Sex tips

To ask/tell her:

I'm not going to let you lie back passively let me do all the work; if you
want me to get you aroused, you must work at getting me aroused.
This needs to be a joint effort; in order that you have maximum
pleasure, I need you to help me by rubbing your clitoris when I cant
reach it because I'm doing something else. I need you to give me
pleasure by licking my chest, thighs, and ears. From now on were
taking turns in giving pleasure. I give you, and then if you want more,
you give me (only tell her to do so when shes fully aroused).

A female orgasm is defined as:

The peak of sexual arousal, when all the muscles that were tightened during
sex relax. This causes a pleasurable feeling that involves the genital area
and sometimes the entire body. Muscles throughout the body spasm,
including those of the pelvic floor, anus, vagina, and uterus. During orgasm,
most women experience increased heartbeat rates, faster breathing, and
increased blood pressure. Endorphins are released into the bloodstream
causing feelings of pleasure, joy, giddiness, warmth, sleepiness, or
excitement.
During intercourse, most women don't reach orgasm unless their clitoris is
being stimulated. Make sure you or your partner stimulates your clitoris
during intercourse.
Bring yourself to orgasm, but without ejaculating. There are several methods
you can use to keep yourself from ejaculating, so try them all, and see which
work best for you:

Squeeze the tip of the penis by making a ring around the glans (head)

Squeeze the base of your penis

Use your thumb and forefinger to circle your testicles and gently pull
them away from your body

Apply pressure against your perineum, the soft tissue between your
testicles and your anus

Once you've isolated your PC muscle, try holding it clenched for three
seconds at a time. Then let it relax. Count the number of times you can
do this before the muscle feels tired.

Now, set yourself an exercise routine just like you would at the gym. A
good starting place is two sets of eight reps each twice a day. It's also a
good idea to practice different types of muscular clenching: a series of
flutters, for instance, as well as one long tight clench.

The Teacher and the Naughty Student

This one is pretty straightforward. The fun part is, either partner can be in
either role. More or less discipline can be inflicted, depending on your tastes.
Props include: reading glasses, a ruler (for spanking), pens and notebooks,
etc.
The Police Detective
Again, either partner can be in either role. The Detective is investigating a
crime, and he's determined to make his witness talk! Or the Detective is on
the vice squad, arresting a prostitute. What will she do to avoid going to
prison?
Start out the next lovemaking session with talk. If nothing else, tell your
partner exactly what you're going to do with them: "I'm going to undress you
and lay you down on the bed and bite you on the neck. Then I'm going to"
Such a declaration can be extremely sexy.
But generally, laughter should be encouraged during foreplay. Laughing
makes everything more fun.
Pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson broke the human sexual
response cycle down into these phases. A discussion of each individual step
follows.

Excitement

Plateau

Orgasm

Resolution

Refractory Period

If you can't be satisfied with taking her word for it, there are a few
physiological indicators that just can't be faked.

A rash-like flush appears on her chest

Her nipples will protrude

The labia will change color to burgundy or bright pink (but how will you
check?)

Her vagina will contract around you

From sex guide:

give long, lingering kisses,

Gently trace your fingers across the surface of her belly, one of her
most erogenous zones.
Slow downkiss her all over before moving to clitoris. If shes not fully
aroused, touching the clitoris can be uncomfortable and even painful
enjoy foreplay, and then so will she
tell her what youre going to do to her in great detail
foreplay is the appetizer; intercourse is the main course

Causes of low libido:

anxiety, stress, depression, relationship problems, crises, financial

difficulties
testosterone declines with age
medical conditions

Advice

What's important here is to get her really wet and willing by showing
some male dominance. Take charge of her. Lay her down on the bed
forcefully but gently, kiss her and tease her with the moves that you
know make her most excited, then spread her legs with your knee and
gently push them apart. If you want to add a little bit of extra spice,
get hold of her hands and place them above her head whilst you show
her what you can do.
Whisper gently in her ear those things that will make her sizzle with
excitement and blush with desire: if you tell her what you can do to her

she'll get so hot and wet this will turn your loving antics into a storm of
passion.
Women want sex more than we men ever believed possible do do. It's
just that the circumstances have to be right.
The cowgirl twisting dance. How does it work? Simply sit on a chair, get
her on your erection, and then ask her to twist or rotate her hips so
that she teases you
give her sexy thoughts throughout the daygive her reminders of
previous experiences, tell her what you want to do to her when she
gets home
For women, a massage is an invitation to sex. Make sure to include her
buttocks.
look rugged, dirty, renegade, scruffy,
Come home dirty and sweaty. Women are receptive at detecting
pheromones, an aromatic chemical released to sexually attract, and
these are found in mens sweat.
Talking dirty: first fantasize about talking dirty during sex, and then
youll be able to express it. Start by describing what feels good, e.g., I
love the way your ... feels in my ... Describe what youre doing to her.
sex dice
Blindfoldsvery dominant. Since the sense of sight is gone, the rest of
the senses are heightened. Lay her down, put on the blindfold, then
take of her clothes while kissing her bare skin
Take her dancing. While dancing, women think of their bodies as sexy
and graceful. This boosts their self-confidence, allows her to let loose,
dress sexy, show her wild side,
Exercise together. Working out increases testosterone, and thus libido.
Take her on dates that involve exertion like bike riding or roller blading.
Kissing: the tongue and lips have millions of nerve endings waiting to
be stimulated. its also sexy to touch her mouth with your fingers
during foreplay, tell her that shes attractive, that you love her body
Move your finger inside her like you were stirring a cup of coffee
Put two fingers inside her and spread them gently apart, then together,
over and over
Confidence is sexyan attitude and body language of control, selfassurance, coolness, being collected, self-possessed; an attitude of
confidence in ones abilities, performance, skills.
o always be well groomed
o smile, make eye contact, walk tall,
Be fit. Eat healthy foods n moderation.

