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LaRoyce Farmer-Cottrell
We can agree that telling someone the truth is the best way we can
make others aware of their shortcomings; however, we often fail to use
the wisdom needed in delivering the truth in a biblical way.
The word of God says in Psalms 33:4 For the word of the Lord is
right, and all his works are done in truth. We have established that all
that God is and does is ordained by truth.
Christ is truth!
Christ rules by truth!
The truth motivates Christ!
We know that Christ rules in truth by reading Psalms 96:12-13
Let the field be joyful, and all that is therein: then shall all
the trees of the woods rejoice before the Lord, for he
cometh, for he cometh to judge the earth, he shall judge the
world with righteousness and the people with His truth.
How do we know that the truth motivates Christ? Psalm 25:10 All the
paths of the Lord are mercy and truth unto such as keep his covenant
and his testimonies.
In the verse above we see how both truth and wisdom go hand in
hand. With truth comes responsibility. With wisdom we can be
responsible with the truth. What is wisdom? Wisdom is simply
understanding and knowledge gained by experience. Wisdom is a
characteristic of God. When we gain wisdom we have taken on
Godliness.
Simply put:
Love is patient.
Love is Kind.
Love does not envy.
Love does not boast.
Love is not proud.
Love is not rude.
Love is not self-seeking.
Love is not easily angered.
Love keeps no record of wrong.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
Love always protects.
Love always hopes.
Love always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Have you ever prayed before telling someone the truth? Have you
asked the Lord if your motives are pure before you attempt to open your
mouth? Have you asked the Lord if this is some thing to confront or let
go? Have you ever asked the Lord if the other person can handle the
truth right now? If you are ready for delivery or do you need to go pray?
Have you properly lined yourself and armed yourself with the word of
God before combating what could lead to strife if you aren’t careful?
Have you asked the Lord about you? Prayed about you? Are you in the
clear?
The Bible speaks of being in the right season, speaking at the right
time. To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose
under the heaven: A time to rend, and a time to sew, a time to keep
silent, and a time to speak…Ecclesiastes 3:1-7 this verse let us know
that timing is important to God. The lips of the righteous know what is
acceptable: but the mouth of the wicked speaketh frowardness.
Proverbs 10:32 Wouldn’t it be nice if we grasped the understanding of
being in seasons, in truth, and honesty. This takes humility. (…with all
lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in
love: Ephesians 4:2) It takes willingness to give up being right to learn
the right way of doing something. When we ask God to teach us to
speak, we can accomplish His will with our lips. D.L. Moody says that
“God sends no one away empty except those who are full of
themselves.” Being prideful starts trouble. It starts trouble in the
spiritual realm as well as the natural. When we come in contact with
arrogant, blunt, straightforward people, we never forget the experience.
Most times we regret having conversations with them and pray to never
have another one. On the other hand, humility is pleasing to others.
You can never offend anyone by being modest in speech. To be humble
is to get self out of the way and focus on other people, their needs,
feelings, emotions. Humility in speech keeps the focus off you and puts
the focus on God. The Bible teaches us that,
“He that is of a proud heart stirreth up strife: but he that putteth his
truth in the Lord shall be made fat. He that trusteth in his own heart is
a fool: but whose walketh wisely, he shall be delivered”.
Let our God deliver you from harshness, bluntness, and telling it like it
is without being in the spirit of love and meekness. Remember this,
when you speak you are at all times representing God. You are in
ministry twenty four hours of the day. You can choose to minister love
with your lips or poisons. Isn’t the truth ministry in itself? And we are
just the instruments by which it is delivered? People of God let us not
walk in pride but in humility. Not stirring up strife but Love. Hatred
stirreth up stife: but love covereth all sins. Proverb 10:12 Another
example of impurity in speech is where there is frowardness, strife will
follow. A froward man soweth strife: and a whisper seperateth chief
friends. Proverb 16:28
See yourself through the eyes of God. The bible is a mirror and
the image we reflect must be in line with what we read. What we
read must line up with what we live.
