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May 6, 2015
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1800-1930
Duration
90 min
NCBA&E
April 6, 2015
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SELFCONFIDENCEOXY
GEN TO SUCCESS &
PERFORMANCE
Brief Summary
What is assertiveness?
What is self-confidence?
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Case study
Personal application
Asking questions
Body language
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Sounding confident
Building Rapport
Learn to say No, Say what you
mean
Take pride in yourself
Look in the mirror and smile
Be comfortable with fear
Accept compliments gracefully
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Acknowledgement
We wish to express our sincere gratitude to our course instructor Ms.
LeezaRiaz for providing us an opportunity to practically implement our
knowledge that we learnt in this course in the form of this project. We would
like to thank her for all the guidance, help and encouragement in
successfully finishing this project and teaching us in this course
The project cannot be completed without the efforts and mutual co-operation
from our group members Ejaz Anwer Gill, Kamran Peter, Kashif Nazir, Hassan
Iftikhar and Javiria Khalid.
Last but not the least we would also like to thank and express our gratitude
to our friends and colleagues who have more or less contributed in this
project.
The project has indeed helped us to explore more knowledgeable avenues
related to our specialization in HRM which would be helpful in future.
Thanking You
Group 5
Ejaz Anwer Gill
Kashif Nazir
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Kamran Peter
Hassan Iftikhar
Javiria Khaild
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Work Division:
Sr. #
1.
2.
Group Member
EjazAnwer Gill
(Group Leader)
Hassan Iftikhar
3.
KashifNazir
4.
Javiria Khalid
Tasks
1) Introduction
2) Objective of Training
3) Arrangement of music/speakers
4) Preparing for Your Journey
5) Setting Out
6) Accelerating Towards Success
1) Communication Skills
2) The Importance of Goal Setting
3) Designing & Printing of Hand-bills
4) Video Clip
5) Communication Activity
1) Feeling the Part
2) Looking the Part
3) Sounding the Part
4) Arrangement of Refreshment
5) Preparation of
Evaluation/Feedback Form
1) Powerful Presentations
2) Coping Techniques
3) Dealing with Difficult Behaviors
4) Costumes for Skit
5) Skit writing
6) Decor & Charts
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1) Stationary
2) Gifts for participants
3) What does self-confidence means
to you?
4) Obstacles to our Goals?
5) Preparations of training cards
5.
Kamran Peter
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2
3
4
5
6
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Activity/Task/Items
Identity Cards
Hand Bills/Broachers
Costumes
Sounds/Speakers
Stationary
Refreshment
Miscellaneous
Total
Expense
25 x 30= 750
10 x 30= 300
200 x 4= 800
Nil
30 x 30= 900
60 x 30= 1500
= 750
= 5000
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individuals exhibit poor eye contact and slumped body posture, and tend to
speak softly or apologetically.
Passive people express statements implying that:
Im unable to stand up for my rights.
I dont know what my rights are.
I get stepped on by everyone."
Im weak and unable to take care of myself.
People never consider my feelings.
2. The Aggressive Person
An aggressive individual communicates in a way that violates the rights of
others. Thus, aggressive communicators are verbally or physically abusive,
or both. Aggressive communication is born of low self-esteem, and display
a low tolerance.
They express statements implying that:
The other person is inferior, wrong, and not worth anything
The problem is the other persons fault
They are superior and right
3. The Passive-Aggressive Person
Passive-aggressive people usually feel powerless, stuck, and angry. They feel
incapable of dealing directly rather and express their anger in a clever way.
Frequently they speak softly to themselves instead of confronting another
person & often try to smile, even though they are angry.
4. The Assertive Person
An assertive individual communicates in a way that clearly states his or her
opinions and feelings, without violating the rights of others. Assertive
communication
is
born
of
high
self-esteem.
Assertive
people
value
themselves, their time, and their emotional, spiritual, and physical needs.
They are strong advocates for themselves -- while being very respectful of
the rights of others.
Assertive people feel connected to other people. They make statements of
needs and feelings clearly, they speak in calm and clear tones, are good
listeners, and maintain good eye contact. They create a respectful
environment for others, and do not allow others to abuse or manipulate
them.
The assertive person uses statements that imply:
I am confident about who I am.
I cannot control others, but I control myself.
I speak clearly, honestly, and to the point.
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Obstacles are encountered every day of our lives, but what we do and how
we react during these events will determine the outcomes of such events.
Our reactions to these obstacles will determine if the situation becomes a
minor annoyance to a major event. Over reacting to a small annoyance can
magnify the issue and make larger than it actually is. These are the types of
reactions that should be kept in check, what is an appropriate response to
each obstacle.
Types of thinking
What image are you projecting in your life? If you dont like what you see,
then change it! By changing your inner image by what you believe about
yourself, you can potentially change your outer outcome. Self Confidence is
factor that we humans have, and no one can dominate our attitudes or take
our choices from us if we believe in our self, YES I CAN DO IT.!!!!