Always plan dates in advance. The guy should be the one to initiate it,
not leave her to decide. Have a first plan and an alternate, backup
plan. Make a plan, but be flexible enough to change it if necessary.
Keep the talk light on dates. Ask her questions about herself, or her
opinion about something.
be coolthats the ikar of attracting women
o Whats not cool: neediness and desperation? Cool guys dont
need attention.
o be confident but dont be pompous and over-impressed with
yourself
o Dont struggle to put up a front of coolnessit makes you look
even worse. Just relax.
o confidence
o calm and unflappabledont get rattled, freak out by anything,
worked up over anything, dont overreact
o funny, amused, dont take yourself too seriously, tease, flirt, look
around you and see if you can find something amusing
o make yourself unavailable before the date
o Change your lookits like having sex with a new partner and
not cheating!
o wake her up by picking her up, bringing her breakfast/coffee
o do a chore that they would have done
o foot massage
o small gifts
o put the phone away for sex
o candlelight, a bubble bath
o keeping your clothes on adds to power/dominance
o role-playing: cheerleader, high school teacher, policewoman,
policeman,
o have her bow down with her hands extended forward, and go in
from behind
o in doggy style, have her thrust herself back onto you
techniques during penetration:
o Grasp your penis and move it in circles inside her vagina.
o After you withdraw from her completely strike violently into her
vagina.
o Thrust wildly in every direction.
When men role play, women get excited because its fulfilling that part
of them that longs for sex from a mysterious stranger.
keep bedroom clean
take of your socks
dont twist nipples

dont just lay on her after sex deadweight

use a little lube when necessary
dont sigh
dont answer the phone
listen to what she wants

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Women have many body image issues, insecurities. She may be

worried at the beginning about cellulite, so you must reassure her
Mutual sexual satisfaction brings happiness.

Foreplay:

Foreplay tips:
o games: 1. timer: set an alarm clock for the amount of time
foreplay will take; 2. naked twister; 3. master/slave: You become
your lovers sex slave for a day/eveningyou can then blindfold,
tie up, and the slave must abide by all your rules at all times.. 4.
Time domination, e.g., five minutes each person 5. Blindfold 6.
Restraints 7. Blindfold and restraints, 8. Masturbate in front of
him, 9. use vibrators
o Praise her body in every way from her eyes to her boobs. Make
her feel like a million dollars, like the sexiest woman in the world,
and let her know that you feel like the luckiest man in the world
to be able to touch and kiss her
get her to look you in the eyes when she gives you a hand job
Bring her to a clitoral orgasm, and then she will much more likely have
vaginal orgasm when you enter her.
Sex doesnt begin in the bedroom. Always do something before sex to
excite her and condition her mindspice things up with romance: cook
a meal for her, run a bubble bath for her, and be the one to undress
her. Give her the bath, and as you do, touch every sensitive part of her
body, but dont begin with her breasts. After the bath, dry her up and
start foreplay.
Or: after constant innuendos in a restaurant, ride in the car to a
secluded place, play sensual music, then whisper gently into her ears
every you have planned to do to her.

Environment: Light scented candles and incense to relax her even

further. Play relaxing music and give her some chocolate. Relax her
through all her senses.
Massage her with grapeseed oil. But a towel on the bed. Tell her to
breathe in deeply through her nose and out through her mouth. Tell her
to tighten her body as much as she can and relax it. Massage her body
for 10 minutes. Then start fingering her spots. then stop if she doesnt
orgasm
Rub your penis on her vagina for 10 minutes down, left, in circles, in
zig-zags. Get her to hold it and direct it where she likes it most.
Give her a massage so her troubles will melt away and disappear, and
shell have immersion. She should be free from all tension other than
sexual.
dont focus on giving her orgasm; focus on giving her pleasure, and
then the orgasm will come automatically
Women need gradual escalation to come to a point of orgasm.
Anticipation builds up her tension, and is then released in a much more
powerful orgasm. This is done by focusing on areas surrounding the
target before you actually hit the target. E.g., you rub her inner thighs,
butt, and hips before touching her vagina.
Give before you receive: Before receiving any pleasure from her, you
should make sure she receives from you first. 1. It shows you have
control of your desires, 2. once she orgasms, shell be ready and willing
to reciprocate
Avoid putting your whole hand on her breast. Instead, using your index
fingers, lightly press on her nipples as you would on a sensitive buzzer.
After 10 finger presses, lightly lick her nipplebutterfly licks. After
about 10 licks on each breast, go to another erogenous zone
lick her armpits
position your tongue between her breasts, then lick all the way down
lick her bum, then her anus
kiss patch of skin in front of her ears, and whisper something
sweet/exciting in her ears
Lick her lips, and then whisper that you cant wait to lick her etc.
When you take off your clothes, make sure she sees how turned on you
are
tips:
when shes on top, ask her not to remove her clothes

Rough up: do it against a wall with your clothes still on, ten minutes
before someone is due to visit you. The roughness, wildness, and thrill
makes this very exciting.
While shes on top, ask her to turn around slowly. Dont move.
cunnilingus games:
o using your tongue, write out a letter of the alphabet and make
her guess what it is
o lick her, then put an ice cube in your mouth for a few seconds,
then go back to licking
o Go from slow licking to fast very suddenly, just to shock her. Only
do this in the beginning, not when shes about to orgasmthen
she wants you to continue exactly as before
o Have her play with herself in front of you, while you sit at a
distance; this way you can learn how she likes to be touched.
When shes really wet, then do cunnilingus on her
o when you focus on maximizing her pleasure first, youll be
rewarded many times over
o A woman wants the man to pay attention to her entire body, not
just her breasts and vagina.

After foreplay:

After making love, theres a magical afterglow moment, when a

couple truly bonds, and this is very good for the relationship, and the
lack of it causes the relationship to decline. Bask in it. Tell her how
much you appreciate her sexual gift, and how much you truly enjoy
making love to her.

Lick by lick

men function best when given clear instructions, so have her show you
how to please her with cunnilingus
Questions to ask during cunnilingus: do you like this speed? Faster or
slower? Just a little faster or a lot? Should I continue using this
technique? Let me know if youd like me to change it. Do you like the
pressure Im applying now? Is this the right spot?
compare a woman to an oven: you cant bake a cake unless the oven
has been preheated
never give a gift of something practical, because it will become a
hassle
Preparations for cunnilingus: physically relax her by doing chores, meal
together, bath, foot rub, brush her hair, massage, etc.

