Adultery

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This article is about the act of adultery or extramarital sex.

For other uses, see Adultery (disambiguation). For a broad
overview, see Religion and sexuality
Historically, many cultures have considered adultery as a
very serious crime. Adultery often incurred severe
punishment, usually for the woman and sometimes for the
man, with penalties including capital
punishment, mutilation or torture.[2] Such punishments have
gradually fallen into disfavor, especially in Western
countries from the 19th century. In most Western countries,
adultery itself is no longer a criminal offense, but may still
have legal consequences, particularly in divorce cases. For
example, in fault-based family law jurisdictions, adultery
almost always constitutes a ground for divorce and may be a
factor in property settlement, the custody of children, the
denial of alimony, etc. Adultery is not a ground for divorce in
jurisdictions which have adopted a no-fault divorcemodel. In
some societies and among certain religious adherents,
adultery may affect the social status of those involved, and
may result in social ostracism.

Cause and Effects of Adultery

Adultery seems to be one of the most hurtful sins in any
marriage. Adultery can be the determination of whether a
marriage is strong or fragile. Many sins can be done I a
marriage but adultery is a very serious act of sin. This sin
can break up many families and cause many harsh
implications that are hard to overcome.
Studies show that adultery is one of the traumatizing sins
for many marriages to recuperate from. This sin is hurt,
dishonest and just plain terrible to the spouse who has been
faithful, throughout the marriage. It causes many
psychological and emotional issues within the marriage. The
spouse who was lied to becomes very untrusting to the
spouse that sinned. Many seek professional help, in order to
deal with this agonizing sin.
Many families are destroyed because of adultery. The
children in these adulterous marriages are often hurt.
Studies show children become less secure their own lives
and also damage their own personal relationships when they
get into adulthood. Children of adulterous parents have
shown to have lower scores in their educational studies.
Many studies also state that children in sinful marriages
also have non-monogamous relationships of their own.
It is up to a person to decide whether or not he or she is
going to commit the adultery to their significant other.
Temptation comes from evil. It is said in the Our Father
leads not into temptation but, deliver us from evil. Those
who think about the long term consequences of what

adultery can lead them into should pray and ask God for
guidance. More over fifty percent of marriages lead into
divorce due this sin.
Some marriages with strong religious faith can pull through
this tough ordeal, while many other others fall apart.
Statistics show that cheating is the number one cause of the
divorce rate being so high. Many of those who cheat, have
many excuses of why they went outside the marriage. One
of the excuses the adulterous say is lack of...

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advantage in divorcing him

for adultery
When I discovered my husband was having an affair I told
him that he would have to divorce me if he wanted to get
divorced - that I wasn't paying to divorce him
However I'm wondering if that is not the right thing to do would it be of any benefit to me to divorce him and name the
OW on the petition? There might be a slight advantage in
being the petitioner and having a little control over the
timetable but there is no particular advantage in citing
adultery. Naming the other women is likely to just cost time
and money that would be better spent on negotiating
arrangements for separating the finances and any children.
In the grand scale of things the costs of the actual divorce
aren't that great and agreement about costs can be
negotiated.
Sadly for whatever reason the marriage is over and there is
no point in dragging out a divorce or inflaming the situation
which will just damage the wallet and long term family
relationships more than necessary. Conduct very rarely has
any effect on the finances unless it is exceptional eg DV
leaving someone permanently injured and unable to
continue with their career.

Disadvantages Of Adultery
There are no "adultery packages" on which to print the
kinds
of warnings you find on cigarette packets but there's
reported evidence this week that playing around can
seriously affect your health.
According to an Italian neurologist, having an affair can
not only cost you your marriage it can be fatal. The
strain of living a double life leads to stress and tension
for the cheating spouse, which can cause a potentially fatal
aneurysm, or ballooning in a blood vessel in the brain.
These findings were presented at an international
conference
in Turin by Professor Lorenzo Pinessi, president of the
Italian Migraine Association, whose team studied hundreds
of
patients in Italy who reported migraines. Some of the worst
affected were having affairs.
"What we found is that it was mostly men who suffered
worst
from this phenomenon, which is all to do with stress and
hypertension," Prof Pinessi was quoted as saying. "It would
appear that men have a more severe feeling of guilt when
cheating, which leads to increased stress and tension."
This won't, of course, stop many partners from embarking
on
extra-marital dalliances, but when added to the already
lengthy catalogue of disadvantages of adultery might make

some people think twice before giving into sexual

temptation.
Adultery, as I've described previously in this blog, is the
biggest single cause of divorce, because it is so difficult
to forgive and forget. Adultery, like no other marital
misdemeanour, is viewed by the "wronged" spouse as the
ultimate betrayal.
Although many partners who stray struggle with feelings of
guilt, even that feeling adds to the potent mixture of
emotions that make adulterous behaviour often seem more
important than it really is. Yet too few people sit back and
think whether a few snatched hours of illicit excitement are
worth the risk of losing their marriage, their family life,
their home and a substantial slice of their financial
assets.

Divorce And Adultery The 3

Solutions
Divorce and adultery dont necessarily go together. Very few
people actually divorce due to adultery. Of course, its
difficult to track the statistics since the advent of
uncontested divorce. But anyone involved in the divorce
system will tell you most people can get beyond adultery.

I need to clarify something: It is very different when a man

cheats on his wife, than when a woman cheats on her
husband. Surprisingly to some, it is not because of the mans
attitude toward women who cheat. Rather, it is because

when a woman cheats, it is generally an affair of the heart.

Men rarely cheat, looking for a way out. They just dont
think things through.

Usually, women who have an affair have left their husbands

in spirit, long before they have cheated. It is not that a man
wouldnt forgive his wife in order to win her back; in most
cases he would, if given the chance. Only most women wont
go back because they have already attached themselves to
someone else.