Walking on Water (WOW) Seminar

Developed and conducted by

Kairos Center for Empowerment and Transformation
Reference: Matthew 14:22-33
Peter is the only known person who was able to walk on water. He decided to go out
of his comfort zone, jumped out of the boat, thus he was able to walk on water.
Pastoral leaders an enjoined to go out of their boats so that they will be able to
walk on water.

Goals of the Seminar:

1) To let pastoral leaders discover, reflect on, acknowledge, and value the most
significant events in their life and to empower them to use such events as
springboard for their continuing growth and maturity.
2) To experience a common spiritual experience and value such experience as it
relates to their persons
3) To get to know their fellow leaders more deeply than before, and to develop
their sense of unity and cooperation in achieving their missions.
4) To develop communication skills of listening and empathy.
5) To instill among the pastoral leaders on a sense of having a vision and
mission, on deciding to be like Peter who jumped out of his comfort zone
enabling him to walk on water.
PROGRAM
DATE TIME
Day 1 9-10
AM
1010:30

ACTIVITY
Registration
Ice Breaker:
HUMAN BINGO

10:30- MAKE YOUR

11
OWN NAME TAG

OBJECTIVE

MATERIALS

PROCESS

To allow
participants to
discover things
they do not
know yet
about each
other.

Human Bingo
Cards Pens

To let each
participant to
create a
personal
symbol and a
name tag.

1/8 pieces of
light colored
board paper
Pentel pen
Crayons
Pencils
Yarn

Give 1 Human
Bingo Card to
each Pax.
See who gets to
fillup his card
first.
Play fast music.
Prepare prizes
for first 3
winners
Make ID-size cut
outs of board
paper.
Give one to each
Pax.
Pax to create
their own ID in

the board paper

by drawing an
object that
represents their
person.
Incorporate their
name in the
drawing to make
a name tag.
Make the
drawing colorful.
1111:30

Introduction
and Levelling of
Expectations

11:30- Personality
12:00 Style
Assessment

To allow Pax to
express their
expectations
for coming to
the Seminar.

Pen and
Notebook

To allow every
Pax to discover
their dominant
personality
style

PSA
questionnaire
Pen or pencil

On their
notebook, ask
each participant
to write down 3
things they want
to achieve from
this seminar.
Divide the Pax
into groups of 3.
Ask Pax to share
in their Triad the
expectations.
Give them 5
minutes.
After sharing,
ask each group
to stand up,
introduce
themselves and
state their
expectations.
Distribute 1
questionnaire
per Pax.
Give enough
time for them to
fill out
questionnaire
and total their
scores.
Process the
activity by
asking how
many
participants
have a particular
personality
style.

12:00- Lunch
1:00
1-2:30 Bomb Shelter
Exercise

To allow Pax to
reflect on the
value of
human life.

2:303:00

Visit to My
Childhood Home

3:003:15
3:154:00

Coffee Break
Sharing

To develop a
sense of
community.

4:00-

Writing My

To allow Pax to

Bomb Shelter
Handouts

To allow
Music player.
participants to
recall moments
of deep
feelings in
their
childhood.

Pen and

Give one
handout per
participant and
ask them to
answer the
question by
themselves.
Divide them into
3 groups and
ask each group
to come up with
a unified
answer.
Ask the
participants if
they have
decided who to
send outside the
shelter.
Ask those who
answered yes to
leave the
seminar.
Process the
activity.
Play soft music.
Ask participants
to close their
eyes and relax.
Slowly read the
Visit narration.
Mention the:
Silid ng
Kaligayahan
Silid ng
Kalungkutan
Silid ng
Kapayapaan
Process after the
activity.

Ask Pax
volunteers to
share their
experience.
Explain the need

5:00

Eulogy (Self
Affirmation)

reflect on their
lovable
qualities that
are
appreciated by
other people,
which may be
mentioned on
their eulogy.

Notebook

to love
ourselves.
Ask each
participant to
write his/ her
eulogy.

5:006:00
6:007:00

Dinner
Garbage I Want
to Leave Behind
and Night
Prayers

To allow Pax to
reflect on their
personal
beliefs,
attitudes and
behavior that
need to be
changed.

