MEDITATION ON LOVE

21 MEDITATII
JANET BRAY ATTWOOD
DAY 1
Day 1 Love is Unifying
Dear Luca,
Welcome to the 21 Days of Meditations on Love program!
Im thrilled to share this amazing journey towards unconditional love embodied by the theme of
I want for you what you want for you.
Over the next three weeks, youll receive a daily guided meditation with an in-depth exploration
of its meaning, along with specific examples you can use right away to deepen your personal
experience.
Our program uses the profound power of repetition to create lasting changes. The mind
transcends the meaning of the words through this repetition, finding assurance, permanence and
finally a wondrous quiet. The daily practice goes beyond sound, allowing you to experience
your own silent inner nature within. For the next 21 days you will be able to immerse yourself in
the beautiful and profound wisdom of "I want for you what you want for you", enabling your
mind to quiet and this sound to gently transform the power of love in your life.
I truly hope that as a result of this journey, youll experience love growing in every aspect of
your life.
The subject of our first meditation is unity.
Have you ever felt your successful relationships (especially with your significant other) were
organic, free-flowing embodiments of both of your personalities, emotions and dreams?
The most liberating, exciting thing about unconditional love is the experience of unity. In the
best relationships, you want for others what they want for themselves and vice-versa.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, to live as one with your
partner or loved ones, you discover new ways to align your desires and goals with theirs and to
develop a deep, lasting love for one another that stretches far beyond the present moment.
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Day 1: Love is Unifying

I want all of your dreams to come true because I know that your fulfillment is my fulfillment
no matter what direction either of us takes; at the deepest level we are one. Knowing this I can
celebrate you and your path to fulfilling your destiny. Every step of progress you make is my
progress. Every setback you experience is mine as well, and I am there to support you through
every one. What a precious gift that we get to experience being two, united as one!

REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you support your loved ones path to fulfillment today?

Day 2 Into Me You See

The subject of todays meditation is intimacy.

Have you ever knowingly held back from sharing your deepest feelings with your partner or
loved one?
Perhaps you struggle at times with heartfelt intimacy and rarely allow others to get to know the
real you.
Real intimacy is something all of us deeply desire. Or in the words I love, IntimacyInto Me
You See. To allow those we love to see us truly, this is real intimacy.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, to let others know what you
want and care about the most, you gift them with the opportunity to be there for you in the ways
that truly matter and you just might be surprised at how far they are willing to go to support
your goals, hopes and dreams.
Day 2 Into Me You See

I love our intimacyInto Me You See. When I want for you what you want for you, I see you
truly and meet you in that most intimate place. It is there that truth resides. It is there that I
embrace you truly and feel your embrace in return.
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REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you express intimacy in your relationships today?

Day 3 What is Real?

Welcome to Day 3!
The subject of todays meditation is defining what is real.
Do you often wonder whats real? To be more specific, whats true about yourself, your loved
ones and your relationships?
We all seek the truth and deep down, realize that lying to ourselves is one of the worst things we
can do. Living a lie prevents you and/or your loved ones from realizing the full potential of your
relationship and your individual destinies.
So what is the truth? Well, on a fundamental level your truth is what you know, what you feel,
and what you desire. Another way of understanding whats real is to acknowledge that what is, is
real.
If you want whats real, it requires acknowledging that your loved ones want what they want,
whether you agree with them or not. You can argue with reality. You can try to change their
mind, but in all likelihood, youll end up feeling disappointed and frustrated.
When you practice the mantra I want for you what you want for you, you embrace whats real
to establish a deep bond based on genuine trust and more importantly, grounded in truth. Whats
fascinating? When you choose to give your loved ones your love unconditionally, even when you
think what they want will not be best for them, youll discover that the freedom youve given
them will inevitably lead them to what is best for them.
Day 3 What is Real?

