You are on page 1of 5

What is your concept of marriage?

Have you been married before?addAre you married now?


addWhat are your expectations of marriage?add
What are your goals in life? (long and short term)
addIdentify three things that you want to accomplish in the near future.add
Identify three things that you want to accomplish in the long term.add
Why have you chosen me as a potential spouse?add
What is the role of religion in your life now?add
Are you a spiritual person?add
What is your understanding of an Islamic marriage?
addWhat are you expecting of your spouse, religiously?add
What is your relationship between yourself and the Muslim community in your area?
add
Are you volunteering in any Islamic activities?addWhat can you offer your spouse,
spiritually?add
What is the role of the wife?add
What is your relationship with your family?add
What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?add
What do you expect your spouses relationship with your family to be?add
Is there anyone in your family living with you now?add
Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?add
If, for any reason, my relationship with your family turns sour, what should be done?
add
Who are your friends, how did you get to know them and why are they your friends?
add
What do you like most about your friends?add
What will your relationship with your friends be after marriage?add
Do you have friends of the opposite sex?add

What is the level of your relationship with your friends of the opposite sex?add
What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?add
What are the things that you do in your free time?add
Do you love to have guests in your home for entertainment?add
What are you expecting from your spouse when your friends come to the house?add
What is your opinion of speaking other languages in the home that I do not
understand? (with friends or family)add
Do you travel?add
How do you spend your vacations?add
How do you think your spouse should spend vacations?add
What do you read?addAfter marriage, do you think that you are one to express
romantic feelings verbally?add
After marriage, do you think that you want to express affection in public?add
How do you express your admiration for someone that you know now?add
How do you express your feelings to someone who has done a favour for you?add
Do you like to write your feelings?addIf you wrong someone, how do you apologise?
add
If someone has wronged you, how do you want them to apologise to you?add
How much time passes before you can forgive someone?add
How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?add
Do you use foul language at home? In public? With family?addD
o your friends use foul language?addDoes your family use foul language?add
How do you express anger?add
How do you expect your spouse to express anger?add
What do you do when you are angry?add
When do you think it is appropriate to initiate mediation in marriage?add
When there is a dispute in your marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the
conflict get resolved?add

Define mental, verbal, emotional and physical abuse.add


What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?add
Who would you call for assistance if you were being abused?add
Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?add
What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?add
How do you support your own health and nutrition?add
What is your definition of wealth?addHow do you spend money?add
How do you save money?add
How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?add
Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?
addDo you use credit cards?add
Do you support the idea of taking loans to buy a new home?add
What are you expecting from your spouse financially?add
What is your financial responsibility in the marriage?add
Do you support the idea of a working wife?add
How do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?add
Do you currently use a budget to manage your finances?add
Who are the people to whom you are financially responsible?add
Do you support the idea of utilising baby sitters and/or maids?add
Do you want to have children? If not, how come?add
sTo the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?add
Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?add
Do you believe in abortion?add
Do you have children now?addIf you have children, what is your relationship with
them now?add
If you have children, what is your relationship with their other parent?add

If you have children, what relationship do you expect your spouse to have with your
children and their parent?add
What is the best method(s) of raising children?add
What are the best methods of disciplining children?add
How were you raised?add
How were you disciplined?add
Do you believe in spanking children? Under what circumstances?add
Do you believe in public school for your children?add
Do you believe in an Islamic school for your children?add
Do you believe in home schooling for your children?add
What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim
classmates/friends?add
Would you send your children to visit their extended family if they lived in another
state or country?add
What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their
grandparents?add
If there are members of my family that are not Muslim, that are of a different race or
culture, what type of relationship do you want your children to have with them?add
What are your views on travelling to visit the tombs of Muslim saints?add
Do you attend Islamic Courses or Lectures? If yes, how often?add
Do you follow a particular Madhab, if so which one and why?ad

Do you believe in actively calling people of other faiths towards Islam? If yes, give
an example of how.add
Do you believe it is Fard (obligatory) or optional for a woman to wear Nikab?add
Have you fulfilled all the 5 Pillars of Islam? If not, please explain why?add
What are your thoughts on forms of marriages where a man has 2 or more wives?
(Polygyny)add
Is Music permissible in Islam? Please explain your answer.add

How often do you wake up for Fajr:add


Would you adopt a child?add
What is relationship with Allah like?add
Who are your favourite living Islamic personalities?add
How often would you expect your spouse to visit their in laws?add
How soon after marriage would you like to have children?addWhat are your
thoughts on birth control?addWhat are your thoughts on home-schooling?add

Will your parents accept whomever you choose to marry?addWho should cook at
home in general? (Wife, husband or joint responsibility)add
What is your view on celebrating the Prophet Muhammad's (PBUH) birthday
annually in the Month of Rabi-ul-Awwal?