These days, people don't just want love.

They want soul mate love -- a

relationship with someone who is perfect for them and meant to be.
One of the most important parts of the journey to finding true love is
faith. You have to believe in your soul mate, and trust that there is
someone special out there, just for you.
For those times when it feels as if true love has passed you by, or that
your soul mate will never find you, try these prayers to help bring love
closer. Pray for healing of past heartache, pray to be made ready for a
true and healthy love, and pray for the soul mate who is meant to be by
your side in life.
When two loving souls come together, it is a beautiful thing. Use these
prayers to petition for true love.
Please Heal My Love Wounds
Dear God, please help me heal
From grief, loss and the pain of love in my past
And let me be whole and happy again
I have been needy and overly-anxious,
I have felt desperate and too willing to settle.
Calm the need in me that makes unwise choices.
Sooth the soreness in my soul that makes me crave love.
Restore my faith in love and divine timing.
Bring true love to me, in the right time, for the right reasons.
Please end to separating between me and my true love.
Let the healing process must begin inside my heart.
Amen

My Soul Mate Is Coming

Dear God,
My heart is pure; my intentions clear.
I ask for your guidance and your help
In finding my soul mate, my most perfect partner.
I seek a partner who enhances me by his/her very being...
Who brings more love, joy, peace and prosperity to my life...
Who I can love fully and who can fully receive my love...
Who loves, honors and cherishes me completely, and always.
May I know love when my true love comes to me.
May I let love in.
May I be willing to allow my soul to know the truth
May my heart be open and my head be clear.
May my life be ready to welcome True love.
Reawaken to Love
The season of love is upon us.
The heart reawakens
From the darkness of winter,
Our bodies are getting ready for love.
I reclaim my birthright
and take a stand for your own self-worth
and innate ability to love and live in the embrace of love.
I have had trouble with love in the past.
I have been disappointed.
My heart has been hurt.
But I choose to heal this now.
I choose love.

And I make a new choice to reclaim the innocence of the heart

and reconnect to soulful love.
30 Day Prayer
(Say this every morning when you wake up and evening just before you
go to bed, for 30 days)
Dear God, Loving Essence of all there is.
Please fill me with your sacred presence.
I ask for your Love and Guidance
I ask for your blessings
As I explore the deep reaches of my heart
I ask for you assistance
In releasing that which stands in the way of true love.
May I be embraced in a circle of your love
An uplifted by your grace.
And so it is.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper
you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. ~Jeremiah
29:11
by Toni Birdsong
Jeremiah 29:11 is one of the most quoted scriptures of all time. And therein
lies the rub.
We sing it, shout it, and share it with strangersbut still, like so many familiar
scriptures, Gods words to Jeremiah have yet to arrest and take us captive.
Why is it that the slightest crisis can so easily eclipse our hope?
Perhaps its because the one thing needed to ignite Gods power, is the one
thing we refuse to fully render: trust.
And there it is. Whether we admit it or not, so many of us simply dont trust
God. We dont trust that His plan is better than the plans weve sketched out in
private. We dont trust His pace or His process. Soon the prosperity,
protection, and hope of Jeremiah 29:11 become possibilitiesrather than
eternal promises from holy God.
No one sets out to un-trust God. But it happens. In the turbulence of everyday
life our trust doesnt always survive the ride. But thats okayyou are not
alone. God is with you and understands that trust is a process.
So how do you get back on the trust track?
1. Confess your lack of trust. Read Psalm 51:17; Psalm 86:11; Psalm
51:10

2. Ask God to re-deposit a hunger for His Word into your heart. Read
Psalm 40:8; Hebrews 4:12
3. Recommit the details of your lifebig and smallto God. Read
Psalm 37:5
4. Repeat steps 1, 2 & 3 each day until your trust returns.
Here are 30 scriptures to get your hope soaring again:

