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FOKWOKD
stepson the Pathto a Marriagetranslucent
to the souland brittiantwith spirit.
I ALWAYS
LISTENED
To rHE HEARTFELT,
HoMEyANDsTRAtGHT
ADVICErhat Shakti
gaveto me.Shewasthereat mymarriage-35
Parwha
years
ago.I amstillmarried.
And lstilllisten.
I likehertidbitsof wisdomgarnered
fromhercareful
attention
to
yogiBhajan
herlife,fromourteacher
andfromherexperience
asa wife,motherand
teacher.
I got the "Don'tGetMarried!',
talkshewouldgiveto everyone,
asa cau_
tionarytale,and proceeded
with all due cautionand commitment.
Thattalk has
probablyevolvedoverthe yearsbut it alwaysretainedit's solidpracticality
and
nuanced
subtleties
on howto dealwith commitment,
polarities
andthe wondrous
aggregation
of contradictions
we callthe humanpersonality.
Thechapters
of thisbookreveal
shaktiandperhaps
someof hersecrets
asa relationship
chef.Herbookisa tastydishpeppered
withaphorisms
andpractical
advice.
leavened
with humorand a twinklein the eyeand bakedwith the persoectives
of
professionals
several
who areyogisandhealers.
Theothersecretaboutshaktiyou cannotget froma book:sheisa realteacher.
Shedoesnotjust instructor offeradvice;sheputsherhandat yourbackandsup_
portsyou in the fulfillment
of yourlife in a thousand
littlewaysthat matterAs you
readthisbookI suspect
youwillfeelthatsamegentlehandencouraging
youin your
relationship,
awareness
andenloyment
of life.
Relationships
areessential,
practical
difficult,
andmysterious.
Theybreakusoutof
ourcarefully
constructed
shell,
whosecenter
isourself-concern,
andexpand
ouruniverse.Theyaremirrorsin whichwe canperceive
our self.Theyareworldsthrouqh
whichwe express,
feelandcreate.
Relationships
arealsocircumstantial.
our abilityandwillingness
to enterintoa
relationship
andto sustain
andnurture
it to a harvesffilled
maturity
depends
on our
values,
religion,
familyhistory,
natureandeconomics.
lt is notjusttwo people
find_
ing rapport,attraction
andlove.

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someof the conundrums


that alwaysbesetus as
Shakti's
book can helpresolve
marriageprogresses.Yogi
Bhajanoften repeatedthe quotation that "Familiarity
breedscontempt." The more familiarwe become,the more we rejectthe other.
mind
In essence,
our negative
Psychology
research
confirmsthisodd phenomenon.
Beforewe get
findsincreasing
numbersof mismatches
aswe get to knowsomeone.
moresimilarity
thanthereis or we do not conto knowthemwell,we eitherassume
we notice.How do we becomecloserand morefamiliarand
front thosediiferences
if we seeGod in our partnerthen thereis
stillsustainrespectand love?Perhaps
alwaysa partof themthat is Infiniteand unknown?We stayIntimateby recognizing
the Infinite.
our selfto our partner.Butcandorthat reveals
We want to be truthfuland disclose
our true selfdirectly,beingreal,so
everythingis often harmful.How do we discharge
YogiBhalansaidto usea technique
called
we canhaveunderstanding
anddialogue?
"harmonious
Then
the othercompletely.
that startsby accepting
communication"
learn the languageof each other.Men and women communicatedifferently.The
masculine
and the femininehavetheirown modes.Wordsareheardand processed
I sawa brainstudythat showedthat thoughwomen'sbrainsare
differently.
Recently
physically
slightlysmalleron the averagethan men's,womens brainshavemore
in the areaof language
especially
and underdenseneurons
with betterconnections
and processed
differently.How do we speakto be
standing.Wordsare experienced
heard,listento reallyhear,and learnto readbetweenthe linesto know what our
partnerreallyneeds?
pragmatic
relationship,
a deepspiritual
and powerfully
To havea greatmarriage,
and the wisdomof experience
that can smooth
thereareattitudes,skills,techniques
ideasand inspirations
that
ourway.Asyou readthisbookandyoucullout the special
speakto you, I hope you will be fortifiedand upliftedto enjoythe gift of relation(ascounselorand yogi)expeship.I canonly say,from my personaland professional
rience,that it is possiblefor eachof us to havea wonderfulmarriagethat deepens
through time, staysfresh as if new and bringsconstantchallengesto keep you

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ElsaFox;Hari BhajanKaur Khalsa;SiriPrithamKaur Khalsa;Guru MustukSingh


Khalsa;
SiriAtma KaurKhalsa;
(no,theyare not related);
Dr.SiriAtma SinghKhalsa
and extra appreciation
for GurukaSinghKhalsawho also expertlyeditedyogi
Bhalans lectureon sex.
I am so pleased
that ShabadKaurKhalsa,
who illustrated
my firstbook,agreedto
do the drawingsfor thisone,translating
someof the concepts
pictures
into images,
that,as hasbeensaid,"areworth a thousandwords."
I can'tthankGuruRajKaurKhalsa
enough,not onlyfor herexcellence
in interior
pagelayoutand design,but alsofor hervaluable
editorial
suggestions
and excellent
photofinds.
I mustexpress
appreciation
for SoPurkh
SinghKhalsa's
keepingup untilhisbeautiful coverart designwas completedto my satisfaction.
And finally,he who is lastshallbe first:I thankGodfor bringingme my Teacher,
SiriSinghSahib,BhaiSahibHarbhajan
SinghKhalsa
Yogiji(YogiBhalan).
(Note:With all the help I received-andit was amazing-l take total personal
responsibility
for anyerrorsor flawsin thisbook.)

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Thisbook is basedon yogi Bhajant


teachings,
plusthe experience
lhave had
counsettng
as a Sikh Dharmaminister,
,,Mother
and the
of 3HO,,,a role lwas
assigned
by yogi Bhalanin j969, when he
established
the Healthy,Happy,Holy
Organization.
HOW THISB OO KWA 5 B O RN
In 1986yogi Bhalantordme to write
a bookaboutKundarini
yoga.lt took me quite
a whire to get to it. Finary,in 1996,KUNDALTNT
yoGA: TheFrow
of Eternarpower
was published.Someoneaskedhim, ,,Sir,
what shouldShaktiwrite now?,, He said,
"Sheshouldwrite a book on marriage.,,
I thought, ,,Oh,No!., But like a good
stu_
dent,I keptsilent.lfiled hjs
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Thatspring,my friendand colreague,


siri RamKaurKharsa,
announced
her
engagement
to.Jai
SinghKhalsa.
ljokedwithherandsaid,,,lfyou,re
planning
to get
mar'ed,i'd bettergiveyoumyfamous,Don,t
GetMarried,
talk.,,Thenit hlt me;I
remembered
whatyogiBhajanhadsajd in 19g6,and I realized
it wastimeto wnte
thisbook.
Besides
gathering
mypersonar
notesfromyogiBhajan's
rectures,
renlisted
theaid
of my 3HOand SikhDharmafamilyand friends,
recognized
expertsIn theirfields
withtherequisite
initiars
aftertheirnames,andasked
themto share
theirthoughts
and experiences
as marriage
counserors.
Theyhavewrittensomeexcetentarticres
youcanfind in the ,,professionally
Speaking,,
section.
I cantellyouthatusingtheteachings
yogi
of
Bhajan
hasrevorutionized
thousands
of lives,preserved
the sacredness,
and broughthappiness
bacr rntocountress
marrrages.
However,
ashe usedto say,,,Dojngis Believing.,,
So,it is my hopethat you
will readthesepages
withan openmindandthentry ,,dorng, you
so
canexperiencethe resurts
for yourself.
Herearethe guidelines;
mayat who enterherebe
blessed
!
ShaktlParwhaKaurKhalsa,
LosAngeles,December
2006

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CHAPTER
TEN-When yogi thajan Speaks
12
Voiceof the [,4aster. What s Maniage?]uly 15, tg84 Lecture
An ldeall\.4arr
age July22, 1976 Lecture. Wordsat a Weddn9, Storyof Ra)in)July6, 1986Lecture
Memorable
QuotesfromyogiBhajan
on l\larriage
CHAPTER
ELEVEN YogicTechnologyto the Rescue:
Thingsto Do
Sadhana.
YourSpirrtual
.
BankAccount ShabdGuru. Why do l\lantras
Work?
. yogc Tip , Sopurkh.
Graceof Godlveditation
the lveditation
for al Worrrerr

88

Mantrafor a Miracle:
DhdnDhanRamDasGut . Sodarshan
ChakraKriyamedtat on
pranayam.
sat Kriya . Sitalee
KiftanKriya . AjaiAlaiMantra . Ek Ong KarSatGur prasacl
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CHAPTER
TWELVE-UpCloseand personalStories
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TheWrecklngBal Sii VedKaurKhalsa. N,4antra
for tvliraclesGurut\4eherKaur Khalsa
Powerof Prayer Ra-elCorsiniaka SarbNamKaur . The Fantasy
of the OtherWoman Anonymous
Shakti'sFamousTalkRemembered Satlivan Kaur Khalsa. Fsa,sTruestory F/jaFox
Why Stayl\.4arriedHariBhajanKaur Khalsa. The RightAnswer Sii pritamKaur Khalsa
l\larta Art GurumustukSinqhKhalsa. l\,4arr
age ls a Carrage SiriAtmaKaur Khatsa
secofd TimeAround Dr.Sii Atna SinghKhalsa. Choices GurukaSingh Khalsa
Husbands
andWives YogiBhajan
yogiBhalan
andBibijl . Aboutthe Author:How I N,4et
TenCharactenstics
of Love

CHAPTER
THIRTEEN-The
Wedding
WeddnqVows. Weddng Song- layan. Weddngcuest?
Shaktconducts
. Another
a Non-Sikh
Wedding
Skh N.4
nister,s
Advce

134

CHAPTER
FOURTEEN-Yogi
BhalanConducts
a Weddrng

142

TTFTEEN-AboUI
C ADTER
Yoq Bhdjan

151

YogiBhajan:
. JointResolutton
Teacher
of Teachers
of Congress
YogiBhajanMemoral Highway
APPENDIX

Guldeto Pronunciation

158

Glossary
Chapter
Notes
Sources
andResources

159
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you needto makeit work.l'll alsoporntout the thingsthat
listthe mainingredients
can turn the sweetestblend bitter.Most of the adviceis JUstplaincommonsense.
guidance
of YogiBhajanPh.D.,
Butin additionWehavethe benefitof the en|ightened
Masterof KundaliniYoga,who knew exactlyhow to pol"e,provoke,confrontand
and hrsverybein9,
he met.Hlsteachings,
of everyone
the consciousness
thenelevate
of peoplethroughoutthe world.
the livesof thousands
touchedand transformed

|nc|udedon t h e s e p a g e s a re t ra n s c rip t s o f s o me o f Y o g iB h a j a n , s i n s i g h t f u | ,
for specificmeditations
often blunt,commentson marriageaswell as hissuggestions
and mantrasthat can transforma marriage l askedsomepeoplewho havetried
I
fascinating;
I thinkyou will find theirtestimonials
them to sharetheirexperiences.
weddingvowswrittenby
of the sacred
thereis a translation
know I did.In addition,
the greatMasterof RajYoga,GuruRamDas,fourthSikhGuru,for hisown wedding'
path is a far cry
as a sharedsprrrtual
that lookingat marriageprimarily
I realize

fromthepresent d a y , a I mo s t c a s u a l, a t t it u d e t o wa rd ma rria g e t h a t i s e s p e c i a | | y
lent in the west. However,I believethat no matterwhat your religionor beliefsystemmaybe,youwi||f in d t h e s e c o n c e p t s a n d p ra c t ic e s u s e f u la s t o o l s t o e n h a n C
Lifewas meantfor joyl Mayyoucreatea trulyhappyand harmoyourrelationships.
nioushomefilledwith love.

B ypresenting a mo re s a c re d mo d e |f o rma rria g e , b a s e d o n t h e u n i v e r s a I t e a c


Yoga'the 3HOway of
of Kundalini
whichincludethe sacredscience
of YogiBhajan,
found in SikhDharma'I hopeto preventdlsand the technoloqy
life,Humanology,
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with SikhDharmaand lam
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beaS ikhorevenp ra c t ic e K u n d a I in iY o g a t o b e n e f it f ro mt h e id e as o n t h e s e p a g e
Are you plannlngto get married?I hope so. Whetherit'stomorrow'next week'
tn
ten yearsfrom now (or evenif it was lastyear),I humblysubmitthe information
thisbookwiththe h o p e a n d p ra y e rt h a t y o u ma y f in d it u s e f u |b e f or e a n d d u r i n g
yourmarriage.

MayGodand G u ru b |e s s y o u a n d y o u rS p o Us e t o I iv e in y o u rex c e I l e n c e a 5 , , t
bodieswith one soul."

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couples
decided
to marrybecause
Yogijienthusiastically
championed
the spiritual
value
of the marriage
commitment.
He pointedout, "Thereis no freedomthat is free.,,He
"There's
"
alsotaught,
no liberation
withoutlabor.
With the insightof a yogamaster,
he couldseewhen,how,and if a couplecould
progress
partners.
spiritually
as marriage
He knewfrom a karmicstandpoint
if they
beiongedtogether.Askinghis blessing,
they decidedto marry,and he performed
manymarriages
on the spotat SummerSolstices.
But afterthe honeymoon(andsometimes
duringit!), in the cold gray light of
dawn,coupleswho had beentotallyenthralled
with eachotherwhile they were
meditating
togetherduringthe heightened
awareness
of the Solstice
energy,
found
theywereno longerin that blissful,
elevated,
soul-to-soul
conscrousness.
Now they
were facedwith the practicalroutineand demandsof day-to-dayliving.Havingto
getalongwith someone
who wasvirtually
a stranger
wasnot easy.
Theydidn,tknow
what to expectand what not to expectfrom eachother.Theywere unhappy.Anger
and resentmentsurfaced.
JHA K TI'J FA X -,{OW5
" DO N' T q T X I A RRI D" T A L K
lwas concerned
that theywouldblameYogiBhajanfor ,,making,,them
get married.
Sobeforemoreweddings
took place,I startedcounseling
givingwhat came
couples,
"Don'tGetMarried"talk.I explained
yogiji
to be knownasShakti's
thatlustbecause
had agreedto, or even suggested
their engagement,did not meanthat theyhadto get married,
it
onlymeantthat he sawtheirpotential
to fulfilltheir
individualdestinyby working out their karma
togetheras a couple.lt was up to them to figure
out the details.
I tried to give them a realitycheckbeforethey
plungedinto marriage.
ldidn't want them to have
falseexpectations.
I pointedout that a successful
marrrage
doesn'tjust happen;it takesappliedintelligence,understanding,
flexibility,
and continuous
conscious
effort.

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CHAPTKTNO

LAKN IN qT O B H U M A N
IN FOUK
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t hasbeensaidthat we areborndivineand we arehereon Earthto learnhow

to behuman

we learnfrom relationships.
Mostlywhat we haveto learnas humanbeings,
and when we get there we are taught to
Lessons
start even beforeKindergarten,
share,to play nicelywith others,and "follow the rules"(no hitting,don't take
Johnny's
toy without asking,hang up your coat, put your crayonsaway neatly).
aswe mature.
Lessons
changeand get a lot morecomplicated
The ancients
taughtthat we learnhow to liveas humanbeingsin four stages.
skillstowardthe path of enlightenEachstageof life is intendedto teachspecific
with the secondstage,the periodin life of
ment.ln this book,we are concerned
duringwhichcouplesmarry.Butfirsthere'san
what theycalledthe "Householder,"
overviewof all four staqesso vou canseehow the courseof humanlifewas defined.

iTAC oN. The first 25 yearsof life was called


a time to grow
was a time of celibacy,
Erahmacharya.lt
up and mature,to studyand prepareto take on the
responsibilities
of an adult. Timeto focuson personal
growth-mentally,
and spiritually.
emotionally,

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T O B{ HIJM \N

Thoseof us now rivingin the 2'istcenturydon't haveto take


thesetime rinesas
etchedin stone,but its usefurto rookat them from the standpornt
of what each
stageoffers.Evenif you get marfledwhen you areyoungerthan
25, or don,tget
marrreduntiryou'rein yourfiftiesor sixties,
no matterhow oro you are,the same
pr nclplesand ressons
of GhristAshramappry.Thetask is to unitetogether,rivingas
one soulin two bodies.
Marrage is an mportantfactorin the furfiImentof yourpersonar
destiny.
Lifeas
a householder
can be a challenge
or an opportunity,
bringinghappiness
or misery,
dependrng
upon how you relateto yourspouse,
and how strongly
you relateto the
soulin yourself
andeachother.Deveropinq
serf-awareness
andyourown connection
to the Infinitewilr herpcarryyou throughthe ups and downs
that everymarriage
expenences.

"Theqreatest
education
man hasto learnis notmedicar
science,
nlt sociaroqy,
notchemistrq,
n,t bi,laqun,t mathematics,
but thescience
of nan, thescience
of sert'
Thescience
of selfandself-au,artness
is thehighest
knowledge
a mancan plssess
because
thenqoucanpullthrough
alltircumstances.
yogrBhajan,TheTeachngsof yogi Bhajan

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N O INr l

Dll{I""dYHl

H A P PLI \/ V RA FTR...NOT!
Forsomeof us (mostly
girls),
the fantasy
aboutromance
and marriage
beginsin
childhood
withfairytales:
Withlusta kiss,
frogsbecome
princes,
handsome
Sleeping
Beautywakesup, andthen,of course,
thereis Cinderella.
Maybethat! wherethe
ideaof living"happilyeverafter" (apparently
effortlessly)
began.Thatfictionhas
beenglamorized
throughlovesongs,romance
novels,
andold-timemovies.
Despite
thehugenumber
of divorces
todaymanypeople
stillclingto theillusion
thatgetting
marriedis a guarantee
of happiness.
lt isn't.Butit canbe a dynamic
meanstoward
happiness
if it is understood
as a spiritual
endeavor.
Remember,
marriage
is "the
highestyoga,"so it takespractice
to perfectit. Let'slookat somecommonmvths
aboutloveandrelationships.
WHAT IJ LOV?
Loveisa toughthingto define.
Poets
havetried.Songwriters
havetried.Butusually
what they'rewritingaboutis romance,
attachment,
dependency,
desire,and,yes,
lust,but thatbnot love.
"A manlovesa womanbecause
sheinspires
him,takeshimout
of the mundaneto experiencehis infinite self." s

Realloveisdifferentfrom "fallingin love,"whichisa temporary


stateof mild(or
severe)
insanity,
a condition
of euphoria,
in whichyouaretotallyengulfed
by your
emotions
andwrappedup in the objectof youraffections.
Heor sheseemsperfect.
Youcan'tthinkaboutanything
else,youdon'twantto thinkaboutanything
else.
Thisrosystateof romantic
fantasy
makesyoufeellikeyou'rewalkingon air.Thebirds
aresinging,
the sunis shining
on a perfect
worldthatconsists
of justyouandthe
objectof youraffection.
Thisdelightful
condition
is a temporary
gift, no doubt
designed
propagation
by the Creatorto encourage
of the species.
Sometimes
its
calledinfatuation.
lt istemporary.
lt isunrealistic
to expectit to last.l'm sorryto say,
it inevitably
wearsoff. Hopefully
it isreplaced
withtheenduring
powerof actuallove,
whichisa heart-centered
reality,
characterized
bya constant
desire
to give,andcomprised
of kindness,
compassion,
andself-sacrifice.
Sacrifice
means
to makesacredandthatiswhatactually
brings
Happiness.
I2

M ARRI AC O N TH

PAIH
' PIR I T U A L

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-aa) daqttl toueqaq ueunq ja alels alpallln

Aq UPI Alair:

lnlsstlqpue ln]llunoq lnltlneac:,41rut1ut


ut,toLnotrqjm q)nol aql i -.:
'a)uauadxa
aql'ppq aql no4sa,ub;

Jg uPl J-/ail.t 5P .tsp :

'ssaulsP,lno,4sa,1/6a JaleaD )nat pue no^ uaai,--.:


taletd lrytauod aql taMad notr satrb;

6utql,Qataal 6utqtau r.: .


'lsnJl al )a*ad aql nal saAtb.:.
ol altut] tr.',.:
^liutlul
'abtau ol )aMad aql no,4 sattb a

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V IV A LA DI F F K NC !MA C' s A ND P C' f


We humansare manufactured
in two distinctmakesand models.All men may be
createdequal,but men and women werecreateddifferent.Obviouslymen havedif_
ferenthardware,but its the uniquesoftwarethat reallymakesthe differencein how

men and womenfunction.We arewireddifferently.


Men and women arefundamentallydifferent.Thatcan't be repeatedtoo often. As yogi Bhajansaid:
"Womenareexactlythe oppositefrommen-they havenothingin common.lt is only the
mysteousthingcalledlovewhichbringsthemtogetherWe cannotknowwhatis goingon
lnsldethe other'shead.Admit thatyou do not knowwhat theother,sworldis like.Just
agreethatyou eachhavethe right to be whoyou are."6

It is unrealistic
to expectyour spouseto feel,think, plan,or respondin any given
situation
asyouwould,or the wayyour(samegender)
bestf riendmight.False
expec-

tationsleadto disappointment,
disappointment
leadsto frustration,
and frustration
leadsto anger-not a happysequence,so it's best to know at the outsetwhat to
expectand what not to expectfrom your partner.

GRA C A ND DI CNI T Y
It is the responsibility
of the manto maintainhiswife,sgrace,and it is the responsi
bilityof the womanto maintainher husband
s dignity-andthis meansnot only in
public,but alsoin their communications
behindcloseddoors.Harsh,rudewords
oncespokenwill neverbe forgotten.Women,keepin mindthat despiteanymacho
appearance,
a man! ego is fragile,and if you saysomething
to hurt him, he will
neverforget it. He may not show it, but he will resentyou for it. lf you continue,
sooneror later,he'sliableto leaveyou.

sUN A ND MO O N
Thesetwo cosmicsymbols
providean excellent
analogy
for understanding
the inherent natureof the maleand the female.Man is likethe sunand the womanis likethe
moon.Earthdependson both of them.Thesun is steadyand shrnesforth, the moon
waxesand wanesand reflects
the lightof the sun.Doesthat meanthat manshould
I 4 . } . 1ARf uAq oN I H i P I K I I U A L P A T H

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CHAPTKrcUK
K C IP
FO KH A P P IN '5
"Llveis a self-sacrifice.
Loveis theeyperience
withinlne'sself0f
one'sownselflessness;
that'svlhAloveis God.Nooneun explain
Iove,because
loveis ecstasg.
Loveis theessence
ofan ever-longing
devotion.
Loved1es
n|t (hanqe.
lf lovechanges
, it is notlove.',
TheTeachings
of yogi Bhalan

hereare threemain ingredients


neededto buildand maintaina happyand
mutuallyf ulfillingmarriage:

) Commitment
) Trust
) Communication
C OMMIT M N T
Thecommitment
you makewhenyouget marriedisa promise
to Godandto each
otherthat youintendto staymarried,
comewhat may."ln sickness
or in health,for
richeror poorer"-no matterhow old you get, or how circumstances
change.
Marriage
isa sacred,
lifetimecommitment.
lt isn'tjusta license
to havesexfor a while
untilthe excitement
wearsoff. lf youthinkfor evenone moment,,,Well,if it doesn't workout,we canalways
geta divorce,"
thenyoudon'tunderstand
the meaning
of commitment
northe meaning
of marriage.
Commitment
meansto KeepUp! asYogiBhajan
oftenroaredduringyogaclass.
It meansyou'renot goingto quit, no matterhow tiredyou areor how soreyour
"relating"
muscles
are.TheDictionary
defines
commitment
asa pledge,
a promise
to
fulfillan obligation
of trust.Fulfilling
thatcommitment,
honoring
yourvowsmeans
youarea personof integrity.

I6

M AKRI AC O N I H( iPI R I T U A L P A T H

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I HI No l S Y N >Y r 1

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aq1s6_-,
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pue dn daa;,, ,ptesudgo aH ,,.ssou
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o1sdal5ua,ra5,,
aq] se ]asueleqgr6o1]eqMuo dals1srr1
leonrl aql st]uaLU]tru-_
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pue e6o,{tnol ,41r1uapr
atot jno q}tM6urltauuotq}tnn
op o} spqssauroj:_
sanlasrno
aq] q]tMqlno] +o ]no ar,aMasne)aqs,]r,{ddeqiou a, _.
1o ped aurnrp
uaqMos ,{o[srlnosaq] ]o arn]euanr]aql .dn dael o] ra^aueq]luepodr_ur
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-Luaq]puluraro1 sIer,npaau saldnot 'asuesu.Lalqord
uaqnl .{seaIou st L/VZ s--.__
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;:!

R CIPT F OR. HAPPIN ' '

SevenSteps to Happiness'
Ist Step_Commitment
to kindnessand compassion;
it givesyou Character.

2nclStep-Character
isa patternof behavior
whereyoucanclearly
answer
andstandbeforeyourown consciousness.
lt leadsto Dignity.

3rd Step_Dignw
tswhen you act as a god for another,then you gain Divinity.

4th Step_Divinity
iswhenyouput yourself
andyourlifeon the lineto serveanotherperson
or a creature,
whichleadsyouto Grace.

sth Step_Grace
rswhenyou'vedeveloped
a presence
thatworks
sothatyou havethe powerto Sacrrfice.

6th Step-powerto Sacriftce


iswhenGodsitsin yourheartandpresides
in yourhead
andyoucantherefore
sacrifice-and
thattakesyouto Happtness.

7th Step_Happiness
ts when you can givethanksfor beingtheseseventhinqs.
Yogi BlrajanKWTC1989

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R ( C]P F OK HAP P]N ( JJ

"Rememberone law which I havelearned:Thosewho do not learnto belong


to a man whom they love, wtll neverknow the art of belongingto a Gad whom
they will neverknaw"
yog Bhajan,
TheTeach
ngsof yog Bhajan

Trustbecomes
evenstrongerwhen you rncludethe thirdessential
ingredient
of this
specialrecipefor happrness:

COMMW NICA TION


How well do you reallyknow the personwho is goingto be sharingyourtime and
yourspace?
Whatyou don't knowcan hurtyoul
It rsonlycornmon
sense
to findout asmuchasyoucanabouteachotherbeforeyou
evenconsrder
prornising
to spendthe restof yourlivestogether.
Thattakesbeingable
to communrcate
comfortably
and effectively
on topicsthat wil affectyourmarriage.
The first and foremostdiscussion
you need to haveis about spiritualvalues.
Marriage
is rntended
to createa sacredbond;so sharingthe samereligious
faithis a
majorconsideration.
Interfaith
put a hugestrainon a marriage,
marriages
complicating an aireadychallenging
relationship.
In the fog of romanticillusionbeforemarriagethe questionof religionis sometimes
ignored,and afteryou marry,tr can be
buriedand stifledin a mazeof mundanedetails
for quitea while.
r0
Haveyou considered
thesequestions?

2O

>

Do you sharethe samephilosophy


of life?Samereligious
beliefs?

)
)

Areyou bothon the samepagewhen it comesto the majordecisions


you'regoingto face?
Whatareyourgoalsin life?

Do you sharesomeof eachother'smajoraspirations?

>

Whatareyourcorevalues?

>
>

Shouldthe wife havea career?


How do you feelabouthavingchildren?

Do you havethe sameapproach


to raisingchildren?