A person who has been brought up in a happy and positive atmosphere,
where people value success and self-improvement will have a much easier
time thinking positively. Stop thinking what others are thinking because we
can never control others state of mind..!!!
The Thinking Factor plays an important
role in self- confidence of a person. This
figure explains People with low selfconfidence usually feel anxiety and they
cant perform well. It depends on your
thinking, like if you think
I know
I am going
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Personal Application
We all have situations in our personal lives where the ability of selfconfidence and assertive behavior helps us achieve our goals. We should
practice the opportunity to develop assertive responses. Standing up for
yourself will translate into success throughout your personal and professional
lives. It will help enhance your self-confidence, and make the challenges
much more easily to overcome.
Communication Skill:
Communication is simply the act of transferring information from one place
to another.
7 Cs of communication:
1.
2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
Clear.
Concise.
Concrete.
Correct.
Coherent.
Complete.
Courteous
Listen carefully: People often focus on what they should say, but
effective communication is more about listening than it is about
talking. Listening well means not just understanding the words or the
information being communicated, but also understanding how the
speaker feels about what theyre communicating.
Body language: Nonverbal communication should reinforce what is
being said, not contradict it. If you say one thing, but your body
language says something else, your listener will likely feel youre being
dishonest. For example, you cant say yes while shaking your head
no.
Giving and accepting criticism: Effective spoken communication
requires being able to express your ideas and views clearly, confidently
and concisely in speech, tailoring your content and style to the
audience and promoting free-flowing communication
Have courage to say what you think: Be confident in knowing that you
can make worthwhile contributions to conversation. Take time each day
to be aware of your opinions and feelings so you can adequately
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Goals Give You Focus: it give you a vision of the future. Whether you
want to save your allowance to buy a new gadget, improve your
grades or go to a friends birthday party, goal-setting gives you a
positive focus that will encourage you to make better decisions. This
focus encourages a child to think ahead about activities or behaviors
that might get him closer or farther away from achieving his goal.
Goals Allow You to Measure Progress: By setting goals for yourself you
are able to measure your progress because you always have a fixed
endpoint or benchmark to compare with.
Goals Help You Overcome Procrastination: When you set a goal for
yourself you make yourself accountable to finish the task. This is
in complete contrast with when you do things based on a target and it
doesn't matter whether you complete them or not. Goals tend to stick
in your mind and if not completed they give you a "Shoot! I was
supposed to do_____ today!" reminder. These reminders in the back of
your head help you to overcome procrastination and laziness.
Goals Give You Motivation: Goal setting provides you the foundation for
your drive. By making a goal you give yourself a concrete endpoint to
aim for and get excited about. It gives you something to focus on and
put 100% of your effort into and this focus is what develops motivation
Gives Clarity on your end vision: Goals gives you clear end point
people who work on goals they set are more motivated to accomplish
the objective because they directly see or experience the benefits of
their achievements.
Setting SMART goals:
Specific: A specific goal has a much greater chance of being
accomplished than a general goal.
Measurable: keeping track of progress gives incentives to keep
going.
Attainable: Goals are realistic and attainable.
Realistic: when you identify the goal which are most important to
you, you begin to figure out ways you make them come true.
Timely: a time bound goal is intended to establish a sense of
urgency and prevent goals from being over taken by the day to
day crisis that invariably arise.
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this will make them feel that you are in fact interested in
what they have to say.
Another body language is your facial expression. If you are
always frowning, this would indicate that you have a
negative aura, and this will push others away. Whereas if you
are constantly seen smiling, you are going to attract other
sunny and happy people to you.
Posture is also very important. You need to sit properly,
avoid slouching, and if you can, keep an open posture at all
times, leaning towards the speaker whenever necessary, to
show that you are interested.
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Sounding Confident
Since 38% of the messages received by a listener are
governed by the tone and quality of your voice, its pitch,
volume and control all make a difference in how confident
you sound when you communicate. Below are some specific
tips.
Pitch - pitch means how high or low your voice is.
Volume - the loudness of your voice must be governed by
your diaphragm
Quality - the color, warmth, and meaning given to your voice
contribute to quality
Using I messages:
1. Declarative I Messages
Declarative I messages should be used when you want to
express a need, desire, opinion, or thought. An example of this
type of statement would be I need to receive recognition and
encouragement for the effort and hard work that I put into the
group in order to feel needed and secure. Using this type of I
message will help you communicate your feelings without causing
group tension or starting a conflict.
2. Responsive I Messages
Responsive I messages can be used when someone asks you to
do something for them or with them. An example of this
statement would be I would really love to help you on the
project, but unfortunately I am already working on another
important assignment and wont have the time to put in the effort
that youre requesting. You must first decide very clearly how
you want to respond.
3. Preventive I Messages
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Activity:
Face game (body language, non-verbal communications)
For groups of four to ten people. Split larger groups into teams
with leaders who can facilitate the exercise.
Equipment required: paper and pens/pencils.