Trust
You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you,
because he trusts in you.Trust in the Lord forever,for the Lord
God is an everlasting rock. Isaiah 26:3-4
Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? Of course
not. Matt. 6:27
Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him, and he will act. He
will bring forth your righteousness as the light, and your justice
as the noonday. Psalm 37:3-6
Those who trust in the Lord are like Mount Zion, which cannot be
moved, but abides forever. As the mountains surround Jerusalem,
so the Lord surrounds his people, from this time forth and
forevermore. Psalm 125:1-2
He shall not be afraid of evil tidings; his heart is firmly fixed,
trusting in the Lord. Psalm 112:7
But as for me, I trust in You, O Lord; I say, You are my God. My
times are in Your hand. Psalm 31:14-15

 It is better to trust and take refuge in the Lord than to put

confidence in man. Psalm 118:8
But my eyes are toward You, O God the Lord; in You do I trust
and take refuge; pour not out my life nor leave it destitute and
bare. Psalm 141:8
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own
understanding.In all your ways acknowledge him,and he will
make straight your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6
May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so
that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.
Romans 15:13

Truth
Look to the Lord and his strength; seek his face always. Psalm
105:4
We do not look at the things which are seen but at the things
which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporary,
but the things which are not seen are eternal. 2 Cor. 4:18
The Lord hears his people when they call to him for help. He
rescues them from all their troubles. Psalm 34:17
Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God. Romans
10:17
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and
supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known

to God, and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding,

will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:6
I cast all my cares on You O Lord for You care for me. 1 Peter 5:7
You O Lord shall supply all my need according to Your riches in
glory through Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:19
Now to You, O Lord, who is able to do exceedingly and
abundantly above all that we can ask or think according to the
power that works in us. Eph.3:20
Now this is the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask
anything according to His will, He hears us. And if we know that
He hears us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions
that we have asked of Him. 1 John 5:14
Command those who are rich in this present age not to be
haughty, nor to trust in uncertain riches but in the living God,
who gives us richly all things to enjoy. Let them do good, that they
be rich in good works, ready to give, willing to share, storing up
for themselves a good foundation for the time to come, that they
may lay hold on eternal life. 1 Tim. 6:17

Triumph
For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers,
nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor
depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us
from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord. Romans 8:38-39
But You, O Lord, are a shield about me, My glory, and the One
who lifts my head. Psalm 3:3

 And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will
bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ. Philippians 1:6
And this is the confidence that we have toward him, that if we ask
anything according to his will he hears us. And if we know that he
hears us in whatever we ask, we know that we have the requests
that we have asked of him. 1 John 5:14-15
The Lord is my light and my salvation; whom shall I fear? The
Lord is the stronghold of my life; of whom shall I be afraid. Psalm
27:1
Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh; is anything too difficult
for Me? Jeremiah 32:27
Our fathers trusted in thee: they trusted, and thou didst deliver
them. Psalm 22:4
Not by might nor by power but by my Spirit says the Lord God
Almighty. Zechariah 4:6
For everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory
that has overcome the world, even our faith. 1 John 5:4
Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid of them! The Lord
your God will go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor forsake
you. Deut. 31:6
What verse do you turn to when your trust and strength are low?
Please share . . .

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Kimshumake
Cant wait to get this one printed out. Will share with my class
at church. Thank you for putting this list together.
Anonymous
again blessing my day and heart. Thank you for being sticky
and bringing Light. So grateful for you both.
http://twitter.com/doricook Dori Cook
What a post! Thank you!! I needed this TODAYin this
MOMENT!
My scripture?
The Lord God is my Strength, my personal bravery, and my
invincible
army; He makes my feet like hinds feet and will make me to
walk [not to
stand still in terror, but to walk] and make [spiritual] progress
upon
my high places [of trouble, suffering, or responsibility]!
Habakkuk 3:19 Amplified
Blessings,
Dori
http://twitter.com/smshetty Shridhara M Shetty
Great work.

 Anonymous
@dedraherod:disqus , thanks for pressing in. Helps when we
all go there together.

Anonymous
@twitter-339005491:disqus and your comment & scripture
fuels the journey. Thanks for adding that amazing TRUTH from
Habakkuk! Spiritual progress = all worth it.

Anonymous
@twitter-28293574:disqus thanks and thank you for joining
in this morning. Truth lights each step . . . good to be walking
together.

