Divakar G.M.

Krishna M.C.
Bharathi S Gopal
Institute of Management

What is space?
Is space required in a relationship?
Different attachment styles
Practical issues in providing space
How to give space
Role plays Set 1

Space in public life

Role of dissent
Role of Space Student life
Role of space - Work place
Accepting failure
Role plays Set 2

Privacy or time for self

Space is a right and responsibility

 Two individuals - their own set of interests, likes,

passions and friends
Time gives individuals time to process their
thoughts, pursue hobbies and relax without
responsibilities to others
Fosters sense of Identity
Helps to be independent rather than needy and
clingy

Upbringing and Growing up Shapes the Need

for Space
Research Indicator: Married women have a
higher need for space relatively
Source: http://www.wsj.com/articles/SB10001424052702303836404577474460720719018

 Even while we have a desire to be with each other all

the time, we also must understand that there are times
when one person or both will need to have time to be
alone
When one person in a relationship tells the other person
that they need to be alone, the other person often feels
offended
Why does he/she not want to be with me right now? If
she/he is upset, why doesnt he/she want me to be with
them? Why are they shutting me out?

Often times when one states that they need to be left

alone, it has nothing to do with the other person

1. Doing things of ones own choice regularly

Spare time spent with each other

Negative feelings of clinginess, possessiveness or jealousy
Sense of suffocation

2. Developing a relationship that allows one to

be independent
Intensity, perfectionism and taking oneself and one's
relationship too seriously
Sense of controlling one another

3. Open Conversation

Appropriate Words and Body Language

Avoid Blame Game
Learning and Growing
Leisure time
Quiet time
Working space
Emotional space
Financial space

4. Explain that other people should always be

a part of your lives
No two individuals can fulfill each other's needs
completely
Need of family, neighbors, friends and time
spent with them

5. Take time to pursue your own interests

Normative influence of groups

6. Break out of the mold of the relationship

Assign different roles, even as rivals
Informal parties and formal group meetings Network separately
Same vacation but different set of activities

7. Reassure and readjust the distance

Too much space resulting in lack of
communication

8. Soul mates and not cellmates

Assuming that a couple considers themselves as
soul mates

You need to discuss an ongoing project with a

colleague who works in the same building. Do
you:
Scoot over and perch on their desk
Grab a spare chair near their desk
Phone them

You cope with background noise in the office

by
You love the background buzz and couldnt get
through the workday without it.
Focusing on your work you can usually tune
most of it out when youre concentrating.
Wearing noise-cancelling earphones most of
the time.

 A business contact you know well visits your

office How do you greet them?

Rakesh (21 year old) is the only son of the Kapoor

couple and has been bestowed with all
requirements for a comfortable living. His father
is very fond of his son. He ensured his son not
only gets good education but also develops
passion for sports and other activities. He spent
considerable amount of time accompanying
Rakesh to sports events, competitions, coaching
classes and also take care of all administration
formalities of paying fees, submitting documents
and others.
Now Rakesh has been chosen to represent the country for an international sports meet.
On the day of the briefing Rakesh joins the team of thirty for the meeting. However he
finds it very embarrassing to find that he is the only one to be accompanied by a parent.
Following the briefing the team has to undergo a rigorous training at another camp. On
the day of departure, Rakesh decides to tell his dad that he need not accompany him to
the airport.

Prithvi and Shraddha are a couple.

Prithvi is very independent in his
thinking and methodical in approach.
One evening he returns home dejected
as one of his projects was put under
rigorous review by his boss. He is
expected to submit a revised report and
make a final presentation the following
week. His concerned wife approaches
him.

Shekhar and Vidya are successful couple in

their careers. Vidya though is independent
and meticulous in her work seeks emotional
support and solace. Shekar finds her
dejected one evening. When he enquires he
finds out that one of her projects was put
under rigorous review by the internal audit
team. She is expected to make a final
presentation the following week. Her
concerned husband approaches her.

 Role of dissent in a society

Role of space Student life
Role of space - Work place
Accepting failure

 Ancient Indian philosophy Buddhas

dissent
Mahatma Gandhi and dissent

Independent India - Debates on Public

policy
Majority Minority sensitization (it is
not just about Religion, Caste,
Ethnicity, under privileged. It includes
all aspects where there is a possible
opinion)

 Different educational background

Different cultural background

Regional influence

Global diversity and

inclusion

Equal opportunities
employer

We must be caring,
show respect and
compassion

Respect for
Individuals

Values Diversity
and Inclusion, and
is committed to
Equal opportunities

As inclusive as our
Brand

Global
Brands

We value diversity
of thought

Financial
inclusion

Major
Indian
Brands

Boss subordinate relationship

Customer Supplier relationship proximity
Peer relationships in teams
Behavioral issues meek vs. aggressive
Gender bias at work place

 Accepting ones own failure as a

stepping stone for success

Write Brothers Steve JobsBill Gates
many Chartered Accountants (tough exam to
crack so failure is only a stepping stone)

Accepting failure of others

Provides respectability in the society
Promotes risk taking
Puts faith in the system

Srinath Deshpande, an English teacher

asked his Grade 8 students to write an essay
on the personality of Ms. Havisham from the
classic Great Expectations. On the day of
submission he realized that the entire class
had completed the essay except Shweta.
On enquiring she showed her copy but
clarified that she needed some more time to
think through if her work was good enough
for submission and requested for a two-day
extension. Mr. Deshpande listened to her
thoughtfully.

Shashikant Nair was a widower who lived with his four

sons. His stay with each son was three months, though
he never longed to stay with anyone of them for too
long. He also detested this seasonal migration. One day
he met an old friend at a temple concert and over
conversation informed him about the old age home he
resided in. He invited Nair to visit the old age home the
following week. Nair felt it was an ideal place to meet
many like him, engage in some physical activity like
gardening, yoga or teaching kids. There was a spacious
library and meditation hall. Most of all Nair met several
acquaintances and was pleasantly surprised at the
facilities available. The following Sunday he called his
four sons and their families and announced his decision.

Divya was working in a leading fashion retail

chain since three years. Her job involved
working in a team and making presentations
of the teams proposals and ideas to
suppliers, clients and internal heads. Her
team leader Desai was an old-hand in the
company and always felt it was his job to
mentor youngsters. He would intervene
during presentations and extend support to
the presenter and the team though he or she
was capable to defend arguments. However,
Divya who was making her 89th presentation
did not appreciate his intervention.