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‘I Want!’ BY LARRY GORDON
Rabbi Meir Orlian 24
MindBiz
Leaders And Leadership
Esther Mann, LMSW 30 Have you ever wondered
how we could apply modern
Getting It technology to the challenging
Hannah Reich Berman 32 task of being a leader? It’s easy
to be critical and say that
Take Two
these days there are no real
Rabbi Avi Shafran 43
leaders in the secular political
Clever But Clueless realm, nor for that matter is
Rifka Schonfeld 47 there universally respected
and accepted leadership in the
Jewish community.
But I’m really not sure where
the fault lies—in leaders who
might possibly be short on quali-
fications or accomplishments,
DIVORCE: THE CAUSE AND EFFECT
BY RAV ARYEH Z.
GINZBERG
CHOFETZ CHAIM TORAH CENTER
Rabbi Jaeger for
Be’er Hagolah I have previously written
See Page 60 about the very painful topic of
divorce in our community. As
the number of divorces of
young couples rises to unprece-
dented proportions, leaving dev-
astated families and at times
devastated communities in its
wake, the Torah community as a
whole has not stepped up ade-
quately to address this modern
plague in our community.
From a personal perspective,
Skelos visits Holocaust
Making A Big Impression
Memorial Center.
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The annual parlor meeting in the Five Towns for Yad L’Achim was held
last Saturday night at the home of Mr. and Mrs. Moshe Hirth in
Lawrence. The guest speaker was Rabbi Abraham Twersky, MD, who
Sukkos in February at YDT. spoke about the concept of true happiness. Above: Rabbi Shlomo Kohn,
See Page 77 executive director of Yad L’Achim; Rabbi Twersky; and Moshe Hirth.
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or in the attitude of the multi-
tudes who desire to be led.
Someone said to me the
other day that he didn’t under-
stand why we need human
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leaders at all in the political
arena or in Jewish life, when a
well-programmed computer
system could make precise
decisions—and get it right.
For example, if the White
House had a carefully pro-
New York City Police Commissioner Raymond Kelly and Israel Police
grammed computer system, do Commissioner Dudi Cohen served together on a security discussion panel
at the Herzliya Conference of the Institute for Policy and Strategy in
Continued on Page 5 Israel earlier this week. See Page 70
HEARD IN THE BAGEL STORE
in my first 15 years of being
blessed with the opportunity of
serving as a community rav, I
A Legacy Of Words
dealt with approximately ten BY LARRY GORDON accomplished as well as the
divorces. In my last five years, I important things that he impart-
have dealt with approximately My father left me a few mil- ed to us, his children.
ten each year. I’ve often been lion. It’s been over two decades I know you’re thinking that
asked something that I’ve now, and I’m not sure what I’m what my dad left me—those few
already been asking myself for going to do with those millions. million, that is—are dollars, but
years: what is the common I’ve frequently thought about they are not. My father, Nison
denominator in so many using them for some productive Gordon, z’l, whom I’ve written
divorces today, particularly and educational purpose. Maybe about here from time to time,
among young people. I would do what so many other left me a legacy of millions of
Until recently, I’ve felt that children have done before me, words. As a writer in Yiddish
there really is no common and use them as a way of perpet- publications from the early
uating his memory, his time
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Misconceptions EHUD BARAK:
Our Aliyah Chronicle
BY SHMUEL KATZ OCCUPATION
Last week, I was privileged to
participate in the shalom zachor
EQUALS
of my newest nephew, born in
the U.S. to Goldie’s sister and her
APARTHEID
husband, Debra and Sruli BY SAMUEL SOKOL,
Ehrenberg (Mazal tov!). As I have ISRAEL CORRESPONDENT
PhotoByIvanH.Norman
said in the past, we miss a lot of
smachot being so far away Speaking at the tenth annual
(including his brit milah, which Herzliya Conference at the
will happen after press time, so Interdisciplinary Center, Israeli
I don’t know the name yet), and Defense Minister Ehud Barak
it is terrific when circumstances warned of the dangers of
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“Apartheid”
Continued from Front Cover
apartheid, should Israel refrain
from withdrawing from Judea
and Samaria to create a
Palestinian State.
As long as west of the Jordan
River there is only one political
entity called Israel, it will not be
Jewish or democratic, he
explained.
The former Prime Minister
was speaking in a panel entitled
Prospects of Peace: the Israeli-
Palestinian Track, together with
Palestinian Authority Prime
Minister Salam Fayyad.
“If we don’t give Arabs the
vote it is apartheid and is not
compatible with the Zionist