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teachher'"Thisshowsherthatyou
should
the husband
thecheckbook,
to balance
in her."Buthealsosayslaterr2:
believe
difhumansaredifferent... Everybody
"Therecannotbe a generallaw,because
aspectand
differ;everybody's
circumstances
else,everybodyb
fersfrom everybody
are differentfrom
s moods,needsand faculties
prospect
are different;everybody
and mental
approach,
body odor,physical
else'sas are their desires,
everybody
on respecting
emphasis
in 3HOwe putourgreatest
We mustunderstand
approach.
society
isstrong,
privacy.
thatif an individual
We believe
andindividual
individuality
Therefore,
our
for the individual.
a shelter
will provide
isstrong.Anda strongsociety
isto builda stronqindividual.
mainoblective
We wantto builda strongmanof you.Not
"Nowherewe arein a men'scourse.
but sothatyoucan
sothatyoubecomemacho;not soyoubecomeself-destructive;
of the manis in thechalthestrength
youface.We believe
handle
everychallenge
to meetit, the highthe higherthe man'scapacity
lenge.
Thehigherthechallenge,
you;chalwhichdestroys
is not something
in life.Challenge
er is hisachievement
"
youan experience...
whichgives
lengeissomething
attitudes
Gettingto know as muchas you can abouteachother'sdifferences,
of time-canavoidthe kindof surhabits-ahead
(aboutmoney,
for instancel)and
valueis
the highest
lateron. In realestate
prises
angerandresentment
thatcause
" In marriage
communiit'scommunication,
location
placed
location,
on "location,
catton,
communtcatlon.
A F WT H IN C ST O TALK ABOW T

22

Allergies
Asprratrons
Careers
Children
Service
Community
preferences
Dietary
preferences
Entertainment

Finances

convictions
Religious

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habits
Exercise

views
Political

Healthlssues
IN.LAWS

13
Pastexperiences
Pets
Petpeeves

PAIH

N- { AKRI ACTO N TH
'PIKITUAL

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Practrce
Spiritual
qnnrt< i ni praqt<

Travel
Whereto live

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Oneof youmaywantthe houseto be neatasa pin,


yourspouse
Ioryourfeelings.
isn't{un and
Thiskindof situation
andthe otheris justsimplya slobby nature.
you both to modify
requires
it probably
Moreover
care{ulcommunication.
requires
ground
yourattitudes
to findmiddle
andbehaviors
for waysof doingthings
areyou?Whatisyourlevelof tolerance
Howflexible
to explore
beforeyou
fromyours?Thesearesomeof thequestions
thataredifferent
getmarried.
howourwords
Theworldwouldbea muchbetterplaceif allof uswouldconsider
our lips.Many
beforewe let themescape
and perceived
aregoingto be received
thanwe arewhentalkingwith
of strangers
timeswe aremorepoliteandconsiderate
slowly.
Thinkfastbutspeak
Watchyourlanguage.
ourownfamily.
areonlynaturalbetweenanytwo humanbeings,but the wayto
Disagreements
notconfrontation.
themisthroughcommunication,
resolve
it'sbestto be polite One
resultfromanycommunication,
lf youwanta positive
it thisway:
s booksI usedto readto mysonexplained
of thechildren
" Politeness
way."
thingin the kindest
isto do andsaythe kindest

24

I - lARKI AC( O N TH S P I K l T U \ L P A I H

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howto makethe mostof yourshaktirs


power.yogiBhajan
taughtthatwomanisthe
Graceof God,andgavea speciar
meditation
of the samenamefor a||womento
16
experience
theirdivinity.
TALK,TALK, TALK
Youmaybethe exception,
but mostof uswomentalktoo much.
we oftenwantto hashovereverylittlethingthathappens.
Mostmenarenot like
that.Theydon'tlikea lotof chatter
andusually
don,twantto getintodeeppsycho_
logical
discussions
withtheirwives,especially
abouttheirwives,
neuroses.
At Khalsa
Women
s Training
Camp.July25, 1992,yogiBhalan
advised
women:
"Nevershareyour weaknesses
with your man or your child. Go insideto your naverpoint,
concentrateon it, and you'rrget your answerin seconds.Theonry thing that can makeyou
a failure in life is anxiety.Anxiety comesfrom the fact that your senseof achievementand
senseof timing conflict...Learnto listento otherscalmlyand yourselfquietly. The mament
you don't listento yourself,you will naturally becomeanxious.rf you don't developyour personalityso your presencewill work,your words won't work either your presenceshouldconvincea person that he is talking to a goddess."

Men often enjoysilentcompanionship;


they don,t feel the needto talk about
everythingin detail.(of coursethis is anothergenerality.I know therecan be exceptrons.)In mostcases,
if youtella manyou havea problem,he will immediately
try to
offer a solution.On the other hand,tell the problemto a woman,and her first
Instrnctis to sympathize-atlength.Men want solutions,womenwant sympathy.
So
thatswhattheygive;mengivesolutions
andwomengivesympathy,
and neithergets
what theywant!

T H P A N U TH OU K
Understanding
the natureof women,and theirneedto
talk,YogiBhajan
introduced
the "peanut
Hour,,Hetoldus
thatit hasbeena customin Indiafor years.
womengettogether
in mid-afternoon,
to drinktea,eatpeanuts,
andtalk.

26

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howstressful
andexhausting
herdayhasbeen,evenif shehastwiceasmanyprob_
lems,a womanstillhasthecapacity
to provide
nurturing.
Womanis,afterall,the
cosmtc"mother."Sheisthe Shaktl,God,spowerin manifestation.
Believe
it or not, it makesa manfeerinsecure
if hiswife shares
her insecurities
withhim.Insecurity
isthemainfrawin mostof uswomen.Whena womanisuoset.
thewholesetupisa mess.
Hernegative
vibration
canpoison
theatmosphere.
on the
otherhand,if shecanriseaboveherinsecurities,
anduseherfeminine
power,her
patience,
hercompassion
andherintuition
shecancreate
a homethatisa haven
of
peaceandtranquility.
a placeof comfort,refuge,andjoy.
Smile
a lot,andlaughtogether
frequently.
lf youdon,t,you,remissing
outon the
of
sharing
fun withsomeone
you love,andwithoutlaughter,
1oy
lifeis no fun and
marriage
is no fun-and it shouldbe!

\^/OM NJ KJ CUKITY
Whilea manseeksa woman,s
support,a womanwantshermanto provtdeprotec_
tion and security.
she maybe a brackbertin karate,but the kindof protection
a
mans strongelectromagnetic
fieldcanprovideisan unspoken,
subtlepower.Seethe
section
on " Methods
for Men" to learna yogictechnique
for strengthening
a man,s
electromagnetrc
field.Andyet,whena||issaidanddone,a womanhasto findher
greatest
security
withinherownbeing.
"Thejoy of a mareandfemare
rerationship
is theirfriendship,
theftow thecommunication, the talking,nameit anythingyou want,it can existwhenyou canavoidconfrontation
wttha man,althoughideorogicaly
you maybe totaly in opposition.
rt is possibre.
rt is practical rhereis only one point whenyou wil fight....outof insecufity.rn the total lifeof
a
womanthereis only thisone word;if that doesnot exist,you exist.you will onlyfight,you
will onlydestroyyourserf,
you wi| onrydestroythe rerationship
whenyou areinsecure.
rt is a
positivetruth rJnfortunatery
your securityriesin your spira man cannevergiveyou security.
itualrealm,in yourspiritualconsciousness,
't am - | Am,' 'l am the Graceof God.,,,
(Womenn Trainng Vt: ,,TheOrientalWoman,,1981 yogi Bhajan)

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FOUK P A THJTO LIB RA T I O N


Accordinq
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teachings,
to reachunionwith God,a manhasonryoneoption.
He hasto perfecthrmserf
throughhis own yogicpractices.
But a woman hasfour
waysto achteve
lrberation.
Shecan:
1. Do herown personal
practice
to reacha stateof yoga.
2, Givebirthto a hero,a saintor a giver.
3. Servea spiritual
teacher.
4. Servethe God in her husoano.
I knowthat laststatement
mayseemoutrageous
in thisdayand age.Butserving
your husbanddoesn'tmeanyou becomehissrave.
rt meansyou do thingsto make
him feellovedand appreciated.
whetherrts cookinghisfavortemearor givinghim
a foot massage.
you useyourpowerto encourage
and supporthim mentally,
emo_
tionally,
and spiritually.
Whenyou lovea man.you enjoydoingthingsfor him, not
because
you haveto, but because
youwant him to be happyand feelwellcaredfor.
Mostimportantly,
whenthe wife seesin herhusband
the god-rike
manhe actuaryrs
inside,she upholdshim in her own mindand heartand reflects
that backto him.
That'snot alwayseasyto do. yet it is easierto seethe God in him if she
determines
to turn him intoa saint.How doesa womando that?
Well,firstof all, she keepsup with her own spiritualpractice,
no matterwhat.
Hopefully,
herexample
wirlinspire
herhusband
to do the same.of course,
shenever,
nevernags.secondly,
therearespecific
mantras
shecanuseto elevate
herhusband,s
consciousness
and turn him into a saint.In particular,
yogi Bhajanrecommended
recrtrngthe So Purkhsectionof Rehrras,to
eieventimesa daywhireprayingfor him.
Therers a wonderfurpersonarreport2rabout the transformative
power of this
mantra.YogiBhalancallstt ,,awoman,sspecial
worship,,,saying:
Thewomanwho will learnthisshabdby heartand reciteit wi,,
neverhaveanydifficultyas far asmen areconcerned.22

]O

) . I ARRI AC O N TH(

PATH
' PI KI TU A L ,

It

. Hf Y J t Y n I N rJ t

lH r N o t S y N >y f 1

,, salloq fzen ut 1ou'sawoq[zot ut santlpog,, ,presua]]o ue/'eqgr6c.


'auoq rno,iur{uoureq uorldnrsrp
aq} pue lltMpoob
alpuo1l:_:
;o
ouJotlnoaq] se ]upM,{11ear
nol -:,
+o ssolaq] quoM ]ou Illensnsr ,,6uruur11,,
apoap pue )lpq dals ']q6t+e olur 1a6no,{arolaq'og ,{enrfuelnoqe 6ur1q6r1
u-__
]ou pue 'let^u]alp ]noqeanOresaldnotleLl]s6utq]1soy1drqsuorlelat
aq11o,{1
ri"-,
aq] pue a)el6 laq uteluteu.l
o1 saoeueur
ueu.loMastMe lapuallnsjo ssaul;:.
aq] pue uotspnsiad
yo qlOuarls
aq] q]lM aeurquo {1ru6: _
1o ra,uodaq]
^]tlru.lnq
Iue sprl;uroqnnuosradaq] +oIlpur)i
no{ o6 .pa1e
nts: ,.
)utq] o1 6u106s,aq
)urq]
6urso1'1eaqtenau,{eupue,{1rsea
sesrnrq
o6a oleuraq} asn!-:laa]ueu e sa)eu,r
'pueqsnq
roq q]rMluaun6reup utMlanauupl a]tMy ;1r,r,r
poo6stq]solaA,no1_,:_
-rodurrarou-ruana6urqlar.los
]so| an,noI'1urodtno,4urm no,{1 ua^alaqutaLUat
,, poD +o lltM aq] s,}

ur,
,,,furos
,, ]qbu ar,no^
' s ra le Mp a l c ' : _ _
LulPlo] uMou) uaaq a^eq seo Lueunrng ,{q past^pesproMasaql ,s1uau.,]aat6:.
:
lourLrjo sase)ut ]ng arer6raq 6ururelureur
pue'se;dnuud
taq rol dn 6urpue::,_
saLUo)
1ruaqMqlur ue aar6taaauplnoqsuprlloMe'alo+aq
pelelsse 'asrnotjO sueautaq] sarytlsnf
pua aq] leq] aztu
-6orar pue ']Uauaqaq] aeso1 qOnoua6uo; ,4er,,r
aq],o ]no
oOaraqla6 o1alqe6uraqueuroMe uo spuadap
]l ]ng i]lll+
-uor ro luaLLrnbre,{ue
anlospue 'ptone'luaaatdue: pa1sa6
-6nsaq sluaualelsaarq]aq] 'Luaql]noqe)utq] no,i1 '1n6
6urppam
raqarolaqralqbnepstqol sec uteUnrng,{quanrb
alrlpe asrmaq] paaq p;nonn{epol saarnn
Iueut }l }Qnop1

lr r n o v ,JY CwY t Nn 5 :i0 xo A l r ) v'^ .


f.t I f, ar.!f

i i) I I r:'it a:r.

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r

DIV IN

MOT H R

Everyfemalecreaturewas intendedfrom birth


To manifest
the Universal
Mother,nurturerof all mankind_
Fulfilling
a sacredroleasa goddess
on thisEarth,
-Does that conceptblow yourmind?
With yoqicmasteryand knowledgeof cosmiclaw
YogiBhajansetout to transform"chicks,,
to ,,eagles,,,
he sard
He taughtus the meaningof Shaktipower
And how not to be exploited
by men.
He spokeof the nobleand gracefulwomanConceptsneveroutdatedor obsoleteWith understanding
of her dtvinenature
A woman becomescomplete.
Whethershe haschildrenor not, eachfemalehasa uniquerole
In what is called"Lila"-Gods Infiniteplay
Whethershe'sa housewife,a lawyer,or a CEO,
Noblewomen can impactthe world with Shaktipowertoday.
Virtuesgiveinvincibility
Puritygivesbeautyand inspirationThroughher meditativeprojection
A noblewomancanuplifta nation.

v \ RR

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tAl

ft

. HL \ t

l Yn r N Ld t

lH 1 No l 5 Y N >Y r - {

'a+rlut alsseq
ssalaq le _.
araql]pq] os 6u106dae>1
o1pue anrqrsod-radns
se o6 o] uaq] ]ueMaM lteq o6,{a-_
uaqM sasrnol,satpel
asoq]]o uotlpntloul
aq] s,]eql aailrsod_.Ladns
))eq Lxaqlpua:
uer aM ]pq] os raqla6o]uraq]alearl pue raqla6o]uraq]]a6 o] sqluoluoMl ]noqessa)e]]r lpq] palebauqlnLuos pup 'pasnsrllos 'pasnqeos uaaqsequeutoa..r
,{r1unc_
srq] ul usuj aq] ueq] ]sar aroul paau uauoM aq] asne)aqst stql :NVrvHs
tgol
zs)aaMxrss
asrno)s,uautoM
aq] pue slep onnl{1uoale saslno)s,uau.l
lno aulo) nnoH:lNlcnts
:Lutqpo)spauoaurosuaul.to],{11etr1r:ads,.saslnof
yoqs auru,4luc
lqOne]aq 'uauro,u6urletnpao] srea,ipue s)aaM palonepuefeqgr6o1seeraq,1,1

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.,d)DtA)aUasDafiui01ful puq uotulttrfuaAaDads 0l st 0p 0l


butqla41 unwona hq VILJbuzq rj1nuryllaenlh nlqD ufial nl1 LJUaa
u0 qw1t nn^aoluthvn tnofi pult A n1n'un noh uDrulinD n ut|Ao
Jl
Au\notdsut juaw\lrut 4aas
n1npu\ dloutal
pazuvlldst (dptslal aL:|)
noh
no/' uou.t1a
ua pasnlt atDslD00
J0llDAauj 'qw),Ao wuJ patnudsa^orJ
pu' sasudDiua
s tsapll0 0S buDJlat
pu9 LJtaastlJju0 butljlanl0 sbutuj
)tsaqhD^ arJlslDalit lstl autu! n\n iLJAnq
oUtA
puo stJlu|ui6 tol fipoq
j9rljq 1laal nln dltlut fiLlp1()ltl
)njh ap\uipuv njn pautn )Ui uoutottl
pA nlh rynrutrt;alH llul huappuuvt nln pua uoutltA ulg st uDVl),
!0
N]h] )OI J]' Y JJ]W

N ) W. H V
it l-r-dYHl

"You haveto understand


that the most important,the most time consuming,
nerve-consu
ming,intelligence-consu
ming,mostcreative
Jobon thisplanetEarthisto
raisea childto be a saint,and perfect.Fewpeopleappreciate
this....
"We wantthe womanto be so strongbasically;
so creative,
so intelligent,
so compassionate,
and so givingthat shecan handlethischild-raising
situation
totally.This
willtakeyearsto accomprish.
Thatis why I askof the men-r evencaI them personally-that they sendtheir wivesto ladies,camp.',(Manto Man4)
At anothertime when askedaboutthe emphasis
on teachingwomen,he
explained
that womenarefar morecomprex
thanmen,and it required
far moretime
to bringaboutthe transformation
of consciousness
that was needed.He saidthat
the effectswouldautomatically
impactand benefitthe menin theirrives.
Heworked
to developpowerful,graceful
women,who wouldbe ableto inspire,
encouraqe,
and
supportthe success
of therrmen, as well as bringup childrento be, as he put it,
"saints,heroes,or grvers."In otherwords,excellent,
independent,
spiritualhuman
berngs.
He told the men, "Therearecertainqualities,
certaincalibers,
certainconstitutionaldifferences,
whichhaveto be understood
in dealinqwtth a woman.,,2s
IH

MA N
' WC C ' ' F W L

To be successful,
a man hasto be in harmonywith the universe.
Thatmeanshe is
ableto alignhislifeforcewith hisdestiny.
Thenh s intuitionguideshim,not lust his
ego or hisintellect.
and he becomes
a magnetfor opportunities
for success.
No matter what challenges
he faceseveryday,or how intensethe pressure
of his work or
profession,
he can maintainhisbalance
and be securein hissenseof self.
How cana manevokethisinnerstrengthand maintainhishigherconsciousness?
Medrtation.
He hasto go deepwithinhimselfand establish
communication
with his
own highestself.l\,4editations
that actrvate
the pituitarygland,balancethe hemispheres
of the brainand/orstrengthen
the nervous
systemareespecially
valuable
for
mento practice.26
specifically,
meditationon the sound currentof wahe Guru (wha-hayGuroo)
strengthens
the relationship
betweena man'sarcline2T
and his pituitarygland,the
masterglandof the body.As for yogapostures.
Archerposeis hiqhrvrecommended.
]4

\ - 1ARKI AC O N TH iPIK I I U A L P A T H

sf

. Hr Yd t Yn r N ld t

t Hl N o l 5 Y N ) Y r \

lnq 'ueal)pue leau st jlaslaqaqsraqlaqMlaueu,]],usaop]l .]l sa)lleqs :ajnleujaq


Eleqf 'ueappup]eau'dn passarp
{;atruurq s}ueMaqsptesaH a}puorssedu.ro:
sraq
st ueLUe +tMou) o1lueM uauroMleq] poolslopunueteqgr6o1
1 pue 1ua6r1;elur
,, proMlno^
,e;dtlrs
;o ueu '1uebr11a1ur e se upLuoM
o] alelau.ueuloMe asolno{ ,1sr1euuner1,
pue
]srleulerpp pup eujerpe a)rl o^eqaqno^ uaqM .per1}esa;oda|soddo ,]lallal salod
,jlaslaqeutelp
1enb3llasteqpulnel]
e sr upuoM .salpqueuloMe ]eqM sl stql )ro,ln
]ou llrMqlog el.uner]
e se a^pqaqlou plnoqspue eulerpe se a^pqaq]ou plnoqs
no^ '(ueuroMe o1 lueltodLr.lr
,!ea 6urq1auo st qltqM) ltnpuo: rno,{ q6norq1,,
,, ]sPlaujol
(plnoqs)]t {;;en1:euaq,tr}slt}saulol letrs{qdtnoi{s noI qlrm Lualqoldtapro
}eq} u
'1e:rs{qd
jsplarJ
pue ';eluau ,lenlrtrds
aatq}ur rapeale aq o} a^pqno1 .uaq1i{1sr1es
uer aroul 6urqloupue ssal6urqlop .luteslenxase luenn{aq1 :dn }t urnsaul
}a1,,
'o^eqo] ]ue^^Aaq]
o11ue,tr
L'olnpord
q)qM }eql 6g.sranr6
pue saotaq,slutps
}ueMuautoM...,,
'{aq1
.rNVA

N)AOA IVHA
^\-1-]V)I

,, suralqo.io
lle ,o aar+aq lltMno1 67.l{;anr1e6au
}le },uop pue leuo,{ue
lsure6e,{}rnr}e6au
o} ua}stl},uop :auo,{ueo} ,(poq,{ue
,{es1,uo6,,
lsure6e6urq14ue
'6utaq6uu,t1e uMop lal o1 atrdsuot Lata1,1
'Ipoq/{ueuMop lal )aAaN
';1asLnotr
utr,op lal Ja^aN
:gq6ne1
ueleqgr6o1ssa::ns+oslarlasaalq] aql ale asaql
'a1e1no,{uaq^^utM.ta^au
uef no^ :a^l6
ue: no,{uaqm}snr}utM{1uouet nor{puy .}l utMol a6ernotaq} pue le})erpqlaq}
anpqno^ 111rurr,.r,i1uo
uet no{ pue }snr}utMo} a^pqno .no,41sntlo1{poq{ue attol
tnol )earq]ou op pue ,]reaqs,{poq,iue
],uel no 1snr1
)pelq }ou op 1nq fpoqauos
o1 laal no{ 1eq,M
[|tea|t fuarrssaldxaup) no^ ls6utlao]no,{uanr6spq poD luot}oura
noAuanrOseq po9 :uosearnoI uanr6seq pog .ssatlns slarlasaalql alp alaql
+o
(, uaw io] spoqlaw,,uow 1o] | L reldeLDaas) .abelnol

dolanapo1 s).loMszasod.taq)JV.aluernsse-]las
pue q]6uatls+o uorltalords,ueLle
,uta1s{s
sa)uequa
oslp]nq a)uernpue
gousanordur
,{1uo
snonlauaq}splnq}l
;etrs{qd

shewantshim to be. And shewantsto be ableto bragaboutthat man


for somethrng Forexampie,
how inte|igenthe is.rf a mandoesn'tgivehersomething
to brag
about,he is goingto loseher.
No matterhow tndependent
a womanis,shewantsto feelthat hermancangive
herthe security
that he canprovideand protect." Hercomfortwrthyou as a man is
tnat youcanprotecther,you canprovidefor hersociar
grace,mentarstimurant,
spirrtualcompassion,
and that you area manof yourword.A womanknowsthat if you
area manof yourego,the daysof yourmarriage
you
or relationship
arenumbered.
canstretchit, but it won't work.,,
HoNoRY owR

\^/o RD

Oncea womanknowsin herheartthat you area gentleman,


and thoroughly
a qen_
tleman,thereareno probrems.
one thingthat a womaniikesmostis that you area
manof yourword.And bestof all,sheknowsthat you havesomebody
,higher
up.,
It maybe a God,lt maybe an angel,a guidingangel,it maybe a teacher,
rt maybe
a spiritual
path,or it maybe somesprritual
tenets.Oncesheknowsyou havesome_
bodyhigherthanyou,shefeelssecure
andsafe.Thesearethe virtueswhichmanhas
to relateto, to havea virtuousrelationship
with a womanin grace.
" Handlinga woman harshry
rs invitingunavoidabre
troubre,and shewiI get to
you.Troubleis onlystartedby conflrctand conflrctbetweenthe
areasof life is the
conflictof the egos.Tocreatea conflictof interestwith a woman rsto create
a diffi_
culty ln your own lrfe.. .. " (Manto Manpart4 "THE
MtJLTtpLE
MAN")
"Everyreiationship
hasa motivation.
In business
the purposersto makemoney.
Moneyis equivalent
to security
in business.
In an intimaterelationship,
the purpose
rsto get out of loneliness.
Al| sexuarrerationships
haveone purpose:
to get rid of
loneliness.
Ail the restis hodge-podge.
Evensexuar
intercourse
in rtserfis an expressionof trustingeachother,or rettingeachothertrustthat 'we do not believe
in lonelrness.'Thats
all it is.In all politicar
and otherrelationships,
the motivation
is power:
who controls
whom.
"Do you understand
thesemotivations?
one is security.
The secondis to fight
(manis a socral
loneliness
animal).
And the thirdis power.rt rsto thesemotivations
that a successful
manapp[esthe art of creative
dialogue.,,
36

. } . 1AKKI AC( O N TH J PI KI TUXLP A I H

. H l Y| t \ nt N

l d J I H t No l 5 \ N - ! Y 1 1

-)nrlsuol Iq 'ueLue ueql luarledaloLr-l


saLUt]
uaalxlspue ,aleuorssedu-rot
a]oul sault]
uaalxrspue'lpnllallalutaloLusalLlt]uaalxtsst aqs len]tellalut
,!aa sr ueuory1,,
gg.Up)
ueuloM1oIluo[eLlaq]
]nq 'loa+no{ aler-uo1,{1r1enb
aq} a^pquaLuMa},1a4 laa; noI a)eul upl aqs .s,upur
e +o ]eq] ueq] ra)i)tq]qlnL! st elne s,ueu.loM
)tuualuetrlau6eu.t
, ])a++o
^rolerqtA
-or1)ala,palle) st qltqM 'JalaullltLr.l
alenbslad aeuualue
atol! uaalxtsspq ueLloM
ueuraql ]o ]eq] ueq]aeuualue
atoLl-l
seqerne.laH,{lrnrlrsuas
}o put) e spqueLuoM,,
tl [_N) l] J,,il r.{ lt- NllD{J,,
Ct N tyt dxl Attyl

'u q o1dn qlleuro],t1 o1


uo ).loMpup
1;astaq
pa6ualleqt
aq lltMueLuoM
srq'abueq:puemor6o1+iasutq
uo s)roMueu.te uaqM
,, a:er6 llasrno{aiu6o1aq }snut}lolo.rdaq}
a6upql o} 1ue,unoi{11.uer-uor,r
^poqlup
e ]o ]no ltalord e a)eur ],uoc I6raua 1o alseM
pue ,a+tljo alsem ,aLut]+o alspM
ralearbe sr6urqlop a)e] o] ueLue ro1a6ualleqt6uor,u{11e1o1
e pue ,uot}lalp}sroM
.rno^'llne] ]so66rqrno^ st os )utq] 01 ueLuoMe a6ueq:ra^auue) no^ ueuJoM
e aoupql upl aq ]eq] )utq] o] ueLup,|o ]rpd oq] uo ]lne,|lsa1eato
aql s,11...,,
:^llunlqaltnb 7Es{es
uefeqgr6o1 ueutor,a
}la}rad aq} 1o{se1ue1
srqolurraq ploL!pue 'upLrloM
e a6ueqtuet aq uor1eLl6,{6
alll }eq})ulq} Ieeuueu.t
y ,{1ue1od
alpL!a}aq} q}tMdtqsuor}elar
)t}stlear
e aleDardde
pue ,}do)le ,qstlqe}sa
uel aq uaqt Aselup+
e i{;uosenruotst^}eq}azru6otat
o} seqaq ,}lnpeajn}eure sv
,, upLUoM
]la]rad,,aq] ]o uotst^pooqpltqr]eq] ]uolluo)pue abpalMou)leo] spaau
,o6p|]]eur
p au.|]aql
aq 'pueqsnqe saLuo)aq
ueLU
stq]o ssatlnse 6ur1eulo uo 1
^q
-ualu
srq
Arre)
o]
slueM
aq
lno
upuroM
e
jo
e aleart s{oq 1soyr,1
,,
]laijad,,
]l
^selue,
t_l)lx)d lHl lo .'iYINVJ
NVf^{oA

,, an6olerpairrleattasno1 no,4
alqeualltrt,l
]pq1 4uprloMe o] )le] no{ uaqnastq}llp raqu.laLuor
no,{ue3 a)lnras
}c
asodrndaq] ut alalutsareno^]eq] ,anlas
o] a.lsapaq] aneqno{ }eq}sl plq} aq} pue
,elqeq:eordde
'q]rM)lp] pueale}unururo)ol
supaLu
alqulnH..a^laso] olsap
^sea
'uropstM:anpq
aq] pup
sar11nte1
ao.tq}
]snLuno{ 1eq1
ale araq}upule sV,,
^ltltunq

.1.' i,\1i:

tionof thetwo beings....


