30 Beautiful Hadiths and Quranic Verses on The

Etiquettes of Speech!
1.Andwhenthefoolishaddressthem(withbadwords)theyreplybackwithSalamaa
(peacefulwordsofgentleness).(Quran,25:63)
2.Iftheypassbysomevainspeechorplay,theypassbyitwithdignity.(Quran,25:72)
3.Andbemoderateinyourpaceandloweryourvoice;indeed,themostdisagreeableof
soundsisthevoiceofdonkeysButofthepeopleishewhodisputesaboutAllahwithout
knowledgeorguidanceoranenlighteningBook.(Quran,31:1920)
4.TheProphetMuhammad(peacebeuponhim)said:Hewhogaveupdisputing
whileheisright,apalaceofhighrankinParadisewillbebuiltforhim.Hewhogaveup
disputingwhileheisafabricator,apalaceinthecenterofParadisewillbebuiltforhim.
(alTirmidhiwhodeclareditashasan)
5.Therearenopeoplewhowentastrayafterhavingbeenguidedexceptforindulgingin
disputation.(alTirmidhi)
6.TheMessengerofAllahrepeatedthreetimes,Thosewhosearchdeeplyfor
confusingquestionshaveperished.(Muslim)
7.Donotdisputewithyourbrother,ridiculehim,norpromisehimandthenbreakyour
promise.(alTirmidhi)
8.BilalibnSadradiAllahu`anhu(ra)said,Ifyouseeadisputing,arrogant,andbigoted
person,bearinmindthattheyareutterlylost.
9.Luqman`alayhiassalam(as)saidtohisson,Oson!Donotdisputewiththe
knowledgeablelesttheydetestyou.
10.`Umar(ra)said,Donotlearnknowledgeforthreethingsanddonotleaveitforthree
things.Donotlearnittodisputeoverit,toshowoffwithit,ortoboastaboutit.Donot
leaveseekingitoutofshyness,dislikeforit,orcontendingwithignoranceinitsstead.
11.ItwasnarratedthatAbuHanifasaidtoDawudalTaai,Whydoyouprefer
seclusion?Dawudreplied,Tostruggleagainstmyselftoleavedisputing.AbuHanifah
said,Attendmeetings,listentowhatissaid,andremainsilent.Dawudsaid,Ihave
doneso,butIhavefoundnothingheavierthanthis.
12.`Aishah(ra)narratedthattheProphetMuhammadsaid,Themosthatedperson
withAllahisthemostquarrelsomeperson.(alBukhari)

13.IbnQutaybahsaidthathisdisputantsaidtohim,Whatisthematterwithyou?He
repliedtohim,Iwillnotdisputewithyou.Thedisputantthensaid,Thusyouhave
cometoknowthatIamright.IbnQutaybahresponded,No,butIrespectmyselfmore
thanthat.Atthisthedisputantretractedandsaid,AndIwillnotclaimathingthatisnot
myright.
14.TheMessengerofAllahsaid:Theoneinitiatingabuseincursthesinofabusingas
longastheotherdidnotreturnit.(Muslim)
15.Thebelieverdoesnotcurse.(alTirmidhiwhodeclaredithasan)
16.Thebelieverdoesnotdefame,abuse,disparage,norvilify.(alTirmidhi,sahih)
17.DonotinvokeAllahscurse,Hisanger,orHellfire.(alTirmidhiwhodeclaredit
hasansahih)
18.MenaccustomedtocursingwillnotbeintercessorsorwitnessesontheDayof
Resurrection.(Muslim)
19.AbdullahibnAmr(ra)narrated,IaskedtheMessengerofAllahaboutwhatsaves
mefromAllahswrath,andhesaid,Donotbecomeangry.(alTabaraniandIbnAbdul
Barr)Ibn`Umar,IbnMasud,andAbuDarda(ra)relatesimilarconversationsontheir
ownbehalf.
20.TheMessengerofAllahsaid,Hewhoisvictoriousoverhispassionatthetimeof
angeristhestrongestamongyou.Hewhoforgiveshavingthepowertorelease(hisanger
andtakerevenge)isthemostpatientamongyou.(aBaihaqiinShuabalImaan)
21.AbuHurairah(ra)narrated,TheMessengerofAllahsaid,Thestrongpersonis
nothewhohasphysicalstrengthbutthepersonisstrongifhecancontrolhisanger.(al
BukhariandMuslim)
22.`UmaribnAbdulAzizwrotetooneofhisgovernorsandsaid,Donotpunishatthe
timeofanger.Ifyouareangrywithanyman,keephimindetention.Whenyourangeris
appeasedpunishhiminproportiontohiscrime.
23.AliibnZaidmentioned,AmanoftheQurayshspokeharshlytotheCaliph`UmarIbn
AbdulAzizwhoremainedsilentforalongtimeandthensaid,Youwishthatthedevil
rousesinmetheprideoftheCaliphateandItreatyousorudelythatyoucantakerevenge
tomorrow(intheAfterlife)onme.
24.IbnAbbas(ra)narrated,theMessengerofAllahsaid,Andwhenyougetangry,
keepsilent.(Ahmad,IbnAbiDunya,alTabarani,andalBayhaqi)
25.TheMessengerofAllahsaid,Angerisaburningcoal.Itburnsintheheart.(al
TirmidhiandalBayhaqi)