I acknowledge your unique destiny and know that when you are living that, you are a gift from
God. I know that it is right, because it is your desire. I know that it is real, because it is. When I
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open myself to what is, I open myself to life. So in loving you, opening myself to you, I am able
to be fully alive.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you see the unique destiny of someone close to you as your gift from God?
Day 4 Its All About Flow
Dear Luca,
Welcome to Day 4!
The subject of todays meditation is flow.
As you and your loved one(s) continue to change over the course of your lives, youll need to be
prepared to adjust your hearts and minds accordingly.
Youll be asked to acknowledge and honor the changes that you and your loved ones both go
through, recognizing the fact that what each of you may want will likely evolve over time.
When you follow the mantra I want for you what you want for you, you anticipate and
embrace change, understanding that change brings growth to your relationship and allows it to
flourish naturally into the divine blessing of the oneness of two souls.
Day 4 Its All About Flow
I acknowledge, embrace and honor the natural changes we both go through. Im excited to
welcome those changes and watch us both grow as we expand into our destinies. Let us dance
the dance of life together. Let us rejoice in this life, in this love. Let us celebrate the change and
marvel at the miracle of the two of us, as one.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you embrace the natural changes in your life today?

Day 5 Change Happens

The subject of todays meditation is the inevitability of change.

Have you ever desperately tried to resist changemaking the change all the more difficult for
you when it happened?
Perhaps you struggle with finding balance in the constantly changing dynamics of your
relationshipsthings like intimacy/alone time, play/serious focus, or safety/adventure.
Life is a journey of self-discovery, a process of personal and collective evolution and change;
this is a truth shared by saints, sages and other wise people around the world.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you to embrace change as an
opportunity to grow and evolve, you secure a life filled with exciting adventures and sparkling
inspiration, resulting in a passionate life blessed with fond, lasting memories and amazing
stories.

DAY 5
I openly embrace the natural evolution of you and us and look forward to the exciting adventure
that awaits the rest of our lives. I choose to let go of my resistance to change, no matter what the
past has been. Only by opening my heart to what is to come can I truly open my heart to you, and
to myself.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you truly open your heart to what naturally happens in your life today?

Day 6 Be True to Self

We are almost done with the first week and you should be able to feel your love starting to grow
across every area of your life.
The subject of todays meditation is being true to yourself.
Have you ever tossed and turned at nightparalyzed with anxiety and doubtwrestling with
indecision because you didnt know what you wanted?
Perhaps you have struggled with knowing or being true to yourself, still unclear about what your
passions are and the commitments required for embracing your destiny.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you to support those you love in
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having their dearest desires, youll be surprised to discover that support begins to appear,
unasked, for clarifying and realizing your own desires. You allow yourself to meet and fully
appreciate others who enhance your lifes journey, help lighten your burdens, and share your
commitment to the things that matter to you.
INTENTION DAY 6
I commit to the journey of self-discovery for both you and myself. When I am clear about my
passions, I can meet you in a place where we fully support what we want for each other. My
clarity makes your life easier. When Im crystal clear about my own desires it helps me
appreciate how much it means to you to have my support for yours. I choose to love you and in
loving you I am loving myself as well.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you support your loved ones desires today?
Day 7 Trusting in All

We have officially completed our first week pat yourself on the back for getting to this point!
The subject of todays meditation is the power of trust.
After todays meditation, please take some time to reflect on how your love has grown over the
last seven days. I ask that you set aside some additional personal time each day to further reflect
on the teachings that resonate with you most and how your love has evolved because of them.
Take note of pleasant surprises love can take many forms and may not always be where you
expect it.
The act of unconditional love requires a deep, all-embracing trust not just between you and
your loved ones, but also trusting the natural flow of the universe to love and guide you towards
all that you desire.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, you find comfort in the
natural flow that surrounds us, knowing you will never want for love because it surrounds you
with every breath you take.
Day 7 Trusting in All

I trust that the universe will guide us to a life of happiness, love and connectedness. I will
practice keeping my heart open even when I feel betrayed. When that happens its so easy to get
lost in the illusion of separation. But I will not get lost in that. I know better. No one can betray
me. I can only do that to myself. In the love of you, I love myself. If you want to go, then, as my
dear friend Byron Katie says, Honey, let me help you pack your bags!
REFLECTION QUESTIONS

How can you trust the universe to guide you to happy and loving relationships today?