Godmadeit thatway.lf shersconvrnced
wrtha compassionate
heart,withan Infinite
reason,
shecantorerate
theworstwithyou.Thecircumstances
underwhicha manwourdreave
you,womancango throughit without
jnherent
grumbling.
even
Thatisthe
quality
in her.,,

Mo N Y :Y o U R 5 , ) .- ,ttN,
oK oURS?
"Whena womanmakesherown money,it shouldbe
treated exactly
the samewayasthe moneyyOU makeis treat_
ed. Thatswhat is calleda jointaccount.
Thehousehold
mustbe runbya jointeffort,notwiththeattitudethat ,it is
yourmoney,'
and 'it'smy money..The
,mine,you
momentyoucreate,yours,and
havealready
ruined
thehousehord.
These
arethemistakes...and
thatrswhytherate
of divorce
is goinghigherandhigher.
Moneyis a medium;
moneyrswhatmoney
does.Moneyjs not mineor yours.Moneyisours.Andit isvery
beautiful
if vouare
veryhonest
witha womanin theseareas.,,34

\^ /HN DOf A B OY B CO M A \ lA N?
We saya boy startsto ,,becomea man,,when hisbeardstarts grow.yes,
to
and that
is because
the hairthat appearsat a certainstageof development
(usually
about
when hisvoicechanges)is Gods cleverway of coveringthe
moon center3s
In a boy,s
chrnso that he wirrno rongerbe primarily
underthe infruence
of the runar,
feminine,
or motherenergy.(Hairabsorbssolarenergies,
thus neutralizing
the lunareffect.)
Variousreligionshaveceremonies
procedures
and
that acknowledgewhen a boy is
consrdered
to havebecomea man.
It takesa realman,notjusta maleof a certainage,to takeon
the responsibilities
of marriage,
to be matureenoughto makea lifetimecommirment!

]8

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6 f ,Hr \, t tY nrDl dJ lH t No lr \t> > \r1

lssol.lno^]noqep]oMp aqlearqra^aupuv
sOuruur6aq.rno^
]e utp6p].relspue ,asolpuV
,sso]-pue_q)}td
jo u.tn]auo uo ]t )s! puv
sOutuutM
rno^ llp+odeaqauo aleu uer no{ y1
:sloo]]nouromqiim dn r-ua,
pitnqpue doolspuy
'ua)orqo] a1r1
rno,{ane6no,{s6uiq}aq} ql}eMrO
'sloo+.ro]
del] e a)euro] sa^eu),{q palsr,tq
ua)odsa^,no^qlnr] aq].rpaqo] reaquet no{
11
:aLUes
aq] ]snl s.talsodu.|
oM] asoq]]ear] puV
lalsestppup qdunitl qlrnllaau ue: no,{
11
:Lure
rnol slq6noq]a)eur]ou pup_)ulq] uet noI
11
i.lalseuJ.lnoI
sL!ealpa)eLUlou pue_LUpa]puet no{
11
:as ool )le] rou ,poo6ool )ool ],uop}a^ puV
^^
'6rrrleq61,4p,r.a
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leap] , uop, ] noqppall6ut a q , rO
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pall aq }ou pup }tpMuet no,{;;
:oo16utlqnop|aq] ro] a)ueMollp
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'no,{lqnop uaLUlle uaqM
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lf you canforceyourheartand nerveand slnew


Toserveyourturn iongaftertneyaregone,
And so holdon when thereis nothtngn you
Except
the Wi I whichsaysto them: ,,Holdon ',
It you cantalkw th crowdsand keepyourvirtue,
Or walkwith kings-nor losethe commontouch;
if neitherfoesnor lovng friendscanhurtyou;
lf al mencountwith you,but noneroo mucn;
Jfyou canfill the unforgivnq mtnute
Wrth .r,"1v
5eco4dsworth o, dr,16p1
s .u1 Yoursis the Earthand everything
that s in lt,
And-wh ch ts more-you 11be a Man my sonI

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aqi o} sassau)eaM
uteua)p_:
sq]6uarls
urepats6urq uosradqte3 .uorlrleduo)e ]ou s,}l.drqsrauyed
e sra6eLts..,
l.l-ldr'{of t
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l,uop I q6noq1;,,.llepue s1re,r,.r
ldarreI 'noI a^ol1,,')uiqi puelaa]pueMou) ol alqpaq o] aApq
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no1 llrapadstauoou [1letr1sr1ear
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uosrad,&a,ra
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aq 11r,u
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tnori lo pupqsnqtnol .abeuteuttno,{ urnt o1 ,{ematns e ,
l,uet aytn'r

lu vdr not .
u t e ld uJ o)pue, a1aduol, at eduo 3 , , , rl, , aa l q l: _ .
,{aq1rnosabeureur
.lno,{urnl ue) }eq}s}uatpat6ur
aarqla,: _ .
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if possible.)
Thatbringsbalanceto the team,and makes/t stronger.
Maybeone of
you rsrea||ygood at frnances
and caneasilybarance
the checkbook;
the otheriikes
to cook.lt doesn'tmatterwhichone doeswhat,but usecommonsensewhen
figurIng out how to shareresponsibilrties.;i
yes,we know therearefundamentai
differ_
encesrn the natureof eachgender,
the sun and the Mooncharacteristics,
but don,t
get stuckwith stereotypes
when it comesto the dailychores.Beon the alertso that
neitherof you is a controrfreakor tryingto dominatethe other,because
then the
marnageis headingfor trouble.
) CoMP LA IN
Th s is the thlrd,but not the reast,of the terribre
trinityof marragerrreakers.
cot a
problem,
somethrng
that you reailyneedto get off yourchest?Something
hes doing
or not doing?Something
she,sdolngor not doing?Well,okay.Finda kind and
courteous
way to gentlyremind,suggest,
or request.
And takepersonal
responsrbil_
,,blame.,,
rty for your own feeings and reactions,
don,t
And unlesstt,sa terribly
importantmajorissue:onceis enough.Don,tkeepharpingon the samething
over
and over.Thatscallednagging.Womenarenotorious
for dorngit.
ARCV X -.{NIi; DoN'I HA V T H M
Neverabandonor compromseyourbasicvarues,
but if andwhentherearedisagreementsoverllttlethings,wiseis the womanwho letsthe man havehisway.
Lethtm
cnoosethe restaurant
or the movie.Richard
Carlsonwrote a popularbook,Don,t
sweat the Smallstuff. The titre saysit afl and is good advicefor marriedcoupres.
l\lakinga mountainout of a molehillis a wasteof energy.
Of coursewhen it comesto the majordecisrons,
whereto live,rentor buy,if and
when to havechildren,
you needto planand work it out together.
Thesearethings
you shoulddtscuss
and agreeon beforeyou get married.
Discuss,
but don't argue.Thefact is a wife can neverwin an argumentwtth her
husband.
Evenif shemakesher pointand getsherway,sheslost.Because
the man
wil feel dimlnished.
He wil resenther for that feelng. So,don,t havearguments,
havediscussions.
Still,evenin a discussion,
thingscan get prettyheatedup, so be
sureto keepplentyof wateron hand-drinkit to cooldown (don,tthrow i
).
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pue pautpm{lrddequreuaro} uMou) uaaqaleq uauoM pue uap.
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o16urobsrraqloueuo a]tMaq] pueqled
auo uo pueqsnL
len]tlos
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6ur1eldue1uot
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[a>1aqi se uo]]eltunL!ulo)
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6uro9.]rnqo] popua]ut]ou seM]l ]eq] astLuard
aql u.ror]uels 'ln+unqburqlauosauop.toplesseq aqs/aq ,,.no[,,sns]an,,aur,,
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pue ]qnop aqi jo ]tla
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(thoughthey'dbe wiseto avoiddisin a marriage


Republrcans
canpeacefully
co-exist
- especially
cussingpolitics
at the dinnertable).But when a husbandand wife are
is enormous.
lts
committed
to different
faiths,the challenge
to the marriage
strongly
young
when people(especially
especially
difficultto bringup the subjectof religion
of attraction
that can happen
ones)have"fallenin love"and there'sthat chemistry
kickin, the brain
no matterwhat religionthe otherpersonis.Whenthe hormones
goesto sleepand doesn'twant to haveto thinkaboutthe practical
challenges
they
will faceasa couple.
for an interfaith
marriage
to work,but reliI haveto admitthat its not impossible
giousdifferences
relationship.
So,
add a huge burdento an alreadychallenging
please,
learnmoreaboutthistopic.
beforeyou get too involved,
engagedareyou in your
Howcommitted
areyoueachto yourfaith?Howactively
What areyourdailypractices?
Will your relatives
acceptyour
religious
community?
marriageto someoneof a differentreligion?Will you be treatedwith icy reserveor
g ivenan openhearted
welcome?
thereis only One God, ultimately
the Goalis the
You may agreethat because
froma
same,no matterwhichpathyou'reon. But let'slookat thisideamoreclosely
standooint.
oractical
worshipGod in humanform; somedo not. ls God personalor
Somereligions
by
impersonal
or both?Somefaithshaverulesaboutfood and othersareidentiiied
do not eat meaton Fridays,
Khalsa
Sikhsnevercut
special
clothing.DevoutCatholics
Muslimwomenand orthodoxJewishmen and womenalways
theirhair.Observant
covertheirheadsin public.
Are you going
and whichoneswill you observe?
Wherewill you spendholidays
daysto churchor mosqueor synagogue
or
to go your separate
wayson separate
or convertyourspouse?
temple?Areyou goingto try to convince

HOW TO RA IJTH CHI L DR N?


Are you sureyou won't change
Do you agreeon how yourchildrenwill be raised?
Later
yourmindlaterwhen it s timefor choosing
betweenbaptismandcircumcision?
on will it be BarMitzvahor Communionor Amrit?38

44

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6ntp to,u.Lsrloqot;e,asnqe
lesnods
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e uo ploH
,,i]l s,]eq;, ,6urutear:s
no,{1eq1sl aarolr,4ue1ra1e11,ue3
idn pa1

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urauedaq} slas6ur,u;
snoruoLurpq
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,asrr,uordurot
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lo slq6uaq}}tadsaro} }q6ne}
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other optionsto exprore.Beforeyou cat the divorcerawyer,have


a tark with your
minister,
priest,rabbi,or professional
counselor.
Hopefully
that personhasa yogic,
spiritual
understanding
of rifeand marriage
and is famiriar
wrthyourrerigious
varues
and lifestyle.
Speaking
with familyand friendsisn,talwaysthe bestidea,because
theyarebiasedonewayor anotherWhatyou needisa neutral,informed
thirdparty
to helpyoufinda wayto saveyourmarriage.
And don,tunderestimate
the powerof
prayerand positiveaffirmationto herpsorvethe probrems
you are havino.Faith
movesmountains.
YogiBhajanexplains
marriage
counseling:
"Therearetwo typesof marriage
counseling.
Oneis to counsel
for the marriage,s
sakeand the otherfor the individuars
sake.rt depends
on rne counseror,s
attitude.rf
a counselor
worksfor the marriage,he wrll counselthem togetheror put
them
togetherandfindout what isseparating
them.Butwhena marragecounseror
works
for the individua|s
sake,he may sprita marriage,
whichcoutdnot haveotherwise
beensplit.
"Divorceis verymessy.
Afterwardsiswhen rearmarriagestarts:chirdren,
chirdcustody,abuses,yes,no, tryingto becomefriendswith the guy you divorced.
God, it is
a hell.'Hailthe hell'is divorce.,,3e
A L I R N A IIV '

tO D IV O R C

Whenthereareserious
probrems,
theresthe simpreexpedient
of creatrng
a temporaryseparation.
lf you canget awayfrom eachotherfor a whileyou standa better
,,Going
chanceof gettinga fresh,clearerperspective.
hometo Mother,,isn,twhat
I'm suggesting.
Rather,
it wouldbe idealfor the wifeto go to 3HO,sWomen,s
Camp
(KWrc) for a coupleof weeks.Hereswheremare/femarerssues
and probrems
are
discussed
and understoodin a safesupportiveatmosphere,
yogi
with
Bhajans teachingsprovrding
the insightand technology
to herpwomendiscover
theirinnerpower
and learnhow to manifestit jn the most posrtiveway.
As you will readin Dr.Sat-Kaur,s
article,40
unresolved
sexor monevproblems
are
two of the "biggies"that causedivorce.
Whateverthe problemthat hasbroughteitherof you to the brinkof divorce,
look
for othe.solutions
beforeyou giveup on yourma/naqe.
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+o aptslnolo atolaqxasse)euj]eqr..
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sr1eq1pue-sabueqlxa
)lu.llp)11e
pue1ua1od
1o6ur1se1
lsoul aq] sl asrno)ralur
lenxa:

l- lY l Y it o ) YCNYU ttsn o c
'79 a6eduo ,,'OurqloJrl
:
araql xaslnoq]lM pue xas ut 6urqloNsl araq;, ,arn])alltssellpup anbrun
1ue[eu;
r6o1aasoslV salrnosau
pue sa)rnoSut palstls)ooq aq1ur ,punor6lteqpue ,a)!:
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tnoii sp q)nsslol)p]uodn 6urpuadap_+l
lnoqeole)tunulLl.rcl
o] ltnoqpue 'uaqM']eqM'xas]noqeuotteultolut
trltads pueluelrodurputj uel nc.
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pue,{luado
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pue a}elunulLuol
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alqp
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paau
o}
)lei
nol
.a}tl
s,{edatuarle6}eq}aruauadxa
.
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-lpnlnurp dolaaap
o1ault]sa)e]11Illeuorlouapue,{lleiuauosle1nq i{1;etrs{qd,{1_:
]ou 'a^ol noAuostadaq] o1 alqtssodse asoll se aLUolaqol ,a6rau o1 alsap le.tn]_
e sapnltutanolpaurpl a'LtM
pue pueqsnquaaMlaq6uue: pue anol,uol])aJlp
au -ua6yo uoilelsa]tueLu
pup uorssardxa
aq] st ]l i]l Iolu3 a6eureutInlssa)lns
e
lueltodu.lue s,11a6eureu]o s)tad aq] ]o auo st a1; xas1ear6y
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auj awDaqsatp]q
o,n1
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nol nave rr ts thusthat a womanretains


a permanent
karmtc
' ;r;;;' of uny.ut" wrthwhomshehassex.
That,s
whyrhroush
prostitutes
theages,
have
beenlooked
downupon,notbecause
of
+
LJ
anymoraljudgment,
butbecause
prostltutes
carrya hugeloadof
karmathey've
takenon frombeingintmatewithsomanydifferent
men.
"Marriageis a spiritualidentity,not just a love
affair betweentwo peopte.,,
Yog Bhajan

II'i IN TH JIA K J
Here's
a littleAstrological
tidbitfor thosewho are interested:
In the

(the
horoscope

blueprint
diagramof yourkarma),
what we mistakenly
call
"love" affairs,are shownin the FifthHouse,whichts the
Houseof Romance
(vs." realty"). Marriage,
however,
is the
domainof the Seventh
partnerships.
House,
the Houseof
So
the dynamicsof a relattonship
betweena man and a
woman,especially
thosewho havehad premafltal
sex,ts
boundto changewhentheymarry.
Froma yogicstandpoint,
ovecomesfrom the fourthchakra,the heartcenter,whereas lust is a secondchakraactivity,the energycenterassociated
wlth the sexorgan.
"Phvsicalintercaurseis carred'the bridge of seven
construct/ons.'you can erevate
your phys
tcal,mental,and spiritualbody seyentlrnesover if it is an intercourse
of mind, body, and soul
-if it is sacred,if it is worlhwhile. Otherwiseit is the dumbestthing to
da...
YogrBhajan,AquarianW sdornCalendar,
2005

48

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Romance
andrealityareopposite
poles
Stillwe "fall"in loveoverandoveragain
Hormones
startragingwhentheageisripe
Andboysthinkit means
thatthey'remen.
Casual
sexin recentyears
Hasbecomean accepted
trend
Except,
myfriends.it s a basicfact
Thelawof Karma
doesn't
bend!
A manmaymerrily,
carelessly
scatterhisseedIn hispsyche
theres barely
a ripple.
Thewoman,however,
carries
a permanent
imprint
ln the extraArclineshehas(rtrunsfrom nippleto nipple).
Every
encounter,
everyaf{air,leaves
a permanent
markSometimes
a scar-on eachwoman'shistory
It'snot a question
of moraljudgmentKarmrc
consequences
arenot a mystery.
In thecosmic
scheme
of things
Thismaycomeasa surpriseTheidealwomanhasjustonesexpartner.
(!),for herentireliie.
Herhusband
So,marry,
mychildren
andenjoya fullsexlife
Toneither
abusenormisuse
isyourgoalSeethe Godin eachother;thenrevelin pleasure
Ecstatic
merging
of two bodies
sharing
onesoul.

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llas.rno^pue
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,sa/.
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no1

"TH K I 5 NO THI NG I N 5XAND


WITHO UT5XTHK I i NO THI NC"
(Ex c e rp atsn d comrnentary
S nqh K ha lsa)
on a Y ogrB hal anectureB y5SGrrruka

is the highestspiritual
OF NANAK,the life of the householder
lN THEHOUSE
whichun tes
functionin the sixthsense,
path.Throughcreative
union,couples
is
of amalgamation
betweencouples
Th s process
them beyondt me andspace.
now and forever.
real,and t mustsucceed
YogiBhalanteachesus that there s nothingtn sexand withoutsextherels

nothing.Thisseemsat f rst not to makeanysense.Likemanyof YogiBhalan's


statementL e t st a k e a c o s e rl o o ka n d
teachngs,it rsa purposeyprovocattve
what he is qettingat.
try to understafd
an Instrurnent
to ralseyour
In a yogicmarrage,sexuacommunon becomes
and take you to divn ty. Accordng to Webster, communlon
consciousness
n q , c o mmo np o s s e s s ioann, d s prt u a u n i o n . S e x u a l
means"sh a rn q , e x c h a n q
w llingly,blendingw th yourpartnerin a puresexucommunlonis consciously,
a mergingthat is a sprrituaact.Twobecomeone ln the sensethat eachrepresentsthe othet eachcanspeakfor the otheI eachlivesfor the other,and each
world,and
beyondthisphysical
standsfor the other. lt s a bondingthat exrsts
it s a bondng that ls eternal
by two peopleasan
in it when t is performed
consctously
Sexhaseverything
Thenthosetwo
and soulbodes together.
act of mergrngthe physica
, mentaJ,
bodiesbecomeone stmpleun t. At that moment,nothingstandsbetweenthose
to becomeonew th everythng
thoseindividuals
two. Thrspuremergng causes

to the oneness,
It s withoutego. lf one can know that two can amalgamate
of oneness,
By knowingthe Secret
then one can know the secretof oneness.
SexualcommunionLsthat
existence.
one can be one with the One universal
is lost For
the experience
drvne. lf you allowyour ego to becomenvolved,
he
with him because
if a womanth nks, " l haveto have ntercourse
example,
" then it becomes
of
a business
gaveme a necklace
or he brouqhtme fJowers,
n which
is a willingness
Sexuacommunion
valuesfor benefrts.
selingcharacter

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performedin abuseor obligation,


or is misused,
it can be detrimental
to the
samebeing;so in bothways,it is an energy.
Thisis a verytrickysubject.Nobodycan affordto be lustfuland as suchdisconnectedfrom the needsand joys of the partner.But everyonemust love.
Withoutlove,you can neverfind your life,and with lustyou canneverenjoylife.
YogiBhajansays:"Sexualcommunion
cannothappenuntrla womanknows
her divinityand mani{ests
the faculties
of the moonas the man manifests
the
faculties
of the sun.Thena couplecan understand
and appreciate
the waning
and waxingof eachother.What happensotherwisein unconscrous
sexts an
unfulfilling,
draining,
and mechanized
exercise.
Youput a lot of coalon the fire,
you createa lot of steam,the locomotivemoves,it createsthe sound,and then
thereis a release.
Thatis the end of the situation.
lt is a purelyphysical
act,and
thisleaves
the coupledrainedof theirenergy.
"Sexual
communion
takesyou beyondthe fivephysical
senses,
intothe sixth
sense,
whichis the totalamalgamation
of yourfivesenses
at a higherfrequency.We callit the'sixthsense'or the'sex sense.'The
humanbodycan emit a
sexualscentthat can affectany person.Oncea woman becomesattractedby
the scentof a man,she may containthe man in her psyche,
and thereis no
poweron this earththat canseparatethem.The humanscentis verypowerful.
"Thesixthsenseiscompletely
intuitive.
Eachonefeelsthe other.Sexual
energy betweencouplestravelsin a circlefrom a woman'sThird Eyeor her sixth
chakra,overto a man'ssixthchakra,then down to hrssecondchakra,overto
the woman'ssecondchakra,andthenbackup to hersixthchakra.Sexual
energy travelsin thiscyclical
motion,whichis controlled
by the woman.A man has
to understand
that a woman has all of her sexualorgansinternally,
while a
man'sareexternal.
lt is a withinandwithoutsituation.
Herentiremechanism
is
inside.
A man'sentiremechanism
is outside.5o he mustlearnto playmoreto
bringher out. Thatis fair sex.Otherwise,
it is unfairsex.lt is also'ladies
first,'
meaningladiesshouldreachtheirtidings(cltmaxes)
first.
"You must understandthat in life there is nothing but energy.Matter is a
form of energy.Mattercannotbe destroyed,nor can it be created.lt can only
be changed.5o your physicalbody has energythat can be transformedinto

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.lle alerluatuo)
01raq jo]t]lnrljllpll sa)eLJ.l
]p
stq]pup ,qlrMuaaqseqaqs
ueu.lqlea+oetnpraq uo ]ulrdLut
ue saujploqr^sdroH.aldoadz L jo LL o1dn , .
,{ruagpueuoqouq}tMuaaqspqaqspup ,ao[q]rm6urdaals
]o ]tqpqaq] seqaqs
'^^ou)no^, paurer]
ata,uiiaqise ourneqaq
uo 1q6uo6 a;doad[1|e)1sr|eag,,
a^rle]adoo)
pup snoau
-a6ouoq,{.laa
auto:aqo1 pasoddns
ate,{aq}a6elreutut uo rateluaq}pue,qsr
-+losaq o1 pautpr]uaaqanpq]saM aq] ur uaul srea,4
rog pedap pue xas>1trnb
a^eqo1paulpr]uaaqa^eqqlog .looq)s6urutetlauuesaql LLlol]aLlot sp16,1se7i1
aq] ur araH alqrssodur
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uaaq seq aq srea,{Z I ro+ au.l} }eq} Iq oS
'92 st aq uaqnlr
sat.l.lpu
oq uaql a;qrssod
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-lers'tl ro g1.lsnlsraq uaqn,l
sUelsrioqeasoddn5aldeuexa
ue a)ie]sn ]a1,,
' lat)osstq]ut saleulalpupsaleul]o+
dplrpueqsnouose sr11.anrpnpotdun
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pue 'aAlelunLuutof-uouueLUe sa)eulsrql .Iemeo6 pue ,dn taq
]lrn6
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,{1uo
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lenxosp a^equet Iaql
pue 'uarpltq)expord pue xasa^equel saldnoJ,,:sureldxa
uefeqgr6o1sy
'lenpt^tpu
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-nLULLro)
'ssaurddeq
Le11aq
6uuq uet a6ueqtxasrql .satpoq
oM] ur Inosouo ]o
arua|adxaaq1salnpordpuesplat](^6.raua)
I ]au6pL!oj]laia
oq] slrauuolq}qM
'aqr{sds,raq}o
q:ealo,{6rauaaq}a6ueqlxa}ou saopa;dnotaq1asnefaqa)uat.l
,aslndu
-adxaarlua aql sseduto:ua
lou saop1r
;els,{qde {;uo srxasuaqTq
,, lle]P xas
Mou) ]ou op,{aq1'erleqt puolasaq} q}rMuosrunul er)pq) qlxrsaq1q1ra,r
,{6
,aua aq] sa,ront
{lsnoosuotaldnote 11u1,i{6raua}o Mol+aq+pue uot}pltunul
-Lr.ro:1o
Ituanba.r]
aql puelslapun
,{lsnor:suot
aldno)aq}seop,,sruorlsanb
aql
,sa^aaq] qlrnn
q6notqlasrno).ralut
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Ouraas
q6norq]
asrnorlalur
'anOuolaq1q]tn,l
an60letp
a.lestnollalul
leqranq6notqlastno).lalut
le)rsAqd
+ospurl,{ueLlale araql a6ueqtxa{6rauasrq}}no,{e1d
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"And he alsohasthe habitto be with 32 girls-so he is goingthroughhis


mentalmovie.Bothare in theirmentalmoviesand neitherknowshow to be
for the other,or to feelthe other,or livefor the other.Theseold habitsaresome
of the maincausesof everyknowntroublein the sexuallife in this country.
"We usuallyact as the by-productsof circumstances,
environments,
and
actionsthat constitutethe habitsthat make up our behavior.Habitsare
embeddedin the subconscious,
and on the average
our subconscious
guides
about60% of our actions.
Prejudice
and biasguideabout25% o{ our actions,
and only 15o/o
of our behavior
is conscious.
Our sexual
failures,
our socialfailures,ourfamilyfailures,
our individual
failures,
andour humanfailures
arefailuresbecause
thisis how we havebeentrained.
"We canlookto an alternative
training.
In the yogicscriptures
lifehasbeen
dividedintofour phases
or 'ashrams.'
Firstis 25 yearsof celibacy
whena man
mayretainwithinhimselfall the semenfor growthand knowledge.After25
yearsof age,manandwomanmaymarryandhavechildren,
up to 50 yearsold.
From50 to 75 years,one maytravelthe earthwith hisor her partner,
sharing
teachingsand wisdomfrom experiences
in life, re-establishing
contactsfrom
youth,andinspiring
peopleto becomehealthy,
happy,
andholy.From75 to 100,
one maysitand meditate
andwaitfor the callto quit.Thisis how 100yearsof
lifehavebeendividedin the normalprosperous
growthof a humanbeing.
"l{ somewhere
withina human,the ego givesup andthe will of the Infinite
prevails,
then one can becomehealthy,happy,and holyand consistently
experiencea sacredsexuallife. Everyhumanbeinghasa choiceand the powerto
change.
"Thesedaysmanymarriages
aredissolved
betweenthe ageof 36 and 45.
That is a periodwhen marriagehas becomeboredom,and everybodywants
to look to new values.You must be awarethat nobodylooksto new values,
and thereis no suchthingas boredom.
"
Marriage
isan institution
thatcannotget boringbecause
it isa continuous
battle againsttimeand space.Howcana thingbecomeboringwhenyou haveto
exerteveryminuteof yourlifeto keepgoing?

