16 Generally Accepted But Disastrous Dating Prinicples

8-Part Mini-Course:
16 GENERALLY ACCEPTED BUT

DISASTROUS DATING PRINCIPLES
Scot McKay
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LESSON ONE
WHERE TO MEET, WHERE TO DATE
1) Bars and clubs is where you meet people.
Sure, you automatically associate bars and clubs with singles and the
pickup scene. And granted, people do tend to hook up there.
But why does so much dating advice focus on how to score in those
scenarios? At best you are in a dimly lit place that is usually too loud for real
conversation. Whats more (or less, depending on your perspective) is that
everyone there is in a very different frame of mind than they are elsewhere.
The women are dressed up and very wary of being hit on. The guys?
Weve been taught we need to peacock and tune up our outer game in
order to stand out and impress the ladies.
So boy meets girl. They exchange digits.
Then what?
Assuming they meet each other again, will they be able to recognize each
other, let alone get along? The challenge is absolutely a real one. And
above and beyond all of that, are clubbers the ones who are meeting the
very sharpest men and women out there?
People who are naturally attractive can meet people in any situation,
anywhere. This is within reason, of course, although Ive known people to flirt
with one another in emergency rooms (raises hand) and even funerals.
Its all about learning to talk to strangers in a positive, winsome
mannerwhether they are attractive MOTOS (Members Of The Opposite
Sex) or not.
Having gained from that experience, you gain a massive
advantage when meeting those you do have a potential romantic interest in.
Thats because you no longer are playing a game of pickup. Instead, you
are simply deserving what you wantwhich we talk a lot about around here.
2) Dinner and a movie is a great first date
Did you know that dating is actually a MODERN INVENTION? Thats right,
even less than 200 years ago the world was a lot smaller and marriage came

a lot sooner. So given that dating itself can be argued to be an unnatural

phenomenon, you have to stop and wonder who decided dinner and a
movie was a great first date idea.
Yeah, we all love to eat and be entertained. But going to a fancy restaurant
because Taco Bell wont cut it, agreedputs two people in an awkward
position of being on their best behavior and generally faking it. The woman
may feel that the guy is trying to buy her approval, which actually is a turn off
to her. Its a rare man who can convey a natural feel to a dinner date. His
best chance at pulling that off is if he would be eating there anyway and/or is
such a talented conversationalist that he puts her at ease despite the
potential pressure of needing to impress one another.
And the movie afterward? Abrupt cessation of conversation for two full hours,
combined with an awkward (theres that word again) latent question mark as
to whether to hold hands, put ones arm around the other and/or just hamfist
the kiss into happening. Enough said.
The best first dates (and second dates also, Id offer) involve low-key, highlyinteractive and above all CASUAL activities. Maybe the Starbucks date is a
clich, but it tends to work. Invite him or her to do something with you that
you would be doing anyway, and thereby introduce your new acquaintance to
your realitywhich is am much more interesting place every time than a dark
movie theater (or club)and usually less expensive. Nice.

LESSON TWO
ARBITRARY TIMELINES
1) Dont call for 3-7 days after meeting someone
One of the most tired mantras in the dating advice universe is, of course,
wait X days before calling the person. Ive actually seen this number
protracted out to ten days, as recommended by certain dating experts.
The rationale here, of course, is that whether you are a man or a woman you
must give the appearance that you arent clingy or desperate. Rather, you
are a man or woman with options and you dont need the approval of the
person at the other end of the telephone number you received.
As youve already guessed, I personally believe this is a preposterous rule
built upon a wholly artificial premise. Would it shock you if I were audacious
enough to purport that you could actually call someone ten minutes after
getting the number?
Of course you canbut ONLY if you really, truly ARENT clingy or
desperate. The kicker here is this: If you are in danger of letting a needy,
approval seeking streak out of the bag then yesagreedyou dont want to
come off as too eager. But the inherent flaw in that level of advice is that is
assumes thats a possibility.
Personally, I was on the phone with my current spouse TWENTY MINUTES
after our first date finished. Neither one of us read that as desperation.
Why not? Because we both understood the other as having REAL OPTIONS
in the dating world, and as such the message that we both actually wanted to
CHOOSE the other was a powerful and positive one.
If you really ARENT desperate, you can use the phone at will rather than
being a slave to some arbitrary timeline. If you ARE desperate? Welleven
the timeline might not be enough to camouflage your real intentions and
emotions.
Need more proof? Kim Cattrall (yes, the famous one) is married to a man
who met her one evening, asked her to dinner then and thereand stayed
out with her until dawn.and who THEN called her two hours later for
breakfast.
Chooser or Chaser? You make the callliterally.