1/4pieces of
paper
Cloy pot
Burning
candle

Lead Pax in
personal
reflection on
their fears,
perceived
weaknesses,
and blocks to
their desire to
be the best
person that they
can be.
Ask Pax to write
down on pieces
of paper these
things.
Each one goes
to the burning
candle to pray
and surrender to
God their
baggages. They
burn the paper
and place it on
the clay pot.

7:007:30

Hand Exercise

To make
participants
aware of their
deeply-held
personal
values, and
how they were
influenced by
their families.

Bond paper

Ask Pax to draw

their hand on
bond paper.
Answer the
questions by
putting a symbol
on each of the
fingers of the
hand:
Questions for
Hand Exercise:
Thumb- How do
I feel about my

relationship with
God? Why?
ForefingerHopes & Dreams
Tall Finger
Strengths
Ring FingerWhat am I
passionate
about?
Small FingerWhat am I
afraid of, and
what help do I
need to
overcome them?

Day 2

7:309:30

Group Sharing

9:3010
10:00

Announcements

Home Sweet
Home
7:30-8 Morning Prayer
a.m.
Attendance

To develop a
deeper sense
of community.
To develop
confidence in
sharing
personal
convictions
and
experiences.

Candles

Participants
grouped into 5.
Each group
brings a candle
and find a
comfortable
place to stay.
Pax share in
their group their
answers one by
one.
Ask group
members to
pray for the
sharer
afterwards.

Joyful and
Adoration
Music
Candles
Bible

Play music and

read from the
Bible. Go around
the room and
ask Pax to
mention a word
from the reading
that is most
meaningful to
them.
Pax offer a short
prayer of
THANKSGIVING.

8:008:30

Dance of No
Persons Left
Behind

To allow Pax to
be aware of
their attitudes
towards
helping others.
To have a fun
time.

Fast Music

8:309:30

Genesis of
Feelings

To allow
participants to
practice
recognizing
feelings and
understanding
how feelings
affect their
actions. To
practice
positive self
talk to
transform the
way one feels.

Handout on
feeling
words.

9:30Coffee Break
10
10:00- Non-Verbal
To allow
10:30 Communication: participants to
SALAMIN
understand
Non-verbal
communication
and how
important it is.

Pax stand
around in a
circle with one
Pax in the
middle.
Middle person
starts to dance.
He will only stop
dancing when
someone else
comes forward
to dance with
him. Continue
until everyone
has the chance
to be in the
middle, dancing.
Process.
Give talk on
Feelings.
Exercise
participants on
naming their
feelings.
Practice self talk
and see what
happens.

Pax divided into

2 groups and
form2 lines.
Each person in
the line face the
one beside him
and do the
exercise.
Designate
persons A and
B. First, A will
lead the
movement and
B follows. After
2 minutes, B
leads and A

follows.
Process.
10:30- Paper Exercise:
11:00 Empathy

To allow pax to
understand
Empathy

11-12

5As Emotional
Supplies
Affirmation
Exercise
The Pot
Nobody
Watches

To allow Pax to
have a chance
to give and
receive
affirmations
from the
group.

12-1
1-2

LUNCH
Blocks and
Helps to a
Loving
Relationship

2:003:00

Meditation on
Matthew 14 :
22-33

To understand
what behavior
triggers
negative
responses and
that one can
choose to be
positive and
motivate
others to act in
a loving way.
To wrapup all
the
impressions of
participants.

One clean
bond paper.

Pax quiet down

and do the
Paper Empathy
exercise.
Smallest
Distribute brown
brown papeer paper bag to
bags.
each participant
1/16 cut out
Each Pax gets as
pieces of
many pieces of
paper. 25 per paper as he
participant.
wants. Write
down affirmation
messages to
people you want
to give them to
in the room.
Pax go around
to give the
message to the
person and
reads it to him
aloud.
Pax go around
the room once
again and give
each other a
hug.
Give Blocks and
Helps talk.
Pax write down
reflections.
Give time for
personal prayer.

Bible
Notebook
and Pen

Read the
Scripture
Passage slowly
and
meditatively.
Do the guided
reflection.
Write a Letter to

3:003:30

Evaluation

To give
Evaluation
participants a
Sheets
chance to give
feedback on
the seminar
and give
suggestions for
improvement.

3:304:00
4:00
5:00

Graduation
Program
Mass

To close the
activity.