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Q: Whatis the impactof stress
high stressT
A: Filla tub with warm water up to the navelpoint. Remember
the water
shouldnot be too hot or too cold. Sit in the tub and do 15 minutesof Sat
Kriya.aa
Thenliedown in the tub and relax.Afterwards
comeout andyou will
be ableto enjoysex.lt works.
Q: /s therea besttimeof dayto havesex?
A: Avoidsexbetween3 a.m.and 6 a.m. Because
of the positionof the sun
with the earth,it is a verysensitive
time of day.Avoidsexwtthinthreehours
aftereating,afterphysical
exercise,
when the womanis deeplymenstruating,
whenyouareunderstress,
andwhenyouarenot in a secureplace.Any other
time is fine.lt shouldnot be donein hasteand worry. You mustbe brought
to the pointthat you relaxand thereafter
sleep.
Q. Thenwhatcana mando about horniness?
A: To feel hornyis not a sin or wrong,but if one knowshow to invokethe
meditative
mind,whichraises
the energyup, one canbecometotallycreative.
planecan manifest
Horniness
on the physical
as sexualintercourse;
on a subtler planeit canmanifest
ascreativity.
lt isthe sameenergy,
useddifferently
in
d if{ o r a n +

hndrr

rontor<

Q: When men and women approachmiddle age sometimesthey experiencea decline


in sexualdesire.How can this bestbe dealt with, both physicallyand emotionally?
A: Sit together back to back and do Sat Kriya.Centuriesof experiencehave

provencouples
remaintogether,
verysuccessful.
lt is alsousefulfor couples
goingthrough
calamities,
indifference,
andunstable
environments.
Twospines
joinedtogether
in SatKriyacando wonders.
lwishyouallthesuccess.

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A- IAKRIAC ON IH S P IR IIU \L

P A IH

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p
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burql]uepodu ]sou.r
aq] sranol,sluated
aql taqloupauo q]rMdlpuor]la++e
,{raaare pep pue uloLu}pq} }ue}rodrut
ltan st 1r ,})e+ul .lle}p }ou,oN:V
ldo1s 6utqtnol pue 'uatDa\Je
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taq uiq]tM
plrqr6ur,rrorb
aq] q]l,nn
auo aq pue Ierd raq ]al .dolsplnoqsasrnoltalu
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u.roqun
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p sl stql :V
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rutlepuny
aqlleql pe a^erll..O

SIKHNTYO\,ITH

FORV\l

The SikhNetwebsite hasa section where youth feel free to askfrank and personal
questionsabout the Sikhview on many issues,includingmarriageand relationships.
Theycan do so anonymously.Hereis a realquestion that was askedlune 1, 2005,as
well as the answerfrom one of the moderatorsof the Forum.

tf I did havepre-maritalsexwouldI go to hellor be reinQ. Whatare sinsfor Sikhs?


carnated?
| knowyou recommend
havingsexaftermarriagebut if someane
wasto
havesexbeforemarriagewouldI be punished?
/ seesexasbeinqnaturatas breath_
ing. Bye.
A: I am not goingto answeryou in a typical,,moralistic,'
way.I am goingto
answerfrom a Yogicand consciousness
perspective.
Whentwo peoptenave
sexthe aurasmerge...you
becomeone aura.lt takes7 yearsminimumfor the
womanto get the man'sauraout of heraura,and sometimestt takesmuch
longer.Sexis sucha verysacredactthat it requires
a commitment
tn the rela_
tionship.Sexcan penetrate
the psycheof the individuals
involved,
especially
the woman,on a verydeepieve. lf sexis not treatedwith sacredness
and
commttment,
bothpeoplecanbe hurtverydeeply.
Forthesereasons,
lt is best
if sexis doneaftermarriage.
Humbly,GTKK

M AKKI \ C

PATH
' P]K I T U A L

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lno^ u a^tledrqsynot
daal o1sri{;snopuauarl
drqsuorleler
aq}dlaquel }eq}s}uaLuala
lenxas
aq} auo
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'6urao1
pue pal)auuo)abeureur
aqt daal
ol raleluaq]raqler.rauoos
panlosar
pue passarppe
aq o] paau,{aq},earestqlui sLr.la
-qordarearaq]11 a6elreu e 1o ,{1t,ra6uo1
pue ssal)nsaq+o} lpl}ul srdtqsuor}ela.l
lenxasa^rl)efq1;eaqy luauodLuotlenxasaq] sr drqspua|+
e u.ror,r
a6ei|eu:e sa
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asaq]]lallaro1spualdrqsuorlelar
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letrs,{qd
aql ]o spalelaqlo ut uo ]lauuot ;en1r_rrds
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tolpue,leuotlouta
+o))el e stalaq]
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lenxasaql
'Aauoupue xosa]p a)]o^tpo] ppal
leql
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let
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leastoncea week.Thegroundrulesarethat you arenot allowedto talk aboutmoney,


the dateandthe
for planning
Oneweekthe manis responsible
or schedules.
children,
kinds
Theideais to engagein fun and different
nextweekthe womanis responsible.
of activitieswith eachother (that don't haveto cost a lot of money) Dinnerand a
or connection
movieareall rightoncein a while,but thereis no realcommunication
watchinga movie.lt is so easyin a marriageto get boggeddown with all of the
and romancego rightout the window Thesecompothat courtship
responsibilities,
nentsareextremelyimportantin fosteringa healthy,connectedsexualexchangeThis
Tryit Seefor yourself
canmakea hugedifference.
little"dating"exercise
talk about money Most peopleareveryprllf you want to seepeoples neurosis,
that
vate about this componentin their lives.However,in a marriage,it is essential
but they
situation,
theirlointfinancial
not onlyknowand understand
bothindividuals
alsohaveequalsayasto how theirjoint moneyis spent,saved,and used.I often su9gestmonthlyor at leastquarterlybudgetmeetingsaboutloint financeslf both peoboth need to know and understandwhat
ple are going to be fiscallyresponsible,
incomethereis if
thereareandwhat discretionary
what expenses
moneyis available,
havenon-joint
when one or both individuals
any.Thisareagetsverycomplicated
finances.
is
and sizesin a relationship
of all shapes
the keyto solvingchallenges
However,
with eachother.lf you cantalk to eachotherin sucha
the abilityto communicate
youcanresolve
andacknowledged,
feelheard,understood,
mannerthat bothparties
in communication
in the UnitedStates,
almostanything.We aretauqht,particularly
withoutanyexplanation
to "cut to the bottomline." Thatis,we giveour conclusion
l often
is disastrous
thiskindof exchange
asto how we got there. In relationships,
Letthe otherpersonunderof explanation.
suggestto couplesto usea paragraph
what you did.Thenyour partnerneedsto acknowledge
standhow you concluded
betweenpartnersmaxiThiskindof exchange
what you'vesaidbeforeresponding.
Basedon these
beingheardand understood.
of both individuals
mizesthe chances
components,mostcouplescan resolvethe majorityof their lssues
but they areworth the work. Theyaretruly the
arecomplicated
Yes,relationships
and liberationlwishyou
transformation,
for growthandchange,
opportunity
richest
in yourlourney.
success

62

M AKKI AC O N TH iPI K I T U A L P A I H

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partners.
Forexample,
if a coumadeby the marriage
not matchup to the changes
to the marplegetsmarriedbecause
theyhaveso muchin common,what happens
riagewhen they discoverhow differentthey arefrom one another?
the husband
andwife
for marriage
do not evolvewith the changes
Whenreasons
andthe couplemay
at itsfoundation,
havemade,thereis conflictin the relationship
not staytogether.
lt is moreenduringand doesnot
Intentionis moredeeplyrootedthan reasons.
yourintentionin marriage
usually
changeoverthe courseof time. Whenyou identify
you shiftthe frameof thinkingfrom what you want to get from marriage
to what
of the marriage
you can brrngto marriage.
Intentionsetsthe direction
and stability
and allowstrust to grow.
of eachother.Intention
what spouses
trustisthe intention
In a healthymarriage,
of lifetogether.
is the baseand strengthto facethe challenges
counseling
to find commongroundon finances,
cometo marriage
Oftencouples
disagreement
or conflict;or exploretechto learnskillsIo resolve
sex,or parenting;
In realrty,
thesemethodstake us onlyso far and
niquesto improvecommunication.
to maintainchange.
arenot sufficient
When couplesare in conflict,at odds,in pain,not gettingwhat theywant, it is
with the intentionof the
and reconnect
helpfulfor themto stopfirst,and remember
is renewed
the issueat hand.Oncethis understanding
marriage
beforeaddressing
and sharedwith eachother,it is not that muchfurtherto findingand formingsolustrengthto the intentionof the marriage
connection
tions.Keepingthat conscious
the solutions
agreedupon.
enstheirabilityto maintain
So how couldthe women lunchingat the airportmovefrom their "reasons"to
marryto their "intention"in marriage?
is to havechildrenmayfind her intention
Thewomanwhosereasonfor marriage
carrythroughgeneratlons.
is to nurturea familywhosestrengthand security
to
isto settledown,maysetherintention
for marriage
Thewomanwhosereason
throughanydifficulties
to movecloserin relationship
and continuity,
createstability
herintention
Forthe womanwhosereasonto get marriedis to avoidloneliness,
to herlife
and coziness
maybe to bringdepth,genuinecommunication
for marriage
throuohthe marriaoe.

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Angercanbe so powerfulthat it takesoverour senseof reason.


lt s asif the brain
shutsoff. When a persons angergetsout of control,they often sayand do damag_
ing thingstheywill trulyregretlater.
Thinkaboutyourown angerresponse
patterns.
Do you raiseyourvoiceand yell?
Do youget physically
abusive?
Breakthings?Tryto identify
the thingsthat havemade
you angryin the past,and remember
what you did whenyouwereangry.Thenplan
what to do instead,if a similarsituationoccurs.what positive
actioncan you take
insteadof flyingoff the handle,havinga tantrum,or stormingout of the room?
Thisls calledPlanning
Ahead.
Herearesomesuggestions
for Self-help.
Chooseoneor moreof the followingtechniques
to practice
dailysoyoucanapply
them laterwhen/ifyou find yourselfin a potentially
angerinducingsituation:
r LongDeepBreathing
(Slowlyrepeata calmingword,suchas,,relax,,while
you aredoinglongdeepbreathing.)
> SitaliPranayamae
(yogic
breathing
to cooldown seepage102)
r Closeyoureyesandvisualize
a calming,reiaxing
placeor experience.
(Useyourmemoryor imagination)
r Go for a walk.
) Write a letteraboutyour anger-for your eyesonly,don,t keepit.
(Maybeburn it? Thatsa positive
useof the fireelement!)
I Drinksomewaterto cooldown.
) Readan inspirational
book.
r Do a yogasetthat hasstretching.
relaxing
movements.
Thoseare some good ways to deal with your own anger.What about when your
partnergetsangry?
> Remember
safetyfirst (get out of harms way if necessary)
> Staycalm
> Physically
removeyourselffrom your partnerif he/shetendsto get physically
abustve
r lf safe:
r Sitcalmly,stenand acknowledge
his/her
feelings
> Saysoothingcalmingwordsin a low,slowvoice

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Fromwhat J haveseenc
selingcouples
and families'
therearetwo problems.
one, couplescontemplatjn
marrrageget caughtup
in romanceand don't
enoughInvestigation
do
beforetheysay'"l do " And
second,
once
married,
couples
up too easily.
give
lencouragecouplesthinking
about marriageto get to
know eachotheron a
deep,honestlevel,asking
themsetves
and eachotheras m;
Betow
I

area fewexamples
create
yourownquestions
...ifffi:,r"JrT,::;::"
What is

importantto you?
) Whatareyourgoalsin
life?
r What do you want to
be clolng5, .lO,30 years
from now?
r Wheredo you want
to live?
> How do you feel about

) whatjsyourparentins
lj;;n

tn"o'""' Howmanv?

> Whatsyourperception
aboutwho raises
the chjldren?
Oneparentor both?
Whatwill that look like?
r What do you physically
and emotionally
needfrom eacnother?
) Whatareyoursexual
beliefsand needs?
> How do you feelabout
sharingyourfeelings
and listenrng
ro mrne?
r How do you relateto yorlr
parents...and
mine?
> What roiewill the parents_in_law
playrn the marriage?
> How do you feelabout
n

> whoisthebreadwjnner
:i ;:'*:

;::T"T,ffir",,,,

r Whatfinancial
needsand
do you have?
r now wi, moneybe nu
no,uu#"ttut'ons
I How importantaremateflat
thrngsto you?
) Whats yourbottom_iine
c
you want jn the way
of a house,car,boat,
summerhome,
lfrtt
"or..,,"r,t
r How do you feel
abouteitherone beingaway
from hometor business?
) How importantis religion/spiritua
lityto you?
expectarions
'
and needsdo you haveof your
self
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) Taketime for my self.


) Maketimefor sexand keepit meaninoful
and fun.
) Get awaytogether.
Marriageis hardwork. lt is the hardestyogaof all. Overthe pastthirty-three
years,all
of my garbagehassurfaced.
lhad a choice.Eitherlcould faceit myself,blamemy
spouseor run away.l'm so glad now that I choseto stayand facemyself.Throughall
the trialsand hardshiptherehasbeenmuchjoy and the desserthasbeenfulfillment.I
am gratefulthat lfollowedYogiBhajan's
adviceandjustkeptup and keptgoing.

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(XCKPT'FKOM TH LOJANqL5TIM' MAY ZI, ZOOS)

StaffwriterEllenBarrywrote:
"Couples
thesedaysareundergoing
counseling
to seewhethertheyshouldget
engaged.
Inthedivorce-heavy
South,
churches
recommend
it.
"lncreasingly,
couples
areseeking
out " pre-premarita
"
l" or " pre-engagement
counseling-the
opportunity
to sit downwithtrainedadvisors
to examine,
dispaspassing
sionately,
whether
theirloveisa
fancy.
Thisstep.thoughstillrare,ison the
riseacross
thecountry.
IntheSouth,
themostreligious
partof the
anddivorce-prone
country,
manychurches
havebegunto recommend
it.
" ln seminar
practice
hallsor livingrooms,
dating
couples
theartof thepainf
ul conversation,
facecoldrealities
aboutsexandmoney,
andcatalog
childhood
traumas
that
mightleakintotheirmarried
printouts
lives.
Theyexamine
summarizing
theirpsycho"growthareas'-oftheirrelationships.
logicalmake-ups
andtheweaknesses-sorry,
"lt maynot bethe kindof lovestoryfoundin Hollywood
movies,
but premarital
pathto marriage.
counseling
responds
for a morereliable
to a yearning
Usingtools
fromsocialscience.
it aimsto prepare
the partners
for conflict,prevent
unionsbased
on blindimpulse-and,
ultimately,
reduce
a divorce
rateashighfor religious
couples
"
asfor otherAmericans.
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VOICOFTHMAJTK

classes
andlistento him
to sitrnYogiBhajan's
hoseof uswho wereblessed
and
challenginq
transforming,
speakin personfoundhiswordselevating,
! We knew he cared
powerf
ul, yet alwaysloving-evenwhen he shouted
to stentorian
voicewould go from gentlecajolingsyllables
aboutus. Hismarvelous
confrontaaftera particularly
Sometimes
tonesthat vibrateddeep into our psyches.
And thenhe wouldchuckhe wouldsay"Whyareyousoserious?"
tionalstatement,
and even
le! He taughtvalues,virtuesand idealsand madethem seemdesirable
Everyword hit home.
attainable.
simplydo not do iusticeto his spokenwords As muchas posWrittentranscripts
siblein thesearticlesI havetried to preservethe flavorof his speechpatterns He
coinedwords;he had a uniquerhythmoften employingan unorthodoxsentence
structureand his words were so effectivethat each personfelt he was speaking
the
he emphasized
on Marriage,
s lectures
to himor her.ln allof YogiBhajan
directly
sinkintoour
so that theymightactually
overand over,undoubtedly
sameconcepts
after centuriesof hit"stone" heads,the sameway a drop of water can eventually,
ting the samespot,makean imprintin a rock.

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Whatevermade brassdoesn'tmatter.Brasshas its own faculty,own quality,own


weightand own property.
And that is what loveis,that is what marriage
is,that is what ife is,that is what
good luckis.Thereare no two opinionsaboutit when a maleand femalemerge
together.
Thatswhy we do it beforeGod.Thatswhy we do it beforeGuru.st
We bringtogetherfriendsand relatives,
the motherandfatherstandup,andthey
givethe handof the daughter.
Thedaughtermergeswith the man.Parents
givethe
(shawl)
palaa
to the manand he givesthe shawlto hisbride.And we singthe song,
PalaaTaindelagee. Onceyou givethe palaa,let your headgo, but that offer,that
supportmustnot go. And oncesheholdsthat,shemustlet herheadqo, but not let
her holdgo. And that is what marriage
is.
lf you thinkyou knowwhat marriage
is,and you say,"We'llneverbe emotional
we'll neverfight with eachother,"then listento this.lf you reallylookat the marriage,thereis nothingto fight about....
"l am intelligent, sheis a duffer; sheis intelligent,lam a duffer. Sheis rich, lam
poor; sheis poor, lam rich." All this hasno meaningin marrrage.Tryto understand
marriage.lt ts a simple, unique situation. Where amalgamationtakesplace, a new
metal comesout of the two. A new ego comesout of the two. A new rdentitycomes
of the two. And it is forever.lt is not only for today and not tomorrow.
Tryto understand.
Everything
cancometo an end.Evenlifecancometo an end.

But one thingevenGod cannotend:the desireto be one in eachother.Thisdesire


evenGod cannottake away.To be one with one is not the desireoverwhich God
has the control.Thisis one desirebeforewhich God has surrendered,
God has
obeyedand God hasbecomelittle.TheAlmightyGOD,the All-pervading
God,has
becomehumblebeforethosewho havean utmost desireto becomeone with the
One.Oncetheybecomeone with the One,theymanageGod.

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Marriages not what we understand;


actuallymarriages what we are tryingto
understand
on th s earth.Forgenerations
and generations,
througheveryrergro

manknd hastriedto createan instituton of marriage.


Sometmeswe ve t, some
rsthe mostmisunderstood
inst
t meswe don't.Thepractca realityis that marriage

tutionevercreatedby man.
Somepeopleth nk marrage s lustto produce
ch ldren.Othersthink t'slustto ruf
d . S o me le ema rra q es t o q e t rid o i o n ein e s sa, n d s o m es a y ," H o w c a n
a househo

| 9u uu, I ru ! , c ! yd ) . , , e . , n a n ? n e e dt o h a v emy b e t t e rh a f w i t h m e , s o I m u s
"
f nd somebody.

f you look nto the very nnerurgeof the humanbeing,there s alwaysonethinq


or the other makng peope want to marry 11you qo verydeepin the scrpture, t
ces, so he wantsto mu t p1yhimset " n
says,"Whena manis young,he hasthe '.1u

anayzrngthe subconsc
ous we saythat he wantsto producehis own image-and
you know n that magehe seesGod.

He fallsin love,getsa woman,produces


th s, produces
that... we , thereare
bookson it. Youcan readthem in yoursparet me. Butthe fact rs,marriages not a

merger,5,
marraqe s reconOat on betweentwo peopletor theirown bettergood
I am not qoinqto tell you that marriageis a verysoft,sophisticated,
beautif

to facethisearth
th ng. 1thinkrnarrageisgettinqtoqetherto qet it toqetherforever,
whateverit givesyou,bad and good.Theproblems that we expecttoo muchgooc

fromthe earth,and underthe we ght of that goodwe all d e, it'ssucha weighttha


we can't carryt

Thepo arityof fe s that two peope cometoqetherbeforeGod.lt'sveryunfor


tunatewhen peopleqet a divorce theynevercomebeforeGodl Theyony coTn

That'stunny,theygo to the courtto qet a d vorce,that'


beforeGodto get married.
srange.\or n d l\ rt h t t h o ' rd b e t h a y o u t o -re b p ' o e G o d r n d d ( , F D I o r r

otherand whenyou accepteacfrother,thenyou ieep on acceptng and neverstop


Thatis medtat on. That s marriage.
Thatis re gion.Thatis God That'severythr
you want to know.

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pup saul] lno] paMoq ,{epauo poD ajo}aq
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ou sralaq] uaqM
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nori
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decidemankind's
future.NeverlWarat homewlll not decidethe futureof the house

and war in the streetwill not decideyour socialfuture.War at eachother-throwing platesand throwingyour breakfastpancakes
at eachother-will not decideyour
economic
future.Noneof thiscandecideyourfuture.Onlyonethingwill decidethe

future.one thing:if onewoman...onel (l am not askingfor four and a half billion


women-they saytherearefour and a halfbillionmenandwomenon the earth),if

one woman-with purityof heartand clarityof head,and one man with purityof
heartandclarityof headcanunite,canmergewith eachotherandcreateoneChrist

likechild,createone GuruNanak-like
child,createone Buddha-like
child,whichcan
bringpeaceto everyheart.Thatis what will decideour {uture.
We needanotherMosesto leadusto the promised
landof peaceandtranquilit

We needanotherChristto giveus the powerand strengthof peaceful


coexistenc
We needanotherBuddhawho can stillsaythe truth no matterwhat. We need

anotherGuruNanakwho canseethe infinityof God and stillfeelhumble.That'sall


that we need.

Tobe veryhonestwith you I am not worried.NormallyI usedto presideovermarriages.I stoppeddoingthat because


somepeoplecamebeforeme, promised
them-

selves
to eachotherbeforethe Guru,and thentheyappliedfor divorces.
lcouldn't
standit. I couldn'tunderstand
it. So I havelust retiredmyselffrom thosekindsof
TnIngs...

goodor bad,is not marriage,


Marriage
with a reservation,
and it neverwill be.lts
personal,
my personal
opinion,absolutely
that peoplewho marryand haveanyreser

vation,good and bad,are not doingit right.Marriageis one proposition


in which
there is absolutelyno reservation
whatsoever.

O FRA J I NI
'TOK
Y
Todayl'll let you know the storyof the Rajini.
The GoldenTemplestandson this

TH(

story.lt is a storyon whichgraceandfatherhood


and the mosthealingpartof Guru
RamDasstands.

Thereoncewas a wealthykardar,a tax-collector,


who had sevenlovelydaughters
Of these,Rajiniwasthe youngest.
Herfatherprovided
all of hisbeautiful,
charmin

daughters
with gracefulenvironments,
the bestof teachers
to cultivate
theirtalents

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"Thisis the dowryand thisis the farewelland nevercomebackto us everagarn.,,


Rajinisaid,"Can I haveten minutesin our houseto saya prayer?,,
Thefathersaid,"No, eight,cut it short,get out, thats it. you get out of here.I
don'twant to seeyou;I am sickand tiredof youtellingme that I do nothing{or you
"
and that'God doeseverything.'
Thepainfulstoryis that Rajinidid prayand in herprayershesaid,,,codAlmighty
I am verygratefulto you. I am veryblessed
that you havegivento me the man
deserve.
My lovefor you is eternaland all I askof Theeis that you helpme to carrv
thisresponsibrlity
"
with utmostgrace.
Now you American
girlssittingherewho aremarried,
and thosewho areunmarried,lust understand
that thisstoryof Raliniis our root.
Ralinitookthisleperin that basketandthensherealized
that hiswoundswereso
many,andthe fliesand otherthingswerecomingso heavily,
that sheaskedherparentsfor something
to coverhimwith. Herfatherrefused
and it rssaidthat hermother took off herchunl(silkheadscarf)andgaveit to Rajini,
whereupon
the fatherbeat
"You
herup.
haveno rightto do that!" He yelled.Ralinicovered
her leperhusband
with that chuni,took the basketon herheadand walkedout of herparents,
home.
Shestartedmarriedlife by walkingfrom villageto village,gettingsomefood to eat
for herself
andto feedherhusband.
lt'sa truestoryknownto millions
of peopleand
it didn't happentwo hundredthousandyearsago. lt happened
and it is verifiable.
Eachspotwhereshesat s there,aliveandwell,andthe villagers
stilltell Rajini
s story.
FinallyRajini,who was verythrrsty,
cameto a pond wherethe nectartank of
GoldenTemple
of Amritsaristoday.At that timeit waslusta verysmallpond.Under
a Brrtreesheput down the basketcontaining
her husband,
coveredhim,gavehim
water,washedhis face,washedhis handsand said,"pleasebe so kind as to stay
here.I am gojngto the adjoining
villageto askfor somealmsor food so that we can
survive.
Be peacefuin this basket."So Rajinileft her husbandby the bankof the
pondand went intotown.
As heryounghusbandsat in his baskethe sawsomething
veryunusual.
He saw
blackbirds
comeand dtveintothe pondand thenfly out and theircolorhadturned
from blackto white,likelittleangels.Hewatchedthisodd scenefor a longtimeand
then he thought,"MaybeI shouldtry something."
So he shookhimselfout of the

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that seems
haveeverything
in the world and who doesn'tbelievethat something
negative
canactually
be a hugegift.
you do not havethe nervoussystemto dealwith life. But what is a
Sometimes
and calamilifemeansthat you cannotdealwith negativity
spiritual
life?lf a spiritual
tiesthenwhereis yourstrength?
isto us.Thatiswhy we comebeforethe Word
Sobasically,
that iswhat marriage
of God and bow and take a vow to ltvetogetherforever.
Ithink when two peopleget married,they do not livefor eachother.That'sa
with whichlhave neveragreedin the pasteighteenyearsand I
wrongconception
You
am not going to agreewith today.You don't marryeachother for yourselves.
whetheryou havethem or not. You becomethe
marryand livefor the children,
guardian
angelsof thoseinnocentlivesGod bringsintoyourlife,and I thinkthat'sa
verydivinethingfor everyhumanbeing.
you and you tell me "Well,our chemistry
doesnot work.We are
WhenI counsel
We don't understand
eachother.He is not payingany
not togetheremotionally.
attentionto me. lam not payinghim any attention."Whenyou do not talk about
whichyou havejust left in the careof somefriend,I feelthat you are
thosechildren,
that. I don'tsayso mostof the
cruel.I believe
veryignorantly
blindand emotionally
time because
I don'twant to offendyou.
Ithink peoplewho arethat naive,that blindand that darkthat theycannotsee
kindness,
compassion
andfeelingand graceto
and havepassion,
theirown children,
verywrong.Suchpeopleareworse
be likeangelsto them,lthink thererssomething
than animals.lsee birdsmakingtheir nest,layingtheir eggs,hatchingtheir little
them,teachingthem to fly and trainingthem to be on theirown.
ones,protecting
But in our own liveswe forgetallthat.We fly awayfrom our nestsbeforeevenknowrngwe aregorng.
...Today
I am askingyou both to not feelgreatand to not feel littleeither.I am
askingyou both to understandthe onenessbetweenyou two. For in that oneness,
I am askGod shallblessyou. I am askingyou to lift yourselfaboveyoursmallness.
ing you to elevateyourselfout of the myth of your body,your emotionsand your
ieelings.
TodayI am askingyou to divedeepinto the totalityof yourselfand total
yourself
that God
up. Feelthat thisis,thiswas,and onlythisshallbe.Justremember

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1eq1,ietd1
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slqlq]lM poD ]o
ssauauo
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'suorloula
aql pue sdrqsuorlelar
'sbur1aa1
lno^ io ]uaLullt+ln+
aq] ]ou sr e6eureyl
'a6eureur
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aq] )leM aM uaqMs,]eq}']sa)reppue uMopatp s6utqluaqM,,
,,']sallp]
'6urq1auo stq]raquralxai
lsnl 'suaddeq
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alaldu.lo)sra6er,rteut
tnor{pue nlnD oq} alo}aq
a^eqno^ poureurale 'sMpllelapajaq] pue sMelalpls aq]
rEspunoirno,i palaldu-rot
ur 'noI 1eq1a.rpltap
ol seqaraq6urprsard
Mou lalstutlAaq] leq] adoq I
+osLUral
'a^olsr pog pua6alp purqaqa^ealpog
+o
.parlont:uaaqaleq eM pup
qled aqt uo )leM oqM aM pue aq] ut 'raqulou..ta.r
1sn[1ng
'sarnuo]Iueu q6norq]1ndere ag a^tlepaltoqate aA 5ssa1eldloquo 1ndare a711
parnuo] pue palsa]are po9 ,to qled aqt uo )leM oqM a4n [poq,(ues1a6ro1
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the valueand true purposeof marriagein
YogiBhajanexplained
and emphasized
Hereare more
many differentways,but alwayswith the same basc message.
asa
and remarks
he madeduringweddingshe performed
excerpts
from hislectures
Women'sTraining
Camp(KWTC).
Ministerof SikhDharmaand at Khalsa

"Marriageis a partnership
of two beingsof llghtwho liveby theirintuition,under"
of well-being.
standing,
and a common,genuineinterest

the relationship
isto relaythe help.
-:her Therr;:.
" deliver,
to
deliver.
lt comesexactly
ip: relaythe shlp.Deiver,deliver,
Relay-tion-sh
"V^ r

-116 :

that..."

h a ln

i^

a;.h

nl

(KWIC,lune29,1988)

"...Lookat Chrrstianity,
and he
whatdo,^* rrrr ',, you adopthim as husband,
youaswifeitstillthelastdayof breath.'Why
don'tyougoto thesamepriest
adopts
you.'Yougo to the court
andseeif hesays,'NowI breakyourbreathanddivorce
youdon'tgo to thechurch.Yougetmarried
in thechurch;
of lawto havea divorce;
llve
yougetdivorced
day,physical
experimentatlon-to
in thecourt.Inthe modern
marsatisfaction-is
called
of emotional,
social,
andeconomic
for purposes
together
isonethingforever.
.. Whenallisone
God,marriage
riageandlove.Actually,
before
"
marriage.
it, it iscalled
loveandwhentwo persons
decide
andoneisall,it iscalled

"Why aretherequarrels
and wives?Because
theyhavenever
betweenhusbands
triedto becomeone.Theyarestilltwo who arelivingunderone roof.Theyarestill
in one bed.Theyarestilltwo who are managingone home.
two who aresleeping
on the side.
Theyarestilltwo; one is drivingthe car and one is sittingand sleeping
Buttheyhavenot yet becomeone.