Time: 3 mins
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ACTIVITY
Identify your strengths and weakness which affects your SELF-
CONFIDENCE.
Strengths
Weakness
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S = Situation
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First, state what the situation is. Try to make this no longer than one
sentence. If you are having trouble, ask yourself, Where? Who? and,
When?
Example: On Tuesday, I was in a directors meeting at the main plant.
T = Task
Next, briefly state what your task was. Again, this should be no longer than
one sentence. Use the question, What? to frame your sentence, and add
the Why? if appropriate.
Example: I was asked to present last years sales figures to the group.
A = Action
Now, state what you did to resolve the problem in one sentence. Use the
question, How? to frame this part of the statement.
Example: I pulled out my laptop, fired up PowerPoint, and presented my
slide show.
R = Result
Last, state what the result was. Include figures to quantify the result if
possible.
Example: Everyone was wowed by my prep work, and by our great figures!
Summary
Lets look at a complete example using STAR. Lets say youre out with
friends on the weekend. Someone asks you what the highlight of your week
at work was. As it happens, you had a great week, and there is a lot to talk
about. You use STAR to focus your answer so you dont bore your friends, and
so that you send a clear message.
You respond: On Tuesday, I was in a directors meeting at the main plant. I
was asked to present last years sales figures to the group. I pulled out my
laptop, fired up PowerPoint, and presented my slide show. Everyone was
wowed by my prep work, and by our great figures!
This format can be compressed for quick conversations, or expanded for
lengthy presentations. We encourage you to try framing statements with
STAR, and see how much more confident you feel when communicating.
Coping Techniques
Coping refers to the thoughts and actions we use to deal with a threatening
situation. An self-confident person uses a variety of coping techniques to
deal with the challenges of interpersonal communication.
Building Rapport
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Learn to say No, Say what you mean and mean what you say:
Often we say yes because of the fear of authority or the fear of hurting
someones feelings or worries that we will let someone down. But every time
you say a yes that you dont mean, youll end up doing a half-hearted job.
And then you are unhappy that you said what you didnt want to say, and
you are unhappy that you did such a lousy job of what you said you would
do.
Break out of that habit. Instead, just say what you mean and mean what you
say. You dont have to be rude about it, just be firm and decisive. Developing
the ability to speak your mind in a kind but firm manner, and to really deliver
on your promises, will go a long way in building lasting self-Confidence
Take pride in yourself:
Not only should you feel proud of your talents or your skills, but you should
also think about the things that make your personality great. It can be your
sense of humor, your sense of compassion, your listening skills, or your
ability to cope under stress. You may not think that there's anything about
your personality worth admiring, but if you dig deep, you'll realize that you
have plenty of admirable qualities. Focus on them by writing them down.
Look in the mirror and smile:
Studies surrounding what's called the "facial feedback theory" suggest that
the expressions on your face can actually encourage your brain to register or
intensify certain emotions. So by looking in the mirror and smiling every day,
you might feel happier with yourself and more confident in the long run. This
will also help you feel happier about your appearance, and to accept the way
you look.
Other people will likely respond to you well when you smile at them, so in
addition to making you feel happier, you may get a boost in confidence due
to the feedback you get from other people as well.
Be comfortable with fear:
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You may think that people who are self-confident are never fearful. This
simply is not true; its just that self-confident people do not allow the fear
they feel to stop them from acting.
When you do feel fear, acknowledge the feeling, and then ask yourself
whether you want that fear to stand in the way of your goal. As you become
more confident, you will begin to feel less paralyzed by fear.
Accept compliments gracefully:
Many people with low self-esteem have difficulty taking compliments; they
assume that the person complimenting them is either mistaken or lying. If
you find yourself responding to a compliment by rolling your eyes, saying,
"Yeah, right," or shrugging it off, you should reframe your response to
compliments.
Take it to heart and respond positively. (Saying thank you and smiling
works well). Let the person giving the compliment know that you really
appreciate it, and work to reach the point where you are able to truly accept
the compliment at heart.
You can add the compliment to your list of positive attributes about yourself
and use it to bolster your self-confidence.
Removing virtually all positive attributes about the person. (He was my
worst hiring mistake)
Defaming him or her (We build consensus with others against the person)
Anger also plays a big part; feeling angry, we instinctively use anger to try to
manage the situation.
To break the cycle of negativity, take time to answer the following questions:
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2. What is the most positive interpretation an outside witness would make? The
most negative?
3. What will you gain by interpreting the difficult persons actions or words in as
positive a light as possible?
4. What would you do or say when you respond to the difficult person if you
viewed his or her actions in a positive light? What is stopping you from
responding this way?
Key tactics
These strategies will help you gather facts and to deal with the person or the
situation.
ACTIVE LISTENING
The first tactic, and possibly the most important, is to listen empathetically, that is,
listening while trying to be sensitive to the various components and levels of the
message. In addition, try to listen for the following information:
THE LENGTH. What can the size of the message tell me about
the importance of the message to the person?