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DALAI LAMA: It is not at all the case that the path of the householder,
fully engaged in society, is incompatible with the Buddhist path, despite the
story of the Buddha's own life. It is possible to follow the path to liberation
and Buddhahood as a householder. This is determined by your own
interests and capacities, and also the needs of the society that you wish to
serve. I often advise people in the West who have newly and freshly
entered the Buddhist path that it is important, as they pursue their spiritual
practice, not to divorce themselves from Western society. Wherever you
live, you must remain a good member of society. That is very important. In
this society, where a monk is not a familiar role, if one were a Buddhist
monk, it would be more difficult to integrate with the society, to interact
with people in the society to bring any benefit. In this light, it may be
better for a person to be a householder.
JACK ENGLER: Oh, it's very possible. Therapists do it all the time.
JACK ENGLER: No, we do this all the time. Your Holiness, we have been
talking a lot about the importance of a helping relationship in
psychotherapy and spiritual practice. I remember hearing you say, "If you
can't help, at least don't harm." You also said that if one is going to face
one's suffering and penetrate it deeply, it needs to be done in the context of
trust, safety, and understanding. That often means with another person or
in a community, a sangha, with a teacher; and that brings the teacher and
the student, or the therapist and the patient, into a very close, intimate
relationship with each other. In some ways they even have to love each
other. Maybe there is some combination of love and attachment, but it is
there and it grows. That relationship poses certain vulnerabilities, dangers,
and risks for both of them, particularly for the student or the patient. It is
very sad that we see so much evidence of this today, where the helper's
power has been abused. In Boston, where I practice, almost every month
the newspaper has headlines of another therapist who has been accused of
misusing his power, particularly by his clients, usually men abusing women.
We have also heard many similar examples in the Buddhist sanghas around
the country, of teachers who have abused positions of power and trust. In
my clinical practice, I am having more people come to me who have been
abused by therapists. Recently, a number of therapists have come who have
abused their clients and are asking for help. It is very difficult to work with
these people, but one must. They need help as much as anyone else. In
Western psychotherapeutic training, one is taught how to anticipate these
situations and deal with them, in order not to fall into that danger. Even so,
people fall. The risks are very great--one's professional license can be taken
away. Is there anything equivalent to this in Buddhism? How is that
handled with Buddhist teachers? How is it handled in their training; and
secondly, if it comes to public attention that some teacher is having
difficulties in this area, how is that then handled in the teaching
community?
DALAI LAMA: Part of the blame lies with the students, because they
pamper the spiritual teachers; they spoil them. In the Buddhist tradition,
someone becomes a spiritual teacher in relation to a disciple. There isn't any
particular license or piece of paper or degree that you give someone
qualifying that person as a spiritual teacher. You are a lama because you
have students. In cultivating a relationship with a spiritual teacher it is
important not to be too quick to consider that person to be one's spiritual
teacher, because it is a very powerful relationship. For however long it may
take--two years, five years, ten years, or longer--you simply regard this
other person as a spiritual friend, and, in the meantime you observe closely
that person's behavior, attitudes, and ways of teaching, until you are very
confident of his or her integrity. Then there is no need for any license. But
it is very important, from the beginning, to have a very firm, sound
approach. There isn't any aspect of the training towards becoming a lama
that is specifically designed to help you avoid abusing your own students, if
you ever have students. But the very nature of Buddhist practice is to
cultivate compassion, a sense of altruism towards others, and if this is pure,
then the teacher will not abuse his influence.
JACK ENGLER: That's a very big "if"--if one is pure enough. I think
people enter into these relationships on the assumption that the teacher has
some degree of enlightenment; and then, when the abuse takes place or
similar mistakes are made, the disillusionment is quite strong.
DALAI LAMA: The guru, the spiritual teacher, is responsible for his or
her improper behavior. It is the student's responsibility not to be drawn into
it. The blame is on both. Partly it is because the student is too obedient and
devoted to the spiritual master, a kind of blind acceptance of that person's
guidance. That always spoils the person. But of course part of blame lies on
the spiritual master, because he lacks the integrity that is necessary to be
immune to that kind of vulnerability.
DALAI LAMA: Yes, you are speaking quite practically. In fact it varies
with different centers and different lamas. One thing that I have noticed is
that most Dharma centers in the West have come into existence as a result
of an individual teacher's contacts with a few students. These Dharma
centers did not come into existence as part of some program of some central
organization, and therefore, there has not been any way to check them. In
the future, we are thinking about having some kind of central organization.
I receive quite a number of letters complaining about these different
teachers. Therefore, I think the time has come. We can do something. The
advantage of having this kind of central organization is that whenever a
new Dharma center requires a teacher, a Board of Directors could
recommend a particular teacher who possesses the basic qualifications that
are necessary to be a spiritual teacher. Then, on the basis of such a
recommendation, they could be selected. When the selection has been
made on the basis of an individual contact, it is often difficult for the
student to have the knowledge to judge whether the spiritual teacher is
suitable or not, qualified or not. Imagine that a person has been appointed
to be the head of a center and, after two or three years, this person's
behavior starts to degenerate. At that time the Board could withdraw its
support, saying, "You are no longer suitable."
DALAI LAMA: No, in that case, the responsibility does lie chiefly with
the teacher. When the person is supposed to be offering Dharma, offering
spiritual teaching, and he himself indulges in an action that he has been
preaching to others to avoid, then it's disgraceful. One can say that person
has betrayed the task.
DALAI LAMA: I think you should keep away from such teachers.
DALAI LAMA: When you first start spiritual practice, you will probably
do it with some intensity, a lot of momentum. At times during this stage,
you might find it difficult to be simple and steady. But once you have some
experience, it is not too difficult. The environment where you begin your
spiritual practice can make some difference. In America, there are many
remote places. You can go to one of these places for a few weeks and do
your practice intensely. But, as far as Tibetan Buddhism is concerned, when
you practice, you do not isolate yourself from the rest of the society. That is
important. Sometimes I notice that certain individuals have a lot of
enthusiasm for isolating themselves from the rest of society. In these cases,
after a few years, there are usually some problems. Therefore, I think it is
better to remain with a community. I also think it is very important to
remember that you are a Westerner. Your social and cultural background
and your environment are different from mine. If you want to practice an
Eastern philosophy, such as Tibetan Buddhism, you should take the essence
and try to adapt it to your cultural background and the conditions here. As
you engage in spiritual practice, for example Buddhism, over the course of
time, you can gradually integrate it with your own culture and the values
here, just as in the past occurred with Indian Buddhism, Tibetan Buddhism,
and so on. There must gradually evolve a Western Buddhism.