RESOURCE LIST: MARITAL INTIMACY

The resources listed below are in alignment with Focus on the Familys philosophy and mission. We trust you will
find them helpful. If you would like to obtain any of these items, simply call our toll free number 1-800-A-FAMILY or
visit our Family Store at www.family.christianbook.com. You may also be interested in the content posted on our
website at www.focusonthefamily.com.

BOOKS
AS LONG AS WE BOTH SHALL LIVE: EXPERIENCE THE MARRIAGE YOUVE ALWAYS WANTED by Dr. Gary Smalley and
Pastor Ted Cunningham (Regal) 746810
Whether youre newly-wed or long-married, this resource offers tools to help you establish a lasting life together. Learn to
understand each others needs, express yourself honestly, and increase intimacy.
CLOSER: DEVOTIONS TO DRAW COUPLES TOGETHER by Jim and Cathy Burns (Bethany House) 208607
Fifty-two devotionals with Scripture and engaging stories will inspire couples to draw closer to each other through faith
conversations quiet talks vital for intimacy in marriage.
COVENANT MARRIAGE: BUILDING COMMUNICATION AND INTIMACY by Dr. Gary Chapman (B & H Publishing
Group) 25765
Chapman provides principles for a covenant marriage, including handling conflict and developing communication that can
build intimacy and lead to ministry.
FOCUS ON THE FAMILY COMPLETE GUIDE TO THE FIRST FIVE YEARS OF MARRIAGE General Editors: Wilford Wooten
and Phillip Swihart (Focus on the Family) 970411
Focus on the Familys trusted counseling staff answers your questions about marriage.
THE GIFT OF SEX by Dr. Clifford and Joyce Penner (Thomas Nelson) 4415X
This Christian guide to sexual fulfillment devotes significant attention to the physical dimension of marriage, including how to
move past sexual barriers, resolve difficulties, and find help. They also address Internet pornography and sexual addictions.
GREAT PARENTS, LOUSY LOVERS: WHY YOUR KIDS DESERVE TO EXPERIENCE YOUR GREAT MARRIAGE
by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham (Tyndale) 335880
If you cant remember the last time you went on a date, and you feel more like a maid or chauffeur than a lover, this book will
help you refocus and move toward a healthier, more fulfilling marriage.
HOT CHOCOLATE FOR COUPLES by Cindy Sigler Dagnan (Harvest House) 927291
Taking a fun and practical look at the marriage relationship, Dagnan discusses expectations, communication, friendship, sex,
and commitment.
HOW WE LOVE: A REVOLUTIONARY APPROACH TO DEEPER CONNECTIONS IN MARRIAGE by Milan and Kay
Yerkovich (WaterBrook) 072996
Are you tired of arguing with your spouse over the same old issues? Learn how your childhood experiences shaped your
future expectations for relationships, and what you can do to develop a more intimate and passionate marriage.
INTIMATE ALLIES by Dr. Dan Allender and Tremper Longman (Tyndale) 18241
Allender and Longman discuss how to address unresolved conflict, challenging husbands and wives to move their relationship
out of the mundane and into the fulfilling experience God intends.
INTIMATE ISSUES: CONVERSATIONS WOMAN-TO-WOMAN by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus (WaterBrook) 444944
With warmth, wisdom, and candor, Dillow and Pintus answer the most-asked questions Christian women have about sexual
intimacy. Their biblical insights and creative ideas will guide married couples to deeper, more satisfying relationships.