Anon.
Thank you! Wow I needed this. I wrote out all the verse
references on an index card, which Ive stuck to my screen. It
will make a great quick reference for good and bad days alike!
Dheida70
Leaving the church I had attended for 12 years and moving to a
Bible Church was one of the hardest things God has ever asked
me to do. I willing followed His lead, but was so sad about
leaving all of my friends. A friend gave me John 14:1 Do not
let your hearts be troubled, trust in God, trust also in Me.: NIV

 Anonymous
@b125160e6c378c20a8c9c15459030757:disqus thats a
short, power-packed, life-saving truth! Thank you for adding it
to the mix today!
Dheida70
This is my first day visiting Sticky Jesus page and I love it. I
read your stories, Toni and Tami, and am so thankful that God
has brought you to this mission of being digital scribes. I look
forward to reading your messages each morning! May God
greatly bless you.
Anonymous
@b125160e6c378c20a8c9c15459030757:disqus . we are SO
grateful that you found us and that we found YOU. God is kind.
He knows those kids who need to know one another. Its a big
world out there but together, we can cover the digital ground
and send hope viral. Thank you for aligning with our hearts!
http://sandysandmeyer.wordpress.com/ Sandy
My favorite verse is Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all
your heart, and do not lean on your own
understanding.In all your ways acknowledge him,and he will
make
straight your paths. I know will make my ways straight if I trust
in Him.
Anonymous

@slcsand:disqus we love that verse too. I often wonder how

people live without Gods word working in their lives. That verse
has so often corrected my perspective.

Anonymous
Thank you for this post. It is definitely faith building. It also
reminds me that my word for this year is trust. Sometimes, with
all that goes on, I actually forget. SMH.
The occurances of this day and the timing of this post make it a
good time to examine how I am doing in that department. Ive
definitely got some more work ahead of me. Help me, Lord.
I love the verses you shared and often refer to them. Thanks for
putting them all together. Thats very helpful.
I decided to look up something to add to them. Its Psalm 9:10
Everyone who honors your name can trust you, because you
are faithful to all who depend on you. CEV
And they who know Your name [who have experience and
acquaintance with Your mercy] will lean on and confidently put
their trust in You, for You, Lord, have not forsaken those who
seek (inquire of and for) You [on the authority of God's Word
and the right of their necessity]. Amplified Bible
I so want trust to be my default. And soI press on and in to
my very trustworthy God.
mztoniw
Needed this SO badly right now..Thanks my sisters..Good
Stuff!!! On time indeed.xoxox
http://kellysinging.com KellySinging

Thanks! So refreshing to read all those verses.

My anchor scripture:
In the day when I cried out, You answered me, And made me
bold with strength in my soul. Psalm 138:3 NKJV
http://profiles.google.com/mrzhutchinson Margaret Hutchinson
Thank you, I needed these scriptures today! May God Bless
You!
Srakestraw7
This morning God reminded me of a time when he showed me:
Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid of them! The Lord
your God will go ahead of you. He will neither fail you nor
forsake you. Deut. 3:6
I was at church camp as a counselor and my daughter was in a
car wreck. It seemed as though another would not survive and
she would be heals responsible. My God not only healed the
one but brought my daughter through the situation without
legal blame. The truth came out!
He has reminded me he took care of that situation he WILL do
the same again.
Teti Chigwede
The post is exactly what i need for the day. I have been
reminded that all things are possible to those who believe! so
why fret?
Waltoncheyann

Thats the scripture that bonds our faith in christ.

Fellow Believer
thanks!

