SEXUALITY

Sexology, sexologist, sex therapist, sex therapy.

By
Eric EH Buddhadharma
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Eric EH Buddhadharma
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June 2012
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CONTENTS
0.INTRODUCTION TO THIS EBOOK ON SEXUALITY.
1.WHAT ARE SEXUAL PROBLEMS & DYSFUNCTIONS.
2.WHEN THINGS GO WRONG IN SEX LIFE
3.WHY DO THINGS GO WRONG IN SEX LIFE
4.STEP BY STEP TO A HEALTHY SEX LIFE
5.SEX AND MARRIAGE
6.SEX FOR YOUNG PEOPLE
7.SPIRITUALITY IN SUCCESSFUL SEX
8. MALE SEXUAL DISORDERS
9.ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
10.PREMATURE EJACULATION
11.WEAKNESSES OF THE BODY AND MIND
12.ILLNESSES- CAUSING SEXUAL PROBLEMS
13.HOW TO OVERCOME SEXUAL PROBLEMS
14.MEDICAL ATTENTION TO YOUR SEXUAL PROBLEMS.
15.FEMALE SEXUAL DISORDERS
16. SEXUAL DISORDERS IN FEMALES
17.ILLNESSES THAT CAUSES LOSS OF LIBIDO.
18.MEDICAL ATTENTION TO YOUR SEX PROBLEMS.
19.SEX AFTER 60
20.HOW TO REMAIN SEXY AFTER SIXTY.
21.TRUTH ABOUT AGE AND SEX
22.SICK AT SIXTY
23.MENOPAUSE IN OLDER WOMEN
24.SEXUAL PROBLEMS IN WOMEN AT 60.
25.WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR SEX DRIVE AT SIXTY.
26.VALUABLE INFORMATION ON SEX HEALTH
27.FOOD/FRUITS/VITAMINS/VEGETABLES
28.QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS IN SEX RELATED PROBLEMS
0.INTRODUCTION TO THIS EBOOK ON SEXUALITY.

The only guidebook in the world that provides you with an insight into what actually is sexually
wrong within you - mentally, physically and spiritually and how to get cure for it.
This book may not have those glossy erotic pictures, but I can assure you, this book has what you
are looking for- getting back that sexual desire or power, you lost some years ago. In a matter of
fact way, it deals with most sexual problems in the modern times due to stress, distress and
unhealthy lifestyle. Most books and remedies are there to mislead you into believing which may
not be true. The authors and the remedy makers, themselves may be victims of sexual
dysfunction, which no one knows for sure. Their motive is simply to cash in on your temporary
sexual disability. This book is written by an author, himself into physical fitness. He is passing
down the knowledge to his readers based upon his proven and established super physical, sexual,
and mental abilities. What better way there is, than to read a book written by someone bubbling
with energy and youth at over 60 years of age! My guide is based upon spiritual wisdom and
logic and not on some whimsical and hypothetical fast selling formula. You may have already
spent a fortune finding a cure for your sexual problem, but now you are careful and would not
like to part with another cent, just in case the next investment turns out to be another fake. I
suggest, you assume this small amount too, which you are investing in this guide, will go down
the drain. After reading this guidebook from cover to cover, and using its valuable information, I
am sure you will cure yourself of the dreaded malfunction. You will someday bless me for
writing this guidebook; that day would be the day for me to rejoice.
Have a happy sexual life, now and always, God bless you!
Eric EH Buddhadharma
Author
June 2012.
SEXUALITY
SEXOLOGIST & SEX THERAPIST.
1.WHAT ARE SEXUAL PROBLEMS & DYSFUNCTIONS.
Men by default, are the cause for the survival of human species since time immemorial. Men
have that urge to impregnate women when they see one. This led humankind to increase and
spread his species around this world. Therefore, the act of having sex is built into humankind, in
the same way he breathes and feels hungry and eats to survive. Man by nature is a confirmed
potential rapist, like any other animal.
Sex is not only a great pastime but also the most pleasurable and a good way to make up after a
quarrel or anger. There are numerous benefits attached to having sex anytime of the day or night.
It keeps you calm and you get a good nights sleep. Besides, it burns calories, improves your
blood circulation and takes away your stress. It also helps psychologically and strengthens
relationships. In a way, it keeps you young and energetic. After a long days work, the best thing
you can do is have sex to relax you before sleep. When you miss this gift of god, you miss
something that could take away your aches and pains, your stress and insomnia. Unfortunately,
sometimes in life the ability to enjoy sex diminishes, bringing so many related miseries into
ones life. One naturally feels frustrated and low when one cannot perform sex, as one did a few
years ago, sometimes, sending a wrong signal to the partner who may get a feeling of not being
attractive to his or her partner anymore. All these create more problems, which gets worst with
the passing of time; creating a distance between the partners.
When sexual act cannot be performed normally at any time, it may be a sign of sexual problem.
Hindrances in having sex, like the loss of desire, arousal, orgasm or inability of penetration, are
reasons that keep away couples from enjoying sex. There is no exact measure of what exactly is
normal sex in terms of frequency. Some people may want to have sex everyday while some may

remain satisfied once a week. Only when the desire dies down completely or there is a genuine
sexual performance problem, it may be regarded as a dysfunction.
Sexual dysfunctions may be of several types, common are the loss of desire, inability to reach
orgasm, loss of arousal, loss of erection and painful sex. These problems are the reasons for
aversion to sex between couples. It is not uncommon for young people to suffer from sexual
dysfunction. Over the years again, middle age sexual problems begin to set in, such as
menopause, pre and post included.
Our physiology and biomechanics are all made to last for us over a hundred years, but
unfortunately stress, distress, alcohol abuse, rich diet, smoking, sedentary habits and all similar
self-abuse hinder the body from staying youthful and in good working condition. A very gradual
onset of diseases spread in such people; due to the disease, there is a loss of health, which is
further enhanced due to medication. Diseases such as diabetes, sclerosis, tumors, venereal
diseases, thyroid dysfunction, vital organ dysfunction, are all reasons for low testosterone,
estrogens and androgen. Certain conditions such as increased sound level, bright light,
psychological disturbances could lead to loss of intimacy, depression, distractions and fatigue,
which ultimately manifests itself as low sex drive. Physical appearance and attractiveness of the
opposite sex also influences the desire for having sex with the partner. Unhealthy and sickly
people also have extremely low libido. They are forever picking and finding faults in one
another, which puts off the partner in having sex with such a person. Overall, such people
undergo physical deterioration and mental depression. This ultimately leads to sexual problems.
Such people ultimately withdraw themselves and become averse to sex.
In a relationship the desire to have sex with the partner is very important. Loss of sex drive in
any one of the partner can lead to problems in relationship, infidelity in men, poor understanding
and communication between the partners.
It is therefore, very important for parents, teachers and elders to inculcate good habits in
children, such as good food habits, active sports, cleanliness, conscious of the bad effect of
alcohol, smoking and drugs. They should also be provided some sex education so that they
know good from bad. This way they will not suffer from sexual dysfunctions until their old age.
It is very important for people to discuss their sexual problems either with their partners or with
their doctors. Sexual problems are mostly reversible and curable.
In ailing people, drugs should be administered after considering its after effect in the patients
sex life. Alternatively, the patient should be informed of the temporary bad effect of the drug on
sex. This way the patient will be aware of any temporary sexual setback due to those drugs.
Drugs like antihistamines, stimulants, anti-hypersensitive, and certain psychotherapeutic drugs
leads to loss of sex. Neurological problems and spinal cord disorder are other reasons for sexual
dysfunction.
Partners should make it a point to be open to each other about their sexual inabilities. This way
one partner will be able to confide in the other and find help to improve the sexual condition of
the other partner.
If you feel that your partner is sexually abusing you, due to which you do not enjoy sex, bring
the matter to the notice of your doctor or to your local family counselor, who will sort out this
problem for you. Sexual problems between partners arises either at the beginning of their sexual
experience or after a few years when the thrill dies down. Only good understanding between
them can let the sexual relationship survive.

Sometimes, physical and physiological distress becomes the cause of sexual dysfunction in a
person. Distress and uncomfortable feelings, ultimately does not allow the person to like sex
anymore, gradually this leads to complete aversion.
Everyone, during their lifetime, sometimes experience sexual dysfunctions, such as loss of
libido, erectile dysfunction, loss of desire and loss of orgasm, vaginal dryness and similar sex
disturbances. This is common and a normal way of life. Every human being, at any time during
their lifetime, undergoes mental stress or physical stress or both which effects the sex life of the
person, it could be from financial burden, academic examinations, disease, illness, court cases,
enmity, fright and fear of someone or something. It could also arise from psychological and
emotional stress, relationship problems; disagreement between partners, Pain during sex is a
great deterrent for women.
Some people believe women in their 30s turn sexually very active, they have more orgasm at
thirty than any other time in their life. However, fact is, sexual deficiency could strike anyone at
any age; there is no hard and fast rule here. It is a fact, by thirty women know themselves and
their body well, they are more confident about themselves and worry less or have less anxiety
when indulging in sex with her partner. They are more open to their partners than when they
were in their twenties. Between men and women the testosterone level in women decreases very
slowly with age, meaning at thirty women are more virile than men are.
Surprisingly, research shows that young women even experience sexual dysfunction and pain at
the time of sex. Some even found no pleasure in sex while some were suffering from anxiety.
Men generally experienced sexual dysfunction as they reached their 50s and 60s. With
medication, people report higher sexual problems. Men generally attribute their sexual
dysfunction to ageing. This is not correct. Problems should be discussed with the doctor to find
a cure. Some sexual problems resolve on its own and with time and corrective lifestyle.
Unfortunately, most of the time sexual problems are never reported. Sexual problems are
regarded as a normal way of life and a part of ageing. Sexual debility, especially amongst the
poor and middle classes, are regarded as normal and therefore, never discussed.
If you light a bulb with electricity it is healthy but if you hold the live wire with your naked
hands it could kill you. In the same way, sex is bliss for most of us but when it comes to child
abuse as well as rape, it turns ugly and those victims may suffer mentally and physically all their
life. They may even be averse to sex later in life. Sex without the consent or feelings for each
other is always unhealthy and injurious. Sometimes excessive sex drive is injurious too, it tells
upon ones career and character.
When people are used to having sex without any bonding or commitment with their partners,
they get into the habit of mechanical sex life without any bonding or emotion. When such
people get married they show such signs to their life partners too, leading to loss of emotion,
bonding, love and trust. This could also be a cause of aversion to sex by the partner, who
experiences such emotionless sexual gratification by the other partner.
Free sex leads to undue abortion and diseases like AIDS and HIV and venereal diseases. Free sex
ultimately leads to diseases with loss of libido and erectile dysfunction in course of time. Many
famous people destroyed themselves by indulging in undue sexual acts.
Sex should be regarded as a gift of god to mankind. All living beings (sentient-beings) indulge
in sexual practice; mankind continues to experiment and enjoy it the most, lingering the sexual
session for a much longer time than their other sentient counterpart.

Patients, when put through a series of questions and information checklist, will only be able to
identify the reasons for their sexual dysfunctions. If they are made conscious of the time they
were sexually healthy and active; between then and now, when they are unable or averse to
sexual activities will only enable them to find the underlying cause of their problems.
However, not everything is lost when one experiences a sexual dysfunction or any sexual
problem. You can get back that youth again provided you follow certain rules and seek the advice
of your doctor, if all else fails.
With medical progress there are several remedies now available in the market for male as well as
female sexual dysfunctions. Some are reliable while most are doubtful and a colossal waste of
money. For females, the solution is more complex because, their sex is influenced physically as
well as emotionally.
Later in this book, you will come to chapters that will provide you with corrective methods to
overcome your sexual deficiency.
2.WHEN THINGS GO WRONG IN SEX LIFE
Sexual problems could begin anytime in ones life. There is no hard and fast, and no specific set
of rules that may define or pinpoint sexual problems in ones life. The child may be born with
sexual deficiency or develop one gradually. Most of the time, sex problem develops with stress,
unhealthy life style, medication and so many factors, as said earlier.
Behavioral treatment, counseling and changes in lifestyle with some medication may treat
problems related to orgasm, erectile dysfunction and low libido in women.
In many cases guidance and sex education may also help. Sex therapy and psychotherapy helps
too.
Sexual dysfunction if not treated, as said earlier, may lead to a turmoil in ones married life and
also make the person withdraw from active life and society.
If the dysfunction is getting serious, please visit your doctor. This problem is mostly corrected by
getting a diagnosis done for the cause; opening to your partner about this issue, changing your
lifestyle, changing the pattern of your work, re-inventing ways to have sex with your partnermaybe a holiday to a faraway quiet resort.
Sexual problem could be classified into four different categories: Desire syndrome, arousal
syndrome, orgasm syndrome and pain syndrome.
DESIRE SYNDROME: Low libido in women and the loss of desire and interest in sex amongst
men.
AROUSAL SYNDROME: Inability to get aroused physically, at the time of sexual activity.
ORGASM SYNDROME: Inability to reach climax or orgasm in women
PAIN SYNDROME: In women, pain during penetration is regarded as sexual problem.
Reasons for all the above syndromes could be physiological, psychological, medical,
environmental or social.
Sometimes talking to your partner, help improve the sex situation behind closed doors. Most of
the time, the problem is mental than physical. Whatever the case may be, you can even analyze
your sexual problem and try to avoid those which aggravates the situation in the bedroom; such
as pain, privacy, tiredness, stress or anger.
Sometimes pheromone perfume works and has scientific backing. Medication or any artificial
aid makes a woman feel inadequate sexually. Therefore, it is imperative both partners encourage
the use of such aids to make the situation feel normal.

Sex therapy is another tool to solve sex problem. Both partners could benefit from therapy, most
of the time it works and normalizes the situation.
You have purchased this book only because you would like to solve your sexual problem
yourself rather than talk to your doctor or any sexologist, which is uncomfortable not only for
you but for anybody. This book will endeavor to show you the ways in which you may solve
your sexual problem and lead a normal sex life again. Try to follow the guidelines in this book
religiously, giving it some time to see results.
Worry, depression, anger, frustration, withdrawal from society or any such behavior is useless
and a hindrance to your, leading a happy and healthy sexual life again. If you keep worrying, it
turns into a disease by itself. Have a positive attitude and you will experience a change in your
behavior and gradually you will experience a permanent cure to your problem without much
medication or professional help.
3.WHY DO THINGS GO WRONG IN SEX LIFE
Occasionally, sex problem arises during ones lifetime, which is normal and acceptable. Instead
of worrying about it, the person will do well by first analyzing the reason behind the problem.
If this book, had been written for living beings other than humankind, it would have been simple
and easy. However, since this book is specifically written for us, humans, it is, therefore,
imperative we cover every aspect leading to the cause of the problems.
Honestly, we human are very complex beings, psychologically and physiologically; lifestyle and
behavior are dynamic and complex too. All these gives rise to extreme sexual problems in
humankind. With our complex nature, we are the sole architect of our sexual problems.
When you ask your doctor, why do things go wrong in our sex life, the list, he may rattle off
would be never ending and may lead you to a dead end sometimes. Man, with superior ability,
behavior, civilisation, technological advancements, and lifestyle have never-ending reasons for
his sexual problems. These never-ending reasons, give rise to our inability in finding the cause
underlying the problems. The causes could be divided into physical, psychological and social.
Physical inadequacy such as, vaginal pain during intercourse, effects of certain medicines, which
could suppress the sexual desire in a person. Psychological disorder, such as past sexual trauma
or feelings of inferiority or bad looks. Social factors such as economic conditions, quarrel with
neighbors and stress related activities, are all reasons to lower ones libido. Nevertheless, after
years of research and monitoring and analyzing sexual problems in humankind, worldwide,
mostly the following reasons have been found to be commonly associated with sexual problems
in male and female, alike:
Decreased estrogens in women: During the onset of menopause estrogens level goes down in
women. This is when the desire to have sex slowly diminishes. Other times in life too some
women shows symptoms of low estrogens level. Generally, estrogens, with oxytocin, are
responsible for the sex drive in women, their attractive and seductive looks, and their body
language to attract men. Unfortunately, with age and childbirths estrogens level diminishes,
making women less attractive and available to her partner. Ovaries in women produce estrogens.
Only on reaching puberty does estrogens level shoots up in girls, bringing maturity and shaping
her body, the cycle continues until menopause sets in.
Decreased testosterone in men and women: Testosterone is a hormone which apart from other
functions, also influences a man in having desire for sex. With age the testosterone level, which
triggers desire in men to have sex, keeps lowering with age causing less sex drive in them. This
is why congenital disorder in the production of testosterone causes puberty failure in boys and

later lack of interest in sex. Congenital disorder of the testes also causes low level of
testosterone.
Testosterone is regarded as male sex hormone, but women too have a trace amount of this
hormone. Women have three basic sex hormones produces in her ovaries and adrenal glandsestrogens, progesterone, and testosterone. Like men, with age these hormones depletes in
women lowering her libido, showing signs of agitation and ageing. With lower sex hormones,
women cannot catabolize her fat, making her obese or with higher fat deposit, loss of bone
density as well as dryness in vagina.
Health of the partners: With good health comes good sex. However, if either partner is ill and
suffering with diseases, sex does not turn out to be the way it should be. With ill health much is
left to be desired to experience a blissful sex.
Ageing in men and women: We age in mind and not in body and I believe it so. Sexual
problems in older men are attributed to their ageing process. To some extent, this may be true
but the claim is exaggerated. When a man gets old, he should look back to the time he can
remember his childhood. Let him analyze all what he did, his habits, his ways and the stressful
life he led all these years. When a list is prepared of his activities since he was 18 until his old
age now, he can see for himself, how he abused his body and stressed his mind. How he lived a
life full of unpardonable sins in the form of food, alcohol, lifestyle and depriving himself of that
good old sleep. He may have done all those mostly, which deprived his body and mind of healthy
nutrients and rest. Briefly, he brought ageing on himself quicker than natural for him.
Fatigue due to household and office work or other activities: Many people commute for
hours each day and work in situations, which are unfriendly and consuming. They work because
they have to, they have no choice. Since they do not enjoy their work, the hours they spend
working and commuting to and fro their place of work, makes them depressed or agitated. Such
people lose interest in sex, because their mind is preoccupied with the thought of getting back to
work the next day and starting the grind once again. As for women, especially with children,
they shoulder a thankless responsibility of looking after the home as well as the children and
their studies. It leaves them drained and with aches and pains. Household chores are demanding
and so are children and their studies. Women lose interest in sex when stressed with planning
their daily routine which starts from the evening for the next day.
Insomnia: Lack of sleep often affects sex drive in men and women. People who have poor sleep
pattern complain of being too tired or sleepy. They are lethargic, unresponsive and listless at the
time of making love. Sex does not bring them pleasure anymore.
Fright of performance: Sometimes men worry too much about their performance in bed, what
if he fails to have an erection, if he ejaculates prematurely. I have myself spoken to people, who
worry about such things before they go out on dates. The more you think the worst your problem
become. Think, if you are healthy and able, erection will happen all by itself and you will enjoy
sex normally.
Pregnancy/child birth/breast feeding in women: During the pregnancy, stage women are
apprehensive about their pregnancy, the outcome and countdown is always at the back of their
mind. The physiological changes in a womans body too waxes and wanes her libido. During the
childbirth, the women are exhausted and lose much of their energy and nutrients leaving them
famished and in need of vitamins, minerals, energy, strength, and reassurance from her loved
ones and her partner of course. Breast-feeding too takes away much of the nutrients from her
body. All these tells upon the woman mentally and physically, it is, therefore, natural for her to