Certificates

God on the
reflection How
Would My Life
be Different if I
decided to WALK
ON THE
WATER?
Each Pax to
write down their
positive and
negative
OBSERVATIONS,
FEELINGS,
INSIGHTS, and
SUGGESTIONS
FOR
IMPROVEMENT.

MATERIALS
I. WOW YOURE AMAZING: HUMAN BINGO
Find someone that fits the description on the box. Let him/ her sign it. First to black
out wins.
Born in
January

Fits a size
11 shoes

Has
memorized
a line from
one of Jose
Rizals
poems
Has joined a
marathon

Knows how
to do a
cartwheel

Has won in
a beauty
contest
Will be
voted Most
Friendly

Has a joke
to share

Is wearing
red today

Can sing an
Ilonggo
song

Writes
songs/
poetry
Can dance
like Michael
Jackson

Man who
likes to cook

Knows the
real name of
the Pope
Plays the
guitar

Can quote
the Dalai
Lama
Has won a
dancing
contest
Can sing the
National
Anthem in
English

Man with a
picture of a
girl in his
wallet

Sings like
Madonna

Woman who
is into
martial arts
Is a dead
ringer for a
celebrity

Works his/
her way to
school
Most likely
to succeed
Can recite
the
Panatang
Makabayan

II. WOW IM AMAZING (NAME TAGS)

Settle down and relax. At the count of three gently close your eyes. One-Two-Three.
Imagine you are your best friend looking at you right now. What does he/she see?
Keep that image in your mind and think of a symbol to describe that image. If you
were a flower, what flower would you be If you were a tree, a jewel, a color, a bird,
an animal, a painting or anything, what would you be? Do you honestly like what
you see? Slowly, at the count of three come back to yourself and gently open your
eyes. One-Two-Three.
You will be given ID-sized board papers, draw your symbol on the cards and put
your name on it. Use the crayons and colored pens. DO it fast, you only have 2
minutes. This will be your name tag.
III. WOW THIS IS WHAT I CAME HERE FOR: EXPECTATIONS
Count off to form groups of three. In each group discuss your EXPECTATIONS &
OBJECTIVES for coming to the seminar. Write down three from your group. Choose
a leader. The leader will introduce the members of the group and mention their
expectations. After each group presents give a WOW YOUR AWESOME clap.
IV. WOW THIS IS ME. PERSONALITY STYLE ASSESSMENT
Get one sheet each of the PSA Handout. Answer the personality type test. Lets do
the exercise.
Input: YOUR PERSONALITY AND WAYS OF DEALING WITH THE WORLD

Each of us has a dominant personality style that reflects our individual values and principles
and affects our relationship with others. There are four basic personality styles that we
can use to describe who we are. All of us have some aspect of each style, however, one
style is
usually dominant. Knowing which is our primary style is helpful in developing
empathy, understanding, acceptance and trust in any relationship.
In this exercise, you will weight the response to each question by placing a 4,3,2, or 1 in
each of the boxes: 4 is most like you, 1 is least like you. Each question should have a
different number in each box. By adding the columns down, you can estimate your
dominant personality style in comparison with the other styles.

IMPORTANT: MARK THE BOXES IN TERMS OF WHO YOU ARE, NOT WHO YOU
WOULD LIKE TO BE OR WHO YOU THINK YOU SHOULD BE.
Question

RESPONSE 1

1. The personal
qualities I am
more aware of in
myself are...
2. The strongest
value (principle)
for me is
3. I am attracted
to people who

Gentleness and
warmth

Strength &
capability

Consistency and clarity

Spontaneity &
creativity

Relationship

responsibility

Being correct

Freedom

Are cooperative
and easy to get
along with
Trusting my
intuition
Creating
friendship and
harmony with
them
Helping people
feel good about
themselves
Warm and
personable
Withdraw and
not deal with it

Are responsible
and get things
done
Following the
rules
Persuasion and
direction

Are thorough and think

things through

Are fun and

unique

Careful analysis and

consideration
Influence, discussion,
and a logical approach

My gut reaction

Getting things
done

Advising people and

helping them work
things through
Confident and logical

Causing things
to happen

Having very
little to offer

Incapable of
doing what is
needed

Confused and out of

control

A loser

Withdraw &
compromise

Redouble my
efforts

Discuss and analyze

Challenge and
confront

4. I tend to make
decisions by
5. I get people to
cooperate by
6. I feel best
about myself
when I am
7. I want others
to see me as.
8. When
someone
criticizes me, its
likely that I will
9 When I am
really down on
myself, then I see
myself as...
10. When I am
under stress I
tend to..

