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NEWSLETTER Marriage and Family

Volume 1, Issue 2 January—March 2010
Special points of

 Husbands Love Your

Husbands Love Your Wives
Wives Husbands, have you ever found other woman. Now that you
it difficult to love your wife? are joined as one, she is to take
 Wives Respect Your
There will be times that her precedence before all relation-
behavior may seem to make it ships except God.
 Appropriate Discipline impossible. The good news is
that you have it within you to Develop a close and intimate
For Your Children relationship with the Lord, so
love her exceedingly. Just as
 Recognizing the Enemy Christ sacrificed his life for the that you can also have a close,
church and poured His love into intimate relationship with your
 Exercising Your Author- the church, he expects you to wife. Don’t allow her to be
ity in Prayer disillusioned and discouraged by Nothing gives a woman more
sacrificially love your wife. your lack of openness and inti- joy than to have monies for
 Husbands as Leaders Jesus continuously nourishes, macy. Learn what really makes more than just necessities. Get
protects and provides for the her happy. Find out what areas rid of the little foxes that spoil
church and He has laid out this that need healing in her life so the vine; resentment, anger and
wonderful example for you. that she can experience com- malice. Nothing will hinder
Just as you protect yourself, plete healing in her soul. Ex-
Inside this issue: your prayers more than holding
feeds yourself, pampers your- periencing healing in one’s per- on to unforgiveness. Remem-
self, you are to do the same for sonality will release a peace ber to be tender, affectionate
your wife. Pamper her, know within your marriage and family. with her throughout the day.
what her needs, desires, goals Encourage her, as my husband Let her know that you love her
Appropriate Dis- 2 and aspirations are in life. See did, to attend Christian retreats
cipline For Your that she is esteemed by you. so she can experience an en- verbally and with actions.
Children When she has done all she can counter with God.
to dress beautiful, she needs to So, again I say, each man must
Recognizing the 2 know from your own mouth Provide for her financially, she love his wife as he loves himself,
Enemy that she is beautiful. She needs needs more than just groceries and the wife must respect her
to know and see that she comes in the house. Allow her to have husband. Ephesians 5:33
first , not your mother or some an allowance for shopping.
Exercising Your 2
Authority in
Husbands, You 3
are the Leader Wives Respect Your Husbands
Wives, have you ever found it spect by his wife. Paul some- This does not mean that you
difficult to respect your hus- how knew this would be a prob- are inferior or to become a
Wives, Gentle 3 band? Or have you made it a lem with wives. It started in the doormat. It does not mean that
and Quiet Spirit practice to disrespect your garden of Eve. Eve decided to you do not have leadership
spouse? As the Apostle Paul disrespect God and her husband ability. We are called to be a
have admonished wives to re- by taking control to make her helpmate to our husbands.
She Builds Her 3 spect their husbands, it is not a own decisions. Choose today Assist him and give your opin-
House requirement that’s difficult to to honor your husband, allow ions when needed. Be exem-
carry out. There is nothing him to be the head of the plary in being that meek and
more that shrivels and despairs household, praise him, esteem quiet person; a woman of godli-
Standing Strong 4 the spirit of a man than disre- him, venerate and defer to him. ness and excellence.
Against Attacks
Page 2 Marriage and Family Enhancement

Appropriate Discipline For Your Children

As a parent you firm and consistent to exercise able.”(Anderson). Parents build
desire to see discipline when children dis- your children up by praising
your children obey. We are to discipline out and affirming them for the
grow and ma- of love and patience. those things that are truly wor-
ture; becoming a thy of praise. Let them know
responsible indi- “Never take your own revenge, verbally that you love them,
vidual. Discipline beloved, but leave room for hug them and kiss them on
is a part of loving the wrath of God, for it is writ- their cheek. There is nothing
your children. It ten, “Vengeance is mine, I will like the warm embrace of a
is not responding repay,” says the Lord.” Ro- parent reassuring that child
in vehement anger and rage to mans 12:19. Character assassi- that he/she is very important
“Children, obey your correct your child. Parents nation, degrading your children and special. “Fathers, do not
parents in the Lord: must set guidelines and stan- will only release fear, deep- provoke your children to anger
for this is right. Honor dards for their children to fol- seated anger and bitterness by the way you treat them.
thy father and mother;
low and inform their children against you. “For rules to be Rather, bring them up with the
which is the first com- effective, they must be defensi-
mandment with prom- of the consequences for dis- discipline and instruction that
obedience. Parents must be ble, definable and enforce-
ise” Ephesians 6:1,2 comes from the Lord.” Eph 6:4