have a loss of interest in sex, albeit temporarily. With child or children, the attention of the wife
is also divided and there is always less romance left between the partners after childbirth.
Psychiatric conditions in men and women: Some people are weak mentally, which is why they
lose their reasons when under stress or the loss of their loved ones. Mentally they are so upset or
derailed that sex is the last thing on their mind. Only psychiatric treatment may cure them of
their illness.
Lack of vaginal lubrication: Due to low estrogens level there may be a dryness of vagina.
Other causes could be tiredness, depression and various conditions leading to low sex drive.
Use of oral contraceptives in women: The possible side effect of using oral contraceptives in
women is diminished sex drive or low libido and all related symptoms such as loss of interest
and enjoyment of sex. Sex hormone binding protein (SHBG) attaches itself to the free circulating
testosterone making it inaccessible to the cells in the body thereby decreasing the desire for sex.
Chemotherapy drugs: It has a retarding effect on sex. First the medication itself and second, the
disease, which is painful as well as terminal.
Diabetes: Men and women, both suffer from sexual problems due to diabetes. In men, the sexual
problems are with erection, due to the damage of nerves (neuropathy) or the blood vessels in the
penis. Diabetes also hinders the production of nitric oxide, released in penis for a normal
erection.
In women there could be dryness of vagina due to the damage of nerves and blood vessels. Pain
during sex may also be due to yeast infection which thrives in the presence of high sugar.
Diabetes reduces energy in the body thus, lowering sex drive in women.
In men as well as women, sexual activities uses large amount of energy due to which there may
be a drop in the sugar level in the body. This needs to be kept in mind if either or both partners
are diabetic and their sugar level drops beyond the healthy limits.
Hypertension: Hypertension is not a disease by itself, but a symptom of the existing disease in
the body. Like all other diseases, hypertension too is the cause of low sex drive in men and
women. It causes erection problem in men due to disturbed blood flow to the penis. The arteries
may lose its elasticity thus, causing blockage in the blood supply to the penis resulting to erectile
dysfunction. In women, it may lead to dryness of the vagina or painful intercourse.
Alcohol/drugs/tobacco abuses: The effect of these three ills is deadly and directly affects the
sex drive in men; women, not ruled out. Addiction can ruin not only the sex drive in a person but
himself too.
Vaginal infection: Mostly, the cause of low sex drive in women due to vaginal infection is
depression. Having to live with infection makes a person depressed and lose interest in sex.
Another cause is the pain associated with the infection. Good news is such infections are curable
and the person can return to normal life.
Depression: Emotional factors, fall out with ones partner, lack of trust, marital problems,
misunderstandings and several factors that, may lead to depression is a cause for low sex drive in
men and women.
Anxiety disorder: This mental disorder is mostly the reason for sexual problems in men and
women. Undue anxiety or panic disorder leads to serious sexual dysfunction. Women are prone
to panic disorder and therefore, have good reasons to lose their sex drive. Men in such situations
may suffer from premature ejaculation.
Self-abuse: In any form, self-abuse always leaves its mark in your sexual life. If you ever selfabused yourself, which is mostly physical, you must try to find ways to get over it or at least find

a cure for the ills it may leave you with. Disrespecting your body, in any way, is self-abuse. The
term is broad and the effect, in many cases, everlasting.
Past sexual trauma/abuse: In cases where the person had a bad sexual experience, such as rape,
molestation or sexual advances. Mostly children and women, the memory always haunts the
person and sex becomes ugly and unpleasant. This is mostly, a mental condition and needs to be
treated by a psychiatrist. The person needs to be reassured about the normal side to sex life and
also needs to understand that there are always good as well as bad sides to most things in life. If
something bad happened, it does not mean there is nothing good about it. Let the person talk to
people about their sex life, how good they feel in having sex and explore the good side of sex.
Stresses: Stress is a big killer. If it does not kill, it takes away the joy from ones life. Either way
the person suffers. Stress is always related to fright. Fright of bad performance, timely work,
keeping a promise and such other related happenings in life, always invites stress. Stress is a
form of disease. If we invite stress into our lives, we are opening the gateway to diseases. Stress
lets you into other forms of activities such as smoking, alcohol, anger, overeating or under
eating. Nothing good ever happened with stress in our lives. If we use that much energy in
redeeming the reason giving us that stress, we may be able to solve the problem as well as get
back to living normally once the stress is gone. Even if we fail to solve the problem, stress may
not help us in anyway. It is, therefore, wise for us to accept what may come and let the stress
pass away.
Vaginal pain: There are several reasons to this problem, mostly being the fear of pain and
therefore, the inability to relax the vagina. Undue contraction of the vagina is the cause of the
pain, as well as certain fungal diseases like Yeast and infection.
Menopause: loss of libido during or after menopause is not only physical, but also mental. With
the passing of years, women go through so many phases in her life. Routine life with day-to-day
responsibilities as well as bringing up children. Family and partner problems and dealing with
mundane tasks leaves her with little or no desire to have sex. Meanwhile, in so many years,
being together, mostly husbands get used to their wives and life turns routine and each one takes
the other for granted. Unless partners find ways to keep their marriage renewed, loss of libido in
women is attributed to menopause only.
Spinal injuries: Nerve damage in the spine causes sexual dysfunction. There is a limited cure
for this in the form of surgery.
Enlarged prostate gland: Pain and discomfort of prostate enlargement lowers the desire for sex
in men. It is unfortunate, but true, with unhealthy lifestyle and no exercise, most men on
reaching old age experiences prostate enlargement. In the management of prostate cancer, high
level of estrogens is injected leading to a loss of sexual desire in men.
Antihypertensive, antihistamine, and psychotherapeutic drugs: If you are on any of these
types of drugs, you may experience a loss of desire for sex. The symptoms generally vanish once
you are out of those drugs. You may need to take plenty of fruit juices and water to clear your
system of the toxic effect of these drugs in your body, specially the liver and the kidneys.
Endocrine disorders: Hypothyroid symptoms generally are associated with uneasy palpitation.
This is due to the low secretion of thyroxin, sodium from your thyroid gland. The symptom itself
makes the desire to have sex uncomfortable.
Diseases involving vital organs: Any disease connected with heart, lungs, kidney, and liver
leaves the person with little or no energy to indulge in sex. The disease itself makes the person
depressed and the mind is forever engaged with the thoughts of medicines, doctors advice and

the anxiety of getting out of the dreaded disease. Pain and other symptoms of the diseases of the
vital organs, are serious and sometimes unbearable at later stages; naturally, under such
circumstances one cannot think of indulging in such vigorous sexual activity. Unfortunately,
diseases of the vital organs lead to organ failure, of which the patient mostly is aware. In such
cases, there is no point of return and there is no sex, the disease is terminal and will get worst
with time.
Nerve damage: Nerve damage, unless serious and life threatening, lowers the sex drive, but
there is not a complete loss of sex. Nerve damage is cured by surgery, as well as by prescription
drugs. Your doctor may advise on this matter.
Blood supply and circulation problems: Bad blood circulation, bad sex life, is the simple
theory. Blood supply to the penis, if blocked, such as high cholesterol deposit or hardening of
the arteries (Atherosclerosis) may be the cause of sexual dysfunction and loss of erection in men.
This is why, it is imperative men with bad blood circulation must do some physical exercise each
day, while men with high cholesterol deposit must find ways, with the help of their doctors in
reducing their cholesterol deposit in order to have a free flow of blood into their penis for a
successful erection. The cause of many unsuccessful erections in men is due, to blocked arteries
of the penis.
Genetic and birth defects: Some unfortunate children are born defective, sickly and with sexual
deficiency by birth. Nothing much can be done to improve their conditions. With the
advancement in science and technology, of course, to some extent certain deformities and genetic
deficiencies could be rectified. Such facilities could be recommended by a good physician as
well as finding it on the net and then seeking their advice and help or services for the cure, if any.
Finding the names of other patients who may have underwent similar therapy or surgery and
seeking their opinion is not a bad idea too.
Poor lifestyle or quality of life: When the income comes down while the expenses remain
constant, when the bare facility of life cannot be met and when small things worry in life, sex is a
past game for such people. People who keep awake until late night, sleeping less and partying or
worrying more, they lose sex drive gradually. People who sleep less and live a sedentary life,
generally age fast and by the time they reach middle age, they lose interest in sex or have
premature ejaculation due becoming weak physiologically. Most men and women would prefer
to eat diet rich in fat other harmful ingredients, such as sugar and butter, while away their time
with friends or work till late night and indulge in unhealthy activities find themselves ageing
very fast. People who respect their body and want to lead a healthy sex life until old age must
change their lifestyle. Exercise, eat healthy, discipline their sleep pattern and become conscious
of themselves, physically and mentally. A marked improvement in sex life can be achieved when
life style changes for the good.
Urinary tract infection or any infection: This is uncomfortable and infection of any type drains
a person out of his energy and pleasant feelings of life.
Obesity: Itself a disease, the cause may be over eating due to depression too. Obesity makes the
movement of the person very limited, as well as makes them tired due to carrying the load of
excess body weight with them. They feel depressed because of their physical looks, even though
they may not accept this fact. All these transforms into low sex drive and a feeling of inadequacy
in men as well as women. Very few people, with a determined mind, can shed their fat and return
to becoming normal again. It is imperative, especially for the young, to shed their excess body
fat if they want to enjoy life and live normally ever after. Obesity is also the cause of several

other diseases. I suggest obese people to get to the gym and work out with weights and follow a
strict and heavy weight regimen. The ultimate results will be a strong mind with a strong body.
With this, there is no looking back with an added blissful sex life.
Anemia: Low blood quality as well as low blood production in the body leaves the person
panting even after walking a short distance. Several reasons could be the cause of anemia.
Generally, anemic people are sick people with low energy and an ability to perform active tasks.
They get tired and drained very quickly. This leaves the person with little desire to participate in
activity such as sex.
Unhealthy relationship: Animosity or disagreement between the partners could be a cause, so is
infidelity. Whatever it may be, when either partner is into provoking or creating mistrust in the
relationship, the other partner may not be in a mood to have sex or to do anything with the other.
Sex between two people is made up of physical as well as mental bonding. Without mental
bonding, in humans, sex becomes very animalistic and emotionless; between partners, sex dies
down.
Lack of privacy: Mostly with children around, partners are unable to have a quiet time together;
this gradually distances them, affecting their sex life. Sometimes, people live in joint family,
where the presence of elders and others are felt all the time. It makes an uncomfortable
atmosphere for any romantic moment. This is why people have better sex when they are on
holiday and far from home and people. It makes sense to invest sometimes, in a short holiday or
to be away from home for couples with children or elders, living with them.
Cancer and other terminal diseases: Terminal diseases not only affect the body, it affects the
mind too. Such people know that they are going to last a few more months or years. This leaves
them with a desire to clean their slates, put everything in order, and settle their account in this
material world. Their mind does not function the way ours do. They think and act differently;
their mind being occupied with the thoughts of leaving this world prematurely depresses them,
even though they accept this fact.
Venereal diseases: Syphilis, gonorrhea and similar venereal diseases are a great deterrent to
having sex. Venereal disease is contagious; cohabiting with a person already with the disease, is
the cause of getting one. Children born of such parents are generically defective with birth
defects and abnormalities. The medication for these conditions too adds to low sex drive.
Repulsive sex partner; When either of the partner in sex is repulsive, in looks, habits or for any
reason, making love to such a person repeatedly becomes a burden and repulsive. Desire to have
sex or even be near that person becomes a liability and undesirable.
4.STEP BY STEP TO A HEALTHY SEX LIFE
Everyone around the world seek a healthy sex life, whatever the age. Those unfortunate ones
who cannot perform well in the bedrooms are the ones who need to correct their ways. The way
they think, eat, live, behave and above all their complete state of mind. As you proceed further,
in later chapters you will come across ways to correct yourself in order to achieve a blissful sex
life.
This chapter will give you preliminary tips on how to live a healthy sex life. If things improve,
with you, reading and following this chapter it is well and fine, otherwise you may proceed and
learn more about sex and how to enrich and make it explosive with better mind and body.

To improve your sex drive or libido you need to improve the testosterone level in your body, a
hormone which helps you kick start your desire for having sex. This increase in the hormone
level may be achieved by the following activities:
A healthy diet rich in protein, only sufficient carbohydrate and a small amount of fat. Regular
meals in small quantity. It is always better to avoid meat protein, being the cause to cholesterol
build up in the arteries. You will learn in later chapters about this.
Regular exercises, preferably weight training or vigorous program.
Healthy sleep pattern
Herbal and natural supplements
Snacks of nuts and resins
Control over stress and anxiety
Control over anger and depression
Should not worry over petty and small matters.
While it is nice to start your activities straight away by following the above advice, it will be
equally advisable to avoid the following if you ever want to achieve success in your bedroom
activity. These are but temporary distractions and a real health hazards. At least avoid them till
such time, your sexual conditions improve. An intermittent indulgence may be OK so long it
does not affect your sex life:
Alcohol, smoking, and drugs,
Soft drinks and colas,
Remaining indoors and leading a lazy lifestyle,
Food rich in fat, sugar, butter, spices, and refined ingredients,
Meat or eggs that is responsible for building up cholesterol in your arteries.
With the above combinations of dos as well as donts, you will seek to find what you are
looking for in the bedroom. Everyone dreams of being a successful and a good lover with skills
in sex acts that will enthrall ones partner. Skills in sex acts like skills in any other art, needs to
be acquired and cultivated.
A successful sex between two people who may have spent years together is all about goodwill
and respect for each other. If you do not respect each other or have repulsive thoughts about
each other and yet want to make love, there is all possibility the effort will not be successful.
The man may have an erection problem while the women may have a dry vagina.
To cut the matter short, you should know that foreplay is one of the greatest aphrodisiac and with
an added amount of true affection for your partner; you could achieve a first class bedroom
experience. The following are some of the foreplay ways you may find interesting;
MENTAL: Some sex talk, some pornographic videos, magazines, provocative pictures and
bedroom fantasies. When the mental stimulation begins, the physical stimulation does not remain
far behind.
PHYSICAL: Stimulating each other by rubbing the sensitive sexual organs. Engaging in
masturbation and arousal of each other by touching the sensitive organs of each other. Oral sex
is also a great way to arouse your partner especially when it comes to womens clitoris.
However, it is imperative the couple hygienically clean themselves before such an act.
Massaging each other with flavored massage oil will add to the pleasures.
Having a bath together or engaging in a sexual act in a bathtub or swimming pool is another way
to finding a new way to pleasure.

Sometimes the same bedroom becomes boredom; it is wise therefore, once in a while to get away
from home into a resort or any hotel room where the surrounding and the atmosphere is different,
quiet and peaceful with 100% privacy. This allows the couple to share a different environment
and focus on each other completely. If you can add to this some pornographic movies, it will not
only stimulate you both mentally but also give you a lesson on how to foreplay and make love.
You can as well practice what you learn and observe from those movies.
It is imperative for the couple to be clean and smelling good before engaging in any sexual act.
Wear clothes and dress in a manner befitting your age, looks and skin hue. You should look
harmonized and presentable; this creates a pleasant personality which is not out of place and
liked by all.
Have a smile that will attract others. You do not expect your partner to make advances to you
when you look like a schoolteacher or someone from the police force.
Look at your partner with a seductive look and maintain eye contact. This sends signal to your
sex organs, and if you are sexually healthy, it gets into the initial process of stimulation and
arousal.
Maintain a good posture and profile. This does not let you sag and make you look like a
grandma or grandpa. You need to send a signal of sexual virility and not a school examination.
Never embarrass your partner by becoming a center of attraction or a joke in public. Undue
anger, quarrelling in public or getting into an act, not befitting you may all lead to low sex drive
in your partner and an aversion to make love with you.
Talk about matters that you both agree and share your views about. Do not get into any
argument or pick up subject that may turn controversial or create resentment between you two.
When the time is right, express your feelings and your desire to make love with your partner.
This can happen only when you both are in agreeing terms and in a congenial mood.
Never pick up, rake old issues, or discuss the bad side of ones parents or any relatives that may
turn the situation uncomfortable. You are asking for trouble and not sex.
Show signs of intimacy and closeness. If you are on your way home or sitting on a couch
watching TV or listening to music or reading, get close and snug into each other, it makes sense
to show your affection for each other before even you decide to make love.
Have plenty of fun and good time before you decide upon getting into the bedroom act. This
stimulates the mind and calms the nerves for another session of fun, indoors.
Never make it compulsory to have sex with your partner during romantic moments. It should be
in the card but making it a compulsory act, only makes the situation tense and routine or obvious.
When you keep the act optional and go for it only when things are hot and amicable, you will not
fail in the performance. This requires time in hand, patience, making an effort and an open mind
to sex.
Certain other skills need to be learnt if you want to improve your sexual act. Some things to
remember are as follows:
Practice to contract your rectum muscle which is connected to your penis. This helps delay your
ejaculation.
Another way to delay your ejaculation is by keeping your mind calm and taking the act easy and
slow, without too much excitement. Also focusing on matters other than the sex act takes away
the mind from the act thereby delaying the ejaculation.

Sometimes the girl on top helps the man remain less exited. The women doing the act and the
man only maintaining his erection with some movements However, this position needs a lot of
energy and stamina.
To get away from the boredom of usual sex positions couples may try different positions to bring
excitement in their sex act. One can observe and learn from pornographic movies different
positions of lovemaking.
During the later stages of pregnancy, lovemaking is possible only when the male take a standing
position and avoid contact with the stomach.
Anal sex is undesirable and unhygienic in most cases. However, it is a known fact that some
people enjoy anal sex and it is a great way to stimulate the otherwise dying sex drive in many
people.
Sometimes when erection is unsuccessful, one can try putting a pillow under the hip of the
woman and in a lubricated vagina, insert the otherwise un-erect penis. With gradual stimulation
to the penis in the vagina, going up and down, there could be an erection followed by a
successful love making session.
Music, ambience, aroma and privacy play an important part in getting sexually aroused.
Finally, it is the connection of two minds that plays a very important role in love making and
erection and lubricated vagina. Without this mental rapport, sex can never be the way it should
be. Commitment, responsibility, caring, focus and intimacy all goes into creating an atmosphere
of wellbeing, which is the first essential of good love making in a long lasting relationship,
where sexual act could turn boring.
Remember, your body is not a machine that will be turned on immediately when you plan to
make love. You are a complex being with emotions, responsibilities, as well as commitments
every day of your life. It is physically not possible for you to have an erection all the time,
especially with the same women with you may have spent several years together. You need to,
therefore, give time to yourself to get your mind into the mood of lovemaking and allocate that
time slot to experience the pleasurable moments together. Hurrying will only add fuel to fire and
it will take you longer to get an erection or no erection at all. This may have nothing to do with
sex problem; it is only your mind, which keeps you away from getting an erection. Do not get
mislaid if you have unsuccessful erections sometimes. Analyze the reason and you may come up
with the correct answer for it.
5.SEX AND MARRIAGE
In marriage, sex is taken for granted. This is the cause of a boring sex life in later years of
marriage. When time permits, especially during the sleeping hours at night, people make love
and then it is over. Year after year of repeating, the same process makes it like any other routine.
In marriages too one must put in an effort to bring innovative ideas and spice up ways to make
the sex lively and interesting. Some ways that will spice up ways in the bedroom are given
below:
Certain days, even when you feel like having sex, forgo the act and just leave it for another day.
This way the desire keeps accumulating and the day you engage in the play you find it new and
interesting. It is finding the best suited day and time to optimize the experience.
Even if you know your partners anatomy well, it is still desirable to have some foreplay before
engaging into the actual sexual act. This brings the excitement and adds energy into the act.
Foreplay stimulates the body, same way like a warm up, before a vigorous exercise.