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KISS ME LIKE YOU MEAN IT: SOLOMONS CRAZY-IN-LOVE HOW-TO MANUAL by Dr. David Clarke (Revell) 733292
Blending humor and practical advice, Clarke offers answers from the Song of Solomon on how married couples can overcome
obstacles that can derail their desire.
THE LANGUAGE OF SEX by Dr. Gary Smalley and Ted Cunningham (Regal) 745685
Understanding emotional, physical, and spiritual truths about Gods design for sexual expression in marriage can help you and
your spouse establish the honor and security necessary for sexual intimacy to flourish.
LOVE TALK by Dr. Les and Dr. Leslie Parrott (Zondervan) 45966
Identify your security needs and determine your personal communication styles to more deeply connect with your spouse.
A MARRIAGE AFTER GODS OWN HEART by David Clarke, Ph.D. (Multnomah) 7155X
Learn how cultivating spiritual intimacy recognizing Gods design for a relationship thats passionate, fun, deeply intimate,
and sacred can lead to marriage as the Lord truly intended.
THE NEW BUILDING YOUR MATES SELF-ESTEEM by Dennis and Barbara Rainey (Thomas Nelson) 78249
Understand how to identify low self-esteem and learn creative and practical ways to help your spouse feel more successful.
NO MORE HEADACHES: ENJOYING SEX AND INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE by Dr. Julianna Slattery (Tyndale) 5011433
Are you afflicted by bouts of Im not in the mood? With the warmth and understanding of a close friend, Slattery honestly
addresses mens and womens different needs to help a wife and her husband enjoy the satisfying sex life God intends.
RED-HOT MONOGAMY: MAKING YOUR MARRIAGE SIZZLE by Bill and Pam Farrel (Harvest House) 916080
Gods design for sex works best when there is complete intimacy emotional, spiritual, and physical. The Farrels help put the
sizzle back into your marriage with proven advice and techniques based on biblical truth.
STARVED FOR AFFECTION by Dr. Randy Carlson (Tyndale) 81952
Affection is the ingredient that adds flavor and texture to the marital bond. Carlson explains how and why couples need to
nurture this vital element in the relationship recipe.
THE WAY TO LOVE YOUR WIFE: CREATING GREATER LOVE AND PASSION IN THE BEDROOM by Dr. Clifford and
Joyce Penner (Focus on the Family) 7445X
Discover greater intimacy in married sex by breaking down the myths about men and sex, helping to take the pressure off of
both spouses, and giving a husband the confidence to understand how to meet his wifes needs.
CDs
Building the Passion in Your Marriage I, II (Dr. Cliff Penner, Mrs. Joyce Penner) 1000844
The Penners challenge attitudes, presuppositions, and mindsets about physical intimacy. As couples learn together, they can
discover greater love, passion, and intimacy in marriage.
Building Your Marriage to Last a Lifetime (Dr. Gary Smalley, Pastor Ted Cunningham) 1000682
If marriage is to last a lifetime, commitment alone isnt enough. Smalley and Cunningham discuss the need to rediscover and
nurture the passionate love and close companionship couples enjoyed in the early days of their relationship.
Communicating About Intimacy in Early Marriage (Bill and Pam Farrel) 1002580
Focusing on the need for couples to understand each other's mind-set about sexual intimacy and the God-given characteristics
on this aspect of marriage, the Farrels help husbands and wives learn to communicate about and prioritize intimacy.
Cultivating Spiritual Intimacy in Your Marriage I, II (Dr. David Clarke) 1000862
Marriage is more than just emotional and physical intimacy. Spiritual intimacy is the key ingredient to a healthy marriage
and Clarke shares thoughts about how to build unity in that area.
Developing a Deeper Connection with Your Spouse I, II (Milan Yerkovich, Kay Yerkovich) 1000852
Discover how your attachment style shapes your behavior, beliefs, and expectations within marriage and learn to break free
from negative patterns to create a deeper, richer relationship with your spouse.
Embracing Gods Design for Marital Intimacy I, II (Linda Dillow, Lorraine Pintus) 1000685
Dillow and Pintus talk about the beauty of intimate marriage relations as created by God for procreation, emotional
bonding, and pleasure.