84

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PAIH
'P I K I T U A L

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]HI No ]5YN)YrY

,, auo areno^ arolaraqlpup ,auo aq] jo uorlear)


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ol o^pqq}oq
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srq}lr rrolno 1a6no1 teq} asne)aq
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'!aal uorlezrlr^,
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]nq'a^arq)pol paauaq] puelsrapun
oqM uarpltq)uotlltLu
autusa)npord
fulunotsrql
6utlsseq
o.leuollliLU
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ror.r. uo,11,,
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lraq]
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p puepupqsnqpolerlsntj
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pue.loqrlel
oql q]tmuroqaq tou
-uel priqrp uaq]'srpnpr^rpur
oMl +ossauauo
alearfaM qlrqMur uorrnrllsur
ue olparl
louue)aM]l :stq]o] ualsrlos ,suelloutyse
no,{6ur11a1
ue lnnoN.}olp pa}sanut
aneq
an'rles ar,aq)tqM Ur uollnlllsurup
st slql auo auro)aqoM] UaqMst
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"Throuqhbador good,KeepUplThat is therealhegto success."

"Now listento thisone thousandyearold theory.lt alwaysworks.A "fe" who


" A wo \"wo" meansgreatness)
doesnot mergeinto a malecannotbe a "female.
who cannotcontainthe man,cannotbe a "wo-man."Youcantry anyothermethod
you want western,eastern,
northern,southern,
central,Chicagotheory.Useanyis forever.Good and
thing. Thereis only one thrng and that is that amalgamatton
bad,greatand small.all of it is rn one pot now.In thisyou will find peaceand tran"
quility.

"Theone act to performis for a man and a womanto mergeas one. lf from
is
now,theyshallsucceed.
Success
thism nutetheymergeasone,theyamalgamate
nobodyhaseversucceeded.
Humanmanipulanot anywhere
else.By manipulatron,
Bylyingyou canescape
a situation.
but youwil
tion is rneffective
overdivinepsyche.
you can fulfillyour emotionaland commotional
neverbe respected.
By corruption
body,but you will neverbe trusted.Therearecertainlawsof life.And thoselawsare
of life.Sothat is alsoGod."
responsrble
for the earth'srotationandfor the continuity

"Thereis a lot to learnandthereis a lot to understand.


Butthereis onething
of each
lwant to tellyou: thosewho willlustidentifytheiridentityintothe oneness
other,Godshallservethem.Godshallnot onlyblessthem-that'stoo littleof a th ng
theiregosand bring
to askfor.God becomes
the servant
of thosewho amalgamate
one identityout of the unionof the two. Theyare suchthat God grantsthem the
Thatis how saintsarebornon the
will liveforever.
soulfor whichtheirgenerations
earth.
"Youcanhavechildren.
Children
canbe bornto you.Youcanhaveas manychildrenas a wholefootballteam.lhave no problemwith that. But a saintcannotbe
bornto you,a mastercannotbe bornto you,a divrnehumancannotbe bornto you

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pue ,noI 11n6ua
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uo lou ,Illut+ul
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41
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pue aJrluMo ltaq]
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to '6urnr;1sn[uaaero ,a6e,teur uot]n]r]sut
aq11o asodrndaq] srleql ,"^.;rl;J
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aql puv .1eatsr uorleute6leure
aql +tssolaq]-upq]
aloLuqlnLUsrure6aq1 ure6aql upq]aloLu
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puoLaqno,{alun
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]ouuel auo 'auo jo uotlpule6lpLue
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aql +i
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' )\J JJ

CHAPTK

IO TH K s CU
YOq ICT C H N OL OGY
THINCS
IO DO

owR JPIRITVALBANKACCowNT: iADHAN A


"Thefamlythatprays
together
stays
together."
TheLadies
HomeJourna
magazine
ranthat slogann adsfor an insurance
companymanyyearsago.

yourspiritual
Whatever
path,the discipline
of a consistent
dailyspirituapractice is the foundationof a completemarriage.
In yogicterms,spr tual practiceis

calledsadhana.
lt'sthe cementto holdtogetherthe bricksof the institution
you are
buildingtogether.You may be doingthe 3HOsadhanaor not, but for God'ssake,
beforeyou startyour day,beforeyou facethe outsideworld, do somethingl
to connectwith yoursouland the soulmateyou havechosen
I

Now comesthe big challenge,


braceyourself:
Theidealtime for sadhanais early

n the morning,beforesunrise.
Thisisthe timeof daywhenmeditation
is mosteffec-

y rn the earlymonthsof marriage,


trve.lt s verytempting,especial
when you'resttll
dewyeyedand "honeymooning,"
to wantto s eepin,andstaycoztlynestled
together underthe quilts.But if you want the restof yourday,and the restof your lifeto

be excelent, you get up, get out, and do sadhanain what are calledthe ambrosta
hoursof the morning,2-112hoursbeforesunrse,with a groupof peoplewhen pos
sible.
It'snot easygettingup that early,but makingthe effortpaysoff. You'reinvestin

in yourspiritual
bankaccount,
wth a guaranteed
10oloreturnon the tme invested
you'recovered
for the next24 hoursl

88

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68

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aq]_,,LUe)nq,,
1o
rnoAsrsrql .aesno,{
uo pod lsrrlaq] pearpue autnlo^aq] uado
I1a,ule1rpau ,uralqord
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uaq]
to uotlsanb
rnol asod!a^erde.taJlo,nrngpqeqS
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'lrloqlef ']ou ro q)rs .qrqpsqluerg nrng
rrJS
aql 0] 06 0r sraf.lnos
paserqun,leuosradur
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6u
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aq1toi pazroraua
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.uollpln)Jl)
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A T TH ND OF T H DA V . . .
In additionto morningsadhana,
its a smartideafor a coupreto serect
a special
medrtatronto do togethereveryday.Eveningrsgood
time for this so you can eachclear
awaythe tensions
and invorvements
of the day,andconsciousry
strengthen
yoursoul
connectionwith eachother.

V/Hy Do

\^/oRK?

you maywonder
^TANTKAj
what good

it is to chantsyllables
in a language
that you

might
not understand.
lt'spartlya matterof attunement, aswe tune
Just
the ry or the radio
to whateverchanner
is broadcasting
the programwe want to recerve.
Themantras
and medttations
in thisbookarein the Gurmukhilanguage,
whichmeans,,from
the
mouth of the Guru.,,Gurmukhiwas derivedfrom
Sanskrrt
(the ,,Language
of the
Gods"),in whrchwordscomeas croseas possrble
to actuatyvibratingat the same
frequency
asthe thrngtheydescribe.
Ancientyoqisunderstood
the technology
of sound(shabd)
and knewwhichcom_
binationof syrlabres
wourdcreatewhat effect.rt rsa fact that whatever
we attune
ourselves
to becomesa part of us.We are like magnets
in a huge magneticfield,
whateverwe vibrateattracts"that" to us.Add to
thisthe fact that the mantraswere
conscrously
designed
knowingthat as we chantaloud,our rongues
strmulate
some
of the 84 pressure
pointson the soft upperpalatein a specilic
sequence.
Thistriogersa response
from the hypothalamus
gland,whichin turn activates
the pituitai.
Soan actualphysiological
changetakesplacein our brainchemistry.
As we vibrate,
the Universe
responds.
Everhear,,,lnthe begrnnrng
wasthe Word,
and the Word was with God,,...
? Everythlng
in God,screationjs vibrating.
We just
needto tune in to the wavelength
that is broadcasting
the programwe want to
experience.Thereare mantraswe can usefor almost
any sttuation:to attractprosperity,give us courage,for self-hearing
or to caflon Gods powerto hearothers.to
prayfor a miracle-you nameit, there,sa mantra
for i' And, of course,thereis pos_
itiveaffirmation.

9O

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aarq] raqlo ,qurnq]aq] tapun pa!nl ra6uU
xapur)erpn1..
uetr6olut pueq ]q6tl .rno^6uug (pa66a1
ssort)aso6,{se3o}ut dn but1tsauot l1r,r,o
.
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xelat,pa1alduo:sra;:{t anoqeaq} raUV
lll.tY.

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ut suotlou_ta
raq lauueq)o] upLUoM
p salqeua
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st uotlplpaul/,J9gaL1 :
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poD ]o alprg,,aq] pa|er lasnupl ueLUoM
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]o anbruqtat

N ) Wo A) o l

No llyt_ l0 lr 1 co 5 lo lly>l

i:.

) ii.!

ia

lil

up nextto the left shoulder,


palmflat

and facingforward(thjsiscalledthe ,,vow


posi_
tron")'hordingyourhandasif youwere
takrngan oath.Keepthe breathreraxed
and
normar'Tenseonlyone f,ngerof the
refthandat a time,Keeprng
the otherfingers
straightbut relaxed.
Medita

repeatins
atoudrive
,,",,:;:;:;:"":i:H

:'ersv

orthatrinser(5ee
belo'v)
whire

continuethissequence
for the remajning
fingersand the thumb,one at a
time.
Then if you wish, qo backto any
specificfinger and concentrateon
the particular
characteristic
it represents
that you want to corrector enhance.
when both partsof the meditationare
completed,rowerthe reft hand and
rerax
for a few minutes.
Youremotions
will becomemorepositively
channeled
and anyphysrcal
or mental
ill hearthwilrbe greatry
improved.
continuepracticing
for oneyearandyouraurawi,
becometippedwith qordor silver;
greatstrength
and Gods heaiingpowerswit frow
throughyou.
W HA TcA N A \,{A N Do DwRI NcI H( q c M
N/ DI rA rI o N?
Men cansit up duringthe GGM meditation
and silentlyaffim,,.tam in the Grace
of
God'" YogiBhajanhassaidthat any
countryin whichwoman is not respected
is
doomedfor destruction.
He was adamantabout restoring
womanto her rightful
placein societyto fulfillher cosmjc
role,and in educatiniboth men
and women
about their respective
identities.
P LA NIA K Y(NK qIJA I Y O UK
F I Nq K I I P J
SATURN
channel
emotionto
devotron/patience

SUN
physrcal
health,
grace& beauty

JvN,/V(NvJ
\

MERCURYpowef to relate,
communicate
&
makedecrs
ons

\,.{RcwRv (littlefjnger):power
to relate,
communtcate
and makedecisions

JUPITER
wrsdom&
expans
on
Positive
Ego

(ringfinger):physicatheatth,

9raceand beauty
tAfwRN

(mjddiefinger):channelemotron
to devotion/patrence

JWPITR(forefinger):
wrsdomand expdnston
P oJl Tl V C o: (thumb)

"Craceof Godmeditatilnwillqive
qouself_effectiveness
. _yosiBhajan
M AKKI AC O N THi iPI K{ T U A L
PAIH

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lHt No l f Y t Y ) Y | 1

:ol ueure uo Lueaqo] pqeqsstq]asn plno)


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-]DarJo lerlualodpueraMods

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raraq,o
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pal)ps}ueq) aM uaqM,os
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auofra^a])a++ppup preMlnoMol+suorlptqt^ ,puod
p ut alqqade dotp nol
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u6rse se uaas palalol peaqtno,i daa>1
o1 eaprpoo6 e sr ]t ,saiqplllspartesrioldua
q)rqM )]a 'vw vN Vl vs )o,sLl4rnd
os aq16urlueqtuaqM,os]snf .La,{etd
to drqsronr
roj peaqaql ralol 01 suor]rper]
{ueu
ur
sr}r leq} mou>1
,{lqeqord
no1
'er-uo1sn)

'peaq
bursn
'.;i,'^i1?rilltjlittt
aq]+odolaqr]sn[]ou,para^o)
aqo]srpeaq

-Oololnau
aq] saun]pue ,saraqdsruaq
aq] ]o lnlrl lpuotpun+
aq] ]o sn)o]e salpalf
slql pla4trlaubeuotltalapue ua1s,{s
aq} qilM pa))opa}ularp q)lqnn.
;etr6oJotnau
'urprqaq]]o spedxrs-,{}ua^
} oq}puera}}prulprqalalaq}sdzrltqpis
peaqaql buuanoS
'er)eqf
(puly)
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ag1 ,ralual qlxls tno,{ pueueuot o}
no^ salqpua6u|anot
peaq e 6uuea41,,ale]tpalro] speaq
laq] tano) sr6o,{{qm ro} uor}eueldxa
lplruq)al
aql ane6uefeqgr601 suor]p]rpal!
6urnao;;o1
aq] ar]leld no^ uaqMsrq].japrsuol
oJ t A lHl 0 1 c )o A Y )

d ll f t) o l \
j r\i,.1

_r (; tt

.i"

..r ":.1

) Attracta childto you who will becomea manof God


) Heala man
I Transform
a man into a man of God
) Attracta man of Godto be yourhusband
) Make God appearbeforeyou
Yogi Bhajanalso said, "...Youwant to know about God? Read5o Purkhtn
English.
Findout allthe faculties
andthencompare
thosefaculties
with you." Hesaid
t shouldbe part of everywoman'spersonalsadhana."lf you perfectit, you cantalk
t n Cnd npr < nn + n n a r <n n "

"lt s a woman'sspecial
worship.Thewomanwho will learnthisshabdby heart
and reciteit will neverhaveanydifficulty
as far as men areconcerned.
lt is written
that when a womanchants50 Purkhll timesa day beforemarriage,
her husband
shallturn out to be a God-likehumanbeing."
"Thepowerof thisshabdisthat allbadfaculties
of the manyourelateto areeliminated,and he becomes
a divinely
angelicperson....Try
it andlust seewhat benefrts
and what beautyit bringsto you."
Q. Do you haveto reciteit e eventimesat once?
A: No. Eleven
timesin 24 hours.
silently?
Q: ls it effective
A: ...Asa mantrayou cando it silently,
you do
but whenyou do it asa sadhana,
it asa sadhana.Forextragoodiesyou haveto do extrawork. (Ed.Note.tthinkhe was
sayingthat to get the maximumeffe(t it reallyhasto be donealoud.)
Q: What if you want to sing it in the form of a shabd?
A: Oh,you should." ss
Onceupona time,thisreallyhappenedl
A groupof womenwent to GuruRamDas
begginghimfor help,saying,"Youarethe King,youarethe RajYogi,youaresitting
on the throneof RajYoga.Giveus something
whichwe maysilently
do so we can
be free and liberatedfrom the tyrannyof the beasthoodof the man."
He gavethem So Purkhsto recite.

94

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V )OA C Y Y N

N I IN V H ]

OI A O]A

lHt N( , 1 I o t c

oib bflri d-gg a-fu )?ia) Fe_g + furr


6rdd i3 fusq.

har aapaythaakur hara

rrtrr

jant
aanak
vichaaraa.
,1tl

God
Himserr
,,,n",",,",]Tji;il,lffi::il
O Nanak,
everyone
is empty_handed
beforeHim.

3,^.- rra rffi

n-sa ffi

fi dfu *

ueE Fr,{rEr tl

too(n)ghat ghat antar sarabnirantarjee


har aykopuraxn samaanaa.
youarein eachbeatof
my heart,andin all hearts.
O Lord,youarethe Onein everyone.

ffi

e.3 ffi

+rd.S;fi Hfa 3a +n p-re.

ik daatayik bhaykhaareepe saDhtayray


chol vidaanaa.
Somearegivers
andsomearetakers.
Thisis allyourplay.

rr

g ,rr'D ergr irr.D gars. ;f} o


=g frO rreg 6 rEr

tl

too(n)aapaydaataaaapaybhugtaa jee
ha-otudh bin avarna panaa.
youaretheGiverandyou
arethe receiver.
lt isallyou.

j rr.oqalr arful $rfu: *


*.fulr.

qr5. D{..ndet{rEr tl

too(n)paarbrahmbay_antbay_antjee
tayrayki_aagun aakh vakhaanaa.
youarethe Godof all;
endiess
andInfinite.
I haveno wordsto describe
yourvirtues.

+ ffi

; ffi

=S fr f,O 6-dqr fu6 qieErEr 12rl

jo sayvehjo sayvehtudh jee jan


naanaktin kurbaanaa.ll2ll
O Lord,Nanakis a sacrifice
untothosewho serveandserveyoulorever
l12ll

ufu fqryefo ufu fqryefo


33r # R F6 ErdrxtU n4gffi

har dhi-aavahi
hardhi_aavaht
tudh jeesayjanjug
Meditateon God. N/editateon God and your

11

.Jh ,u*nruur"".

soulwill be at peacein thisworld.

R lag R 5a3:,e ft-6-ufu furnEar. #


k6,3zi *x * affi rr
say mukat say mukat
bha_ayjin hardhi_aa_i_aa
jee tin tootee Jamkee/aasee.
Meditate
on Godandlivefree.Livefreeandknowthe
nooseof deathis meaningless.

96

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fATH

1 6 . HI Y J

t Yn t Nld i

l H l N O ) 5Y t ) ) \ r \

sp,]spqs
pue
s,u,us
pea,
aqr

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eerue'te)r
aue4leql ee-ury
rel aarpsees
yLw*oqeq
qaqedqkeue,1eLtre1
treLtre;
|treue
qJr.,gr trH,Heigr+ n.e qleh reel{
'trPronpr.,:Lr,lq4
e El{.(e!

,{ueur
ospue
pauro}racr
rr rr,"l"J,l"rLlltr:;l:i:t"ffi
il::;,1il::;

'eeye-treq
qadeet
qadeel
del aJtee[ood)et] tqeJe4 aa)Ael
4tue
4tueaartrel
il rElc<B.grrl] lll-LE.a-e gt.,trfi pJp
?ar, pr;J,.{ +F r99J_}..+F
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.ta^apup.ta^a.to]
,{Lu,no1asrerd
srd^olrnol O ,slo^ol
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p6eqq ,4ettre1
ll !Al2J{< E:J{.(lgsJ&<
elr +F 6E eJo,(rv Ftp6 E erp6

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p6eqq aaLtrelp6eqqaaLtre1
il ]ElaR qc{4l eE
+F tr,eF trJrp6 F ?rp6 FE

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ajp passalq ,possa

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ssd!ea]aLlluo ale]rpal^
'aasee.te6
qqes
o_eqq eey u4 aa[ ee_ree_tqpo_eL]qtu reLl
url o_eqqttu url

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i rorg R sar< s& aa a-aa +ii i s.fo R ufu {dsr

r4rl

saybhagatsaybhagat bhalayjan naanakjee jo bhaavehmayrayhar bhagvantaa.ll4ll


Those
lovers,
O servant
Nanak,
whoarepleas
ng to God.
thoselovers
aresublime,

3 iflfo

rrstr irrrr6r-rs

fr sq *g=-ryrg

6 +S

tl

-d:kartaajee tudh jayvad avar na ko-ee.


too(n) aad purakh aprampar
Youarethe Primal
One,the mostawesome
Creator
of everything.
Thor o

i< nnno

,<

i<

^r a) t

3 aqt lq d

V^r l

re'F'

3 s& fi 3 ft!tr

dd3r RS rl

too(n)jug jug ayko sadaasadaatoo(n) ayko jee too(n) nihachalkartaaso-ee.


Throughout
andTrueCreator.
t meandbeyondtime,Youarethe One,constant

sil? fi 3 )rrai aofo 5r ffi

3-u )?'raisC H

rt

tudh aapaybhaavaiso-eevartai jee too(n) aapaykarahiso ho-ee.


Youdo everything,
happens
accord
ng to YourW ll.
andeverything

=Ef )r'f,rrfi1rk

r+ gu

fi =Er v,.rrr.r
fi+oft rq ffi

tudh aapay sarisatsabh upaa-eejee tudh aapay strajsabh go-ee.


Youdestroy
it andcreateit agarn.
Youcreatethewholeunverse.
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6r-d

dT- dT<

_______---:-:

oa-r3 a ---1
t.ff f, -------->
H{F
dr ------:----a
FIE8T

ll-ill lll

1r, nrrrut gm gaavaikartay kay jeejo sabhsaikaa jaano-ee.ll5ll/ ll


of his be ovedLordforeverand ever.
ServantNanaksingsthe prarses
He s the Knowerwithina souls.ll5llll

98

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paurplsns
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ee_ueeq)ao^
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aje no pue ,pe6uvareno^ ,)pueNalp no^
teq ool eeuqaloot YUeeN
sarlunog
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no^
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l uJrlpUo^aqsrlualxatno^
alqer nsp au ul
pu p, alqp Lu oqlelun,olqe)pqsun
areno

pe-ueelsrcdepJ,(eltpes
teq ueeql ee el os ueqg
ee-ueeNedes
qpnl treqpeyLeey,,1
oqaa qpaJl weDl Llqolqqel
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)el o-eeqqee-t^[es(u)oo]aaut
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ool llole oqeeqteFlv

ee-ueeqp teJeeqeue[eL
ts dey
leewePJolaa_oqaaJood

auorqlaq] uo no^ pellplsur


spqilasultHrolpar) aqt
:al)elrnlrno st ]taljad

ee-lJeeleseueeuJol a qeJqeed
oate6ues/ele aaq)/S

.pjol
aualdnSaqt se no^
0ra^0rpupMoq 'uorleoal6uol
altluaaq] pup ,srl)rslno^

no^ paqsrlloqu.rs
spqouolpaH ,nol palpa.D
oqM,plol aq1
nlng aql sec ueu sr posrpjd
puepa.touoH

IrSVCt vu nung]|VH.lvH

ee-tJeeAes
teul ee_usur
rng seeQaepa ueqo ueq]

un9 svvc t^lvvuNVHC


NVHC

']uPqlo] auoaqi stspcurpunrnD


Joasterdut erlueulstq],allplli\ e paauno^uaqM
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JW O r Y V Y ) NV HO NV HC

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i) a

CHAKRA KRIYA
As
' Otaught
D A Rby' HYogi
AN
Bhajan,Masterof KundaliniYoga
"Of all the 20 typesof yoga,including
Kundalini
Yoga,this is the highestkriya.fhis
meditation
cutsthroughall darkness.
lt wrll giveyou a new start.lt is the simplest
kriya,buI at the sametimethe hardest.
lt cutsthroughall barriers
of the neurotic
or
psychotic
inside-nature.
When a personts in a verybad state,techniques
imposed
from the outsde will not work.Thepressure
hasto be stimulated
from within.
"Tragedy
of life is when the subconscious
garbageinto the conscious
releases
mind.Thrsklya invokes
the Kundalini
to giveyou the necessary
vitalityand intuition
to combatthe negative
effectsof the subconsctous
mind.
posfloN:Sitwith a straightsprne.
evrs:Gazingat the tip of the nose.
BREATH:
Blockoff the right nostrilwith the right thumb. Inhaleslowlyand deeply
throughthe left nostrL Holdthe breathwhile you mentallychafi WaheGuru (whahayguroo)16 times,pumpingthe navelpoint3 timeswith eachrepetition
(pump
onceon Wha,onceon Hay,and onceon Guru-for a total of 48 pumps).
b. Release
the rightnostnl.Place
the rightindexfinger(pinkie
fingercanalsobe used)
to blockoff the left nostril.
Exhale
slowyandcompletely
throughthe rightnostril.
(a and b).
Repeat
the sequence
ro eruo:
(Breathe
Inhale,hold5-10seconds,
thenexhale.
onlythroughthe nose.)
Then
stretchandshakeeverypartof yourbodyfor about1 minuteto circulate
the energy.
T|ME
CONsTRATNTS:
Theretsno time,no place,no spaceand no condition
attached
to
Ihis kriya.Eachgarbagepit hasits own t me to clear.lf you are gotngto cleanyour
you mustestimate
own garbage,
and cleanit as fastas you can,or as slowas you
want.Youhaveto decidehow muchtimeyou haveto cleanup yourgarbageptt.
Youmaystartwith lusta few minutesand gradually
increase
the time.Somesuggestedlengthsfor practiceoI Sodarshan
ChakraKriyaare3l or 62 mrnutesa day.

IOO

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es :

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ssaurddeq
lauuraq} llp . .
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truetdaq] auosolrbosleuotlpypauj
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lpptu oeN:6urnao11o1
aq] nol a^r6
1t'1,{ep
aq1}o q}0t/l) ,{epe srnoq
z/L_Zrl op ue: no,{1eq1}urodaq}o1dolanap
: .
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salnuru.t
ro+
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Z9
slq]
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As youchantSAf (rhymes
with ,,but,,),,suck,,
in the sound,powerfully
pullingthe
navetIn and uo towardthe sp,ne.
With the soundNAAM(rhymes
with ,,baa,,_andis veryquretl,retaxand release
rhe belly.
Thefocusof thesoundNAAMcanbe eitherat the Naver
pointor at the Browpoint.
r TheBreathregulates
itself.
) Therels an automaticsimultaneous
contraction
of the rectumand sexorgan
areas(asn rhe Murbandh,the rowerbodyrock,but the rockis pu||ed
from the naver)
eachtime you chantSAf.
> To frnish,inhaleand holdthe breathfor 5_10seconds you pull
as
stronglyin
and up on yournavel,drawingyourenergyup fromthe baseof your
sprneto the top
of your head.Breathing
onlythroughyour nose,exhaleand repeatthat sequence
one moretime.On the thirdbreath,inhale,exhaiecompletely,
and holdthe breath
out for 5-10seconds
as you applyall the locksor(necklock,diaphragm
lock,root
locf) wl.ileyou teerthe energvnstngup yourspine.
lf thisisyourfirstexperience
with sat Kriya,startwithjusrone mrnuterrhen,after
practicing
rt for a few days,go to 2 mrnutes,
then increase
to 3 minutesand gradu_
ally(adda minuteeachday)work up to 11 minutes.
Whenyou feelready,you can
gradually
work up to 31 minutes.Howeverlongyou practice
thisknia, reiaxafter
wardsfor at leastthe sameamountof time.