Same ways, same bedroom and the same time turn into a routine. Try to find different times and
places in your home where you can spontaneously make love occasionally.
If things get extremely boring, try to get away for a day or the weekend to any quiet and exiting
place for some fun and sex. Do new things and find new ways to explore sex, away from home.
It makes sense to invest in a small trip.
Talk about the ways you always wanted to have sex. Good, bad, or dirty, sex is sex and all is fair
anyway with your partner for life. Both the partners can experience new ways in the privacy of
their bedroom making otherwise a dead play come back to life.
The best ways to experiment and experience sex, is by watching sex videos and movies and try
to put those acts in your play. First, watching such videos will excite the partners and second,
the acts put into action by them will definitely make things more spicy and exiting.
Whenever you want to change your positions or find new ways for sex, take your partner in
confidence, just to avoid any embarrassment. People sometimes think differently and your
partner may be more conservative than you are.
Marriage is not all about sex. What we all forget is, sex is a small percentage in the entire 24
hours of married life each day. The rest is work, commitments and other activities as well as
sleep. However, in a marriage the first thing that comes to mind is sex and babies. To use the
hours other than making love is a trick to give the marriage an honorable position in ones life.
Some ways that we honor our partners are:
Compliment her looks and appearance: Remember, women like being complimented for the
effort they make in looking presentable and attractive. If you turn your face away or remain
indifferent to her efforts in seeking your compliments in an implied way, you are only
disappointing her. Day after day when you do this and then want to get into bed with her, you
may not make a good lover. The totality of the 24 hours, or 24x7 makes all the difference in the
bed. The same way you study for your examination the whole year round and then appear for the
exams only to succeed.
Sometimes, spontaneously, call her up from your place of work and get together for an evening
tea or any other activity. This makes things lively and she will definitely appreciate this because
it is the best thing for women to be out after the whole day grind at home or her place of work, if
she is a working person.
Seduction is another method to rekindle spontaneous sex. It is routine for married couples, when
alone and in a mood, to go in for sex. When things happen all of a sudden, it is exiting and
energizing too. It leaves you both with a good feeling.
You can even send sexy messages over SMS, or make a date or make an appointment to have
sex, all over SMS. This method is very exciting and a mood maker.
Children remain a hindrance for couples with a newborn baby as well as toddlers. Whatever it
may be, children at all ages take away some attention of either parent in a marriage. The
marriage gets stale and old while bringing up children. Sex, occasionally, becomes routine and
only in the bedroom, that too at the usual hour and usual way. This is when the entire sex
problems start.
Even though one may wish a better sex life with the partner, it does not turn out so with children
around. The best way here is to employ a babysitter, leave the children with your parents and
leave them with friends parents to play, leave them in a crche, or leave them with your friends,
with an understanding that you would mind their children when they have to go on a date. This
way, occasionally, you both will find time to be together and enjoy romantic moments with each

other. For the cause of marriage and for the couple to enjoy some moments together, which is
for short time, occasionally, anyone can help anyone, in minding the children for this good cause.
As I said, marriage gets stale and boring with time, unless you are alert and able to gauge the
excitement still left in your marriage. To check this you need to find out:
If sex is no more interesting with your spouse. If you are bored of the same woman, bedroom,
atmosphere, positions and talks.
If sex between both of you are satisfactory and satisfying. If either or both partners are not
satisfied with the sexual relationship or if one of them finds the other repulsive or unattractive, it
is time to seek counseling and analysis. Such relationships do not continue for long unless
corrected and rectified immediately.
If you or your spouse feels, sex is a responsibility, a way to keep up the marriage, it is wrong and
again, needs to be corrected. Responsibility, routine, burden, duty and compulsion are not the
right words for sex, which should be connected with romance and affection. If romance and
affection is missing eventually, as I said, erection will fail and vagina will remain dry in such
couples.
It is interesting and a necessity for married couples to have sex on regular basis. Maybe, the
frequency may not be short, but regularity will keep the marriage alive.
Economic condition is not always the cause of failing sex life; otherwise beggars on the streets
would not be having children. Most of the time arguments, animosity, quarrel, or fights happen
between couples, for reasons they do not realize. They are agitated and irritated because of the
failing sex life. At the back of their mind, is the romance they enjoyed years ago and the
promises they made to each other. Those days have faded and replaced with routine, boredom
and picking on each other. The repercussion of these changes manifests itself into such
animosity.
Now let us examine why married couples, after years of marriage, find each other boring. The
foremost is health, generally, couples with age do not groom themselves as much or let their
health deteriorate or get obese with time. If you compare the early days of the marriage, when
both were young and attractive, agile, made promises to each other, carefree life and socializing
with friends on regular basis, to the later years, when they became old and obese, diseased, wore
mismatching clothes, responsibility of the family with school going children, inability to keep
those young days promise, as life passed by so quickly, and with no dating or socializing. The
analysis shows the great divide. Under such circumstances, you cannot blame either spouse for
killing their marriage, perhaps this happens to most marriages.
This is why couples should be intimate regularly, preferably on daily basis. This helps intimacy
and romance on daily basis too. As I said, sex form a very tiny part of our total life lived;
therefore, sex should not be the sole motive behind our romance and intimacy. There is more to
relationship than only sex. Sex is an important part of romance but when we make it the primary
issue in any marriage, the novelty starts to wear out gradually.
Couples who do not discuss sex but keep it limited to the bedroom and to certain specific hours
are killing their sex lives. It is imperative; spouses discuss their sex requirements clearly
between themselves. Unless you do not discuss what is in your mind, how can your spouse know
how to help or contribute in that situation? Mere hints, riddles, or round about talks does not
help in sending the message. Straightforward talk helps and the spouse understands the
inadequacy in sex life.

Let us be practical and realistic about sex and marriage. Only in some mythological or fairy tales
we hear about people having sex ever day of their life from 18 until 80 or 90 years of age.
Worries, responsibilities, illnesses, being away from home, disagreement with spouse and such
other related reasons will never allow one to have sex every day of ones life. All healthy people
have an urge to have sex, especially men. Having regular erections in men is a sign that all is
well with him sexually. As for women if she has an urge for sex under normal situation, means
her libido is normal. Most of the time, most of us, married for many years, panic if we lack the
desire for sex or have premature ejaculation. Most of the time the situation is not favorable to test
ourselves in respect of sexual virility. Unnecessary worrying about the temporary inability to
desire sex or having an erection becomes a habit, ultimately leading to actual sex problems in
men.
6.SEX FOR YOUNG PEOPLE
Young people going to schools and colleges need to concentrate on their studies and career. They
need to discipline and educate themselves, during the different primary stages of their lives. Sex
should not be taken seriously, nor should any pornographic videos, magazines or discussion
should encourage. Once they are into making their career and succeed in finding a professional
assignment, they will come across several friends who may be willing to go steady and finally
even tie a knot. Young people will do well for their future health by following the advice given
below:
Find time to do regular exercise, preferably weight training. For girls, yoga and weight training
are both suitable. One of the best 10 minute extra exercise is skipping. If you continue this till
ripe old age, you will surprise others by your agility and stamina.
Always check your physique in the mirror for accumulation of fat or any sign of obesity, take
immediate action to correct your physique. It is difficult to get rid of that fat or the paunch once
you cross 40.
Eat well and healthy. Do not indulge in rich food, junk food or colas and soft drinks with CO2.
Instead, replace it with fibrous and healthy food and fruit juices.
Smoking, alcohol and other habits kill you slowly. When you cross 40, you will be ashamed to
see yourself in the mirror or compare yourself to your friends, who lived and ate healthy. You
will then not be able to bring back that youthful looks into you. Wisdom says do it now and keep
it that way. Remember youth in us diminishes with time, never return in our lives, while old age
remains until death, and never leave us ever again. If you are conscious of this fact, you will do
things that will be an investment for your old age, the same way people invest money for their
later years.
After 40, when you are into a successful job or profession with good health, you will enjoy better
life and sex throughout the remaining days of your life.
This book is meant for we human beings, who by nature will read all what they can but do what
they prefer doing. This world has over 7 billion people and most of them follow their own
religious books and worship their gods. In spite of reading the words of gods and following their
scriptures, they indulge into activities leading many of them to prison, war and other ways of
animosity and unrest. If the words of gods could not tame a man, how do I expect that my
advice above will go down with them successfully. I am therefore, adding the following few
paragraphs just in case it may help, guide the young people not to go astray.
Always remember sex is a temporary pleasure and volatile, once climax is reached, it leaves the
partners thinking about other activities, unless there are commitments between them. Young

people, unmarried and without commitments are prone to changing partners frequently. This is
dangerous and unhealthy. The more partners you change, the higher the risk of contracting with
diseases. There would be occasions only to regret later, but no remedy for it whatsoever.
Nature and our elders planned everything for us systematically. First schooling, then
professional studies, then career and then marriage and children. Even though this method or
thought is conservative and stereotype, it has some truth to it. Earlier, people were happier and
contented. They were committed to their families and they lived a peaceful life. In the present
time we are seeing changes in this lifestyle pattern, sex begins in the school days. There is no
career, no marriage, nor any future for such people. Such people regret their actions all their
lives. Those with good parental guiding turn out to be successful and as said, follow the oldfashioned conventional pattern of life. They, ultimately, have the last laugh.
Sex in early days of life, turn into a disease. Young people break up fast and get themselves
involved with another partner. If one of them is attached emotionally, the break causes a severe
emotional disturbance to that one. Instead of studies and career, the person is full time into
thinking about getting involved with another partner. This is a waste of time and energy, which,
if channelized, could have benefitted the person.
Another dark side to having sex without much experience is getting pregnant or disease from
your partner. It is therefore, imperative for you to use condom to ward off such unwanted
pregnancy or disease. There are other known methods of contraceptives, but those are not
advisable for young people. Oral contraceptives have their own side effects which could harm a
young unmarried girl later in life.
Safe period, douching and other methods of contraceptives are not at all reliable and therefore,
should not be indulged into.
The curse of changing partners, all over the world, has left people with sexually transmitted
diseases which include HIV and AIDS. What other proof do you need to adhere to my
suggestions to go conservative or at least not to change partners frequently?
Oral sex, anal sex is all open to the diseases finding their way into you. It is therefore,
recommended that, you refrain from such sex or you may use condom or any barrier to shield
yourself from the diseases getting into you.
Always remember, a moment of restrictions could ward off great evils.
7.SPIRITUALITY IN SUCCESSFUL SEX
Tell me something, this world has over 7 billion people, do you think all the people in this world,
indulging themselves in sex, need to read this book, or do they have sex problems leading them
to seek professional help or read this book? No, only some, or many people face sexual
problems in their lives. The million dollar question is, why do they have this problem?
Remember, life needs to be lived by its rules today and always. When you drive, study in
schools, work in an office, play a game, you follow certain rules doing all of these. In the same
way when you live life, you need to follow certain rules. When you were young, you were
compulsorily made to follow certain rules. Sleeping, studying, eating, outing, playing and all
activities were governed and conducted by your parents. During those years, you were healthy,
your looks were healthy and your thoughts were healthy too. As you grew up and became
independent, there were no parents or any guardian to guide you or tell you what was right from
wrong. You decided the course of your life in a pattern suited to your needs and requirements.
This way you started breaking and ignoring the rules of life; one by one, until one day you
realized something was definitely wrong with you. Hypertension, erectile dysfunction, low

libido, liver damage, cataract in the eye, failing physical strength and poor digestion, you became
a victim of one or more malady. All these and more were gifts to you, of your ignoring and
breaking those rules. Today you are seeking professional help to cure yourself of all the ills that
have befallen you.
The first thing that you need to go back or rewind your thoughts, is the words of your parents.
John does this and John does not do this. Stop and think all about your thoughts, activities,
behavior and deeds. What you did all through your adulthood as an independent person, would
those be permitted or sanctioned by your parents? I am sure your answer would be a big NO! If
this is true then proceed to read further.
A doctor could only cure you temporarily or provide you with medication which may or may not
work. A school-going child could be tutored on a subject; without the will to learn, the effort of
the tutor, would be a futile waste of time. In the same way, if your thoughts, behavior and deeds
were not corrected, you will never succeed in getting back your sexual virility again. No amount
of medicine can cure such problem permanently, unless the disease is minor.
Remember, you need to take stock of yourself first and ask yourself why you are suffering from
this or other diseases. Why do you have this low sex drive? Once you analyze your problem and
search out the reasons for any malfunction in your body (and mind) you will succeed in curing
yourself of the ills.
We are made up of two major ingredients, material as well as spiritual. Spiritual power within
us, guides us to hear our inner voice. As we gradually turn to the material side of our life, due to
our ambition, passion, greed, desire and expectation, we slowly shut our spiritual side. Once our
spiritual side stops governing our lives and guiding us from wrong to right, our material side
takes over. You will observe the material side alone, is mostly passionate about most things evil.
What harms us attracts us. Whiling away our time with friends, alcohol, smoking, rich food, sex,
sedentary life and making money by any means. All these activities ultimately lead us to most
diseases including sexual problems. Another side to mankind is anger, anxiety, pride, power and
dominance. When these are present or one chases his dreams with these in mind, one invites bad
vibes into oneself. You immediately, need to put a stop to any drinking, smoking, drugs or other
habits, eat healthy food, preferably vegetarian meals. Stay away from food with cholesterol and
fat. Change your way of thinking; pride and anger should be out of your mind. Be
compassionate and peaceful. Have mercy for those underprivileged people you see every day of
your life. Feed the street animals and birds that you see every day. Stress, anxiety, or depression
should be kept away from your life. Make your life purposeful and with a mission instead of
being a moneymaking or power hungry monster. Do as much work that may not tell upon your
health or family life. Do not bring your work problem home and get agitated with your family.
This is weakness.
The only way a man can achieve real freedom and happiness is by seeking spiritual strength. To
cure yourself of all or most of the diseases, including the sex problem, follow the guidelines
given below:
Change your life style; be compassionate and helpful to others.
Seek spiritual strength from within yourself; self-realization can lead you to an ultimate spiritual
ecstasy.
Refrain from smoking, drinking, drugs and other habits.
Refrain from eating meat and maybe even eggs.
Refrain from all high cholesterol foods, such as butter, cookies, cakes and such other junk foods.

Regular six days a week vigorous exercise is necessary to improve your condition. Lift weights;
little more than you can lift normally. This will build strength and confidence in you. This may
also open up any artery blockage in the sexual organ. However, you can go for any physical
exercise in consultation with your doctor only. However, if your blood pressure is normal and
heart is strong, then there seem to be no reason, why you cannot do vigorous exercises.
Choose an active life style. Some days do not drive down to your place of work. Walk most of
the way and then catch a bus or a cab. For small errands and going shopping locally, avoid
driving, walk it all the way. If you live in a high rise, walk a few storeys up before taking a lift to
your flat.
If you think money could buy you happiness, sex, and health, you are wrong; this is not true.
Beggars in the streets would not smile or have babies, or poor porters, would not carry heavy
luggage all day long. Money can bring comfort, power and many things material in life, but to
seek health, fitness and happiness you need to develop that spiritual side in you.
Unless and until you try to understand your inner self and your shortcomings, you will never be
able to rid yourself of the sexual problem permanently. You need to be a bad man never above
30% of all your thoughts and activities, and the balance 70% should go in for noble and good
thoughts and activities. Gradually you will find results in what I have told you. To prove my
point, look at those billionaires, all over the world, they were ruthless people, made other people
their ladder to climb up, double-crossed others; mislead others in business, only to become
philanthropists later in their lives. Self-realization only turned them into charitable, later in life,
when their conscience did not allow, all what they did throughout their early days.
Never underestimate your mind in curing you of your diseases!
8. MALE SEXUAL DISORDERS
LOSS OF SEXUAL DESIRE
The cause may be physical or mental. During the young and early40s, men may experience loss
of sexual desire mostly due to responsibilities and other worries. During this period, men are
busy making their career and money. Also during this time, they are father to small children.
The loss of desire is a mental condition mostly recovering after things in life settles down
favorably. When the loss of desire is during later middle age, it may be due to low level of
testosterone.
In the earlier chapters the reasons for sexual disorders and loss of desire has been discussed in
detail. To avoid repetition, the details have not been discussed here.
Loss of sexual desire is an unfortunate condition which needs to be analyzed by asking yourself
the following questions:
In the early days how was the desire and erection/libido?
Which medication are you into now or some while ago?
How satisfying was your sex in the early days of sex life?
When did the loss of desire for sex started to become visible?
How often do you have sex with your partner? Do you propose or does your partner propose to
have sex?
How frequently would you like to have sex? How frequently would your partner would like to
have sex?
Do you try to have sex by compulsion?
Do you have erection and desire for sex when you go on holidays with your partner?
What new food, project, or worry entered your life during or before the loss of sexual desire?

What is worrying you most of the time?

What do you think could be the cause of your loss of sexual desire?
The above questionnaire could bring to the front your actual reason for the loss of sexual desire.
9.ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION
Erectile dysfunction or loss of erection and virility is generally the symptom of old age or ageing
in middle-aged people due to their unhealthy life style. Millions of people worldwide suffer from
this syndrome. About 5% of those people in their 40s will experience this condition while a
quarter of people in their mid-60s will experience this condition in their lifetime.
Erection process is simple. When you stimulate yourself, the signal allows blood to flow into
your penis and dilate the arteries, allowing the tissues to engorge with a large amount of blood
into it. This is the sign of manhood and virility, unfortunately those who lose or cannot sustain
erection feel dejected, ashamed, or even worried about this condition.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is the cause of some abnormality or malfunction in the males body or
mind. ED is the alarm to these internal problems.
Since erection is about healthy arteries filling up with large amount of blood in the penis, with
unhealthy lifestyle, hypertension, high cholesterol, diabetes, hardening of the arteries, and veins,
this condition deteriorates. With these conditions, the blood flow to the penis is restricted
leading to poor erection quality or no erection at all. Good news is, this condition is reversible,
and with a healthy program, it can be cured. You will learn about this in later chapters.
As I said, man is a complex being, hence, to diagnose the problem several tests have to be done
to determine the exact cause of this symptom. These tests may be;
Blood tests: hormone level, cholesterol profile,
Sensory test: measurement of the strength of the nerve impulses.
Vascular test: checking for the blood flow to the penis and for any blockage in the penile arteries
and veins.
Nocturnal penile tumescence and rigidity testing: monitoring the erection during sleep in order to
determine if the symptom is physiological or psychological.
To maintain a healthy erection there are certain requirements, a normal nervous system that sends
impulses to the brain, spinal column and the penis. Second, a healthy arteries and veins that may
carry blood supply to the penis. Third, normal, healthy and smooth muscles and fibrous tissues
of the penis, with a normal level of nitric oxide in the penis.
In the earlier chapters, the causes of sexual problems were discussed in details. However, it is
once again discussed specifically for ED:
Ageing: As we age we go through lifes several problems which gradually distracts us from
activities like sex. Besides, the years of self-abuse in the form of drinking, smoking and other
unhealthy lifestyle leads us to diseases which ultimately tell upon our sex life. Finally, with age
there is a decline in testosterone level and nitric oxide in the body. All these factors account for a
low sex drive in older men.
Diabetes: Diabetic neuropathy causes the damage of sensory as well as autonomic nerves.
Narrowing of the arteries with poor blood supply to the penis is another diabetic condition for
low sex drive in men. Diabetes also weakens the muscles in the body. It causes myopathy in
diabetic men leading to loss of muscle in the penile region and the cause of ED.
Hypertension: Narrowing of the arteries, leading to high blood pressure is also the cause of ED.
It may be that nitric oxide level in the body diminishes with this condition causing ED.

