Wedding values

The Wedding Day - A Day of Commitment for life time, a bridge to provide
the bride and groom an opportunity to make promises to each other.
A ceremony which make the Boy A MAN to his Wife & A Girl into A WOMAN
for her Husband to fulfill those promises form the basis of their marriage,
therefore a proper care should be taken in being firm that- the promises, if
kept, will make their marriage fulfilling and secure, this then gives an official
right to them being the husband and wife.

The entire wedding ceremony emphasizes and clarifies those promises to the
Guests, Friends and Family present there.
The wedding ceremony should focus wedding values & attention on what the
bride and groom will be promising to each other. Also it should be a guide for
guests who may have forgotten their own pledges. Many who attend
weddings sermons should find recommitting themselves to each other when
the purpose of the ceremony at Pheras or at the time of Nikha Khutba or at
the time of wedding vows it is made clear.

In the words of Mr. Kashif Husain MD IMPRESSIONS WEDDING FOR Wedding

values
It is a blessed contract between a man and a woman, in which each
becomes permitted to the other, and they begin the long journey of life in
a spirit of love, cooperation, harmony and tolerance, where each feels at
ease with the other, and finds tranquility, contentment and comfort in the
company of the other

The relationship between spouses, which brings love, harmony, trust and
compassion, in the most moving and eloquent terms:- is the strongest of
bonds, in which God unites the two, who come together on the basis of love,
understanding, co-operation and mutual advice, and establish a family in
which children will live and grow up, and they will develop the good
character and behavior to become a strongest component of a society when
its members are productive and constructive, helping and encouraging one
another to be good and righteous, and competing with one another in good
works.

Traditional wedding promises emphasize three core elements

of marriage:
1st, A marriage is permanent relationship for lifelong
Encouraging spouses to write their promises, and increase in thought
that they are in this relationship for lifetime.
2nd , It is sexually exclusive for each other are faithful & True
They will guard their modesty & outside threats, making sure that they
will never have an illegal romantic relationship with anyone else. And
they will care for each other far more than they will be concerned for
anyone else & be first in each other's lives.
3rd , It is a relationship of extraordinary care, love, comfort, honor,
cooperation, harmony and tolerance.
Extraordinary Love & Care to make each other happy by meeting each
other's most important emotional needs, especially the needs of
affection, intimate conversation, sexual fulfillment, and recreational
companionship, also it means that they will avoid making each other
unhappy and they will take the necessary time to be sure that those
needs are met, regardless of how busy they become. They won't be
demanding, disrespectful, angry, or dishonest. They will consider each
other's feelings and interests before making decisions. They will
protect each other from their selfish instincts.

We all know in church weddings a priest asks the bride & the groom: - Will
they live together in the covenant of marriage? And will they love each other,
comfort, honor each other and keep in joy and in sorrow, in plenty and in
want, in sickness and in health, and they should be faithful to each other so
long as they both live.

Once a couple has accepted each other as a marriage partner, when a Nikha
Nama is singed as an official traditional marriage contract the marriage is
sealed, and the gathered congregation may bless them; they sing the oath: Bride:

I, offer you myself in marriage & in accordance with the

instructions of the Holy Quran and the Holy Prophet (peace and
blessing be upon Him).
I pledge, in honesty and with sincerity, to be for you an obedient
and faithful wife.

Groom:

I pledge, in honesty and sincerity, to be for you a faithful and

helpful husband.

These and similar vows emphasize in The Seven Vows of Hindu tradition
Saath pheras have proven to be very valuable over the centuries.
The Seven Vows:
Groom:

You will offer me food and be helpful in every way. I will cherish
you and provide welfare and happiness for you and our children.
Bride:
I am responsible for the home and all household
responsibilities.
Groom:
Bride:

Together we will protect our house and children.

I will be by your side as your courage and strength. I will rejoice
in your happiness. In return, you will love me as you soul mate.

Groom:

May we grow wealthy and prosperous and strive for the

education of our children, may our children live long.
I will love you solely for the rest of my life, as you are my
husband. Every other man in my life will be secondary. I vow to
remain chaste.

Bride:

Groom:
Bride:
Groom:

You have brought sacredness into my life, and have completed

me. May we be blessed with noble and obedient children.
I will shower you with joy, from head to toe. I will strive to please
you in every way I can.

Bride:

You are my best friend, and staunchest well-wisher. You have

come into my life, enriching it. God bless you.
I promise to love and cherish you for as long as I live. Your
happiness is my happiness, and your sorrow is my sorrow. I will
trust and honor you, and will strive to fulfill all your wishes.

Groom:
Bride:

May you be filled with joy and peace.

I will always be by your side.

Groom:
Bride:

We are now husband and wife, and are one. You are mine and I
am yours for eternity.
As God is witness, I am now your wife. We will love, honor and
cherish each other forever.

We have also experienced something similar in a Sikh wedding (Anand Karaj)

counsels the couple with the verse "Dhan pir eh na aakhee-an behan ek-thae
hoe||: - Wife and husband are not called so simply because they come and
sit together as one.
They are advised that marriage is not merely a social and civil contract, but a
spiritual process uniting two souls so that they become one inseparable
entity. The couple is reminded that the spiritual nature of family harmony is
given emphasis by the example of the Sikh gurus, who themselves entered
matrimony and had children.
The husband is to love and respect his wife, encourage her with kind
consideration, recognize her individuality, regard her as his equal, offering
guidance and support.
The wife also show her love and respect with loyalty, support her husband's
objectives willingly, harmonize with him, and share in happiness and sorrow,
prosperity or adversity.
The couple is to ally themselves with each other in an endeavor to achieve a
harmonious union, intellectually, emotionally, physically, materially and
spiritually.
The Bride and groom affirm the acceptance of their marital obligations, and
bride sits to the left of the groom directly in front of the Guru Granth.

As we all know wedding is a religious & social affair so it also has values
added to make it more comprehensive, a bond which remains there for a
lifetime complementing each other in all phases of the time span..
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