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In our look at just a few of the Old Testament couples, we have seen that many of
those early marriages were “arranged.” Wives were selected, dowry or labor were
exchanged. Similar practices continue in some cultures today.
While our cultural opportunities and practices concerning choice of spouse are in
many respects preferable to some others, we seem to have become too flippant,
too superficial about marriage, and do not regard it as God does.
This is why I have asked us to consider the idea of “Choosing” to love. Before we
jump in to a more detailed scripture study, l would like to make a few general
statements.
None of the following general statements or any of the discussion they cause are
meant to take away the importance of romance. It certainly has its place. I realize
there are different words used in the Bible to describe “love.”
Even among school-age children, one can observe the differences in “commitment”
between grade school and high school sweethearts. As we mature, the levels of
personal investment and expectation increase.
Our conduct in those growing relationships should never go beyond what God has
said is acceptable. Specifically, we must follow God’s commands regarding physical
intimacy, obedience to parents, etc. (Please grasp the importance of parents’
understanding involvement in children’s relationships at different stages of life.)
As the relationship grows, we start to place importance on more and more areas of
concern, to look for areas of difference and of agreement. This should help us
understand why above everything else, agreement about God and the importance
of our pleasing HIM, is essential! Amos 3:3
If you are married, what neighbor is closer to you than your spouse?
Jesus’ words about the extent of love for a neighbor should sound much like what
we have already seen in Paul’s letter to the Ephesians where he told husbands to
love our wives with an “____ __” love.
Is kindness a choice? (If you have ever told a child to “be kind,” how must you
answer this? Why?)
Is patience a choice? (If you have ever told someone to “be patient,” you must
answer this in the affirmative, mustn’t you?”
Read 1 Corinthians 13. From your preceding five answers, is love a choice?
In Hebrews 13:1 and 1 Peter 1:22, we are exhorted to practice ________________ love.
Read Ephesians 4:31 ff. What behaviors and characteristics SHOULD be a part of
our relationships, and what should not?
What do we do if we are in a bad marital circumstance? The fact is that there are
Christians who are in bad marital circumstances. Somewhere along the line, some
bad choices were made. Perhaps one paid too much attention to physical beauty or
financial standing or how well someone spoke and got along with people.
Tough pill to take, but sometimes there is outright enmity within the home. What is
the Christian to do?
What about the abused spouse and children? What do they do?