16 Most Important Things Every Woman Should Learn

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A woman is a beast. She is as lovely as she is repulsive. She is one part demon and one part goddess, one part
slave and one part muse, one part child and one part mother. These contradictions are what makes a woman
so intoxicating.
Andrea Mary Marshall

Note:This not just limited to one gender, its for everyone. But it is, however, dedicated to the
sisterhood.
To every single woman in this world, I dedicate this post to you. May we always strive to become better people.
1.To be brave and to always follow your fears.
Life shrinks or expands in proportion to ones courage.- Anais Nin
If you werent afraid of anything, what would you do?
With courage, you are given the power to do anything in the world. We hold ourselves back so much
because of fear. Ive known so many women who have immense potential and power within them, but
they dont do what theyve always wanted to do or needed to do because theyre too afraid. So theyre
stuck in this loop, this cage, where they stay stagnant and they keep inhibiting themselves with their
fears. And all I want to do is to help them and pull them out of it, but the only way to do it is if they
get out of that loop themselves. You have to realize it for yourself. At the other end of fear is always
freedom. On that other side, a whole realm of possibilities awaits you.
If we were to face and conquer all these fears we have, can you imagine how liberated and blissful you
would feel after? Face your fears and be free from it. Start today. Do something that scares you. You
could start with something small like randomly talking to a stranger, to screaming in public
randomly,to cli jumping, to sky diving, swimming with whale sharks, to spontaneously traveling to a
city or country youve never been to. As you conquer each bigger fear one by one you are allowing
yourself to grow and to be free. Liberation from your fears is the most power kind of liberation there is.

2.Youre much stronger than you know.

We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.Carlos Castaneda
Even when youre crying on the floor begging the gods for mercy. Even when your heart is broken open,
vulnerable, weak, and people are waiting to take an aim for it. Even when everything seems bleak and
dim. Even when you feel weak and you feel like giving up on life. Even when you feel like youre caving
into yourself. You are much stronger. Much much stronger, than you will ever realize. I know this
because I have been at my absolute weakest, ready to give up on my life. And somehow, I found the
strength. If I can do that at my rock bottom then I believe within every cell of me that anyone, most
especially any woman, can find strength in them. And this is why I will always hold on to this truth.
Physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually we are much stronger than we will ever know. Every
single of one of us darling, every single one.

3. Never let a man define you.

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you
flowers.- Jorge Luis Borges
Never let a man take charge of your happiness. Never rely on a man for happiness. Never let a man, or
anyone else define you or anyone for that matter. You dont need a man to be happy. You are in charge
of your own happiness. Dont get me wrong, being in love is a beautiful thing. Loving each other is one

of the greatest things in the world. But a lot of women, tend to rely on their man, on their love, for
their happiness. Dont get attached, dont need, dont be dependent. You tend to lose yourself when you
do that. When you lose yourself, you lose focus, you tend to lose your ambitions, you lose track of your
path and put your dreams on hold. You can still certainly love someone without having them define
you, without needing each other so badly you cant live without each other. Women need to find
happiness within themselves on their own, before they choose to truly love another.

4. Whatever judgments you impose on other people, most especially other women, is a reflection
of yourself.
If you judge people, you have no time to love them. Mother Teresa
Even if you think that they are truly flawed, even if they did you wrong, whatever you judgements you
make of a person is a reflection of yourself. I get how this is a hard pill to swallow, because automatically
our brain says well clearly this person is doing something wrong, or they have flaws, how can that be a
reflection of myself? In reality, that judgement you made of them says more about who you are than
them. The more we choose to see people through their flaws, the more it reflects our own. Instead, we
should always choose to see the good in them. Again, no matter how much they are wrong, no matter
how much their traits bother us, no matter how flawed we think they are, it doesnt matter. It takes a lot
of practice and awareness to do it, I had to keep re-learning this myself. But we should practice on keep
other peoples negative traits to ourselves and focus on speaking of the good we see in them. When you
choose to always see the good in people, their bad somehow melts away. When you start to believe that
they are good, they too, will believe it as well and will choose to be the good that you see in them.

