"What is Humor?

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by Steven M. Sultanoff, PhD
The answer to that question is not a simple one.
First, humor is the experience of incongruity. In one's environment the incongruity may be
experienced when someone falls down in a situation when they are not expected to fall down, or
the incongruity can be between concepts, thoughts, or ideas often illustrated by the punch line of
a joke or the caption of a cartoon.
Second, as James Thurber has stated, "Humor is emotional chaos remembered in
tranquillity." We commonly say, "It wasn't funny at the time." Later with distance we can
appreciate the humor. This occurs frequently when people are experiencing a crisis, and at some
later time the crisis situation is perceived as humorous.
Third, humor can be experienced in the joy of "getting" it. Humor can be the understanding of
something that we at first did not comprehend. This occurs everyday in misunderstandings at
which we laugh.
Fourth, the experience of the "forbidden" (laughing in church), or "getting away with"
something (often seen with children) is often experienced as humorous..
Finally, for me, humor is comprised of three components:
wit, mirth, and laughter.

Wit is the cognitive experience,

mirth the emotional experience, and

laughter the physiological experience.

We often equate laughter with humor, but you do not need to laugh to experience humor.
The more important question instead of "What IS humorous?" is the question "What do You
EXPERIENCE as humorous?"
As individuals we tend to experience humor by either "getting it" (which tends to be cognitive or
intellectual response), by feeling it (which tends to be an emotional response), or by laughing at
it (which is more of a physiological response). There is a wide range of life's experiences that are
experienced as humorous. Like beauty being in the eyes of the beholder, humor is in the funny
bone of the receiver of the experience.

Can one increase one's sense of humor?

According to the Comedian Steve Allen, we can indeed increase our sense of humor.
We can do so by exposing ourselves to those parts of life that we experience as humorous. For
example we can increase our exposure to comics, sitcoms, joke books, comedy clubs, etc. We
can also look for the humor around us as we attempt to expand our comic vision. We can do so
by observing the world through the eyes of exaggeration and a broad silly perspective. I carry a
clown nose with me and wear it in moments when I am trying to spread the humor. I also carry
bubbles and other humorous props in my car so that I have them available for those moments
when I want to be playful or lighten up.

How do I use humor more effectively?

Using humor effectively requires practice and planning ...
For most people using humor effectively requires practice and planning so that one can utilize
"Planned Spontaneity" which is the process of building one's humor repertoire so that it can be
accessed when one wishes. Often I am told by workshop participants, "I can't tell a joke!" My
reply is, "Of course you can, but you must prepare and practice just like you would to learn any
skill. You had to learn and practice to drive a car. When you began, it felt clumsy and awkward,
and today it is an integral part of your life." To use humor effectively requires planning such as
collecting cartoons, one liners, jokes, anecdotes, etc. I keep an extensive humor log on my
computer. I carry a small memo pad with me wherever I go, and when someone tells me a story
or joke that I want to remember I write it down. If I do not write it down, I forget. I plan my
humor by collecting jokes, stories, cartoons, etc. and I use the humor spontaneously as situations
present themselves.

How do I know when to use humor with others?

The safest (interpersonally) times to use humor are:
1. When another person uses humor with you.
2. When you have a strong relationship with the other person.
3. When the situation is socially "appropriate. (Humor at a party and at a funeral may be
experienced differently.)
4. When you use humor that is aimed at yourself (as opposed to humor aimed at another
person.)
5. When you use humor to poke fun at a situation but not at another person or group of
persons.

What is the difference between hurtful and healthful humor?

In general, healthful humor stimulates wit, mirth, or laughter. It creates closeness and
intimacy. Hurtful humor creates pain and distance. Often healthful humor pokes fun at
oneself and situations while harmful humor pokes fun at other individuals or groups. Sarcasm,
put downs, ethnic jokes, and anti jokes (anti men, women, religious groups, nationalities,
ethnicity, etc) are all considered hurtful as opposed to therapeutic. "Laughing with others is an
ice breaker while laughing at others is an ice maker."