“For we wrestle
Recognizing the Enemy
not against
Husbands and wives must rec- grants the enemy to work dys- must subdue it and be its mas-
flesh and blood, ognize that your spouse is not function within the relationship ter.” God has given us power
your enemy. Although, Satan for the purpose of destroying to master sin and not allow
but against would rather you think that families. Just as God spoke to Satan to use us for his advan-
your spouse is the enemy. Cain about his sin of anger, he tage. “Look! I have given you
principalities, Dispel this lie. If there is an refused to master the sin. the authority to trample on
area in your heart that you “Why are you so angry?” the snakes and scorpions to de-
against powers, have not submitted to Christ Lord asked Cain. “Why do stroy all the enemy’s power,
through repentance and renun- you look so dejected? You will and nothing will ever hurt you.”
against the ciation, Satan can have open be accepted if you do what is
access to use and control your right. But if you refuse to do Luke 10:19. We are not left
rulers of behavior. For example, sins of what is right, then watch out! helpless and defenseless. Rec-
the flesh, unresolved anger, Sin is crouching at the door, ognize that the enemy is here
darkness of this jealousy, hatred. These sins eager to control you. But you to kill, steal and destroy. Be
alert and prayerful!

Exercising Your Authority in Prayer

There is nothing more impor- reading and meditating in the emy from your life and family.
tant than exercising the power Word. The Lord will be faith- Providing a shield and protec-
of prayer in the home. It is ful to honor your desire to tion over your family. I can
essential that husband and draw close to Him. Our rela- testify that God is so faithful to
wives spend quality time in tionship with the Lord is to be watch over His Word to per-
devotion. Spend time with close and intimate, but this form it. I have interceded and
your spouse in the Word of doesn’t happen by being indif- prayed for many that God have
God and prayer. Wives if your ferent and complacent. You miraculous provided healing
spouse do not take interest in must put forth effort by loving and deliverance. So great is His
prayer, you must purpose in the Word, praying and seeking faithfulness! “One day Jesus
your heart to spend time with God. Prayer releases a re- told his disciples a story to
“Praying always with God in prayer and the Word. freshing peace over your soul. show that they should always
all prayer and suppli- Cultivate your relationship with It grants you the ability to fully pray and never give up.” (Luke
cation in the Spirit”.. the Lord. Ask Him to open rely and trust God. It removes 18:1).
Ephesians 6:18 your understanding to prayer, the hindering work of the en-
Volume 1, Issue 2 Page 3

Husbands, You Are the Leader

Husbands you were designated being teachable. Submit to can move out the potential for
and ordained by God as the godly counseling, attend mar- stress and disappointment in
leader in your marriage. This is riage enrichment seminars, the marriage. There is not a
your responsibility in your above all read the Word of formula for being the leader;
family. Don’t shrink back on God and ask Him to enlighten but with Christ you can do all
your responsibilities or become you on your responsibilities as things through Him as He gives
a dictator. Lovingly and sacrifi- a leader. Take your wife on a you strength. Be responsible
cially take on your role as a weekend marriage retreat and with the finances in the home
leader in the home. Walk with lavish all your attention on her. by being the godly steward that
wisdom and know what it God has called you to be.
means to be a leader in your As a leader of your home, rec- Good stewardship with fi-
family. Just as you train for a ognize you can’t meet every nances and other areas makes a ...I will lead them in
skill or profession to be knowl- need of your wife. There are reflection on your relationship paths that they have
edgeable and effective on your needs that only the Lord Jesus with the Lord Jesus. Choose not known: I will
job be willing to be trained to can meet in a individual’s life. to love the Lord exceedingly make darkness light
Recognizing that you are not before them, and
be the best leader, husband and and this love will pour into crooked things
Dad in your home. This means perfect and she is not perfect
your leadership ability. straight. Isaiah 42:16