P R A N AYAM c:
' I T Abreathing
L techniquesareca|ed pranayam.Sitaree
Yogrc
pranayamrsKnownto have
a powerfurcooring,reraxing
effecton the body,whiremaintaining
arertness.
rt s
knownto lowerfevers,and aid digestion.
How to do it:
) Extendyourtongueout beyondthe lipsand curlit into a ,,U,,
shape.
> lnhaledeeplythroughthe curledtongue.
r Exhaie
completely
throughthe nose.
continuefor at least2 or 3 minutes(or26 timesin the morningand 26 times
in the
evening63).
You may noticea bittertasteat first.Thisis a signof detoxrficatiin
and
will pass.
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PATH
'PIKITUAL

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}o
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aurosinoAq}rMlrs
1q6rer1s
aOupq)ro+1s,{1e1et
p si saiqpi,{s uo leurquol s ql sura}ted
1n|ar,.rod
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A J A I A L A I \ I A N T RA
AjaiAlaiisf romJaapSahib,
the powerfuleprcpoempraising
God.ltspowerrsto grve
you,amonqotherthtngs,extremerntuitive
yogi Bhajansardtt was
awareness.
best
to lrsten6l
to t and try to copythe soundsyou hear,rathertiran
lust recitef rom the
pflntedwords.(Buthere,s
the translteraton anyway.)
A1ai,Alai, Abhai,Abai,
Abhoo, Ajoa, Anaas,Akaas
Agunt,Abunj, Alukh, Abukh,
Akaal,Dayaa[Alaykh,Abhaykh
Anaam,Akaam,Aghaahaa,Adhaahaa,
Anaatay,Paramaatay,
Ajonee, Amonee,
l\,laRaagay,Na Rangay,Na Roopay,Na Raykay,
Akaramang,Abharamang,Aganjay,Alaykhay
Invrnc
ble,ndestructib
e, Feariess,
Unchanging,
Unforrned,
Unborn,
lmperishab
e, Etheric,
Unbreakable,
mpenetrab
e, Unseen,
Unaffected,
Undyrng,
Mercif!1,
ndescribabe,
Incorrupttble
Nameless,
Desireless,
Unfathomable,
Incorruptible.
unnlastered,
Destroyer,
Beyond
birth,Beyond
s lence.
Beyond
love,Beyond
coo1 Beyond
form,Beyond
shape
Beyond
karma,
BeyoncJ
doubt,Unconquerab
e, Indescribable.

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M T H O D 5 F ORM N
A K C H RP O 5
Chivalryand fearlessness,
inherentin this noble warrior stance,
Physical
staminaand strengthin feet, thighsand armsenhanced.
Archeralsaputs pressureon the thigh bone,
Balancingcalcium,magnesium,potassium,and sodium.

On the physical
plane,we havelotsof reasons
for doingArcherpose.lt helpsdevelop strengthin the quadriceps
and the intestines.
The legsand kneesare being
strengthened.
physical
Outstanding
staminaand strengtharegained,while,remarkably,at the sametime,thereis an innerpostureof feelings
takingplacethat is equal
power
in
to the purephysical
connection
of feetto the ground.Sometrmes
calledthe
"Hero" posture,
ArcherPosedevelops
Courage.
Thatis its specialinnergift. plus,it
is saidthat the needfor excessive
sleepdisappearsl

FROq POS (MANDAKA'ANA)


Protrudingbelly?Short of breath? Want to jump and hop?
Frog Poseunifiesprana and apana
Slowlybuild up to twenty-sixrepetitions,then stop!
Squattingkeeping heels"glued" together, riseup and down on the toes.
lnhale,straightenyour legsas your hips go up and your head goes down,
Fingertips,placedbetween the knees,stay firmly on the ground.
Alternate from squatting to straightas Frog Poseyou apply,
Transformingand elevatingsexenergyfrom lower chakrasto high.
Whetheryau do them dow or do them fast
Frogssolvestomach ailmentsand eliminategas.

106

A, ] ARf uAq O N I H iP I K I I U A L P A T H

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pueqlro]pue)req 6uimsuet 1r,4em
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oTthe waysI rnanipulated


mensexually,
socially,
and

emotionally.
My husband,
bless
his heart,simpiydid not respond
to my wilesand thisfreakedme out to the point
I
wascertarnhe did not roveme. He apparently
hasan innateradarfor neediness
and
for the slightest
efforton my partto changehim in any
way.He'd senseit and simplynot grveme any
energy
back.He wouldn,tengagein my game,a game
that I
wascompletely
unaware
of playing.
So,I hadto learnto
communicate
honestlyand without a hiddenagenda
(nowever,
I do find that some hrddenagendas,
those
built of pureand nurturingintent,fare well;anythinq
elseissimplycounter-prod
uctiveanda wasteof energy)
la m s t rilie arnrn g .
Once I realized
that I could not make my husband
c rra n g elwa
, s mis e ra b leO. n c elre a liz e dt h a t ld i d
not
partrcurarry
desireto iivethe restof my rifein misery,
rrecognrzed
tirat completery
acceptrng
my husband
wasthe onrywayto go. Thismeansacceptrng
and rovrng
the
wholeentrrepackage
of who he is in everyaspect.,,what?you meanthat
I haveto
acceptand iovethe factthat my husband
,,
.loeis_?
| (Readers:
insertyourown
perpeeve)
youmiqhtask welr,sortof. Thekeyisto focus
on the strengths
andqualrtiesthat we admireand that inspireus.Learnfrom
nature:Theprantthat iswatered
growsAs for the areasin whichyourspouse
courdbe perceived
asweak...don,t
grve
anyenergyto that perceptron.
Remember,
it s yourperception.
He doesn,tseert the
sameway.
|1owever,
somethingssimplycannotbe ignored.Thesethings
must be talked
a00ut,and that'sthe thirdthingrwourdriketo share.you
musttarkand shareyour
SelvesThisworksbestfor Gurujodha
and me rateat nigi'rt.we lust riein bed and
talk and talk and tark.Spirituar
tar(. Househord
tar,, orrtyraundrytark.Taxestark.
Dreams
talk Difficuittark Anythingtark.Heartto hearttarKing
arsoranksway high
in termsof foreplay,
in caseyoudrdn,tknow.Somuchso,that our code
wordfor sex
rs "discussron
" For instance,
I might sendhim an emarrthat sayssomethrng
rrke,
"Honey,haveyou heardaboutsuchand such?
Let,sdiscuss
rt tonrght.,,He knows
exactry
what r meanandwilrbe thinkingaboutit aI dayuntrr
we hrtthe sheets.
(This
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WhenI had an audience


with my Teacher
he compassionatery
ristened
and then
told me to keepthe Shabd,DhanDhan RamDasGuru,gorngin my headall the time.
As a Geminithereis arwayssomething
goingon in my head,so rwas derighted
to
followhisdirections.
I knewthiswas goingto manifest
everything
rwantedto hap,,
pen! Thiswas the "Shabdfor miracles!
Quitesometime rater,
with a raugh,r rearized
the rearmiracre
wasthe changein
mel rhe weightof the wodd had liftedand was repraced
by profoundinnerhappiness.Why had I everfelt anythingwas ,,wrong,,?
Thenone springafternoon,
out of the brue,my husbandaskedfor an audience
with the sirisinghsahibwho onceagainwasvisitingus in Miami.Theroomwasfull
of the Florida
sangat(spiritual
community).
TheSiriSinghSahibpiercedmv husband
with hiseyessaying,"Well,what do you want?,,
"lwant to comehome,Sir." yogiliroaredwith laughter!Everyone
cheered
and
laughedwhile rwas struckdumb! Fromthat day on RobertGuestbecameGuru
Mehersingh Khalsa,
sikh of the Guru.The miracreof Guru RamDasgaveus ten
wonderfulyearsof sharingcompletely
our loveof God,Guru,Teacher
and Sangat.
On Sept25, 1994,my husbandol 47 yearswas nearingthe end of hislifes
lour_
ney.The SiriSinghSahibcalledthe hospitalroom saying,,,Allkarmasare paid.,,
Whenmy husbandheard,he closedhiseyesandsaid,,,1thinkl,llgo now.,, Withthe
soft chantingof wahe Guru, his cherishedfamirysaid goodbye.LaterI receiveda
dearletterfrom the Siri5inghSahib,whichendedwith thesewords:
"Teachothersto understand
the depth,power,and graceof a commitment
that
lastsevenbeyondDeath."
Thelivesof my sonsdidn'tchangern the senseI had expected.
Theymatured,
married,and becamefathers(now one is a grandfatherr)
with the usualups-anddownsof life.one sonand hisfamilyarevegetarians,
bothsonshavekepttheirbeards
and uncuthair.Neithersmokeanymore
andthereareno drugsand verylittlealcohol
involved.
WhenI changed
and relaxed
aboutwhat r thoughtshouldhappen,
gracefurly thingsdid smoothout in my sons'lives.Butthe thingI neverdreamed
wouldhappen,wasthe miracle
that happened
in my husband
s life,andtherefore
in minel
Wahe Guru Ji ka Khalsa,Wahe Guru Ji ki Fatehles

llo

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Kar Sat Guru PrasaadSat Guru PrasaadEk Ong Kar until he backedoff, repelledby
my energyfieldof light,strengthand protection.
lleft the relationship
and becamea singlemother
again. Chanting Har Haray Haree every day brought
everythingI neededto thrive and chantingAjai Alai
mantraeveryday for a year,manifesteda relationshrp
of
honor,trust,graceand upliftment.
My belovedhusband
hasbeena glorrous
rebirthfor my daughterand my spirrts.We livein magicalMt. Shasta,
California,
fulfillingour
dreamsdaily.
Every40 daysI choosea mantrato committo...and
wrtness
the miracles.
(EditorsNote:The mantrasshementrons
are availabe on cD. 5eesourcesand Resources.
Also,rn the
interests
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T H F A N T A JY OF tH OTHK W OM AN
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IVYHUSBAND
AND I WEREtN OUREARLY
THtRTtES
and marriedfor .12years,when
he was attracted
to one of his clients,
and sheto him. I did not know the specific
details
of the situation
at the time,but I felta difference
rnour relationship,
asif it was
,,marriage-saver,,
on shakyground.I immediately
starteddoingthe
meditation
taught
purkhaa
to me by YogiBhajan.lt includeddoing elevenrepetitions
ol So
a day,and
visualizing
my husband
as pure,virtuous,
and manifesting
hishighestpotential.
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Bhalan,
who was in town for meetings.
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how ,,following,,
thisattracyogi
tionwouldbe a deadend,benefiting
no one.
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an exer,,Go
cisethat he saidwould end the attraction.
He said,
throughthe fantasyto the
end and then sayWaheGuruout loud,and keepdoinqit untilthereare no more

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tellingpeoplethat we havethoughtof murderoften,but divorceneverl
Thankyoufor givingme the gift of yourfamoustalk,I am grateful.
I lookforward
to seeingyourbook.
All lovern Divine,
Sat.Jivan
Kaur

L 5 A ' 5T K U S T O K Y
8 Y L J AF O X

F L O K I DA

I AM MARRIED
TO A WONDERFUL
DOCTOR
with a
big heart,who helpsmanypeople.The challenge
I
faced was that he was alwaysmoody when he
arrivedhomefrom the office.lt felt likehe was pushingme and the childrenaway.
Hislanguage
was angryand disrespectful
towardsus.Nothingldid or saidseemed
to affectthe sttuation.
I actually
felt liketherewasfirecomingfrom hrsmouth.
,,1justdon,tknow
I wascompletely
desperate,
andcrying.I told my yogateacher.
what to do with thisman.I know he haspotential;
he is a verygood person,but he
is so rough.I feellikehe is not connecting
to hishigherself."
DevaKaur,my Kundalini
Yogateacher,
told me of a mantra(So purkh)that can
helpupliftthe husbandand the marriage.
I couldhardlywait untilthe nextdayto
get the tapefrom her.Shesaid,"Themeaningof the mantrais ,My manis pure,,and
the purpose
of thislongmantrais that it will helpto bringout the bestrn yourhusband,especially
if you canvisualize
and imaginehim livingin hisfull potential.
This
is a wayto focuson the positive
instead
of {ocusing
on hisnegative
habits,and build
that positive
vibrationin yourself,
and in him."
The nextday I was excitedto get the tape and I startedrmmediately
to lrstenand
repeatthe wordson the tapeso I couldlearnthe mantra.I concentrated
for 20 to
30 minutes,
repeating
the mantraeleventimes.Inoticedan immediate
difference
in
my husband.
lt wasasif he hadbeentranquilized
when he camehomethat evening.
lwas in the kitchen,and he cameand gaveme a big hug and a kiss.lt felt likethe
wild lionfrom the junglehad becomea domesticated
ca He was moreromantic,

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yearsuntil SatJivanSinghand I will be marriedfor 50 yearslWe are both fond of


tellingpeoplethat we havethought of murderoften, but divorcenever!
\hank you lor gN\ngme \he g\\t oi your iamous ta\k, \ am grate{u\.\ \ook iorward
to see\ng \ou\ book.

\\\ \ole rn Dr\rne,


Sat.Jivan
Kaur

L 5 A ' JT K U S T O K Y
8 Y L J AF O X

F L O NDA

I AtV MARRIED
TO A WONDERFUL
DOCTOR
with a
big heart,who helpsmanypeople.Thechallenge
I
faced was that he was alwaysmoody when he
arrivedhomefrom the office.lt felt likehe was pushingme and the childrenaway.
Hislanguage
was angryand disrespectful
towardsus. Nothingldid or saidseemed
to affectthe situatron.
I actualiy
felt liketherewasfirecomingfrom hismouth.
,,ljust
lwas completely
desperate,
andcrying.ltold my yogateacher,
don,tknow
what to do with thisman.I know he haspotential;
he is a verygood person,but he
is so rough.I feellikehe is not connecting
to hishigherself.,,
DevaKaur,my Kundalini
Yogateacher,
told me of a mantra(So purkh)that can
helpupliftthe husbandand the marriage.
lcould hardlywait untilthe nextdayto
getthe tapefrom her.Shesaid,"Themeaningof the mantrais ,My manis pure,,and
the purposeof thislongmantrais that it will helpto brlngout the bestin yourhusband,especially
if you canvisualize
and imaginehim livingin hisfull potential.
This
rsa wayto focuson the positive
instead
of focusing
on hisnegatrve
habits,and build
positive
that
vibrationin yourself,
and in him."
ThenextdayI wasexcitedto get the tapeand I startedimmediately
to listenand
repeatthe wordson the tapeso I couldlearnthe mantra.I concentrated
for 20 to
30 minutes,
repeating
the mantraeleventimes.Inoticedan immediate
difference
in
my husband.
lt wasasif he hadbeentranquilized
when he camehomethat evening.
lwas in the kitchen,and he cameand gaveme a big hug and a kiss.lt felt likethe
wild lion{rom the junglehad becomea domesticated
ca| He was moreromantic,

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V/HY STAYMARKI D?
BY HAKI BHAJAN KAUK KHAL'A

LO' ANCL(J,CA

T HE RE
lS NO MA K T NG
S E NSO
E FWHy h e a n d t s t i l l e a t a r
the samebreakfast
table,sleepon rnesamemattress,
work
out plansfor next yearand the one afterthat. Oh, it is
totallycomprehensible
why we firstgot together.He was
cute,blond,wrth a bit of a mustache,
wearingbluelean
overalls
with the vibeof farm kid mixedwith ,,Rebel
with_
"
out a cause. lrresistible,
at leastto me, who hadn,thad
muchluckin lovesincelettingthe highschoolboyfriend
go
when our pathsset in oppositedirections.
yes,at 19 there
werehormones
(rittre
involved
didwe know).but,asmy numerorogist
saidmanyyears
later,"Thetwo of you havebeenlinkedtogetherfor manyrifetrmes.,,
Brother
andsister?or perhaps
I washismotheror he the masterto my srave.
Nevertheress,
shesavs
"as
we are
boundasfour handstightlycrossed
and held.
we didn'tknoweachotherthosefirstfew yearsof marriage.
We hardryknewourselvesLikea geniein a bottretherewasso muchwe keptinside.whireonrysmoky
whrffsescaped
when one of us triedto prythe ridoff. rt wasn'tthat we didn,twant
to know eachother We just didn,t know we neededto know. We were busy.
We
had to maintaina home,paythe bills,go to yogaclass,work severa
lobs at once
(cleaning
offices,
runninga sandwich
shop,plantingfledgling
trees,haulinggarbage
from summercampgrounds).
We hadto get-byand move_on.
We took a trip to L.A.that lasted2g years.He went to chrropractic
school,finishedin '82 and is stillshowingup everydayat the office.I worked,put himthrough
school,raiseda chird(throughpottytraining,
the Indiaprogram,rebe|ious
teensand
world-widewanderings),
as we| as searched
for my own pracein the planetarv
scheme.
We werebusy.Did lalreadysaythat?
We havea lot of differences.
rwantto vacation
in the caribbean,
lieon the beach,
readand contemplate
the turningplanet.He plansa weeKendat yosemitein the
deadof winterto stayin the AwahneeLodge(#23 on his " 1oo-things-r-m
ust-dobefore-l-die"
list).lwant to visitmuseums,
shop,play cardsand readpoetrv.He
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PKITAMKAUK KHALJA . YUBA CIIY,CA

DearShaktiParwhaKaur,
Saf Nam. PritamSinghand lgot marriedat the beautifulHargobindSadan
Ashramin San Rafael,California
on September
22, j974, followinga Teachers,
Training
course.
We hadknowneachotherthreeweeks.He passed
awayon April26,
2002,hereat MukandeAshramin yubaCity,California.
It was overthirtyyearsago...hecamein from Austin,Texas,
for our Teacher,s
Training
course.I had beenlivingat the san Rafaelashramfor only a few months.
We just barelytook noticeof one another,but jt must haveshown.yogiliwas com_
ingto town for a WhiteTantric
weekend.
A coupleof phonecallsto himby the director of the Ashram,KaramJot Singh,and suddenly
word was,we weregoingto get
marriedthat Sundayl
It wasall put togetherquickly:
Jagdish
arranged
a bedof {lowerson a $50 budg_
et. GuruTerathKaurmadewhole-wheat
sweetrollsand yogi rea.The Sat Kirtans,
Vrkramand SadaAnandSinghplayedkirtan.zo
ThatSundaymornrng,we weresittingin front of the GuruTr-onedidn,twalk
aroundthe Guru yet for the ceremonyin thoseearlyyears-waitingfor yogijito
comedownstairs
to offtciate.
He took a longtime.It seemedlikean hour.When he
finailycame,it wasclearhe wasn'tgoingto makethiseasy.Rightawayhe askedme,
"What is the ONEthingthat is goingto breakyour marrage?,,
lwas fairlynew at
this,havinghad onlyeightmonthsof ashramlife,so I wasn,tsurewhat to say.The
entrreceremony
cameto a standstill."What is the one thing that will breakyour
marriage?
| ?"
ThebestI couldthinkof was,'lf you don't loveGod?,Hisanswerwas qurckand
sharpasa knife- "LeaveGodout of thisl Whatisthe onethingthat will breakyour
"
marrrage?
AgainI kept lookingfor the rightanswer,
for what he wanted.ltrled, ,,lfyou
don't loveone another?""Lovehasnothingto do with it. What is the ONEthing
that will breakyourmarriage?
!?"

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,,

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6uro6semy6urzrleat
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lllunanutluo)o] 6uto6],useMaq jeall spM]t alutslolejadsap
a|nb but]la6seMI
l \\C t )-r,r

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tIJ t.) .j i l

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Yourwants,needs,and aspirations
Havemixedwith mine.
Now we go alongtogether,you and l,
ln a straighter
course,
Helpingeachotheronward,
But mostlycruising
easrly
sideby side.
pritarnSinqhKhalsa,September
1994

Youshouldonlyconsider
yourserfmarriecr
whenyou areon the deathbed.rf, by that
time, the husbandis stil there,shakehandswith him and decrare
yourserfmarried,
otherwisethereis no suchthingasmarriage_it doesn,tex6t.
YogiBhalan,KWTC1979

MA R IT A L A R T
CUKUMUJIUK

KHAL'A
'PANOLA,N\-1
'INCH
Gurumustuk
SinghandArjanKaurweremarried
lanuary
3, 1999Whenhewrore
thishewas30 andshewas3j . Theymetat WinterSolstice,
1996.

I HAVEBEENMARRTED
FORStXYEARS
and feetvery
luckyto havea wonderful marriage.
lt s definitelynot
piece
a
of cake,though.lt reallydoestake both peo_
ple beingcommittedand willingto work with each
other no rnatterwhat comesup. Forme marriagepro_
vr0esmutual support,stabilityand companionship.
Beingmarriedis like a spiritualpath, which teaches
you manytessons
and allowsyou to challenge
each
other to work on yourselfand be a betterperson.
I look at a persons life as havingdifferentlevelsof
challenge/mastery,
whicharelikeKaratebelts:

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aq} lo} alqlsuodsar
aq] o] alelaro] surealaqs'{e'ti1eq1 sa)ueul+
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se ]se+se
punol | ]l a)eLu
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puadssanlMAueulMou)iI s)luol])alaa)ll sAn6
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a]lMi{u autl '{ra'r3pauod0ns
saoplo leaLue eLusa)PLU
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but>1e1
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pue s6urlaa1
aLupue a|na'(u rol
no,\',\l> aq] uaaqsequollellunLuLUol
q)eao] )le} o1ar'eqAl1eal
NO llY llNnwwo l
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A K qUM(NIJ
lf you havean argumentor
to get closureand work tl

fight,don't run off or leave


thingsunfinished.
you need

rhinss
orcoor
down,
;,,;::TJ#;:::i:i:",,:i:

a fewminutes
to th,nk
about

burst.
Feelinss
ofanser
andfrustration
*irrlrrtq.o*.i:T,.:Jfi:ffilT;ji
marriage.
Don,t
bottlethingsup, talkabout
them and work

something
out.

C OMP KOMIJ ( AN D C H A N q

coupleshavedifferentthingsin
theirhousehold
lifethat arermportant,
but in most
casestheyaresmallthinqs.Things
likecleaning
,p uft., yo* selt,puttingthe
toilet
seatdown' arranging
the housern a certainway.Don't
resrst
changeon thesesmalr
things.I havefoundthat if tjust
adaptand do the ,ru, ,i,nn,
that areimportantto
my wife it makesa hugedifference.
Thenwhen ,h;r;.; lnrnqs
that areimportant
to me I let her knowand she
adaptsand changes
to my needs.lt is a grveand
take.
R OMA N C

we livein a busyfast movinq


age.Youcomehome,eat dinner,
maybewatchTV and
thengo to sleeprt is too easy
to losethe romance
that is sucha bindingforcefor
a
marriageAs a guy I know it is
hardto do the romanticriir,
ora
women
NEED
this.
lf you don,ttakethe time to
do fun things,surprise
her,do thingswhichmakeher
feeliovedandappreciated,
you'llbe in troubre.
r uruoto q;" excuses
aboutmanyof
the holidays
beingso commer tno not
wantingto buy intoit' My wife
let me get
awaywith it for a while.,n.'t'u'

t^ffi
hor
idays
Fi
narryshe,.d,h;;
:;"":',:J,TiT
il.l
TJJ:#':,::
:J,]::T
that sheexpectedfrowers.cards,
gifts,surprises.

v"n, iti *onn tne etfort!


Fromthe dayI metArjanshe
hasbeenan inspiratjon
to ,", uno tovesme for who
lam rremembercomingback
from Indraafterqo,ngto ,cl]oot
there,not having
manyfriends,tryingto fit in.and
be something
that I wasnot.WhenI met Arjan
we
had a connection
right away.She had ,.u.un,,U
bu.o.u a-Srkh.For her the
Sikhi
lifestylewas what she had
bee
for she turnedmy lifearound
l had been
havingotherspressure
me ,otn 'ook'ng

rerresh
instomeet
a*",.. *ll',H,fiI,T:,i:,.i,.;,llT.
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ATMA 5 IN C H K H A L' A
'IKI

' P A N OLA , N ).1

MARRIAGE
15 THF CARRIAGE
THATTAKES
yogi
YOUTO GOD.Thisis what
Bhalan
taught
me rn 1979 and it is what I believenow.
Trusting
in God,ldid not pursuea wife, but
ratherI consolidated
my spiritual
practice,
prepared myselffor marriageand let God take
careof the rest. When lwas marriedand
foundthat my personalsadhana
wouldleadto
suchrapidpersonal
changethatwe wouldgrowapart,I setmy personal
paceto match
my spouse's.
Thusrverified
that personal
sacrifrce
alwaysleadsto spiritual
growth.
Eventually
lwas forcedto choosebetweenperforming
my dutyandpreserving
my
marrrage.
whicheverchorcelmade the personal
costwas goingto be high.lchose
what I felt wasthe highestgood,but r losta 2o yearrelationship,
my childrenwere
forcedthrougha divorce,
and my dreamsof a singlecozygrandparents,home
was
destroyed.worse stiil, my trust in a partnershipwas destroyed.rvlydistrustmade
constructing
a new uniondifficultfor my new partner,
thoughconstant
loveand nurturrngeventually
hashealedthispain.
I earnedthat no matterhow goodor bad a relationship
maybe,thereis no substitutefor timespenttogether.
Thisbeingsaid,relationships
area lot easier
whenyou
both not only lovebut alsorespecteachother. with my new partnerwe haveboth
mergeddeepern four yearsthan our prior2O-year
marriages
afforded.Why?We
both alreadyknew how to serveand sacrifice,
when to leador follow.We both know
how to healand strengthen
eachother.
creatinga new relationship
afterdivorcetakesa differentsetof skillsthanstarting fresh.Besides
losingmy trust in partnerships,
I wasn,tsurehow much I really
wantedor neededa new relationship.
Thedreamof havingchrldren
and creatinga
cozyfamilyfreeof divorce
wasgone."Whatcanwe do for eachother?,,became
the
focus.

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lFYOULOOKUPTHEWORD'MARRIAGE
" in Webster's
dictionary
one of the meanngsgrvenis "Toblendcompletely.
Ex:Allowthe flavorsto marryovernight.,,
A good
marriage
isjustthat:whentwo peoplebecomecompletes';_iq*
ly blendedintoone.
.;tr
Sowhat doesthat meanexactly?
YogiBhajansaidthat

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the husbandmustbe ableto speakfor the wife,and vice


versa."Let me talk to my husbandfirstand seewhat he
th nks," isjustan excuse,
a delaying
tactic.Thewifeshould
know exactlywhat her husbandwill sayand be able to
speakfor himwithoutanydoubt.Thatrequires
a veryhrgh
degreeof effective
subtlecommunrcatton.
Suchcommunicationis reallytelepathic
in nature.