2) Sex happens after the third date, or there shouldnt be a fourth date.
Ill give you a hint (and this goes for both genders): If sexual activity is your
cornerstone motivation in the dating world, dont expect much of it. This goes
double if you are actually bent on shoehorning every man or woman into this
rule. In other words, expect an expiration date on the vast majority of your
dates of (you guessed it)three dates.
Why?
First of all, its unreasonable to think that everyone is wired the same way. All
men arent the same, and neither are all women. (That could have been
#17, right?) Moral standards, work stress, previous experience, sensitivity to
social stigma (and lets not rule out STD outbreaks) can all contribute to a
wide delta in terms of when the first sex happens. I mean, logically speaking,
if you are particularly effective at creating the type of attraction that leads to
wild abandon you could very well be protracting things by adhering to this
rule, huh? Absolutely.
Moreover, factors like how much time spent on the telephone between dates
(or before meeting for the first), the span of time between dates, and the
venue the dates take place in all matter here also.
Ironically, those who genuinely appreciate the opposite gender rather than
focusing on sex tend to have sex sooner than three datesoften. If your
style is to wait longer, thats not something that should be subject to a crazy
standard like the 3 date rule. And if you are dating someone who takes
longer, theres no sense in pressuring themand it isnt a you problem
either.

LESSON THREE
MARRIAGE PLANS
1) Men cant commit, and women all want to get married immediately
If this ever was true--and most statements featuring the word all are not
then the post Sex And The City world is a brave new one. Freeing
themselves of stigma associated with sexual behavior, many women are
more aggressive sexually than ever before, in some cases exhibiting
stereotypically MALE sex-focused behavior. This, of course, makes that
stereotype not necessarily male then, right?
On the flip side, every indicator I get as a professional dating coach is that
more often than not, a man would like to have one great woman in his life.
Remember, guys are typically creatures of habitthey like having things a
certain way. As long as most guys can get that set up RIGHT, theyre cool
with it. Still think Im kidding? Well-known Seduction Community figure Cliff
Lee from CliffsList.com did an informal poll of guys who attended his 2006
conference for PUAs and ladies men. It was estimated that 95% of the men
in the audience raised their hand when asked if theyd rather have one great
woman vs. a different one every night.
So what does all this mean?
It means that men and women are more alike than we think. Andthat each
of us is an individual with our own wants and needs in this area. Ladies, if
you are finding that men wont commit, the next question is whether YOU
are committable or not. Guys if women want to marry you all the time,
congratsyou are clearly a great catch. ANDthe opposite is true in both
cases. Just ask any of several women I know who routinely have guys
theyve been on two or three dates showing up to their door with diamond
rings. No kidding.
2) If youre exclusive, you should have a ring in six monthsor else
To be completely forthright, there are as many people who preach the exact
opposite sentiment also: Wait at least a year to get married. Toss in You
should be engaged for at least a year for good measure.

Either way, what you have here is another gen-you-wine arbitrary timeline at
work, huh?
I chose the headline as by far the worst piece of generally-accepted dating
advice of the lot simply because Im personally more concerned about rushing
something like marriage than prolonging the final decision to jump in.
No matter what, slapping a deadline on anything related to marriage is utterly
groundless.
For starters, how often does the couple see each other? My spouse and I
were virtually inseparable from day one (well..day three, actually.) Having
spent LARGE blocks of time together we pretty much knew it was game
over after a couple of weeks. Roll into that the simple fact that we had both
dated enough people to recognize who we were looking for and you can
figure out why we were indeed married seven months after meeting. Actually,
that felt like we were seriously prolonging things.
But what if its a long-distance relationship where the couple sees each other
once a month? Yeah, wellthat will probably require more time. I personally
heard of one intercontinental couple who dated two years before getting
married, during which time they had actually seen each otherare you ready
for this?three times.
All of these issues are actually obviated by a more foundational question:
Does exclusivity necessarily mean youre headed for marriage anyway?
Some automatically assume it does. Others dont. Some people want steady
companionship, but not marriage. Others seem to want to get on with it
ASAP. Which type are you? Yeah..uhIts a good idea to figure out which
type your boyfriend or girlfriend is also.
And whatever you do, dont capitulate to exclusivity AT ALL unless its your
choice to do so. When someone is cajoling you into exclusivity, you can
guarantee you are being led down the path of dealing with decisions like what
were talking about here sooner than you think. I guarantee it.

