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Authors: breakups are often viewed as simply a part of growing up. They say research on non-marital breakups has been sparse. Authors: Many individuals are experiencing romantic breakups from indistinguishable relationships.
Authors: breakups are often viewed as simply a part of growing up. They say research on non-marital breakups has been sparse. Authors: Many individuals are experiencing romantic breakups from indistinguishable relationships.
Authors: breakups are often viewed as simply a part of growing up. They say research on non-marital breakups has been sparse. Authors: Many individuals are experiencing romantic breakups from indistinguishable relationships.
THE IMPACT OF ROMANTIC BREAKUPS ON INDIVIDUALS' LIVES
Romantic breakups are often colloquially discussed in a way that
suggests that they have little to no bearing on personal well-being. Breakups are commonly viewed as simply a part of growing up, and individuals experiencing romantic breakups are sometimes told by individuals that "There are other fish in the sea" or that he or she will "Get over it". For the past several decades, extensive research has been conducted on the personal impact of divorce but, prior to the 2000s, research on non- marital romantic breakups was sparse. Many individuals are experiencing romantic breakups from relationships that are - save for the paperwork - indistinguishable from marriage. First I outline the negative outcomes associated with breakups. Finally, I discuss the positive outcomes that can arise from a breakup, including personal development and the redefinition of the relationship into a close friendship. I determine which factors have the potential to make a breakup more challenging, what sorts of mechanisms individuals employ to cope with grief following a romantic breakup, and which factors are associated with individual resilience in handling a stressor like a breakup. Positive Outcomes Some researchers have argued that romantic breakups can lead to positive outcomes, such as growth and personal development or the redefinition of a relationship into a close friendship. Through a study of 92 undergraduate students, Tashiro and Frazier determine how personality, gender, initiator status and reasons the relationship ended affect personal growth following a romantic relationship breakup. In order to measure growth, Tashiro and Frazier first asked participants to qualitatively describe any positive changes they may have experienced as a result of their breakup that could help them in future relationships. If a participant answered "I will choose a better partner," the answer was coded as Other, because improved relationships results from a better fit from the other person rather than changing one's own traits.
On average, participants reported five positive changes that may
assist them with future relationships. In terms of reasons why the relationship ended, individuals who reported that the relationship ended due to environmental causes were the most likely to experience growth. Another potential positive breakup outcome is the redefinition of the romantic relationship into a platonic friendship. Villella examines the relationship between several variables: gender, who initiated the breakup and current relationship status to see if these affect satisfaction, adjustment, communication with a former partner following the breakup, and friendship with a former partner. Current involvement in a romantic relationship led to greater adjustment, and was also a barrier to friendship. Through a sample of participants who were involved in same-sex and opposite sex relationships, they examine the degrees to which ex-partners experience interpersonal contact, emotional and sexual intimacy, and satisfaction in their post-dissolutional relationships. In the heterosexual sample, post- dissolutional relationships contained moderate amounts of satisfaction, moderate amounts of emotional intimacy and interpersonal contact, and low amounts of sexual intimacy. 23 Conversely, same-sex post-dissolutional relationships contained high amounts of satisfaction, moderate amounts of emotional intimacy and interpersonal contact, and low amounts of sexual intimacy. The more time that passed since the breakup and the more that the participant liked his or her ex-partner predicted satisfaction in postdissolutional relationships between same-sex partners. The longer the relationship and the higher the extent to which the participant hoped to renew the relationship were associated with less satisfaction in a post-dissolutional relationship. For heterosexual ex-partners, contrary to what was found in samesex ex-partners, increased time since the breakup was associated with decreased satisfaction with the post-dissolutional relationship. Personal variables, such as the amount of liking for one's ex-partner, uniqueness of the relationship and hope for romantic renewal were the strongest predictors as to whether or not a post-dissolutional relationship would remain.
Summary of Positive Outcomes The positive outcomes that have
been associated with romantic breakups include personal growth and the redefinition of the relationship into a friendship. Conclusion Conclusion While commonly held breakup views suggest that romantic breakups are insignificant, academic literature on the topic shows that romantic breakups can be traumatic life events for some individuals, and that they can lead to a number of negative outcomes. Few studies suggest that breakups provide opportunities for personal growth and development, and although friendship is a potential positive breakup outcome, friendships following a breakup can be unsatisfying if one's motivation for the friendship is to get back together with the person and these feelings are unreciprocated. Factors related to negative breakup outcomes and poorer adjustment and recovery include greater feelings of liking, anger, rejection or betrayal for the ex-partner; greater self-expansion during the relationship; insecure attachment; and 29 high rejection sensitivity. The following factors were related to higher levels of adjustment, growth and recovery: the personality trait of Agreeableness, general secure attachment and secure peer attachment, increased social support, being in a new relationship, and increased time since the breakup. Women exhibited more signs of depression and distress in all of the studies, save for one which found that women had a harder time adjusting at the time of the breakup but, over time, men had a more difficult time adjusting. Villella found that breakup initiators were more satisfied in their post-breakup relationships, and Helgeson found that women, but not men, adjust better if they initiate. The literature on the effects of romantic breakups is limited in that it tends to use convenient samples that are not representative of most young adults.