Where can I learn more about therapeutic humor?

Read the articles posted on this web site.

Attend humor conferences.

Read books on therapeutic humor.

Visit web sites of various therapeutic humor experts.

What does the research say?

Unfortunately, the research on therapeutic humor is very lacking and most of the research is
actually on laughter and not humor. Laughter of course is a physiological response to humor.
Research has presented the following conclusions:

Laughter reduces serum cortical (a hormone released during the stress response).

Laughter increases imunoglobin A (an antibody that helps fight upper respiratory
disease).

Laughter increases tolerance to pain.

Laughter increases heart rate, pulse rate, and "juggles" the internal organs.

What does the research NOT say:

To my knowledge, there is no research that indicates that Endorphins are secreted during
laughter. It is a commonly held belief that endorphins are released, and proponents of the value
of humor (as well as the media) continue to cite this belief without any evidence as to its
accuracy. (The Tan and Berk studies show some difference between types of endorphins but do
not show an overall increase.) This means that we do not yet know if endorphins are released
during laughter.
There is also no research that indicates that humor heals illness. We may infer that humor is

healing, but there is no direct evidence to support this belief. An inference that humor is healing
can be drawn, for example, in the following way: A wealth of research has indicated that
distressing emotions (depression, anger, anxiety, and stress) are all related to heart disease.
Humor directly changes distressing emotions. Therefore Humor may reduce the risk of heart
disease. (See Dr. Sultanoff's article on humor and heart disease published in the American
Association for Therapeutic Humor Newsletter, November, 1998).

Why is humor essential to an individual's mental health?

Humor is essential to mental health for several reasons.
First, it assists us to connect with others. Our needs to affiliate with others is enhanced through
humor.
Second, humor reduces stress by assisting us to view the world with perspective. Humor
shifts the ways in which we think, and distress is greatly associated with the way we think. It is
not situations that generate our stress, it is the meaning we place on the situations. Humor adjusts
the meaning so that the event is not so powerful. Shakespeare has said, "Nothing is good or bad.
It is thinking that makes it so."
Third, humor helps us by replacing distressing emotions with pleasurable feelings. As I
wrote in one of my articles, "Humor and distressing emotions cannot occupy the same
psychological space." You cannot feel angry, depressed, anxious, guilty, or resentful and
experience humor at the same time. Most of us have experienced a time when we have been
angry and someone, while in the throws of our being angry, does or says something humorous. A
typical response is, "Don't make me laugh. I want to be angry." Intuitively we know that we
cannot maintain distress and experience humor simultaneously.
Fourth, humor changes how we behave, when we experience humor we talk more, make more
eye contact with others, touch others, etc. Humor increases energy, and with increased energy
we may perform activities that we might otherwise avoid.
Fifth, humor changes our biochemical state by decreasing stress hormones and increasing
infection fighting antibodies. It increases our attentiveness, heart rate, and pulse.
Finally, humor is good for mental health because it feels good!

How can a lack or a loss of sense of humor affect a patient's mental health?
Without humor one's thought processes are likely to become stuck and narrowly focused
leading to increased distress.
Since humor helps pull one out of emotional distress, the lack of humor would eliminate a
healthy way for one to feel better. A lack of sense of humor is directly related to a lower self
esteem. A healthy sense of humor is related to being able to laugh at oneself and one's life.

Laughing at oneself can be a way of accepting and respecting oneself. (Note that laughing at
oneself can also be unhealthy if one laughs as a way of self degradation.)

Can humor effectively assist in the treatment of mental illnesses?

Humor can teach others that they can manage their emotions. Since humor replaces emotional
distress, an individual can use humor to reduce distress. An anxious individual can use humor
to lower anxiety by visualizing a humorous situation to replace the view of an anxiety producing
situation.
Humor can also teach perspective helping patients to see reality rather than the distortion that
supports their distress. I frequently teach clients to manage their emotions by using humor to
decrease distress.