5. To meditate.
Then I meditated for an hour of bone-tingling stillness until I finally felt it again that specific,
constant, clear-sky, unrelated-to-anything, never-shifting, nameless and changeless perfection of my
own happiness. Elizabeth Gilbert
Meditation has completely shifted my life and made me a better woman. Its tough to do it in the
beginning because weve been accustomed to this monkey thinking pattern that weve had our whole
lives. I couldnt even meditate for 10 seconds, thoughts kept popping in and it was so dicult to have a
clear mind. But when I focused more on my breathing, literally focusing on my inhales and exhales,
suddenly everything was clear. Because of meditation my depression was gone, I became much less
anxious, and I wasnt that fearful, pessimistic person who was easily bothered by things. Now I sit or lay
down to meditate at least three times a day. I do this for everything, to visualize my dreams, to clear
negative thoughts and emotions, to connect with the source, to connect with my inner self. You can do
this through cloud gazing, star gazing, through prayers, through running, and just by being in the
moment. There are many forms of meditations. As you get deeper into it you will feel the oneness that
connects us all to each other, to the Earth, to the Universe. And youll be happier, more loving, more
positive, complete and at peace with yourself and everything that surrounds you.

6. Dream big.
If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough.-Kristine K. Stevens
Whats the point in playing small? In working for other people and their dreams? We should always aim
to fulfill our wildest and biggest dreams. We are given this beautiful life to live, we should use
everything we have to make our biggest dreams happen. Do something everyday, even if its something
small that could get you there, these small steps are what will make your dreams come alive. Theyre
little pieces to the bigger puzzle, if you keep making the eort to piece it all together then one day your
dreams will unfold. It takes a lot of hard work, patience, persistence, and trusting the universe. If you
believe in visualize your dreams and believe in it with every cell of you, it will manifest.

7. Travel & explore as much as you possibly can, especially on your own.
Travel is never a matter of money but of courage. -Paulo Coelho

We were born wanderers. Its in our nature to explore and see the world as much as we possibly can.
Theres this insatiable wanderlust within all of us that will not get satisfied until we get out there and see
the world. Its common for people to recite a list of reasons as to why women shouldnt travel, most
especially alone. These reasons are mostly fears and doubts that they have on themselves. Dont listen to
them. These people are usually the ones who have never even been out of the country ortrulytraveled
themselves. The truth is, I have met more solo traveling women than men on the road. Once you get
out in the backpacking world, its not uncommon at all. Its only dangerous and scary if you choose to
see it that way. Be careful, follow your intuition, be open to experiences if it feels right, if it feels wrong
dont do it. Simple as that. Everything lies in perception, especially when youre traveling. Radiate good
vibes, follow your intuition, be brave, and keep a sunny disposition and you will attract the same kind
of energy, people, and experiences.
So what are you waiting for? Buy that plane ticket, the world is waiting.

8. Be kind.
Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
The smallest acts of kindness has the power to change someones life. Whether its from holding a door
for someone, or paying for their coee, or giving them a genuine smile, or giving random strangers high
fives while youre running, it could dramatically change their entire day in an instant and light up their
world. Show other people that youre human, that were not robots. Were human beings born out of
love, with a lot more to give. Even when people are being dicult, thats when you should be the most
kind to them. Kill them with kindness.

9. Let things go.

Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. Buddha
Its easy to latch on to things, to grudges, to emotions, to thoughts, to pain, to anger. Its easy to do that
because weve been accustomed to it and our egos like to cling onto things that cause us pain and
suering. But in reality, things are so much easier when we let it go. When that driver cuts us o,
instead of cursing him, his mom, and his family, maybe you should take a deep breath instead, wish
him safety, and smile. Whatever grudges you have with friends or exes, even if we dont talk to them
anymore, we can forgive them in our hearts. So that when we see them, there is no heavy weight, only
good wishes and love sent.

10. Always get out of your comfort zone.

You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore- Christopher
Columbus
Comfort zones keep you in a loop. In a space where everything youve always wanted to do is out of
reach, theres always excuses, theres always what ifs, theres always fear and doubts keeping the bubble
together. And its keeping you in. Do you want to stay in the bubble forever? No? Good. In order to do
so youd have to take action and prepare yourself for growth. Life is all about growth, if we continue to
stay in our comfort zone then well never grow. But if you always choose to get out of your comfort
zones, your are opening yourself up to infinite possibilities that could benefit your inner growth and
your life.