Wives, Gentle and Quiet Spirit

“Let it be the
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to that it was odd, that when I geous and beautiful we look on
your own husbands, that even if started holding Bible studies the outside, but it is about the hidden person
some do not obey the word, they, with women, how that women inner man. A beautiful spirit on
without a word, may be won by could just ramble on and on the inside, because we have of the heart,
the conduct of their wives, when with excessive talking. Can you submitted to the Lord in obedi-
they observe your chaste conduct imagine a spouse being disillu- ence. We have cultivated our with the
accompanied by fear. Do not let sioned by continuous nagging heart in the Word and prayer.
your adornment be merely out- and excessive talkativeness by Therefore, when we are with incorruptible
ward arranging the hair, wearing his wife? Whenever I start our spouse, this beautiful spirit
gold, or putting on fine apparel- talking and it gets to be a bit comes forth. This is how we beauty of a
rather let it be the hidden person much, the Holy Spirit reminds win our unsaved husband to
of the heart, with the incorruptible me, now you need to be quiet the Lord. It is not by nagging, gentle and quiet
beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, and mindful of your words. preaching and leaving scrip-
which is very precious in the sight Ladies, our beauty and adorn- tures; we must honor God. spirit”
of God.” (I Peter 1-4) I thought ment is not about how gor-

She Builds Her House

“A wise woman builds her home, friends. For God says, he hates ration in one’s marriage. Try-
but a foolish woman tears it down divorce, but yet this has been ing to hold on to one’s rights
with her own hands.” your focus through ungodly will only continue a cycle of
advice. Gossiping about your dysfunction within the mar-
Proverbs 14:1 husband; speaking slanderous riage. We must let go of pride
I’ve seen many examples of a and malicious ways about him and humble ourselves. Ladies
woman destroying her mar- to others, this is a sure way to begin with shielding and pro- Those who follow the
destroy your marriage and tecting your marriage by sub- right path fear the
riage. For example, confiding
Lord; those who take
confidential information of your home. A wife that fails to be mitting to the precepts of God.
the wrong path de-
marriage to someone that does submitted to the precepts of Ask the Lord to set a guard spise him.
not have your best interest at the Lord and rebels against his before your mouth and keep
heart. So called “friends” that ways are headed for destruc- the door of your lips. Do as Proverbs 14:2
are just pushing you to dissolve tion. Dealing with the root David did, ask God to create in
your marriage are not true issues of bitterness can open you a clean heart and a right
the door for healing and resto- spirit.
CYNTHIA WILSON Loving God and Loving People

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Standing Strong Against Attacks

“A final word: Be strong in the Word of God, having a teach-
Lord and in his mighty power. Put able heart, asking God for wis-
on all of God’s armor so that you dom in your circumstances.
will be able to stand firm against Asking God to reveal to you
all strategies of the devil. For we what tactics Satan are using in
are not fighting against flesh-and- your marriage to bring about
blood enemies, but against evil disharmony and destruction.
rulers and authorities of the un- Some of these tactics may be
seen world, against mighty powers obvious, some will be subtle.
in this dark world, and against evil We are not to give place to the
spirits in the heavenly places.” enemy by anger, control, ma-
Ephesians 6:10-12. nipulation, complacency, jeal-
goes to war without knowing ousy. There are many sins of
Husbands and wives must rec- who his enemy is and what the flesh that I have not listed,
ognize that marriage is a God- tactics and schemes are being but we as believers need to be
ordained relationship and once used against him. That means submitted to God. “Submit to
entered into by covenant vows, husbands and wives are to God, resist the enemy and he
Satan is on the war path to will flee.” Stand strong against
destroy what God has or- the attacks of the enemy by
dained, whether you are a be- “Hold up the shield of faith to obedience to God, prayer,
liever or non-believer. We stop the fiery arrows of the exercising your God-given
must be proactive. Take an devil.” Ephesians 6:16 authority. Know what tactics
offensive and defensive ap- are taking place and rebuke the
proach to protect your mar- become knowledgeable about presence of evil forces in your
LOVING GOD riage against the spiritual at- their enemy, Satan. It is done
tacks of Satan. Now, no one home.
through spending time in the