Poor cardiac condition: Narrowing of the arteries in the body leading to poor blood supply and
hypertension is one of the basic causes of ED. When coronary arteries narrow down or get
blocked heart attack or angina pectoris occurs. When arteries to the brain (cerebral) get
narrowed, stroke happens. In the same way when arteries of the penile region get narrowed, it
cannot send blood supply to the penis causing ED.
Spinal cord injury: Injury to the spinal column or to the nerves may cause ED. This is due to
several reasons like surgery, accidents, or radiation.
Medication: Sometimes medicines are a great killer. Even if it does not kill you completely, it
causes severe side effects leading to ED. So if you are on certain drugs and medicines, seek your
doctors advice, if it may dampen your sex drive or cause ED.
Depression/anxiety or excitement: All are certain to cause ED. It may be temporary, but such
conditions causes ED. Along with the condition, if medication is in progress, ED gets worse or it
may also cause ejaculation problem.
Poor lifestyle, habits like alcohol, smoking, late night, drugs, and all sorts of stress and anxiety
are the major cause of ED in men. When you visit the doctor, the first thing, apart from
medication, he would advise you are to correct your ways. Please go back to the earlier chapter
Spirituality in successful sex to get a deeper knowledge in self-abuse and ED.
I know people, who go on dates and before even they propose to each other, start thinking about
having sex, the man wonders if he will have an erection or if he will ejaculate prematurely.
Because the date is ultimately based upon landing in bed, the mind is programmed to think this
way. Many people think this way and they land up having a temporary ED. Men make this big
mistake before having sex. Breathing is as part of our life as erection; it comes spontaneously. If
you are healthy and normal and if you had an erection in the morning, then why should you not
have an erection in the evening? What you need is, to focus on the pleasure of your partner and
not if you are going to have an erection or premature ejaculation. If intimacy and pleasure is
present, erection will follow on its own!
Another way to excite yourself is an oral stimulation of the clitoris. Your partner may experience
several orgasms, thereby making you feel comfortable in her presence. Your erection may be
normal.
Sometimes in our life we encounter this experience similar to ED. This does not mean we are
suffering from ED, far from it. Sometimes, worry, stress, or not being 100% of oneself causes
these temporary phases in ones life. It passes by the next day and we are normal again. So, for
every little sexual inability occasionally, please do not panic or run to your doctor. Try to calm
yourself, reason it out, and give yourself sometime to recover. Hopefully, all will be well in the
next morning.
Treatment for ED will come in later chapter.
10.PREMATURE EJACULATION
Premature ejaculation is a common problem, especially with younger men, caused by a weak
mind, anxiety or the fright of ejaculating prematurely. Sometimes, premature ejaculation
happens with a heightened excitement of touching or getting to having sex with a woman. This
is normal, when the person is young and inexperienced. With age, experience and the control of
mind, premature ejaculation should not occur. Sex which lasts less than 10 minutes is unhealthy
and the man needs to correct himself immediately.
There are different types of ejaculation disorders, such as premature ejaculation (immediately or
soon after penetration), retarded ejaculation (lack of ejaculation) and retrograde ejaculation

(when the sperm on ejaculation is forced back into bladder instead of spurting out from the
penis).
There are several reasons for premature ejaculation; it could be physiological, psychological, or
medial.
Physiological reasons:
Painful foreskin, during penetration may cause early ejaculation.
Weak or hypersensitive pelvic muscles could be another cause.
Some medication or chemical causing blockage of serotonin in the body may also be the cause.
Serotonin is a mood-regulating hormone.
Psychological reasons:
The fright of reaching orgasm and ejaculating before the partner reaches orgasm. Lack of will
power here is the cause.
Having sex in the same bedroom, same position and for long years with the same partner
generally makes the act very monotonous and can cause premature ejaculation.
Sometimes, the cause of premature ejaculation could be sex abuse during childhood, aversion to
the partner, religious taboo (as if sex is sin),
Medical reasons:
Diabetes and surgery of prostate or bladder along with the necessary medication is also the cause
of this condition.
Several medicines may interfere with the control of ejaculation. Anti-depression medicines and
drugs could bring about premature ejaculation.
The cause for premature ejaculation is complex and several underlying reasons could make up
for this cause. I believe the best person to analyze the reason for this syndrome is the person
himself. If the person is not having any disease or under medication, immediately on ejaculation
he may ask himself the cause, he will get the answer instantly. It is how we talk to our body. We
need to be sensitive to our body at all times. Every time our body wants to tell us something, if
we keep ignoring the alarm, we are asking for trouble. How much food is OK for me, how much
drink is ok for me, how much exercise is OK for me? We should learn to talk to our body. In the
same way when we reach orgasm, we need to ask why I ejaculated prematurely, was it over
excitement in watching my partner reaching or having orgasm or her body movements and
expressions with the pleasure; fright of coming quickly or even getting bored of the same sex for
years. Finding sex sinful or feeling guilty of having sex out of wedlock. If you can pinpoint the
reason, you will be able to correct it in later sex sessions. These are the most common reasons for
premature ejaculation which generally gets over with time and experience.
Treatment for premature ejaculation will come in later chapter.
10.PREMATURE EJACULATION
Premature ejaculation is a common problem, especially with younger men, caused by a weak
mind, anxiety or the fright of ejaculating prematurely. Sometimes, premature ejaculation
happens with a heightened excitement of touching or getting to having sex with a woman. This
is normal, when the person is young and inexperienced. With age, experience and the control of
mind, premature ejaculation should not occur. Sex which lasts less than 10 minutes is unhealthy
and the man needs to correct himself immediately.
There are different types of ejaculation disorders, such as premature ejaculation (immediately or
soon after penetration), retarded ejaculation (lack of ejaculation) and retrograde ejaculation

(when the sperm on ejaculation is forced back into bladder instead of spurting out from the
penis).
There are several reasons for premature ejaculation; it could be physiological, psychological, or
medial.
If masturbation will make him impotent or infertile.
If size matters, what if his size is not up to her expectation.
If he cannot perform in bed as well like his partners past lover.
The above are all unnecessary worries which keep troubling men with weak mind and body.
Unless and until the man gets over his weak mind and body, he may never be able to recover
from his sexual or other related problems. Weak mind is also the cause of less testosterone level
in the body. Weak mind does not allow one to change his ways, like habits, lifestyle and his way
of thinking. The person must therefore, choose between good health, good sexual life and sinful
ways with unhealthy lifestyle of living easy and lazy. This change will increase his self-esteem
and confidence level in himself. His sex will automatically get better with confidence in himself.
To change ones lifestyle and living healthy, one need to incorporate the following into his daily
routine: Exercise every day for about half an hour, eat healthy, preferably vegetarian diet rich in
protein, smoking and alcohol in extremely lower side occasionally, avoid stress, settle emotional
issues, sleep well, and keep a good posture. If you genuinely follow this simple advise you will
see your testosterone level going up with your confidence in yourself, all in about 90 days time.
It is a myth that with age one cannot perform in bed. It is not the ageing but the ill effect of past
living when young. Conversely, with age the person gains considerable experience in having sex
and learn ways to delay ejaculation.
Always remember mind and the body has a strong bonding. With your mind stressed and
depressed, you may have temporary setback with your sex.
The funny thing about the mind is, the more you think of your erection and other related sex
problems the worst it gets. With a weak mind, this symptom lingers and makes the situation
worst. When you ignore the issue, see it as temporary and know that, all is well otherwise, you
will see a marked improvement and maybe you will return to becoming normal the next day.
Finally, if all else fails and if you still feel you have a weak mind and body, go and get yourself
enrolled in a boxing, judo or karate school and enroll into fight contests, see for yourself, how
things will change, when you start to get angry and furious with each jab on your face. This is the
last resort for you to increase testosterone level in your body.
12.ILLNESSES- CAUSING SEXUAL PROBLEMS
There are reasons for men to forgo sex or let their desire die down. Some such reasons are
discussed below;
PEYRONIES DISEASE: In this disease the penis is bent or curved. It may not pose any
problem in urinating but it may be painful during sex. The reasons could be genetic disorder,
penile injury or deficiency of vit.E. This condition may be common during middle age and may
disappear by itself or oral medication may improve the condition.
PROSTATITIS: This is an infection or may be an inflammation of the prostate gland; this
condition may cause pain during urination and ejaculation.
URINARY TRACT INFECTION: The bacteria enter the body through the urethra. The
bacteria could cause prostatitis and may even enter the kidneys. All these conditions could cause
pain during sex. Oral medication as well as drinking plenty of water may sooth the condition.

YEAST INFECTION:
This may cause irritation in the opening of the penis which causes
pain during sexual act.
DERMATITIS: A skin condition which may cause severe pain itching and irritation near the
penis. The causes may be some cosmetics, soap or any chemical to which the person is allergic
to. Circumcised men are spared of this condition. Others who have it may experience pain during
intercourse.
HERPES: Herpes is a very painful condition around the penis and at best, sex may be avoided
until it heals. Precaution should be taken not to infect the partner while the condition persists.
PSORIASIS: This bacterial infection makes intercourse very painful and aggravates the already
sensitive skin to deteriorate further. Sex becomes very painful.
PHIMOSIS & PARAPHIMOSIS: When the foreskin of the penis cannot retract over the penis
and when the skin cannot be pulled forward over the penis, respectively. In both these conditions
there is pain during intercourse. Surgery is the best option.
HYPOGONADISM: Due to low testosterone level in the body, there is no or less growth of hair
on the face, shrunk testicles, enlarged breasts. In this situation, the person has little or no
erection and mostly such conditions may be attributed to genetic defects.
STDs: These are a major public health problem all over the world. Untreated or complex cases
may lead to cervical cancer, upper genital tract infection, infertility, HIV as well as defects in
new born babies.
ANAL CANAL CANCER: Anus consists of three different histological types of mucosa,
glandular, transitional and squamous. Tumors developed from any of these three types of mucosa
are referred to as anal canal cancer. Several sex partners, anal intercourse, anal warts and
infection with HIV infected person could all be the cause of this syndrome.
To improve the condition of painful sex men must locate the pain during intercourse. Pain in the
inside or outside, front or back, at the tip or underneath then penis. Only when you can locate the
exact spot of the pain as well as the nature of pain, piercing, dull, sharp, burning, and irritating,
can you tell your doctor exactly what and where the problem lies.
Check your penis and testicles for any growth, cysts, warts, and lumps. Let your doctor know
about this immediately before it turns cancerous or serious. As a matter fact any abnormality in
your sexual part or anal opening may be taken seriously and immediately reported to your doctor
13.HOW TO OVERCOME SEXUAL PROBLEMS
Before you seek professional help in solving your sex problems, it is advisable for you to try to
find an easy remedy to cure yourself. Perhaps this is one reason, why you got hold of this book,
to solve your sexual problem without attending any clinic.
If your problems are not too serious and at an initial stage or maybe only in the mind, some of
the following methods may help to cure you.
Sometimes, your partner may over excite you during intercourse, which may cause premature
ejaculation. This is normal. To overcome this problem, let your partner have several orgasms
before having sex with her. This you can do by rubbing her clitoris or by orally stimulating her
clitoris. Also, remember to keep control, being over exited, this way you will not ejaculate
quickly. Other ways are to have frequent sex with your partner, as a young person you may be
able to do it more frequently, than your older counterpart may. You may even masturbate once
before having actual sex. This delays premature ejaculation. There are desensitizing sprays and
creams available which may reduce the sensitivity of your penis delaying ejaculation, condom
may suffice in some cases. Another method is, not to let the extreme rigidity of your penis reach,

which is the sign of ejaculation. Before the rigidity stage, keep clam and let the penis remain at a
normal erection stage. This delays ejaculation.
When the desire to have sex diminishes, it is a sign that something is wrong in the body or mind.
If you analyze this, you will find worries, stress, depression, partners negative looks, behavior,
or attitude, children, diseases, hormone disorder, may be the cause of your diminishing sexual
desire. You may feel this to be normal, but unfortunately, it is not. Desire for sex in men should
always be present no matter the age. In younger men, the frequency may be more than in older
men. However, the desire must be there, to know that you are healthy. During the early morning
hours when the testosterone level is the highest, there should be an erection and may be the
desire too; this is a good and healthy sign in men.
If there is an intense desire to have sex, other things like erection and ejaculation will follow.
Sometimes, the desire is hidden and overpowered by several factors. The best way is to be with
the partner in a quiet place and have an intimate time together. With touch, kiss and some
stimulation, the desire may gradually be felt, with this erection, penetration and ejaculation may
follow. This one method works most of the time. To enhance the desire, pornographic videos
and movies may further add to the desire. Alcohol is best kept away from the scene which has a
negative effect, on an already sexually weak person.
There is one thing that you need to remember when you are having sex; this is about your
erection. First, when you are exited, blood flows into your arteries and the penis is engorged,
then there is an erection and before you reach orgasm, there is a rigidity of the penis. This
rigidity must be delayed on all account to delay ejaculation and linger the sex for a longer time.
If you can simplify your life your sexual problem is most likely to be gone and you will not only
enjoy better sex, but better health too. If you incorporate the following few suggestions in your
day to day life things will turn out to be better for you:
Work, exercise, stretch, and keep clean, this will improve your self-confidence.
Worry, stress, tension, and anger will only aggravate your mind, try to be calm and take things
easy. Ignore small irritants in life, only then you can have a complete desire for sex and enjoy it
as well.
Avoid animosity and quarrel with your sex partner. Do not take out the worst in her. This is a
sure way to dampen your sex drive.
Sit with your partner and watch some sex movies. Touch each other and stimulate each other to
heighten your desire.
Use your dynamism, imagination and innovation in your style of sex. This will kill the
monotony and boredom and make sex interesting.
Try to improve your sex appeal by changing your looks and using good sexy perfumes. Make
yourself attractive and sexy.
Get yourself massaged for that good blood flow and glowing skin.
Do not be obese. If you are overweight, shed some weight and try to get back to a normal
weight. This will make you feel good and improve the quality of sex in you.
Do not smoke, if you do, quit it immediately. It has nothing to offer except diseases.
Do not work or keep awake late night. You need rest to perform sexually. Lack of sleep makes
you lethargic and may even lose that desire for sex in later years.
The best way to turn on is to touch and caress each other, while you talk and spend time together.
Eat food that may improve your sex drive. Food rich in zinc and zinc supplements are best.
Details are in later chapters.

Cut down on excess carb. Carb gives you energy alright but it also makes you sleepy and dull.
Eat food rich in protein but avoid meat and poultry. They are good quality protein, but with
overall bad influence on your body. It takes a long time to digest meat and poultry which
oxidizes your body and helps age you faster.
Saturated fat must be avoided at all costs. It is also the reason for blockage of arteries around the
penis, due to which blood does not flow into the penile region and becomes the cause of erectile
dysfunction.
Another good reason for low sex desire is low level of sex hormones in the body. This should be
improved with exercise and activities and food.
Keep away from diseases and avoid anti-depressants, these are the major causes for low sex
drive.
Diabetes hinders your sex drive and is a great sex spoiler. Keep it in check, if you have it.
Food, exercise, living happy, contented and having compassion for others, are great sex boosters.
These are just opposite to living unhealthy, eating junk food and leading a life filled with anger
and animosity without any compassion and love for others are great sex destroyers.
14.MEDICAL ATTENTION TO YOUR SEXUAL PROBLEMS.
If you have reached this chapter and still not been able to get over your sexual problems, it
means there is something seriously wrong or you may not have tried enough or did not adhere to
the suggestions given to you in earlier chapters. If anxiety is killing you about your problem or
you want to discuss your problems with a professional, you may go ahead and abreast yourself
further by reading the following chapters. However, if you have time and patience, then please
go back and read this book from the beginning.
Once again you may have come back to this chapter. It is time you understand about the medical
treatment of your sexual problems. There are several ways to improve your condition, or get rid
of the problem from its roots. You may try each one of the following treatments one by one, to
cure you of your problem:
Allopathic drugs and medicines,
Homoeopathic treatment,
Ayurveda and Unani ways of Indian herbs and medicines.
Psychotherapy and similar mental treatment.
Natural therapy.
Each of the above treatment is unique in itself and definitely one of the above should cure you
and put your sexual organ back in working order. The treatments are discussed below.
Allopathic drugs and medicines:
Multivitamins and minerals, Vit.E, Niacin and Zinc, are the most essential for men. Calcium and
magnesium is also recommended.
Mechanical aids such as vacuum pumps and ring /band around the penis may be recommended.
These are uncomfortable, painful and cause numbness to the penis.
Micro vascular surgery helps correct the blood flow to the penis.
Sometimes, amino acid Methionine in empty stomach works. Histidine capsules of 125/250mg,
works too, in high histamine level in young men.
Hormone pills, creams, and injections are also available which your doctor may prescribe. High
testosterone level increases sex drive, while low diminishes it. However, this could cause
prostate enlargement and infertility in men. Testosterone alone may not help erection in severe

cases; it may need to be combined with other medication, such as sildenafil, vardenafil or
tadalafil.
Sildenafil (Viagra) is another successful drug that improves blood flow to the penis. The side
effects are headache, facial flush, blurred vision, dyspepsia, nasal congestion, stomachache,
rhinitis, diarrhea and increased sensitivity to light. In men over 65 or those suffering from kidney
or liver diseases or those taking protease inhibitors, doctor may prescribe Viagra in low doses of
25 mg.
Vardenafil (levitra) was also approved by US, FDA for erectile dysfunction. It was found
successful in retaining erection in men of all ages. However, it causes headache, flushing, nasal
congestion, dyspepsia, body ache, dizziness, nausea, and increased blood levels of the muscle
enzyme, creatine, and kinase. Those with prostate hypertrophy high blood pressure should not
take this medication.
Tadalafil (Cialis) was found to be effective for up to 36 hours in men in maintaining the erection.
Headache, indigestion, back pain, muscle ache, facial flushing and nasal congestion are the side
effects of this medication. Since Tadalafil can cause extreme low blood pressure, those suffering
from benign prostate and under medication for high blood pressure, need not take this medicine,
it may cause further fall in the pressure.
Intra-cavernosal injections are directly injected into the corpora cavernosa to attain and maintain
errection. Drugs, such as papaverine hydrochloride, phentolamine and prostaglandin E1 can be
injected singly or in combination, to attain and maintain erection.
Lazacor is another drug which helps increase bodys production of luteinizing hormone (LH)
level. LH is produced by the pituitary glands.
Flibanserin and Bremelanotide are drugs that may be useful in sex drive improvement.
Vasoactive drug injection will definitely give that erection but causes nodule development, pain
and bruise.
DHEA(dehydroepiandrosterone), an endogenous hormone secreted by adrenal gland. This is a
dietary supplement. Suitable for older men.
Vacuum device is a mechanical pump, which pull out the air from the vacuum chamber where
the penis is placed, allowing the penis to be engorged with blood. A plastic band tightly around
the base of the penis does not allow the blood to flow back, thus maintaining the erection. This
method is painful and makes the penis numb too.
Surgery is another method to keep the erection where a device is implanted to keep the penis
erect. To reconstruct the arteries for normal blood flow to the penis there are other methods too,
which surgery may use to help with a successful erection in men. Surgery in extreme cases may
be the only solution; in time to come it will be the most successful of the entire cure, provided
the problem is physiological and not mental or psychological.
Some known laboratory tests may evaluate erectile dysfunction, such as: Complete blood
counts, Urianalysis, Lipid profile, Blood glucose level, Blood hemoglobin A 1c, Serum creatine,
Liver enzyme and liver function tests, Testosterone level and other hormone levels, PSA levels,
others tests may be done depending upon the symptoms you may have .
Various other tests like X-ray and ultrasound of the penis and testes and spine may be done to
evaluate the dysfunction.
With time, science and technology will provide safer and better treatments for erectile
dysfunction, which is a common symptom in men with sedentary and nocturnal habits. In a few
years from now, there would be a cure for all symptomatic sexual problems. With time, lesser

people will suffer from sexual dysfunctions, perhaps only those, who may not have enough
means to afford the treatment.
It is advisable for the reader, only to take medication with the approval of a practicing doctor, as
it may be risky and life threatening, if these medications are taken over and above other
medications or the person is already suffering from diseases with which these medications may
react. Various side effects and contra indications must be taken into account before the start of
these medications.
Homoeopathic treatment:
Homoeopathy treatment is based upon the symptoms of the patient. Some well-known
medicines are Agnus castus, Lycopodium Clavatum, Kali Phosphoricum, Ignatia Amara,
Gelsemium, Selenium metallicum, Staphysagria, sarsaparilla, Damiana, Trubullus. Ter, besides
there is a number of other medicines which may work wonders in the treatment of erectile
dysfunction in men.
Agnus Castus is the most reliable remedy in diminished sex desire in males. Mother tincture in
water or as directed by the physician will surely show positive effect.
Onosmodium is another extremely powerful pathogen which is used in low sex drive in males.
Low potency works best or as directed by the physician.
Ayurveda and Unani ways of Indian herbs and medicines:
Some of the following herbs are safe and useful in improving sexual vigor:
INDIAN NAMES
BOTANICAL NAMES
Amlakei
Emblica Officinalis,
Arjuna
Terminalia Arjuna,
Ashwagandha*
Withania Somnifera,
Brahmi
Bacopa Monnieri,
Gokshura*
Tribulus Terrestris,
Shatavari
Asperagus Racemosus,
Shilajit
Ozokerite,
Kavach beej/Atma Gupta*
Mucana Pruriens,
Salab Mishri*
Orchis Mascula,
Jaiphal
Myristica Fragrans,
Shveta Mushali
Asparagus Adscendeus,
Safed musli*
Curculigo Orchioides,
Akarakara*
Spanish pellitory,
Kari musli
Salmaria Malabarica,
Vidarikand
Puerari Tuberosa,
Taalmakhana
Hygrophila Apinosa,
Mulethi
Glycyrrhiza Glabra
Kudzu/Shimiabatraji*
Shukla,
Makandi/Karpuravali*
Cooleus Forskohlii,
NOT KNOWN
Yohim
Those marked with * are well-known vigour improvement herbs.
If these herbs are not available readily, which is cheap and affordable, one can try ayurvedic
herbal tonics available worldwide through the net. These are expensive but easily available over
the counter or by mail.
Psychotherapy and similar mental treatment:

Behavioural training in premature ejaculation.

