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FEB. 5, 2015
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A few months ago, I read several articles
touting the health benefits of writing in a
deeply personal way. Studies had shown
that writing introspectively on a regular
basis can lead to lowered blood pressure,
improved liver function and even the
accelerated healing of postoperative
wounds. The studys subjects had been told
to write for short periods each day about
turbulent emotional experiences.
I bet a lot of them wrote about love. As the
editor of this column, I have spent much of
the last decade reading stories of peoples
turbulent emotional experiences. They all
involved love in one way or another.
Which isnt so surprising. Who hasnt been
stirred up by love? But these writers had
spun their experiences into stories and sent
them here, where more than 99 percent
must be turned away.
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It seems the harder we work at finding love,
the more prone we are to second-guessing
the results. High-volume online daters
worry about this, along with those who
routinely attend singles events.
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The fear is we may force things or
compromise after pushing so hard for so
long. We may admire hard work in most
endeavors, but we admire laziness when it
comes to finding love. (If you manage to
stay together over the long haul, however, it
will be because of effort, not chance.)
When some people write about love, they
cant find the right words to capture the
intensity of their feelings, so they rely on
stock terms that are best avoided. These
include (but are not limited to): amazing,
gorgeous, devastating, crushed, smitten,
soul mate and electrifying.
Popular phrases include: meet cute, heart
pounded, heart melted, Ill always
remember, Ill never forget and Reader,
I married him. Then there is everyones
favorite stock word regardless of subject:
literally. As in, our date was literally
electrifying.
Women and men may feel love similarly,
but they write about it differently.