Day 8 Love is not Attachment

Its the second week of our program and Im beyond excited to have you here!
Todays meditation explores the difference between love and attachment.
Have you held on to the idea that love is the most wonderful thing in the world, but can also be
the most painful?
Sometimes we confuse love for attachment. Love is never painful. But attachment can turn love
into torture.
I want for you what you want for you is the intention to love without attachment. When you
can let go of your attachment to concepts like, What does he think about me? or She doesnt
find me attractive, then you become free to truly love.
This meditation is for you, if you want to become free to love with all your heart.
Day 8 Love is not Attachment
I love you with all my heart and I choose to let go of my attachment to you, to what you think of
me, and to what I want for you. I will embrace you fully, releasing the pain that comes with my
attachment to you. I know the more I hold on to you, the more you will feel trapped and want
your freedom. So I choose to open fully to you and trust that what is best for both of us will show
up when I am open, knowing that if it looks differently than what I thought I wanted, then I have
been spared.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
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How can you nurture and heal all that is all around you today?
Day 9 Motive Generated

The subject of todays meditation is the beauty of saying YES.

Have you ever felt exhausted after a disagreement with your partner or loved ones?
Perhaps you stood in the way of their desires and it ended in a fierce argumentneither of you
willing to budge an inchscreaming and shouting at the top of your lungs until you had long
since forgotten the original cause.
When you limit those you love in any way from what is rightfully theirs, they are going to feel
angry, depressed and detached from you.
The next time someone you love says they want something and you feel an immediate NO!
coming from your throat, take a moment to excuse yourself, lay down, close your eyes and take a
deep breath.
Feel how relaxed you are?
Thats what YES feels like.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, you cleanse yourself of
motive-generated outcomes that often lead to drama and instead focus on saying YES because
you know its the right thing for those you loveeven if it might not feel like it to you.
DAY 9
I see the NO arising and say NO. I will keep saying NO to NO and open to the YES
of your desire. I sink into the deep, relaxing ease that comes with helping you claim what is
rightfully yours. Your wish is not accidental. It is a commandment from life itself that you may
fulfill your purpose for being alive. How could I ever take that from you? I cant. So when my
NO arises, I say NO to it, and honor your divine purpose with my YES.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS
What can you say YES to today?

Day 10 Reclaiming My Power

By now you should have experienced brand-new clarity and insights about love in your
relationships and how to continue living the mantra of I want for you what you want for you.

The subject of todays meditation is reclaiming your power.

By knowing that Love is all powerful and that it has more power than hate, you realize that
unconditional love empowers you to be the best person you can be.
Find solace in the fact that forever etched in your heart and soul is the one truth that we all must
embrace: Love is all there is, Love is who I am and there is only Love.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, you realize that, while the
journey will require you to step out of your comfort zone and let go of your ego and its selfserving desires, the truth you will experience will serve your life in every way possible
DAY 10
My unconditional love empowers me to reclaim my true power and use the all-powerful energy
of love to create the life of my dreams. That life is a life without limits, without restrictions,
without judgments. You provide me with a pathway to that life. How can I ever thank you? You
are my practice, my direct route to my destiny.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you be less judgmental to your loved ones today?

Day 11 End of War

The subject of todays meditation is ending your war.

Have you ever been in the middle of a heated argument with a close friend or partner, and in the
midst of trying your best to make them feel bad, they gently put their hand on yours and gaze
sweetly into your eyes?
In that instant, you realized how pointless all of it is.
Without their willing participation in your war, you were humbled by the realization that what
was really going on inside you had absolutely nothing to do with them.
When you practice the mantra I want for you what you want for you, you realize that often the
most vicious battles you have with a loved one are a result of weaknesses or flaws you have been
blaming yourself forand blaming them only serves as a fleeting band-aid, not a permanent
cure.
DAY 11
I am humbled to notice that what is really going on inside of me has absolutely nothing to do
with you. It has everything to do with me. What a perfect mirror you are for me to see myself.
When I can love you, then I can love myself. I choose such a love.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you see yourself in the perfect mirrors around you today?