Counselling, sex education and communicating with partner can improve sex in a person.
Psychotherapy can help by providing mental therapy and improve sex.
Behavioural treatment can help by self-stimulation and other methods.
Natural therapy:
The best natural therapy is to have 5 pods of garlic in empty stomach then drink little milk soon
after.
Onion too is good while dry fruits, peanuts, and green leafy vegetables may improve blood
circulation.
Blueberries, bananas, and chocolates may help in improving sexual conditions too.
15.FEMALE SEXUAL DISORDERS
LOSS OF LIBIDO IN WOMEN
Research shows that more women suffer from sexual disorders than their men counterpart do. In
order to understand what actually is sexual disorder, we need first to understand what are the
sexual symptoms in women that completes a cycle of having satisfactory sex:
First, desire to have sex or the phase of excitement that brings the women in a mood to have sex.
Then she is ready for the arousal stage by several physical and mental pleasures by her partner
by the way of one or all five senses and by the words of mouth by her partner.
The women, when ready to have sex, will secrete fluid from her vagina. This fluid helps in
having a pleasurable penetration and sex. The vagina expands while the clitoris, like mens
penis, expands too. Nipple may become hard and erect while, she may breathe faster and
heavier.
After a satisfying sex, on reaching the climax she will have rhythmic vaginal muscle
contractions, which causes a pleasurable sensation; a sign of satisfactory orgasm.
The last stage is relaxation of the entire body and mind. Natural feeling of sleepiness is present
and it is best to sleep after a satisfying sex in order to rejuvenate the body and the mind.
Women, need to pass through all the above stages in progression in order to claim a successful
sex and possess a sexually healthy body and mind. The stages could come sooner for someone
while it may be delayed for another, but the stages must be present in every healthy body and
mind. If, unfortunately, any of the above stages does not occur in her, she may be, in some way,
suffering from sexual problem.
Sexual problem in women is very distressing, not only for her but for her partner too; it could
even lead to a problem in the relationship. It is surprising about 40% of the women, both,
married and unmarried and over 80% of married women suffer from mild to severe sexual
problems. Lack of sexual desire, is the most prominent problem in women followed by
difficulty in arousal and pain during intercourse.
As said in earlier chapters, man is a complex being and any sexual problem is therefore, equally
complex and difficult to locate or zero in on. Generally, the loss of sex drive or desire in women
are mostly mental than physical. Strained relationship, anxiety, loss of privacy, mental agony
and depression, are all reasons for the lack of desire in a woman. This only temporary
phenomenon may be cured with the passing of time and things getting better with her. However
certain percentage of low sex drive remains permanent or almost tenacious, which are caused
due to terminal diseases, ageing and exhaustion. Some diseases, illness, and circumstances may
interfere with low sex drives in women, which also get cured with the passing of time. This will
be discussed in later chapters.

The irony is, sexual dysfunctions in women are seldom reported, and a gradual loss of sexual
desire and the onset of sexual problems are regarded as normal, especially if the women are a
homemaker and bringing up children. Only amongst educated and affluent classes are treatment
undertaken to cure the women of this illness.
Sexuality in women, as in men, is all about mental and physical intimacy and togetherness.
Harmony between the partners can only bring out the true spirit of love and sex. Anything
missing may jeopardize or create strained sexual relationship between the partners.
Each woman is different from another, the desire and stimulation may vary widely. By 30s and
40s, it is said, woman reaches her peak sexual responsiveness, by when she is more confident
about herself and her body. However, this too is greatly influenced by other causes as explained
above.
Sex is mostly in the mind unless there is a physical distress. Unless the woman talks to someone
and seeks help or counseling, it will be difficult for her to get back to normal sex life. She also
needs to understand that, sex life does not end after childbirth or after menopause. A woman
needs to know that, she can enjoy sex throughout her life until old age, if she does not go through
any disease, traumatic mental experience, strained marital relationship or any injury. A normal
woman, active and with a healthy body and mind, will continue to enjoy sex and give pleasure to
her partner too, even after she reaches menopause. This is why, it is important for any woman to
live a healthy life, with healthy habits and thoughts, which pays in the end.
16. SEXUAL DISORDERS IN FEMALES
Sexual disorders in men as well as women are common and for some, especially women, it may
have become a way of life, unreported and unacknowledged; unfortunately, therefore, many such
disorders go untreated.
Mostly, such sex disorders in women are temporary or in a cycle of desire and loss of desire,
depending upon the time, mood and relationship with her partner and the conditions prevailing in
her household, her health and ultimately, her current mindset.
Relationship problem, such as indifferent partner, cheating on her, finance, bringing up children
and regular quarrel and arguments prevents the women in having sex with her man or even
opening herself about sex related problems to him.
Lactating, or a mother to a newborn generally do not like indulging in sex.
Emotional problems such as depression, anxiety, stress, guilt or any feelings of disturbance may
interfere in her sexual performance.
Diseases and illnesses may also be the causes to sexual problems. Most diseases keep the body
and the mind in an uncomfortable state. For instance, terminal disease like cancer may never
allow a woman to have sex; it distresses the body as well as the mind. Illnesses may show
temporary symptoms and is reversible.
Vaginal infection such as yeast infection or STD may make sex unpleasant to a woman.
Injuries, such as spinal surgery or irrecoverable injury may also be the cause of womens sexual
problem.
Medication is another supplementary cause too; major being the disease or the illness due to
which the medication is being taken for its cure.
Unhealthy life style such as smoking, alcohol or drugs intake may interfere with the sex life of a
woman.
Sexual abuse or rape in the past may dampen her desire for sex later in life. The experience is
traumatic and distressing all her life.

Unfortunately, some people belonging to extreme religious groups, view sex as taboo and
indulge in sex only as a duty to her husband and to the family. They derive least pleasure from
sex and find it only a way of having a successor in the family.
Partner without warmth, emotion, or himself with sexual dysfunction diminishes the desire in a
woman to have sex. Mostly they resign to their fate and accept a life without sex.
Menopause may add to the dryness of the vagina but not necessarily impair the desire for sex in a
woman. Menopause sometimes sends a signal of safe sex and the woman may feel free to have
sex without worrying about conception. The sensitivity and pleasure of the clitoris does not
diminish with time. However, menopause causes decrease in the level of estrogens which may be
the cause of low sex drive in women.
Low hormone levels of estrogens, testosterone, and adrenalin could be another cause too.
Ageing women generally lose interest in sex due to low level of androgens. Exhaustion is
another cause in ageing women.
Sometimes, lack of knowledge of the partner or insufficient stimulation and foreplay prevents
women from the arousal stage. This sends a signal of sexual problem, which may not be true.
Only a little effort by the partner may set things right and the women may once again feel loved
and cared, turning her on and rekindle her desire to have sex.
Lack of privacy, such as living in a joint family or insufficient rooms to the couple may add to
this problem.
All the above and many more could be the reasons for sexual disorder in a female.
Genetics and family background greatly influences a woman in her desire, to have sex. Family
with a history of sexual disorder, lack of intelligence and mental sharpness will have females
with lesser desire for sex and with a very little imagination in how to perform in bed. Women
from such families are very loyal and very good homemakers. They have a strong urge to have
children for the sake of completing their family and sex is limited to this family duty only.
Otherwise, sex as pleasure and bedroom game is taboo and a sin. Women use up their energy in
bringing up children and pleasing their husbands or partners with their culinary art and other
home improving activities. In the process, they do not understand the desire and the urge of their
partner to have sex and romance too. This puts a strain in the relationship and it may seem to her
partner, his woman is suffering from sexual dysfunction. Conversely, woman from a healthy and
intelligent family will want to experience and explore all possibilities of pleasurable sex. They
are open and may discuss sex with their partners and exchange views about sex, with their
girlfriends for the sake of evaluating their sex life. They explore and experience sex as a way of
life and put it into practice. However, such women sometimes may show sign of disloyalty or a
desire to have sex elsewhere too. This may happen mostly when the partner is unable to perform
in bed as well as she does. Unfortunately, when the partners of such sexually active women
perform poorly in bed, they mostly lose interest in sex and show sign of sexual dysfunction in
course of time.
A woman should remember that nature made her perfect, unless there was a trauma, disease,
genetic deficiency or any circumstances leading her to forgo and lose interest in sex. She and
only she can find a cure to her sexual problem, unless she prefers to be content, with her way of
life by ignoring her partners desire for sex and romance. Her partner may find ways to gratify
his sexual needs elsewhere, which may put a great deal of strain in the relationship. Women
generally are unreasonable here. They may not want sex themselves and put a restriction on their
partner in having sex elsewhere

17.ILLNESSES THAT CAUSES LOSS OF LIBIDO.

Illnesses are the major causes for the loss of libido in women. Illnesses are always uncomfortable
and disturb the person from within. Even though some illness may not be painful or distressing,
it may keep the person weak and exhausted, thus never allowing the mind to get into any mood
for lovemaking.
Illnesses could be physical or mental. Either way, all affect the sex drive in a woman.
Mental or psychological problems could be anxiety or depression, stress or any family problem,
such as finance or strained relationship, low self-esteem, past experience of sexual abuse or rape,
obesity or a very lean flat shapeless body, all adds up to low sex drive or an extreme loss of
libido.
Physical illnesses include terminal diseases, such as cancer, diabetes, vital organ diseases/failure,
while temporary illnesses may include infection or viral fevers. Injury and surgery of certain
parts of the body may add to the loss of libido, such as spinal injury.
Vaginismus, an involuntary contraction of the vaginal wall, occurs in young women; when
untreated, it may carryon until later years. The cause of vaginismus may be more psychological
such as extreme pain during intercourse due to rape, fear of penile penetration, anxiety, stress, or
traumatic childbirth experience, than physical like vaginal infections such as Yeast infection.
Vaginismus causes extreme pain during intercourse, which may bring more fear in a woman than
pleasure in having sex.
Dyspareunia, a painful condition during sex, is due to the absence or insufficient lubrication in
women. This may happen due to any abnormalities in the ovaries or the pelvis. Vaginal dryness
makes sex very unromantic, both for men as well as women. This condition, if persists, gradually
makes sex more strained and in a to do or not to do situation. Similarly, vulvodynia pain may
occur due to inflammation of the vaginal region or valvar skin which could also cause
dyspareunia in women.
Preorgasmic headache may be dull and the feeling may be felt in the neck as well as the jaw. It
lasts about f an hour on both sides of the temple. It is extremely distressing and takes away the
pleasure of indulging in sex.
Orgasmic headache occurs at the time of reaching orgasm. The throbbing may be felt all over the
head.
Chlamydia trachomatis is the most common cause of bacterial sexually transmitted disease.
Renal failure in women too disturbs the sexual functioning and the desire to have sex.
Anal cancer in women due to infection with human papillomavirus (HPV), frequency of different
sex partners, genital warts, smoking, receptive anal intercourse, and infection with human
immunodeficiency virus, all affects her sex life.
The five stages of a healthy sexual behavior in a woman; desire, arousal, secreting fluid from
vagina, orgasm and relaxation after orgasm, could be disturbed due to various factors in a
womans life. These factors, as mentioned earlier, could be: Diseases, medications, stress,
anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, and aversion to her partner, past sexual abuse/rape, low
hormone level, nursing, or pregnant woman, and unhealthy lifestyle in general.
Unless there is a specific reason for the loss of libido in women, her loss of libido may be more
imaginary and more of a put-off situation. Women, similar to men, find love making with the
same partner and the same situation boring and stereotype. If she does not find sex interesting,
she may never want to get back to the grind of having sex again, leaving it for the next best day
when things will be better and more interesting or relaxing, for instance, on a Saturday night or

Sunday, when work load is lesser. However, circumstances may change the situation and those
days may turn out to be different than planned, the program for sex again is differed to some
other day, this carries on for some time by when the pleasure of having sex in the past erases
from the memory. These erstwhile pleasures are replaced with a more practical thought of all the
mess and undue physical exertion that sex acts brings in a clean bedroom. Eventually this lack
of sexual desire stops the sexual response cycle before the next desire could even start- with the
passing of time and with low level of hormone, it leads to almost a permanent shutdown of the
libido in women.
It is most unfortunate to see how natures most affordable and pleasurable gift to men and
women are so badly disrespected and ignored, bringing unhappiness and strained relationship
between otherwise happy couples.
If only those people suffering from sex problems could stop for a while and think why they are
suffering from what they are suffering; mostly, they may unlock the problems and get back to
their good old selves once again. It is only about finding why and when things started going
wrong in the body and mind to influence sexual conditions in performing poorly or not
performing at all.
18.MEDICAL ATTENTION TO YOUR SEX PROBLEMS.
When everything fails and you may have exhausted all your resources in curing yourself of this
pathetic malady, it is time you consult your doctor. You may discover later that your problem was
more of the mind than the body. Women, generally have reasons that are more psychological
than physiological in diminishing desire for sex. Since fewer women indulge in excessive
smoking, alcohol, stressful jobs and lifestyle, their physiological function remain almost normal.
Their sensitivity towards their personal life plays a great role in their desire for sex. With failing
marriage and stressful home front, they may lose that desire for romance and sex. Meanwhile,
remember having a normal to low libido is very normal and common amongst married people.
When it is the same partner, home, family and daily drudgery, you cannot expect bursting libido
and burning passion all the time as shown in movies and TVs. If you and your partner could only
find time together to harmonies and keep renewing your relationship all the time by taking a long
walk, listening to music, sharing a bottle of wine, bathing together or reading a romantic novel
together; you will find several reasons to be able to have a normal to above normal libido.
Women should know, they are not alone in this world of low libido and sexual problems. Sexual
problems in women are common, a large percentage of women, say about 45%, are suffering
from it across the world. Good news is, many of them are able to get back to their old self again
after undergoing certain therapies. So do not get discouraged. There are several ways you can
seek medical help.
When you approach your doctor for help in this matter, he may ask you certain questions, some
of which may be:
What is disturbing you sexually?
If your interest in sex has changed?
If you have arousal problem?
Do you experience vaginal dryness?
If you still have orgasm?
Any pain or discomfort during sex?
How the situation distresses you?
How long have you been suffering?

Are you still having your menses?

If you have been treated for any terminal disease?
If you have had any gynecological problems?
If you are on certain medication?
Your family problems, if any?
Besides, he may also ask you to undergo certain tests and medical examinations, such as, pelvic
examination, thyroid and other tests, or he may refer you to nay specialist/ sex therapist for help.
After satisfying himself of your situation the doctor may try and find a solution to your problem.
Different branch of medicine may provide different cures. The cure could be categorized as:
Allopathic drugs and medicines,
Homoeopathic treatment,
Ayurveda and Unani and other herbal ways of medicines,
Psychotherapy and similar mental treatment,
Natural therapy.
Each of the above treatment is unique in itself and definitely one of the above should cure you
and put you back sexually active again. The treatments are discussed below.
Allopathic drugs and medicines:
Foremost a woman can visit her GP and discuss the matter in detail, or visit her Gynecologist
who may be better in dealing with her problem. Alternatively, a visit to her psychologist or her
councilor may help deal with her mental conditions, responsible for her low sex drive or simply
the loss of desire. Like Viagra for men, unfortunately, there is no such medicine for women. My
long experience in observing women and their sexual behavior simply find their sex related
problems to be more psychological or mental rather than physical or physiological. This is why
medical fraternity has not been able to come up with any successful drugs for women.
Testosterone in women with androgen deficiency does help, but not much, it definitely comes
with several side effects such as hoarseness, facial hair, and enlargement of the clitoris.
Male hormone definitely helps women in achieving a healthy sex drive. A combination of
esterfied estrogens and of methyltestosterone testosterone with suppresses SHBG does show
results in menopausal females. Females whose ovaries may have been removed may also benefit
from this treatment.
Generally menopausal or ageing women show certain signs, such as depression, low spirit, no
motivation, lack of energy, no interest in sex or romance, osteoporosis, weak muscles or painful
intercourse. A therapy of male hormone, testosterone may certainly help relieve such women of
their problems, bringing them back to an active sexual life once again.
Suction vibrator which applied suction to the clitoris to increase desire has been an almost
failure.
Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) does work; it is recommended for short-term use. Women
using HRT for over 5 years need to stop it immediately for risks of cancer. HRT may cause
cholesterol, colon cancer, Alzheimer disease, heart attack, breast cancer, stroke, blood clots, and
osteoporosis in women, in case of long-term use. While Estrogens-progestin combines,
replacement therapy is suitable for women, who may have undergone hysterectomy. Women
with a history of any cancer, blood clotting, hypertension, liver disease, vaginal bleeding, or any
unknown disorder must avoid HRT.
Women with vaginal dryness may be helped with lubricating gels, hormone creams, or even HRT
for pre and postmenopausal women.

Kegel exercise may help women in increasing the blood flow to her vulvar/vaginal tissues and
strengthen her muscles involved in contractions during orgasm.
Estrogens cream may be used as a lubricant during intercourse only. Vaginal estrogens tablets
are inserted by the help of an applicator which releases hormones inside the vagina. Vaginal
estrogens ring is a flexible ring which is placed inside the vagina. It releases low doses of
hormones in a woman.
DHEA (Dehydroepiandrosterone) a natural precursor of both testosterone and estrogen may be
taken orally for increasing the libido. Unfortunately, it does not have any scientific research
backing.
Niacin(Niacinamide) is a well-known in its ability to increase the blood supply to the sexual
organs. Thus, it plays an active role in improving the female sexual arousal. Other vitamins and
minerals are Vitamin c ( 250/500mg) once or twice daily. Vitamin E(alpha tocopherol acetate)
400iu once daily, B6 50-100mg a day as well as zinc say 30 mg per day. B.complex 50 to 100mg
too is helpful. Several multivitamins containing selenium and other minerals are helpful.
As I said, women are more active mentally to their emotional problems; research shows any antidepressant specially the flibanserin works in women in getting her libido back temporarily. It
is never recommended to stay in any anti-depressant drug for long.
Dopamine, acetylcholine and nitric oxide are all helpful in increasing female libido.
Homoeopathic treatment:
Agnus Castus is the most reliable remedy in diminished sex desire in females. Mother tincture in
water or as directed by the physician will surely show positive effect.
Onosmodium is another extremely powerful pathogen which is used in libido loss in females.
Low potency works best or as directed by the physician.
Ignatia and Sepia are two other remedies which may be used after observing the totality of the
symptoms. They are best given in 6th potency or as directed by the physician. However, these two
medicines works best when based upon the patients symptoms, mind and habits.
Ayurveda, Unani and other herbal ways of medicines: Certain herbs are sure to help females
in curing their loss of libido, herbs such as Shatavari, Ashwagandha, pippali,shilajit, singly or in
combination, 5 gram powdered herbs in little milk, three times a day will definitely show results
in a short span of time.
It is said Black cohosh, ginseng, wild yam, all helps effectively in vaginal dryness.
To increase your libido, the use of herbs like Maca, Tongat Ali, Tribulus Terrestris, Catuaba bark
extract, Horny Goat weed, Ginseng, Saw Palmetto, Yohimbe, and Damiana are recommended
and may be effective.
Psychotherapy and similar mental treatment:
Acupuncture and traditional Chinese medicines have been used for centuries with results in
curing low libido in women as well as male dysfunctions.
Yoga is another wonderful therapy in curing male as well as female sexual problems.
Meditation also helps in calming the mind and distressing it, energising the body and increasing
the hormone level too.
Massage helps in stimulating the body in responding to sex too.
Natural/personal therapy:
A woman during her fertile period may show sign of higher libido naturally. This is natural too in
animals during their most fertile period, which we refer as mating season.