dream. Giving the Arabs the vote
would destroy Israel as a Jewish
16 February 5, 2010 5 TOWNS JEWISH TIMES
state,” Barak stated. Accordingly,
he told a packed hall, the only
solution must be an end to what
he termed the occupation.
Speaking to Israel’s peace
camp, Barak stressed that “peace
“Giving the Arabs the vote would destroy
Israel as a Jewish state.”
is not a religion. It is only a means
to achieve the goal of a prosper-
ous and strong State of Israel.”
However, in an appeal to
Israel’s religious community, the
defense minister explained that
while he feels that Jews have a
“connection and a right” to
Judea and Samaria,” it is neces-
sary to withdraw because of the
need to be “realistic” and to rec-
ognize “practical restraints.”
Accordingly, he said, the alter-
native to withdrawal is Israel
becoming like “Bosnia and
Belfast” or “being swept gradual-
ly into the reality of one state for
two nations, which is the reality
of South Africa in the past.”
Barak made reference to the
Biblical account of G-d promis-
ing the entire land of Canaan to
Abraham, saying that expecta-
tions of that promise must be
modified to fit existing realities.
David Ha’Ivri, the Spokesman
for Gershon Mesika, the head of
the Samaria Regional Council,
representing Israeli settlers,
blasted Barak for his statements.
“The Jewish people are the
indigenous people of the land
of Israel. This area is the center
of our culture, our heritage, and
our biblical claim to the land.
Through G-d’s grace these areas
have returned to the control of
the State of Israel,” he said.
The Samaria Regional
Council called for the annexa-
tion of Judea and Samaria.
While Israeli voters over-
whelmingly supported national-
ist candidates in the last elec-
tions, repudiating Barak and his
Labor Party, Barak said that he
feels that there is a “clear silent
majority in favor of peace.”
Barak said that such an atti-
tude is less taken for granted on
the Arab side, but that a real
change has been made “under the
surface,” calling Fayyad responsi-
ble for a change in Palestinian
thinking that is practical and not
ideological and not trading in the
concept of victimhood.
Since his ascent to the premier-
ship, anti-Semitic content and
violent incitement have not been
removed from the PA media.
The Palestinian prime minis-
ter was recently accused of pay-
ing the salaries of members of
the banned Al-Aqsa Martyrs
Brigades terrorist organization,
in a report from the Center for
Near East Policy Research, and
he has been called “an obstacle
to peace” by Israeli Deputy
Prime Minister Silvan Shalom.
A major theme in Fayyad’s
speech was the lack of confi-
dence the Arab side has in Israeli
intentions due to continued
building in Judea and Samaria
and continued Israeli incursions
into Arab cities in the course of
counter-terrorism operations.
Fayyad called for an expansion
of the areas where PA security
forces are allowed to operate.
He emphatically expressed
the PA’s “commitment to hold on
and abide by obligations,” and
said that when Palestinians get a
sense that the Israeli presence in
Judea and Samaria is being rolled
back, then peace talks will have a
chance to resume and be suc-
cessfully concluded.
Fayyad said that the Palestine
Liberation Organization recog-
nized Israel’s right to exist in 1993
with the signing of the Oslo
accords and did not receive Israeli
recognition of the Palestinian
right to a state in return.
The accords, while signed,
were never ratified by the PLO,
and the organization’s charter
still calls for the elimination of
the State of Israel.
“Palestinian statehood should
be the outcome of this political
process,” he said, adding that his
people were “shouldering the
responsibility of getting ready
for statehood,” explaining that
governments and governance
were what gave people stability
and security. “The Road Map has
obligations on both sides and
makes a great deal of sense…the
 Photo By Ori Porat
Israeli Defense Minister Ehud Barak and Palestinian Authority Prime Minister
Dr. Salam Fayyad at the 2010 Herzliya Conference.

emergence of sovereignty of a Palestinian During the conference, Fayyad called on

state and an end to the Israeli occupa-
tion.” He pointed out, “It’s not about
declaring a state; it’s about getting ready
for one… The idea here is to do everything
we possibly can to be ready for statehood
by 2011.”
Israeli President Shimon Peres has
compared Fayyad to David Ben-Gurion,
the founder of the modern state of Israel.
Israel to lift its siege on Hamas-controlled
Gaza, even as the terror organization and
Palestinian Authority rival lambasted him
for his participation in the conference. A
Hamas spokesman said that “the coopera-
tion between the Palestinian Authority in
Ramallah and Israel has risen to the level of
Palestinian participation in the formation
of the (Israeli) occupation policies.” ❖

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