LESSON FOUR
WHO YOU ARE VS. WHAT OTHERS THINK
1) Women only want men with lots of money and a nice car
This territory, I find, is almost exclusively that of the guy who is frustrated by a
lack of success with women. Since most of us dont indeed have lots of
money OR a nice car, thats a convenient excuse.
After all, having a nice car and lots of $$$ always works for guys on TV.
Well, here it is. Failure is always looking for an excuse. After all, in the
poverty mindset bad stuff always has to be someone or something elses
fault in order for the afflicted person to be able to sleep at night.
Chalk it up to the game, as the saying goes. Well, if you do that too much
you run out of chalk and are left with noting more than DUST.
The truth is that guys all over the fruited plain are attracting great women
WITHOUT cars or big bucks. In fact, my email box is jam-packed with emails
from men who are completely nonplussed by the utterly vexing fact that they
HAVE fluent finances, wear a Breitling watch and Italian shoes, own a killer
ski boat and drive a German sports sedanand have ZERO women to help
them enjoy it.
Face itgreat women are no more impressed by these material things than
men are by designer dresses and $400 pair of shoes.
At best, we are busy trying to impress our OWN gender with this stuff, not the
opposite one. At worst? Wellat worst, we look shallow and materialistic.
Great men AND great women can BOTH see through that sort of thing. And
what if a woman DOES go for a guy only because he has money? Well, she
shouldnt be surprised if the guy is going after her only for the sex. They
deserve each other.
2) You shouldnt care what others think
This is one you tend to hear literally ALL THE TIME. I have a theory as to
why. Simply put, I think it is flat-out, straight-up the EASIEST phrase to let fall

out of ones mouth when pressed for dating advicebut none is coming to
mind.
What does this phrase mean? I mean really... the fact that Im the one writing
this course and Im asking YOU to explain it to me should speak volumes.
Seriously. We ALL care what others think by necessity, dont we? Its almost
a prerequisite for mere survival. If we didnt, at the very baseline none of us
would make friends very easily. People who espouse this philosophy firsthand (even in part) are generally among the loneliest (and crankiest) Ive ever
met. If you dont care what others think, you dont create attractionthats for
sure.
Perhaps the anonymous author of this disproportionately lame tenet was
attempting to get at a more tightly focused and decidedly more useful idea:
You shouldnt TRY TOO HARD to get someone to like you.
See the
difference? Yesactively seeking approval comes off as desperation, which
is certainly unattractive.
But its not like we dont care what others think. We most definitely should,
lest we get nowhere in life. The most useful attitude available here is to
actually ASSUME that others will accept us and afford us the rights and
privileges of any other human who respects the common social good. And if
you take that attitude, they will.
In the next lesson, well hit the ground running with the other most repeated
and USELESSdating principle ever. In fact, this next one may be the
MOST REPEATED and yet MOST DISASTROUS clich of them all!

LESSON FIVE
DO WHAT YOUVE ALWAYS DONE; GET WHAT YOUVE ALWAYS GOTTEN
1) Be yourself
Last time we talked about not caring what others think.
Yes, be yourself is that other catch all piece of dating advice that serves as
a favorite default among those who have no real idea HOW to advise
someone, but feel like they need to anyway.
The phrase itselfan enduring admission of complete, utter arrogance--does
two convenient things for the person who chooses to accept the brainwashing
necessary to believe it. First, it offers carte blanche permission to believe you
are perfectly attractive in every way to the person you most desireeven if all
evidence points to the contrary. Second, it affords you the excuse you need
to be absolutely lazy about improving yourself.
Do you see the subtle difference between those two ideas? The first basically
echoes the lame-o concept of Someone is going to love me exactly the way I
am. Perhapsbut is that someone the one you REALLY want? Moreover,
are you going to get the chance to CHOOSE that person, or are you
positioning yourself to SETTLE for whomever comes along?
The second conceptthe laziness excuseis even more disastrous (if not
downright DANGEROUS) because it takes all the urgency away from learning
to deserve what you want. It sucks all the potential for maximized
attractivenessand the wild dating success that accompanies itright down
the drain.
My personal belief is that an inability to address ones own shortcomings and
take the initiative for self-help is the single most TRAGIC flaw a person can
demonstrate. After all, if you have that one going on in your life you will be
stuck with EVERY OTHER FLAW for the rest of your life, wont you?
So sureif yourself is already wildly attractive to the opposite gender, be
it. After all, authenticity is indeed crucial to attraction. But if theres heavy
lifting to do, stop clinging to an excuse to resist necessary change.
Do you WANT the greatest person youve ever met? Are you sick of
settling? Then you must BECOME the kind of person the person of your

