How To Be Like Hank Moody from

Californication

How To Be Like Hank Moody from

Californication (w/ Video Analysis)

When I was watching Californication, I realized Hank exhibits most of the same habits that
I do when chatting with women. So I decided to write down the similarities.
1. Facial Expressions Calm and Composed
This is what I endearingly refer to clients as Wolf Eyes. Your base facial expression should
be focused, intense, yet calm.

2. Gentleman to women
Hank is never rude or disrespectful to women. He hardly ever busts on them. If he teases
them, it will be a positive tease. Something that shines a light on their strengths rather than
their weaknesses. Men, take note: When first meeting a woman, teasing her for her
weaknesses and vulnerabilities is merely a childish way for you to put her down so you
might appear better than her. This is an insecurity and most women spot this from a mile
away.

3. Always calm in every situation Makes light of everything (as long as its not too
serious) Always having fun
This is his way of staying present in the moment. Hank is a pro at staying in a good mood
despite messy situations. He will turn any normal situation into something fun.
4. Openly sexual when warranted
A real man does not hide his sexual attraction for the unique aspects of a woman. At the
same time, he only expresses this interest after he is genuinely interested in who she is. He
doesnt just sleaze it to any woman. Most men either show no sexual attraction at all, or are
a complete sleaze ball about it. Hank Moody does neither. He shows his sexual attraction,
but when his real interest warrants it.
7. Jokes deadpan or slight smile
A good comedian knows that telling jokes is about delivery. When Hank is being silly, he
usually keeps his face relaxed or adds a slight devilish grin, but hardly ever gets emphatic
with his jokes. I refer to this as Wolf Grin. Dont overdo your humor, or it will look as if
you are trying to hard

8. Never needing from anyone.

In other words, hes never trying to gain validation, reward, compliments, or recognition
from people. Hes completely satisfied sourcing his happiness from having fun with his
environment. He knows that validation is an empty, fleeting conquest. But having fun with
whatever situation you are in provides an endless well of happiness.
9. Just enjoying where he is.
Any situation Hank is in is the most relaxed, fun situation he could ever be in. This is full
presence to the moment. Unless hes having an episode of crappy times, Hank never is
looking to get to the next moment in his life. Hes always relishing whats going on right
now. This is huge. People notice if you are totally immersed and engaged in your
environment, or if you have one foot out the door, or in your mind.
10. Amuses himself, says taboo stuff.
The mark of a confident man is one who doesnt cater to social norms. Hank says whats on
his mind, hes not manipulating his words so that others will accept him. He doesnt care
about being accepted. He cares about having fun and amusing himself in whatever situation
hes in.
11. Straightforward, not afraid of confrontation or awkward moments.
Again, he says how he feels, this time in the context of confrontation with other men. If a
guy is being a douche, or saying something idiotic, Hank isnt afraid to point it out.

12. Silly, but never out of control. Vibe is always calm and relaxed.
Hank is a pro at mixing a relaxed vibe with a silly vibe. Its remarkable how hes able to be
expressive and animated, but at the same time not to a point where it is over the top. Jim
Carrey goes over the top, and it may be funny, but not attractive. On the other side of the
coin, some men are too stoic. They have no silliness to them. Hank rides the wave between
chilled out and totally silly.
13. Never putting on a show or trying to impress. No storytelling much,
Whereas most men say things to women to try to get women liking them, Hank says things
to women because he loves seeing women smile. He enjoys making them happy. Hank
doesnt need to go into long stories, and if you notice, he hardly ever does.
Ill add two more to the list
14. Fully engaged. A good listener.
When a woman speaks to Hank, Hank listens. He may not be the best listener, but he is
probably one of the best engagers. An engager is a person who is fully present with a
person while interacting with her. Hank is never in his head, nervously trying to decide
what to say next to a woman. Instead, he spends his time in the moment, not worrying
whether what he is doing or saying is acceptable or valuable. He just lives merely as a
vehicle for enjoyment of whats happening right now.
15. Making sure women are feeling at ease
Same Mrs. Patterson from before. This time, check out Mrs. P communicates her
insecurities to Hank. Instead of Hank seeing this as an opportunity to tease her, he instead
makes her feel comfortable with her vulnerabilities, enabling her to be more herself around
Hank.

How To Be Like Hank Moody from

Californication (w/ Video Analysis)
anthony 6 Comments

When I was watching Californication, I realized Hank exhibits most of the same habits that
I do when chatting with women. So I decided to write down the similarities.
1. Facial Expressions Calm and Composed
This is what I endearingly refer to clients as Wolf Eyes. Your base facial expression should
be focused, intense, yet calm.