Make a big deal about taking off her blousedo it slowly and
deliberately, same with taking off her bra. Dont pinch her nipples too
hardroll them between your thumb and forefinger. Once your tongue
is on the nipple, swirl your tongue around it as if youre licking an ice
cream cone. Continue caressing her nipples while you lick her vulva.
lick her inner thighs, maybe tease her by alternating between her inner
thighs and a quick lick on her vulva
then lick all around her clitoris, and make sounds as though you were
eating something really delicious, and dont let an inch of her vulva
escape your tongue:
o Wide, slow strokes: spread your tongue out wide, lick you were
about to lick an ice cream cone. Start from the bottom and work
your way up.
o In between the labia, again use a wide tongue, or a semi-pointed
(better) tongue, and explore the folds of her inner and outer labia
from top to bottom. You can nibble them gently with your teeth,
or with your lips turned inward, covering your teeth.
o one method: lollipop licking: Start on the outside of her labia and
work your way inward using slow and wide tongue strokes, then
end on her clitoris.
o Purse your lips to create a soft, sucking sensation and suck her
labia, then her clitoris. Make sure your lips are nice and wet.
o Use the tongue and lips together by acting as if youre French
kissing her vulva,
o Another technique: Place your entire mouth on her vulva. You
can then move to gentle sucking or use your open mouth to blow
warm air onto it (do NOT blow air into her vagina)
o The aroused clitoris is much too sensitive for sudden
movements. let the clitoral hood cover the head
o you can vary, but you should develop a rhythm and keep it,
especially close to orgasm
Sweeping: position your tongue on either side move from
side to side as though you were sweeping a floor. You can
also do an upwards stroke, but that may expose the clitoral
head, which may turn her off
Circles: the best techniquemove your tongue in circles
around the clitoris. Variation while keeping the rhythm is
the key to a mind-blowing orgasm, so vary it from being
pointed or wide and soft.
Suction: take her clitoris gently into your mouth and lightly
suck on it. You can vary by then encompassing the whole
vulva in your mouth
do the arcs, or numbers, or shapes: they give the right
amount of contact while mixing things up
vacuum: suck the clitoris gently in and out of your mouth

use the tip of your tongue to gently flick her clitoris while
its in your mouth
Messy eater: cradle both legs in your arms and dig in. Act
like youre hungry and you cant get enough of it
complement the oral with manual on the vulva
fingeringfinger inside vagina, tongue on vulva
Popular move: slide finger in and out of vaginal canal
about half an inch.
move your fingertips in circles to trace the outer rim
of the vagina (stimulates lots of pleasure-inducing
nerves
twist your finger as you go in and out
some prefer 2 or 3 fingers, but most prefer 1
with your fingers, tug gently on her mons pubis to
stretch the skin out
G-Spot orgasm can be experienced at the same time as
clitoral orgasm, which is an amazing experience
insert vibrator into her vagina gently
vary position of your body:
she lies flat with legs up: woman likes it, hard on his
neck (put a pillow or too under her butt)
feet flat
feet on your shoulders
bring her legs up to her head, resting knees on her
chest
legs on bed (you cant prop yourself up with your
elbows, so creates bend in the neck and neck pain
backwards/69: you can be on top or bottom, or side
by sideless unpleasant
Doggy style from underneath, or with you also
sucking in doggy style position. or have her do doggy
style on the bed while you position yourself on the
floor
sit on my face: great view of her body, support your
head with a pillow; she can also face away from you
She can face forward with each knee on either side
of his head, and elbows and torso propped up (e.g.,
on the edge of the bed).
Women enjoy being taken from behind while they're on all fours
because they get great pleasure from releasing their sexual inhibitions,
letting conventional expectations go, and enjoying a rip roaring session
of lewd, rude sex. In this position, she's just a girl who's going for it,

pleasing her man, and being just about as sexy in bed as it's possible
for a woman to be.
This time you, the man, get on your knees facing the head of the bed
and you lower your bum onto your heels. Your lover then squats over
you with her bum towards your lap - she's facing away from you - while
grasping the headboard. She can use this as leverage while she gently
lowers herself onto you -- you might need to guide your penis into her.
Then, she can ride you while you grip her around the waist, possibly
guiding the speed and rhythm of her movements, but definitely adding
any extras spice that you wish - such as gentle hair tugging and mild
spanking.

Get her to masturbate herself while shes on top of you and youre sucking
her breasts

Giving out compliments, telling girls you missed them that you were thinking
about them, how special they are, and sweet talking them.
To make a woman orgasm quicker:

Fondle her during penetrationclitoral touching during sex, either

you or her. Missionary alone doesnt bring orgasm.
coital alignment: mans pubic region is pressed against the
womans, making it seem like his grinding or rocking to and fro, not
pulling in and out
woman on top: woman can rub her clitoris on his pubic region, or
with her own fingers
doggy style: she can use one hand while balancing with the other,
or balance with her shoulders and head and use both hands

From here

can go from doggy to her on top; can go from her on top to you on top,
or vice versa
when she asks you to keep going, stop davka
spanking when she's aroused; try it and ask her if she likes it
no stimulation of clitoris when coming in from behind, so see if you can
do it manually as well
Stimulating the clit (from here)

When woman masturbate, they often rotate around their clit in a

circular motion, an up-and-down motion, or a side-to-side motion. This
is done gently.

A woman will want her clit stimulated only once she is already aroused.
The more she is aroused, the more she will want it.
Woman like constant, repetitive stimulation with little to no change.
This is why they love vibrators.
Put her hand over yours and get her to show you just how to stimulate
her clitoris.
The G-Spot is stimulated mainly by pressure, not friction as with the
clit, so use rhythmic pushing against the G-Spot
After orgasm, the clit can retract and become very sensitive to any
further stimulation, to the extent of it being painful.
The clamp:
o From the front, stimulate the clit using the thumb, while using
one or more fingers to stimulate the G-Spot.
o From behind, the thumb stimulates the G-Spot, while the fingers
make a V around her clit
Voice tips

men fall in love with their eyes; women fall in love with their ears
Speak with a deep, resonant, sexy voice. People will treat you with
more respect, and women will find you more attractive.
Women love to be told during sex what to do, and to be told in a
commanding tone.
o you turn me on so much
o I want you right now
o I want to be inside you
o I am going to lick you all over
o you feel so good
o open yourself up and let go as you become soaked for me
o I love you
See here for the concept of twists and untwists:

Creating anticipation

Anticipation builds desire; when you want something and you can
easily get it, you desire it more. You imagine it, etc.
Of course, you shouldnt go to the other extreme either, and wait too
long, because then youll lose interest, or until the desire builds up so
much that the fantasy increases, and the actual experience doesnt
compare with the fantasy. This often happens when men wait too long
for women to be with them.
So the key is balance. You want to build expectation and desire in the
course of only a few hours.

o When youre out with friends or at a party (the more public, the
better, because it creates more of a secret and more tension
because you cannot act on the desire then).
o Pull her aside and whisper in her ear in a sexy voice, compliment
her and tell her she looks very hot, and tell her that when you
get home alone, you are going to do her favorite activity to her,
As soon as I get you alone, I am going to rip your panties off
and... Just looking at you is turning me on so much! When I get
you home, I am going to give you the sex of a lifetime! You can
squeeze her buttocks or rub her vagina through her clothes. Or
when youre sitting next to her with others, you can lean over
and whisper to her.
o Add descriptive language. When I get you home, I am going to
lick every inch of your sexy body!
o Create anticipation by telling her you have a surprise. Then,
when you get back home, give it to her, and make it a surprise
worth looking forward to, something out of the ordinary, or it will
ruin the effect and let her down.
From here.
When penetrating: 1.be conscious of your breathing. One way is to start
penetrating slowly, inhaling as you pull out and exhaling as you thrust in. Let
her feel every inch of you. This warms you both up; then you can accelerate.
2. be conscious of the tension in your body
Going down:
With you right hand coming from above. Pinch the outer labia halfway using
your thumb and index finger, then while keeping the outer labia between
your fingers pull upward, release, and repeat. To your lady this will feel good,
it will feel like very soft numb pressure on her clitoris because you don't
touch the clitoris directly. With most women this can be done pretty hard.
However some women are very sensitive and you have to be gentler with
those.
Put your both hands on the outside of the outer labia and massage just
outside the outer labia from bottom to top using a rotating movement away
from the labia. To your lady this will just feel good. The massage will make
more blood flow to her lips and clitoris and the labia will be more open/erect
afterwards.

Pinch, roll, and pull massage. Pinch some skin to both sides of the clitoris, on
the outside of the labia, Pull the skin to the front and to the bottom. To your
lady this will also feel great
Oral:
When you begin to give oral sex, it's important to start slowly. Women like it
when a man takes the time to appreciate her and her body. What she won't
like is an over-achiever who jumps right in with an aggressive tongue.
Pretend that her entire vagina is an ice-cream cone with three scoops of your
favorite flavor; if you don't like ice-cream, I'm sure you can appreciate the
metaphor. Use your tongue to lick her vagina from its entrance up to the
clitoris (but excluding the clitoris for now). Remember to chill out and relax;
enjoy yourself and don't get tense.
Use a flat, soft, limber tongue and let your tongue roam from bottom to top
of her outer labia on the left and right hand side. Repeat between her inner
and outer labia. This while still excluding the clitoris from direct contact. You
can do this a couple of times, but also not too long.
Now we're switching to the clitoral part. With your left hand on
her mons pubis push it up and keep it there... This has as effect that the
clitoris is moved upwards and that it already feels some pressure. One of the
tricks usually proposed is to write the alphabet with your tongue on her
clitoris, but this is not necessary and there are better ways. Write a cross
on her clitoris, move your tongue up and down 2 times on her clitoris,
followed by moving your tongue 2 times from left to right and back. You don't
need to do this superfast, but you need to be rhythmic. Required speed will
differ between women (but not by much), you can gauge her reactions, or
she may even tell you. When this has been going on for a while, keep the left
hand on her mons pubis pushing it up, but retract your right arm from under
her leg. Lubricate your middle finger with saliva or lubrication, and insert
that one finger in her vagina (but only that one finger). The finger should flex
upwards.
Change the licking of the crosses to licking 2 crosses followed by sucking in
her clitoris and releasing it (kind of French kissing it). And then repeating the
whole cycle. Keep doing both licking/sucking and the rubbing until she
comes.
Not to speed up when she gets more excited, this is a beginner'smistake.
Keep doing what is working, keep the same rhythm.

Do not stop EVER until your lady tells you to stop or pushes your head away.
There's little more annoying for your lady than almost reaching orgasm just
about when you stop. Continue until she comes.
More kinds of cunnilingus:
Woman standing with back against wall, doggy style, 69
Squirting is much more pleasurable than vaginal and clitoral orgasms
because something comes out. It makes all other orgasms seem like nothing.
From then on, their sex lives are never the same. The guy who gives it to her
is in a category of his ownthe best shes ever had.

From here

Make it fun! God created it to be pleasurable and fun!

The less you stress about your performance, the better
Always think about what would feel good to your wife.
There are two different kinds of sexual pleasure: deep vs. surface,
genital vs. body, clitoral vs. vaginal orgasm. Chitzoniyus vs. pnimiyus.
One need not have a full sexual experience every time. Sometimes its
more fun and appropriate to take advantage of a few spare moments
with a quickie
There are amazing similarities between the male and female genitalia.
They have many parallel parts. So the kinds of pleasure must be
similar.
We are essentially sexual creatures, and all other pursuits harness this
energy productivelySex Sublimation. (Is this true al pi Torah?)
Sex is integrally woven into our existence.
The muscle in the penis that creates the erection is called the PC
muscle.
The head of the penis is called the glans.
Your sexual confidence will come from the ability to sexually satisfy
your wifenot the size of your penis.
Behind the scrotum, toward the anus and inside the body is the
prostate gland. It surrounds the male urethra.
The prostate is very sensitive. It can be stimulated by applying
pressure on the area between the back of the scrotum and the anus,
known as the perineum.
You can prevent premature ejaculation by concentrating on boring or
sad thoughts when one is close to orgasm. Bite your lip to divert your

attention from the sensations in your penis. Learn to change your focus
to something outside the pleasures youre feeling when you approach
orgasm. But a much better solution is to:
Develop a strong, well-conditioned PC muscle.
Exercise: stop the flow. The PC muscle is the same muscle that you use
to start and stop the flow of urine from your bladder in midstream. So
drink an extra amount of liquid, and when you urinate, concentrate on
the sensations surrounding your urinating. Stop and start the flow
without the use of any external aids. If you can do it, thats your PC
muscle.