dreams is dreaming of. Laziness wont cut it. You must deserve what you
wantwhich serves as a nice segue to the following
2) When you stop looking/trying, thats when love will find you/fall in
your lap (aka Dont be too picky)
Dont kid yourself.
Youve gone to school for how many years? Youve spent how much time
practicing your favorite pastime until you developed mad skeelz? You go to
the gym how many times a week?
Thats rightyou work HARD to succeed in every area of your life. If you quit
trying at work, would a paycheck just fall in your lap?
It all seems rather ridiculous, doesnt it?
Thats because it is.
Sometimes I get emails from people who claim that they are really confident,
clean-cut, funny, charming, etc. but STILL keep ending up with the WRONG
people. Beyond the surface, the issue these folks have is almost always the
same one: they havent developed a sense of WHO THEY ARE LOOKING
FOR, let alone acquired the skill of RECOGNIZING the right people.
And without that dimension, you can be a great person and STILL not
deserve what you want. Deserving involves BEING a great person and
SELECTING a great partner. Those two ideas work in perfect concert.
And last I checked, selecting someone was the polar opposite of someone
falling in your lap.
So you have my no-holds-barred blessing in being as PICKY as you would
like. Yeah, life is short. Meet some more people, date more than one for the
RIGHT reasons and develop your skills. Deserve, and never settle.

LESSON SIX
DIVORCE AND SINGLE PARENTHOOD
1) Wait a year after a divorce before dating again
This particular admonition may be the one that I hear the LEAST argument
about from anyone. It really does seem like literally everyone thinks this is a
foregone conclusiona no-brainer if you will.
Well, I can agree its a no brainerliterally. Why? Because anyone with
even HALF A MIND can foresee the devastating effect such a stance can
have on setting oneself up for future success in relationships.
Dont get me wrong. I understand how the logic works surrounding this
outrageous recommendation. Seen as a major blow to ones life, it appears
fully logical that one would need to lay still, take a LOT of deep breaths and
spend all the time necessary to walk it offkind of like you would if you just
fell down a flight of stairs.
Except wait a minuteyou havent been hit by a bus here. EGO and your
FRAME OF MIND that have taken a hit. Yeah, maybe if you are honest there
may even be some EMOTIONS involved.
Famously, those who are tremendously successful in areas like business and
professional sports have often perfected the concept of visualizing the
positive. This means that they share the ability to create a vision in their
minds of succeeding rather than failing. They picture VICTORY rather than
FAILURE, and what do you know? Success happens.
The tragedy of divorce can leave one feeling rejected, angry, hopeless or
even completely defeated. What tends to happen if those emotions are given
a FULL YEAR left to their own devices? Do they HEAL THEMSELVES? Do
people really, truly GET OVER the bitterness by being alone? Can
surrounding oneself with friends, hobbies or even alcoholic beverages take
away the pain?
Of course not.
Nothing succeeds like success.
Nobody is saying that you should have a rebound relationship and get
remarried immediately. But getting out and meeting some members of the
opposite gender as soon as possible is an EXCELLENT idea. Keep it