2. Gentleman to women
Hank is never rude or disrespectful to women. He hardly ever busts on them. If he teases
them, it will be a positive tease. Something that shines a light on their strengths rather than

their weaknesses. Men, take note: When first meeting a woman, teasing her for her
weaknesses and vulnerabilities is merely a childish way for you to put her down so you
might appear better than her. This is an insecurity and most women spot this from a mile
away.
He cares about them. He doesnt fuck them over or dump them on the side of the road.
3. Always calm in every situation Makes light of everything (as long as its not too
serious) Always having fun
This is his way of staying present in the moment. Hank is a pro at staying in a good mood
despite messy situations. He will turn any normal situation into something fun.
4. Openly sexual when warranted
A real man does not hide his sexual attraction for the unique aspects of a woman. At the
same time, he only expresses this interest after he is genuinely interested in who she is. He
doesnt just sleaze it to any woman. Most men either show no sexual attraction at all, or are
a complete sleaze ball about it. Hank Moody does neither. He shows his sexual attraction,
but when his real interest warrants it.
5. Loves women. Doesnt use them. Enjoys them always.
Instead of me explaining this one, Ill let a female explain Hank Moodys love for females:

AndieZhang, May 06, 2010

http://www.tv.com/shows/californication/verities-and-balderdash/

So why do women find Hank so irresistible? Fortune and fame? Compared to the rest of the
habitants of LA, his little pile of gold and his dirty Porsche can hardly count for much, not
even if you throw in his ruggedly handsome looks and his writers charm. Heres what
made me realize why Hank will eternally be irresistible to women:
Its because Hank loves women, hes not out to conquer territory or increase his score, he
simply loves women in a more general sense. Thats why he gave those compliments to Jill.
He didnt need to get laid, [] he only wanted Jill to understand that she is a wonderful,
attractive woman. This is almost the kinda advice youd expect from Sex and the City!
Hank is a woman-lover, not a womanizer. He may express it in unorthodox ways, such as
being extremely promiscuous, but hes never done anything bad to a woman[], while hes
pulled plenty of wicked stunts to all the other men on the show. Usually he just acts his
normal woman-loving but **** self, and the women come flocking to him. Why? Because
we women have a radar for men who dont only want sex, but who care about us and who
respect us. Hank is the most obvious specimen of such a kind. Exaggerated of course
because were on TV, but this is the modern day Casanova, the type of men that all women
love to hate but cannot bear to.

Its my purgatory, really dinner, drinks, whatever. Never really all that interested, but I
find myself telling her how beautiful she is anyway. Because its true all women are in
one way or another. You know, theres always something about every damn one of you
theres a smile, a curve, a secret. You ladies really are the most amazing creatures. My lifes
work. But then theres the morning after, the hangover and the realization that Im not quite
as available as I thought I was the night before. And shes gone, and Im haunted by yet
another road not taken.
6. Sticks up for them
7. Jokes deadpan or slight smile
A good comedian knows that telling jokes is about delivery. When Hank is being silly, he
usually keeps his face relaxed or adds a slight devilish grin, but hardly ever gets emphatic
with his jokes. I refer to this as Wolf Grin. Dont overdo your humor, or it will look as if
you are trying to hard. Watch the master below
8. Never needing from anyone.
In other words, hes never trying to gain validation, reward, compliments, or recognition
from people. Hes completely satisfied sourcing his happiness from having fun with his
environment. He knows that validation is an empty, fleeting conquest. But having fun with
whatever situation you are in provides an endless well of happiness.
9. Just enjoying where he is.
Any situation Hank is in is the most relaxed, fun situation he could ever be in. This is full
presence to the moment. Unless hes having an episode of crappy times, Hank never is
looking to get to the next moment in his life. Hes always relishing whats going on right
now. This is huge. People notice if you are totally immersed and engaged in your
environment, or if you have one foot out the door, or in your mind.
10. Amuses himself, says taboo stuff.
The mark of a confident man is one who doesnt cater to social norms. Hank says whats on
his mind, hes not manipulating his words so that others will accept him. He doesnt care
about being accepted. He cares about having fun and amusing himself in whatever situation
hes in.
11. Straightforward, not afraid of confrontation or awkward moments.
Again, he says how he feels, this time in the context of confrontation with other men. If a
guy is being a douche, or saying something idiotic, Hank isnt afraid to point it out.
12. Silly, but never out of control. Vibe is always calm and relaxed.
Hank is a pro at mixing a relaxed vibe with a silly vibe. Its remarkable how hes able to be
expressive and animated, but at the same time not to a point where it is over the top. Jim
Carrey goes over the top, and it may be funny, but not attractive. On the other side of the
coin, some men are too stoic. They have no silliness to them. Hank rides the wave between
chilled out and totally silly.