Day 12 I Love Me Too

The subject of todays meditation is finding peace.

Do you sometimes find yourself at odds with your partner or loved ones desires?

Are there times when you secretly (or not so secretly) want something for them, despite the fact
they explicitly tell you they dont feel the same way?
One of the most precious blessings you can give yourself is peace of mind. Whenever you are
pushing your loved ones towards something they dont want, you are setting into motion a
constant cycle of anxiety and stresseventually leading to damaging arguments and hurt
feelings.

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When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, to support your loved ones in
the things that they care most about, it opens the door for your relationship to grow to its fullest
potential resulting in a deep, peaceful connection aligned with all of natures possibilities.

Day 12: I Love Me Too

I want you to be happy and say YES to your desires. In doing so, I also gift myself with the
same freedom that connects my heart to yours. Saying YES to you means saying YES to me,
for there is nothing I want so much as the deep intimacy of our love. In supporting you, I open
myself to the possibility that life can be magical, that the unexpected and unplanned can bring
even more fulfillment than when I try to be the General Manager of the universe.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you say YES to you today?

Day 13 How Can I Know?

We have almost completed the second week. By now you should be clearly aware about how
love has grown throughout your life.

The subject of todays meditation is the needs of your loved ones.

Have you ever felt your partner or loved one imposing their will and desires on you, without
really understanding what your needs are?
Each of us has a unique journey towards self-discovery. It is impossible to know the needs and
desires of others because they are constantly changing over time. The best thing you can do is to
offer them your unconditional love and emotional support.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, to understand and accept what
your partner or loved ones want and to help them on their journey (even if it changes over time),
you open the door to a loving relationship built to stand the test of time.
DAY 13

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I offer you my unconditional love and emotional support along your journey towards your
destiny. When you return it to me, we create a special bond that can never be broken. And if for
some reason, you dont return it to me, the love of you has enriched me. I can never know what
is best for you. So it is my joy and honor to watch your amazing life unfold and rest in the
gratitude of being able to share it with you.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you be grateful for sharing your journey with your loved ones today?
Day 14 Surrender and Trust

We are officially done with our second week.

Please take a moment to reflect on how these daily meditations have empowered you to
recognize and amplify the love in your life.

Now lets get started with your first meditation on surrender and trust.

Has your ego prevented you from sharing your innermost thoughts, feelings and desires with
your partner or loved ones?

To love is to surrender its the act of opening your heart and exposing your emotions, hopes
and dreams.

When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you to completely surrender your
ego and trust your loved ones, you are left with a deep sense of relief and exhilarating freedom.
DAY 14
I surrender and trust you completely, knowing that both of us feel stronger from being half of a
larger whole. I know that I cannot change you. Only you can do that. So I love you enough to
know that in supporting you, even when I dont agree, Im supporting myself at the same time. I
trust in our relationship. I surrender to the love I have for you and am grateful to have you in my
life.
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REFLECTION QUESTIONS

How can you support someone you care for today?

Day 15 Letting Go
Im excited to jump into this last week so I can bring everything home for you.
The subject of todays meditation is letting go.

Have you ever hid your feelings from your partner or loved one because you were scared of
losing them?
When you expose your genuine feelings, you open yourself to the risk of rejection.
Despite this, you need to let others know the truth and then decide for themselves, rather than
hiding your feelings and never discovering how they feel in return.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, to let go of your fears or
inhibitions and take the plunge, you allow the opportunity for others to be honest as well,
resulting in a mutual appreciation that lays the foundation for remarkable relationships.
DAY 15
I share my honest feelings and heart with you because even if you dont feel the same way, it is
better to live in the truth than to hide in the unknown. I will dedicate my life to the practice of
being open and letting go; knowing that what is in my life, is what is supposed to be, and what is
leaving my life, is also what is supposed to be. I am thankful for this practice that brings me
closer to me.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you be more honest today?
Day 16 You Me & Us

The subject of todays meditation is uniting your heart with anothers.

