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imply stated, the dining manners you use are an outward expression of your sensitivity to the comfort
of those around you. Youll find here the most important and impressive dining skills that will equip you
to enjoy each meal with ease, savvy, and confidence. Put these skills into practice and whether youre
enjoying breakfast with your family, an important business lunch, or a romantic dinner for two, youll be free to
concentrate on issues that matter: your conversation, your agenda, andmost importantlythe other person.
Champagne
Flute
Individual
Pepper Shaker
Menu
Individual
Salt Shaker
Water
Goblet
Red
Wine Glass
Butter Knife
Dessert Spoon
Dessert Fork
White
Wine Glass
Sherry
Glass
Soup Spoon
Fish Knife
Dinner Knife
Salad Knife
Salad Fork
Dinner Fork
Fish Fork
Cocktail
Fork
roll (or bread of any type), and napkin. Fork and roll
are easy to remember because they both have four
letters. To get napkin to fit, remember that its used to
wipe your fingers and lips, and you have another fourletter reminder.
The napkin is placed to the left of the fork,
not under it, because it is the first item used in the
place setting. (Etiquette states that once a utensil is
touched, it should not touch the table again. Putting
the napkin under the fork requires us to touch the fork
to get to the napkin.)
For special meals, a napkin may be folded into fun
shapes and placed directly on the plate.
When a napkin is placed in a glass, its a signal that
the server will place it on your lap for you.
At meals with six or more guests, its a good idea
to use place cards. The cards show your guests youve
given thought to their comfort at dinner by choosing
whom they might enjoy conversing with during the
meal. Place cards can be positioned directly above the
dinner plate or above the forks, next to the bread and
butter plate.
Dessert Fork
Soup Spoon
Dinner Knife
Salad Fork
Dinner Fork
Napkin Know-How
the first to remove her napkin from her lap and place it
the LEFT of her plate. Everyone else should then do
the same.
Dont neatly refold a used napkin. Simply lay it
loosely folded on the table.
Silverware Savvy
Once a piece of silverware has been picked up, no
part of it should touch the table again throughout the
meal.
Cut one bite of food at a time. This keeps food
from becoming cold too quickly. It also slows down
your eating and keeps your plate looking neater.
Make sure to cut and not saw your food. Cut in one
direction only.
To cut a bite of food, hold your knife in your right
hand and your fork in your left hand. Place the index
finger of each hand at the top of the handle, directly
below the tines of the fork, and the blade of the knife.
After cutting a bite, place your knife down on your
plate and transfer your fork to your right hand. (If you
are left-handed than reverse the process.)
chewing whats in your mouth, talking, or if you temporarily leave the table for any reason.
How to Place your Fork: Lay the fork on your plate
with the tines facing up and pointing at 10:00 (Unlike
the Continental style of eating, in the American style,
the tines of the fork are always facing up whenever the
fork is placed on the plate.)
How to Place your Knife: Lay your knife across the
top right of the place at an angle. Make sure that the
cutting edge (the blade) of the knife faces in towards
you. (During the Middle Ages a knife laid with the
business end facing out towards other diners was a
sign of aggression towards them.)
The wait staff will serve all dishes and food items
from your left. This information is helpful so youll
know which way to lean to avoid bumping into dishes
as they are served to you. The wait staff will remove all
dishes and food items from your right.
Beverages are both served and removed from your
right to avoid spilling them across your lap.
When being served from a platter, take the serving
fork in your left hand and the spoon in your right; make
sure to lay the serving utensils back side-by-side so
that its easy for the next guest to serve himself.
Always take modest portions. Never fall to the
temptation of piling food high on your plate. Its much
better to go back to the buffet line three times than
returning once with food mounded on your plate.
If thin slices of meats are served, help yourself to
two. If the slices are thicker, take just one.
For a family meal where everyone is seated around
one table, all the food should be passed before anyone
begins to eat.
