Dear Friend:

01. This e-mail and its entire attachments have attempted to rationally justify regarding e-marries
proposal. This will clearly explain, analyze and convince you not only about the e-marriage proposal but
also about the humanitarian relationship in general and male and female marital relationship in specific
from different prospective. The following section will be useful for all of us to clearly understand the
practical difficulties during match making process in life. This e-mail has been disseminated and sent to
you via www.mybibaha.com on behalf of its originator especially only for the interested single one!

02. The primary cause of using an information technology (IT) system via web mail for a general
matrimonial related enquiry is due to distance induced bravery! I am directly and personally approaching
for the life's most sensitive, difficult and challenging issue on a supposition that the marriage is the most
natural, psychological, emotional and social dire need of both — male and female, sometimes once in a
life. Moreover, each family may have an eligible bachelor — family members, relatives, social networks,
colleagues and friend circles — who might have informally searching a suitable match for their grown up
children through the existing traditional social network approach. We know that all unmarried persons
have an imaginative image of their ideal life partner on their subconscious minds and dreams from the
very early teenage of their lives. To find their lifelong envisioned ideal and dreamed person into the
reality, their minds and souls keep on searching and exploring around with an expectation that the
perfect and the best partner will be found soon to spend their entire lives together for the better aesthetic
values, which will permanently end the feeling of loneliness and vacuum within ourselves.

03. We can boost our pleasure of mind, inner happiness and satisfaction through natural process —
reciprocal unconditional love, caring, sharing, mutual understanding and respect for the feeling and
emotion of the husband and wife. It is a general human tendency that whatever we perform, we simply
act upon in order to avoid the pain and gain the pleasure. We, therefore, generally worry and fear with
the likely change process in life, but we eventually have to accept all the changes in the reality of life. As
a result, it is always a creative tension to make a marriage related single decision with a totally stranger,
which is exactly like a gambling, either we will be winner or looser! But, we have to ultimately trust
someone and select a totally stranger opposite as a life friend out of six billion plus population on this
earth — not sure who s/he will be — and we spend whole life for her happiness and comfort until we die.

04. If spouse have certain common grounds particularly in terms of their socio-cultural values, ethos,
interests, likings, disliking as well as shared dreams and visions, the post-marital life will enhance better
synergy, positive energy, creativity and prosperity for both. However, if the marriage is completely based
on compromises, conditionality, baseless commitments and dishonesty, it may prove counterproductive
at any time in our life. Likewise, both arranged and love marriage have certain pros and cons but 'like
minded values and ethos based' marries, where both will have freedom of choice, is the best approach
as decision of social knot directly affects both. Moreover, we have limited social networks, family ties
and relatives, where we can hardly find the dreamed and qualified partner due to lack of easy and direct
access with the right person. On the other hand, our extremely busy routine life has also limited us for
options for the humanitarian relationship and the competitive world has made us lonely even among
huge mob. Similarly, we are totally option and voiceless to select a right partner when the proposal is put
forward from our closed relatives as we can hardly say 'no' to them despite our several reservations.

05. However, the sky is unlimited and 6 billion-plus populated world is beyond our horizon although
we don't have easy access to directly contact her. It is not a wrong idea to creatively approach her and
timely exchange the mutual information to materialize our lifelong desired goal — who knows we may be
the hero by mistake. Let's continue our dream till we get it, when dream is over and shattered, we will
really suffer in life. We should not easily accept the cowardice defeat without waging another effective
war because we can find exactly the same what and whom we dream if marries is truly made in heaven!
 06. Moreover, what we are mainly lacking to achieve our lifelong visualized opposite ideal partner is
— effective negotiation, two-way communication, inner courage and self-confidence within ourselves to
approach her and propose for marriage. I, therefore, have used atypical modus-operandi in exploring
the ideal life partner and it is expected that she will be the exact lady whom I have imagined and retain
in my subconscious mind from the teenage. Let's see how general people will perceive such a different
way as unknown in life is opportunity, suspicion, risk and challenge, which is a part of our lives. I am
certain that she will be the same lady with exact attributes, who will positively accept not only this unique
process but also other social transformations because mediocre mind never welcomes any changes
since they are happy to live in the traditional status-qua situation due to fear of unwanted social
criticisms.

07. The most essential pre-requirement for the happy marital life is that both male and female, first of
all, should have natural attraction at a preliminary meeting — both should feel 'click' in their minds to see
each-other at the first sight. The first meeting and its overall impressions generally determine whether
the further contacts will be strengthened or interrupted. If both honestly feel compatible and comfortable
with each-other at the first sight as well as during introductory conversation process, their minds and
hearts will spontaneously and unknowingly admit as likeminded friend despite other several men-made
gaps and obstacles — economical, social, educational and professional — as both have emotionally,
naturally, mentally and psychologically accepted without any pre-occupied minds and persuasion. f both
are honest, respectable and loveable, a kind of special thought and emotional rapport will be boosted,
which will further enhance for the deep-rooted love, affection, interdependency and psycho-socio
belongingness to reinforce the post-marital life. Subsequently, both will heartily accept not only the roses
but also the thrones as couple has emotional and self-commitment for life-long association until death!
Moreover, if we find exact dreamed partner, all our senses might be positively persuaded and our
heartbeat might be amplified caused by unique but special feeling within us — exactly the same natural
process that we can closely observe among animal kingdom — where inner natural chemistry between
them determines their attraction or repulsion for the further relationship at a very first meeting of both.

09. Moreover, approached person might not have made her mind for her marriage at this particular
juncture and/or she might have already settled. Similarly, both might not have met their pre-occupied
basic expectations and criteria as well as both may have differences in terms of their so-called socio-
economy and socio-cultural family-based values, which may affect post-marital life, particularly during
elderly age because of the likely cultural socks. Consequently, everybody has the freedom of choice in
making the rational decision for her marriage without any external pressures and persuasions as they
are the self-master and s/he should not feel regrets for her self-decision for marries in the future.

10. Finally, if your unmarried eligible friend circles, relatives, female colleagues — at least an
university graduate, job holder or self-employed and well-cultured pretty looking lady — is thinking for
her marriage within this year, please convey and forward this information. As a result, she and her family
members can rationally assess our suitability from different prospective for the perfect matching as far
as we can make it, if the marries is a matter of choice in our life! Your tiny efforts will directly support us
to reduce the 'information poverty' and search of an ideal life-partner of two persons will be permanently
over in our lives. If your interested lady friends and their family members wish to contact me, my parents
and sisters to discuss on this issue more broadly, please feel free to contact us at any time.

11. Finally, please review all the relevant supplementary 'attachments' with this email.
Raj K Pandey Chhetri, (MBS, MA)
Jawalakhel, Lalitpur
GPO Box: 19862, Kathmandu (Nepal)
Mobile: (977-01) 98510 86884
Mobile: (977-01) 9841 813529
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