TOTALS

RESPONSE 2
#

RESPONSE 3
#

Reliable and
effective
Deal with it and
defend myself

RESPONSE 4
#

Analyze the situation

and others motives

Motivation and
an out-going
creative style

Skillful and
unique
Ignore it and
move on

DESCRIPTION OF PERSONALITY STYLES

Helper: The helpers prime value is to be in relationship with others. Helpers are people who

need people and love to be involved with others. Generally they try to get in touch with others
feelings and are empathetic and intuitive. In relationships they are peacemakers and work to
obtain cooperation, belonging, and harmony. It is very important to the Helper to be seen as
genuine and caring. The helper generally tends to see the positive in situations. They are very
loyal, trusting, supportive, and more concerned with what could be than with what is.

Organizer: The organizer gets things done. They tend to be very responsible, are almost

always prepared and follow the rules. The organizer tends to make a list so they can know
when the job is done. If things are disorganized and lack structure, they need to get them
structured and organized. They tend to be perfectionistic, reliable, stable, and sensible. In
general they do not enjoy lots of change, preferring things to be predictable and orderly. They

tend to look to the past for the basis of decisions, at how something has been done before
(tradition). Among their major gifts are their sense of order and follow-through. They will
almost always do the work first and, if there is time consider pleasure or play.

Thinker: The Thinker enjoys ideas and wants to understand. They enjoy analyzing

situations, tending to be the quiet observers. In general, Thinkers are independent and are
more involved with thoughts and ideas than with emotions. They will follow the rules if the
rules make sense and are logical. The Thinker has a need to be competent and to accumulate
knowledge. They enjoy debate and discussion of ideas. Usually Thinkers tend to be
perfectionists and have difficulty dealing with their own mistakes. They have a desire to be
right. They are great planners because they will work to consider all the options.

Catalyst:

The Catalyst enjoys being free, spontaneous and playful. Catalysts are generally
bold in their actions, enjoy being the center of attention and are risk-takers. They are actionoriented and like to be involved with the here and now. They like making things happen. They
enjoy competition and like variety. They get bored rather easily and will seek change just to
make things interesting and exciting. They enjoy a challenge and tend to do things their way,
often being seen as impulsive. They find rules and structure confining and are looked up to for
their spontaneity and out-going nature.
IMPORTANT: These are general descriptions and may not describe you fully; you may have
other characteristics that are styles other than your dominant personality style.

My personality style is the essence of who I am and how I appear to other people. It
reflects my identity, becoming more apparent from childhood through adulthood. It is
reflected in the things I say, my reactions to the way I perceive and respond to persons,
places, and events around me. It embodies my personal values, beliefs, goals, hopes and
fears.
A behavior is a learned and adaptable manner of presenting myself to win approval, gain
respect or accomplish another end. My behaviors may be different depending on whether
the setting is work, home, or play. My behaviors have been learned over a lifetime, but as
opposed to my personality style, they are much more subject to adaptation and change.
Behaviors can be learned as well as unlearned.
It is important to realize that we normally gravitate toward behaviors that are compatible with
our dominant personality style; however we should never excuse bad behavior by
saying,That is who I am. We cannot change who we are (our personality style) but we
CAN change what we do (our behaviors). Personality Styles, like feelings, are neither right
or wrong, but our behaviors can be.

Reflection Style and Behavior

1. What is my dominant Personality Style?
2. What are my typical behaviors?
3. What are the positive and negative effects of my behaviors on my relationships?
4. Who is the me that I dont want others to see?