Become acutely aware of each phase of the orgasm process and its
particular sensations: general arousal, penile erection, contractile
orgasm, emission.
empty your bladder before sex
instead of thrusting with your glans, press down with your pelvic bone;
that way you maintain control
the testicle pull: grasp the area of skin between the testicles and tug
firmly
THE FINGER LOCK 1) Push the three middle fingers of your hand into
the "P spot" hard enough to stop the flow of semen.
2) Your middle finger should push directly against the urethral tube. Your
other two fingers
Should press on each side of the tube to hold it in place.
3) Contract your PC muscle, which encircles the prostrate, and pull up your
perineum.
4) Mentally concentrate on dissipating your sexual tension to other parts of
your body.
5) Hold your fingers in place before, during, and after the contractions of
orgasm.
LEARN TO "ORGASM" THROUGH OTHER PARTS OF YOUR BODY
You need to learn to redirect the sexual tension that has built up and settled
within your penis. When you start to feel the sexual energy building in your
penis towards that "point of no return," relax your entire body and visualize
letting this energy dissipate out of other parts of your body. As we
mentioned, this feeling of inevitability is usually accompanied by a tensing of
your calves and a curling of your toes. Many sexually skilled husbands are
very consciously relax their legs, calves and toes (especially your toes...try
wiggling them!) and visualize letting all of that pent up sexual energy flow
down their legs and out of their body through the tips of their toes.
Many men have difficulty dealing with sexual arousal without the ability to
release the sexual

Tension. Although this is partially a physical thing, it is mostly emotional;

there is definitely a psychological need to release the tension. So...let
yourself release it...just not through ejaculating!
Many sexually skilled men, as they are visualizing the sexual tension flowing
out of their bodies, actually visualize that they are orgasming in their toes or
at their finger tips. They feel their calves, toes, fingertips tense spasm in
"mini-orgasms. This allows them to release/dissipate quite a bit of sexual
tension while still avoiding ejaculation.
Many men describe these motions as being similar to shaking off a chill.
Right now, imagine that you have a chill and then shake it off. Your entire
body moves to some extent or other.
A wonderful side benefit of this technique is that it truly does demonstrate
that you are tremendously aroused. Some men get into a very predictable
sort of "pump, pump, pump, grunt, cum" sort of routine. We will discuss this
in more detail, later in the book, but one of the biggest complaints of today's
women is that their men are not passionate enough. They mean this, in
general, but they also mean it, specifically, about their men's performance in
bed. Too many men think that it is "unmanly" to let go and truly express their
sexuality; they are concerned that their woman might think less of them if
they "really get into it." THIS IS A HUGE MISTAKE! At the top of most women's
desire list is a man that is passionate about making love to them. Use this
fact to your advantage. As you shake off/ dissipate your sexual tension, it will
be necessary for you to moan, laugh, and shake your limbs...whatever. All of
this is perceived by your wife as a very positive thing...you are truly enjoying
making love to her! It is a wonderful positive cycle; make love-dissipate
sexual tension-she gets excited by your passion-more sexual tension-more
dissipation, etc.
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From instant sex tips
Erogenous zones
Come up behind her, push her hair away from the back of her neck, and
deliver soft, warm kisses.
Lightly graze the inside of her wrists with your tongue. Most guys overlook
this 'hot spot', and most women adore the attention. Follow up with soft
kisses in the same area and, if you like, work your way up her arm.
The soft skin on the delicate curve on the inside of a woman's elbow is
packed with nerve endings. Kiss her there and watch her whole body shiver
as the sensations go through her.
HAIR RAISING
Scalp massage is stimulating to the brain AND other parts of the body.
Running your fingers through your partner's hair creates a series of
wonderful sensations. And, more importantly this brain tickle causes her
body to release endorphins which dramatically affect her sense of calm and
well-being for the better.

If you're stroking your partner's legs, pay particular attention to the area
behind her knees. Massage it gently to start because some women are overly
sensitive and get ticklish, rather than turned-on. If her response lets you
know that she's enjoying what youre doing, replace your fingers with your
lips and tongue.
Nibble and gently suck on her earlobe, then lick the center of her ear. Doing
this alone with a certain facility (and with a certain woman) can bring her to
orgasm.
Women have pedicures for more than just the color. A foot message is
sensual and, if the right person is doing it, extremely sexual. Start by
applying light pressure on your partner's sole and heel Next, you can gently
stroke her toes and ankle.
Tip within a Tip: The hollow area on the sides of her ankle, between the
anklebone and the Achilles tendon, is an acupressure point believed to help
restore sexual energy. Don't miss it.
FROM ONE SET OF LIPS TO THE OTHER
Get to know the frenulum -- that little bit of center tissue that connects the
upper lip and the gums. This is a pressure point that sends messages
straight to a woman's private parts. Gently suck on her upper lip and allow
your lower lip to caress her frenulum. If she likes it, you'll see (and feel) a
reaction immediately
Apply a gentle touch--just barely grazing the skin--to the sacrum, the area of
her lower back just above the tailbone. As her skin heats up under your
hand, apply increasing pressure to either side of her spine but not directly on
it. Then move lower to massage the tops of her buttocks. Try it. She'll like it.
Start slowly, kissing areas in the vicinity of her mouth -her throat, her
cheeks, her chin. When you finally get to her mouth, point your tongue
slightly and play little probing games with it until her willing parts her lips
and invites you to do more.
FONDLE WITH CARE
As with kissing, you want to start fondling your partner slowly to excite her
and increase her passion. Start by touching her through her clothing,
caressing her breasts, and massaging her nipples. As she responds, begin to
remove her clothes slowly, taking time to kiss her sensual areas as they're
revealed. This is no time to rush.
TEASING IS PLEASING
Most men like a no-frills approach to sex. All animal passion and baser
instinct, the male of the species is ready to go almost anytime. But your
partner needs to be drawn into passion. And the key to bringing out her wild
side is teasing offering just enough (but not everything),until she's literally
panting, begging you to do more. Until she's fully aroused, your partner will
be more responsive to indirect stimulation. In other words, before you start
rubbing her crotch area, let your fingers play along the inner thigh, and
perhaps drift over her most sensitive area lightly. The best way to tease a
woman is by stimulating her to a point of arousal, stopping before climax,
and then starting again.