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Do you find yourself spending every waking moment thinking about your loved ones ,wondering
what they are doing and missing the warmth of their touch and embrace?

We are creatures naturally drawn together. When fully uniting your heart with anothers, you
create a larger wholeness that is much more than just the sum of two people.

The great saints, sages and teachers have always known that the unity we feel between us is the
same unity that underlies and connects everything in the universe. In fact, the very nature of the
universe is unity in diversity.

When you use the mantra I want you for you what you want for you, you create an
unbreakable connection full of warmth, care and love uniting yourself not only with your loved
one but also with the rest of life as well.
DAY 16
I unite my heart completely with yours and am thrilled to know that together, we are connected
at the deepest level that permeates the entire universe. This connection is always present and
when Im with you, I feel it more than ever. As we ride the waves of that unbounded field, you
are my anchor and my freedom. Of course I want you to have all that you want to have, because
you are the most precious part of me.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS

How can I support my loved ones in having what they want?

Day 17 Fruit of the Yagya
The subject of todays meditation is the fruit of the yagya.
Yagya is about surrender. The word yagya comes from the ancient Vedic tradition of India.
Traditionally, yagya is the process of making offerings in an act of worship with a desire to gain
the favor of the divine, or in other words, to gain support of the laws of nature. In a broader
sense, yagya is the process of surrendering your small self to the will of the divine.
When it comes to love, yagya is the mental, emotional and spiritual process of giving your
unconditional love to your partner and loved ones.
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This helps you free yourself from the bondage of attachment to your own small desires. You also
ask the universe to summon the laws of nature to work in the favor of you and those you love.
When you follow the mantra I want you for you what you want for you, you are actually
letting go of your egos self-serving desires and instead become an instrument of the divine.
DAY 17
I let go of my self-serving desires to offer my unconditional love as an instrument of the divine.
When I let go of my resistance, the grace of the divine flows through me and the blessings of the
divine fill me up. When I surrender my smallness to the fullness of unconditional love, I discover
the peace that surpasses all understanding. You connect me to myself and I offer that self in the
fulfillment of lifes desires. This is the yagya. This is the offering. This is the joy of life.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS

How can you let go of your resistance today?

Day 18 Benevolent Universe

The subject of todays meditation is having faith in the universe.

Have you ever noticed when you gather the courage to finally say this is what I want, your
partner and loved ones come running to support you in any way they can?
In order for you to truly desire what your partner or loved one wants, you must also believe we
live in a benevolent universe. You have to trust that you will receive support for your dreams and
passions, just as you honor those dreams and passions of the people you love.

When you follow the mantra I want you for you what you want for you, you trust that your
support of others will be reciprocated, directly or indirectly, and find that although unnecessary,
your willingness to sacrifice your desires for the sake of theirs makes anything possible in your
relationship.
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There are no mistakes in the universe. Should you no longer love me or I no longer love you, I
know these are also gifts. I love receiving gifts, so thank you for being such a great gift in my
life. When I support you in having what you want, and I do it with a loving heart, I feel like I am
finally being "the teacher living the teaching".
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
What are the gifts in my life today?
Day 19 Deep Ease

The subject of todays meditation is deep ease.