Help yourself to whatever dish is in front of you,
and then pass it to your right. All food should go
around the table and end-up back where it began.
Its kind to hold the dish for the person on your
right so its easier for them to serve themselves.
Pay attention to the other diners. If you notice
they have eaten the item that was in the dish you
originally passed around, offer them another serving.
If an item has been passed around the table once,
it no longer has to be passed to the right. Simply pass
it in the shortest possible route.
If everyone has had an opportunity to take a
portion of each dish, and you see theres more left, its
correct to request a second helping. In fact, this is a
compliment to the cook!
Always pass the salt and pepper together even
if only one was requested. Do not hand them to the
person next to you; instead, each person should sit
them down in front of the next person.
Hors D Oeuvres
Soup
Always spoon soup away from you. As the spoon
travels back across the bowl or plate, any drips will
hopefully land back in the bowl instead of on your
shirt.
Its appropriate to tilt the bowl away from you to
aid in getting the last drops!
When soup is served in a soup plate, rest your
spoon in the plate between bites and when finished.
When soup is served in a cup or bowl, rest your
spoon on the small under plate, not in the bowl.
Do not slurp your soup or blow on it.
Add only one or two crackers to your soup at a
time. Do not add a whole package at once!
When eating soup from a cup, you may drink the
soup once youve eaten all the solid pieces of meats or
vegetables in the cup.
Relishes
Relish trays arent seen much these days. If you
do encounter one, place the items you take from it on
your butter plate. If you dont have a butter plate, use
the plate in front of you.
For olives, use your fork to transfer the pit from
your mouth to the butter plate.
Shrimp Cocktail
Shrimp cocktail is usually eaten with the small
seafood fork found to the far left of the forks or in the
bowl of the spoon on your right.
If lemon is served, you may pick it up with
your fork and squeeze it with your right hand over
the cocktail.
Dip the shrimp into any cocktail sauce and eat from
the fork in one or two bites.
For larger shrimp, you might need to place them on
the saucer under the cocktail glass and cut them with
the side of the fork or even your knife.
Finger Bowls
Finger bowls seem to perplex even the most
seasoned travelers, executives, and well-heeled diners.
Not used often in the last 25 or more years, they offer
an excellent way for guests to refresh and clean their
hands after a meal.
Traditionally presented in small crystal bowls with
a single floating flower or slice of citrus as garnish, they
are brought to the table just prior to dessert on a lace
doily and placed directly in front of the diner.
Slightly dip the fingers of one hand into the water
and then dry them on your napkin. Repeat with your
other hand and then remove both the doily and bowl
together by placing them above your plate and slightly
to the left.
Duties of a Gracious
Host
Duties of a
Welcomed Guest
Compliment the host on his or her choice of restaurants, or, at a private home, the food served. If the
meal was catered, you can compliment the host on his
choice of food or the lovely centerpieces, etc.
If the host doesnt share what he or she is ordering,
ask nicely and then match your food choices to something in the same price range as theirs.
Send a handwritten thank-you the next day, even
if the business meal was an attempt by the host to
earn your account.
For all social invitations and any business relationships you wish to maintain and grow, make sure to
reciprocate the invitation within six months.
Common Dining
Errors to Avoid
Dont talk about diets, restaurants, or any food
other than whats being served while at the table.
Never take medicine, use a toothpick, apply
makeup or lipstick, look into a mirror, or touch your
head or hair at the table.
Dont push your plate away to signal youre finished
eating. Simply lay your knife and fork with the handles
facing four oclock in the finished position.
Dont gesture with a utensil in your hand.
Dont mix food on your plate together.
Gentlemen do not lift their ties over their shoulders while eating.
Dont dunk your food into beverages in public or
add more than one bite of crackers to your soup at a
time!
While there might appear to be a lot of dining rules
to remember, they really are straightforward and easy
to master. When put into practice, these etiquette
skills become a vehicle to deliver the valuable character
traits of kindness, deference, patience, and self-control
in our everyday encounters with one another.