casualsocializevisualize a positive result (I know its hard when your

brain plays tricks on you)and ENJOY the thrill of attraction again. Really.
A great way to do this, by the way is through ONLINE DATING. Want to get it
right the first time? Definitely email uswe can help you.
2) Avoid dating single moms
Im not completely sure where this comes from, exactly. Apparently, some
say that single moms are needy and/or looking for a man to be a father for
their kids. Others worry about a single mom being cavalier about pregnancy
and highly likely to be careless about birth control.
Absolutely none of these overreactions match my personal experience. And
believe meI dated SCORES of single moms.
The single moms I know are among the most independent women Ive ever
met. Moreover, many of their kids still have a father in the picture, thank you.
In fact, even if the latter isnt the case Id estimate that 90% of single moms
Ive known are EXTRA sensitive AGAINST trying to attract a father for their
kids.
Being a single mom is tough enough. Its time to drop the stereotypes that
keep us from dating themif we want to.
See, I fully understand why a guy with no kids would want to start a family
from the ground up. I get that. But then again, Ive also met a man with no
kids who married a woman with four childrenhappy to have a ready made
family in placediapers and sleepless nights already in the rear-view mirror.
And what of the guy who is a single dad himself? Its easy for him to actually
prefer single-momsthey get it.

LESSON SEVEN
THE FRIENDS THING
1) Friends first
This sounds perfectly reasonable, doesnt it? After all, its logical that it would
be a good idea to make friends with someone before moving into something
that is often described as more than friends.
The problem, however, is that attraction is almost never logical. If you meet
someone, youll soon realize you are either feeling it or you just arent.
And its no accident that Lets Just Be Friends is the most feared zone in
human history. Really. I think most guys would rather go on a Siberian
holiday (in January) than spend any time stranded there. The reason for this
is that when those dreaded words are uttered, it generally means there is no
romantic attraction WHATSOEVER happening over on your friends side.
Worse, its likely NEVER to happen. Once you are thought of as a platonic
friend, theres rarely any escape. Well, not unless the surrealistically rare
event occurs that logic overrides passion because you are good for the
other person. But in such an unfortunate case, expect strong feelings of
having settled sooner than laterby both people involved, believe it or not.
And if the romantic attraction was once there but has been lost somehow and
is no longer? Expect the friends talk.
So in a nutshell, the advice to be friends first is not designed for people who
are attracted to each other. Rather, it makes a darned good shield against
having to deal directly with people who come on too strong too soonwhich
is its real intent 9 out of 10 times. Believe it.
2) Being a lady/gentleman means giving lots of compliments and
avoiding ANYTHING that indicates sexual attraction
What happens to people (men OR women) who are too friendly too
soonespecially if they arent really so much so to everyone else? Youve
got ittheyre seen as major approval seekers. This is NEVER attractive as
we saw back in Lesson One.

One who bestows such a bevy of obsequious compliments towards the object
of his/her affection may assume he or she is getting somewhere.
Forgettaboutit.
Going overboard on giving compliments and being nice only serves to
indicate that you are either 1) desperate, and/or 2) hiding your true intentions.
Take the example of a man buying a woman a drink at a bar. Are women
really impressed by this? Has any woman ever been attracted to a man
specifically because he bought her a drink? Crazy thought isnt it? On the
other hand though, plenty of women have seen it as manipulative or creepy.
Somewhere along the line we have become convinced that men and women
should avoid showing any sexual attraction for each other AT ALL when first
meeting. Women may feel they would be too forward. Men feel theyd
scare women away or somethingafter all, to be sexually attracted to a
woman is potentially unwanted behavior, punishable by fine and/or
imprisonment.
So we go on playing charades with one another.
Here it ishiding your true attraction is NOT connected with being a
gentleman. And no, ladies arent neuter. Guys, if your date wants a kiss
but you are going to be a gentleman about it for now and not kiss her, your
strategy might just backfire. Failure to deploy is an attraction killer.
If you are attracted to someone, its OKAY. Dont hide your intentions. Just
be an authentic human being, albeit a respectful one.

