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Work ou what you want to achieve in the next six months, the next three
month, the next month, the next week in order to get to the goal in, for
example, a years time.
8. Keep a journal
Write something each day. Write your thoughts and feelings. Just let your
hand move across the page (flow of consciousness writing). Dont censor
what you write and dont re-read it immediately or correct it. As time goes by
you will learn how this process frees up your mind to be much more creative
and you may find that you have ideas about how to progress or how to move
out of a stuck situation.
9. Do something, however small, each day
The way to get things done is to make a tart and take action. Even five or ten
minutes a day contributes to the whole and is a better technque than waiting
for some never to arrive day when you might have plenty of time.
10.Celebrate
If you follow these tips, you will achieve your goals. Tell yourself how well
youve done and do something special to celebrate your success.
there are times when you dont know what to do, and this times when you feel
emotional or unable to cope. Who can you turn to? Who can you share your
emotions with? Very often the answer is no-one and so these feelings are ignored
for a long time.
Support
Who do you turn to when you begin to wonder how youll get through the next
few years, or even the next few hours or days? Ideally the answer is someone in
whom you can confide who will listen to you whithout judgement and accepts
you as you are, with only your agenda. Do you believe that if you ask for help
and support that this will be seen as your Achilless heel? Do you, like some
doctors, build a sort of outer protective skin around your emotional self, so that
its impossible or very difficult for people to make contact or connections with
you? Are you vulnerable and frightened about seeking help for yourself because
you think you have to cope on your own? Do you not want to admit that you
dont know all the answers? Do you believe that others will think less of you if
you admit ignorance? To avoid this:
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If you gave absolutely full attention, truly listening to what the person is saying,
then it is more likely that they will do it for you too. Have you ever experienced
another person really hearing you? What we give out we get back and if you
want someone to hear you then its important to be a much, much better listener
to others.
Find someone who you would feel comfortable to talk to and make a request of
them. Tell them that you want them to truly listen to what you say.
Ask them not to tell you what to do, only reflect back to you to indicate that they
have really heard you.
If youve got into the habit of jumping to conclusions when someone starts to tell
you something, it may be valuable for you to find a basic counselling course to
improve your listening skills and also experience the power of being truly
listened to, youeself.
As an alternative, ask someone to be a listening partner, in order to giv and
experience this. No comment, no advice, just unadulterated ;istening for a set
time each, with feedback at the end (What I hear is...). This technique is used in
co-counselling. Are you going to wait until you are at crisis point? Who can
support you now? Who can be there for you and accept you and who you are?
Now is the right time to improve the quality of your live so that you have time for
family as well as patients. More opportunities to enjoy being away from work
doing stuff you havent done for years like going for a walk, a cycle ride, reading
a book, painting, writing, any other almost forgotten hobby, whatever youve
been saying to yourself, one day Ill have time for such. Now is the time to get
more balance between your medical work and the rest of your life connecting
with the part of you denied for years.
Dont wait until you are well and truly burnt out. Re-discover who you are. Start
today to make small changes. Be clear about what you have to do againts what
you should do.
Self care
You may believe that you are indispensable, but if you became too ill to work,
what then? Be more selfish. The word selfish may have bad connotations for you.
Think about it meaning self care. If you take more care of yourself and your own
needs you will cope much more effortlessly with those of your patients. Dont
wait to find solace in drink, drugs or until you reach crisis point. Find someone to
encourage and support you unconditionally. Talk about your frustations and
difficulties of overwork in an environment of feeling undervalued and endless
demands made of you.
Supervision
Counsellors are always supported by regular suppervision from someone to help
them to sort out what issues are clients and what is their own stuff. Once you
experience this support, it is difficult to know how you manage before. It is not to
do with your standart of practice but about having someone to offload on to,
whithout fear or recrimination, from a person whith whom you dont have to keep
up the front of perfection. Some doctors are beginning to recognise its value.
Perhaps it would be more acceptable for doctors if it had a different name.
When you experience the power of support and encouragement rather than
demands and intimidation you will be more able to coach your patients to do
whatever they need to do, rather than reaching for the perscription pad or
becoming exasperated with them. When someone listens to your concerns and
acknowledges them as legitimate you will become a better listener to your
patients and hear more of their underlying issues and empower them too. You
will be able to convey to them that they can make a difference to their own lives
when they take responsibility for it. Every small change you as an individual
make will eventually help to change the system. Take courage: start to care for
yourself, much more. What will you do differently today?