In the first place, when a woman wants to get back to her normal sexual self, it proves she is
active and is aware of her shortcoming sexually. This is the first evidence of her being concerned
about herself. It is a good sign and such women can recover from the sexual problem very
quickly.
Best way to a healthy sex life is to harmonise your relationship by connecting with your partner
mentally, resolve all problems with him, communicate your sexual needs, and settle any issue of
infidelity and mistrust.
A therapy which may include the following may improve the sexual conditions in male as well as
in female: Training the mind to relax and eliminate distractions, communicating in a positive
way something you may like, learning to touch your partner non-sexually, enhancing sexual
stimulation, and trying to eliminate pain during intercourse.
Women should learn to be sensitive to the changes in their sexual desire; this will help them to
identify the reason for their low sexual libido, eventually.
Stay hydrated by drinking plenty of water and /or juices to keep your vagina lubricated during
sexual excitement.
Daily exercise, jogging and yoga sessions are highly recommended. This makes you tired too
which allows you to get a good nights sleep thereby increasing the level of your hormones in the
morning.
Try and get to the bottom of what is going wrong with you, try to pinpoint the cause of your
sexual dysfunction. It could turn out to be only a flimsy reason. When you get over that small
problem, you may be back to your sexy self again. The cause, change in the level of desire,
lifestyle change, any undergoing treatment, books and TV serials that may be disturbing the
mind. All these may bring to open the cause of your low libido.
Stress sometimes disturbs the desire for sex, but it is always temporary and with the stress
subsiding, the desire for sex gets back to normal again.
Some foods may help increase female libido, such as:
Almonds,asparagus,bananas,avocado and ginger.
19.SEX AFTER 60
SEXUAL PROBLEM IN AGEING PEOPLE
Every living being has to age sooner or later. One can defy age for some time, but the ageing
process never stops, which brings about certain changes in human body; here, sexually, it lowers
the testosterone/hormone level in the human body.
Loss of desire and the inability to perform sexually really hurts a person mentally and morally.
They may find several excuses to avoid having sex with their partners. Men may even withdraw
themselves from social gatherings in order to hide their sexual shortcomings. There is nothing to
get disheartened about, therapists can find cure and eventually the person may be able to have
sex regularly.
Ageing, in terms of years or deeds, is ageing. It is only a matter of time before the ageing
process will catch up with the person. A man who may have kept himself free of diseases and
lived a healthy live, may not age as much as another man, younger to him, who may have
indulged in easy and unhealthy lifestyle.
As we age, our body gets weaker and weakened immunity becomes the cause of our ageing
process. For sixty and above years we indulge in so many unhealthy activities, anger, stress,
elated heartbeats, poor lifestyle, illnesses and diseases, anxiety and self-abuse. Most of us are
unable to compensate these on slaughters to our body with meaningful compensation or antidote

which may stop the ageing process. Ageing process therefore, in living beings becomes
inevitable.
As we age, most of us can feel the weakening of our sex drive. This may not be only due to our
failing physical conditions, but it could as well be due to the social and family problems
accumulated in years, troubling the mind. Whatever it may be, it is time one rejuvenates oneself
in order to lead almost a normal sex life till ripe old age.
Yes this is possible, definitely possible, provided the person has the will to reverse his ageing
process. He may need to put in time, money, and effort in order to regain this quality in him.
Unfortunately, in most cases people above 60 find themselves with ailments, minor or major.
Only those who led a healthy lifestyle may be blessed with a body and mind which could
respond to age reversing process. Anyone can take advantage of the following guidelines which
is common to old as well as young people, men or women:
Sleep well for at least 7-9 hours, every 24 hours.
Eat moderately on demand. Vegetarian diet with combination of cereals, pulses, legumes are
equally healthy and cholesterol free.
Eat many times a day, but in small quantity.
Exercise for at least 30 to 45 minutes each day.
Cut down or avoid smoking, alcohol, rich food and unhealthy and junk foods and drinks.
Drink plenty of water to remain hydrated.
Take multivitamin supplements with zinc, selenium and other minerals. Avoid stress and anger.
Unfortunately, all these mean nothing to most people. People are used to sedentary habits and
would always like to indulge in the game of glamour and excitement in life. Most people feel,
adhering to dos and donts makes life very boring and non-exiting. To the contrary, in the end,
those who followed a regimen, and kept up with a healthy lifestyle, are able to enjoy life to the
fullest even after 60s.
The following are the ways people above 60 may find helpful in recovering from a low sex drive,
low libido, and sexual dysfunction:
For people with depression; psychotherapy with antidepressant may help improve their sexual
condition.
If tests show low hormone level, hormone replacement therapy may help improve the condition.
Diabetics have low energy level, with medication and a healthy diet, this condition may improve,
and the person may lead almost a normal sexual life.
Arthritics may take medication, which will prevent joint swellings and pain. This will ease their
pain, allowing them an undisturbed sex.
Viagra are for those who are mentally exited but physically unable. This is a proven medicine
and with the doctors advice one can take it as regularly as prescribed. However, it is not meant
for women.
Another similar pill is called Cialis, unlike Viagra, battery life in human body is charged for 36
hours. Anytime during these 36 hours a man can maintain erection.
For women, estrogens pill helps get back her libido. Sometimes, testosterone level needs
attention too.
Sometimes it is best to talk to your GP or a sex specialist, who may find the underlying cause of
your problem and prescribe medications which may not be harsh but effective.
Just because you do not want to talk to anyone or your doctor about your sexual problem, does
not mean you can pop down pills prescribed for another person or a friend of yours. The

conditions may be different and remember the proverb, One mans medicine is another mans
poison
It is very important for men over 60; clearly specify the kind of illnesses the person is suffering
from as well as the medication he may be taking. Most medication for sexual illnesses may not
be compatible with the prescription drugs the person is already having for other illnesses; in
other words, it may turn out to be injurious.
With the advancement of science, men over 60 may have a normal or near normal sexual life,
only if his approach and treatment are correct and systematic. Drugs and surgery are two ways
things could be set right permanently.
Women above 60 can benefit from hormone replacement therapy as well as psychotherapy.
Fortunately, for women, mostly the problems are superficial and mental. Year after of year of
bringing up children, routine lifestyle, quarrel with her partner on different issues with
depression, emotion and the onset of menopause makes women feel unwanted and unappreciated
after years of contribution to her home and family.
Older women will do best to consult a psychologist, in serious cases, and try finding a solution to
her otherwise healthy heart and physiological system.
20.HOW TO REMAIN SEXY AFTER SIXTY.
How you conducted your sexual life in your 30s or 40s goes to make your sexual life at 60s and
above.
Men who were committed to business and profession and never found time to indulge much in
sex, except of course with their partner occasionally, are people, who may lose interest in sex or
may not be very active sexually when older. Women too, with their entire life committed to their
family and home, may not have been very active sexually.
Very few people are sexually happy and satisfied, but they may not want to share this secret with
you. Perhaps they do not know the meaning of a satisfactory sex life. For them an occasional
sex, with their partner is all they felt were normal.
Amongst most people, pleasing each others partner is all they have learnt about having sex.
Having sex is routine, a compulsion, or one of the commitments in a relationship. It remains
unimportant, if one or both the partners enjoyed those moments.
As you grow older, it becomes increasingly difficult to find time or make a mood for having sex.
Living with older children and grandchildren, living in old age homes, living in shelters provided
for older people, are all great deterrents to having a meaningful sex.
The greatest joy in older couples comes from doing things or travelling together which makes
them happy. When in a relationship people are happy and harmonized, sex comes automatically.
One need not find time to set a date or time for having sex. It should come spontaneously, with
love and naturally.
If both the partners are healthy, live an active life with a healthy lifestyle, have a good
understanding, had been having a healthy sexual relationship all along ,there is no reason why it
should suddenly stop, when one is 60. Being 60 or so is all in the mind, nothing happens to man
or woman psychologically or physiologically, so suddenly as to sexually disable them overnight.
At 60, you and your partner may find more time to spend together. After all those rush hours,
sending children to school, catching a train to work and cooking and cleaning, suddenly when
children are grown up all that time is yours. For men, at 60, unless they are into business or
profession, a retired life allows them to do things they always wanted to do. With children off to
work or college, they have all the time in hand to spend together. This allows them to renew their

relationship and re-establish their understanding once again. With older children in other cities
and towns, parents become very lonely. They may find time to do things which they could not,
for years. All these and much more are the bonus and incentive that nature bestows upon older
couples. It is how we see it and utilize it. Our perspective, if healthy and positive, will have farreaching consequences in harnessing it for our gains.
Like we save money to see us through our old age, in the same way we should save our health to
be able to use it when we are older and with richer experience and more time in hand. If you look
back, you will realize that with each passing day you became wiser than before. At 60 and above,
if your health and energy permits, you would be able to do things much better, than the way you
did years ago, in the same way, sex life should be better for you with the passing of time and
with richer experience!
21.TRUTH ABOUT AGE AND SEX
It is strange how in different cultures people evolve different notions about having sex at
different age group. In some countries and cultures children as young as eleven may engage in
sex, while in others one has to wait till one is twenty year old. While in some culture, ageing
people should stop having sex, which is regarded as taboo for them. The thinking on age and sex
is so controversial that it leaves you wondering what to do next. I would say, simply follow your
own body signal. If you feel you are still romantic and able, then do not stop, while if you find
sex a boring and messy act and for some reason got tired of it, then just stop indulging into one.
The choice is yours.
If for some reason not having sex troubles your mind, you need to see your doctor. If sex is in
your mind and you are unable to perform, definitely, it has nothing to do with your age but your
body and mind, which needs correction.
Sex in old age is all about past time and not having babies. It is a way to rekindle your love and
affection for your partner and a way to keep the relationship going strong until ripe old age, so
keep it going as long as you can.
It is imperative, if older people would like to enjoy sex, to keep appointments with the doctor for
a health checkup. Ageing brings about illness with weakened immunity. With timely treatment,
one can avoid pitfall in health.
With the passing of time, older people are in better health than they used to be decades ago. With
this advantage, they are able to retain good health as well as perform better in bed also. However,
with age, one need to curtail on tobacco, alcohol and other health hazards too, while finding time
for exercising and maintaining active habits too.
It is now socially acceptable for older people to indulge in sex; like the advancement in health
care, sex too is not behind in the advancement of science.
If you want to feel younger do not use hair dye or age defying cream, go and have sex regularly.
This is the best way to release the primary hormones in your body, which will make you feel
younger, than you look and feel right now.
For younger people, it is a myth to have sex after sixty. For those in their sixties, it is a reality. It
is how one conducts ones life in the younger years, say when they were in their 30s and 40s.
Some, in their 40s may physically feel older than many in their 60s. So sex is directly related to
the physical and mental health of the person, men as well as women alike.

Those of you, who are in their 60s and still enjoying sex normally, are lucky and feel confident
of yourself. Such people feel younger than they are and vow to keep themselves going with
active habits and healthy lifestyle.
22.SICK AT SIXTY
Unfortunately, the glamour of having sex and keeping fit and feeling sexy at sixty is only for a
handful of people. Most of those 60 and above are ill or physically unfit and mentally too
preoccupied to indulge in sex any longer. For them sex is a game of the past, they need to think
about serious issues in life and not sex which they indulged into decades ago, now suitable for
their children only.
Men or women, sixty and above are preoccupied with illnesses, diseases, pains, family
problems, business problems and other related issues. For men with their dwindling hormone
level, they may have had experienced low or no performance in their past sexual encounter. This
experience traumatizes them; this bad experience depresses them whenever they want to have
sex again; the thought of not being able to perform is disturbing. This thought itself becomes the
cause of sexual dysfunction in men. Instead of reporting to the doctor about their sexual
inadequacy, people generally prefer to keep quiet and withdraw from sex altogether. They show
their frustration by way of becoming angry, upset, emotional, and anxious
Simple health issues too bother older men. Their physical looks when off clothes, balding or
receding hair, their beer gut/ pot belly and thinning arms and legs, all add to the low self-esteem
of the person. In addition, if a person suffers from sexual dysfunction, he may feel completely let
down, dejected and morose, if not suicidal. This puts a lot of strain in a relationship. Sometimes
even when men are able and willing to have sex, older women , their partners, does not have the
urge to indulge in having sex at all. So, between two older people, unless both are willing to
enjoy the bedroom bash, there is bound to be a conflict and strained relationship, unless both of
them are willing to refrain from this indoor game.
23.MENOPAUSE IN OLDER WOMEN
One significant change in a womans life is the onset of menopause, which may take years to
finally set in. Menopause can take place in a womans life any time between 45 to 60 years of
age.
After the onset of menopause women generally feel older and mentally, sexually less active.
This may not be true, but a misconception, which most people carry with them. After
menopause, women are free from menses and childbirth, as stated earlier; they may become
more active sexually, or enjoy sex without the thought of getting pregnant again. They generally
have grown up children which allows them more free time and less responsibilities. They could
find time to go on holidays and enjoy sex with their partner as and when they wish.
The problem with older women is not menopause but low level of hormones and dry vagina,
both major setbacks in having a normal sex. Low hormone level diminishes sexual desire in
women while dry vagina is the cause of painful intercourse. Fortunately, both these problems are
trifle now with hormone replacement therapy or any of the branches of medicines which may
provide cures for the low level of hormone and the availability of lubricants for dry vagina.
Older women must be warned against sexual inactivity. No amount of age defying creams,
moisturizing lotions or anti-ageing portions will ever help her in maintaining her youthful looks
unless she indulges in a regular meaningful sex. If she had been sexually regular and active
since her younger days, she need to regularly indulge in the activity as long as she feels fine with

it. This will give her elevated hormone level with glowing skin and lesser body fat. This is one
sure natural way to a youthful look and feel.
If all fails and you still have that low libido with low self-esteem, see your doctor immediately.
He has the cure, definitely!
24.SEXUAL PROBLEMS IN WOMEN AT 60.
Women can enjoy sex till a very old age, provided they feel good about it. Those who feel
uncomfortable and never enjoyed sex ever, will find even more reason to wrap up this activity
from their lives, once and for all. Even at an old age sex remains a very important factor in our
lives. For women, even though they may not have completely lost their sex drive, yet they prefer
to think that a very precious part of their life is over with menopause and ageing. This is a wrong
notion. The ageing and the onset of menopause could have been delayed for a much longer
period had she introduced a healthy lifestyle as a daily regime and curtailed certain unhealthy
eating and living habits.
With age, women suffer from certain definite sexual problems, which cannot be got rid of very
easily and naturally. In spite of all healthy lifestyle, problems such as, low hormone level, painful
sexual experience and a dry vagina, are all there to stay forever with an ageing woman.
However, there are remedies available which could reduce these problems temporarily.
At 60 and above women have more serious emotional and stressful mental conditions than
physical ones. These mental depressions and years of stressful life makes them very unfortunate
and therefore, they turn away from sex, romance and other blissful things in life, except
binging(eating), which ultimately makes them obese, bringing in more malady and misery in
their later lives.
Women, after menopause, must undergo a physical as well as mental therapy to improve their
perception of a normal ageing condition which is inherent to all living beings. With the right
medication and the right counseling, older women could get along well with their ageing process.
The will to be able to enjoy life normally should be present in her, in order to succeed in her
endeavor to reverse her ageing process or at least maintain whatever youth is left in her.
25.WAYS TO IMPROVE YOUR SEX DRIVE AT SIXTY.
Take for example a car, the older it gets, the wear and tear increases with age; sincere
maintenance only enables older cars to run and perform smoothly. In the same way, we human
need to maintain our body and rejuvenate it as we grow older. People, 60 and above mostly find
themselves with diminished sex drive, unable to get into the mood of having sex. Indulging in
sex or not is a different matter, but the ability to indulge into one and getting into the mood of
having sex is another; it is a morale booster and makes the person feel good about himself. He
feels confident of himself as well as an elated feeling about himself.
It is very important for anyone therefore, to maintain ones health and indulge into healthy
activities and lifestyle as one grows older. Remember, each one of us is not growing any younger
by the day; we need to take into account this factor before we indulge into activities that may go
against our ageing process.
Health benefits will always make an impact upon you, physically as well as mentally. If you do
not take the trouble to find time and resolve to protect whatever little youth is left within you,
you are killing yourself and pushing yourself to the brink of sexual disaster, all at your own cost
and responsibility.
Maintaining a lifestyle which would keep your body less toxic and more rejuvenated is the
formulae to a blissful and a dignified old age. As I said in the earlier chapters, avoiding alcohol,

drugs, smoking and late night activities and living on a well-balanced diet of vegetables, cereals
and legumes with multivitamins and minerals supplements with exercise or health activities,
would help you reverse your ageing process definitely.
As you exercise, live healthy, and stop unhealthy activities, you will find your body responding
to these lifestyle changes; this will slowly translate into a better-looking body with a fresher
mind and stronger physique. Your body would burn fat, improve bone density, and increase in
muscle mass. This will definitely improve the hormone level in your body, improving your sex
drive and rekindling your urge to indulging in sexual activities.
To gain something you need to lose certain things in life. To get into better health, you need to
cut down on stressful events in your life, late night glamour and unhealthy lifestyle. Otherwise,
age is only a number game, some people at 40-may look and feel older than others in their 60s.
26.VALUABLE INFORMATION ON SEX HEALTH
NATURAL SEX AND HEALTH FOOD FOR ALL
With the progress of science and technology and the researches being conducted on sex health,
what may be right today may be obsolete tomorrow, bringing in better and efficient remedies for
those seeking to correct their sexual health.
Certain things do not change much in years, especially those gifted to us by nature, such as air,
water and food. We have tampered with the growth and preparation of food and therefore, we
write so many articles on this topic. We write about foods which are right and which are wrong.
Vegetables, fruits, cereals, legumes and other food are all healthy, provided correctly consumed.
Intelligent eating is the way to good sex health as well as general health. The following could
guide you to a good and intelligent food and supplement habits:
To enjoy a healthy sex life live on a 100% vegetarian diet, with little milk products, like cheese
and yoghurt. Vegetarian diet, when taken intelligently, provides you with sufficient protein and
nourishes your body better than any other diet. It also gets digested quickly, leaving you fresh
and with a clean stomach. Mixing milk/cheese/yoghurt with legumes, lintels, pulses and cereals
converts the protein quality considerably. Your body absorbs higher percentage of protein from
such combination than just having the cereals, legumes or pulses individually. The combination
converts the protein into eight essential amino acids which the body does not produce and which
in combination, allows the body to absorb the proteins more efficiently. Diet high in meat leaves
your stomach heavy and it takes more time, energy and oxygen to digest a meal with meat. Meat
decays in the stomach for a longer time; as well it is the cause for clogging arteries in the penis,
responsible for a successful erection.
With a moderate quantity of food at frequent intervals, it is also wise to plan a good supplement
consisting of some multivitamins and herbal remedies. Some details on food and herbs are given
below:
HERBS
Shilajit (Ozokerite): It increases virility and sexual stamina, maintaining the normal tone of the
sexual organs. With Ashwagandha(Withania Somnifera), it becomes potent and a great sexual
stimulant. It also works wonder in BPH (Benign prostatic hypertrophy), when combined with
other herbs.
Pippali(Piper longum): Is the key herb for rejuvenating the body and when taken along with
Ashwagandha(Withania Somnifera) it helps the blood flow to the sexual organ, which ultimately
is responsible for a successful penile erection.