26.Whenanyoneofyougetsangry,lethimperformablutionbecauseangerarisesfrom

26.Whenanyoneofyougetsangry,lethimperformablutionbecauseangerarisesfrom
fire.(AbuDawud)
27.Nobodyswallowsamorebitterpillthanthatofangerseekingthesatisfactionof
Allah.(IbnMajah)
28.`Umar(ra)said,HewhofearsAllahcannotgiveanoutlettohisanger(bysinning).He
whofearsAllahcannotdowhathelikes.
29.AnomadsaidtotheMessengerofAllahAdviseme.Andhesaid,Ifaman
defamedyouwithwhatheknowsaboutyou,donotdefamehimwithwhatyouknow
abouthim.Forthesinisagainsthim.Thenomadsaid,Ineverabusedanypersonafter
that.
30.AlHasan(ra)said,Hethatdidnotsafeguardhistonguedidnotunderstandhis
religion.
Youthoughtitwasoverdidntyou?Hereisalittlesomethingextratoencourageusnotonlyto
avoidsuchnegativetraits,buttoalsoproactivelyseekpositiveonesintheirplace.

10 Reasons to Strive for Generosity of Spirit and

Kindness in Speech

1.TheMessengerofAllahsaid,Kindspeechandfeeding(thehungry)guaranteeyou

1.TheMessengerofAllahsaid,Kindspeechandfeeding(thehungry)guaranteeyou
Paradise.(alTabarani)
2.Andspeaknicelytopeople.(Quran,2:83)
3.Whenyouaregreetedwithagreeting,greetinreturnwithwhatisbetterthanit,or(at
least)returnitequally.(Quran,4:86)IbnAbbascommentedonthisandsaid,Hewho
greetsyoureturnhisgreetinginbetterwordsevenifhewereaMagian.1Healsosaid,If
Pharoahweretospeaknicelytome,Iwoulddosotohim.
4.Anas(ra)narratedthattheMessengerofAllahsaid,Verilytherearechambersin
Paradise;theirinsidesandoutsidescanbeseenforhimwhospokekindlyandfed(the
hungry).(alTirmidhi)
5.Healsosaid,Agoodwordisalsoacharitabledeed.(Muslim)
6.WardofftheFireevenifbygivinghalfadateincharity.Ifyoucouldnotaffordthat
thenutterakindword.(alBukhariandMuslim)
7.`Umar(ra)said,Generosityisaneasything.Itisasmilingfaceandkindwords.
8.Somewisemensaid,DonotbestingywithawordthatdoesnotarouseyourLords
wrathyetitpleasesyourbrother.ItmayhappenthatAllahgivesyoutherewardofthose
whodogoodworks.
9.Andletnotthoseamongyouwhoareblessedwithgracesandwealthswearnottogive
totheirkinsmen,thepoor,andthosewholefttheirhomesforAllahscause.Letthem
pardonandforgive.DoyounotwishthatAllahshouldforgiveyou?(Quran,24:22).Abu
Bakr(ra)hadcutoffhisfinancialsupportofhisrelativeMustahbecauseMustahhad
participatedintheslanderagainsthisdaughter`Aishah(ra).Afterthisversewasrevealed,
heresumedandevenincreasedtheamounthegaveMustahinfinancialsupport.
10.Showforgiveness,enjoinwhatisgood,andturnawayfromthefoolish.(Quran,
7:199)