11. You are a beautiful goddess.

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suering, known
struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a
sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving
concern. Beautiful people do not just happen. Elizabeth Ross

Your value as a human being is not measured through the numbers on a weighing scale, or how big the
gap is between your thighs, or how visible your ribcage is. These are all lies that society and media has
made to make money through objectifying women. It is their job to sell people beauty, and their

definition of beauty is usually in the form of photoshop, airbrushing, and starvation to look the part.
Nobody really looks like that on a regular day. Embrace your weirdness, your quirks, your flaws, and
your imperfections. All of which makes you beautiful and perfectly you. Perception is everything. No
matter how old, how big, how skinny, how tall, how short you are if you always choose to see the
beautiful parts of you and if you always have good thoughts about yourself, you will always look
beautiful.
And watch this videoof who I truly see as one the most beautiful women in the world. Shell show you
a thing or two about what real beauty is.

12. How to be alone.

Butlonely is a freedom that breaths easy and weightlessand lonely is healing if you make it.- Tanya
Davis
I cant stress this enough. Learn how to be alone without the need to have people constantly around
you, without constantly chatting with people over the phone, without the need for validating yourself
through others. Just learn how to be by yourself. Walk, hike, swim, run, laugh, sit, stand, travel by
yourself. Being alone will cleanse you, recharge you and strengthen you. Click this post, being alone is
the most healing thing you can ever do for yourself. And watchthis video.

13. Stop following timelines or milestones.

You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you. Joseph
Campbell
Get married in your mid 20s, buy a house in your late 20s, have a baby in your late 20s and early 30s,
and the timeline moves along. Thats what they say right? The reality is you dont have to get married,
you dont even have to have a baby if you truly dont want to. Before I explain this any further, please
know that I am not against any of these. Because I would love to have at least one child one day and if
I, one day, decide that marriage is for me it would be because I found the right one who I connect with
in all levels. Spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, everything. And more importantly, that it feels
right to me. To my heart. To my soul. My point is, its very important to listen to what you inner voice
is telling you. And if its telling you that kids arent for you, that marriage isnt for you, listen to it. You
are probably meant for a dierent path in life, one that stays true to your purpose here on this planet.
Dont get married because your parents want you to, or because youre in a long-term relationship and
you might as well tie the knot, or have a baby because youre a woman and thats what youre suppose to
do, or because youve hit that milestone and you feel like you need to, or because you need a man to
make you happy, or because your peers are all getting married and you dont want to be left out. You
dont have to hit these societal milestones and timelines and you sure dont have to plan your life around
it most especially if you dont want to. Create your own life.

14. Its better to spend your money on experiences, not things.

The things you own end up owning you. Its only after you lose everything that youre free to do
anything. Chuck Palahniuk
Things. All these things.Things you dont even need and its ridiculous how people become slaves to
these things.Lets weight it all out. Would you rather have a brand new Louis Vuitton purse that costs a
few grand? Or use that to buy a ticket and travel the world? Its just a purse. I mean its cool to put stu
in, thats what its for. But you can also buy a purse in Bali. And whatever profit you made from selling
that Louis Vuitton will pay for your ticket, your whole trip, and your new purse. Not to mention the
priceless adventures youll have and all the amazing people youll meet. Spending your money on
experiences will make you happier in the long run than spending it onstu. Get rid of all that stu and
youll feel lighter. Strip down to the basic needs and youll laugh and find that its all you should really
have. And youll be free to wander freely around the world, how amazing would that be?

15. Forgive yourself.

You have to forgive yourself, everyday, whenever you remember a shortcoming, a flaw, you have to tell
yourself Thats just fine. You have to forgive yourself so much, until you dont even see those things
anymore. Because thats what love is like. C. Joybell C.
Its time to forgive yourself. For everything. For everything youve done that you feel horrible for. For all
the burdens you still carry inside of you. For the past. For everything. Forgive yourself darling, just
forgive yourself.

16. Love yourself.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health food, people,
things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this
attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is Love of Oneself. Charlie Chaplin
Its the most important and selfless thing you can ever do. When you love yourself, you no longer feel
the need to validate yourself through others. When you love yourself, you dont need other people to
make you happy. You may still feel sadness but you will always feel whole. You will always have that
innate constant love and happiness that you feel for yourself. The void is no longer there, it is filled. And
when it is filled, you want to share that love with others. To your lover, to your family, to your friends,
to strangers, to people you brush up against in a crowd, to people across the world you havent even
met. That kind of love is endless. It knows no bounds, no need, no ego, no attachment. Its infinite.
Love yourself so much so that the love will spread and radiate through everything you touch and every
presence you grace through.Love yourself so much that you become selfless.

When a woman rises up in glory, her energy is magnetic and her sense of possibility contagious.
Marianne Williamson