M. Patel, GNFC Ltd.
Dr. M.S. Patel, GNFC Ltd.
ePanorama Advisory committee
Mr. R P Vyas -President,
Mr.Kamlesh Udani -Past President,
Mr.Ashok Panjwani -Vice President,
Mr.K A Shah - Vice President

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