Ashwagandha(Withania Somnifera): Is well known for increasing sexual energy as well as

rejuvenating the body. Generally, this herb when taken along with other herbs helps in broader
spectrum in human body. It helps reduce stress, increases strength, calms nerves and stimulates
blood flow. It has dynamic rejuvenating properties. It has anabolic properties which help in
toning and increasing the muscle mass when supplemented with weight lifting. Ashwagandha is
recommended almost in all sexual problems. It could be taken individually or with other herbs
such as Shatavari and Gokshura for excellent results.
Kapikacchu/ Kavach beej (Mucuna pruriens): It works best with Ashwagandha, is
recommended in the treatment of spermatorrhea when taken along with Gokshura. It increases
sexual vigour and potency in men. Combined with other herbs it works well in the treatment of
BPH (Benign prostatic hypertrophy)
Shatavari(Asparagus racemosus): Well known for its rejuvenating effect on female sexual
reproductive organs, is also a male remedy for increasing the sperm count. This herb is cooling,
helping in calming the nerves and eliminating acidity and inflammation.
Bala(Sida cordifolia): Recommended in the exhaustion of body and mind, or chronic fatigue.
This herb tones the reproductive organs of males as well as females. It is strength giving and one
of the best rejuvenating herb, nourishing and strengthening all the body tissues like plasma,
marrow and reproductive tissues.
Vidari kandha(Ipomoea digitata): Recommended in BPH(Benign prostatic hypertrophy) when
combined with other herbs like kapikacchu. It is cooling and therefore, useful in the treatment of
sexual debility, nervous tension. It also tones muscles and promotes spermatogenesis.
Terminalia Arjuna(Arjuna): Spermatorrhea is relieved with the decoction of Arjuna bark and
white sandal according to Sushruta. Harita also advised its decoction in gonorrhea.
Bacopa Monnieri (Brahmi): People also take brahmi to treat backache, hoarseness, mental
illness, epilepsy,joint pain, and sexual performance problems in both men and women.
Tribulus Terrestris (Gokshura): Tribulus Terrestris has been used since ancient times for
different ailments of the male sexual system. It is used in the Ayurvedic medicines. It is used as
an ingredient of different products that are made to increase the sexual drive in men. It helps to
enhance the energy and boost your vitality to make you feel strong and healthy. It helps increase
the libido and sexual drive in men. It is used as a sex booster. Tribulus Terrestris gives energy to
the body cells and tissues and it also acts as an aphrodisiac. It increases the sexual power in men.
It stimulates the release of male sex hormones which help increase the sexual drive and also
provides energy to perform sex efficiently with full vigour. Gokshura is also given for male
impotency caused due to low or poor quality sperm count.
Orchis Mascula (Salab Mishri): It has been traditionally used to treat sexual dysfunctions
encountered in both men and women, such as loss of libido or lack of interest in sex and
infertility, premature ejaculation, low sperm counts and erectile dysfunction.
Myristica Fragrans(Jaiphal): Jaiphal or nutmeg has been used since age-old times as an
aphrodisiac by men. The powers of jaiphal in making men more masculine are only too well
known. Jaiphal improve the nature of male erection and also make the brain respond better to
sexual stimulus. For this reason, jaiphal had once been the only ingredient prescribed
by Ayurvedic doctors to treat problems of erectile dysfunction. Apart from this, nutmeg can help
the brain to relax and thus make the man more confident about his sexual performance.
However, jaiphal is toxic if taken in excess
Asparagus Adscendeus (Shveta Mushali): Asparagus adscendeus, known as Shveta Musali in
Sanskrit, is one such aphrodisiac herb, which is widely recommended in Ayurvedic texts for

improving sexual behavior and boosting fertility. The phytochemicals present in the tuberous
roots of Asparagus adscendeus help to heal underlying conditions that inhibit secretion of sex
hormones that suppress the normal functions of the reproductive system. It is recommended for
improving penile erection, preventing premature ejaculation, increasing sperm count and
mortality. The aphrodisiac property of Asparagus adscendeus is primarily attributed to the
steroidal glycosides present in the root.
Curculigo Orchioides (Sya musli): Is a sexual stimulant and aphrodisiac. It helps to increase
circulation, boosting the blood flow to the genital area and also improving the sperm count, to
ensure better chance of fertilization.
Spanish pellitory (Akarakara): Akarakara is referred as a good sexual enhancer. It boosts the
sexual performance in man as well as women. The low libido problems are solved by this herb
and also effective in treating disorders like premature ejaculation, dysfunction, and impotence. It
contains an essential oil and an alkaloid which acts as rejuvenating nerve & cardiac tonic,
stimulant, and possesses antibacterial properties due to its alkaloid. It is recommended in
premature ejaculation, impotence and chronic bowel disorder. This plant is used as a drug in
sexual disorders of males.
Salmaria Malabarica(Kari musli): Stem bark and gum are aphrodisiac, tonic in seminal
weakness; fruits also effective in weakness of the genital organs.
Puerari Tuberosa (Vidarikand): The main benefit of this woody, climbing vine is its power as
an aphrodisiac. Abundant in the forests of India, Vidarikand finds its way into many health
tonics, correcting a wide range of conditions.
Yohimbe: Yohimbe is a natural but very powerful aphrodisiac. The unique thing about Yohimbe
when
compared
to
other
herbal
aphrodisiacs;
it
not
only
increases
performance
and
heightens
enjoyment;
it
also
has
been
shown
to
help
increase
sexual
arousal.
This
is
extremely
helpful
for
those
suffering
from
sexual
side
effects
or
from
psychological
impotence
or
other physiological problems. With this increased blood flow, there can be
an
increase
in
a
man's
ability to
achieve
and
maintain
erection.
The
enlargement
of
blood
vessels,
particularly
in
the
sexual
organs,
is
generally
the
accepted
benefit
of
taking
Yohimbe.
When
all
of
these
effects
of
Yohimbe
are
combined,
a
man
usually
finds
his
overall
sexual
experience
can
be
more
pleasurable
and greatly enhanced. Yohimbe has been shown to help improve overall mood, promote
relaxation and naturally help diminish anxiety.
Muira Puama extract: Grown in the rain forest it is a sworn herb for curing erectile
dysfunction as well as libido loss. It is also recommended in other ailments like depression,
nervous disorders, digestive and gastrointestinal disorders, cardiac and stress related diseases,
trauma and weakened muscles.
Aloe Vera: This is one extract for so many diseases from head to toe. Excellent for skin therapy,
it is also recommended in sex health when taken fresh from the tree.

Spirulina: Packed with high quality vegetable nutrients, Spirulina has all the goodness for you
and is void of all those that may harm your body. This is a wonder sex food to improve male
vigour.
Avena Sativa: A kind of oats is a mild sexual enhancer. When used in combination with other
herbs its effect becomes more potent.
Hawthorn berries: Packed with nutrients specially vitC and B. It is good for the heart and blood
circulation.
Milk thistle: Is a powerful anti-oxidant and improves liver conditions and all liver diseases due
to alcohol abuse. It needs to be taken in strongest form for absorption in the body.
Ginger: Apart from its use as a spice, it has excellent remedial properties for use in nausea,
morning sickness in pregnant women and inflammatory conditions.
Black cohosh: Typically an older womens remedy during the onset of menopause. It helps in
reducing the uncomfortable conditions associated with menopause in older women.
Ginko biloba extract: It is supposed to have excellent anti-oxidant properties for curing
alzheihmers disease and a mild sex enhancer.
Echinacea: Have this anti-oxidant as your tea or as a pill, it helps build a healthy immunity
system. It is a great blood purifier as well as an antibiotic.
St. Johns wort: It is used to fight depression, anxiety and other mental conditions. It is
supposed to build a strong and healthy mind; healthy mind is what you need for sex health too.
Amla: It has the highest quantity of vitC and therefore, a good anti-oxidant too. Dried or fresh
amla is cheap and easily available.
27.FOOD/FRUITS/VITAMINS/VEGETABLES:
Water: The king amongst all that we consume is water. Water heals and hydrates us. Water when
taken in small doses throughout the day in short intervals, keeps us hydrated, energized and
eliminates toxic wastes from our body. Small doses of water also put less load on our kidneys,
while keeping us hydrated throughout the day. Our body is almost 70% water and 20% water is
found in our muscles in the form of glycogen. We must maintain this level all the time, especially
during the hot summer seasons. Irrespective of your thirst, water must be taken at intervals, for it
to keep your body going efficiently throughout the day. Sometime, water could be mixed with
lemon juice, adding little sugar or salt for taste. It makes the drink refreshing, adding some
vitamin c in the process. At other times water could be partly substituted with watery fruits like
watermelon, citrus fruits and cucumbers. This way you also get some meaningful nutrients.
MULTIVITAMINS AND MINERALS:
In our daily dietary intake, we consume very little vitamins and minerals, much below the
recommended daily allowance; also some vitamins are not produced in our body. This leaves our
body working less efficiently with lower ability in absorbing all the nutrients from the food we
eat. Superficially this may not be visible; however, intake of vitamin and mineral supplements
only shows a marked improvement in our physical and mental health. This is because vitamins
by itself are only a catalyst; it helps otherwise in improving the absorption of nutrients from the
food and drink we take. This is why it is mandatory for us to take multivitamin and mineral
supplements for optimizing the absorption of nutrients from the food and drinks we take
regularly. Several multivitamin and mineral capsules and tonics are available off the shelves
from the local chemists, which are economically prices.
The general health benefits of certain essential vitamins are given below:
VITAMIN A:

1.
2.

boosts immunity
has anti-cancer effects

3.

prevents/reverses aging of the skin

4.

shortens the duration of diseases

5.

assists in growth and repair of body cells

6.

fights skin disorders

7.

improves vision including night blindness

8.

speeds wound healing

builds resistance to respiratory infections

VITAMIN B1:
1.
protects against metabolic imbalances
caused by alcohol
2.
helpful in the treatment of anaemia
9.

3.

improves mental ability

4.

beneficial in treatment of heart disease

5.

useful in neurological disorders

6.

capable of detoxifying lead

helps control diabetes

VITAMIN B2:
1.
protects exercisers from antioxidant damage and boosts athletic performance
2.
protects against anaemia
7.

3.

promotes normal growth and development

protects against cancer

VITAMIN B3:
1.
maintains normal function of the skin, nerves and digestive system
2.
protects against and detoxifies pollutants, alcohol and narcotics
3.
relieves migraine headache
4.

4.

lowers cholesterol and protects against cardiovascular disease

5.

may prevent or treat mental disorders

6.

may be of benefit in diabetes

may reduce high blood pressure

VITAMIN B5:
1.
vital for proper functioning of adrenal glands
2.
helps fight infection by building antibodies
7.

3.

lowers cholesterol and protects against cardiovascular disease

4.

prevents and alleviates arthritis

5.

speeds wound healing

6.

retards aging

7.

detoxifies alcohol

helps prevent fatigue

VITAMIN B6:
1.
boosts immunity
2.
helps normal function of the brain
8.

3.

protects against cancer

4.

relieves symptoms of PMS

5.

helps assimilate carbohydrates, proteins and fats

6.

helps reduce stress

7.

protects against metabolic imbalances

8.

protects against nervous disorders caused by oral contraceptives

9.

helps control diabetes

VITAMIN B12:
1.
alleviates neuropsychiatric disorders and prevents mental deterioration
2.
protects against cancer, especially smoke-induced cancer
3.
protects against toxins and allergens
4.

needed to supplement vegetarian/macrobiotic diets

energizes the body

BIOTIN:
1.
produces healthy hair and prevents greying and balding
2.
boosts normal health of sweat glands, nerve tissue, bone marrow, male sex glands and
blood cells
5.

3.

boosts athletic performance

4.

may ease muscle pain

5.

alleviates eczema and dermatitis

1.
2.

FOLIC ACID:
maintains nervous system, intestinal tract, sex organs, normal patterns of growth
prevents birth defects and is beneficial in the treatment of mental retardation

3.

protects against cancer

4.

promotes healthier skin

5.

beneficial in the treatment of atherosclerosis

6.

prevents canker sores

1.
2.

VITAMIN C:
Fights cancer
boosts immunity against colds and other infections

3.

combats cardiovascular disease

4.

protects against smoking and various pollutants

5.

necessary for proper functioning of the brain and nerves

6.

blocks the conversion of nitrosamines into carcinogens (cancer-causing substances)

7.

lowers cholesterol

8.

helps increase life span

9.

helps prevent diabetes

10.

combats gum disease

11.

encourages iron absorption

1.
2.

VITAMIN D:
protects against cancer
beneficial in the treatment of psoriasis

3.

offers specific protection against tuberculosis

4.

enhances immunity

5.

properly utilizes calcium necessary for strong bones and teeth

1.
2.

VITAMIN E:
protects against neuralgic disorders
boosts the immune system

3.

helps prevent cancer

4.

relieves muscular cramps

5.

extends life span

6.

protects against cardiovascular disease

7.

protects against air pollution and other toxic substances

8.

increases sexual and athletic prowess

9.

helps prevent disease of the breast

VITAMIN K:
1.
beneficial in the treatment of cancer
2.
promotes proper blood clotting helps prevent internal bleeding and haemorrhages
3.

protects against osteoporosis (the loss of calcium is reduced)

Minerals are essential for an active sexual life, for male as well as female. Some essential
minerals which we need for a healthy body and mind are: Boron, calcium, copper, iodine, iron,
magnesium, manganese, phosphorous, potassium, silicone, sodium and zinc. Zinc being the most
important mineral of all, is discussed below.
ZINC: Called "the ultimate sex mineral" by Men's Health magazine, zinc influences a
man's fertility, potency, sex drive and long-term sexual health. Zinc is essential to sperm

production, and most men can blame decreased semen volume and testosterone levels on low
zinc supplies. In fact, each ejaculation can expend up to 5 milligrams of zinc, or almost half of a
man's daily allowance. So if you're getting ready to start a family, a little extra zinc could help
boost your fertility.
Scientists at Wayne State University School of Medicine in Michigan investigated the effects of
zinc on testosterone levels in men between 20 and 80 years old. The study revealed that young
men who restricted dietary zinc intake for 20 weeks experienced decreases in testosterone, while
zinc-deficient elderly men taking zinc supplements for six months experienced increases in
testosterone production.
The good news is that it's easy to keep your body's zinc stores in check. Zinc is abundant in
cereals, nuts, and beans. Zinc supplement is freely available with your chemists.
FIBER:
Unless you are suffering from Irritable bowel syndrome, fiber is essential for your healthy bowel
movement, fat and cholesterol molecules absorption. Fibrous foods are cereals, legumes, pulses,
grains, nuts and vegetables. The opposite of fibrous food are refined food, such as flour and fat.
Refined foods are the cause of several diseases and promote low sex drive; it has property to
promote poor health. Each day a person needs to consume about 40 grams of fiber in the food. If
we eat right we consume this amount of fiber, without us knowing or keeping a tab on our diet.
Sometimes, when fibrous food is missing from our diet we should supplement it with psyllium
husk soaked in water. This way we take in fiber for our gut to work efficiently.
CARBOHYDRATES:
The bad carbs is the simple carbs which comes from sugar, cakes, pastries, soft drinks and white
flour. This is bad carbs and therefore, inferior fuel for our body. In time it will add to the already
deteriorating physical condition a person may already be in. Such carbs only fill you up without
providing you with any nutrients. Complex or the healthy carbs is derived from natural source,
such as wheat bread, brown rice, nuts, wheat, rice, yam, potato, vegetables, cereals, legumes,
pulses, grains and fruits. Unless a person is suffering from type II diabetes, it is necessary for
him to get his carbs from these natural sources. All these high quality carbs provide nutrients to
your body to function efficiently. We need to understand this to be able to identify the food
before we take a bite of it. Since healthy body is attributed to healthy sex life, it is imperative we
encourage the consumption of healthy complex carbs in our diet. If you are already suffering
from some sexual problem, eating of food containing bad carbs will definitely add to your
malady.
PROTEIN:
Again there is bad protein as well as healthy protein. Meat of any kind is extremely rich in
protein, but for our purpose here, it is a total no no. If you are reading this book for yourself or
for anyone else, naturally you are seeking a cure to some sexual problem. If that is so, meat is a
bad protein for those already suffering from sexual problem. Especially the red meat variety, rich
in cholesterol, in time it clogs the arteries responsible for engorging the penis with blood flow,
leading to sexual dysfunction. Besides, meat protein is difficult to digest, it decays in the
stomach, could give you additional diseases and generally not a clean protein anyway. People eat
meat because of habit and for its taste. It is a myth that meat only gives you protein and strength.
If that was so, elephants, bisons, cows, horses, rhinos and hippos would not have been so big and
strong. Vegetable protein from cereals, pulses, grains, legumes, nuts, vegetables, potatoes when
taken in combination with or without little milk or milk products, gives you equally good quality
protein, sufficient to give you strength and stamina. Eat protein intelligently. Do not have too

much protein in one meal; you cannot digest more than 20 grams of protein at a time. So try and
have some protein in every meal. This way each meal would be rich in protein at the same time it
will get absorbed in your body quickly and efficiently.
FAT: There is no end to defining and elaborating on its different kinds. Suffice to say, fat from
meat or any animal fat from meat and dairy are dangerous and deadly. We do need fat in our
body, but instead we need to worry how to eliminate excess fat from our food rather than how to
get some more fat in our food. Fat is ever present most of the time, whenever you eat a spoonful.
Whenever you eat protein and carb, there is some fat present. When you cook, you use fat as a
medium. You need to keep that fat at a minimum, while also checking for its source. Best fat
comes from sunflower, soya and olive oils. Thumb rule is, those fats and lipids which freezes in
the fridge are bad for us while those which remain liquid are good for us. Vegetable fat is better
than animal fat. Fat from nuts and fruits like avocado are good for us too.
FOODS:
Some foods help you boost your sexual power, this is not because, it has some magical power,
but only because it contains natural nutrients which help improve your physiological and mental
functions. So when your mind and body function smoothly, it is natural your sex health will be
benefitted.
Some foods/vegetables universally known to have sex health properties are given below:
Almonds and other nuts/ dry fruits: Also helps reduce bad cholesterol called LDL(low density
lipoprotein) which clogs the arteries to the penis, restricting the blood flow and the cause for
sexual dysfunction. Almonds contain certain nutrients and vitamins such as, magnesium, vit.E,
potassium, protein, phosphorus and zinc. Similarly, other dried fruits and nuts, such as peanuts
and walnuts are equally good source of nutrients and help improve sexual health.
Vegetables: Some vegetables have healthy fat while many are a good source of vegetable
protein, such as soy, Bengal grams, legumes, beans, lintels. These also contain dietary fiber,
vitamins and minerals. One must eat leafy vegetables too, such as spinach, celery parsley, and
lettuce to get all round nutrients, vitamins and minerals. Vegetables like beets and pumpkin are
packed with nutrients. A combination of several vegetables throughout the year will only
provide a balanced diet. Green tea has maximum anti-oxidant properties and needs a mention
here. Its anti-ageing properties will definitely help in improving the general health.
Fruits: Fruits such as bananas give you an added sexual energy, it is also a good source of
dietary fiber, vitamins, minerals, nutrients and potassium and manganese. Again, fruits must be
taken in moderation but regularly. In moderation, as it contains fructose which may cause
diabetes in a person of sedentary habits. Regularly, because not all fruits contains all the
vitamins, minerals and nutrients, so a combination or alternating may provide all the necessary
nutrients in human body. Pomegranates and blueberries are proven fruits having excellent antioxidant properties.
Legumes/beans/lintels/ grains/pulses and cereals: Many from these have a high source of
protein and taken in combination, will provide a complete protein intake. Besides, these are all
good and healthy source of nutrients and vitamins and minerals. One can supplement it with
vegetables, fruits, nut or little milk to boost its valuable properties. When taken in combination
regularly, throughout the year, these foods provide you with uninterrupted nutrients for a healthy
sex life and without worrying about cholesterol, diabetes and other maladies in life. For instance
oatmeal with little milk enhances its nutritional properties. Sunflower seeds and flaxseeds are
packed with nutrients.