V. WOW WE CAN DO IT: FALLOUT SHELTER EXERCISE

Count off to form groups of 10. Get one sheet of the questionnaire each. Each
group select a leader. Group discusses to decide. Group leader announces their
decision.
THE FALLOUT SHELTER
Your group is in charge of experimental stations in the far outposts of civilization. Suddenly
the Third World War breaks out and bombs begin dropping. Places all across the globe are being
destroyed. People are heading for whatever fallout shelters are available. You receive a desperate call
from one of your experimental stations, asking for help.
It seems there are 10 people but there is only enough space, air, food, and water in their
fallout shelter for 6 people for a period of 3 months which is how long they estimate they can safely
stay down there. They realize that if they have to decide among themselves, which 6 should go into
the shelter, they are likely to become irrational and begin fighting. So they have decided to call your
department and leave the decision to you. They will abide by your decision.
But each of you has to quickly get ready to head down to your own fallout shelter. So all you
have time for is to get superficial descriptions of the 10 people. You have half-an-hour to make your
decision. Then you will have to go to your own shelter.
So, as a group you now have a half-hour to decide which four of the ten will have to be
eliminated from the shelter. Before you begin, I want to impress upon you two important
considerations. It is entirely possible that the 6 people you choose to stay in the shelter might be the
only 6 people left to start the human race over again. This choice is therefore, very important. Try to
make the best choices possible. If you do not make a choice in a half-hour, then you are, in fact,
choosing to let the 10 people fight it out among themselves, with the possibility that more than 4
might perish. You have exactly on half-hour. Here is all you know about the 10 people.
1 Bookkeeper 31 years old
2 His wife, six months pregnant
3 Second year medical student (Male)
4 Famous historian-author, 42 years old
5 Hollywood starlet, singer, dancer (Female)
6 Biochemist
7 Rabbi, 54 years old
8 Olympic athlete, all sports
9 College Student (Female)
10 Policeman with gun (they can not be separated)

VI. WOW MY CHILDHOOD: ROOMS IN MY CHILDHOOD HOME

Count off to form groups of 6.
Meditation. At the count of three, slowly close your eyes and imagine you are in
front of your childhood home. You enter the house and look around. Remember
what used to happen in this house. Focus on each part of the house. What do you
see? At the entrance, who do you see? What are they doing? How do you feel
looking at them? You go to the kitchen. What do you see? You walk to the
bedrooms. You look at each of them. What do you see? You look out the window,
what do you see?
How do you feel? What do you feel in every room of the house? Stay with your
feelings. Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out. Breathe in, breathe
out. Slowly come back to the seminar room and open your eyes.
Get one copy of the instruction and a clean sheet of paper. On the paper, draw
the floor plan of your Ancestral Home. Your Childhood Home is the house where
you stayed from the day you were born up to age 10. If you stayed in different
houses, draw a floor plan for each of them. Indicate the parts of the house like
the kitchen, sleeping areas, dining areas, living room, balcony, bathroom, etc. If
you had play areas outside the house, include it. Using the crayons provided,
color the parts of the house according to how you feel about these parts. Blue for
sadness, disappointment or failure, green for hope, yellow for happiness, black
for fear, etc. After the time is up, members of the group should share your floor
plans to one another.
Voluntary sharing. How do you feel about the exercise? What insights, feelings
and observations did you have about yourself? In your opinion, how do these
feelings from your childhood influence your present values, beliefs and principles?

VII. WOW I AM BEAUTIFUL AND LOVED: MY EULOGY

We will have a reflection. If your life ended today, what are the POSITIVE things
people will remember about you? Recall how you showed your parents and family
your love. Recall how your friendship touched the lives of other people. Recall
your achievements, what you are good at. What do people appreciate and admire
about you? How would you describe yourself before God?
How long do you think you still have to live? If you lived to that age which you
desire, what would be your eulogy? What do you want to achieve from now to
that moment? What would you want to live for? What would you have
accomplished?
Write a eulogy for yourself in not les than one page of paper.
Form groups of 3. Share your eulogy to your group.
Voluntary sharing: What new observations, feelings, insights, and realizations
have you discovered?
VIII. WOW I CAN END THIS: GARBAGE I NEED TO LEAVE BEHIND
If there is anything that we want to be, it is to become a better person. There are
things in my life that has hindered me from being the best person I can be.
These are the NEGATIVE beliefs and thoughts I have about myself, that I dont
want other people to know. These beliefs and thoughts make me afraid, confused
and ashamed of myself. These NEGATIVE thoughts, beliefs and attitudes make
me behave in ways that prevent others from loving me. Right now, I want you to
identify these beliefs, thoughts, and attitudes. It may be the pain of not being
good enough for my parents or relatives. It may be a painful memory of
infairness, rejection, abandonment, regrets, neglect, or shame that occurred in
my childhood and remains in my heart to this day. It may be a belief that I am
not capable of something, or that a dream is not for me.
Discover the feelings you have about yourself and see what are these feelings
that stop you from moving towards your dreams.
Write them down. Give them 15 minutes to finish.
In a moment each of us will go out one by one and burn the list in a pot outside
this room. As we wait for our turn, imagine that the items on the list are
garbage. I do not want to keep garbage in my life. I need to get rid of them.
Garbage stinks and isolate me from others. Their weight slow me down and
prevent me from going where I want to go. I therefore make a decision today to