LESSON EIGHT
NUMBERS
1) Dating (especially online dating) is a numbers game
All too often, youll hear the ever-popular admonition that dating is just a
numbers game. Who decided this was true? My guess is that it was the
same person who came up with such gems as rejection is your friend and/or
any of the iterations of dont be so picky.
I have to admit, if you are getting rejected a lot its nice to have a security
blanket to hold onto. As such I can resonate a bit with the concept of
rejection being ones friend if (and ONLY if) thats meant to apply to when
someone you were attempting to get to know seriously lacked personality
and/or character. In those cases I can see how that that person saved you
quite a bit of potential trouble in rejecting you.
But the big picture here is that consideration of dating as a numbers game
portends settling for less than you want (or deserve) as much as any other
potentially dangerous piece of advice weve covered in this mini-course.
If you just keep throwing the proverbial bowl of spaghetti up against the wall
to see what sticks, then youll likely be preparing yourself psychologically to
accept whichever person offers a positive response to your romantic
interesteven if that person is only marginally attractive to you.
From there, if you are like so many others who settle, youll start repeating
to yourself other disastrous (but, sadly, oft-advised) thoughts such as its
better to have any relationship than NO relationship or its just too hard to
meet peopleI cant start all over again.
I could easily have made this a nine-part series by adding those two, right?
From there, you end up with an exclusive relationship based on convenience
andfinallya spouse you never really chose. Soon your nose is pressed
against the glass staring at the greener grass outsideand both partners are
miserable as a result.
Horrified yet?
Instead of making dating a game of chance, heres a disarmingly basic and
sensible concept: Why not BECOME the kind of person who DESERVES the

highest quality person you can imagine? Sure, nobody can succeed at
attracting everyone, as evidenced by the fact that Emily cant comprehend
what women see in George Clooney OR Brad Pittgo figure. But being the
kind of person that the type of person YOU want will wantthats a safer bet
than the spaghetti-throwing lottery.
A final thought. Online dating is particularly susceptible to the numbers
game perception. Its way too easy to cut/paste the same email over and
over to scores of people hoping for responsesespecially when those
responses seem few and far between. Take it from the voice of experience:
Craft a brief but personalized email for each of the people online whom you
see as having real potential and youll be on your way to a far richer online
dating experience.
2) "Seeing more than one person at once is being a 'slut' or a 'player'"
Once again, heres a time-worn statement that is born of stereotype and
social stigma. At the same time, its potentially catastrophic to your
probability of ever deserving what you want.
Why?
The baseline assumption here is that if someone deviates from ever dating
more than one person at a time then that person is committing some sort of
moral foul. One common misconception is that he or she must be lying to
people, feigning exclusivity in order to get them to stick around. The other
misguided thought process is that if someone is dating more than one person,
then he or she must be having sex with all those people (!).
Perhaps youve noticed a distinct pattern over the course of this mini-course
about bad dating advice. Much of it assumes absolutesrequiring that the
nature of a circumstance be either black or white.
Naturally, when you are dealing with real human beings in the real world
each with a different personality and world view--almost nothing in the social
realm applies universally.
Men and women alike can most certainly can be perfectly honest with whom
they are dating about a preference to date more than one person at that point
and time.
And sexual activity is absolutely a peripheral conversation altogether. My
guess is that since dating as we know it is a relatively recent social
phenomenon, its all but impossible for some people to understand men and

women showing potential romantic interest in someone without there being a

physical relationship. Either that, or their own lack of depth on this factor gets
projected on othersbut isnt that how most ignorant stereotypes and ugly
rumors are perpetuated?
So why is it, then, that we should break free of stigma and stereotype and
date several people at the same time?
As always around here, this is about deserving what you want.
If you date one person for several months (or years) before breaking up, you
have spent that time learning from only one person what you actually want
and do not want from a long term relationship. So what next? Do you take
however much time to get over that one before finding another exclusive
relationship and seeing where it goes? Life is way too short to take that long
to figure out what you really want.
By dating several people at once, you can more quickly and efficiently learn
what you do and do not want from someone you are dating. Moreover, with
direct and constant interaction with several MOTOS (Members Of The
Opposite Sex) you can gain an accurate understanding of how effectively you
are moving towards deserving what you want. After all, you can more readily
see the patterns regarding the types of people you are attracting and how
much you are raising the quality of people you are seeing.
And as an added bonus, its a proven principle that people tend to buy on the
approval of others. When you are dating several people, you cause others to
be even more attracted to you. This escalates the quality factor among
people you are dating even more rapidly.
Emily and I both dated lots of people before we met each other. When we
finally did meet, something almost supernatural happened: we recognized
each other. All of the field testing paid off. When we ultimately decided to
be exclusive, we did so having chosen each other from many potential
options rather than out of desperation. No settlingonly the culmination of
deserving what we wanted.

EPILOGUE
I trust that this mini-course has enriched your thinking in ways you've never
thought possible. So how about it? Are you beginning to challenge all of the
"quick fixes" when it comes to your dating life?
If so, I personally invite you to discover how deserving what you want might
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