Dairy products: Dairy products are actually not recommended in large quantities. Small amount
of milk and cheese are sufficient to turn your cereal, fruits or bran into a powerful meal. So you
need to avoid excess milk products in your diet. Leave that extra milk for the calves; they may
have been deprived of that glass of milk on your table. Yoghurt is the best form of milk. It is an
excellent anti-oxidant and improves your gut health too.
Soy: Once upon a time soy was regarded as a source of high vegetable protein. It is the same
today but with genetic engineering to maximize production, it is a good source of cancer too. So
soy products should be used with caution in your diet.
As a matter of fact all those naturally grown and unprocessed foods are all health giving and full
of different nutrients, each one supplementing the other. However, caution must be exercised to
ensure that some foods and vegetables which may cause allergy to the person, needs to be
avoided from their diet. For an example, gluten in wheat may cause allergy to some people.
Pungent foods such as garlic, onion, ginger and asparagus are all rich in nutrients which may
boost sex health in a person. They also create immunity in the body, when taken regularly.
There are lots of fruits, vegetables and other naturally grown foods that we do not even know.
Different people in different parts of the world will be able to show you the magical properties of
such herbs, fruits and vegetables, which they eat to survive and use some to heal them from
illnesses. You will find it amazing how many different types of plants are found on this earth and
in the water which have excellent healing and sex giving properties. We are ignorant and
deprived of those at the moment. Maybe, science will develop further and gather such plants and
create a centralized bank to ship it to different parts of the world for the benefit of humankind.
It is disturbing to see humankind spending billions of dollars worldwide trying to explore the
sky, whereas we are yet to explore and utilize the natural resources for our benefit. There should
be an international consortium which should invite people from all villages and remote areas,
across the world, asking them to provide details on different plants and vegetation proven to help
improve the health and deter diseases in humankind.
Meat, poultry, honey and other sources from living creatures have not been discussed here, as
these foods, however much touted as health booster, ultimately leaves some adverse conditions
in the human body. Cholesterol, bird-flu, swine-flu, mad-cow disease, foot and mouth disease,
pollen allergy, diseases of the vital organs are all caused due to living on diet rich in meat,
poultry and derivate from other living creatures.
A combination of several herbs will definitely help in improving sexual health and increase sex
drive in men as well as in women. A combination of sex stimulating herbs, vitamins, minerals
and extracts will surely show remarkable improvement in male and female sexual drives.
Coupled with this, if the person takes a combination of health giving cereals, legumes, pulses,
grains, nuts and other ingredients, the general health as well as the sexual health of the person
will improve. It is all about upgrading from bad eating and living habits to a better and healthy
one. Naturally, there will be an improvement in the sexual health when there will be an overall
improvement in the general health condition.
28.QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS IN SEX RELATED PROBLEMS
Q: How important is it for women to maintain their testosterone level?
A: Women too produce and maintain certain level of testosterone in their body. Unlike men, they
produce a smaller amount of this hormone. Testosterone maintains the bone and muscle mass in
women, with an increase in their libido. They also feel elated and better after the replacement.
Health and sexuality is bound to improve with the replacement therapy. However, there are side

effects to this replacement; hoarseness, body hair growth and acne. Technology is yet to find a
suitable way to maintain the testosterone level in women. Immediately after the injection the
level goes up too much and decline gradually. Excessive use of this hormone is not suggested.
Q: How do I avoid sexual problems?
A: If you were born a healthy child and your parents never had any history of sexual diseases and
problems, it is likely you will always have a healthy sex life. However, as we grow we change
our lifestyle and habits, leading to sexual problems also. Some advice on how to avoid sexual
problems is given below:
Stay away from excessive drinking and smoking or any similar habits.
Eat healthy; avoid rich food and late night activities. Maintain good habits most of the time.
Avoid unhealthy lifestyle.
Exercise daily and remain active always.
If you are on medication, adhere to your doctors advice as well as have your medicine on time.
When depressed, seek help.
If you have sex related issues with your partner, discuss the matter instead of brooding.
Stress, worry, fright, anxiety, anger, revenge and similar mental phenomenon are bound to create
a temporary aversion or inability to sex. Do not worry this is natural, you will get over it.
Always keep calm and never get too excited while having sex. It is all very impressive movie
style, but in real life you need to keep your mind focused to avoid premature ejaculation due to
overexcitement.
Q: Why cannot some women climax during intercourse?
A: With age, circumstances and prevailing physical and mental conditions, some women lose
their sex drive sometimes. On set of menopause, pregnancy, illness or family feud, all goes to
disturb the sex drive in a woman; being the cause for not reaching climax during intercourse.
Hypoactive sexual desire disorder may be overcome by talking to your partner or the doctor.
Changes in habits, living conditions and better environment may improve the condition. If you
want to get into better sex health than you are already in, get help. Professional advice,
medication with a healthy physical and mental condition may see you through the bad patch; you
could experience orgasm once again!
Q: There are several advertisements in the net claiming magical cure for sex problems. Do they
work?
A: Yes they work. You pay a fortune for the herbs and extracts which are sold in its country of
origin for a fraction. The Designer herbs and extracts are all impressively packed and labeled
with supplement facts and indication of use. If you read this guide book, you are sure to find
several such herbs and extracts which are readily available in powder and extract forms over the
net. They work equally well without burning a hole in your pocket or if you are a woman, in
your purse. Buying such designer packs are a colossal waste of money. The seller of these
designer herbs and extracts only laughs all the way to his bank counting the cash you parted to
him.
Q: How does exercise help increase sex drive?
A: When you exercise you use your mind to get into those strenuous activities. You naturally
strengthen your mind. With the strenuous activities you strengthen your body. After the exercise
your body releases endorphin, a hormone, precursor to a better feel and heightened mood. When
your body and mind are both strengthened, naturally and logically you are in a better shape and
in a better position to enjoy better sex.

Q: Is there any alternative to testosterone hormone to increase sex drive?

A: Yes definitely, please read chapter Natural sex and health foods/herbs for all. You will find
several such herbs and extracts which will definitely improve your sex drive. They are cheaper
and safer, without any side effect.
Q: Is there any medicine which may reduce sex drive in a male?
A: 5-HTP may reduce sex drive in males, because it converts into serotonin. Serotonin is a
depressant. Depressant anyway causes low sex drive. Please consult a doctor before the use of
this medication.
Q: Is menopause one of the causes of low libido in women? Is there a way to improve the sexual
health of such women?
A: On set of menopause is depressing, coupled with an uneasy mental as well as physical
conditions. During this time women goes through a bad patch in life. Sex may not be the first
thing in mind, partners support and assurance is mandatory. However, there are several herbs
which may help women to pass through this phase and get into a better physical as well as
mental health in enjoying sex. If you read the chapter Medical attention to your sex problem,
you will definitely find a cure.
Q: What will boost sex drive in males and females?
A: Exercise, herbs, healthy foods, vitamin and mineral supplements coupled with a healthy life
style are all necessary to super-charge your sex organs. This is the best, natural and safest way to
enhance your sex drive, male as well as female.
Q: Does medication lower sex drive?
A: Logically yes, of course. If you are on medication, it means you are ill or diseased. If you are
diseased or ailing, naturally you will obviously have a low sex drive. Next the medication which
you may be taking could interfere with your sex health. Medicines such as Beta blockers are
definite to lower your libido. Seek your doctors opinion, if the medicines he prescribes for you
will interfere anyway with your sex life.
Q: Is insulin the cause of low sex libido in men and women?
A: Insulin is a hormone and can never be the cause of low sex libido. Diabetes gradually lowers
sex drive in male as well as female over time.
Q: I had to get my uterus, tubes and ovaries removed. Now I have no sex drive. Can some
remedy improve my condition?
A: Consult a physician who may be able to select the right medication with the right dosage to
get you back for those romantic moments. I feel hormone replacement therapy, herbs and
extracts as well as a healthy diet of nuts, cereals, fruits and vegetables will bring you back to
somewhat enjoy sex again. Unfortunately, there is no definite permanent cure here.
Q: After child birth I have lost interest in sex. What could be the reason?
A: Many, if you want to know. First, after child birth and while you are breast feeding, your sex
drive will dip all-time low. Second, with the baby around, it is a whole time work caring for the
new born, naturally there is no time for sex or romance now. But this is temporary and you will
get over this soon. Keep having multivitamins, mineral and herbs to restore and tone your mind
and body.
Q: I am unable to conceive, what could be the reasons?
A: There are many reasons for not being able to conceive, some are listed below:
Ovulation problem/ infertility.

There could be a defect in your fallopian tube or it could be diseased.

Infertile sperm or azoospermia, oligospermia.
Certain diseases could also be the cause, such as pelvic inflammation.
Premature menopause or ageing.
Infertile or unhealthy ovum.
Q: We are married for many years now, sex has become routine. We do not discuss any sex
related problems anymore. How to tackle this situation?
A: Problem gets bigger, when it is not discussed. The best way to discuss such problems is not in
the bedroom during relaxation and intimacy time but away from it. Fix a time for this and focus
on the subject honestly and be clear of what you want. Do not accuse your partner, things will
get worse and it could also lead to a strained relationship. Best is to discuss with a view to
solving the problem for both of you. The intention should be good and noble while the problem
should be genuine and you are willing to do something about it as well as provide support in
need. Once you start the conversation you break the ice. You can then onwards take up the issue
normally and at any time of the day. You could even suggest an appointment with the physician
for correcting any sexual issues.
Q: Any suggestion on healthy sex for ageing people?
A: The slowing down of the body and mind are all due to lack of proper physical as well as
mental activities and not so much due to ageing. As young people, we keep our mind active and
our body busy. With age and retirement, we tend to go little slow, till such time we get slower.
This is the beginning of all problems sexual and otherwise.
As we age it is compulsory for us to de-stress ourselves by engaging in activities such as yoga,
exercise, cycling, gardening, breathing and Zen exercises. We should also exercise and busy our
mind with cross-word puzzles read serious articles and always tease our brain in whichever way
we can. Eat light and moderately, easy to digest foods. This way we will lead an active and
healthy life, keeping at bay hypertension, vital organ diseases, weakening of the muscles,
Alzheimer and Parkinsons diseases. Talk to some professional people on ways to meditate,
exercise and taking vitamins and supplements. You must eat food rich in anti-oxidants and those
which will de-toxify your body and mind.
Q: I do not enjoy sex with my partner, libido is lost, how to regain it?
A: See under Loss of libido. You need to improve your mental as well as physical conditions.
Medication is helpful always but unless you strengthen and make your body and mind healthy,
medication may work to some extent but you may not see complete cure. Remember, complete
cure in any disease is always from a strong mind which makes a strong body.
Q: Once we start making love, we enjoy it. Unfortunately, I never want to get into the starting
point.
A: Yes, when you do not want to get to that starting point, you need to recall the pleasure you get
with having sex. Partition your mind. Keep the stress and problems in one compartment and
keep your relaxation and romance with your partner in another. You need to remember, there
cannot be any Good time ever in a common mans life. We need to create our good time in
between all the stress and troubles that life offers us.
Q: When I was younger and newly married we had sex regularly. Now at 40 I feel nothing for
sex.

A: See the answer immediately above. You will get back your libido with some exercise and
mental focus. Try some meditation on the net, it will help. All of us are carrying our bundle of
problems, especially with kids and parents around. Get away for a while and see how things will
be different.
Q: I just hate the idea of having sex. I feel my husband does not love me but is only using me as
a sex machine.
A: You did not think this way when you were newly married. Problem is not with your husband,
it is with you. Your husband is normal and virile; you have lost your libido due to several causes.
This is a common problem with most women. Disappearing sex drive in women is common in
50% of married women, which, fortunately, has a quick cure too. Luckily, the disease is in the
mind and not the body. When mind is sick and averse to having sex, the vagina remains dry,
body becomes ticklish to touch and uncomfortable and sometime only, it may be due to
hormonal change and low estrogen level. Try some estrogen cream and some lubricant. If you
like some red wine, have some; make your mood for the evening. You will see your problems
disappear for sometime and you feel younger, energetic and sexually aroused. As mentioned
earlier in the book, unless you have some deep seated problem relating to sex, you will not be
very strongly averse to it. Unfortunately, when the body and mind are not synchronized for sex;
your vagina may be lubricated but your mind may not accept the idea of having sex. This is due
to the lack of knowing when the woman is turned on.
The best way to get back your libido or sex drive is to experiment with romance; get away from
the daily grind and add something new. Try new body spray, new hair style, new ways of
dressing, overhauling yourself will add to your sex drive. Maybe, you can wear some sexy
lingerie and nighties. Ask your partner to use some hormonal perfume spary and use some sex
toys too. See your partner as your sex hero instead of himself, that may turn you on for better.
Watching some porn video clips on the net may also be healthy when all is fair in love and war.
Most sex drives are lost due to issues with partners. After years of relationship you may see your
partner as a big signboard of issues. With years of issues collecting with time, the libido got lost
in that proportion too. From that sign board, take one issue and solve it, take another issue and
solve it. This way, gradually, you will get back your libido in exactly the same way you lost it;
slowly, slowly. Please do not overload yourself permanently; overloading with housework,
children, parents or in-laws, profession, sometimes, maybe economic conditions, all add up to
this miserable condition. It gets worse when you are taken for granted and no one has the time to
appreciate your contribution towards the family. Most of the time, family people and even your
partner remain so busy with their work that appreciation does not occur to them; the same way
your partner may be slogging 10 hours a day and return home never to find appreciation either in
his place of work or home. These are but trifles and should be taken with a grain of salt. Petty
issues are the cause of our troubles in life. Please do not let it influence your mind or body. Petty
issues have created major problems in peoples lives. Ask your husband to take off, when
children are off to school. Have lunch together and bring back that lost romance. It will
definitely work, provided you have an open mind. Also to be more attractive and presentable,
make a personality changeover. Men always like a change in his woman; men are made this
way. Drab, untidy, perspiring wife wearing crushed clothes smelling of curry from the kitchen
does not go down well with men . Same woman; tidy, clean, cosmetically updated and romantic
with full focus on your man, makes a lot of difference.

Q:While I was focused on the TV, my partner slowly tried to put his finger inside my vagina. It
hurt bad.
A: Only when you are ready for sex will you find secretion from your vagina. Your partner is
ignorant of this fact; besides, ethics demand, both partners should be willing and agreeable to
sexual experiments; one without the other is not romance or sex, it is simply animalistic.
Q:Is having sex, while I am a virgin, very painful?
A: With experience, this could be divided into many different situations. This entirely depends
upon the girl and her experience in life. Girls who are willing to have sex and would go for it at
the first go will never find the penetration painful; the mind is ready and willing. Girls who are
being coaxed into having sex; half willing girls find sex painful and sometimes neither
interesting nor pleasurable. Girls who had sexual trauma when young, find their vagina turn
stiff and contracted during penetration. It is extremely painful for them to have sex. Such girls
need to be first comforted, taken into confidence form them to accept the idea of having sex.
Q: Is having sex very pleasureable and exiting?
A: Yes, of course. It is free too! All is well only when both partners are willing and consented to
having sex together. Girls, who are willing and would like to experience love making will find
it pleasurable and heavenly too. Precautions need to be kept in mind for unwanted pregnancy
though.
Q:When can I have sex?
A: The moment you are 18 and above you may have sex. However, the down side of having sex
is more than its upside. For instance, sex is very volatile; you lose the immediate pleasure the
moment it is over. If you love your partner and would like to continue to talk and interact with
him you will find sex even more pleasurable. However, if after sex is over, you find your partner
not so appealing or have nothing to discuss with your him or her, it is unhealthy and
counterproductive. Unwanted pregnancy is another menace. Bringing a child into this world who
will not be loved by both parents is sad and unfortunate. It is easy and fun to have sex; it is
difficult to cope with its after effect many a time.
Q:Healthy and positive sex starts with first knowing your partner, having love for him or her,
there is assurance, confidence, security and above all, love in the heart of both the partners
before sex could be thought of. With such intimacy and a romatic moment of touching each
other, the partners secrete lubricants from the vagina and the penis. This is a sign both partners
are ready to have sex.
Q: My boyfriend wants to have sex. He says it will give both of us pleasure. Should I accept his
suggestion?
A: First, if he is not pressurising you in anyway, you can always defer this plan till such time
you both know each other. Since having sex is a very personal matter, it is imperative, both
partners learns the pros and cons of having sex at any cost. Boys are always in a hurry to have
sex. This is neither right nor should be encouraged. Please of sex is there to stay and it could be
enjoyed better once the confidence level is built up and both the partners enjoys each others
company and have confidence in each other. Never give in to sex, just because the boyfriend
will be angry and break off. It is better if your partner breaks off now than breaking off after
having sex. This idea of having sex someone and then getting intimate with another again is
very distressing for any girl.
Q: What is orgasm, how do I get one?

A: The contraction of your vagina when you reach climax with the hardening of your breasts and
the nipples, breath and pulse getting faster with a feeling you never felt before. If you are
healthy and fit, you will get this orgasm even at your old age. We lose this orgasm with stress,
distress, lifes many problems and malady.
Orgasm is the temporary full stop to your love making. You reach the height of your pleasure just
before the sexual act comes to an end. It is common to both men as well as women.
Q: Should boys and men masturbate?
A: Good question, I recommend every boy and man to masturbate; bringing down the incidence
of rape,molestation and undue embarrassment to unwilling women. Masturbation is a must if
you are having sex on regular basis. There are several factors that recommends masturbation.
When your semen multiplies, it needs to overflow; masturbation allows it to empty it. When you
are hot and want sex, you may go to any extent and anyone to gratify your biological needs.
Rape of an unwilling woman or visiting a prostitute cannot be ruled out. Best practice is to
masturbate. This act does not make the person weak, in fact it is a simulated sexual act, without
any partner. This is logical and does not need any further explanation. If partners are not ready
to have sex, they may masturbate each other or have oral sex. Sex releases endorphin, a hormone
that makes a persons good mood.
Q: Headache during ejaculation.
A: This happens with great excitement during the first few experience of having sex. This may
go away with time. If not, visit your physician for further examination and treatment.
Q:I had sex with my partner; ejaculating in a few minutes. What is wrong with me?
A: Nothing. It is just you got too excited. Keep calm and taker away your thought from your
woman when you are about to ejaculate. Tighten your anal muscle regularly. It will help you
keep going for a longer time.
Q: With diabetes, will I suffer from sexual weaknesses?
A: Yes, if you are a diabetic and never exercise you will first of all, not experience much
pleasure at the time of orgasm and also gradually lose your sexual desire as well as experience
some erectile dysfunction. Unless you exercise and try some fitness regimen on daily basis you
are into lot of sexual trouble with the passing of time.
Q:Why do I have night falls?
A: Everyone experiences night falls due to overflowing of excess sperm from the body.
However, if the night falls are occurring ever day with the semen looking very watery; this is a
matter of little concern. This could happen if you had been watching Erotica, pornographic
movies or read them along with smoking, tobacco chewing and other addictions. To get back to
shape and avoid night falls please start a exercise routine, healthy food and watch a healthy TV
and other programs
Q:For a healthy sexual life, what foods should I avoid?
A: Simple, all foods and habits which are unfriendly to our body, such as coffee, food rich in
hydrogenated oils, junk foods like chips cakes and sweets, all aerated drinks, alcohol, chewing
tobacco and all other foods which are toxic to human body, such as meat and meat fats. Fats are
the cause of cholesterol in human body. Cholesterol and lipids clog the blood vessels reaching
the penis, giving rise to impotency.
Q:I never get wet before sex, in spite of foreplay for a long time. I had been ill and had been on
medical prescriptions> Advise me?

A: Go for a physical exercise regimen on daily basis. Lower the medication as you progress with
your exercise and visit your physician regularly for a check up after lowering your dosage, just
to be sure your body is under control. Too much medicines interfere with the human physiology.
This may be the cause for your not being wet sexually.
Q:Is protein powder harmful to our body? I take this after my exercise.
A: No, not protein powder but other chemicals additionally taken with protein powders may be
harmful. Keep exercising, it is a natural aphrodisiac for males as well as females.
Q:For an exiting and long lasting sex, I take Viagara. Is it harmful.
A: It is a chemical called sildenafil. Yes, it is harmful and may interfere with your normal
ability to have sex. Exercise and good food is the best way to improve your sex drive. The side
effect of this drug is endless. Stop taking it immediately.
Q: Who can be classified a sex addict?
A: Anyone who has an unnatural passion for sex could be regarded as sex addict. Generally, sex
addiction is the side effect of too much porn, sex and similar activities in a persons mind. If the
mind is not engaged in any meaningful activities, it may be distracted by sexual information such
as watching porn and sex on the net TV and flipping through porn magazines. Once the person
is thoroughly engaged, he may not remain a sex addict.
Q: I am obese, will it affect my sex life as a female?
A: Yes, obesity may be due to hormonal imbalance leading to low sex drive. Also obese people
have lower self-esteem as well as could suffer from various ailments such as cardiac problems,
hypertension, diabetes etc. All these interfere with sex. Therefore, best is to cut down fat from
the body, it brings a change in your personality.
Q:What is vaginismus?
A: A condition of the vagina where due to spasm the opening of the vagina contracts due to
spasm and becomes very painful during sexual penetration or inserting anything in the
vagina,like tampon or finger. It is a very uncomfortable situation.
Q: What happens when we have sex without contraceptive and ejaculation inside the vagina.
A: This is an extremely risky situation. Please never try this if you do not want your partner to
become pregnant. An infinitesimal sperm release will make her pregnant. Please use some
precaution during sex.
What is sexually transmitted diseases?
A:Diseases transmitted to your partner during sexual contact or kissing or oral sex is STD. Some
of the common ones include syphilis, gonorrhoea, herpes, genital warts and of
course HIV/AIDS.
Q: I do not get erection
and I feel frustrated, what could be the cause?
A: If you never ever got sexually aroused it is a different matter. If you lately lost your
sexual power, it is matter of concern. The reason could be anything. Please check your
cholesterol level.If it is high, bring it down immediately. This way your arteries will get
unclogged and the blood will flow into your penis engorging it with the rush of blood,
giving you that erection. For other reasons, try sex foods like ginger, chillies, banana,
mushrooms, garlic and onion. If you can find time to exercise it will definitely help you
regain some of your sexual strength.