Have you ever felt torn between your subtle desires for control and the needs of your partner or
loved one?
Perhaps you see them in a certain light and cling to a notion of who they should be, instead of
accepting them as they are.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you, to let go of anything that
restricts your closeness with your partner or loved ones, you enjoy a deep ease that inspires them
to do the same, thus allowing for free-flowing communication and pure, unfiltered love.
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When I want for you what you want for you, I create the possibility of deep ease through freeflowing, honest communication. I know that when I support you in what you want, I will have
what I want, a deeply fulfilling relationship. When I give up my resistance, relinquish my need to
control, and relax into my love of you, life becomes so sweet and at the same time, filled with
deep ease.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you relax into a sense of ease today?
Day 20 Your Path is Your Path

The subject of todays meditation is allowing your loved ones to travel their destined paths.
Think back to a time when you have seen your partner or loved one struggling with a painful
event or difficult decision. Did you push them towards the easy path or did you let them find the
answer for themselves?
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Often times there is no better teacher than experience. Even though a certain path may bring
temporary pain or despair, it is through this trial by fire that we discover and grow into our
destinies.
When those you love are challenged, support them in every way you can think of . . . and
knowing that these challenges will serve them well in the long run can help prevent you from
suffering along with them.
When you use the mantra I want for you what you want for you to allow others to find their
own road towards happiness and fulfillment, you bless them with the gift of experience and
allow them to organically mature into the person they were always meant to be.
DAY 20
Just as enormous pressure creates a diamond, I know the struggles you go through will perfect
the beauty that is you. I will do my best to support you in all that you go through and at the same
time, I take comfort in knowing that your path is your path. When I support you in following
your path, I support you in growing into your greatness.
REFLECTION QUESTIONS
How can you support the choices or challenges of a loved one today?
Day 21 - Anti-Aging
Dear Luca,

Welcome to Day 21!

Congratulations for making it through the entire program! I'm so happy that you have gifted
yourself with these 21 days of reflections on love. This in itself calls for a major celebration!

It's my prayer that in these 21 days, youve allowed yourself to immerse fully in the teachings,
you've practiced the guided meditations, and you've reflected on the ones that resonate with your
own life.

Now its time for you to apply your unconditional love and use it to develop closer, more
meaningful relationships founded on mutual truths and sincere appreciation. Again, thank you so
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much for loving yourself enough to say yes to 21 Days of Meditations on Love! May your world
reflect back to you all of the sweet love that you give out!

The subject of the final meditation is building lasting relationships with your loved ones.

When you dont unconditionally love your partner or loved ones, you can physically feel the
restriction in your heartand in some ways, it almost feels like youre aging.

Research has shown that people live longer when they love someone, when they have a
companion to love, or even a pet to care for. When we are young at heart, we help ourselves stay
young.

When you use the mantra I want you for you what you want for you, you empower yourself
with living a long, happy and loving lifeit really is the only true natural anti-aging cure.
My unconditional love has a way of making me feel younger. When I am open,
spontaneous, and having fun with you, I feel restored, refreshed, and rejuvenated.
What an exciting time! You and I, togetherhow exciting to live in a world where all
possibilities exist.

How can you celebrate your unconditional love today?

Day 22 The Perfection Called You

Dear Luca,

Welcome to Day 22!

Surprise... I bet you weren't expecting this surprise bonus, were you?! It's our way of saying we
appreciate you so much for joining us in these 21 days. When your heart is full, our world
becomes a more loving place.
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The subject of todays meditation is appreciating the perfect essence that is you.

When the universe brings people into existence, it does so with the intention of perfection. You
have been perfect since the moment you took your first breath, and you dont need to be fixed or
changed in any way.

If you have faith in this perfect existence of yourself and all of your fellow brothers and sisters
around the world, you realize that trying to purposefully change or recreate your loved ones will
only prevent their natural evolution towards their own destiny.

When you use the mantra I want you for you what you want for you, you embrace the fact that
we are all children of life created in perfection. Once we are able to let go of our egos and selfserving desires, we naturally blossom into the beautiful essence that has always been at the heart
of who we are.
You dont need to be changed, morphed or fixed. Both of us, are simply perfect as
we are. So, knowing this, why would I change you? You are beautiful. As I honor you,
I honor me. As I rejoice in your perfection, I uncover deeper layers of the perfection
in me. Come or go, you keep bringing me back to me. What a wonderful gift. Thank
you.

How can you see the perfection in others today?

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