dispose of the garbage I carry around. I will burn them and forget about them. I
will set myself free from them.
Before you burn your list, say a short prayer of thanksgiving to God that you
have the courage and strength to get rid of the garbage in your life.
Voluntary sharing: What new observations, feelings, insights, and realizations
have you discovered?
IX. WOW HANDS
Get 1 piece of clean paper. If you are right handed, draw your LEFT HAND on the
paper. If you are left-handed, draw your RIGHT HAND.
Thumb- How do I feel about my relationship with God? Why?
Forefinger- My hopes & dreams
Tall Finger Things I like about myself
Ring Finger- What am I passionate about?
Small Finger- What am I afraid of, and what help do I need to overcome
them?
Explanation:
Our relationship with God is the most significant relationship we will ever have. If
you do not have a relationship with God until now, be honest about it and share
how you feel. It is important that you be honest about it, at the very least.
Your hopes and dreams. Each one of us have desires in our hearts. We cannot
possibly move towards the future without our dreams and hopes to fuel our
progress. List them down- your dreams for yourself, for your family and loved
ones, for this country.
Things I like about myself. What did you write on your Eulogy? What are the
things that give you self confidence? What are the things that make you a person
to be admired, trusted and depended on?
What am I passionate about? What are the things on which you invest your
energy, time and resources at the moment? Be it your studies, sports, talent of
singing or dancing, getting a girl or boy to notice you or commit to you? What are
the things that you are committed to and for which you will be willing to leave
everything behind?
What am I afraid of, and what help do I need to overcome them? What scares
me? What really scares me? What am I struggling with? Why cant I face it on my
own? Who can help me? How can others help me?
Put a mark, a symbol or a code word on each of the fingers to indicate your
answer.

Form groups of six persons each.

Share your answers in the group. Remember, you are sharing a very sensitive
part of yourself. Consider what you hear as private and confidential. Keep them
to yourselves.
X. MORNING PRAYER
Arrange your seats in a circle. A burning candle is placed at the center.
Observe silence while a Bible passage is read. After the reading, everyone
mentions ONE WORD that seemed to have more significance to him/her.
The passage is read agan and everyone quietly meditates on the word he/
she has chosen.
Everyone is invited to say a short prayer (one or two sentences) of thanks.
XI. DANCE: NO PERSON LEFT BEHIND
When we have to accomplish something as a team, we all have to pitch in and do
our share. In this exercise we will have to help a friend. A participant dances to
the tune we will play. He/ she should not stop dancing until at least one of you
comes to dance with him/ her.
Choose a volunteer to start.
Play a fast, danc-y tune.
Keep the tune playing until everyone has finished dancing.
Voluntary sharing:
What feelings, insights, observations, and new realizations did you have?

XII. GENESIS OF FEELINGS

What are feelings?
Show a picture. Everyone shares a feeling about the picture.
Are feelings important? Do feelings influence the way we relate to another
person? Do feelings affect the way the world is today?
Feelings should be considered in everything we do because they are important
factors about the way we make decisions.
Ways to understand feelings.

Recognise that we have feelings, name the feeling.

Acknowledge. Admit what we feel.
Understand. Know what triggered the feeling. What deeper feelings do we have
about the event? How do we feel about our reaction?
Accept. Be one with your feeling. Appreciate the feeling and how you understand
it.
Make a decision to act.
Can we change the way we feel? What affects the way we feel?
Tapes in our head.
Self talk and turning negative to positive thoughts.
Positive thoughts make us feel positive. Negative thoughts make us feel
negative.
Controlling the way we think to change the way we feel.
Understanding how others feel.
XIII. WOW SALAMIN: NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION
Choose your partner. Form two lines, partners across each other. Assign which is
Line A and Line B. Line A will execute the original action. Line B will immitate the
action as in a mirror.
Applying makeup
Eating a sandwich
Climbing a tree
Painting a wall
Exchange roles.
Cooking fried egg
Making a fire
Pumping water
Eating green mango
XIV. EMPATHY EXERCISE
XV. 5As and THE POT NOBODY WATCHES
We need our personal narcissistic supplies. It does not mean we are selfish or
conceited. We simply have a normal and natural need to be loved for ourselves.
These needs are:
Attention