ERECTION-BOOSTERS
Get it up and keep it up with these readily available foods. (Find whey and
wheat germ at any health food store)
Oysters
Eggs
Wild Oats:
Garlic
Black Pepper
Whey
Wheat Germ
ERECTION-BUSTERS
Even the test laid plans won't get you laid if you've been loading up on these
food stuffs which are notorious for their ability to turn hard bodies into limp
willies.
Alcohol
Products containing sugar-free sweeteners
White bread, cake, cookies
Grapefruit
Soy products
PEANUTS TO YOU!
Peanuts are rich in a natural substance that affects blood vessels. By
allowing blood to flow more freely, peanuts have a positive effect on
achieving and keeping an erection. (Remember that peanuts are high in fat,
salt, and calories. Eat them sparingly)
BLACK PEPPER FOR WHITE HOT SEX
Black pepper allows your body to more freely absorb the nutrients and foods
its needs to increase your libido. Maybe the expression should be "grind and
bump," not "bump and grind."
CHOCOLATE CASANOVA
History's most notorious lover ate chocolates by the pound. Aside from the
flavor, Casanova knew that chocolate stimulates hormone production, giving
your endorphin levels a major boost. So ply your sweetie with chocolates,
and get ready for a night youll never forget.
Kissing
Cup her face with your hands and hold her while you kiss her. Open your
eyes from time to time and stare deeply into hers.
WHERE FOR WHEN
In the real-estate market, the three most important things are: location,
Location, LOCATION! And for kissing, the same thing is true. Nothing is as
stimulating as kisses "stolen" on a secluded corner, in the back seat of a taxi,
or at other unexpected moments. The possibility of "being discovered" may
be particularly exciting to your partner.
WHERE THERE'S A WILL, HERE'S THE WAY

Start with your mouth beside your partner's neck. Breathe hot, moist air as
you get closer and closer. Open your mouth and slide your tongue across her
skin, closing it as you pull away for another kiss. Continue this all the way up
to her mouth. You know what to do from there!
OOOH LA LA
If you like French kissing, try this for a little extra excitement: gently bite
your partner's lip, then suck on it and go back to the kissing. When your
partner initiates a French kiss and begins to draw her tongue back into her
own mouth, touch the tip of your tongue to hers and follow it into her mouth.
CANDY IS DANDY FOR SHARING
Pop a mint or piece of candy into your mouth and pass it to your partner with
your tongue, while kissing. Very intimate. Very erotic. Kiss your lover with
melted chocolate in your mouth for the sweetest kiss imaginable.
TONGUES OF FUN
Rub your tongue on the underside of your partner's tongue. This could
involve a large surface area of your tongue or just the end of your tongue
caressing hers. Then, slowly run your tongue along that space between
his/her upper teeth and upper lip. If your tongue is long enough try tickling
the roof of their mouth with your tongue.
If you're about to orgasm, tightly grip the base of your penis with your entire
hand. Dont squeeze or stroke yourself, simply maintain the pressure until
the need for 'release' passes. Depending on how close you are to shooting
your load, it can take several seconds to regain control. BUT. Then you'll be
ready to pick up things exactly where you left off and start the whole
delicious process over again.
BASIC TRAINING
Simple statements like "I want you," "You make me hard" or "I want to make
love to you" can have a tremendous impact because they're so direct. When
you say, "I want to feel the wetness inside you," tells your partner about your
desires, but it also stimulates her mind with a powerful erotic image -- she'll
begin to imagine what it will feel like to have you inside her
Try some of these: juicy crack, naked ass, bare breasts, throbbing, slippery,
hard, round, firm. (No doubt you have a few of your own favorites.) For the
advanced student, try saying these words with different inflections - soft and
caressing, demanding, in a whisper. You never know what the situation - or
lady - will call for.
LET'S PLAY DOCTOR!
Give you love life a shot in the arm with a little role playing as Dr. Feelgood.
When your partner arrives for her appointment, your job is to study the
various parts of her body, describe them in the sexiest language you can
muster, and talk at length about how each part turns you on. For example:
As I examine your neck, I see that it is incredibly smooth and beautiful. It's so
beautiful that my cock gets hard looking at it. I want to lean over and bite it
right now." This appointment will last for 15 minutes - just like a real
appointment at the doctors office. The key is this: you talk and she listens.

Nothing else! After 50 minutes of hearing you adore her body, just wait and
see how see feels about yours.
IT'S ALL ABOUT YOU.FOR 10 MINUTES
Giving someone else power over you can be very sexy stuff. First decide who
will be the power figure and who will be passive. The power figure makes
specific requests for 10 minutes. The requests can be blatantly erotic
--"Please dance for me." "Please suck my toes" - or not - "Please lightsome
candles." It's exciting to be the power figure, but it's also exciting to be "told"
what to do. After 10 minutes, switch roles and experience life on the other
side.
Rule of the Game: This is a game of benevolent power, so the power figure
makes requests not demands that may be declined by the passive figure.
INSIDE OUT
In this position, the person on bottom and the person on top switch leg
positions. The person on bottom closes his/her legs and the person on top
straddles the legs of the person on bottom. The benefit: additional genital
stimulation for the person on top; and for the person on bottom, delicious
friction on the inner thighs.
WEIGHTLESS SEAT
Sit on the edge of a chair. Have your partner (preferably wearing high heels)
straddle you and put her hands on the back of the chair. By thrusting her
hips and bending and straightening her knees, she can get some great action
going. This position makes for great foreplay. Youll be in an excellent position
to explore your partner's genitals with your eyes, hands, or mouth. Great
chair choices include rocking chairs, kitchen table chairs and, of course, the
chair in the office. (Consider chair sex next time you need a study break .just
not at the library!)
HEAD TO TOE
In this position, you and your partner will face the opposite direction from
each other and end up with a view of the other person's feet. To make this
work, the person on bottom will need to arch her/his pelvic area (back flat
against the ground) and I strongly suggest that the woman help guide your
penis into the correct position. And, while you're in the toe-zone, remember
that sucking the little biggies and massaging the insoles adds extra
stimulation -toe-traffic!

