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How Should Parents Address Teen Dating Abuse?
Continued from Page 1 remaining calm, non judgmental, and
teens might be embarrassed to confide in reminding them that you care, you may
a parent, however, there are some things be more approachable for your teen
that a parent can do to allow teens to feel to ask for help when they are ready.
safe to share and receive parental support.
4. If they mention being abused, tell
1. Know the warning signs. This may them it is not their fault. This may
help you to identify potential abusive sound like common sense; however,
behavior. If you notice that your teen’s victims of abuse commonly blame
relationship has abusive elements, it may themselves and may not tell a parent
be a good time to start the conversation. out of fear that they will be blamed.
• If teens partner uses guilt, manipulation, 6. Do Not forbid them from continuing
or intimidation to control them to date their partner. You may want
to prohibit them from dating the
• If teen spends all of their time with abuser; however, this will not increase
partner and fears negative repercussions your teen’s safety. It is more likely
if they spend time with others. that they will stay in the relationship
without confiding in you again.
• Teen appears to make less
decisions for themselves. 7. Help your teen to problem solve.
Ask your teen “what can I do to help
2. Initiate the conversation but start off you?” Together, you can discuss
light. When you are alone with your teen safety planning, and options. You
and they seem open to talking, start off may offer to bring them to a counselor
slow by asking them how everything that specializes in teen dating
is going. Once they start talking, ask violence or call the National Domestic
how their relationship is going. Ask Violence Hotline (800-799-SAFE).
open ended questions and be willing
to listen. If you sense defensiveness, By offering love, support, and a non
this is okay. It is important however judgmental attitude, parents can help their
to ask about your teens feelings to teens to feel empowered to end abusive
show that you are sensitive to their relationships, although it may take time
needs and you want to understand. and patience. By adding dating abuse
to discussions with teens, parents may
3. Do not get angry with them if they find themselves more aware and able to
deny dating abuse. It may be very assist them to make important choices.
frustrating if your instinct suspects Addressing difficult topics such as dating
abuse, but your teen is denying it. Don’t abuse also may build trust and increase the
become angry or judgmental as it is likelihood that they may turn to you for
common for a victim to deny abuse. By guidance on other difficult topics as well.
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National Survey Indicates One in Four Girls Aged
12-17 Were Involved in Serious Fights or Attacks in
the Past Year
Prevalence of violent acts against-group fight, and (9.2 vs. 3.2 percent).
differs by family income, 5.7 percent attacked others
school attendance, and with the intent to seriously • Adolescent females
levels of substance use hurt them; one quarter who were not currently
(26.7 percent) of adolescent enrolled or attending
A report by the Substance females engaged in at school were more
Abuse and Mental Health least one of these violent likely than those who
Services Administration behaviors in the past year. were in school to have
(SAMHSA) indicates Other key findings from the engaged in one of these
that, in the past year, one NSDUH survey include: violent behaviors in the
quarter (26.7 percent) of past year (34.3 vs. 26.7
adolescent girls participated • The prevalence of these percent). Among those
in a serious fight at school violent acts in the past who attended school
or work, group-against- year decreased as annual in the past year, rates
group fight, or an attack family income increased. of violent behaviors
on others with the intent The violent behaviors increased as academic
to inflict serious harm. were reported by 36.5 grades decreased.
percent of adolescent
females who lived in Despite media attention
families with annual on high-profile accounts of
incomes of less than females’ acts of violence,
$20,000, 30.5 percent rates of these violent
of those in families behaviors among adolescent
with annual incomes females remained stable
of $20,000-$49,999, 22.8 according to the NSDUH
percent with annual report when comparing
incomes of $50,000 to combined data from 2002-
$74,999, and 20.7 percent 2004 and 2006-2008.
with annual incomes
of $75,000 or more.
Violent Behaviors among
• In the past year, Adolescent Females is based
adolescent females on the responses of 33,091
who engaged in any of female youths aged 12 to
these violent behaviors 17 participating in the 2006,
When combined, 2006 to were more likely than 2007, and 2008 SAMHSA
2008 data from the National those who did not to National Survey on Drug Use
Survey on Drug Use and have indicated past and Health (NSDUH). The
Health (NSDUH) shows that month binge alcohol use full report is available online
18.6 percent of adolescent (15.1 vs. 6.9 percent), at: http://oas.samhsa.gov.
females got into a serious marijuana use (11.4
fight at school or work in vs. 4.1 percent), and
the past year, 14.1 percent use of illicit drugs
participated in a group- other than marijuana
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Staff Teen Drinkers Suffer Nerve Damage in
Steven G. Liga, Brain, Study Finds
MSW, LSW, LCADC, CPS, CCS
CEO & Executive Director
Alexandra Lopez,
California researchers who compared the brains
MA, LCADC, SAC, CPS, DRCC of teen drinkers to non-drinkers found that young
Deputy Director
Ezra Helfand, BA
alcohol users suffered damage to nerve tissues
Public Information Specialist that could cause attention deficits among boys and
Jacqueline Jackson, MBA
Financial Manager
faulty visual information processing among girls.
Christina Rak-Samson, BA
Preventionist I
Adolescents, whose brains are still developing, are
at particular risk from brain damage resulting from
Linda Surks, BS, CPS
Preventionist II alcohol use, the researchers concluded. Taper’s
Laura Tittel, BA research showed that teen drinking negatively
Preventionist I affected both the white matter (nerve tissue) and
Jason Victor, BA, CPS hippocampus region of the brain.
Preventionist II
The above report was provided by Join Together a program of the Boston
Carteret Office University School of Public Health and is the nation’s leading provider of
information, strategic planning assistance, and leadership development
Lauren Balkan, MSW, LCSW
Supervisor for community-based efforts to advance effective alcohol and drug policy,
Christine Hughes, MSW, LSW
prevention, and treatment. To learn more about this organization and to
Preventionist I subscribe to their newsletters, please go to www.jointogether.org.
Anna Kirzner MSW, LCSW
Clinician II
Lindsay Rich, MSW, LCSW
The National Council on Alcoholism and Drug
Clinician II Dependence (NCADD) of Middlesex County, Inc. is a
Dana Tosk, BA private, non-profit, community-based health organization
Administrative Assistant
providing prevention, education, information and referral
services to county residents, businesses, schools, faith-
based organizations, municipal alliances, and social service
Board of Trustees agencies since 1980.
President Vice President
Katherine Fallon NCADD of Middlesex County, Inc.
Susan Neshin, M.D
Treasurer 152 Tices Lane
Secretary
Bill DeJianne Sandra Martin
East Brunswick, NJ 08816
732-254-3344
Past President www.ncadd-middlesex.org
Brian T. Rose
Members
Sharon Campbell
Rakesh Ganta
Steven Polinsky
George Rusuloj
Marjorie Talbot