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After35 yearsof marriage,


I cantune into my wife and know what she s thinking and feeltngwhethersheis physically
present
or not.
Shaktiaskedme to givesomeadviceaboutmarriage,
so my advtceis as follows.
Justas wlth everythrng
elsein your life,whateveryou pay attentionto growsand
prospers,
andwhatyou ignorediesaway.Payattentionto the divinityn yourspouse;
to what is bestand mostbeautful. To what you admireand appreciate
the most.
lgnorethe rest.Yourspousew ll becomemoreand moredivinein hisor herwords
and actions.
lgnorethe thingsthat maybotheror annoyyou,and simplydon,tgive
them the blessing
of yourattentionor yourenergy.
Marrage is all aboutkeepingup and confronting
your self. Why do peopleget
divorced?Mostof the time,it hasnothn9 to do with the otherperson.lt is because
one personcannotget straightwith himor herself
and moveto the nextlevelof spirituaigrowththat is required.
lt s so mucheasierto blamethe otherpersonthan to
look in the mlrrorand confrontyour own demons.So the personendsup saying
"The marriagedidn't work out." That s bullshit.you didn't qrow u0 to the level
reouired
of vouI

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Bib,liwasbornto a motherandfatherwho
wereknownfor theirspiritual
strength
and compassionate
yogijiwasthe grandson
kjndness.
of an acknowledged
yogiand
sarntand was guidedby him from the time
he was born.yogrlirecognized
in Bibiji
generations
of serviceand devotionand understood
her greatcapacityfor sacrifice,
whrchwould be calledon astheygrew
togetherto the fulfrttment
of theirdestiny.
EarlyIn theirrelationship
he wouldlistenassherecitedhr

a disciptine
shehadpracticed
since
chitdhood.
Asyosiji
,,.Jf;tJT;,1t|.ffi:1
for his

spiritual
rnsights,
manypeoplewourdca on himfor guidance
and instruction
and Bibiji,everhissupport,wouldserve
them food.hospitality,
and love.
With a growingunderstanding
of what the futurewoulo requrre
of them,they
prepared
themserves
and theirthreechirdren
for a lifeof service
and sacrifice
for the
missron
of spreading
sikhDharmato the west.Theywouldtalk
aboutthe timewhen
they would dedicatethemselves
to servingthis missionbut they had no
ideahow
soonit wouldcomeor how muchit would
take.yet,throughhalfa lifetrme
of sep_
aration,test,and challenge
theymarntatned
a vibrantana lvetyrelationship,
found_
ed on duty and service
but basedon the lovingunderstanding
that all thrngscome
from God and allthingsgo to God.

T\^/o VNtrJ
Y OqI BHA JA N,P H. D.
JINqHJA HIEO F
DHA K MA
'IKH
L,FETVOVES
L,KEA STAR
ON A TRACK.
lt moveson itsaxleand in itsorbit,and it
rs
at nothinqbut the erectro-mag
neticfieldrnwhichtwo peopremeetto wark
the track
together.Withoutthe consideration
of good and bad, nght and wrong,real
and
unrear,
the unisontrackingthe passage
is ca||edMarriage.
rt consists
of two units.
Onerscalledwrfe;the olherrscarledhu5bdnd. is
lt the integrrty,
personality,
the drvin_
Ityandthe dignityof beingtogetherwhich
meets.lt is the torgiveness,
kindness
and
grace,whichkeepsus going.lt is the
beauty,the bountyand the blessings,
which
makethe marrrage
strong.
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A B ov T TH A VT Ho R: Ho \ ^ / | M T r / o G t B HA J A N
By 5HAKTIPAK\^/HA KAUK KHALTA

THEYSAYLIFEBEGINS
AT 40. Welt,my tife as Shakti
ParwhaKaur Khalsabeganwhen lmet yogi Bhalan
about six monthsbeforemy 4Oth birthday.lt didn,t
occurto me that I m ght be goingthrough,'mid-life
cri" but my 19-year-old
srs,
son was certainly
in crisis.He
hadtriedto commitsuicide.
and thengoneAWOLfrom
the Armyat FortOrd,California.
I didn'tknowwherehe
was. He had written that he was planningto go to
Canada,
as manyyoungmenweredoing.I wasworried
that if he leftthe countryhe wouldlosehisU.S.citizenship,something
I valuehighly.
just
I had
met YogiBhajan,
and at dinnerin a restaurant
with 6 otherpeople,he
leanedacross
the tableandsaid,"Yourson'sin trouble,isn,the?,,I said,,,yes.he is.,,
Thrsunknownyogi told me, "Thereis nothingmorepowerfulthan the prayero{ a
motherfor herson." And, "tf you will chantEKONG KARSATNAM StRtWHA GURU
for one hour everymorningbeforesunrise,
and prayfor your son, he will be all
right." To makea long storyshort(a storyl've told elsewhereTa),
it worked.And thus
began my apprenticeship
with the extraordinary
Teacherof teachers,who was to
becomeworldfamous.ln 1971,YogiBhalanwasappointed
the ChiefReligious
and
Administrative
Authorityfor SikhDharmaof the WesternHemisphere:
he was The
Man Calledthe SiriSinghSahib75
YogiBhajanand lsat on the floor of my LosAngelesapartmentlookingin the
phonebookfor YMCAswherehe mightbe ableto teachclasses
yoga.He
in Kundalini
hadrealized
duringthatweekendin December
of 1968that LosAngeles
wasa Mecca
for the generation
of youthsearching
for the experience
of God.He knewthattaking
yogawouldgive
drugswoulddestroy
theirhealth,whereas
the practice
of Kundalini
thema validexperienceand helphealthe woundsof theirmindsand bodies.

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aggressive
proselytizing,
whereasthe righteousway of livrng(dharma)
that Guru
Nanak,the firstSikhGuru,taught.and all hissuccessors
expanoed
upon,tsa univer
sal,truly Aquarianpath. sikh Dharmateachesrespect
for a[ humanbeings,and
respect
for theirchoiceof how to worshrpthe One
God who createdus all.And, I
wantto introduce
peopleto the ShabdGuru,theSiriGuru
GranthSahrb,
so theycan
experience
the powerfultechnology
of the soundcurrentof the words it contains.
Beforelgo backto workingon that, lplan to complete
comp tng an anthology
of YogiBhajans poetry.
Meanwhile,
I rivehappiiyin LosAngeres,
,,state
carifornia,
croseToseveral
ot the
art" movietheaters,
whichlvisitoften,andevencloserto our 3HOyoga
yoga
center,
west. wherelteach Beqinners
yoga,
Kundalini
do sadhana,
and crossthe streetevery
morningto Guru RamDasAshramfor the 6 a.m.
Gurdwara,
wnereI baskIn the
vlbrationsof the ShabdGuru, recallingthe many
yogr
times
Bhajanspokethere,
lnsprrng,
educating
and aboveall,challenging
usto excel,and not to ,,givedistance
"
to our destiny.

Youhaveto bepositive.
Eachoneof qou hasthepowerto bewhat
tjlu dln't thinkqouare,or what
U0uthinkqou cannot
be
SirSingh
i
Sahib
Ji

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lou-uorler-u
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ursranol
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sra^ol Z
'burqyiue
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u 'purlqsra^ol I

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Nll

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KIHlRIe.l

TH WDDINC
''...They
willberenewed
bqthememorq
ot'thebeautit'ul
mjments
0l thewedding,Iove,
romance,
andtheir
t)qelherness
throuqh
theUears.
It isa moment
ofsharinq,
joqandhappiness
in divinity,
fult'illnent
in Crace
in the
mostspiritual
atmosphere
ofblessinqs
and preciousness
of the
lifeto which
wealllookforuardin thismoment
ot'festivity.,,
Quotefrom the SirlsrnghSahib(yoqrBhajan)
on a wreddrngnvitaton, 1994

D D IN GV OW f
Nowadays
somecoupies
wantto writetheirownwedding
vows.
Theymaycomeupwithsomething
eloquent,
sincere,
andemotionally
satisfying.
Butfor sheerinspiration
andcaliber,
I don,tthinkyoucanbeatthe
r,
.iA_
vowsthat GuruRamDaswrotefor hisown wedding
overfour hun_
dredyearsago.Whatisa vow? lt isa sacred
promise.
lt isa promise G\
youmaketo God Theerevated
consciousness
withwhichGuruRam fG\
Dasspokegoesto theveryheartandsourof thissacred
bond.ca ed
V
Lavan'
his"wedding
song"outrines
theessentiar
steps
of themarrage
commitment.
These
corevalues
aretimeless.
In theSikhweddingceremony,
thefourverses
of thelayanarereadoneat a time.
Thefirstroundis readfromthe SiriGuruGranth
Sahibin the orrgr_
nalGurmukhi.
Thena translation
is readin English
or whatever
the
nattvetanguage
might be. After eachroundis read,the couple
bowsto the ShabdGuruin acceptance
of the instruction
Juslgtven.
Then the musicjans
play and sing the words of the round
in
Gurmukhi
asthe couplestandandwalkclockwise
aroundthe Guru.

134

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'notra^eal M sJu)a pue sus no[
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'Dalrao Ja^ast oqM 'rung aruf aLll
uodn Dallaa
' aM se surws aql ut pa6rn uaaq seq aweN
arll ]o tDerd aqf
aueN s,pJolaql leadaa
pue ssausnoalqbuu! paw)Uuo) ag
IeMe paqseMaq eqs$ed aql ]o srura aq] snqf
',{ynpsnoalq5uLno,{p atueuLtolLadaq1u! juelsuo) aq lsnu no1
'ewqug )o sepaAarll ol alep) oj q1nouapu st
11
:aLtlletueu ]o satlnpIrcp aql
to] uotDnlsut stH not aJo|aqsluasaJdpJoj aql
punu pednu lsrtj aql otut tlttoj 1utpa>ord,,

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lsuElHr
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'suotluaLu
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patles]uaDUe,stluulsaql se llaMsp ,stalatspc uleu
nrnDq)tqMo] 6r'eLuqp.ig
puesepanaq] q]tMletlru..te] sraMaldoad]soLr(o6esrea/i
^ra^ salaouv
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sol ut Lupjqsvspc
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+o
,nrnDaql
o] ualstlo] ure6eur,aop
]rspup taqla6olMoq
+oluol+ut sateldrraqlo1
urnlarIaql uaqM ulaql uaaMlaquotlfauuo)^aq]
aq1sazrloqur,is
stql i06 lal ],usaopaLls
's.raplnoqs
tuoorO aq1punorepadetpuaaqseqqltqM,lmeqs
e jo puaauoo] uo sploq
apuqaqt aoeureLu
pal)ese +olo^rdaq] pue ,alpptul
aq] ,6uruur6aq
aq] srntnDaql
: ) : . L t c 1 , . { ) it

TheFirstRoundrepresents
the past.
Guruis instructjng
you what to do to be freeof all yourpast.
Gurusaysrelatingto
ancient
scriptures
or somedeities
is not enough,you haveto medrtate
on Gods Name
(simran),and be of service(Seva)to the
communityas weI as to the Guru.By being
commrtted
to yourspirjtual
pathandkeeping
up consistently
in yourdailyspiritual
prac_
tice'sadhana," aI your sinsand errorswiri reaveyou."
Thrsworks because
srrnran
and 5evaare powerfulpractices
that can bringyou backto an elevatedstateof
con_
sciousness.
Thisalrowsyouto recognize
mistakes,
learnfromthem,and moveon.
THESECOND
ROUND
"Comesthesecondnuptialround
And theLordhasmadeyou to meettheTrueGuru.
Withyaurheaftboundby the fearof the Fearless
Gocl,
All sense
of pride hasbeenwashedfrom themind.
Knowingthe fearof GodandsingingHis praises,
YoubeholdHispresence
beforeyou.
God,theLordMastetis thesoulof the creation,
Hepervades
everywhere
and fills all places
with His Being.
Knowthenthat thereis OneGod,withinus andwithaut,
And Hissongsof rejoicingareheardin thecompanyof His
servants.
Nanakproclaimsthat in thissecond
nuptialround,theDivineMusicis heard.,,
ThisSecondRoundrepresents
the present.
Hereyou are,riqhtthisminute,in the presence
of Guru,experienctng
an opportunitytowardwhichyourentirerifehasbeenreading.
whateverhappened
in the past
hasbroughtyou to thisverymoment;now you can
drop rfl you havebeentrans_
formedinto beingsfreeof the past,livingcompletely
in the now.
Feelthe presence
of the InfiniteGod everywhere,
in everypar.cre,In everysound,
wrth everybreath.rt is in thisstateof comprete
awareness
of the momentthat one
canhavethe experience
of the Infinitewhilein finiteform.Thisis trueyoga.
Thereis no placewhereGod is not.SeeGod in each
other.Recognizing
the divine
in all is the keyto maintaining
a neutraland non-reactive
mtnd.
Havingcompletedthis round,you are now freeto move
on.
1 36 . I - I ARRI AC( O N TH

PATH
' PI RI I UA L

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THEFOURTH
ROUND
"ln this fourth round,
Themind graspsthe knowledgeaf the Divine,
And Gad is realizedwithin.
By the Guru's Grace,we have reachedthe Lordwith
ease.
Our bodiesand our souls are filled
Wtth the tender delight of the Beloved.
I am a sacrificeunto my Lord.
God seemssweet to me and I have becomepleasingto

my Master.

He fills my thoughtsall night and day.


I have obtained the object of my heart'sdesire_my
Lord.
By praising Hisname I havegained the highestpraise.
TheLord Himself becomesone with His Holy bride,
While the heart of the bride bloomsand flowers with
His Holy Name.
SlaveNanakproclaimsthat in tne burth round we have
found the EternalLard.,,

ThisFourthRoundcompretes
the circre,
tiesthe knot,and creates
a bond unto
Infinity.
As you completethis round,the sadhsangat(congregation/com
panyof the holy)
will showeryouwith frowerpetals.Thefrowerpetarsrepresent
a, the bressings
that
cometo you asyourheartsopenand arefilledwith the love
of God.
Yourchallenge,
and yourgift,is to liveandfulfillyourdutieson earthwhile
at the
sametrmebeingabsorbed
in God.Feeton the ground,headin the heavens.
In this
state,you havethe awareness
that you area drop of water In the vastoceanof the
Infiniteiindistingu
ishable
yet unique,tastingthe joy of completebalance.
A complete divine u n io n is e x p e rie n c e dt h ro u g h
a s p t f lt u a l ma rr i a g e .
Understanding
this,choosingthis path unto Infinity,
you bow to StnGuru Granth
Sahib,and the finalroundis completed.

13 8

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ON T H

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'an6o6eu{se 'q)lnql e ul t}r raq}aqM
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hau)laull0
sn\adsnouo sta!11
,, uauadxa
auluo sbwssalq
vl!t\ urawpuas
puTyn ay7 aJtlJo1fiDd
l)Dls ai'Jl
D\s0l awo |yt\ as1lfi D passalq"
o1 aldnotbunohayllo )ahud aLfi
raqlaqM
1urq1Zlouro oOnoA
lurebe
e o] pallnuluaaqno{ aneg
no^ o6 26urppa'^;r
ra eul l,usaopAllear]l ]eq] )ulql
a r S lr \) ) Nl0 0 lA

l , N t l i l l l : \\

Jil r

Theceremony
took placeoutdoors
afternoon.
sunnyCalifornia
It wasa pleasant,
Ratherthan
in a park,with the guestssittingin bleachers.
in a smallamphitheater
"
"lf anyoneobjectsto thismarriage...I askedif the congregation
askthe expected,
And they
to establish.
whichseemedmuchmoreimportant
agreedto the marriage,
how importantthe supportof fam I explained
approval.
shoutedtheirenthusiastic
that the bridehadtwo setsof parly and friendswill be to the couple.Considerrng
I calledall four of them to come up,
entsattending(both parentshad remarried),

alongwth the grooms originalset, and standwith the couplefor the openrng
prayer.
intofoursegments,
basedon the four roundsof the Lavan:
I dividedthe ceremony

the couon eachsection,


challenging
lelaborated
Future,
and Infinity.
Past,Present,
ple to agreeto eachpledge.lf you'vereadthis book so far, you prettymuch know
practice;
realizwhat lsaid aboutdroppingthe past;committingto a dailyspiritual
ing that whatevertheysayor do affectsthe future,and throughout,knowingthat
the ultimategoalof marriage and life.is to mergewith the Infinite.Havingjust
from Yogi
beenworkingon this book,I includedplentyof quotesabout marriage
B halan.
I haveto say,for
went well,and I wasthankedprofusely,
Althoughthe ceremony
to conducta Sikhwedding
andfeelsmorecomplete,
it s mucheasier,
me personally,
with klrspaceof a Gurdwara,
Thereis nothingto comparewith beingin the sacred
I drdn'tsay"No,"
However,
I knowthat because
andthe Gurupresiding.
tan playing,
the guests,most of whom had probablynevereven met a Sikhbefore,havenow
of marriage.
teachings
aboutthe sanctity
heardthe Gurus universal
to sharethiswisdom-wisdomthat is
when givenanyopportunity
lfeel blessed

broken
multipledivorces,
surelyneededin today'sworld of casualrelationships,
oromisesand brokenhearts.

140

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YOGIBHAJ A NC ON D U C TS
A W D D IN C

ow readwhatyogiBhajan(sirisinghSahibJi)saidwhen
he conducted
sat
BachanKaur'sweddingto HariJiwanSinghin 19g6.
He did not mince
wordslHe wasverydirect,extremely
personal
and absolutely
challenqinq.

sirisinghsahibJi:produce
yourself.
Doyouunderstand
thestatus
ot thismarriaoe?

Har;JtwanSrnghKnalsa:
yes,Sir.
Do you understand
that youareAmencanZ
(Yes,5ir.)

Do you understand
that you haveno value
for marriage
andthat youareAmericans?
(Yes,Sir.)
Do you understand
that you haveno value
for marriage
andthatyouonlybelieve
in divorce
and nonsense?
And thatyou havehada terribre
pastandyou havecommotional
and
emotlonal
socialproblems?
(YesSir.)
Do you understand
that you havelostyour character?
you

womanizeopenly.you
leavepeoprein the rurchyou do not raiseyourchirdren.
you areworsethanthe anrmalsand birdsor any creature
on the pranet.And do you understand
that you are
holdinqthe handof thiswomanbeforethe siri Guru
Granthand that sheis hording
yourhandbeforethe SiriGuruGranthand it rsnow
different?
(Yes,Sir.)
I 42

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are,{aq1spuaulrnol 11e
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asaql raqlo qlea o] )lp] o] a^eqno^ iaut te
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aql le laueldstqtuo alooad]sa)ls aql are
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no,{o5 s6urq1
o1anola;doadno1 1q6ru
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Lu,l]PLIMs,]eqI Morrollol ]o alPrallo^lp o/o8sa9] +olred aq uel ]1]eq] os a6etlleLLl
aq] ]e ]aueldslq]uo aldoad]sa))lsaql ere
stq]a)eLuo] 6urob]ou Lu,lpuP']uaulotlr
no,{o5 s6urqtMorq}lanoo1a,rolaldoadno1 1q6tu
no,(lng oo] sa6euteun,torqua^o
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'paueqdro
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ar,no '{uard
1|a'r'r
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'{rair
,&a,r1oo1qloq no^ Mou) noA21urodaq] s,]eqM'raquo raqLunurnol op ol 6utobare
no{ pue Mo.rloutolno{ uo raqulnulaq op o} 6ulo6sl aqs}l s}le} aq} ale} sn }al
,411e1o1
srfuouara) aq] llv ia]ll .lno^anllpue op o] ]ueM nol ra^a
,(ressatauun
e puPllloolqleqe a^eqpue09 apoDul 6uloullq
+oasnaq]sl]eqM
-]eq^^pueLuoorpaq
poo6se
asMraqloasueu.rnq
llllpueqtraqlo qlPaploqo] 6utobno{ alero uot}
^]lulala
puPraqloqle0
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apl)ap
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'alPura]
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uaaq
e seapl)apo] no,{}uennI aiaq}n8 ut 6urntl
e pue ueLU
e se 'uPtLloM
e puealeLu
aql lla}o} 6u o6 }ou Lle
seL]aqs
]Pq^^Mou>l1ouop I no,{}o }uol} ul ,&o1saloqn'r
llaq
fuenale no'iivroul1
e a,reqno,{rvrou)oslPI 'ln}l}neaqfuen'1ua6r11a1ut
| ]sedalqr.r.ra]
'1r6uropue I 'noApa^ol
no,{asnelaq
a^ellI pue sreai{aururol a6eqre6stq}ut pa^lla^eqI asnelaqpue 'pa}slsul
o] auJ)Se o] ]ou noi{ plo} I asnelaq'anur}uo)
1ng a6eureut+o qleo slq] ralstuturpe
o] aur )se no{ arolaqMou }l apl)aprauaq peq no ,(fadold leuol}eulno^ sl qllqM
'abeqre6stql uMop,,ielue: noI I pue no{ q}lMa^ll}ouue)oqs}l lo Mor]otxo}ueLuoM
I
sr.ll q]rM antllouue) {1leuorlouanoAy aprlap o} sa}null! r"ra1e nol anrbl1trvt

l\ r il L l l: '\

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ir i r. i 0:)

li 1 \L i l

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lf you fail in yourpromisebecause


you cannothonoryourword,thenyou aren

useat all.Get up now and go to that churchon the corner.


Theguytherewill mar
younghtaway!ldon't wantto bringJesus
ChristandJehovah
andGodandAllahan

all the prophets


and everything
intothe playwhen peoplearejust goingto do the
berserk
things!

I don'tcarewho the hellyouare.llustwantto knowexactly


whereyourheads a

beforeI playanypartin this.Man,I havebeentellingthistruthfor nineyearslNobod


listens
to me.Godknowswhetheryou havelistened
to me so far or not.
HJSK:
l'm totallycommitted
to thiswoman,thisDharma.
lt is my prayerthat...

SSSJi:Youknowyou aregoingto catchherhandand onlyafterdeathwillyou le

rt 90, comewhat may!Youarea MALE;don't playthe part," Because


SHEdldn,td(
itl" l'm not goingto listento that tomorrow.

H.JSK:
I understand,
Sir.
Youareintelligent
enough.l'm justtryingto playveryiair with you.I believe
yo
comefrom a goodfamily.Youhad a good education
and you playeda foolishrol

somewhere
in between,
and if you hadhadsomebody
to controyou,allyou neede

wasa few spankings


andyou'dhaverunstraight.
Butthat didn'thappenandyoudic
you
what
wantedto do. Now is the timethat hasput you rightbeforethe altarto pla
the number.Right?
(Yes,Sir.)

You playedand you thoughtyou'd be free,right?Nobodycantell you anythin


youarean aduit.lf youaregoingto leavethiswomanbecause
because
ver
somebody

prettycomesalongand doesa numberon you and shesayssheis your "soulpar


ner"...you u n d e rs t a nwh
d a t lme a n ?lh a v e h e a rda ll t h o s es t o ri e sm, a n l T h e r ei s ;

wholerecordof it. With a lot of people.ldon't want that thingto happento you
okay?
(Yes,S r. absolutely.)
Sure.(aughing)
| meanthat'sthe end of it!
(Noquestion,
the question
doesnot arise.)

Now raiseboth your handsup to the sky.Thatmeansyou surrenderyou ll be hon


estto thiswomanandyou'llbe honestto yourself.
(SatBachanKaurraisedher arms toa, everyanelaughs.)

t4 4

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ON tL{

(fl e. tr^l f\t

(t t

. HNd t yn rN t d t

lHr No l) yl . d > y} 1

a]aq]Mou) no a+tl]o asodjndaq] s,]eql .pupls.japun


uel punorp6ursseuareoqnn
sroqlo]eq] os aldutexa6urnrl,1n11neaq
]sotLtp ]t a)jeuro] pue laqlo qlea puelsrapun
,{1}ua6r;1a1ur
o} atueql qOnouauaar6uaaqaneqno,{sOuraq
ueurnqse )ulll} I.