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Enjoying Intimacy in Your Marriage I, II (Dr. Juli Slattery) 1000943
Slattery talks about Gods design for intimacy and unpacks common lies that women believe about sex. Learn how to work
through past wounds and common barriers to find fulfillment in marital intimacy.
Growing Closer with Your Spouse (Jim Burns) 1000708
Burns explains the benefit of spouses having regular devotional and prayer time together. Learn to avoid pitfalls and
implement a plan that works for you.
Keeping Romance in Marriage I, II (Zig Ziglar) 5008969
Although he passed away in 2012, Zig Ziglar will never be forgotten. And in this prerecorded message filled with humor and
warmth, he shares insights about what makes a successful marriage.
Keeping the Romance Sizzling in Your Marriage I, II (Bill and Pam Farrel) 1000774
The Farrels offer advice for building marital romance and sexual intimacy from their book Red Hot Monogamy: Making Your
Marriage Sizzle.
Kindling the Friendship in Your Marriage (Dr. Les Parrott, Dr. Leslie Parrott) 1000812
The Parrotts share about the importance of friendship in marriage based on abiding and confident love for one another. They
offer suggestions to strengthen that bond, including making time for each other and studying what makes each other laugh.
Learning Your Spouses Love Language (Dr. Gary Chapman) 1000720
Chapman describes five love languages, or general ways people communicate love: words of affirmation, gifts, physical
touch, quality time, and acts of service.
Nurturing Affection in Your Marriage (Dr. Randy Carlson) 1000848
Carlson discusses his book Starved for Affection and shares that its never too late to restore your marriage to one of renewed
tenderness, intimate closeness, and intense passion.
"Re-investing in Your Marriage: The Key to a Stronger Family" I, II (Dr. Gary Smalley, Pastor Ted Cunningham) 1000726
Smalley and Cunningham offer advice on re-building intimacy when couples have let their kids become a higher priority than
their marriage.
Rekindling Romance in Your Marriage I, II (Dr. David Clarke) 1000624
If you have allowed romance and intimacy to take a back seat to the demands of parenting or work, Clarke offers advice to
reignite the spark in your marriage from his book Kiss Me Like You Mean It: Solomons Crazy in Love How-To Manual.
Sweetening the Romance with Your Spouse (Cindy Dagnan) 1000716
Dagnan offers advice for cultivating romance in a discussion based on her book Hot Chocolate for Couples: Practical Way to
Sweeten Your Love Life.
The Value of Dating Your Mate (Dr. Gary and Mrs. Barbara Rosberg) 1000751
The Rosbergs discuss how couples can nurture harmony, romance, and intimacy by dating throughout their married life.

DVDs
As Long As We Both Shall Live: Experiencing the Marriage Youve Always Wanted (Regal) 752379 120 minutes
Designed as a companion to Dr. Gary Smalley and Pastor Ted Cunninghams book, six sessions offer biblical teaching, personal
stories, and insights on successful relationships. Discover the beauty of a life-giving marriage as you meet each others needs,
communicate honestly, and increase intimacy.

MISCELLANEOUS
The Discovery Game: For Married Couples by Ken Bankston (K&M Productions) 5007062
Whether youve been married only a brief time or many decades, The Discovery Game which includes a board game, an easyto-read booklet, and a CD offers valuable biblical insights into what God has purposed for you, your spouse, and your
marriage.

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RESOURCE LISTS
Female Health RL056 Complimentary
Marital Challenges RL038 Complimentary
Marriage Materials RL016 Complimentary

WEBSITES
Focus on the Family Webpage: Relationships and Marriage Sex and Intimacy
www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/sex_and_intimacy
Focus on the Family Website: Pure Intimacy
www.pureintimacy.org
This Focus on the Family website offers various articles for couples struggling with intimacy due to challenges such
addictions, pornography, and changes of life.

REFERRALS
Focus on the Family Counseling Line
If you are experiencing challenges, Focus on the Family offers a free phone counseling consultation with a licensed counselor.
Call 855/771-HELP (4357), Monday Friday, 6:00 AM to 8:00 PM (MT). When call volumes are high, our staff may need to
phone you back, but theyd love to speak with you and suggest local resources for further help.
Passionate Commitment
200 East Del Mar Boulevard, Suite 126
Pasadena, CA 91105
626/449-2525 Phone
www.passionatecommitment.com Website
Psychologist Dr. Cliff Penner, his wife, Joyce (a clinical nurse specialist), and other therapists offer counseling for a variety of
individual, relational, and sexual issues.