What motives are we using to tell the truth? What is the reason for
our behavior? What’s the goal or the incentive? Are we being driven by
revenge? Is it selfish ambitions? The force behind our ways are
questionable. They are not pure. Some are knowing and some without
knowledge. This is just the way we have grown accustomed to doing
things.
When we have a heart filled with these types of attitudes, how can we
begin to say we know truth? Our heart condition must change before we
can speak truth.
Lord, create in me a clean heart and renew the right spirit
in me. Colossian 4:6 says…Let your speech be always with
grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought
to answer every man.
When speaking say only what must be said. When telling the truth say
what’s true and avoid the trap of protecting your self more than the
person you are speaking with. Remember the truth is not something that
is always easy for the listener or the presenter, so if you are enjoying
telling someone the truth, you may want to check your motives behind
why you chose to deliver this particular message.
“Keep in mind that 99.44 percent of the truth is about as big a dose as
anyone can handle. The other .55 percent is lethal. Resist the
temptation to disclose the deadly part of the message.” (Nicholas V
Juppa)
Words To Avoid When Delivering The Truth
Some words are just designed to have another person put up their
guard. How can we deliver a message when the first sentence we’ve
opened to do our bidding has already done harm to the listener? Such
phrases as: “First of all,” “The problem with you is,” “What you need
to do is,” “Your biggest mistake is,” “I hate when you,” “Why can’t
you,” “Let me tell you something for your own good,” “That’s silly,”
“You just don’t think,” “What kind of person would do that,” “How
stupid can you be?,” “How can you let something like that bother you?,”
“You’re being childish,” “You did it this time,” “That’s it!,” and the list
goes on. What am I saying here? I am saying that we can’t start off
with criticism without continuing to be that way throughout the
conversation. Already we have attacked the listener and their job is now
to defend themselves at any cost. Their reaction to us will be negative
because we offered them a negative delivery. Where there is patience
and humility, there is neither strife nor anger.
When we are setting the right foundations for truth they must be
Godly. For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace… (1st Cor.
14:33) We must place a firm foundation on walking peaceably. “It is
important to say what you mean as well as it is to mean what you say.”
Using sarcasm or cynicism are not Godly ways of speaking honestly in a
spirit of peace. These are tools that Satan uses to bring about confusion
and strife.
A key to keeping peace is becoming a good listener. You can miss the
other person’s reasoning or feelings or even apology if all you are
concerned about is how powerful your responses should be when it’s
your turn to talk. To communicate successfully is to pay close attention
to the other person. Are you monopolizing the conversation? What is
the posture of the person who’s doing the listening? Are you asking
questions making sure what is being said is what you really mean to get
across or if what you have said has been taken another way. “It takes
two to speak the truth, one to speak and another to hear.” (Henry David
Thoreau) God gave us two ears and one mouth for very good reasons.
He expects us listen to others not just tell them to listen to us. James
1:19 says….Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to
hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. A wise man listens.
Lord, teach me to be a servant that you can entrust with the truth.
Not my truth or way of dealing with the truth, but your truth. Lord,
instruct my spiritual eyes and ears to know the inner needs of my brother
and sister so I can help them grow in you. Lord use me for a tool so the
world can see how beautiful you are. Help me to Speak at the right time
and let me always pray about what I want to say before I say it. Help me
not to allow my emotions to dictate to me what words or phrases I use,
but that your Spirit will speak truth and it will be life and not death to
the listener. Lord forgive me of past hurt I’ve caused others, by being
ignorant of what you desire me to do. Let grace and mercy be my
teachers as I walk in integrity. I love you Lord. I want all that I do and
say to reflect the love I have inside of me that was given by you. Help
me to teach as well as be teachable; to honor the truth and speak the
truth clearly. I ask these things in your name Father God. Amen.
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