I WANT MO' SLO-MO

This is a great position when you want to maintain deep penetration and
concentrate on slow, rocking movements. Sit cross-legged on the floor. Your
partner will sit on top of you, face to face, with her legs straddling you. This
creates a perfect opportunity to hug for a few minutes and be intimate.
Some people prefer facing the same direction, sort of a seated spoon. (This is
preferable for those who feel less coordinated or embarrassed.)
COORDINATED QUICKIE
If you and your partner have the strength and coordination, a stand-up
quickie is a great way to have sex. While it may not give you the deepest
penetration, the sheer impulsiveness of it more than makes up for any
diminished physical sensation. Make a rendezvous for a quickie on a
staircase in your office building, in your laundry room, in the middle of a
graveyard or another such forbidden places. Dress appropriately- a skirt with
no panties works well for her.
UNCOORDINATED QUICKIE
Not at the time of your physical prowess but still looking for a quickie? We've
got you covered -- The woman puts her hands on a chair, desk, couch, or
wall, leans forward, butt into the air and you penetrate her from behind.
Often couples enjoy hard thrusting. This position is much easier to achieve
than the standard face-to-face position.
GET SLICK
Want to make your girlfriend squirm with your fingers? Then make sure to
wet them before you touch her. You can lick them, she can lick or suck on
them (very erotic), or you can moisten them with juices from inside her. Be
sure, by all means to wet your fingers before you rub her clit because it
doesnt have any juices of its own and it's extremely sensitive. If your fingers
are dry, they'll stick and pull it in a painful way.
GET SLICK
Want to make your girlfriend squirm with your fingers? Then make sure to
wet them before you touch her. You can lick them, she can lick or suck on
them (very erotic), or you can moisten them with juices from inside her. Be
sure, by all means to wet your fingers before you rub her clit because it
doesnt have any juices of its own and it's extremely sensitive. If your fingers
are dry, they'll stick and pull it in a painful way.
FOOD FUN
To begin, blindfold your partner. Theres an element of trust involved here, so
don't force. Have an array of foods ready that have different textures
(crunchy, smooth, and creamy), smells (fragrant, pungent) and tastes (salty,
sweet, and spicy). As you feed thing to your partner, let the foods play
around her lips and cheeks. Touch other parts of her body with the food.
Savor the process.
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But when these sexually experienced adult women
Were asked how long they'd prefer that their lovers indulge in foreplay,
They replied (on average) about 17 minutes.

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Stay aware of her breathing. When she changes from normal
Breathing to a deep, relaxed pattern, she's usually ready for intercourse.
When she's panting hot and heavy, she's approaching orgasm.
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"One of the things that men don't understand is that if a guy
spends the afternoon with his partner, and they stop and get a
sandwich, they joke and kid around, they laugh, they hug-to the
woman, that's foreplay," says Dr. Cotter. "Men want to know, 'What's
the right technique for foreplay?' Well, part of it is to go for a walk
with her, spend some time with her, do things that are sensitive and
kind. If he stops and buys a single long-stemmed rose on Tuesday, for
no particular reason at all, he will probably have fantastic sex on
Wednesday."
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Set the stage. One final note on preliminaries: "Candlelight,"
advise David and Ellen Ramsdale, authors of Sexual Energy Ecstasy,
"flatters the human body by making it look more fluid and smooth."
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Sex involves all the senses: sight, smell, hearing, taste, and, of
course, the sense of touch. When you touch her skin, anywhere, do it
as lightly as you possibly can, so lightly that there is almost air
between your fingers and her skin. This can give her chills and be an
erotic and tempting tease.
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Labia minora. The inner lips of the genitals are richly
supplied with nerves, especially on their secret, inner sides. In Dr.
Kinsey's famous studies of female hot spots, 98 percent of the women
could feel a touch on either the inner or the outer side of the lips. "As
sources of erotic arousal," he observed, "the labia minora seem to be
fully as important as the clitoris." The labia majora-the fleshy outer
lips-seem to be considerably less sensually sensitive.
Entrance of the vagina. This is a definite pleasure zone. Most
women find the so-called vestibule of the vagina (the funnel-shaped
area between the inner lips, just above and outside the vaginal
opening), as well as the first inch and a half of its interior, to be the
sweetest of spots. That's because these areas are richly supplied with
nerve endings. Interestingly enough, the deep inner walls of the vagina
seem numb by comparison.
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Or you can try the Venus Butterfly,
wherein you repeatedly suck your lover's clitoris
into your mouth, then expel it rapidly (two to three
times per second). Because the clitoris is so
sensitive, this is very intense for most women, and
it may be best if you alternate 10 to 15 seconds of

this motion with 10 to 15 seconds of left-toright

and up-and-down tongue flicks, as well as an
occasional figure-8 tracing of the clitoris. If it still
seems too intense for her, pause to slowly lick the
length of her labia. Ask her to tell you what works
the best.
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Perineum. The area between the anus and the base of the
scrotum in men, or the anus and the vaginal opening in women (the
place you'd make contact with if you straddled a fence post), is highly
sensitive to touch. This rather secretive spot can be reached by direct
pressure with a finger, through the rectum or (in women) by deep
penetration of the vagina.
Earlobes. The earlobes are loaded with blood vessels and nerve
endings. Gently stroking the outer earlobe with a fingertip or
administering light tongue caresses can be quite a turn-on. Soft, warm
breaths (as long as you don't blow too hard) may also do the trick.
More to consider. The thin skin on the inner surface of the
thigh is richly endowed with nerves, and in some people stimulation of
this area makes for an especially arousing adventure. Other erogenous
zones include the throat, the armpits, the anus, the navel, the abdomen,
the toes, and who knows what else?
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Fingers and toes. With all the attention on the clitoris and the
G spot, men tend to forget all the other delicious areas of a womans
body. Fingers and toes can be very erogenous areas. When she's fresh
from the bath and lounging around in that silky robe, try nibbling or
sucking her toes while tracing circles on the arch of her foot. Or you
can stroke and nibble on her soft fingertips while gazing into her eyes.
The results may surprise both of you.
A few others to feel out. Behind her knee is a much-neglected
erotic area with soft, thin, sensitive skin that you can kiss or gently
caress. At the base of the spine, just above the crease of the buttocks,
there is a small triangle called the sacrum that has been called the
"Bermuda Triangle of lust"; massage this area with your thumb. Soft
kisses at the small of the neck may get big results, as well.
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It's nice to use massage oils, because they feel great and tend to
make the skin more sensitive to touch. Safflower oil works fine, and
it's cheap. Others prefer coconut oil, which is light, nongreasy, and
odorless. It's best to warm it a little before use. Try putting it into a
plastic squeeze bottle for convenience. Instead of oil, some people like
to use cornstarch, which is so silky to the touch it almost feels wet.
It's nice to use massage oils, because they feel great and tend to
make the skin more sensitive to touch. Safflower oil works fine, and
it's cheap. Others prefer coconut oil, which is light, nongreasy, and