(ls .sa^:srH)

no,{o6 rnolloutola6eqte6
Zpuelslapun
{ue o1 ua1srlo} }ueM},uop I pue aul} slq}}e suor}p^rasar
,{ueluenn1,uopI pue e1d
-oad1ua6r1;a1ur-radns
aJeqloq no,iasnetaq,sptor,,r
ure1d,,(1a,r
ur 6ur{esur,l}pqMs,}pq_L
raqlo qtea ftteut uet noI araqair
sa:eld.raqlo+o ]ol e are araq] uaq] asla6urq ue
sraraql+lpuv j]t ro+olp pup ,pog se ]t rouoH.pog se proMtnol o1anr;
uaql ,, poD
semproM aq] pup ,poD qirMseMproM aqt .pjoM aq] sem6uruur6aq
aq] u1,,
lSnU nO,{Uaql ptoartno,{
.uor1e6r1qo
uanr6aneqno{ uaqmuorlebrlqo
up sauro)aq
1r1ng
ou s,ajaqf.no,{,{leu
o] a^pq]ou saopaq pup urq futeu o] a^eq]ou op no^ .]l op o] a^pqno^
asnelaq]ou
,,i1leuor1ouu.to:
pup 'Alleltlolnau
1ou
1ouflleuorloua ]oN .poD 01alela.luel no^ ]eq]
e ut ]t atuauedxapue 1ryo a:uauadxaaq] puelslapun]snu no1 puplsrapun
lsnul
^eM
noI 1eq1all yo asodrndaq] st ]eql 6uraqueunq e aq o] Moq ureldxao1
uosealaneq
aa,rlng Apoqluealo+ l,uop a6 ,ipoq,{ue
paauol },uopam uorlebat6uot
rno ul aal+sl
,ipoq,&e,rg
ob ue:,iaq1 06 {.!aq}}al o} qot^ur}ou st}l .po9 q}re}ut uraq}plaqa^eq
}o
I asnelaq{eaaeunr Luaq}a)eurto ,eldoad}no }nqs},uopI upul )paM p }ou Lu,l..
'lMeqssrq] punoqarpno1
,supaur
^q
,, aa5e1
lepuallepd,,
]eq] puv .puaauo ploq q)ea no ,{padotd
q}ol) stq}
jo ploq alpl moq asea;dno,{1o qloq uaql .aar6ear,.n,{e19 q6noua
s,leqt,{e19
.51g3ulngys
( auo6 lle are{aq11sq6ne1;e6ueg)
aq} llp q6norq}uaaqe^,1)
,luaun6re,iuy
itr6ollue
(ta^aosleqM
auoN)
stql]p suotlellasat,{ueaaeqno,{o6
aluautou.t
ut)atq6net)
( te5ups
(..ils
:)sfH)
^lalnlosqv
ano^]noqe]pqM alq6lJ'll op o] epeue) ujor1,iennaq] llp aulo)
a^eqno .ueaurI
.arouls)aaM
]eqMMou) no1 'urebe.tano
lle]t op up) aM
lo aldno:e no,{a,rr6ue: I
2aue6 auos {e1do1iuem nol op ,ro,sa^rlIn}q}nr}
p pue aleLle se a^tlpue raqlo qlea ol
ontlpue aleura+
aq o1 6uro6
]sauoq,&an
^ral
.uMop
no^
ale
:qloq
noI
6ur1seur,lleq] st ueaLU
sL!.jV/sq6nel
| ]eqM
/rsss)]q6u llV
, \ L il r ij r ;' -'\

Ii '

ta r i, r '

j i.
i,\ i i,

, i :ir 1

. i.,

| :,' .::r \,

i !.t,tr ..r it r ..irI

):r'\r,

is nothingequalto you asa womanand a man.Youarethe spiritand he rsthe proI tellyou,it is not an equality.
lf
lection.Youarethe 'fe-'and he is the male.Because
thewomancanget pregnant
anddeliver
the babyandthe manthenhasto breastfeed
the baby,thenthe problem
canbe solved,
we don'tneedthe EqualRights
Amendment
you
at all.Thatway the naturedoesit! Youhaveto becomepregnant. haveto raise
the baby.Youhaveto raisethe man.Youhaveto raisehisfuture.you haveto givehim
faith.Youhaveto givehim feelings
and you haveto gtvehim character.
And you,if
you dont givehim character...
God,there'snothingon thisplanetyou caneverdo!
And therewill be anothermess-around
situation
for which3H0 doesn'tevenhavea
budget.lt'sgettingoverbudgel.(taughing)
Youknowthat iswhat worriesme mostlWe
startedwith a definttebudgetthat we aregoingto takethe drugproblemout of this
countryand helpthe younqpeoplelivea reasonable
life,we aregoingto makethem
responsibie,
andwe arerunningoverbudgetlWhatl'm sayingis:I don'twantto spend
anyof my t me or moneyor anytelephone
callsor anything
counseling
thismarriage!
ls that clear?
(Yes,Sir.)
lwant to be verystraighton that.(laughtnEr)
I'm verypersonally
involved
with you
two. Thatls why I dont want any garbagehappening
tomorrowthat l'll feel hurt
about.Shes not asskinnyasyouth nkl' I m tellingyou rightnow.\Laughing)
(Yes,Sir.)
What do you mean,"Yes,Sir?" "Yes,Srr" doesn'tmeana thing. She'sstout!
\Laughing)

Waita minute,we knowthe privacy,


why areyou laughing?
Youarejustsittingin the
Guru'spresence
so let me discuss
rt veryopenly.
I don'twantanyproblem
at alltomoryou
row.And she'sgoingto be pregnant
andshesgoingto be thisbig!
understand?
And you aregoingto be pregnant
wth her! | meanyou aregong to run aroundat
that time because"l've got to do extrawork sellingstocks!And lam going to
Alabama
| " lLaughng)
Do you understand
what I mean?
(Yes,I do.)
Well......I think it's okay.(Addressing
satBachan
Kaur.)
Anyquestions,
dear?Don't be
silent.Haveyou anydoubt?Youunderstand
the Dharma.
Youunderstand
the Khalsa
woman?Youunderstand
the Graceof God?Andyouunderstand
allthingscomefrom

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lHl No lr \ t - ! ) y ) 1

']noqPllesi ]t ]eqMsl
po9 ]o lllM aq]'sn01 sr]r ]eq^^srleq-Lpo9 urqllMa^11
aM pup 'pog ro+a^rlaM ,poD
ut ]snr]aM jqleo letuouta.lal
lsl+ .rno^ol le^olsrp
aq llt^^no^ .ra])ereq)
stq]]a6ro+lltM
no^]eq] Ipp aq] puV jluor]slq 6utqlleMs)leMaq ]eqi aas
lltMno^ puV iwtq pren6
irMnol i)rpq slq ut paqqelspuepa)lp]]epuepaqqelsaq ulq lal ]ou
no^sueau
llt^^
rno] aql lle upix stq]purqaqlleM l/,no^.IuouJarat
]Pq1 spuno.r
p seqeped
lpr)ads
srqlpuv upursrq]]o ]rlds aq] aq o] anutluolo] a^pqno^ puv llln+qinr]6urnr1
,{q ,4;
-snoa1q6u
6urarl
,{q'po9 lq }no punolaq uet oMlnq ,poDpul}}ouue)aM}eq}alatlaq
aM jpot arolaqsrno^]o ]uau.tlrulLUol
p st srql Zpuelsrapun
no1 .{e,u{uesn o1 6urq}
-r{ueueau } usaopq}eac .a;1rno,{}o }sol aq} }e 1q6u1eq}ro1
1q6rio1arreqno,ipue
peaqsrqra^oob o1lqOuaq] aleq no,4,ueutstq]palsnr]aH .pelsn.l]
areno1 lqofrno,{st}eLlttasole aq pue{snolo6 urq ta;},uop:sueau
]eqI pueqtnoriur oslest ]t pue ]t aasuet nori,))au s Ll punotesl
q)qM '(lMpqt e/ppol
srqlno,{ane6aqs pue 6unsseqaqspqeqs aq1
I sui6aqpqeq5 6utppawpuotlpelt)

'Uelssn lal Ae\Olbutq'nej)6ururoutsrqluorleb


-ar6uorpoo6 e tob a,rno,4llaM iznC aqeM iparr,euu
oq ol paMolleaq o1qOnoua1r1
{11e1uau
pue qOnoua
arn}eur
aje
Illsauoq; e no,{o6 .}l }noqeIn}tqnop
}pq}1aa1
^aq}
auo,{uesao6 2a6eureusrql
1aa1
o1 uorltalqo,{ueaneq,{poq,{ue
sao6 .uorssrutad
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.op no{
au sa,u6,{poq,{an3
1eq1atueqr stq}raue aas 1,ary1
ll,aM
,{e>16
I5 ,e)Ueqlp peql,ua^pq| :sfH
\bulqbnel)
no,ioN alpq]raq p1o1
.]ou
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no,{aneganoi{ol realt}pq}
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sl ioo] salqno.l]
asoq]utol
o] 6uro6ar,no,{,p,uott}eq}utoto} 6uto6ar,noI puy 1r
1
,{esa,utpog ut }snr}j,uop a^^puesueluautvuotllrLu
ur,lpuV j}l
OEZarea^^no,i6ur1|e1
s,]eql'Japroq
]eq] ssorlno,{uaqnr,luepodur}soulst}t alaqpuV aueaLu
l}eqMpue}s
-rapunno,{op os 'ppeuelut ououtaq}lou st}l ,,}snliaMpog ul,,:puelstq}ur6urq1
;e}
-uaurppun+
auo s,araql6urq/ueueaul],usaop,slnuead
pue 1s1ape1
riu.Lur;
pue [6
,aua ftLuolprno^ llv ipuelsrapunno,{o6 .ir}o }no,{e,r,r
ou s,ataqlta}+nsllpqspog ul
]snj]iou op oqMaldoadasoq]llepuelstq]ul olloLustqluo paspqsrfu1unotsrql .La,r
-+ns//eqsno1 'leadarI ta+jnslleqsno^ uaq] ,po9 ur]sn.l]aleq ],uop no,i;r 1nq,Larvrod
aq] lle a^eq,{eu no{ 'q}leaMaq} 11e
aneq,{eu no1 ,,.}snrtaM poD ul,, ,6urq}auo
uo paqstlqelsa
srfu1uno:stq],stq]no,{11a1
lsnLlI os ,uetpeuele alp no1 paqstlqe}sa
srfu1unotsrql 2,!1unotstqluo osjnl aq] Mou) no1 1poDo1 o6 sOurql pue pog
lls
(i i I\\-

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:r .r ...:

\t,,.\,.r ' ..ii

].,.r 1:

,i ,

Soyouaremarrying
thisman,andwe aregorngthroughthisceremony.
Theminis_
ter hasgivenyouthepaala,whichyouareholdingtightin yourhand.youlustseethat
it goesaroundhisneckand he s holdinghisend in hlsrighthand.Thatsimplifies
the
you understand
srtuation.
lt is betterto be cautious
beforeanythinghappens.
what I
am tryingto put into your head?You do not haveto take it. you do not haveto go
alongwithanything
whichis notspiritual,
whichisnot righteous,
andyouhaveto fight
till yourlastbreaththat thismanlivesa truthfullife.ls that clear?lsthat clearto you?
You haveto provideand protecther prestgeat the costof your lfel No beastly
acton shoulddeteryou in livng a precious
andtruthfullife.you havethe rightto have
emotions.
Don'tmakethem into commotions
and then neuroses
and then patterns.
Youhavethe rightto makethe emotions
intodevotions
so that you canlve a lifeof
graceandecstasy.
And now today,youareholdingthisrelationship
of manandwoman
in the presence
of God.Right?Understood?
Now listento the firstiaw of marriage.
(Firstraund af the Lavants readin Gurmukhifromthe SiriGuruGranthSahib.Theenglishtranslationfrom
PeaceLagaonis read by MSS ShaktiParwhaKaur Khalsa.)

SSSJi.Now it hasbegun.And it saysveryclearly


to youthat pretending
to be reli_
grousand pretending
that youworshipGod,doesn,tmeana thinqlyou understand?
It c earlysaysthat livingrighteously
iswhat Godrs.
Truthis great,but livng in Truthis the greatestl
So if you starttodaylivingastwo
nto one consciousness,
truthfullyand righteously
at everymomentand everybreath
of your life,IhaI is allyou needlThereis no needof puttingashon your head.There,s
noneedtoleaveyo u rlo b . T h e re ' s n o n e e d f o rru n n in g a ro u n d ' d o in g ' . . . n o t h i n g i s
neededlBoth of you shouldrememberthat you are creaturesof God, and God is
everything,
andyou don'tneedto do anything
whichyoucannotanswerfor clearly
in
yourown consciousness.
Right?That'swhat s beingsaidhere.lt s not in French,
it,s
in English,
right?What is beingsaidin Gurmukhiis beingtranslated
to you and l,m
explainingit to you simp{y.t'm emphasizing
that you shouidunderstand
that readrng
the Vedas,worshipping
Brahma...
that meansworshiprng
for two hours,goingto
church,doingsomething,
eventhis.comingto the Gurdwara,
it'sali ritualistic
if every
momentof yourlifeyoudon'tfeelright.andyoudon'tliveright,andyourmotivation
is not truth.And that is the firstdutyof marriedpeople,to liverighteously
and truth
shouldbe theirguide,guardian
and everythrng.
ls that clear?
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knowsyou and
who is veryinnocent
and unknowingly
mustrepresent
to somebody
premises
That'sa verysimple
whereGodrules:
wantsto knowyou,that he isentering
that?Fine.
examplel
Youunderstand
Musicbeginsand the thid round is takenaround the Guru.

ceremony
in the nameof God-by the Wlllof God
5SSJ : Youaredoingthismarrrage
your now,and your ultlmate
and by the v rtuesof God.So God s yourbeginning,
of lifeis.We do not haveto competewith the ustBecause
that is whatthe purpose
ful livingin our land.We haveto competeto inhelt n our mindand heart,the first
to
motto,"ln Godwe trustand in Godwe live."We all cameherefor one purpose,

and that is what we intendto do. Thatis what bothof you have
worshipGodfreely,
you.Youarenot to do weirdthingsto
to do. Havefaiththat Godhasnot abandoned

themasthe maslookholy.Yousimplyhaveto controlyournineholesandadminister


ter of yourmindandseethatwhatcomesin is pureandwhatgoesout hasto go.That
You'llreadnow.
wayto liveas humanbeings.
logicaland reasonable
is the rational,
Faufthround read,musicplayed,and fourth walk taken.

on me by the holiestof the holy-The HolyAkalTakhat-and


Bythe powercon{erred
D.C.andalson the State
Supreme
Courtof Washington,
bythesuperior
so recognized
of Sikhreligionand havingtestedyou and havingquesas a minister
of California,

required
by the relitionedyou and havinghadyou go throughall of thrsceremony
gion...andin the presence
of the HolySiriGuru Granthlfind you to havegone
I find you now as husbandand
according
to my satlsfaction,
throughthisceremony
wife. lt is my prayerthat you may livern that unitywhichyou havepromisedto do as
in all the records
of this Countyand Stateand
man and woman.lt will be recorded
you'llbe honoredas a manand wife.That'syourpromisein the courtof God.Bles
you,and mayyou livelongand havepeace.
5at Nam.

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At h s firstpubliclecturein the UnitedStates


on January
5, 1969,YogiBhalanproclaimed,"lt lsyourbirthright
to be healthy,
happy,
andholy;Kundalini
Yogaistheway
to claimit."
It was the dawningof the AquarianAge. Seeingwhat the futurewas goingto
bring,he wasdetermined
to trainleaders
andteachers
w th the powerto hea1,
uplift,
and inspirehumanty.He said,"l'vecometo trainteachers,
not to get disciples."
He
taughtKundalini
Yogaopenlyto the publicfor the firsttime in history,
desprte
the
taboothat had keptit shrouded
in secrecy
for centuries.
He didn'tjustteachphysrcal
exercises,
medtation,andyogicbreathing
techniques
as such,he taughtpeoplehow to live,how to relateto eachother,and how to reate
to God.The3HOwayof lifeofferedan a ternative
to the prevalent
drugculture.
InJuly
"3HO"
of 1969he legallyestablished
the
Foundation,
an acronymfor the Heathy,
Happy,HolyOrganization.
YogiBhajan
champroned
the causeof WorldPeace,
workedto unitesplrtualleaders
of al faiths,and insrsted
uponrestoring
womento theirrightfuplaceof dignityand
respect
in socety.Hestarted
a summer
campfor womenin order,ashe said,to "change
Chicks
intoEagles."
He nspired
womento lead,uplift,and healthroughtheirinherent
graceand power.In 1970,he created
the Graceof GodMovement
for the Womenof
(cGMWA)with itsown bodyof teachings
America
especially
for women.
Hispenetrating
insight,
lnfinitecompassion,
ttreless
service,
and delightful
senseof
humorimmedrately
endearedhim to the eageryoungpeoplewho flockedto his
Kundalrni
Yogaclasses.
Htsf erydetermination
to awakenther soulsand teachthem
neverto settlefor lessthan the bestwithinthemselves
had a powerfulimpact.He
taughtstudents
howto access
theirintutiveawareness,
howto expeflence
higherconsciousness
withoutdrugs,and how to builda futurefor themselves
andtheirfamilies.
Hetoldthem,"Beten timesgreaterthanme." He alsosaid,"Don'tloveme;lovemy
teach
ings."
In 1973he founded3HOSuperHealth,
the on y ho isticsubstance
abusetreatment
programof its kind.lt wasaccred
ted by the U.S.JointCommission
on Accreditation
of Healthca
re Organizatrons.
Duringthislifetime,
YogiBhajan
wentfromriches
to ragsand backagain.As a real
Yogi,not affected
by the pairsof oppostes,he lved in hisown malesty
throughout
all

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Althoughhe himselfwas a devotedSikh,Yog Bhajannevertriedto convertanyof


However,
hrsexample
to proselytize.
the tenetsof the Sikhreligron
one.lt rsagainst
and manyof
to hisGodand Guruwascontagrous,
faithand commitment
unshakable
to walkthroughlifeon the Sikhpath.
recognrzed
theyweredestined
hisstudents
Sikhleaderhonoredhim by givinghimthe
India,a prominent
In 1971,at Amritsar,
and
to the U.S.asthe ChiefReligious
frrstevertitleof "SiriSinghSahib."He returned
andtookon the
of theWesternHemrsphere,
for SikhDharma
Authority
Administrative
a SikhMinistryin the West.
of establishing
responsibility
all overthe
and spiritualleaders
world peace,he met with religious
Promotrng
and host
andwasco-presldent
of Religions
world.He servedin the WorldParliament
Day,an
Peace
Prayer
ln 1983he foundedInternational
of HumanUnityConferences.
peopleto RamDasPurt,
that now drawsovera thousand
celebratton
annualinterfaith
of New Mexico.He was awardedtne
sacredland nestledn the JemezMountains
Awardin 1995
of Consctence
Peace
AbbeyCourage
lvassachusetts
a volumetitled TheMan Calledthe SiriSingh
ln 1979,honoringhis 5OthBirthday,
of Yogi Bhajansfirst ten yearsas a
achievements
Sahibdetailedthe outstanding
in the West.Thereis vet to be writtena full accountof th s amazingman's
Teacher
serviceto humantty.
wlthoutemphasizThisattemptto tell aboutYogiBhaianwould not be complete
and funny,and oftenhad everysenseof humor He wascharming
ing hisdelightful
intoa party
in havingfun andmadeanyoccasion
Hebelieved
onein galesof laughter.
wasalwaysan adventure,
or to the movies
to a restaurant
Goingw th him shopping,
alltryingto keepup
of vehicles
at leasta dozenpeopleanda caravan
rnvolving
usually
with him.
YogiBhajanleft his bodyon October6, 2004,at the age of 75 To be honest,I
w th us Hisdivinewisdom
isstillsovibrantly
hispresence
can'tsayhe "died,"because
he crelegacy
of the vastlibraryof teachings
liveon in the enlightened
and inspiration
generations
to come
atedto serveus now, and for countless

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br theIIouse
of Representatitcs
andyoga,andthe busiof YogiBhalanaboutSikhism
Recognrzes
that the teachings
political,
spiritual,
and
improved
the personal,
nesses
formedunderhisinspiration,
of India;
of the UnitedStates
andthe cttizens
professional
relatrons
betweencitizens
of Yogi
wisdom,kindness,
andcourage
the legendary
compassion.
Recognizes
and
on behalfof the Sikhcommunity;
Bhajan,
and hiswealthof accomplrshments
his3 children
to InderjitKaur,the wife of YoglBhajan,
itscondolences
Extends
(3HO)"
HolyOrganization
Happy,
andto Sikhand "Healthy,
and 5 grandchildren,
aroundthe Nationandthe worlduponthe deathon October6, 2004,
communities
who wasa wiseteacherand mentotan outstanding
an individual
of YogiBhalan,
humanbeing.
pioneer,
of peace,anda compassionate
a champion
H .C o nR. e s .3 4

Agreedto April 6, 2005

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YOGI B HA JA N MMOR I A L HI q H\ ^ / A Y
As you head north from SantaFe, New Mexico,on Highway84 toward Espanola,
Theatersitsat the top of the hill at the turn-offto reach
wherethe DreamCatcher
MEMORIAL
Hacienda
de Guru RamDas,you will seea signsayingYOGIBHAJAN
whatwouldhavebeenYogiBhajan!
HIcHWAY.In Augustof 2005,aswe celebrated
Hacienda
de Guru
that Highway106,whichborders
it wasannounced
76th birthday,
has been renamedthe YOGIBHAJAN
Ram Das,Yogi Bhajanshome tn Espanola,
of NewMexico,BillRichardson.
HIGHWAY
by the Governor
IVEMORIAL

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Chakras:e ght energycenterslocatedat: 1) baseof the spinebetweenthe rectumandsex


organs,2) sexorgans,3) navelpoint,4) centerof the chestbetweenthe nippes,5) throat,
c f eld surroundng the body
6) brow point,7) crown(top)of the head,8) electromagnet
un verse
Cosmos:ha 'nonroussy)lernal,c
Crown Chakra:the seventhchakraat the top of the head
of seeingor beingseenby a Holypersonage
Darshan:blessing
helpsrelease
stress
or medtation,deeprelaxation
Deep Relaxation:as importantasexercise
the g andularbaance,andallowsthe bodys natural
fromboththe mindandthe body,adlusts
in mentalc arityand physical
ease
self-heang energyto function,resulting
eternatruth.
Dharma:spiritualpath,righteousness,
lustice,harmony,
DiaphragmLock:seeUddyanaBandh
cross-eggeds tt ng position;Sukhasan
EasyPosera comfortable
on YogrBhalantaught
EK ONG KAR 5AT NAM SlRlWHA GURUwasthe originalpronunciat
iI as "Wha-hayGuroo"in conformty w th
to pronounce
he atertaughteveryone
However,
scrpt(adding
the short"hay"vowel).Healsothen
the way it s wrtten in the Gurmukhi
taughtit to be donein 2-1l2breaths.AlsoseeAshtangMantra.
the body n the sameway the Earth's
Field:energyfieldthat surrounds
Electromagnetic
c field s a so calledthe Aura,andwhen
the Earth.Theelectromagnet
magneticfie d envelops
and illness.
energy,and protectsfrom negativity
it is strong,it attractspositive
or Deliverer
of all Creatron
and Destroyer
Organizer,
God: Generator,
andsacredSikhtemplein the wor d lHariMandt sahib)n
GoldenTempfe:mostrevered
Amritsar
lndra
andinfuseall lite:
or qualtiesthat permeate
attributes
Gunas:the threefundamental
Iamas(inertta)
Ralas(activity),
Sartva(essence),
basedon the powerof the soundcurrent
Gurbani:sacredlanguage
Gurdwara:5 kh templeor placeof worshtp,the 'gateot the Guru
ve powerof the soundcurrent;
basedon the transformat
Gurmukhi:sacredscnpt(alphabet)
"fromthe mouthof the Guru"
literally,
Teacher:
the giver
of gnorance;
RumeansLight:.e.,the d speller
Guru:Gu meansdarkness;
of technology
of the
andTeacher
Guru Nanak:thef rstof the ten SikhGurus,a saint,poet,and minstrel,
5 kh lfestyle
humllrty,
rntegr
ty and
of compasslon,
Guru RamDas :the 4th SikhGuru,the embodiment
servce, knownfor hishea ng poweras 'TheLordof Miracles"

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Mahan Tantric:Masterof WhiteTantricyoga(suchasyogi

Bhajan),
the onlypersonqualified
to conductWhiteTantricyogaCourses
(he now teaches
on video,fftroughhtssubtlebody);
tnerecanonlybe one tvrngMahanTantricat anygiventtme
Mala: stringof beadsusedasa medttatton
tool
Mantra:a syllable
or combination
of syllables
that helpfocusthe mrnd,mantrascanbe
audtble
or silent
Maya: the illusionthat we mistakefor realty; literally,,any,thing
measurable,,
Meditation:the process
of controlling
andtranscending
the thoughts,wh ch eadsto
increased
focus,mentalrelaxatjon,
and clarity;lettingGodtalk to you
Miri Piri:temporal/spirjtual
balanceof the Universe
Moon centers:physica/
areasor pointsiocatedon the humanbody,sensitive
to lunar
energres(Menhaveonryone, locatedat the chrn.women
haveeleven,whrchattecttheir
emottonal
state)
Morning Cafl:anothernamefor the AshtangMantra,the
2_1/2cyctebrealh,,long,,Ek Ong
Karchant
Mudra: Yogichandposrtron
Mulbandh: RootLock,usedto croseoff the rowerthree
chakras
atowingthe kundarini
energy
to tlow upwards;(simultaneously
contractthe muscles
of the rectum,sexorgans,lower
abdomen,
and navelpotnt
Muf Mantra: Fist linesof lapji Sahib
Naad:basicsoundfor all languages,
originating
from the soundcurrent;the secrets
hiddenin
soun0
Nadhis:subtlenervechannels
Neck Lock: seelalandharBandh
Neutral Mind: the m.ndthat rudgesandassesses
withoutattachmenlIn reratron
to eitherfear
or wishfulthinking;it observes
the actionsof both the negative
and positiveminds,andthen
makesdecisions
in relationship
to the higherself
Parkarma:walkwaysurrounding
the GoldenTemplein Amritsar,
Indra
Pataniali:firstyoqito recordthe eightlimbsof Rajayoga,
yoga
the
sutrasof patanrari
written
in the secondCenturyB.C.(ThebookHow to Know
patanjalis
Godls basedon
yogasutras)
Pauri:stepsof knowledgeguidingone to experience
Godconsciousness
PisceanAge: Age of ,,lwantto know.I needto learn.,,
Pranatthe ltfeforceor vitalair aboverne navetcenter
Pooja:rrtualworshrp
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I 'i \ t 5 0 l )

of the Ad
beginswith at leastthreerepetitions
Yoqasession
Tuning in: eachKundalini
|\,4antra:ongNamoGuruDeVNamo,annvocationcal|ingupontheCreatorandtheDivine
w thin
Teacher
on the exhaleby liftingthe chestand pullingthe
Lock,applied
UddiyanaBandh:D aphragm
diaphragmmuscle(theareaabovethe navel)up and In
of the Vedas,compos'"d
Upanishads:writingswhichform the lastsectionof the literature
schoos of Vedanta
900 B.C.;the basisfor the aterphilosophical
beginning
of Indlanphilosophy
Vedantaroneof the sixclasscalsystems
Vedas:ancientHinduscrlPtures
taughtby YogiBhajan,donewltn a paftner
exercises
VenusKriyas:specal advanced
for men,the left thumbis on the
with f ngersinterlaced;
VenusLock:mudra(handposition)
webbingbetweenthe rightthumbandthe indexfingerwhilethe rlghtthumb!son the tleshy
for women
moundof the left handlust belowwherethe (left)thumbbeginsReverse
magnficenceof God ("Wowl God
the inexpressible
expressing
Wahe Guru: mantrao{ ecstasy
is greatbeyonddescriPtionl")
thought
subconscious
workshopfor healingand transmutlng
white TantricYoga:meditation
taughtonlyby the lVahanTantric
awareness,
patternsandexpanding
Camp)spiritualcampfor womenheld
WomensTraining
Women'sCamp:(KWTC,Khalsa

annualyinNewMexicoby3Ho,p|usatotherocationsthroughoutthewor|d,suchasMeXco
andCanada
journey;
pilgrimage
Yatra:spiritual
with the Universal
of yokingor un ting the nd v dualconsciousness
Yoga:union:the science
conscousness
blackpeppercorns'
madefrom c nnamon'cardamom,
Yogi Tea:healingformulabeverage
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cloves(gingerroot is optional),
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,,Age,,meann9 one of the four periodsinto Whlchthe World
t termfor an
Sanskr
Yug (Yuga):
t me cycleis divided:SatYug,TretaYug,DoaparYug,Kal Yug

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FORMEN
6 MESSAGES
CHAPTER
2l Man to Man Part2 "lnsidethe RealMan".
2 4 M a n to Ma n : 1 9 7 8 -1 9 84
25 Man to Man Part2, page8
26 See"Methodsfor Men" page106
27 Arcline:SeeG ossary
and Poetry)
28 Seepage 106,Methods{or Men" (frompages120,121KundaliniPostutes
29 Page58 Man to Man Part4:
lo Man to Man Part4 P34
3l Accordingto ancienttradition,the soulentersthe mother'sworrb on the 12othdayot pregnancy.
lt s not a babyshower.Gi{tsare brought{or the mother
ln 3HOwe ho d 12Othdaycelebrations.
areo{feredthat shernay
for her sacredrole.Prayers
to be, honoringher personaly and cosmically
bringa sant, a hero,or a giverinto the worldl
12Man to Man Part4, page65
l l M a n to l v a n ,p a g e1 8
:4 Ma nto Ma n P a rt2 , p a g e12
l5 Moon Centers:SeeGlossarY
36Historcaly, t is indrcated
that Kiping wrote "lf" as a tributeto the qualt es oi
Dr.LeanderStarriamlson
IN N,']ARRIAGE
7 CHALLENGE5
CHAPTER
17 ThouqhYogiBhalanstronglyrecornmends
havingthe woman handlethe t nances
l8 Amrit Sikhvowsto Jiveas Khasa;analoqous
to "baptism,"but voluntarly chosenby the
ly at birth)
(ceremony
not givenautomatlca
individual
l9 YogiBhajan:Womenin Trarning,
of Crisis"1987,paqe109
"Crosslng
the Crossroads
a0 Page61 Chapter9. Professiona
ly Speakng
B sEXAND SEXUATITY
CHAPTER
a] FromYog BhajansLecture:"TheresNothng n Sexand wthout SexThereis Nothing,"page52
42 Ancientyogicw sdomteachesthat eatinggarlicncreases
the producton of semen n the body
al Seepage100,YoqrcTechnoloqy
to the Rescue
aa Seepage 101, YogicTechnoloqy
to the Rescue
5PEAKING
9 PROFESSIONALLY
CHAPTER
4s Sardarnl
nistera
title
5ahba: 5 kh N,4
46 Kundalnt Research
Instrtute
a7 (MFT= f"y'arr
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