Affection
Acceptance
Appreciation
Approval
Our self- esteem are like Pots. Some are full, some are empty or anywhere inbetween. Some are cracked and some are new. When it is full, it might be
bubbly, sending out a happy sound. When it is cracked, it may be suffering and
needs to be patched up. We can help each other fill up our POTS. We can do that
by giving each other our much needed 5As.
In this exercise, we will ask you to look at each person around the room and
sense: What does this person need at this time?
Instruction: On a small sheet of paper, write a note to anyone in this room to
express your 5As to that person. Make as many as you need to. Do it now.
Approach that person and read your note to him/ her. Give the note and hug the
person.

XVI. WOW WE CAN BE BETTER: BLOCKS AND HELPS TO A LOVING

COMMUNITY
BLOCKS:
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2.
3.
4.
5.
6.
7.
8.
9.

Criticism
Hostility
Disrespect
Control
Suspicion
Fighting
Indifference
Selfishness
?

HELPS
1. Praise
2. Acceptance & Understanding
3. Forgiveness
4. Giving
5. Joy
6. Trust
7. Respect
8. Listening
9. Mystery (?)

XVII. WHAT WOW MEANS

WALKING ON WATER (Matthew 14:22-33)

Then he made the disciples get into the boat and precede him to the other side, while
he dismissed the crowds.
After doing so, he went up on the mountain by himself to pray. When it was evening
he was there alone.
Meanwhile the boat, already a few miles offshore, was being tossed about by the
waves, for the wind was against it.
During the fourth watch of the night, he came toward them, walking on the sea.
When the disciples saw him walking on the sea they were terrified. "It is a ghost," they
said, and they cried out in fear.
At once (Jesus) spoke to them, "Take courage, it is I; do not be afraid."
Peter said to him in reply, "Lord, if it is you, command me to come to you on the
water."
He said, "Come." Peter got out of the boat and began to walk on the water toward
Jesus.
But when he saw how (strong) the wind was he became frightened; and, beginning to
sink, he cried out, "Lord, save me!"
Immediately Jesus stretched out his hand and caught him, and said to him, "O you of
little faith, why did you doubt?"
After they got into the boat, the wind died down.
Those who were in the boat did him homage, saying, "Truly, you are the Son of God."
POINTERS FOR DISCUSSION:
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6.

The disciples were in the boat and it was around 3 in the morning. What is
your boat? In what are you comfortable and seem secure? What keeps
you content and unwilling to change?
There was a wind and the waves were against the boat. What are the
waves that rock your boat? The challenges that appear to threaten your
status quo?
At first the disciples were terrified of Jesus. What about your dreams and
challenges terrify you? What keeps you afraid of what you do not know?
Jesus spoke It is I, do not be afraid. Who is your anchor? Where do you
find your strength?
Peter spoke Lord if it is you, COMMAND ME to walk to you through the
water. If you pray and ASK, Lord COMMAND ME to walk towards YOU.
Jesus answered Come and Peter started to GET OUT OF THE BOAT and
walk on the water TOWARD Jesus. When Jesus answers, you must GET

OUT OF THE BOAT and walk on the water towards Jesus. Focus on Jesus.
Get out of the comfort zone and take that walk. Start doing that
incredible, amazing job.
7. But then Peter saw the wind and he became frightened and began to sink.
It is not guaranteed that once we are on the water, there will be no
complications. Expect trouble.
8. Peter cried out Lord, save me. Jesus stretched out His hand and caught
him. Be sure that whenever trouble comes, we can still call on the Lord
again and he will be there to catch us.
9. Jesus said to him O, you of little faith. Why did you doubt? It is always
the case that when we encounter complications we lose faith.
10. After they got into the boat, the wind died down. But when Jesus puts you
on the boat again, the troubles go away.

EVALUATION
1. Name 3 significant learnings that you got from the seminar.

2. Name a life-changing benefit that that you personally obtained from

undergoing this seminar.

4. Name 3 things you want to improve in this seminar.

5. What do you suggest to improve this seminar?