13. Never putting on a show or trying to impress. No storytelling much,

Whereas most men say things to women to try to get women liking them, Hank says things
to women because he loves seeing women smile. He enjoys making them happy. Hank
doesnt need to go into long stories, and if you notice, he hardly ever does.
Ill add two more to the list
14. Fully engaged. A good listener.
When a woman speaks to Hank, Hank listens. He may not be the best listener, but he is
probably one of the best engagers. An engager is a person who is fully present with a
person while interacting with her. Hank is never in his head, nervously trying to decide
what to say next to a woman. Instead, he spends his time in the moment, not worrying
whether what he is doing or saying is acceptable or valuable. He just lives merely as a
vehicle for enjoyment of whats happening right now.
15. Making sure women are feeling at ease
Same Mrs. Patterson from before. This time, check out Mrs. P communicates her
insecurities to Hank. Instead of Hank seeing this as an opportunity to tease her, he instead
makes her feel comfortable with her vulnerabilities, enabling her to be more herself around
Hank.

A parent can tell you that being in love means not needing anything in return from the other
party. Parents are in love with their children. They do everything for them, and they dont
need anything in return, because just seeing their children happy makes them happy.
This should be similar to a mans love for women. Their femininity, their beauty, their
confidence in their weaknesses. So beautiful. They are Gods gift to men. A real man
doesnt need a shred of validation from them. Not one compliment, not one kiss. That is
only for the insecure. Real men are fully in love with the female gender. They are
gentlemen towards all women. They compliment them, they show their attraction for them,
are never rude or negative towards them, and show that they expect greatness from them,
while simultaneously appreciating them just for being who they are. Show that you expect
greatness from a woman because being too quickly impressed can be insulting to her.
Heres why:
a. Showing you are impressed and attracted too quickly shows you dont think she is
capable of showing you a real, genuine, valuable side.
b. You are communicating that you want her to like you based on how impressed you are.
I know, I know, there is a confusing line between my readiness to compliment women and
my telling you not to show how impressed you are so quickly by them. The difference is
not with meits with her. She feels the difference. She feels the difference between when I
am complimenting her because Im just so damn fully appreciative of her (while not asking
anything from my compliments), and a needy guys supplication through being too quickly
impressed by who she is.

Let me put it this way. I compliment her through my love for the fact that she is a woman,
and as a man, it is my natural loving and sexual attraction for women as well as my duty to
make sure they are feeling good when I am around. However, I never need her to
validate me, I dont need her to like me, and I dont need her to have sex me. Sex should
merely be an expression of the escalated genuine interest you have for each others unique
selves. Not a means to making yourself feel validated as a man. The difference between
needing sex and being sexually attracted is huge. They are on opposite sides of the
spectrum. One side is a man who is appreciation and purposeful, and the other side is a man
who is insecure, needy, and selfish.
This concept of complete appreciation is what drives my happiness. When I am focusing on
this all of the time, I have no time for insecurities to creep in. What are insecurities? One of
them is the need for women to like me and validate me. When I am focused on that
insecurity, I can not properly appreciate women, which leads me to not being able to
naturally engage with them, which leads them to thinking that I am some creepy guy.
Here is the big rule. We must be so incredibly present and having fun in the moment, so
appreciative of all of the women our lives, that we will sacrifice the chance of attracting
women while interacting with them. I have to be so immersed in my environment and
having fun with them that I will give chance to women not liking me in that state of
appreciation. This is the most important part of attraction.
Here is the magical paradox: We must be having fun because of the women in front of us,
but also at the sacrifice of getting her as well. She has to know that I am there to fully have
fun with her, but have absolutely no need to hook up with her, get her number, get her
liking me in any way. That is full-on appreciation.
Many guys think that showing such engagement with women communicates neediness. No.
Neediness communicates neediness. Desperation communicates neediness. Full
engagement communicates the absence of neediness, because you are focused on
appreciation and enjoyment and fun, at the complete sacrifice of the girl wanting you. The
sacrifice part is huge. She has to see that you are completely invested in her while not
needing her to like you back. She craves that in a man.
Why?
So many men come up to women being a con-artist. They act like they are there for fun and
love, but hiding underneath he is secretly trying to gain validation and sex based off of his
neediness (and not his attraction for her unique personality and aesthetics).
For now on, I want you to only go into social situations interacting with women because
you love them, and not trying to get them to love you. Be the guy that goes in there with
100% fun because of women. The word because is important. Often, guys will take this
fun concept and at the sacrifice of her liking you concept and will interact with women,
and have fun despite them being there. They will try to play hard to get by saying funny
things, teasing them, acting like they are having fun without the womans input. This is bad.
Girls will see you as a narcissist if you approach it like this. The point is your fun is

happening because of all that life has offered you. Women are part of this. If there is a
woman in front of you, you are happy and having fun because of her as your gift in life.
She must know that your fun is because of her, as well as with her. It must never be in
spite of her.
Are you thinking, But if we are having fun with women at the sacrifice of us possibly
getting with her, how do I end up actually getting with her? Thats the perfect next
question. And if you make friends with me, Ill explain to you how to put on the moves
while keeping this mindset I explained in this post.