Mandyam1986
I love u lord
obutterfly
Thank you Jesus! Just what the doctor ordered! I needed it and
wanted it. What a delicious satisfying glorious meal. Im gonna
feast on that. Wow look at God!!! Again
Kelly
I am so thankful I found this site. My daughter is leaving for
college in another state in September and I feel like I am
coming apart. God Bless You.
woww52
Thanks such an excellent study, such a needed
encouragement. In times of trouble my scripture is Psalm 25:14.
MsChat81
Thank you!!!
Nancy Holte

This is so awesome. I was looking for some scripture tonight as

my husband and I walk through his battle with cancer. LOVE
this!
http://www.blogsdaddy.com/ Gagan Masoun
Thanks dear,,, you opened my eyes.
You answered about all my feelings here
Slick Rick
Awesome!!! Thank you !!! JESUS!!!
Cedric
hi hallo i need prayer for my right partner and my future wife i
post my prayer.
Danielle
I have fatsed and prayed or a life partner, i believ God sent him
to methe first few months of our relationship went better than
expected, then something tragic happend to one of his siblings
and he is now struggling to find himself. There has been many
objections to our relationship by my family who have alot of
fear regarding the death of his sister and his family. With all the
objections our relationship has take on alot of strain to the point
that he has asked me to leave him alone so that he can focus
on himself. Please can everyone pray for this relationship to be
restored.

How Do I Know God's Will for a Marriage

Partner?
Introduction:
Christians have a variety of views regarding selecting a husband or wife according
to the will of God. Many Christians fear that they might go out of the will of God or
miss out on Gods best. Many believe that there is only one person whom the Lord
has selected for each Christian and it is up to each Christian to find that person. This
person is the right one according to the will of God. Finding the right one is the
key to finding Gods will and marital happiness over a lifetime. Many believe that If a
Christian should marry someone else by accident or by desire, then he or she will
not be in Gods will. They can still be happy, but will not have Gods best. However,
those who marry the wrong person also risk the possibility of divorce. Christians
often feel that couples get divorced because they have married the wrong person.
Are all these beliefs true? Are these principles what the Bible teaches? The answer
is no. They are not true and the Bible nowhere teaches these views.
"Is he or she the right one?" is the wrong question to ask.
"Is he or she the right one?" is the wrong question to ask. The right question, which
the Scriptures teach is this one, Is he or she the right kind of person to marry?"
Prov.18:22 says, He who finds a wife finds what is good, and receives favor from
the Lord." In other words, it is good for a man to find a woman and get married. The
converse is true as well. It is good for a woman to find a man and be married as
well. This means that getting married is beneficial and a blessing for humans.
However, it is not just marrying any woman or man, but the right kind of woman or
man. Prov.19:14 says, "A prudent wife is from the Lord." That is, if you want a wife
that is from the Lord (i.e. the Lords will), find a prudent one (one with discernment
and self-control). This would apply to the husband as well. This is just one attribute
of a wife or husband that will be a blessing from the Lord. This verse gives the focus
God has revealed in the Scriptures.
The Bible focuses on finding the right kind of wife or husband. Finding the right kind
of wife or husband is Gods will for you. This is how you will receive Gods blessing.
The Scriptures do not teach that believers need to find a specific person the Lord
has chosen, but rather the Bible says that we are to focus on choosing the right kind
of person and avoiding the wrong kind of person.

Although Abraham and Isaac sought wives for their sons as the Lord had directed
them, their experiences are not the norm. They were very significant in terms of the
covenant God made with Abraham and were major figures in the line of messiah.
We are not. The normal Biblical approach in these non-moral areas (See the CD
How Do I Know Gods Will for My Life?) is to choose whomever you desire to
marry as long as you choose the right kind of person according to God's priorities.
You must also commit yourself to follow God's standards for marriage.
Gods will is that Christians marry Christians.
The first priority is that he or she is a Christian. 2 Cor.6:14-16 says, Do not be
bound together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in
common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What does a believer
have in common with an unbeliever? This is a clear instruction from the apostle
Paul that Christians are not to be bound together (in a marital/physical relationship)
with non-Christians. Christians have been declared righteous in Christ and have
been brought into the light of the truth. They should not have intimate fellowship with
those that have not been declared righteous and are still in spiritual darkness.
This does not mean that Christians cant have non-Christians as friends, but
friendship is not a bond for life as marriage is. It means God wants Christians to
marry other Christians. He wants his children marrying other ones who are his
children. As a Christian husband or wife, your life is centered in Christ; an
unbelievers is not. Your beliefs and values are established upon the Word of God,
an unbelievers is not. You need continual encouragement to trust and obey the
Lord. How can an unbeliever give you that? How will you encourage him or her daily
if he or she does not trust the Lord?
This is an important commitment that you must make as a Christian to see Gods
blessing in your life in this area. This is a boundary that you must draw when it
comes to whom you allow yourself to fall for or even date. Is it possible to have
romantic feelings for someone who is not a Christian? Yes, it is. Attraction is part of
being human. However, it is not an indication of Gods will. Gods will is clearly
stated above. The world says that if you feel it, it must be legitimate. This is not true!
If you feel it and it is within Gods will, it is legitimate. Marrying a non-Christian is
never the Lords will.
Dating unbelievers is emotionally dangerous! If you are going to be wise in following
this, you also need to realize that it is emotionally dangerous to even date an
unbeliever. You can think at the beginning that you can stop yourself short of
marrying an unbeliever. I have heard Christians say, I am only dating an unbeliever,
I wont marry him/her. The Christian who does this is playing with emotional fire.