odorless. It's best to warm it a little before use. Try putting it into a
plastic squeeze bottle for convenience. Instead of oil, some people like
to use cornstarch, which is so silky to the touch it almost feels wet.
_ People tend to hold lots of tension in their faces. Try
massaging the forehead, jaw muscles, temples. Use strokes
that "smooth out" or go across the lines on the face.
Another great spot to focus on: the feet.
_ Women tend to hold tension in their neck and shoulders;
men tend to hold it in the small of their backs, Inkeles says.
Give those areas special attention.
_ Any place where the skin is thin is especially sensitive,
such as around the ankles, the neck, and the insides of the
arms.
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Women first. The woman should be allowed to reach orgasm
before the man. She may get there through whatever arousal
patterns she needs-by stimulating her clitoris with a finger (his,
hers, or both), through oral sex, with a vibrator, or whatever. But
she should always be allowed to get there first. This is not mere
chivalry; it's physiology.
Also, even if he's not fully erect by the time
she's ready, she can use his penis as a dildo, rubbing and stroking it
against herself so that he is almost bound to have an erection
before too long and then is able to penetrate her
She decides when its time for penetration.
The woman should determine when penetration will take place,
whether she assumes the on-top position or he does.
It should always be the woman who guides her partners penis
in.
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One important tip: When you bring a woman to orgasm this
way, the result can often be waves of muscular contractions that seem
hell-bent on pushing you right out of the vagina. "With a vaginal
orgasm, the top of the vagina will close down and the bottom will open
up so that you have a pushing-out effect," says Alice Ladas, Ed.D., a
sex therapist practicing in New York City and coauthor with Dr. Perry
of The G Spot. When this happens, push back. What the women we
spoke to really want as these muscles are contracting is for you to push
in very forcefully: Theyre feeling intense pleasure from the pressure
of your penis on that upper wall, and they want more of a good thing.
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"The man sits down with his legs
stretched out; the woman then places herself
astride on his thighs, crossing her legs behind the
back of the man." Lining things up, the woman
guides her lover into her. "She then places her

arms around his neck, and he embraces her sides and waist, and helps
her to rise and descend upon him. She must assist in his work." The
Shaykh relates that a long-frustrated wife whispered in the ear of her
husband, "This is the veritable manner of making love!"
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Here's a tactic that's likely to stir up the embers: A report In the
Journal of Sex and Massage Therapy suggests that the "coital
alignment technique," which brings the penis and clitoris into
sustained, rhythmic contact, may enhance intercourse. With your
partner lying on her back, position yourself between her legs, further
for-ward than in the conventional missionary position. Rest your upper
body on her so your pelvis overrides hers. Your legs lie over her
thighs, her ankles on the inner sides of your calves. Bending her knees
any more than that is uncomfortable and tends to immobilize her
pelvis. After insertion, the shaft of your penis should press up against
her pubic bone.
Don't thrust in and out. Instead, both your pelvises should
move together in short, rocking strokes. Your partner should push up
as you push down. Direct your movement from the rear surface at the
base of your penis, maintaining contact with her clitoris. It's important
to keep continuous, steady pressure on the clitoris, say researchers who
have studied the benefits of this position. As the man bears down, the
woman should apply counterpressure by pushing up with her pelvis.
As orgasm approaches, there is a natural tendency for the man to speed
up at the same time the woman slows down or even stops. But you
need to resist the impulse to break out of rhythm, and keep moving and
thrusting at the same pace as your partner, the researchers say.
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"Start with her sitting facing him, penis
fully inserted. She then lies right back [so do you, but slowly] until
each partner's head and trunk are between the other's wide-open legs,
and they clasp hands. Slow, coordinated wriggling movements will
keep him erect and her close to orgasm for long periods." The splayedout
legs of each partner explain the "X position' name. Take your time
with this one, and when you lie back, do so gradually,
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Take your time at the lip stage; bite them softly or lick them
gently. Touch the corners of her mouth with your tongue.
_ Open her mouth gently but firmly with your own. Play with
her tongue, but refrain from sticking yours all the way down
her throat.
_ Move your jaw a little from side to side and concentrate solely
on her mouth. Don't think about what comes after. Or even
what might not come after. Just that moment. And either look
straight into her eyes, or close yours. Think of England, if you
have to. Just don't think of optometry.

_ Go with different grades of intensity before heading inside. If

you give love bites, do it carefully. Soft, gentle suction on the
sides of the neck is good, but no woman wants to wear
turtlenecks or elaborately tied scarves for a week.
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Use delay tactics, take lots of time with foreplay, tease her
until she's insane with desire, and then, when she can't
stand it, go for the delayed and delightful finale. For
example, don't go right for the nipple; ease your way
around the perimeter of the breast in circles until you
gradually, finally, hit the spot. Make soft little tracks with
your fingertip from her inner thigh to the inside of her knee
and back up again. By the time you're ready to go higher,
she will be, too.
When you've penetrated, don't pump like an industrial
power tool. Build up slowly with straight, regular thrusts.
One ancient thrusting technique is a pattern of nine shallow
and one deep. When you follow this pattern, often the
woman will reach orgasm a lot more quickly, sometimes
two or three times before you ejaculate.
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food as a sex toy:
peanut butter, jam, whipped cream, honey, grapes