What happens if you date an unbeliever and develop the desire and romantic
passion to marry him or her, now what are you going to do? Your feelings are
powerful and you are going to hurt yourself far worse than if you had never gotten
involved. What happens if the unbeliever develops a desire to marry you? Now, you
are going to hurt him or her. You say you care about that unbeliever, but do you?
You have defrauded that unbeliever by allowing him or her to develop a desire to
marry you when you know you cant marry him or her. What will that unbeliever think
about Christ and Christians after his painful experience with you?
You say, but there are no Christians around who want to date me. That may be the
case, but that does not change what is God your Fathers plan for you. Trusting the
Lord in these kinds of circumstances is what being a Christian is all about. Prov.3:56 says, Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own
understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct your paths.
Gods will is that Christians marry Christians who have godly characteristics.
Finding the right kind of wife or husband begins with his or her faith in Christ.
However, being a Christian, does not guarantee he or she has the qualities
necessary to make a successful marriage. Proverbs is very clear that men are to
find women who have godly characteristics in their lives. Besides a prudent wife,
which we have already seen, Prov.31: 10 says, Find a wife of noble character.
Prov.12:4 says, Find a wife of noble character, avoid a disgraceful wife. Prov.19:13
says, Avoid a quarrelsome wife. Women, likewise are to find men with these godly
characteristics.
The Scriptures also give other specific characteristics of the kind of people to avoid.
This would certainly apply to marrying any of them. There are three kinds of people
that Proverbs says to stay away from, the fool, the sluggard, and the one who does
not control his tongue. A fool is one who acts foolishly. Prov.14:7 says, Stay away
from a foolish man, for you will not find knowledge on his lips.
The characteristics of someone who is foolish are given in several places in
Proverbs. Prov.12:15 says that a fool "does what seems right to him and does not
listen to advice." Prov.14:16 says that he is "hotheaded and reckless." Prov.18:2
says he "delights in airing his own opinions" and Prov.20:3 says he is "quick to
quarrel." Prov.28:26 sums up the basic problem in his life when it says that a foolish
man "does not walk in wisdom." Prov.29:11 also says he "gives full vent to his anger,
and has no self-control." We should avoid marrying people with these
characteristics.
Proverbs also says to watch out for a man who is lazy (the sluggard). Prov.19:15
indicates that a sluggard is sleeping all the time and thus going hungry. Prov.26:15

shows that he is too lazy to put out the effort to feed himself. Prov.24: 30-34 says
that laziness brings on poverty. Women especially are to avoid a lazy man who will
not meet his financial responsibilities. It is sad to see a woman married to a man
who is always talking about making the big bucks. Yet, he is one who is not willing
to get a steady job. Beware of allowing yourself to be attracted to a man who cannot
keep a job. It is a strong possibility that he wont suddenly change after he gets
married.
We should avoid those who lie (Prov.6:17). Lying destroys any foundation of trust in
a relationship. You will never know whether he or she is telling the truth or not.
Prov.28:23 warns about someone who has a "flattering tongue." This kind of a
person praises you when he doesnt really mean it. He just wants to get something
from you. Prov.15:1 shows another kind of person to avoid, one who uses harsh
words. Harsh words destroy the hearts and minds of others and make a lifetime
relationship a lifetime of hurt.
Another characteristic to avoid is a one who lacks self-control. Prov.25:28 says,
Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control. A "city
which has no walls" is a city which has no defense against harm. A person who lacks
self-control has no defense against harm. Ruin and destruction will be his because
he cannot keep his emotions and desires under control. He cannot or does not
restrain his behavior. Self-control is an important quality for success in life and
relationships. God has set forth limits of behavior; self-control keeps his actions
within those limits.
These are just some of the guidelines that God gives each of us in selecting a wife
or husband. No one can be perfect, but the lives of those mentioned above are
characterized by these qualities so that they are known by them. That means those
characteristics are regularly manifested in their lives. These are fatal flaws that
destroy relationships, not build them.
If you find a wife or husband that has the kind of personal faults that destroy
relationships, trying to build a lifetime relationship together will be like building a
house on sinking sand. If you find a wife or husband that has the personal qualities
that can develop and sustain a lifetime relationship in the Lord, you have followed
what the Lord desires in finding a mate. Then, if you both desire to marry and to live
together as husband and wife, then assume it is the Lords will unless the Lord
clearly prevents it. The Lord wants to bless you as you seek a godly mate. If it
doesnt work out, trust that the Lord will work all things out for your good (Rom.8:28).
Choose whomever you want to marry within Gods moral boundaries.

So, the Lord gives you the free choice to marry or not to marry. If you choose to
marry, you may marry whomever you wish as long as he or she is the right kind of
person and he or she desires to marry you. This gives you the joy of walking down
the aisle to make a lifetime covenant with the one person you want to live with the
rest of your life! Remember this, God has given marriage to be a free choice for you.
When you walk down that aisle you should want to marry that person with all your
heart. You should not be doing it because you think it is good for you or it is the right
thing to do, you should want to be with that person the rest of your life!
You need to trust the Lord to bless you as you follow his guidelines. That blessing
will come in two major forms. He will either bless your union together (this may
include waiting for awhile) or he will turn you away from each other according to his
sovereign will. The Bible says that if we delight in the Lord, he will give us the
desires of our hearts (Ps.37:4,Ps.20:4,Ps.21:2). That is, if it is within his will
(1Jn.5:14-15).
I believe these verses taken together mean that God as our Father wants us to be
happy and if we find someone who is the "right kind" of person of the opposite sex
for us, then the Lord will bless our union unless he has some specific reason for not
doing so. What that reason is may not be revealed to us, but it will always be for our
good (Rom.8:28).
What do I do if I cant find anyone who wants to marry me?
Does that mean I have the gift of celibacy?
Wanting to get married is normal and natural. Remember Prov.18:22 says, He who
finds a wife finds what is good, and receives favor from the Lord." If you have a
desire to get married, that is good. If you do not have a desire to marry and want to
focus all your energy on the kingdom of God, that is good also. This is the gift of
celibacy.
It is described by Jesus in Matt.19:12 some have made themselves eunuchs
(figurative expression for those who choose not to marry) for the kingdom of
heavens sake. Paul had it. He says in 1 Cor.7:7 as he encourages Christians to
stay single, For I wish that all men were even as I myself. But every man has his
proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to
the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I [single]. But if
they cannot contain themselves [sexual desires], let them marry: for it is better to
marry than to burn [with passion]. This means that if you want to get married, you
dont have the gift of celibacy. If you want to get married, it is a good thing.
If I want to find a mate, then why cant I find one?

There are many possible reasons too numerous to discuss here. I suggest you
speak with a pastor or other mature Christian who knows you to help you assess
your particular situation. Ultimately, though, God is sovereign and you need to trust
him with your present circumstances. Following Prov.3:5-6 is so important. You
should not suppress the desire to marry nor pretend it doesnt exist. It is a natural
desire, but you need to pray about it and leave your welfare in the Lords hands.